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friend_n affection_n love_n love_v 2,519 5 6.3625 4 true
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A33162 Cicero's Laelius a discourse of friendship : together with A pastoral dialogue concerning friendship and love.; Laelius de amicitia. English Cicero, Marcus Tullius.; J. T. 1691 (1691) Wing C4308; ESTC R11183 37,288 122

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