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of_o to_o be_v the_o first_o commandment_n with_o promise_n mal._n 6.6_o a_o son_n honour_v his_o father_n if_o i_o be_v a_o father_n where_o be_v my_o honour_n but_o how_o shall_v this_o honour_n and_o reverence_n be_v express_v may_v some_o say_v i_o answer_v first_o in_o word_n second_o in_o action_n and_o gesture_n first_o in_o word_n child_n must_v reverence_v their_o parent_n by_o use_v few_o word_n in_o their_o parent_n presence_n or_o hear_n silence_n for_o the_o general_a well_o become_v the_o young_a sort_n before_o the_o elder_a but_o more_o proper_o child_n before_o their_o parent_n and_o when_o they_o speak_v to_o they_o they_o must_v make_v use_n of_o the_o choice_a expression_n that_o may_v be_v to_o hold_v forth_o their_o dutiful_a respect_n by_o and_o for_o their_o action_n too_o they_o must_v be_v full_a of_o humility_n as_o rise_v up_o before_o they_o and_o stand_v in_o their_o presence_n if_o they_o expect_v it_o be_v uncover_v so_o long_o as_o they_o think_v fit_a 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to_o love_n and_o good_a work_n she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n to_o help_v thou_o in_o the_o growth_n of_o grace_n here_o and_o so_o a_o mean_n of_o thy_o happiness_n hereafter_o here_o be_v more_o flower_n to_o add_v to_o thy_o begun-nosegay_n in_o the_o last_o end_n of_o marriage_n bound_v they_o together_o and_o they_o will_v be_v very_o odoriferous_a to_o please_v thy_o sense_n three_o thou_o have_v need_v to_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o choose_v a_o wife_n as_o thou_o desire_v thy_o love_n shall_v hold_v out_o to_o the_o end_n for_o if_o thou_o make_v riches_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n they_o may_v be_v lose_v they_o be_v subject_a to_o many_o casualty_n riches_n have_v wing_n like_o a_o eagle_n and_o may_v fly_v away_o prov._n 23.5_o and_o when_o they_o be_v go_v thy_o love_n will_v fly_v after_o if_o thou_o make_v beauty_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v vanish_v away_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vanity_n prov._n 31.30_o beauty_n may_v be_v take_v away_o by_o sickness_n or_o by_o some_o accidental_a blow_n in_o the_o face_n by_o loss_n of_o a_o eye_n by_o a_o canker_n in_o the_o nose_n or_o some_o other_o mean_n and_o if_o once_o go_v love_n will_v go_v too_o if_o thou_o make_v person_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v suffer_v much_o detriment_n crookedness_n may_v grow_v in_o a_o body_n former_o straight_o such_o a_o comely_a body_n may_v come_v to_o want_v a_o leg_n or_o a_o arm_n which_o will_v be_v a_o blemish_n to_o it_o now_o person_n be_v defective_a love_n will_v be_v the_o same_o if_o thou_o make_v hope_n of_o honour_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n thy_o wife_n great_a kindred_n may_v fail_v of_o power_n to_o advance_v thou_o nay_o of_o power_n to_o hold_v up_o themselves_o we_o want_v not_o plentiful_a experience_n of_o this_o or_o they_o may_v be_v prejudice_v against_o thou_o and_o frustrate_v thy_o expectation_n and_o make_v thou_o see_v too_o late_o that_o 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then_o as_o grace_n do_v increase_v so_o thy_o love_n will_v abound_v but_o grace_n can_v but_o increase_v continual_o therefore_o love_n will_v multiply_v in_o thy_o heart_n exceed_o now_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v keep_v from_o apostasy_n or_o fall_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v help_v forward_o in_o all_o christian_a counsel_n and_o good_a way_n and_o as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o keep_v life_n in_o thy_o love_n and_o to_o increase_v therein_o to_o thy_o own_o comfort_n and_o the_o comfort_n of_o thy_o wife_n so_o let_v it_o be_v thy_o care_n in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n to_o look_v to_o thy_o own_o heart_n that_o it_o deceive_v thou_o not_o but_o that_o thou_o do_v indeed_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o thy_o wife_n then_o thou_o may_v certain_o expect_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n much_o comfort_n in_o such_o a_o yokefellow_n in_o all_o thy_o want_n of_o wealth_n or_o health_n of_o soul_n or_o body_n and_o may_v while_o thou_o enjoy_v she_o begin_v to_o write_v encomium_n of_o she_o and_o when_o she_o be_v dead_a 20._o gen_n 35.19_o 20._o then_o with_o jacob_n set_v up_o a_o pillar_n upon_o her_o grave_a and_o perhaps_o may_v true_o say_v many_o daughter_n have_v do_v virtuous_o but_o thou_o excelle_v they_o all_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vain_a but_o a_o woman_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n she_o shall_v be_v praise_v give_v she_o of_o the_o fruit_n of_o her_o hand_n and_o let_v she_o own_o work_n praise_v she_o in_o the_o gate_n here_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o in_o the_o amplification_n of_o the_o first_o inward_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n wife_n the_o second_o qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n in_o the_o second_o place_n the_o chief_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n next_o save_v grace_n be_v sweet_a disposition_n of_o nature_n that_o she_o be_v of_o a_o quiet_a and_o peaceable_a spirit_n for_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o in_o divers_a man_n and_o woman_n that_o we_o doubt_v not_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n but_o that_o they_o be_v very_o gracious_a and_o desire_v to_o prove_v their_o soul_n to_o god_n in_o all_o way_n of_o holiness_n yet_o be_v of_o bad_a nature_n and_o themselves_o can_v but_o see_v it_o and_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o they_o desire_v to_o bewail_v it_o before_o god_n in_o secret_a and_o yet_o can_v attain_v to_o have_v their_o corruption_n in_o this_o kind_n mortify_v in_o any_o comfortable_a way_n yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o person_n be_v not_o many_o time_n comfortable_a consort_n and_o therefore_o thou_o that_o be_v to_o make_v choice_n of_o a_o wife_n have_v cause_n enough_o to_o endeavour_v to_o avoid_v lay_v a_o conjugal_a tie_n upon_o thyself_o to_o live_v and_o die_v with_o such_o a_o woman_n though_o otherwise_o one_o of_o good_a part_n if_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o churlish_a nature_n &_o of_o cross_a dispositon_n in_o the_o abstract_n she_o will_v cast_v such_o a_o cool_a damp_n on_o her_o husband_n love_n as_o may_v not_o only_o chill_a but_o kill_v it_o whereby_o though_o she_o may_v be_v a_o sad_a sufferer_n herself_o she_o will_v abundant_o prejudice_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o comfort_n and_o may_v shorten_v his_o day_n for_o a_o man_n can_v live_v that_o can_v love_v the_o love_n of_o any_o thing_n give_v contentment_n to_o the_o mind_n to_o enjoy_v the_o same_o a_o cross_n and_o tart_n nature_n in_o a_o wife_n un-wifes_n her_n as_o i_o may_v say_v for_o she_o that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n be_v either_o not_o a_o wife_n or_o else_o a_o very_a imperfect_a one_o for_o how_o can_v she_o be_v say_v to_o be_v a_o wife_n that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n who_o be_v unfit_a for_o comfortable_a society_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v as_o sharp_a and_o bitter_a touchy_a and_o tangue_n by_o nature_n will_v not_o ordinary_o be_v sociable_a love_a kind_a and_o amiable_a in_o her_o carriage_n and_o deportment_n to_o her_o husband_n and_o do_v it_o not_o concern_v thou_o to_o avoid_v she_o in_o thy_o choice_n of_o a_o wife_n for_o such_o a_o woman_n as_o we_o speak_v of_o will_v not_o make_v a_o good_a wife_n nor_o good_a mother_n nor_o good_a dame_n or_o mistress_n she_o will_v not_o be_v good_a in_o any_o relation_n i_o mean_v in_o the_o latter_a part_n of_o this_o discourse_n where_o a_o untoward_a nature_n be_v predominant_a in_o a_o woman_n solomon_n say_v it_o be_v be_v better_a to_o dwell_v in_o a_o corner_n of_o the_o house_n top_n than_o with_o a_o brawl_a woman_n in_o a_o wide_a house_n prov._n 21.9_o he_o also_o say_v the_o contention_n of_o a_o wife_n be_v a_o continual_a drop_n pro._n 19.13_o a_o continual_a drop_n will_v wear_v waist_n and_o consume_v stone_n as_o observation_n will_v prove_v and_o true_o this_o drop_n from_o a_o contentious_a wife_n will_v wear_v waste_n and_o consume_v not_o only_o all_o the_o comfort_n that_o her_o husband_n otherwise_o may_v have_v in_o she_o but_o his_o skin_n flesh_n bone_n marrow_n and_o vital_a spirit_n and_o all_o in_o time_n the_o apostle_n tell_v we_o that_o a_o meek_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n in_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o great_a price_n with_o god_n 1_o pet._n 3.4_o and_o so_o it_o be_v doubtless_o with_o every_o rational_a man_n therefore_o as_o thou_o will_v avoid_v many_o inconvenience_n in_o the_o marriage_n estate_n and_o wear_v the_o comfort_n of_o it_o as_o a_o crown_n of_o all_o temporal_a felicity_n so_o labour_v to_o gain_v a_o woman_n of_o sweet_a natural_a disposition_n of_o a_o very_a amiable_a and_o
than_o child_n and_o that_o because_o they_o be_v one_o flesh_n which_o parent_n and_o child_n be_v not_o therefore_o a_o man_n ought_v in_o his_o will_n to_o have_v more_o respect_n to_o his_o wife_n than_o to_o his_o child_n except_o first_o the_o child_n be_v infant_n or_o every_o way_n unhelpfull_a to_o themselves_o and_o that_o their_o mother_n be_v youthful_a and_o of_o a_o able_a body_n and_o in_o a_o capacity_n to_o look_v out_o in_o a_o probable_a way_n to_o have_v a_o competent_a maintenance_n and_o also_o in_o a_o second_o place_n except_o the_o mother_n be_v of_o a_o very_a harsh_a and_o bitter_a spirit_n to_o her_o child_n and_o so_o like_a to_o be_v as_o a_o stepmother_n rather_o than_o a_o natural_a mother_n but_o if_o there_o be_v no_o ground_n for_o these_o consideration_n it_o be_v still_o the_o most_o christian_n and_o prudent_a way_n for_o the_o husband_n to_o be_v more_o liberal_a to_o his_o wife_n than_o unto_o his_o child_n when_o he_o be_v to_o set_v his_o 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she_o fare_v well_o when_o he_o be_v at_o home_n but_o when_o absent_a from_o home_n also_o so_o if_o thou_o do_v love_v thy_o wife_n with_o a_o cordial_a love_n thou_o will_v not_o only_o have_v she_o live_v well_o in_o this_o world_n while_o thou_o be_v her_o companion_n here_o but_o also_o when_o thou_o be_v through_o the_o lord_n free_a grace_n a_o companion_n with_o saint_n and_o angel_n in_o heaven_n at_o the_o right_a hand_n of_o god_n and_o in_o the_o bosom_n of_o thy_o dear_a saviour_n but_o if_o thou_o be_v not_o careful_a to_o provide_v for_o thy_o wife_n as_o well_o as_o thou_o can_v while_o thou_o live_v here_o thou_o can_v have_v but_o little_a hope_n that_o she_o shall_v live_v well_o hereafter_o when_o thou_o be_v go_v which_o duty_n of_o thou_o if_o thou_o neglect_v thou_o will_v leave_v a_o brand_n upon_o thy_o name_n to_o posterity_n to_o judge_v by_o that_o thy_o wife_n never_o lie_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o thy_o affection_n for_o if_o she_o have_v thou_o will_v 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