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shall_v in_o stead_n thereof_o find_v nothing_o but_o vanity_n and_o vexation_n of_o spirit_n p._n 61._o yet_o none_o be_v hereby_o to_o be_v deter_v from_o marry_v who_o have_v a_o calling_n to_o marry_v p._n 61._o marriage_n be_v of_o excellent_a and_o necessary_a use_n p._n 61_o 62_o 63._o such_o may_v be_v the_o condition_n of_o a_o unmarried_a person_n that_o the_o good_a and_o comfort_n of_o marriage_n may_v countervail_v and_o exceed_v the_o trouble_n of_o it_o p._n 62._o the_o least_o sin_n be_v worse_a than_o the_o great_a earthly_a trouble_n p._n 62._o in_o the_o marry_a estate_n may_v be_v expect_v very_o great_a earthly_a comfort_n