Selected quad for the lemma: friend_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
friend_n	answer_v	great_a	time_n	806	5	3.2017	3	false

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A57878	Rules for conversation, or A collection of moral maxims and reflections. By a Roman Catholick	Roman Catholick.	1686 (1686)	Wing R2254; ESTC R218492	18,251	111

to_o promise_v but_o in_o few_o or_o none_o without_o shame_n can_v he_o refuse_v to_o perform_v thirty-nine_o he_o that_o be_v unwilling_a to_o pay_v what_o he_o owe_v when_o he_o have_v it_o by_o he_o shall_v live_v to_o be_v willing_a and_o not_o be_v able_a xl._n philosophy_n can_v triumph_v over_o past_a and_o future_a calamity_n but_o be_v conquer_a by_o a_o present_a evil._n xli_o the_o refusal_n of_o commendation_n be_v oftentime_o with_o a_o desire_n to_o be_v praise_v twice_o xlii_o few_o man_n praise_v other_o but_o with_o some_o exception_n and_o ordinary_o with_o a_o design_n to_o be_v praise_v themselves_o xliii_o no_o man_n be_v so_o easy_o deceive_v and_o impose_v upon_o as_o when_o he_o think_v to_o deceive_v other_o xliv_o he_o that_o talk_v more_o than_o come_v to_o his_o share_n and_o with_o confidence_n and_o passion_n in_o disputable_a matter_n may_v easy_o be_v observe_v to_o contradict_v himself_o and_o that_o be_v the_o only_a method_n to_o shame_n and_o silence_v he_o xlv_o boldness_n and_o confidence_n many_o time_n obtain_v that_o which_o can_v be_v compass_v by_o ordinary_a mean_n xlvi_o it_o be_v not_o enough_o for_o a_o man_n to_o have_v good_a quality_n but_o he_o must_v likewise_o know_v how_o to_o use_v and_o manage_v they_o xlvii_o that_o noise_n and_o show_v that_o prove_v a_o man_n not_o to_o be_v ingenious_a or_o wise_a be_v oftentime_o the_o cause_n of_o his_o reputation_n for_o be_v so_o xlviii_o many_o who_o be_v excellent_a for_o one_o quality_n have_v not_o the_o reputation_n of_o be_v so_o because_o they_o be_v excellent_a for_o another_o as_o caesar_n be_v believe_v to_o have_v be_v as_o eloquent_a as_o cicero_n and_o yet_o be_v famous_a only_o as_o a_o warrior_n xlix_o a_o great_a reputation_n do_v rather_o abase_v then_o exalt_v those_o who_o know_v not_o how_o to_o answer_v and_o sustain_v it_o l._n we_o judge_v of_o other_o man_n merit_n by_o their_o carriage_n towards_o we_o our_o self-love_n do_v either_o augment_v or_o lessen_v their_o good_a quality_n in_o proportion_n to_o the_o pleasure_n and_o satisfaction_n we_o have_v by_o they_o li._n one_o man_n be_v not_o more_o unlike_o another_o than_o every_o man_n be_v unlike_o himself_o consider_v at_o different_a time_n lii_o no_o man_n be_v ever_o so_o ridiculous_a by_o the_o quality_n he_o have_v as_o by_o those_o which_o he_o affect_v to_o have_v liii_o it_o be_v ever_o reckon_v more_o shameful_a to_o distrust_v one_o friend_n then_o to_o be_v deceive_v by_o they_o liv._o all_o man_n complain_v of_o their_o memory_n but_o no_o man_n of_o his_o judgement_n lv._o no_o difguise_n can_v for_o any_o long_a time_n hide_v love_n where_o it_o be_v in_o reality_n or_o feign_v it_o where_o it_o be_v not_o lvi_o we_o please_v more_o in_o our_o conversation_n by_o our_o weakness_n and_o fail_n then_o by_o any_o of_o our_o good_a quality_n lvii_o a_o man_n may_v know_v other_o by_o himself_o for_o as_o in_o water_n face_n answer_v to_o face_n so_o do_v the_o heart_n of_o man_n to_o man._n lviii_o folly_n attend_v we_o in_o every_o time_n of_o our_o life_n if_o any_o one_o appear_v wise_a than_o another_o it_o be_v because_o his_o folly_n be_v more_o proportion_v to_o his_o age_n and_o fortune_n lix_n many_o will_v discover_v great_a wisdom_n and_o ability_n than_o they_o do_v do_v they_o not_o over_o earnest_o desire_v and_o affect_v it_o lx._n the_o wise_a man_n may_v be_v often_o at_o a_o loss_n in_o the_o company_n of_o fool_n lxi_o it_o be_v more_o easy_a to_o be_v wise_a for_o other_o man_n then_o for_o himself_o as_o it_o be_v to_o give_v good_a council_n then_o to_o follow_v it_o lxii_o there_o be_v some_o commendation_n which_o reproach_n a_o man_n and_o some_o reproach_n on_o the_o contrary_n which_o be_v rather_o to_o a_o man_n praise_n lxiii_o it_o be_v as_o easy_a to_o deceive_v a_o man_n self_n and_o not_o observe_v it_o as_o it_o be_v difficult_a to_o deceive_v other_o without_o be_v observe_v lxiv_o man_n common_o magnify_v the_o good_a quality_n of_o other_o not_o from_o a_o esteem_n of_o their_o merit_n but_o from_o a_o value_n for_o their_o own_o and_o will_v attract_v praise_n to_o themselves_o by_o bestow_v it_o on_o other_o lxv_o no_o great_a mark_n of_o a_o extraordinary_a merit_n then_o to_o hear_v a_o man_n praise_v by_o those_o who_o do_v most_o envy_n he_o lxvi_o the_o reason_n why_o so_o few_o seem_v rational_a and_o agreeable_a in_o their_o conversation_n be_v because_o most_o man_n consider_v what_o they_o will_v speak_v themselves_o rather_o than_o what_o they_o shall_v answer_v to_o that_o be_v speak_v lxvii_o try_v the_o fidelity_n of_o a_o friend_n in_o such_o a_o time_n and_o instance_n as_o you_o can_v bear_v his_o refusal_n without_o great_a inconvenience_n for_o he_o that_o will_v borrow_v when_o he_o have_v not_o must_v borrow_v when_o he_o have_v lxviii_o resolve_v never_o to_o do_v that_o by_o another_o which_o you_o may_v do_v by_o yourself_o nor_o do_v that_o to_o morrow_n which_o you_o may_v do_v to_o day_n nor_o neglect_v or_o despise_v the_o least_o thing_n lxix_o he_o that_o excuse_v a_o fault_n by_o a_o lie_n think_v it_o better_a to_o be_v guilty_a of_o two_o fault_n then_o to_o be_v think_v guilty_a of_o one_o lxx_o remember_v not_o the_o favour_n you_o have_v do_v to_o other_o and_o forget_v not_o those_o which_o other_o have_v do_v to_o you_o lxxi_o many_o wicked_a person_n will_v be_v less_o dangerous_a than_o they_o be_v and_o do_v less_o mischief_n if_o they_o have_v not_o some_o goodness_n lxxii_o the_o honour_n a_o man_n have_v already_o acquire_v be_v caution_n for_o more_o and_o great_a lxxiii_o it_o be_v more_o difficult_a to_o know_v what_o not_o to_o say_v on_o any_o subject_n then_o to_o speak_v much_o lxxiv_o it_o be_v much_o easy_a to_o appear_v worthy_a of_o those_o employment_n which_o a_o man_n have_v not_o then_o of_o those_o which_o he_o actual_o have_v lxxv_o we_o many_o time_n confess_v little_a fault_n with_o a_o 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