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30._o 31._o 23._o 33._o and_o lest_o such_o parent_n as_o either_o have_v or_o hereafter_o shall_v marry_v their_o child_n to_o papist_n shall_v think_v their_o case_n to_o be_v better_a than_o he_o because_o though_o they_o marry_v they_o to_o papist_n or_o to_o atheist_n yet_o they_o do_v not_o marry_v they_o to_o any_o pagan_n let_v they_o consider_v what_o the_o scripture_n teach_v they_o more_o jehoram_fw-la king_n of_o judah_n marry_v neither_o papist_n with_o any_o sydonian_a nor_o egyptian_a neither_o with_o pagan_a nor_o infidel_n but_o with_o one_o of_o his_o own_o people_n and_o of_o the_o tribe_n of_o israel_n yet_o because_o she_o have_v corrupt_v her_o religion_n in_o her_o father_n house_n the_o scripture_n show_v this_o to_o to_o be_v the_o cause_n of_o all_o jehorams_fw-mi sin_n he_o do_v evil_a in_o the_o sight_n of_o the_o lord_n because_o the_o daughter_n of_o ahab_n be_v his_o wife_n 2._o king_n 1._o 18._o yea_o the_o scripture_n make_v this_o sin_n so_o great_a 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and_o wealthy_a as_o they_o will_v wish_v they_o to_o matc_n h_z with_o yet_o they_o ought_v not_o to_o hinder_v 〈◊〉_d and_o forbid_v their_o child_n to_o marry_v only_o for_o want_v of_o good_n and_o substance_n parent_n ought_v to_o be_v careful_a that_o their_o child_n do_v marry_v in_o such_o a_o age_n wherein_o they_o shall_v understand_v who_o they_o choose_v and_o very_o well_o perceive_v what_o they_o take_v in_o hand_n and_o that_o they_o do_v not_o seek_v to_o match_v themselves_o in_o marriage_n above_o their_o degree_n and_o it_o be_v very_o expedient_a that_o parent_n admonish_v their_o child_n to_o make_v their_o choice_n according_a to_o their_o complexion_n and_o condition_n this_o be_v a_o most_o unnatural_a and_o cruel_a part_n for_o authority_n parent_n to_o sell_v their_o child_n for_o gain_n and_o luker_n and_o to_o marry_v they_o when_o they_o list_v and_o to_o who_o they_o list_v without_o the_o good_a like_n of_o their_o child_n and_o so_o bring_v they_o into_o 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corinth_n 7._o 36._o 37._o 38._o genesis_n 24._o 10._o &c_n &c_n and_o 28._o 1._o 2._o and_o 4._o 4._o and_o 38._o 6._o 8._o josua_n 15._o 16._o 17._o 2._o samuel_n 13._o 23._o judge_n 14._o 1._o etc._n etc._n let_v father_n and_o mother_n therefore_o on_o who_o this_o charge_n by_o god_n his_o commandment_n lie_v to_o take_v wife_n for_o their_o son_n and_o to_o provide_v husband_n for_o their_o daughter_n take_v diligent_a heed_n hereunto_o that_o they_o abuse_v not_o their_o power_n 21._o and_o authority_n over_o their_o child_n but_o as_o in_o other_o case_n they_o be_v will_v by_o the_o apostle_n that_o they_o deal_v not_o in_o such_o sort_n to_o ward_n they_o that_o they_o thereby_o be_v dismay_v &_o discourage_v so_o especial_o in_o this_o matter_n of_o great_a moment_n and_o value_n of_o all_o other_o worldly_a thing_n whatsoever_o let_v they_o abstain_v from_o all_o rigour_n and_o roughness_n and_o beware_v that_o they_o turn_v not_o their_o fatherly_a jurisdiction_n and_o 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21._o 2._o tim._n 3._o 2._o 3._o 4._o 5._o 5._o the_o riches_n of_o the_o body_n beauty_n choose_v a_o wife_n for_o virtue_n only_o pro._n 19_o 14._o seek_v no_o match_n in_o marriage_n above_o thy_o 〈◊〉_d equality_n in_o marriage_n to_o be_v respect_v of_o the_o choice_n of_o a_o wise_a a_o good_a wife_n be_v above_o all_o thing_n to_o be_v crave_v of_o god_n by_o prayer_n heb._n 13._o 4._o ephes._n 5._o 25._o 26._o 27._o three_o cause_n of_o marriage_n psal._n 51._o 5._o the_o second_o cause_n wedlock_n lawful_a for_o such_o as_o have_v not_o the_o gift_n of_o chastity_n the_o three_o cause_n this_o be_v often_o find_v most_o true_a that_o such_o as_o be_v contemner_n of_o marriage_n be_v most_o offender_n against_o marriage_n and_o live_v most_o unchastly_a 21._o pet._n 2._o 7._o by_o honour_n be_v mean_v that_o the_o husband_n be_v to_o sustain_v and_o relieve_v the_o want_n of_o his_o wife_n to_o support_v uphold_v &_o bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n as_o the_o weak_a vessel_n beside_o the_o prayer_n have_v with_o their_o family_n they_o must_v pray_v private_o gen._n 25._o 21._o 1._o cor._n 7._o 3._o 4._o 5._o col._n 3._o 19_o anger_n in_o a_o husband_n be_v a_o vice_n the_o root_n of_o bitterness_n to_o be_v weed_v out_o by_o the_o spade_n of_o patience_n how_o &_o when_o the_o husband_n ought_v to_o reprove_v fault_n sometime_o must_v be_v cover_v with_o love_n not_o to_o take_v unkindness_n for_o every_o trifle_n ephe._n 5._o 25._o 26_o 27._o 28._o 29._o the_o husband_n be_v to_o the_o wife_n in_o god_n stead_n husband_n may_v 〈◊〉_d be_v rigorous_a 〈◊〉_d their_o wife_n especial_o when_o they_o be_v new_o marry_v prou._n 20._o 3._o the_o wife_n be_v not_o to_o be_v use_v or_o entreat_v as_o a_o handmaid_n or_o servant_n but_o as_o a_o fellow_n prou._n 8._o 7._o &_o 14_o 9_o &_o 15._o 5._o &_o 18._o 2._o &_o 27._o 22._o prou_z 9_o 9_o &_o 19_o 25._o gen_n 16._o 6._o the_o fall_v out_o of_o lover_n be_v a_o renew_n of_o love_n that_o man_n be_v miserable_a that_o be_v marry_v unto_o a_o foolish_a woman_n husband_n must_v provide_v thing_n necessary_a for_o the_o house_n a_o man_n house_n will_v continue_v by_o provision_n before_o hand_n and_o by_o order_n in_o his_o expense_n 1._o tim._n 5._o 8._o but_o where_o disorder_n be_v in_o a_o house_n it_o can_v endure_v spare_v in_o time_n and_o spend_v in_o time_n for_o spare_v be_v a_o rich_a purse_n the_o honour_n of_o the_o husband_n depend_v on_o the_o wife_n 1._o cor._n 11._o 7._o the_o three_o point_n can._n 4._o 9_o 10._o 1._o cor_fw-la 9_o 5._o 1._o pet._n 3_o 7._o 1._o cor._n 11._o 3._o ephes._n 3._o 23._o ephes._n 5._o 28._o 29_o 1._o sam._n 1._o 8._o gal._n 6._o 2._o gen._n 1._o 28._o gen._n 2._o 18._o the_o causeswhy_a the_o husband_n shall_v love_v his_o wife_n the_o husband_n must_v love_v his_o wife_n kinsfolk_n gen._n 26._o 8._o 9_o 1._o cor._n 7._o 4._o duty_n common_a both_o to_o the_o husband_n &_o the_o wife_n 1._o cor._n 7._o 2._o gen._n 1._o 18._o 1._o cor._n 7._o 5._o ephes._n 5._o 15._o tit._n 2._o 5._o mat._n 5._o 44._o gen._n 6._o 2._o psal._n 38._o 22._o mat._n 19_o 5._o ephes._n 5._o 31._o gen._n 31._o 4._o 5._o etc._n etc._n math._n 19_o 6._o pre._n 2._o 27._o mal._n 2._o 14._o mat._n 19_o levit._n 20._o 10._o joh._n 8._o 5._o mat._n 19_o 8._o mat._n 19_o 6._o 1._o cor._n 7._o 12._o 1_o cor._n 7._o 11._o objection_n answer_n 1._o cor._n 7._o 29._o 1._o pet._n 3._o 7._o 1._o pet._n 3._o 7._o gen._n 30._o 1._o 1._o sam._n 1._o gen._n 16._o the_o best_a policy_n in_o marriage_n be_v to_o begin_v well_o 1._o king_n 12._o 7._o 8._o etc._n etc._n judg._n 19_o 3._o prou._n 15._o 1._o gal_n 5._o 9_o gen._n 22._o 11._o psal._n 133._o 1._o levit._n 24._o 5._o mat._n 12._o 25._o gen._n 19_o 33._o gen._n 18._o 3._o pro._n 12._o 4._o gen._n 2._o 23._o ephes._n 5._o 29._o 1._o pet._n 3._o 1._o ephes._n 5._o 22._o col._n 3._o 18._o 1._o cor._n 7._o 2._o wife_n must_v be_v serviceable_a &_o obedient_a unto_o their_o husband_n and_o stand_v in_o a_o reverend_a awe_n of_o they_o ephes._n 5._o 24._o cheerful_a in_o countenance_n gen._n 27._o 9_o gen._n 2._o 23._o 24_o math_n 19_o 5._o 1._o cor._n 6._o 16._o eihe_n 5._o 31._o how_o the_o wife_n ought_v to_o behave_v herself_o unto_o her_o husband_n rom._n 12._o 15._o 2._o king_n 2._o 6._o gal._n 6._o 2._o 1._o king_n 21._o 5._o 1._o king_n 14._o 4._o gen._n 12._o 1._o gen._n 2._o 18._o 1._o cor._n 1._o 27._o 1._o pet._n 3._o 1._o 2._o king_n 5._o 3._o &_o 49._o hest._n 7._o 3._o 〈◊〉_d 32._o 21._o 〈◊〉_d 10_o 19_o prou._n 5._o 18._o 19_o 1._o sam._n 16._o 23._o 1._o sam._n 25._o 3._o gen._n 38._o 4._o gen._n 33._o 1._o why_o wife_n be_v call_v huswife_n tit._n 2._o 5._o pro._n 7._o 12._o 2._o king_n 30._o gen._n 18._o 9_o 2._o king_n 4._o 22._o ephe._n 5._o 22._o 23._o 〈◊〉_d cor._n 11._o &_o 14._o 34._o gen._n 18._o 12._o 1._o pet._n 3._o 6._o ephes._n 5._o 24._o gen._n 3._o 1._o 1._o tim._n 2._o 14._o num._n 30._o 7._o pro._n 14._o 1._o &_o 18._o 22._o &_o 19_o 14._o &_o 31._o all_o the_o wife_n must_v keep_v a_o good_a tongue_n when_o the_o wife_n do_v hold_v her_o peace_n she_o keep_v the_o peace_n the_o cause_n of_o domestical_a combat_n silence_n become_v a_o woman_n lack_v of_o knowledge_n of_o god_n word_n be_v the_o principal_a cause_n why_o wife_n do_v not_o their_o duty_n to_o their_o husband_n one_o heart_n and_o one_o will_n how_o the_o love_n faithfulness_n and_o duty_n of_o marry_a folk_n may_v be_v keep_v &_o increase_v they_o must_v secret_o keep_v no_o evil_a will_n in_o their_o mind_n but_o tell_v their_o grief_n 1._o sam._n 25._o 36._o 37._o 1._o cor._n 7._o 10._o 11_o 12._o 13._o 14._o 15._o 16._o mat._n 19_o 6._o mat._n 19_o 9_o luke_n 16._o 18._o the_o wife_n ought_v to_o obey_v her_o husband_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o be_v honest_a and_o agreeable_a to_o god_n word_n gen._n 3._o 16._o hest._n 1._o 20._o 22._o numb_a 30._o 7._o 8_o 9_o 1._o pet._n 3._o 6._o it_o be_v a_o special_a duty_n of_o a_o mother_n to_o give_v her_o child_n suck_v herself_o 1._o tim._n 5._o 10._o gen._n 22._o 7._o 1._o sam._n 1._o 23._o exod._n 8._o cant._n 8._o 1._o psal._n 22._o 9_o mat._n 2._o 14._o luke_n 2._o 7._o 12._o 1._o tim._n 5._o 10._o stepfather_n &_o stepmother_n their_o duty_n the_o husband_n must_v so_o praise_v his_o first_o wife_n &_o she_o her_o first_o husband_n as_o it_o be_v not_o do_v to_o the_o offence_n or_o reproach_n of_o either_o to_o the_o other_o jealousy_n which_o be_v the_o suspect_v of_o adultery_n in_o the_o marry_a party_n ought_v wise_o and_o careful_o to_o be_v suppress_v in_o both_o party_n without_o apparent_a matter_n the_o very_a name_n of_o stepfather_n &_o stepmother_n teach_v they_o their_o duty_n 1._o king_n 12._o 13._o 2._o sam._n 2._o 7._o as_o wife_n ought_v to_o go_v comely_a plain_o and_o handsome_o in_o their_o 〈◊〉_d so_o they_o must_v in_o any_o wise_a beware_v of_o pride_n riot_n or_o excess_n therein_o pride_n be_v hateful_a before_o god_n and_o man_n be_v not_o therefore_o proud_a for_o thou_o be_v but_o dust_n ana_n ash_n prou._n 16._o 18._o titus_n 1._o 3._o temperance_n in_o apparel_n the_o duty_n contain_v four_o point_n namely_o in_o teach_v or_o instruct_v they_o in_o religion_n in_o manner_n good_a example_n of_o life_n and_o skill_n of_o a_o occupation_n the_o first_o point_n the_o child_n of_o christian_n ought_v not_o to_o be_v call_v by_o any_o papish_a name_n we_o be_v neither_o better_o nor_o worse_o in_o respect_n of_o our_o name_n josua_n 10._o 3._o the_o name_n profit_v none_o in_o who_o virtue_n be_v not_o convince_v luk._n 1._o 59_o &_o 2._o 21._o proper_a name_n be_v also_o give_v unto_o we_o for_o this_o use_n and_o end_n that_o be_v to_o distinguish_v between_o man_n &_o man_n instruct_v correct_v &_o prayer_n make_v good_a child_n and_o happy_a parent_n deut._n 6._o 7._o 8_o &_o 4._o 9_o &_o 11._o 19_o psal._n 78._o 5._o 6._o 78._o josu_n 4._o 6._o exod._n 12._o 26._o 27._o gen._n 18._o 19_o 1._o 〈◊〉_d 28._o 9_o act._n 10._o 2._o 2._o tim._n 1._o 5._o parent_n must_v perform_v their_o duty_n to_o their_o child_n moderate_o with_o great_a gravity_n and_o authority_n which_o be_v do_v by_o example_n fruit_n be_v wont_a to_o take_v their_o shape_n &_o nature_n of_o the_o tree_n deut._n 6._o 5._o 6._o 7._o &_o 31._o 13._o 1._o king_n 17._o 10._o etc._n etc._n 2._o king_n 4._o 1._o etc._n etc._n joh._n 4._o 53._o luke_n 19_o 9_o act._n 10._o 44._o 2._o tim._n 1._o 5._o &_o 3._o 15._o ezech_v