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it_o make_v thou_o oppose_v the_o word_n of_o god_n which_o command_v thou_o in_o all_o thing_n to_o acknowledge_v thy_o husband_n superiority_n by_o be_v obedient_a to_o he_o in_o all_o thing_n in_o the_o lord_n that_o be_v in_o all_o thing_n that_o be_v not_o positive_o sinful_a if_o thou_o be_v humble_a and_o meek_a thou_o will_v not_o be_v of_o such_o a_o captious_a contentious_a and_o wrangle_a disposition_n but_o overlook_a those_o fail_n that_o provoke_v proud_a spirit_n thus_o it_o be_v evident_a how_o anger_n have_v a_o tendency_n to_o extinguish_v the_o love_n of_o god_n for_o the_o love_n of_o god_n will_v not_o kindle_v and_o flame_n in_o a_o unquiet_a breast_n it_o make_v man_n and_o woman_n fret_v against_o god_n and_o murmur_v at_o his_o providence_n and_o make_v they_o discontent_v with_o that_o state_n and_o relation_n he_o have_v put_v they_o into_o and_o that_o it_o abate_v people_n love_n to_o themselves_o and_o make_v they_o desperate_a in_o their_o way_n make_v 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give_v the_o husband_n in_o scripture_n do_v prove_v his_o superiority_n and_o the_o wife_n subjection_n the_o husband_n be_v call_v the_o wife_n lord_n 1_o pet._n 3.5_o 6._o be_v in_o subjection_n to_o their_o own_o husband_n even_o as_o sarah_n obey_v abraham_n call_v he_o lord_n so_o in_o gen._n 18.12_o he_o be_v her_o master_n est_z 1.17_o 22._o her_o head_n 1_o cor._n 11.3_o her_o guide_n prov._n 2.17_o she_o forsake_v the_o guide_n of_o her_o youth_n which_o be_v mean_v of_o her_o husband_n who_o she_o marry_v in_o her_o youth_n and_o who_o by_o marriage_n she_o receive_v as_o the_o guide_n of_o her_o youth_n under_o god_n who_o be_v to_o be_v her_o guide_n both_o in_o youth_n and_o old_a age_n and_o by_o forsake_v the_o government_n of_o her_o husband_n in_o his_o command_n direction_n and_o counsel_n she_o forget_v the_o covenant_n of_o god_n make_v in_o marriage_n all_o these_o expression_n do_v evince_v the_o husband_n superiority_n and_o the_o wife_n subordination_n &_o 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the_o wife_n and_o this_o subjection_n to_o the_o husband_n ought_v to_o be_v in_o every_o thing_n ephes_n 5.24_o which_o be_v not_o forbid_v in_o the_o word_n of_o god_n though_o it_o cross_v the_o humour_n of_o the_o wife_n and_o argue_v little_a discretion_n in_o the_o husband_n that_o command_v it_o 3._o wife_n be_v oblige_v to_o be_v in_o subjection_n to_o their_o husband_n by_o their_o marriage-covenant_n wherein_o they_o have_v promise_v obedience_n to_o their_o husband_n and_o marriage-promise_n must_v be_v perform_v now_o obedience_n be_v a_o act_n of_o subjection_n and_o a_o evidence_n of_o inferiority_n so_o that_o such_o wife_n as_o be_v not_o willing_a to_o consent_v to_o their_o husband_n superiority_n be_v not_o willing_a to_o be_v faithful_a to_o their_o own_o engagement_n indeed_o god_n will_v be_v very_o severe_a against_o such_o woman_n as_o make_v no_o conscience_n of_o observe_v their_o marriage-covenant_n for_o it_o be_v god_n covenant_n make_v in_o his_o name_n 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worm_n must_v show_v himself_o displease_v and_o the_o almighty_a must_v look_v to_o himself_o the_o arrow_n of_o bitter_a word_n fly_v from_o he_o so_o thick_a and_o fast_o against_o the_o providence_n of_o heaven_n god_n must_v know_v he_o will_v not_o bear_v it_o he_o will_v not_o take_v it_o at_o his_o hand_n he_o will_v not_o put_v it_o up_o final_o i_o can_v wish_v this_o follow_a treatise_n may_v have_v entertainment_n in_o all_o sort_n of_o family_n quiet_a family_n that_o enjoy_v the_o warm_a sun_n and_o the_o serene_a air_n in_o pure_a love_n and_o peace_n how_o shall_v they_o bless_v god_n for_o the_o ornament_n of_o a_o meek_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n while_o other_o be_v stake_v down_o in_o the_o suburb_n of_o hell_n restless_a spirit_n like_o the_o inhabitant_n of_o torment_a tophet_n unquiet_a family_n let_v they_o read_v and_o consider_v and_o read_v it_o over_o and_o over_o again_o if_o peradventure_o god_n may_v be_v merciful_a unto_o they_o and_o still_o the_o unruly_a 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real_a wellwisher_n j._n r._n the_o introduction_n it_o be_v observe_v that_o many_o husband_n and_o wife_n that_o be_v eminent_a professor_n of_o religion_n yea_o such_o as_o be_v true_o gracious_a as_o well_o as_o professor_n through_o the_o weakness_n of_o their_o grace_n and_o strength_n of_o their_o corruption_n do_v live_v together_o in_o much_o discontent_n and_o that_o there_o be_v often_o manifestation_n of_o wrath_n and_o discord_n between_o they_o yea_o and_o many_o time_n their_o passion_n grow_v to_o such_o a_o height_n that_o in_o their_o anger_n they_o speak_v and_o do_v such_o thing_n as_o do_v very_o much_o disparage_v their_o profession_n and_o discredit_v religion_n and_o cause_v the_o enemy_n of_o religion_n to_o speak_v
anger_n to_o fall_v into_o the_o disease_n of_o melancholy_a frenzy_n madness_n apoplexy_n palsy_n and_o falling-sickness_n which_o be_v the_o usual_a effect_n of_o this_o prevail_a distemper_n of_o furious_a passion_n o_o then_o shall_v i_o be_v angry_a upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n and_o offer_v my_o body_n and_o spirit_n such_o great_a injury_n no_o i_o will_v not_o for_o i_o can_v pretend_v to_o hope_v for_o any_o inward_a or_o outward_a comfort_n by_o my_o anger_n nay_o my_o passion_n do_v not_o only_o impair_v the_o health_n of_o my_o body_n but_o mighty_o deform_v my_o body_n it_o deform_v my_o countenance_n and_o take_v away_o the_o amiable_a sweetness_n of_o it_o which_o appear_v in_o a_o calm_a and_o love_a temper_n i_o shall_v loathe_v myself_o shall_v i_o view_v my_o picture_n while_o i_o be_v in_o my_o fury_n before_o the_o frown_a wrinkle_n and_o inflame_a blood_n have_v return_v to_o their_o place_n and_o have_v leave_v my_o visage_n to_o its_o natural_a comeliness_n be_v it_o not_o then_o better_a to_o forget_v injury_n pass_v by_o wrong_n bear_v with_o some_o opposition_n and_o deny_v the_o gratify_n of_o my_o will_n than_o do_v my_o body_n and_o spirit_n so_o much_o prejudice_n and_o lose_v that_o contentment_n and_o sweetness_n that_o by_o meekness_n i_o may_v enjoy_v and_o lose_v that_o inward_a peace_n and_o satisfaction_n of_o mind_n that_o otherwise_o i_o may_v have_v or_o deprive_v myself_o of_o that_o beauty_n and_o comeliness_n that_o otherwise_o i_o may_v preserve_v o_o then_o god_n forbid_v that_o i_o shall_v gratify_v my_o angry_a humour_n 3._o a_o angry_a person_n be_v very_o troublesome_a to_o other_o even_o to_o the_o whole_a family_n wherein_o that_o angry_a person_n dwell_v and_o all_o those_o that_o do_v converse_v with_o he_o or_o she_o when_o the_o husband_n or_o wife_n be_v angry_a or_o froward_a o_o how_o extreme_o burdensome_a be_v he_o or_o she_o to_o that_o family_n that_o solomon_n say_v in_o two_o place_n prov._n 21.9_o 19_o that_o it_o be_v better_a to_o dwell_v on_o the_o housetop_n or_o in_o the_o wilderness_n than_o to_o dwell_v with_o a_o brawl_a woman_n in_o a_o wide_a house_n she_o be_v such_o a_o vexation_n to_o all_o those_o with_o who_o she_o dwell_v he_o instance_v in_o a_o woman_n because_o that_o sex_n be_v most_o subject_a to_o this_o brawl_a kind_n of_o life_n they_o be_v most_o apt_a to_o be_v angry_a and_o contentious_a a_o angry_a husband_n or_o a_o angry_a wife_n be_v a_o torment_n to_o all_o those_o that_o live_v in_o family_n and_o therefore_o the_o holy_a ghost_n by_o solomon_n say_v in_o prov._n 22.24_o make_v no_o friendship_n with_o a_o angry_a man_n and_o with_o a_o furious_a man_n thou_o shall_v not_o go_v there_o be_v no_o good_a to_o be_v get_v by_o the_o company_n of_o one_o that_o be_v usual_o angry_a upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n there_o be_v no_o peace_n to_o be_v enjoy_v in_o angry_a person_n company_n a_o froward_a spirit_n trouble_v his_o own_o house_n and_o consider_v what_o be_v say_v of_o such_o a_o one_o in_o prov._n 11.29_o he_o that_o trouble_v his_o own_o house_n shall_v inherit_v the_o wind_n that_o be_v as_o he_o or_o she_o have_v be_v a_o trouble_n to_o he_o or_o her_o own_o house_n so_o god_n shall_v blast_v that_o person_n in_o all_o his_o or_o her_o way_n indeed_o passion_n be_v so_o troublesome_a between_o man_n and_o wife_n as_o they_o can_v hardly_o dwell_v together_o under_o one_o roof_n because_o they_o spend_v a_o great_a part_n of_o their_o life_n in_o trouble_v one_o another_o by_o their_o passion_n they_o be_v vexatious_a to_o one_o another_o and_o in_o their_o house_n it_o be_v stormy_a weather_n all_o the_o year_n long_o that_o it_o be_v a_o very_a rare_a thing_n to_o enjoy_v any_o calm_a weather_n in_o the_o family_n where_o angry_a person_n dwell_v hence_o it_o be_v that_o husband_n and_o wife_n can_v seldom_o eat_v their_o meat_n together_o at_o one_o table_n without_o quarrel_v because_o their_o life_n be_v so_o uncomfortable_a one_o to_o another_o their_o company_n be_v very_o uncomfortable_a to_o other_o passion_n be_v a_o unruly_a thing_n and_o therefore_o troublesome_a wherever_o it_o come_v and_o will_v thou_o then_o o_o husband_n or_o wife_n cherish_v that_o evil_a humour_n in_o thou_o that_o will_v make_v thou_o a_o burden_n to_o all_o that_o converse_v with_o thou_o if_o thou_o continue_v to_o be_v angry_a upon_o every_o slight_a opposition_n or_o contradiction_n thou_o will_v be_v have_v in_o contempt_n of_o all_o that_o be_v near_o thou_o they_o will_v despise_v thy_o person_n because_o thou_o do_v break_v their_o peace_n and_o depriuâ—_v they_o of_o their_o quiet_n so_o than_o if_o thou_o have_v any_o desire_n to_o preserve_v the_o peace_n and_o quiet_a of_o thy_o house_n and_o have_v any_o esteem_n of_o those_o that_o live_v with_o thou_o do_v thy_o utmost_a endeavour_n by_o the_o assistance_n of_o the_o spirit_n to_o mortify_v thy_o angry_a passion_n 4._o the_o prevail_a of_o anger_n and_o contention_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n do_v destroy_v their_o love_n there_o be_v thereby_o a_o great_a decay_n of_o the_o affection_n of_o love_n and_o a_o augmentation_n of_o the_o passion_n of_o hatred_n anger_n make_v person_n guilty_a of_o slight_v despise_a disrespect_v and_o undervalue_v those_o they_o shall_v high_o value_v love_n and_o esteem_v and_o this_o appear_v in_o the_o follow_a particular_n 1._o when_o person_n be_v enrage_v that_o god_n providence_n do_v thwart_v their_o humour_n they_o be_v offend_v and_o displease_v with_o god_n and_o their_o love_n to_o god_n do_v very_o much_o abate_v for_o where_o love_n to_o god_n be_v ardent_a and_o prevail_a there_o every_o providential_a act_n of_o god_n be_v kind_o accept_v and_o take_v in_o good_a part_n such_o person_n as_o love_n god_n be_v well_o please_v with_o every_o dispensation_n of_o god_n and_o be_v content_v with_o every_o condition_n god_n put_v they_o in_o but_o when_o they_o be_v offend_v that_o god_n do_v not_o give_v they_o every_o thing_n according_a to_o their_o own_o will_n when_o they_o do_v not_o like_v of_o god_n dispose_v of_o they_o in_o this_o relation_n or_o in_o this_o condition_n of_o life_n and_o in_o this_o place_n of_o habitation_n and_o begin_v to_o vex_v and_o fret_v themselves_o be_v angry_a and_o in_o a_o furious_a passion_n that_o god_n do_v not_o order_n thing_n to_o their_o like_n then_o their_o murmur_n and_o repine_n their_o vex_v and_o fret_v their_o disgust_n and_o discontent_n their_o anger_n and_o displeasedness_n of_o mind_n do_v exceed_o abate_v their_o affection_n to_o god_n they_o begin_v to_o disrespect_n god_n more_o and_o more_o they_o entertain_v conceit_n as_o if_o god_n do_v do_v they_o wrong_v in_o not_o order_v all_o thing_n according_a to_o their_o humour_n in_o their_o anger_n murmur_v that_o god_n yoke_v they_o to_o such_o consort_n wish_v that_o god_n have_v otherwise_o dispose_v of_o they_o and_o know_v that_o all_o conjugal_a relation_n be_v of_o god_n order_v and_o appointment_n they_o complain_v high_o as_o if_o he_o have_v deal_v injurious_o with_o they_o in_o appoint_v such_o a_o relation_n for_o they_o and_o hereupon_o their_o love_n to_o god_n decline_v and_o they_o care_v not_o for_o god_n company_n slight_a those_o duty_n and_o service_n wherein_o they_o â—ight_a converse_n with_o god_n and_o be_v more_o displease_v with_o the_o seem_a offence_n they_o pretend_v be_v do_v they_o by_o their_o husband_n and_o wife_n than_o for_o the_o neglect_n of_o god_n worship_n and_o indeed_o love_n grow_v cold_a to_o one_o who_o company_n be_v not_o delight_v in_o for_o all_o person_n take_v delight_n to_o be_v much_o in_o company_n of_o their_o belove_a and_o when_o god_n company_n be_v not_o prize_v he_o be_v not_o love_v now_o see_v anger_n and_o discord_n do_v lessen_v people_n love_n to_o god_n it_o must_v needs_o be_v the_o great_a evil_n as_o it_o do_v cause_v a_o decay_n of_o love_n to_o the_o chief_a good_a the_o want_n of_o love_n to_o god_n be_v the_o most_o comprehensive_a and_o odious_a sin_n it_o be_v the_o life_n of_o all_o particular_a sin_n to_o be_v defective_a in_o love_n to_o the_o god_n of_o love_n the_o fountain_n of_o love_n the_o felicity_n of_o the_o soul_n be_v a_o sin_n not_o to_o be_v pardon_v to_o any_o till_o it_o be_v repent_v of_o and_o partly_o cure_v therefore_o stay_v o_o man_n or_o o_o woman_n to_o what_o a_o height_n do_v thy_o angry_a passion_n make_v thou_o to_o ascend_v do_v thou_o not_o tremble_v to_o think_v how_o much_o thou_o do_v provoke_v god_n when_o thou_o do_v in_o thy_o anger_n slight_a and_o disrespect_n god_n and_o be_v angry_a with_o god_n because_o thou_o be_v displease_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n and_o because_o
may_v contain_v thy_o anger_n for_o a_o long_a time_n enter_v into_o a_o resolve_n in_o the_o strength_n of_o divine_a assistance_n that_o whatever_o occasion_n may_v be_v offer_v thou_o yet_o thou_o will_v refrain_v to_o manifest_v thy_o wrath_n and_o displeasure_n and_o so_o by_o little_a and_o little_o thou_o shall_v attain_v a_o habit_n of_o patience_n and_o meekness_n 5._o in_o those_o that_o be_v guilty_a of_o much_o furious_a passion_n their_o anger_n do_v cause_n abundance_n of_o sin_n as_o in_o prov._n 29.22_o a_o angry_a man_n stir_v up_o strife_n and_o a_o furious_a man_n abound_v in_o transgression_n anger_n be_v the_o door_n and_o gate_n of_o vice_n and_o therefore_o the_o psalmist_n say_v psal_n 37.8_o cease_v from_o anger_n leave_v off_o wrath_n fret_v not_o thyself_o to_o do_v evil_a as_o if_o he_o will_v imply_v that_o to_o abound_v in_o anger_n be_v to_o abound_v in_o sin_n and_o it_o can_v be_v but_o a_o person_n must_v be_v guilty_a of_o much_o sin_n that_o live_v in_o fret_a passion_n and_o inward_a unrest_n more_o sin_n be_v commit_v by_o a_o person_n in_o a_o fit_a of_o passion_n in_o one_o quarter_n of_o a_o hour_n than_o a_o meek-spirited_n man_n commit_v in_o a_o quarter_n of_o a_o year_n moses_n in_o his_o zeal_n for_o god_n break_v the_o two_o table_n of_o stone_n whereon_o the_o law_n be_v write_v and_o sometime_o passionate_a and_o angry_a people_n in_o their_o wicked_a heat_n of_o spirit_n break_v all_o the_o ten_o commandment_n and_o in_o most_o fit_n of_o passion_n they_o break_v in_o piece_n most_o of_o the_o commandment_n of_o the_o second_o table_n people_n vile_a wicked_a and_o sinful_a lust_n when_o they_o be_v please_v stir_v not_o but_o when_o once_o the_o heat_n of_o anger_n do_v arise_v that_o warm_v these_o lust_n they_o then_o like_o snake_n warm_v with_o the_o sun_n hiss_v and_o spit_v upon_o those_o that_o be_v about_o they_o when_o there_o be_v a_o land-flood_n that_o the_o brook_n get_v over_o the_o bank_n and_o 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eruption_n run_v away_o without_o a_o rule_n and_o end_n in_o folly_n and_o inconveniency_n prov._n 14.17_o he_o that_o be_v soon_o angry_a deal_v foolish_o by_o frequent_a fit_n of_o passion_n anger_n be_v concoct_v into_o malice_n which_o do_v evidence_n a_o very_a wicked_a disposition_n and_o be_v find_v only_o in_o the_o most_o deprave_a nature_n james_n say_v cap._n 1.20_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n work_v not_o the_o righteousness_n of_o god_n intimate_v that_o it_o be_v so_o far_o from_o work_v righteousness_n that_o it_o work_v all_o manner_n of_o evil_n there_o be_v in_o a_o person_n anger_n somewhat_o of_o rage_n and_o violence_n which_o vehement_o excit_v the_o person_n to_o act_v and_o take_v away_o the_o rule_n according_a to_o which_o he_o or_o she_o ought_v to_o act_v so_o anger_n cause_v people_n conscience_n to_o be_v stany_v with_o the_o impurity_n of_o their_o life_n 1._o violent_a passion_n cause_v man_n and_o woman_n even_o to_o fly_v in_o the_o very_a face_n of_o god_n and_o walk_v froward_o towards_o he_o which_o god_n complain_v of_o in_o isa_n 57.17_o and_o go_v on_o froward_o in_o the_o way_n of_o his_o own_o heart_n when_o every_o providence_n do_v not_o suit_n with_o person_n humour_n or_o if_o their_o husband_n or_o wife_n do_v cross_v they_o they_o will_v be_v in_o a_o pettish_a humour_n against_o god_n fall_v out_o with_o god_n for_o permit_v such_o thing_n to_o befall_v they_o and_o so_o out_o of_o a_o pettish_a humour_n they_o lay_v aside_o and_o have_v no_o mind_n to_o set_v upon_o any_o duty_n that_o they_o owe_v to_o god_n and_o when_o god_n deal_n be_v at_o any_o time_n opposite_a to_o thy_o will_n and_o permit_v any_o to_o molest_v thou_o thou_o complain_v that_o god_n have_v deal_v hardly_o with_o thou_o certain_o there_o must_v needs_o be_v a_o very_a malignant_a humour_n in_o thou_o that_o make_v thou_o act_v thus_o froward_o against_o god_n and_o how_o sad_a be_v it_o for_o man_n and_o woman_n by_o the_o violence_n of_o their_o passion_n against_o their_o near_a relation_n to_o act_v froward_o against_o god_n o_o thou_o husband_n or_o wife_n thou_o be_v angry_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n and_o will_v thou_o manifest_v thy_o frowardness_n against_o god_n and_o because_o thy_o husband_n provoke_v thou_o will_v thou_o provoke_v god_n because_o he_o injure_v or_o wrong_v thou_o will_v thou_o injure_v and_o wrong_v god_n what_o infinite_a unreasonableness_n be_v this_o what_o boldness_n and_o presumption_n be_v this_o there_o be_v so_o much_o evil_n in_o it_o as_o be_v impossible_a for_o any_o to_o utter_v it_o be_v so_o abominable_a 2._o when_o man_n man_n or_o woman_n be_v in_o fit_n of_o anger_n one_o with_o another_o when_o the_o wife_n fall_v out_o with_o the_o husband_n the_o fear_n of_o the_o great_a and_o dreadful_a majesty_n of_o god_n the_o infinite_a god_n and_o the_o dreadfulness_n of_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n be_v all_o go_v and_o she_o be_v bold_a upon_o sin_n she_o care_v not_o what_o she_o say_v or_o what_o she_o do_v she_o fear_v not_o god_n displeasure_n while_o the_o fit_a of_o passion_n and_o contention_n last_v for_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n be_v to_o depart_v from_o evil_n and_o there_o can_v be_v no_o restraint_n from_o sin_n when_o that_o be_v go_v in_o people_n fit_n of_o angry_a passion_n their_o reproachful_a and_o revile_v speech_n do_v much_o dishonour_n god_n and_o their_o action_n flat_o oppose_v his_o will_n while_o they_o be_v angry_a they_o do_v not_o stand_v in_o awe_n of_o god_n and_o thereby_o their_o unruly_a lust_n be_v let_v loose_a run_v up_o and_o down_o do_v mischief_n sin_v against_o god_n and_o their_o brethren_n indeed_o the_o gratify_n of_o passionate_a humour_n do_v make_v person_n cease_v fear_v god_n in_o fearlesness_n of_o god_n be_v a_o mighty_a provoke_a sin_n see_v what_o almighty_a god_n say_v in_o jer._n 5.22_o fear_v you_o not_o i_o say_v the_o lord_n will_v you_o not_o tremble_v at_o my_o presence_n and_o in_o verse_n 24._o neither_o say_v they_o in_o their_o heart_n let_v we_o now_o fear_v the_o lord_n our_o god_n and_o in_o verse_n 29._o shall_v i_o not_o visit_v for_o these_o thing_n say_v the_o lord_n shall_v not_o my_o soul_n be_v avenge_v on_o such_o a_o nation_n as_o this_o o_o then_o be_v sensible_a what_o great_a provoke_a sin_n anger_n and_o contention_n do_v occasion_n 6._o husband_n and_o wife_n by_o the_o frequency_n of_o their_o angry_a passionate_a fit_n make_v themselves_o all_o their_o life_n contemptible_a to_o other_o some_o husband_n and_o wife_n think_v to_o be_v terrible_a to_o other_o in_o their_o passion_n but_o they_o discover_v so_o much_o folly_n as_o that_o they_o make_v those_o that_o they_o be_v angry_a with_o to_o despise_v they_o they_o may_v think_v to_o gain_v the_o more_o authority_n and_o make_v other_o stand_v more_o in_o awe_n of_o they_o by_o their_o be_v angry_a with_o they_o but_o they_o see_v so_o much_o rashness_n and_o distemper_n in_o their_o passion_n that_o nothing_o deprive_v they_o of_o their_o authority_n &_o respect_n more_o than_o this_o constant_a passion_n of_o anger_n when_o small_a matter_n put_v they_o into_o a_o fiery_a sit_v indeed_o if_o person_n do_v but_o observe_v their_o shameful_a carriage_n when_o they_o be_v in_o passion_n after_o they_o be_v come_v to_o their_o right_a mind_n and_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n do_v but_o consider_v how_o much_o they_o be_v disdain_v and_o contemn_v for_o it_o it_o will_v make_v they_o ashamed_a of_o their_o anger_n however_o many_o be_v angry_a because_o they_o will_v not_o be_v despise_v but_o keep_v other_o in_o subjection_n to_o they_o yet_o nothing_o in_o truth_n do_v work_v base_a esteem_n and_o disregard_n in_o the_o mind_n of_o those_o that_o
like_o a_o wrathful_a man_n yea_o a_o enrage_a man_n yet_o he_o do_v this_o in_o the_o exact_a frame_n and_o sweet_a composure_n of_o his_o spirit_n but_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n be_v only_o his_o holy_a and_o most_o bless_a will_n burn_v with_o hatred_n against_o sin_n especial_o the_o wrath_n and_o disâ—entions_n of_o such_o near_a relation_n as_o husband_n and_o wife_n and_o so_o he_o turn_v away_o from_o such_o in_o his_o high_a displeasure_n and_o as_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n draw_v out_o punishment_n so_o thy_o angry_a froward_a pettish_a humour_n draw_v out_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n the_o wrath_n of_o god_n be_v terrible_a and_o that_o must_v needs_o be_v a_o terrible_a evil_n that_o provoke_v god_n to_o pour_v it_o out_o will_v it_o not_o then_o be_v grievous_a to_o thou_o to_o behold_v the_o appearance_n of_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n against_o thou_o and_o smart_n under_o the_o kindle_n of_o divine_a displeasure_n o_o who_o can_v abide_v the_o come_n of_o the_o lord_n with_o consume_a fire_n a_o fire_n kindle_v only_o to_o consume_v be_v dreadful_a as_o in_o isa_n 10.17_o the_o light_n of_o israel_n shall_v be_v for_o a_o fire_n and_o his_o holy_a one_o for_o a_o flame_n and_o it_o shall_v burn_v and_o devour_v his_o thorn_n and_o his_o briar_n in_o one_o day_n that_o be_v the_o fury_n of_o the_o lord_n shall_v appear_v against_o those_o that_o like_a briar_n and_o thorn_n in_o their_o anger_n and_o contention_n do_v prick_v and_o scratch_v one_o another_o though_o in_o a_o strict_a sense_n it_o relate_v unto_o god_n consume_v the_o assyrian_n who_o plague_v the_o jew_n shall_v not_o then_o the_o terrible_a wrath_n of_o god_n that_o thy_o furious_a spirit_n bring_v upon_o thou_o scare_v thou_o from_o cherish_v thy_o passionate_a and_o froward_a humour_n if_o thou_o retain_v thy_o anger_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o against_o thy_o wife_n god_n will_v settle_v his_o wrath_n upon_o thou_o o_o think_v upon_o this_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n when_o thy_o choler_n begin_v to_o rise_v if_o i_o give_v way_n to_o my_o anger_n i_o do_v but_o call_v upon_o god_n to_o pour_v down_o his_o wrath_n upon_o i_o before_o i_o proceed_v to_o give_v direction_n for_o the_o subdue_a bridle_a and_o prevent_a wrath_n and_o dissension_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n i_o shall_v endeavour_v to_o manifest_v which_o of_o they_o be_v most_o principal_o faulty_a in_o cause_v heat_n and_o dissension_n between_o they_o which_o of_o they_o be_v most_o faulty_a in_o be_v angry_a and_o froward_a and_o that_o in_o these_o follow_a particular_n 1._o that_o person_n that_o in_o he_o or_o her_o anger_n do_v by_o expression_n manifest_v a_o contempt_n or_o undervalue_v or_o a_o want_n of_o affection_n to_o the_o other_o person_n be_v principal_o faulty_a in_o be_v angry_a and_o be_v indeed_o angry_a immoderate_o and_o without_o cause_n for_o a_o well-grounded_n anger_n do_v manifest_a displeasure_n against_o another_o offence_n and_o sin_n but_o not_o against_o the_o person_n offend_v endeavour_n to_o make_v faulty_a person_n ashamed_a but_o not_o a_o shame_n that_o husband_n that_o do_v in_o his_o anger_n and_o furiousness_n of_o spirit_n call_v his_o wife_n where_o do_v indeed_o evidence_n a_o contempt_n and_o hatred_n of_o her_o person_n and_o that_o wife_n that_o do_v call_v her_o husband_n rogue_n knave_n and_o cheat_a fellow_n or_o other_o opprobrious_a term_n do_v real_o hate_v her_o husband_n and_o be_v principal_o in_o fault_n when_o a_o difference_n do_v arise_v between_o they_o also_o that_o person_n that_o do_v obstinate_o refuse_v to_o give_v due_a conjugal_a respect_n to_o the_o other_o do_v evidence_n a_o contempt_n of_o the_o other_o person_n and_o be_v guilty_a of_o its_o own_o anger_n and_o of_o the_o strife_n that_o be_v stir_v up_o between_o they_o 2._o that_o party_n that_o keep_v in_o memory_n and_o repeat_v over_o old_a thing_n that_o have_v be_v the_o occasion_n of_o contention_n a_o long_a time_n before_o be_v guilty_a of_o sinful_a anger_n be_v the_o promoter_n of_o new_a passion_n and_o be_v the_o cause_n of_o the_o present_a discord_n for_o such_o a_o party_n do_v deliberate_o endeavour_v to_o raise_v new_a strife_n and_o contention_n for_o as_o former_a provocation_n ought_v to_o be_v forgive_v so_o they_o ought_v to_o be_v forget_v prov._n 17.9_o he_o that_o cover_v a_o transgression_n seek_v love_n but_o he_o that_o repeat_v a_o matter_n separate_v very_a friend_n even_o such_o near_a friend_n as_o husband_n and_o wife_n and_o usual_o that_o person_n that_o frequent_o repeat_v former_a transaction_n have_v a_o prejudice_n against_o the_o party_n of_o who_o and_o to_o who_o he_o or_o she_o repeat_v the_o matter_n and_o by_o addition_n and_o passionate_a perversion_n aggravate_v the_o thing_n that_o be_v so_o repeat_v so_o either_o the_o husband_n or_o the_o wife_n that_o make_v a_o fresh_a rehearsal_n of_o old_a matter_n do_v but_o increase_v his_o or_o her_o own_o fury_n and_o 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