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christian_n and_o conjugal_a counsel_n or_o christian_n counsel_n apply_v unto_o the_o marry_a estate_n by_o will._n thomas_n minister_n of_o the_o gospel_n and_o rector_n of_o the_o church_n of_o ubley_n heb._n 13._o 4._o marriage_n be_v honourable_a in_o all_o and_o the_o bed_n undefiled_a bernard_n super_fw-la cantica_fw-la serm._n 66._o tolle_n de_fw-fr ecclesia_fw-la honorabile_fw-la connubium_fw-la &_o â—â—â—um_fw-la immaculatum_fw-la nun_n reple_n eam_fw-la concubinariis_fw-la incestuosis_n seminiâ—luis_fw-la mollibus_fw-la masculorum_fw-la concubitoribus_fw-la &_o omni_fw-la deniquè_fw-fr genere_fw-la immundorum_fw-la london_n print_v for_o edward_n thomas_n at_o the_o adam_n and_o eve_n in_o little_a britain_n 1661._o to_o the_o christian_a reader_n these_o meditation_n good_a reader_n be_v long_o since_o conceive_v and_o impart_v for_o the_o use_n of_o one_o entrâ—_n into_o the_o marry_a state_n and_o come_a afterward_o into_o more_o hand_n the_o print_n of_o they_o have_v 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as_o of_o magistrate_n and_o subject_n minister_n and_o people_n husband_n and_o wife_n parent_n and_o child_n master_n and_o servant_n many_o of_o which_o be_v contain_v and_o concern_v in_o the_o marry_a estate_n even_o nature_n and_o reason_n make_v office_n and_o societie-service_n the_o trial_n of_o virtue_n indicat_fw-la it_o be_v a_o easy_a matter_n to_o creep_v into_o a_o cell_n and_o under_o a_o pretence_n 14._o of_o devotion_n to_o serve_v and_o satisfy_v selfwill_a but_o to_o appear_v in_o the_o sight_n of_o the_o sun_n and_o to_o appear_v approve_v when_o there_o be_v many_o quick-sighted_a and_o some_o severe_a observer_n this_o will_v find_v work_n enough_o for_o the_o great_a grace_n where_o it_o be_v and_o too_o much_o for_o the_o best_a nature_n where_o it_o be_v not_o this_o difficulty_n and_o the_o excellency_n of_o walk_v with_o approbation_n in_o the_o work_n and_o office_n belong_v to_o all_o and_o every_o one_o in_o their_o particular_a place_n and_o calling_n i_o be_o the_o more_o willing_a to_o note_v because_o i_o have_v hear_v divers_a godly_a person_n complain_v that_o have_v have_v in_o the_o single_a estate_n much_o liberty_n for_o sweet_a and_o soul-refreshing_a conversing_n with_o god_n be_v afterward_o marry_v and_o have_v a_o family_n to_o look_v to_o they_o have_v be_v so_o force_v from_o they_o as_o to_o find_v a_o great_a loss_n in_o their_o acquaintance_n with_o god_n in_o regard_n of_o that_o frequent_a enlarge_v and_o uninterrupted_n communion_n with_o he_o which_o they_o former_o enjoy_v but_o let_v not_o such_o who_o will_v fain_o be_v commune_v with_o god_n 33._o if_o they_o can_v and_o at_o jesus_n foot_n 39_o if_o they_o may_v droop_v or_o be_v disconsolate_a much_o less_o dismay_v for_o now_o be_v enter_v into_o society_n they_o come_v to_o make_v use_n of_o that_o habit_n and_o those_o help_n of_o holiness_n which_o they_o get_v and_o lay_v up_o in_o the_o single_a estate_n and_o this_o may_v be_v a_o rule_n that_o the_o use_v of_o all_o preparatory_a exercise_n and_o assistance_n be_v better_a than_o the_o use_v of_o they_o they_o therefore_o that_o show_n forth_o the_o power_n of_o their_o former_a religious_a performance_n do_v not_o lose_v but_o make_v a_o gainful_a exchange_n they_o do_v but_o come_v from_o the_o exercise_n of_o religion_n to_o the_o exercise_n which_o be_v the_o end_n ornament_n perfection_n and_o compliment_n of_o all_o exercise_n it_o be_v true_a as_o the_o apostle_n say_v he_o that_o be_v unmarried_a care_v for_o the_o thing_n belong_v to_o the_o lord_n how_o he_o may_v please_v the_o lord_n that_o be_v have_v not_o other_o thing_n to_o care_n for_o he_o be_v more_o free_a for_o it_o he_o do_v not_o say_v that_o every_o one_o that_o be_v marry_v take_v that_o care_n or_o that_o if_o a_o man_n be_v once_o marry_v he_o take_v it_o not_o but_o only_o that_o the_o unmarried_n have_v a_o advantage_n and_o may_v do_v it_o more_o and_o more_o easy_o again_o he_o that_o be_v 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on_o the_o marry_a estate_n yet_o it_o be_v not_o so_o appropriate_v to_o it_o but_o that_o there_o be_v use_v of_o it_o as_o there_o be_v of_o that_o godliness_n and_o regular_a walk_v that_o it_o persuade_v unto_o in_o every_o estate_n it_o be_v christian_n as_o well_o as_o conjugal_a counsel_n and_o though_o it_o be_v compose_v for_o and_o contrive_v into_o the_o marry_a condition_n yet_o that_o estate_n be_v so_o comprehensive_a much_o of_o it_o may_v serve_v indifferent_o for_o christian_n in_o every_o condition_n desire_v thy_o prayer_n christian_n reader_n that_o the_o author_n of_o the_o counsel_n or_o rather_o the_o weak_a instrument_n may_v be_v himself_o the_o observer_n i_o rest_v thy_o servant_n for_o jesus_n sake_n william_n thomas_n errata_fw-la epistle_n p._n 4._o concentre_v r._n concern_v p._n 27._o christian_n r._n christian._n p._n 41._o col._n 1._o 17._o r._n col._n 4._o 17._o p._n 69._o l._n 8._o damage_n r_o danger_n p._n 63._o l._n 7._o comfort_n r._n consort_n p._n 84._o l._n 8._o rustles_a r._n justle_v p._n 88_o l._n 2._o it_o combine_v r._n be_v comeliness_n the_o matter_n of_o the_o ensue_a meditation_n sum_v up_o and_o refer_v to_o the_o several_a number_n and_o partition_n of_o they_o wherein_o 1_o marriage_n dignity_n and_o duty_n be_v general_o mention_v n._n 1_o 2_o 3._o 2_o four_o requisite_n in_o marriage_n 1_o zeal_n in_o religion_n n._n 5._o 2_o patience_n in_o all_o occasion_n n_o 6._o where_o be_v further_o declare_v concern_v impatience_n 1_o the_o evil_n of_o it_o as_o be_v a_o enemy_n to_o comfortable_a society_n 1_o with_o god_n n_o 9_o 10._o 2_o with_o men._n n._n 11._o 3_o with_o our_o own_o conscience_n n._n 12._o 2_o support_v for_o those_o that_o groan_n under_o it_o n._n 14_o etc._n etc._n 3_o the_o cure_n of_o it_o n._n 17._o viz._n 1_o consideration_n of_o god_n providence_n n._n 19_o 2_o of_o our_o own_o fault_n n._n 21._o 3_o commune_v with_o our_o own_o heart_n n._n 22._o 4_o faithful_a friend_n n._n 23._o 5_o prayer_n n._n 24._o 3_o wisdom_n and_o that_o 1_v in_o matter_n of_o religion_n particular_o in_o use_v and_o order_v 1_o of_o religious_a exercise_n n._n 26_o 27._o 2_o of_o christian_a and_o edify_a conference_n and_o admonition_n enlarge_v with_o divers_a particular_a direction_n from_o n._n 28_o to_o n._n 41._o 2_o in_o duty_n of_o relation_n namely_o relate_v 1_o to_o minister_n n._n 41_o to_o 49._o 2_o to_o neighbour_n and_o friend_n n._n 49_o to_o 53._o 3_o to_o those_o in_o the_o family_n n._n 53._o viz._n 1_o equal_n n._n 54._o 2_o inferior_n n._n 55._o 3_o man_n and_o wife_n where_o there_o be_v divers_a advertisement_n for_o both_o n._n 56_o to_o n._n 66._o 4_o child_n to_o who_o parent_n owe_v 1_o instruction_n n._n 66_o to_o 69._o 2_o correction_n n._n 69._o 3_o disposition_n into_o a_o call_v n._n 70._o 4_o disposition_n in_o marriage_n to_o a_o consort_n religious_a discreet_a with_o respect_n to_o person_n and_o portion_n n._n 71_o 72_o 73_o 74._o christian_n counsel_n apply_v to_o the_o marry_a estate_n 1._o marriage_n be_v a_o estate_n honourable_a in_o all_o 4._o and_o they_o fall_v below_o the_o nature_n and_o worth_n of_o man_n and_o much_o more_o of_o christian_n who_o quarrel_n that_o estate_n which_o god_n have_v ordain_v for_o the_o comfort_n benefit_n and_o increase_v of_o mankind_n 2._o the_o honour_n of_o the_o marry_a estate_n be_v preserve_v while_o the_o bed_n be_v keep_v without_o be_v defile_v either_o by_o falseness_n or_o filthiness_n 3._o but_o the_o duty_n of_o the_o estate_n be_v as_o difficult_a as_o the_o dignity_n be_v great_a and_o a_o business_n it_o be_v of_o far_o great_a virtue_n for_o any_o to_o acquit_v himself_o in_o the_o marry_a then_o in_o the_o single_a estate_n 4._o a_o single_a and_o solitary_a estate_n be_v the_o touchstone_n of_o sincerity_n and_o they_o be_v sure_o good_a that_o marriage_n be_v good_a secret_o but_o of_o our_o wisdom_n patience_n and_o zeal_n society_n be_v the_o true_a trial_n 5._o of_o zeal_n in_o regard_n of_o zeal_n religious_a exercise_n and_o private_a conversing_n with_o god_n for_o which_o to_o gain_v a_o competent_a time_n and_o therein_o to_o come_v before_o god_n with_o a_o clear_a heart_n in_o the_o multitude_n and_o number_n of_o worldly_a business_n will_v undoubted_o make_v christian_n to_o bestir_v themselves_o 6._o and_o of_o patience_n also_o patience_n in_o regard_n of_o family-occasion_n and_o the_o many_o vexation_n of_o spirit_n that_o do_v arise_v both_o from_o thing_n and_o person_n 7._o it_o be_v true_a that_o divers_a occasion_n of_o disturbance_n and_o distemper_n may_v by_o providence_n and_o prudence_n be_v prevent_v and_o our_o little_a stock_n of_o patience_n bespeak_v the_o best_a assistance_n of_o that_o providence_n but_o to_o avoid_v &_o discharge_v ourselves_o of_o all_o be_v no_o more_o in_o our_o power_n then_o to_o command_v the_o course_n of_o providence_n 15._o or_o to_o alter_v the_o nature_n and_o disposition_n of_o people_n 8._o we_o have_v need_n of_o patience_n therefore_o that_o what_o we_o be_v not_o able_a to_o prevent_v we_o may_v be_v willing_a to_o endure_v 9_o nor_o do_v patience_n society_n endure_v it_o only_o but_o abate_v and_o end_v it_o and_o this_o be_v the_o common_a fruit_n of_o our_o impatience_n the_o double_n of_o our_o disturbance_n 10._o and_o consider_v here_o to_o make_v patience_n more_o precious_a that_o perturbation_n of_o spirit_n be_v great_a molester_n of_o piety_n and_o interrupt_v our_o society_n god_n with_o god_n for_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n work_v not_o the_o righteousness_n of_o god_n 20._o that_o be_v a_o wrathful_a person_n especial_o in_o a_o wrathful_a passion_n be_v very_o unfit_a to_o do_v the_o will_n of_o god_n either_o in_o work_n of_o religion_n that_o require_v a_o quiet_a and_o peaceable_a heart_n 8._o or_o in_o work_n of_o righteousness_n that_o require_v a_o equal_a and_o dispassionated_a judgement_n 2_o chron._n 16._o 10._o 11._o wrathful_a distemper_n 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