Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	husband_n	wife_n	word_n	3,358	5	4.9141	4	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A92764	The godly mans choice, or, A direction how single godly persons, who intend marriage, may make choice of a fit and meet yoak-fellow being the meditations of Caleb Grantham in his single state, as a rule and guide for himself to walk by, and since his death perused and published with some profitable directions how persons should live as becometh Christians in the married state / by Henry Scudder ...	Grantham, Caleb.; Scudder, Henry, d. 1659?	1644 (1644)	Wing S2138B; ESTC R42507	34,805	158

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p._n 64._o much_o evil_a do_v follow_v the_o expectation_n of_o that_o good_a in_o marriage_n which_o it_o can_v give_v p._n 65_o 66._o after_o consent_n be_v gain_v in_o the_o way_n prescribe_v it_o be_v very_o expedient_a that_o you_o be_v betroth_v to_o eath_o other_o before_o that_o you_o be_v solemn_o marry_v p._n 66_o 67._o betrothe_v will_v make_v you_o sure_a one_o to_o another_o but_o not_o give_v a_o right_a to_o marriage_n society_n p._n 67._o betrothe_v before_o marriage_n be_v of_o excellent_a use_n pag._n 68_o directious_a for_o marry_a person_n some_o duty_n be_v common_a to_o both_o be_v marry_v together_o see_v and_o acknowledge_v it_o be_v make_v as_o before_o have_v be_v prescribe_v to_o be_v of_o god_n p._n 69_o 70._o this_o acknowledge_n of_o god_n will_v be_v of_o great_a good_a use_n to_o you_o both_o p._n 70._o consider_v well_o what_o a_o strict_a bond_n and_o covenant_n you_o enter_v into_o even_o into_o a_o covenant_n with_o god_n p._n 71._o you_o be_v 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