Selected quad for the lemma: lord_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
lord_n	daughter_n	son_n	thomas_n	10,981	5	7.7420	4	false

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A43768	Conjugall counsell, or, Seasonable advice, both to unmarried, and married persons directing the first how to enter into marriage estate, and the other how to demeane themselves in the Christian discharge of all such duties as that estate of life blads them to, that God may have glory, the church edification, and themselves and families, present and future comfort, tending much (by the blessing of God) to a through reformation of all the enormities of these evil times / by T.H. ...	Hilder, Thomas.	1653 (1653)	Wing H1974; ESTC R20660	113,375	218

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then_o as_o grace_n do_v increase_v so_o thy_o love_n will_v abound_v but_o grace_n can_v but_o increase_v continual_o therefore_o love_n will_v multiply_v in_o thy_o heart_n exceed_o now_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v keep_v from_o apostasy_n or_o fall_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v help_v forward_o in_o all_o christian_a counsel_n and_o good_a way_n and_o as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o keep_v life_n in_o thy_o love_n and_o to_o increase_v therein_o to_o thy_o own_o comfort_n and_o the_o comfort_n of_o thy_o wife_n so_o let_v it_o be_v thy_o care_n in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n to_o look_v to_o thy_o own_o heart_n that_o it_o deceive_v thou_o not_o but_o that_o thou_o do_v indeed_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o thy_o wife_n then_o thou_o may_v certain_o expect_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n much_o comfort_n in_o such_o a_o yokefellow_n in_o all_o thy_o want_n of_o wealth_n or_o health_n of_o soul_n or_o body_n and_o may_v while_o thou_o enjoy_v she_o begin_v to_o write_v encomium_n of_o she_o and_o when_o she_o be_v dead_a 20._o gen_n 35.19_o 20._o then_o with_o jacob_n set_v up_o a_o pillar_n upon_o her_o grave_a and_o perhaps_o may_v true_o say_v many_o daughter_n have_v do_v virtuous_o but_o thou_o excelle_v they_o all_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vain_a but_o a_o woman_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n she_o shall_v be_v praise_v give_v she_o of_o the_o fruit_n of_o her_o hand_n and_o let_v she_o own_o work_n praise_v she_o in_o the_o gate_n here_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o in_o the_o amplification_n of_o the_o first_o inward_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n wife_n the_o second_o qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n in_o the_o second_o place_n the_o chief_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n next_o save_v grace_n be_v sweet_a disposition_n of_o nature_n that_o she_o be_v of_o a_o quiet_a and_o peaceable_a spirit_n for_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o in_o divers_a man_n and_o woman_n that_o we_o doubt_v not_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n but_o that_o they_o be_v very_o gracious_a and_o desire_v to_o prove_v their_o soul_n to_o god_n in_o all_o way_n of_o holiness_n yet_o be_v of_o bad_a nature_n and_o themselves_o can_v but_o see_v it_o and_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o they_o desire_v to_o bewail_v it_o before_o god_n in_o secret_a and_o yet_o can_v attain_v to_o have_v their_o corruption_n in_o this_o kind_n mortify_v in_o any_o comfortable_a way_n yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o person_n be_v not_o many_o time_n comfortable_a consort_n and_o therefore_o thou_o that_o be_v to_o make_v choice_n of_o a_o wife_n have_v cause_n enough_o to_o endeavour_v to_o avoid_v lay_v a_o conjugal_a tie_n upon_o thyself_o to_o live_v and_o die_v with_o such_o a_o woman_n though_o otherwise_o one_o of_o good_a part_n if_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o churlish_a nature_n &_o of_o cross_a dispositon_n in_o the_o abstract_n she_o will_v cast_v such_o a_o cool_a damp_n on_o her_o husband_n love_n as_o may_v not_o only_o chill_a but_o kill_v it_o whereby_o though_o she_o may_v be_v a_o sad_a sufferer_n herself_o she_o will_v abundant_o prejudice_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o comfort_n and_o may_v shorten_v his_o day_n for_o a_o man_n can_v live_v that_o can_v love_v the_o love_n of_o any_o thing_n give_v contentment_n to_o the_o mind_n to_o enjoy_v the_o same_o a_o cross_n and_o tart_n nature_n in_o a_o wife_n un-wifes_n her_n as_o i_o may_v say_v for_o she_o that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n be_v either_o not_o a_o wife_n or_o else_o a_o very_a imperfect_a one_o for_o how_o can_v she_o be_v say_v to_o be_v a_o wife_n that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n who_o be_v unfit_a for_o comfortable_a society_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v as_o sharp_a and_o bitter_a touchy_a and_o tangue_n by_o nature_n will_v not_o ordinary_o be_v sociable_a love_a kind_a 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that_o her_o husband_n otherwise_o may_v have_v in_o she_o but_o his_o skin_n flesh_n bone_n marrow_n and_o vital_a spirit_n and_o all_o in_o time_n the_o apostle_n tell_v we_o that_o a_o meek_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n in_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o great_a price_n with_o god_n 1_o pet._n 3.4_o and_o so_o it_o be_v doubtless_o with_o every_o rational_a man_n therefore_o as_o thou_o will_v avoid_v many_o inconvenience_n in_o the_o marriage_n estate_n and_o wear_v the_o comfort_n of_o it_o as_o a_o crown_n of_o all_o temporal_a felicity_n so_o labour_v to_o gain_v a_o woman_n of_o sweet_a natural_a disposition_n of_o a_o very_a amiable_a and_o

of_o to_o be_v the_o first_o commandment_n with_o promise_n mal._n 6.6_o a_o son_n honour_v his_o father_n if_o i_o be_v a_o father_n where_o be_v my_o honour_n but_o how_o shall_v this_o honour_n and_o reverence_n be_v express_v may_v some_o say_v i_o answer_v first_o in_o word_n second_o in_o action_n and_o gesture_n first_o in_o word_n child_n must_v reverence_v their_o parent_n by_o use_v few_o word_n in_o their_o parent_n presence_n or_o hear_n silence_n for_o the_o general_a well_o become_v the_o young_a sort_n before_o the_o elder_a but_o more_o proper_o child_n before_o their_o parent_n and_o when_o they_o speak_v to_o they_o they_o must_v make_v use_n of_o the_o choice_a expression_n that_o may_v be_v to_o hold_v forth_o their_o dutiful_a respect_n by_o and_o for_o their_o action_n too_o they_o must_v be_v full_a of_o humility_n as_o rise_v up_o before_o they_o and_o stand_v in_o their_o presence_n if_o they_o expect_v it_o be_v uncover_v so_o long_o as_o they_o think_v fit_a and_o make_v obeisance_n on_o all_o occasion_n by_o show_v all_o filial_a and_o childlike_a disposition_n to_o they_o by_o harken_v to_o all_o their_o grave_a counsel_n and_o admonition_n with_o diligent_a attention_n prov._n 1.8_o chap._n 5.1_o as_o also_o by_o submit_v and_o subject_v themselves_o to_o all_o their_o godly_a reprehension_n and_o by_o tread_v in_o their_o religious_a step_n and_o imitate_v their_o unblameable_a example_n and_o by_o cover_v all_o their_o imperfection_n and_o weakness_n as_o shem_n and_o japhet_n do_v when_o their_o father_n lie_v drink_v and_o naked_a in_o his_o tent._n solomon_n be_v a_o singular_a example_n of_o honour_v his_o mother_n in_o another_o kind_n 1_o king_n 2.19_o parent_n the_o second_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n in_o the_o second_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o obey_v their_o parent_n in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o that_o with_o all_o readiness_n child_n obey_v your_o parent_n in_o the_o lord_n eph._n 6.1_o child_n obey_v your_o parent_n in_o all_o thing_n for_o this_o be_v well_o please_v unto_o the_o lord_n col_n 3.20_o now_o this_o must_v be_v a_o cheerful_a obedience_n without_o contend_v isaac_n will_v submit_v to_o his_o father_n though_o it_o be_v in_o matter_n of_o death_n gen._n 22_o 9_o 10._o and_o so_o will_v the_o daughter_n of_o jephtha_n judg._n 11_o 39_o the_o rechabus_n obey_v jonadab_n their_o father_n in_o thing_n that_o require_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o selfe-deniall_n jer._n 35.5_o 6_o 7._o which_o the_o lord_n reward_v they_o for_o in_o ver_fw-la 18_o 19_o a_o bishop_n must_v rule_v his_o own_o house_n well_o and_o have_v his_o child_n in_o subjection_n 1_o tim._n 3.4_o now_o subjection_n of_o all_o child_n to_o parent_n be_v as_o much_o a_o duty_n as_o it_o be_v in_o the_o child_n of_o the_o minister_n of_o the_o gospel_n and_o of_o this_o obedience_n unto_o parent_n we_o have_v a_o example_n beyond_o all_o precedent_n in_o our_o lord_n and_o saviour_n jesus_n christ_n of_o who_o it_o be_v say_v he_o go_v down_o with_o his_o parent_n to_o nazareth_n and_o be_v subject_a to_o they_o luk._n 2.51_o child_n must_v not_o make_v their_o own_o will_n a_o rule_n of_o their_o action_n but_o the_o commandment_n of_o god_n and_o the_o precept_n of_o their_o parent_n that_o be_v not_o contrary_a to_o the_o reveal_v will_n of_o god_n they_o must_v also_o quiet_o submit_v to_o such_o correction_n as_o they_o shall_v think_v fit_a to_o inflict_v on_o they_o for_o their_o fault_n in_o the_o three_o and_o last_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n to_o labour_n to_o provide_v safety_n for_o they_o in_o the_o time_n of_o danger_n parent_n the_o three_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n and_o competent_a maintenance_n in_o their_o necessitous_a condition_n to_o their_o utmost_a ability_n for_o the_o first_o take_v a_o precedent_n from_o rahab_n the_o harlot_n which_o be_v lay_v down_o at_o large_a in_o josh_n 2.12_o 13._o 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than_o other_o in_o common_a can_v be_v say_v to_o be_v our_o saviour_n in_o that_o place_n of_o mark_n make_v it_o one_o kind_n of_o honour_v parent_n to_o relieve_v they_o in_o their_o want_n and_o to_o honour_v our_o parent_n you_o have_v it_o prove_v before_o to_o be_v a_o duty_n from_o child_n there_o be_v other_o duty_n which_o child_n owe_v unto_o their_o parent_n but_o they_o may_v be_v include_v in_o these_o if_o these_o be_v conscientious_o perform_v they_o will_v be_v all_o discharge_v the_o duty_n then_o which_o child_n owe_v unto_o their_o parent_n which_o be_v obvious_a to_o your_o eye_n be_v first_o to_o reverence_v they_o second_o to_o obey_v they_o three_o to_o labour_v to_o preserve_v they_o from_o danger_n and_o to_o maintain_v they_o in_o their_o want_n in_o the_o last_o place_n we_o be_v to_o proceed_v to_o discuss_v the_o duty_n which_o servant_n owe_v unto_o their_o master_n etc._n etc._n and_o then_o we_o shall_v draw_v to_o a_o conclusion_n of_o this_o poor_a 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