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sam._n 4._o 5._o job._n 1._o 19_o 1._o king_n 18._o 44._o caveat_n 4._o renounce_v not_o god_n to_o use_v carnal_a shift_n caveat_n 5._o keep_v each_o party_n the_o bound_n of_o his_o place_n caveat_n 6._o be_v prepare_v for_o the_o hard_a before_o 1_o sam._n 25._o exhortation_n to_o the_o marry_a to_o use_v cordial_a consent_n what_o be_v to_o be_v do_v by_o both_o after_o a_o difference_n even_o to_o repent_v and_o be_v humble_v judg._n 9_o 9_o 13._o 1._o king_n 6._o 7._o isaiah_n 42._o 3._o 4._o mâ—th_n 18._o 7._o exod._n 8._o 3._o philip._n 4._o 7._o conclusion_n of_o this_o main_n duâ—y_n coherence_n of_o the_o point_n first_o peculiar_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o be_v a_o man_n of_o understanding_n with_o this_o be_v 1._o pet._n 3._o 7._o particular_n wherein_o it_o consist_v first_o in_o what_o it_o consist_v not_o dan._n 4_o 30._o not_o in_o a_o high_a spirit_n pro._n 17_o 27._o tim._n 1._o 3._o 5._o not_o in_o a_o rash_a self_n willednesse_n joh._n 19_o 22._o psal_n 12._o 4._o to_o know_v but_o not_o practice_v not_o to_o give_v way_n to_o good_a counsel_n but_o no_o follow_v it_o nor_o to_o give_v counsel_n to_o either_o and_o not_o to_o himself_o second_o branch_n what_o be_v to_o be_v a_o man_n of_o understanding_n 1_o king_n 3._o 7._o 9_o to_o renounce_v our_o own_o understanding_n pro._n 30._o 2._o 1._o sam._n 18._o 18._o 1._o sam._n 25_o 41._o to_o be_v first_o subject_n to_o god_n and_o so_o mcgovern_v other_o matth._n 8._o 9_o the_o three_o to_o be_v more_o sensible_a of_o a_o burden_n then_o of_o a_o honour_n to_o be_v qualify_v with_o a_o spirit_n of_o all_o sort_n as_o occasion_n require_v particular_n of_o this_o general_a two_o it_o appear_v in_o matter_n of_o god_n instance_n wherein_o cant._n 8_o 3._o the_o backwardness_n of_o most_o husband_n in_o this_o kind_n understanding_n in_o matter_n outward_a requisite_a for_o the_o man_n reproof_n husband_n not_o walk_v as_o man_n of_o understanding_n to_o be_v blame_v pro._n â—4_n 31._o 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5._o 18._o job._n 31._o 27._o deut._n 26._o luke_n 1._o 46._o 47._o heb._n 3._o 17._o reproof_n branch_n careless_n deserter_n of_o their_o wife_n odious_a branch_n neglecter_n of_o learning_n their_o trade_n lyvers_n upon_o their_o usury_n odious_a improvidence_n under_o colour_n of_o religion_n vicious_a branch_n 4._o 〈◊〉_d â—â—ing_n course_v dishonour_v marriage_n young_a heir_n wâ—â—stfull_a overthrow_v their_o marriage_n digression_n admon_a tory_n to_o parent_n branch_n 2._o undiscreet_a borrow_n overstocking_n uâ—dersellings_n bad_a husbandry_n branch_n 7._o engross_a many_o farm_n at_o once_o branch_n 8._o change_a of_o calling_n in_o what_o respect_v a_o man_n may_v change_v or_o divert_v from_o his_o call_n branch_n 9_o unsubjection_n to_o the_o rule_n of_o providence_n exhortation_n the_o 3._o particular_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n respectiveness_n gen._n 2._o 23._o the_o open_n of_o the_o point_n at_o large_a eph._n 5._o 18._o 29._o union_n the_o root_n of_o this_o 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discover_v herself_o to_o be_v open_o profane_a when_o be_v hear_v 5._o and_o worship_n in_o the_o memory_n of_o man_n accompany_v with_o so_o much_o wickedness_n or_o when_o have_v popery_n bettery_n colour_n to_o traduce_v our_o gospel_n for_o a_o doctrine_n of_o licentiousness_n and_o while_o man_n have_v leisure_n enough_o for_o every_o other_o thing_n who_o look_v at_o reform_v of_o ill_a manner_n and_o how_o just_o do_v god_n leave_v man_n who_o will_v not_o be_v as_o they_o ought_v with_o hazael_n to_o prove_v worse_o than_o they_o seem_v what_o argue_v this_o that_o man_n live_v in_o a_o practice_n of_o drunkenness_n and_o uncleanness_n dare_v press_n upon_o a_o minister_n of_o christ_n for_o comfort_n to_o their_o soul_n as_o imagine_v it_o to_o belong_v to_o they_o be_v it_o not_o a_o sign_n of_o a_o spirit_n of_o giddiness_n reign_v in_o the_o world_n out_o of_o deep_a dote_a upon_o their_o prayer_n and_o hypocritical_a worship_n have_v such_o a_o baalamish_a conscience_n 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thou_o to_o determine_v at_o least_o this_o i_o desire_v that_o they_o who_o be_v enter_v or_o be_v to_o enter_v the_o estate_n of_o marriage_n may_v find_v these_o rule_n somewhat_o advantageous_a to_o further_o they_o in_o their_o choice_n or_o to_o guide_v they_o in_o their_o course_n i_o shall_v be_v happy_a in_o my_o design_n if_o either_o of_o these_o be_v obtain_v to_o the_o effect_v whereof_o i_o commend_v all_o to_o his_o grace_n who_o have_v by_o his_o providence_n bring_v this_o treatise_n to_o a_o end_n both_o for_o i_o to_o publish_v and_o for_o thou_o to_o peruse_v thou_o in_o the_o lord_n d._n r._n a_o table_n describe_v the_o several_a content_n of_o the_o chapter_n of_o this_o treatise_n and_o the_o appendix_n thereto_o chapter_n 1._o contain_v the_o analyse_v of_o the_o text_n the_o first_o point_n handle_v viz._n marriage_n be_v honourable_a chap._n 2._o more_o full_a explication_n of_o the_o special_o in_o which_o the_o honour_n of_o marriage_n consist_v be_v the_o ground_n of_o the_o treatise_n ensue_v viz._n in_o entrance_n and_o continuance_n entrance_n first_o that_o be_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n handle_v chap._n 3._o the_o second_o requisite_a unto_o a_o good_a entrance_n handle_v viz._n aptness_n and_o suitableness_n chap._n 4._o a_o first_o digression_n touch_v consent_n of_o parent_n with_o sundry_a question_n and_o objection_n answer_v chap._n 5._o a_o second_o digression_n touch_v a_o contract_n what_o it_o be_v and_o sundry_a quaeres_fw-la about_o it_o answer_v and_o resolve_v chap._n 6._o return_v to_o the_o first_o argument_n the_o second_o part_n of_o the_o marriage_n honour_n to_o be_v preserve_v to_o wâ—t_v in_o the_o marry_a condition_n and_o that_o both_o general_a and_o special_a in_o general_a by_o some_o mutual_a duty_n concern_v they_o both_o four_o of_o they_o name_v the_o first_o handle_v viz._n joint_n consent_n in_o religion_n chap._n 7._o the_o second_o joint_a duty_n of_o marry_a couple_n handle_v to_o wit_n 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i_o have_v intend_v to_o do_v particular_n not_o so_o proper_o as_o necessary_o to_o spare_v myself_o a_o labour_n in_o another_o place_n let_v i_o now_o sound_a retreat_n to_o my_o reader_n thought_n and_o come_v to_o the_o second_o branch_n of_o my_o division_n that_o be_v the_o subjection_n of_o the_o woman_n practice_n which_o although_o it_o be_v but_o a_o shadow_n without_o the_o other_o yet_o that_o must_v not_o pass_v for_o the_o whole_a payment_n of_o the_o debt_n for_o who_o may_v not_o say_v their_o heart_n be_v good_a this_o way_n when_o as_o their_o conversation_n show_v it_o not_o but_o a_o subject_a heart_n appear_v best_a when_o a_o woman_n say_v little_a of_o that_o which_o be_v within_o but_o leave_v to_o they_o to_o judge_v who_o hear_v and_o see_v 1._o and_o this_o practice_n of_o the_o woman_n subjection_n god_n must_v appear_v in_o these_o three_o particular_n in_o matter_n of_o god_n worship_n in_o matter_n of_o the_o world_n and_o in_o her_o marriage_n converse_v for_o the_o first_o she_o be_v with_o a_o awful_a and_o single_a eye_n and_o honour_v heart_n to_o behold_v in_o her_o husband_n the_o gift_n of_o god_n as_o namely_o that_o ability_n which_o god_n have_v give_v he_o to_o be_v in_o god_n steed_n unto_o she_o in_o all_o thing_n pertain_v unto_o her_o soul_n as_o also_o to_o menage_n the_o service_n of_o god_n with_o she_o either_o in_o the_o family_n or_o apart_o as_o to_o read_v the_o word_n judicious_o to_o catechise_v and_o inform_v in_o the_o ground_n of_o religion_n distinct_o to_o admonish_v the_o family_n against_o the_o sin_n and_o exhort_v inferior_n to_o the_o duty_n of_o their_o order_n and_o condition_n wife_n child_n so_o jorner_n servant_n i_o say_v she_o ought_v so_o to_o observe_v god_n image_n in_o these_o gift_n of_o her_o husband_n as_o to_o feel_v no_o spirit_n in_o she_o to_o despise_v he_o to_o gain_v say_v to_o compare_v or_o censure_v they_o yea_o though_o her_o own_o gift_n be_v more_o than_o ordinary_a yet_o to_o conceal_v &_o suppress_v they_o in_o this_o kind_n except_o her_o husband_n shall_v at_o any_o time_n desire_v to_o be_v partaker_n thereof_o in_o private_a for_o his_o spiritual_a quicken_n and_o then_o with_o all_o humble_a self_n denial_n to_o impart_v herself_o with_o he_o and_o enjoy_v they_o to_o herself_o in_o subjection_n note_v it_o that_o the_o apost_n when_o he_o be_v in_o the_o midst_n of_o his_o urge_v this_o duty_n to_o the_o wife_n then_o do_v he_o touch_v this_o point_n say_v let_v the_o woman_n learn_v in_o silence_n â—2_n and_o i_o suffer_v not_o the_o woman_n to_o teach_v or_o usurp_v authority_n over_o the_o man_n but_o to_o be_v in_o silence_n you_o must_v note_v that_o in_o this_o age_n the_o spirit_n of_o god_n be_v pour_v upon_o all_o flesh_n so_o that_o woman_n as_o well_o as_o man_n have_v great_a gift_n of_o understanding_n and_o prophecy_n vouchsafe_v they_o which_o no_o doubt_n may_v put_v they_o forward_o to_o express_v themselves_o before_o their_o husband_n now_o if_o such_o woman_n then_o how_o much_o more_o must_v ordinary_a woman_n be_v subject_a in_o this_o kind_n to_o their_o husband_n she_o ought_v indeed_o to_o encourage_v her_o husband_n cordial_o to_o proceed_v in_o such_o a_o course_n show_v it_o to_o be_v the_o joy_n of_o her_o heart_n when_o she_o see_v he_o to_o set_v up_o god_n in_o the_o family_n she_o be_v to_o remove_v to_o the_o uttermost_a all_o let_n and_o stop_n which_o may_v offend_v as_o unseasonable_a attendance_n upon_o business_n which_o common_o offer_v itself_o most_o when_o it_o least_o shall_v also_o the_o complaint_n and_o trouble_n of_o child_n with_o other_o occasion_n of_o the_o family_n as_o that_o may_v by_o her_o wise_a prevention_n be_v cast_v upon_o other_o time_n as_o well_o i_o
contract_n civil_a one_o and_o no_o more_o unsafe_a match_n for_o religious_a one_o 33._o connivers_n only_o at_o and_o not_o approover_n of_o religion_n in_o their_o yokefelowe_n taxcd_v 39_o comender_n of_o religion_n in_o their_o wife_n for_o by_o end_n reprooved_a ibid._n counsel_n for_o such_o as_o draw_v in_o a_o evil_a yoke_n pag._n 41._o 1._o rip_v up_o thy_o state_n to_o god_n 2._o redâ—eme_v old_a error_n and_o pray_v for_o pardon_n 3_o pass_v by_o pardonable_a fault_n 4._o fret_v not_o at_o thy_o lot_n 5._o utter_v not_o thy_o greivance_n easy_o 6._o justify_v not_o thâ—ne_v own_o sin_n by_o another_o ibi_fw-la &_o seq_n continency_n a_o rare_a gift_n of_o god_n therefore_o to_o be_v seek_v for_o of_o he_o 49._o no_o curiosity_n to_o marry_v apt_o 64._o corruption_n always_o affect_v a_o contrariety_n to_o the_o law_n of_o apt_a marry_n 67._o contemner_n of_o equal_a marriage_n reprooved_a 69._o counsel_n to_o such_o as_o be_v already_o unapt_o marry_v 70._o contract_n and_o consent_n of_o parent_n in_o marriage_n handle_v 71._o consent_v of_o parent_n necessary_a for_o marriage_n and_o why_o 71._o ibid._n exception_n against_o the_o strict_a rule_n of_o parent_n consent_v in_o marriage_n 77._o child_n objection_n against_o parent_n carelessness_n in_o their_o marriage_n answer_v 79._o counsel_n give_v they_o what_o to_o do_v in_o their_o suppose_a wrong_n 80._o parent_n obstinate_a to_o consent_v to_o be_v curb_v 81._o question_v about_o parent_n consent_v answer_v 81._o ibid._n cavil_n of_o such_o answer_v as_o plead_v for_o maintenance_n and_o respect_n from_o parent_n who_o consent_n they_o neglect_v 84._o dissemble_v and_o force_v consent_n of_o parent_n by_o child_n be_v sinful_a 85._o half_n consent_n of_o parent_n or_o consent_v after_o contract_n be_v faulty_a 86._o contract_n of_o marriage_n in_o what_o sense_n here_o use_v 96._o in_o what_o respect_v such_o contract_n may_v be_v say_v to_o be_v essential_a 104._o contract_v very_o ancient_a and_o of_o general_a use_n 105._o jewish_a contract_n what_o and_o how_o solemnize_v ibid._n act_n and_o performance_n of_o a_o solemn_a contract_n how_o to_o be_v do_v 106._o disdainer_n of_o contract_n tax_v 121._o contract_a couple_n must_v prize_v their_o contract_n 123._o special_a counsel_n touch_v it_o 124._o cause_o of_o the_o unhappy_a and_o unprosperous_a estate_n of_o many_o couple_n be_v the_o want_n of_o their_o joint_a religion_n 137._o chastity_n the_o main_a joint_a duty_n of_o marriage_n 163._o proof_n of_o it_o 164._o amplification_n of_o the_o point_n 166._o reason_n for_o it_o 1._o chastity_n be_v the_o main_a support_n of_o union_n 2._o the_o defilement_n of_o each_o party_n defile_v the_o whole_a marriage_n 3._o god_n have_v ordain_v one_o for_o one_o 4._o it_o cover_v all_o other_o defect_n but_o be_v cover_v by_o no_o other_o endowment_n 5._o it_o be_v the_o corner_n stone_n hold_v in_o all_o the_o building_n 6._o because_o it_o honour_v marriage_n in_o many_o respect_n 1._o in_o the_o fruitfulness_n of_o the_o womb_n 2._o bless_v of_o legitimation_n 3._o a_o curse_n be_v turn_v to_o a_o blessing_n hereby_o 167._o to_o 171._o chastity_n to_o be_v preserve_v and_o in_o how_o many_o thing_n it_o consist_v 172._o chastity_n of_o spirit_n necessary_a and_o why_o 172._o 173._o ibid._n chastity_n of_o prevention_n necessary_a wherein_o it_o consist_v why_o here_o urge_v 173._o 174._o 175._o chastity_n of_o bed_n needful_a heathen_a man_n shame_v christian_n in_o this_o two_o extreme_n here_o to_o be_v avoid_v ibid._n 175._o 176._o 177._o 178._o some_o mark_n to_o know_v moderation_n ibid._n 178._o popish_a force_a chastity_n and_o affect_a abstinence_n from_o the_o benefit_n of_o the_o bed_n compare_v 179._o inconvenience_n of_o both_o unjust_a abstinence_n and_o excess_n of_o liberty_n compare_v ibid._n chastity_n of_o body_n needful_a what_o be_v mean_v thereby_o exhortation_n thereto_o 180._o 181._o consent_v between_o couple_n a_o joint_a duty_n and_o needful_a 184._o reason_n 1._o by_o the_o experience_n both_o bad_a of_o such_o as_o want_v it_o and_o sweet_a of_o such_o as_o enjoy_v it_o 2._o the_o pretiousnesse_n of_o it_o 3._o it_o have_v a_o divine_a instinct_n in_o it_o 4._o it_o bring_v god_n into_o the_o marriage_n 184._o 185._o 186._o 178_o 188._o the_o praise_n of_o consent_n 186._o consent_n stand_v in_o three_o thing_n 1._o consent_v of_o heart_n 2._o of_o speech_n 3._o of_o life_n 188._o 189._o consent_v exhort_v unto_o and_o urge_v 200._o what_o ought_v to_o be_v do_v by_o both_o after_o their_o difference_n with_o the_o conclusion_n of_o the_o point_n 201._o 202._o cohabitation_n of_o husband_n with_o wife_n a_o necessary_a duty_n many_o abuse_n of_o this_o kind_n tax_v humiliation_n to_o such_o 217._o reproach_n of_o seperater_n 218._o condition_n requisite_a in_o a_o wife_n in_o the_o act_n of_o god_n matter_n 286._o whether_o wife_n may_v give_v to_o charitable_a use_n or_o not_o 272._o the_o mother_n consent_n in_o marriage_n not_o absolute_o require_v 81._o exhortation_n to_o chastity_n to_o keep_v our_o vessel_n with_o holiness_n and_o honour_n 354._o three_o counsel_n propound_v to_o abhor_v somewhat_o 1._o thou_o own_o self_n 2._o thought_n of_o contemplative_a uncleanness_n 3._o all_o colour_n and_o excuse_n of_o it_o 4._o all_o inward_a fomenter_n of_o it_o 5._o all_o outward_a temptation_n counsel_n 2._o to_o meditate_v of_o somewhat_o 2._o property_n of_o it_o 1._o that_o it_o be_v wise_a 2._o that_o it_o be_v deep_a and_o serious_a about_o both_o the_o property_n and_o penalty_n of_o this_o sin_n first_o the_o property_n and_o they_o be_v three_o 1._o the_o spiritualue_n of_o this_o sin_n show_v in_o six_o step_n or_o degree_n 1._o a_o evil_a heart_n 2._o evil_n work_n 3._o unbelief_n 4._o delusion_n and_o defilement_n 5._o hardness_n of_o heart_n 6._o depart_v from_o the_o live_a god_n second_o meditate_v of_o the_o peculiarne_n of_o this_o sin_n evil_a the_o three_o thing_n that_o it_o separate_v from_o god_n and_o from_o communion_n through_o excommunication_n if_o not_o inflict_v yet_o deserve_v the_o spirit_n of_o god_n excommunicate_v he_o in_o the_o court_n of_o his_o own_o conscience_n then_o second_o meditate_v on_o the_o penalty_n of_o this_o sin_n 1._o a_o giddiness_n and_o drunken_a security_n disable_n the_o sinner_n to_o lay_v it_o to_o his_o heart_n a_o woeful_a example_n of_o it_o from_o 354._o to_o 368._o then_o second_o temporal_a penalty_n of_o it_o 369._o the_o three_o counsel_n to_o practice_v somewhat_o and_o that_o concern_v either_o such_o as_o have_v be_v only_o guilty_a of_o it_o or_o else_o relapse_v to_o it_o after_o conversion_n for_o the_o former_a they_o must_v practice_v 1._o due_a humiliation_n and_o abasement_n under_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n 2._o they_o must_v gather_v hope_v out_o of_o the_o promise_n of_o god_n to_o pardon_v it_o 3._o glorify_v god_n in_o the_o confession_n of_o it_o 4._o set_a before_o thy_o eye_n the_o promise_n in_o 4._o respect_n 5._o sue_v out_o the_o kill_a power_n of_o christ_n to_o destroy_v lust_n 6._o return_v to_o the_o lord_n in_o chastity_n for_o ever_o last_o such_o as_o have_v revolt_v to_o it_o again_o must_v take_v counsel_n in_o divers_a particular_n to_o 384._o encouragement_n to_o all_o undefiled_a one_o 385._o magistrate_n both_o civil_a and_o ecclesiastical_a to_o who_o the_o censure_n of_o lust_n pertain_v must_v be_v in_o god_n stead_n to_o judge_n and_o censure_v all_o unclean_a person_n 384._o d._n diverter_n of_o their_o wife_n from_o religion_n to_o other_o matter_n reprooved_a 39_o duty_n of_o parent_n towards_o child_n unwise_o suffer_v to_o link_v themselves_o 78._o dissension_n of_o religious_a couple_n the_o shame_n of_o profession_n 190._o difference_n in_o couple_n wherein_o it_o stand_v 313._o e._n entrance_n into_o good_a marriage_n require_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n and_o apt_a marry_n in_o the_o lord_n 21._o exhortation_n to_o it_o in_o many_o branch_n 45._o 46._o 48._o error_n of_o the_o time_n and_o prejudice_n of_o outward_a compliment_n must_v be_v abhor_v by_o he_o who_o will_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n 51._o exception_n against_o the_o general_a rule_n of_o apt_a marriage_n many_o 62._o exhortation_n to_o parent_n not_o to_o fail_v their_o child_n in_o the_o business_n of_o their_o marriage_n 95._o exhortation_n to_o all_o good_a couple_n to_o close_v together_o in_o religion_n both_o inward_a as_o faith_n and_o outward_a in_o family_n worship_n and_o private_a 138._o 141._o 143._o exhortation_n to_o private_a intercourse_n with_o god_n 145._o exhortation_n to_o wife_n to_o be_v helpful_a in_o their_o place_n 302._o encouragement_n to_o such_o 303._o f._n faith_n the_o main_a duty_n for_o couple_n to_o join_v in_o the_o infinite_a misery_n of_o a_o marry_a life_n for_o lack_v of_o it_o 140._o family_n duty_n and_o private_a worship_n necessary_a for_o the_o marry_v to_o
join_v together_o close_o in_o the_o cause_n why_o the_o duty_n open_v urge_v 141._o 143._o 144._o counsel_n about_o it_o ibid._n force_v and_o loveles_a marriage_n dangerous_a 154._o and_o in_o what_o respect_v ibid._n how_o far_o the_o wife_n may_v undertake_v the_o service_n of_o god_n in_o her_o family_n 268._o of_o choice_n of_o wife_n out_o of_o bad_a family_n see_v wife_n fornication_n a_o great_a sin_n 331._o g._n god_n be_v seldom_o find_v out_o of_o his_o way_n 26._o grace_n level_v all_o disproportion_n in_o marriage_n 27._o grace_n must_v be_v preserve_v yea_o all_o count_v as_o dross_n to_o grace_n for_o a_o good_a marriage_n 52._o good_a marriage_n must_v be_v buy_v 53._o guardian_n and_o governor_n and_o bind_v to_o look_v to_o orphan_n marriage_n aswell_o as_o parent_n to_o child_n 73._o how_o they_o fail_v therein_o by_o sundry_a abuse_n 93._o the_o woeful_a fruit_n of_o it_o 94._o gracefulnes_n a_o three_o peculiar_a duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o her_o husband_n 304._o what_o this_o gracious_a virtue_n be_v ibid._n two_o thing_n in_o it_o matter_n and_o that_o be_v grace_n especial_o these_o 7._o 1._o humility_n 2._o self_n denial_n the_o 3._o i'faith_o &_o both_o in_o the_o truth_n &_o in_o the_o life_n of_o it_o a._n 4._o innocency_n 5._o zeal_n and_o piety_n 6._o mercy_n and_o compassion_n 7._o confidence_n with_o other_o as_o cheerfulnes_n &_o sincerity_n etc._n etc._n from_o 305._o to_o 312._o second_o the_o form_n or_o temperature_n of_o it_o in_o what_o it_o consist_v ibid._n graceless_a and_o bad_a wife_n what_o misery_n to_o their_o husband_n 314._o graceful_a wife_n must_v express_v it_o to_o their_o husband_n 315._o husband_n that_o be_v happy_a in_o the_o grace_n of_o their_o wife_n must_v return_v the_o like_a ibid._n general_n use_v arise_v from_o the_o whole_a treatise_n 316._o objection_n about_o degree_n of_o grace_n in_o either_o party_n of_o the_o marry_a 56._o h._n heathen_a opinion_n of_o fornication_n 3._o honour_n of_o marriage_n uphold_v by_o two_o mean_n viz._n good_a entrance_n and_o good_a continuance_n 21._o honour_n of_o marriage_n stand_v both_o in_o joint_a act_n and_o several_a 128._o motive_n to_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n 160._o to_o the_o wife_n to_o love_v he_o 162._o humiliation_n meet_v for_o all_o couple_n who_o have_v live_v in_o dissension_n 192._o the_o duty_n urge_v 193._o ill_o husbandry_n what_o it_o be_v 233._o husband_n especial_a duty_n to_o be_v a_o man_n of_o understanding_n 203._o what_o that_o understanding_n be_v what_o particular_n it_o stand_v in_o 1._o in_o what_o not_o viz._n not_o in_o a_o high_a spirit_n 2._o not_o in_o a_o rash_a selfe-wildnesse_n 3_o not_o in_o knowledge_n without_o practice_n 4._o not_o in_o yield_v to_o good_a counsel_n without_o embrace_v it_o 5._o not_o in_o give_v counsel_n to_o other_o take_v none_o ourselves_o 204._o 205._o 206._o second_o in_o what_o it_o consist_v 1._o in_o renounce_v our_o own_o understanding_n 2._o to_o be_v first_o subject_n to_o god_n and_o so_o to_o guide_v the_o wife_n 3._o to_o be_v more_o sensible_a of_o a_o burden_n then_o of_o a_o honour_n 4._o to_o be_v qualify_v with_o a_o spirit_n of_o grace_n for_o all_o occasion_n 206._o 207._o 208._o wasteful_n heir_n overthrower_n of_o their_o marriage_n 232._o unnatural_a husband_n language_n 244._o several_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o the_o wife_n look_v wise_a husband_n though_o but_o mean_o part_v deserve_v subjection_n by_o the_o ordinance_n 260._o man_n heart_n not_o so_o tender_a as_o woman_n if_o they_o be_v right_a vide_fw-la men._n i._o jew_n confute_v in_o his_o conceit_n of_o marriage_n 2._o joint_a act_n of_o the_o marry_a 4._o 1._o joint_n religion_n 2._o joint_n love_n 3._o chastity_n 4._o consent_n 128._o jealousy_n between_o couple_n most_o odious_a p._n 182._o remedy_n for_o the_o wrong_a party_n ibid._n the_o duty_n urge_v ibid._n idleness_n in_o a_o man_n calling_n to_o be_v avoid_v 225._o engross_a many_o farm_n at_o once_o ill_a husbandry_n 234._o impudence_n in_o usurp_a wife_n in_o matter_n of_o god_n tax_v 284._o god_n deal_v with_o his_o own_o by_o judgement_n and_o threat_n and_o why_o 328._o godly_a person_n have_v a_o slavish_a part_n in_o they_o as_o well_o as_o a_o free_a 329._o judgement_n of_o god_n grievous_a against_o uncleanness_n in_o many_o branch_n declare_v 1._o god_n dear_a servant_n not_o exclude_v from_o this_o sentence_n of_o punishment_n 2._o the_o offspring_n of_o the_o adulterer_n exclude_v for_o many_o generation_n from_o the_o tabernacle_n or_o temple_n worship_n 3._o the_o old_a penalty_n of_o adultery_n death_n without_o remedy_n 4._o severe_a judgement_n execute_v upon_o adulterer_n do_v show_v it_o sundry_a of_o thâ—m_n in_o scripture_n and_o from_o experience_n mention_v 5._o manifold_a mark_n of_o wrath_n upon_o uncleanness_n 1._o upon_o the_o soul_n 2._o upon_o the_o name_n when_o man_n have_v have_v fail_v god_n have_v strike_v in_o 3._o beggary_n 4._o coherence_n of_o uncleanness_n 1._o upon_o the_o soul_n 5._o it_o be_v the_o devil_n nest-egge_n 6._o consequence_n of_o mischief_n upon_o it_o 7._o upon_o the_o body_n 337._o to_o 346._o instruction_n to_o man_n to_o be_v subdue_v by_o the_o terror_n of_o god_n against_o it_o 351._o l._n conjugal_a love_n the_o second_o mutual_a duty_n of_o the_o marry_a handle_v 146._o love_n matrimonial_a be_v preserve_v cause_v marriage_n to_o be_v honourable_a ibid._n love_n of_o the_o marry_v not_o only_o breed_v by_o instinct_n but_o oftentimes_o also_o by_o other_o occasion_n outward_a inducement_n and_o motive_n 147._o 148._o love_n conjugal_a neither_o only_a a_o natural_a nor_o yet_o a_o religious_a thing_n but_o a_o mixture_n of_o both_o 150._o love_n necessary_a for_o sundry_a reason_n ibid._n love_n though_o a_o joint_a duty_n of_o both_o the_o party_n yet_o have_v a_o different_a carriage_n in_o either_o and_o what_o 152._o love_n will_v not_o nourish_v itself_o but_o must_v be_v nourish_v daily_o between_o couple_n 155._o and_o by_o what_o mean_v it_o may_v be_v so_o 156._o admonition_n to_o the_o joint_a practice_n of_o conjugal_a love_n 157._o danger_n of_o the_o breach_n thereof_o 158._o exhortation_n to_o love_n joint_o 159._o m._n marriage_n be_v honourable_a the_o main_a doctrine_n prove_v and_o reason_v at_o large_a by_o 4._o reason_n 1._o in_o respect_n of_o the_o party_n 2._o the_o nature_n of_o marriage_n 3._o the_o use_n of_o it_o 4._o the_o sacrednes_n from_o p._n 4._o to_o the_o 9_o marriage_n abhor_v by_o the_o base_a life_n of_o many_o couple_n 13._o marriage_n no_o buckler_n to_o fence_v off_o reproach_n in_o bad_a cause_n 15._o marriage_n no_o loose_a nor_o idle_a way_n of_o service_n 18._o encouragement_n to_o religious_a marry_a couple_n 19_o misery_n shun_v by_o good_a couple_n ibid._n marry_a couple_n must_v serve_v god_n in_o their_o time_n 20._o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n what_o some_o mark_n of_o it_o 1._o sight_n of_o unworthiness_n of_o this_o favour_n 2._o they_o see_v a_o reconciliation_n 3._o their_o heart_n be_v break_v by_o it_o 4._o they_o be_v convince_v of_o god_n end_n believe_v it_o 5._o from_o hence_o they_o be_v encourage_v to_o obey_v other_o lesser_a mark_n add_v 22._o to_o 24._o rash_n match_n unblessed_a 24._o jewel_n of_o the_o marriage_n ring_n 4._o 1._o i'faith_o with_o humility_n and_o self_n denial_n 2._o peace_n 3._o purity_n 4._o righteousness_n 25._o trial_n of_o marriage_n many_o ibid._n by_o end_n in_o marriage_n oft_o plague_v by_o god_n 26._o objection_n concern_v marriage_n answer_v 28._o 29._o 30._o 31._o the_o man_n have_v the_o lead_a hand_n in_o the_o onset_n of_o marriage_n have_v need_n be_v the_o wise_a in_o his_o choice_n 57_o touch_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n three_o question_n answer_v 58._o apt_a marry_v be_v as_o necessary_a for_o entrance_n as_o religious_a marry_v 60._o marriage_n must_v be_v honour_v in_o preserve_v the_o same_o unstein_v during_o the_o conversation_n of_o it_o 126._o marry_a person_n who_o forsake_v their_o own_o fellowship_n in_o worship_n and_o run_v to_o stranger_n with_o complaint_n faulty_a 136._o marriage_n dishonour_v by_o base_a trade_n and_o course_n of_o life_n 232._o man_n heart_n not_o general_o so_o tender_a and_o zealous_a as_o woman_n if_o they_o be_v right_a 309._o marriage_n be_v a_o shadow_n of_o the_o spiritual_a union_n of_o christ_n and_o the_o church_n p._n 321._o 1._o in_o their_o meeting_n and_o marriage_n itself_o and_o how_o 2._o in_o their_o mutual_a converse_n 1._o what_o christ_n be_v to_o his_o church_n 2._o what_o his_o church_n be_v to_o he_o 322._o 323._o doubt_n concern_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n answer_v eight_o of_o they_o p._n 28._o 1._o many_o do_v well_o want_v religion_n 2._o it_o may_v grow_v in_o time_n afterward_o 3._o many_o have_v fail_v in_o seek_v good_a wife_n 4._o many_o
who_o can_v guide_v themselves_o terrify_v 213._o exhortation_n to_o husband_n to_o be_v man_n of_o understanding_n 216._o diligent_a improvement_n of_o the_o husband_n vocation_n stand_v in_o eight_o thing_n 1._o begin_v with_o god_n 2._o destroy_v not_o thy_o own_o providence_n 3._o pick_v not_o quarrel_n with_o thy_o call_n 4._o be_v subject_n to_o god_n in_o thy_o call_n 5._o aim_v not_o at_o hoard_v up_o or_o multiply_a riches_n 6._o serve_v god_n with_o thy_o increase_n 7._o take_v loss_n as_o well_o as_o gain_n patient_o 8._o be_v joyful_a and_o enjoy_v all_o thy_o labour_n under_o the_o sun_n from_o 224._o to_o 229._o liver_n upon_o usury_n odious_a 233._o neglect_v of_o one_o calling_n under_o pretence_n of_o religion_n vicious_a 231._o we_o must_v not_o beweary_a of_o our_o vocation_n by_o reason_n of_o some_o discontent_n that_o may_v fall_v out_o in_o it_o 225._o undiscreet_a way_n of_o improvidence_n as_o overstocking_n rack_n borrow_v undersel_v and_o the_o like_a sign_n of_o a_o bad_a husband_n 233._o change_v of_o call_v dangerous_a 234._o in_o what_o respect_n a_o man_n may_v change_v his_o call_n ibid._n god_n will_v have_v all_o uncleanness_n lay_v open_a in_o her_o colour_n see_v adultery_n w._n want_v and_o weakness_n of_o religious_a couple_n pardon_v 17._o woman_n wooer_n threaten_v woe_n 57_o wife_n do_v oftentimes_o just_o stumble_v at_o the_o folly_n of_o their_o husband_n 214._o passage_n of_o such_o folly_n name_v ibid._n four_o instance_n mention_v 215._o careless_n deserter_n of_o their_o wife_n in_o the_o affair_n of_o the_o family_n odious_a 230._o honour_n and_o respectiveness_n to_o the_o wife_n the_o three_o and_o last_o personal_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n 236._o the_o open_n of_o the_o point_n ibid._n the_o root_n of_o this_o be_v union_n of_o two_o in_o one_o flesh_n 237._o reason_n of_o it_o 1._o nothing_o gain_v by_o austerity_n 2._o wise_a one_o willing_o bear_v with_o fool_n 3._o god_n command_n require_v it_o 4._o we_o owe_v it_o to_o a_o christian_a even_o to_o lay_v our_o life_n down_o how_o much_o more_o here_o 239._o 240._o wife_n must_v not_o have_v any_o peculiar_a wealth_n apart_o from_o their_o husband_n but_o common_a 289._o if_o they_o desire_v any_o stroke_n that_o way_n they_o must_v deserve_v it_o by_o their_o good_a carriage_n 290._o woman_n providence_n and_o housewifery_n stand_v in_o three_o thing_n 1._o in_o bring_v in_o somewhat_o 2._o in_o store_v safe_o that_o which_o he_o prepare_v 3._o in_o dispence_a family_n expense_n and_o provision_n 291._o 292._o 293._o what_o kind_n of_o helper_n wasteful_a wife_n be_v 301._o provident_a wife_n must_v not_o be_v conceit_v of_o their_o part_n nor_o proud_a and_o upbraid_v their_o right_a hand_n must_v not_o know_v what_o their_o left_a hand_n do_v 294._o a_o proud_a woman_n can_v never_o be_v a_o obedient_a wise_a 275._o in_o fine_a wedding_n ring_n and_o the_o jewel_n thereof_o vide_fw-la marriage_n a_o good_a wife_n not_o to_o be_v refuse_v though_o find_v in_o a_o bad_a family_n but_o rather_o to_o be_v choose_v 59_o and_o prefer_v before_o one_o out_o of_o a_o good_a ibid._n and_o why_o tenderness_n and_o respect_n to_o the_o wife_n the_o true_a model_n of_o it_o be_v christ_n tenderness_n to_o his_o church_n 240._o in_o what_o particular_n it_o consist_v 1._o in_o tender_v her_o soul_n above_o all_o thing_n 2._o tenderness_n to_o her_o person_n to_o wit_n in_o her_o estimation_n 3._o integrity_n and_o openheartednesse_n 4._o comfort_n in_o heaviness_n 5._o spare_v she_o from_o excessive_a toil_n 6._o indulgence_n in_o lawful_a refresh_n 7._o connivance_n at_o unavoidable_a infirmity_n 8._o commend_v her_o virtue_n 9_o supply_v of_o necessary_n and_o comfortable_a support_n 10._o respectiveness_n must_v be_v the_o counsellor_n 241._o 242._o 243._o 244._o 245._o 246._o 247._o 248._o 249._o 250._o 251._o terror_n to_o all_o nabal_n and_o block_n their_o description_n counsel_n to_o the_o wrong_a party_n 251._o 252._o description_n of_o the_o husband_n tenderness_n to_o the_o wife_n 245._o two_o extreme_n of_o tenderness_n viz._n roughness_n vxoriousnesse_n 25._o respectiveness_n to_o the_o person_n of_o the_o wife_n consist_v in_o protection_n in_o preserve_v her_o reputation_n in_o relieve_v her_o bodily_a infirmity_n 242._o no_o work_n so_o honourable_a as_o to_o make_v the_o wife_n a_o vessel_n of_o honour_n first_o and_o then_o for_o marriage_n 252._o duty_n from_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n three_o 1._o subjection_n 2._o helpfulnesse_n 283._o wherein_o it_o stand_v answer_v in_o 3._o branch_n 1._o in_o god_n matter_n 2._o to_o the_o estate_n outward_a 3._o in_o respect_n of_o the_o marry_a condition_n 284._o 285._o 286._o 287._o 288._o 289._o 290._o 291._o 292._o 293._o 294._o 295._o 296._o 297._o 298._o 299._o 300._o 301._o 302._o 303._o y._n youth_n ought_v to_o redeem_v her_o golden_a season_n in_o respect_n of_o marriage_n and_o how_o 46._o young_a wasteful_a heir_n overthrow_v their_o marriage_n 232._o admonition_n to_o parent_n in_o that_o kind_n ibid._n finis_fw-la 2_o king_n 6._o 13._o catull._n epigr._fw-la castum_fw-la esse_fw-la decet_fw-la &_o pium_fw-la poetam_fw-la ipsum_fw-la versicâ—los_fw-la nihil_fw-la necesse_fw-la est_fw-la camerar_fw-it fab_n 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d luc._n 1._o 6._o 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d act._n 24._o 2._o nunquam_fw-la bibiâ—su_fw-la vio_n they_o etc._n etc._n scal._n the_o art_n poetic_a 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 〈◊〉_d 1_o cor._n 7._o 29_o 30_o eccles_n 3._o 1._o etc._n etc._n 5._o matth._n 22._o 30._o 1_o cor._n 1._o 25._o si_fw-mi vis_fw-la imperare_fw-la divide_v psal_n 50._o ult_n 2_o tim._n 2._o 3._o 5._o the_o scope_n of_o the_o text._n chap._n 12._o jew_n confuse_v in_o his_o concâ—â—t_n of_o marriage_n 1_o tim._n 4._o 3._o 1_o tim_n 4._o 1_o 2_o 3._o heathen_n opinion_n of_o fornication_n the_o analis_fw-la of_o it_o the_o first_o point_n marriage_n be_v honourable_a how_o in_o four_o respect_n the_o first_o respect_n woman_n honourable_a prov._n 19_o 14._o marriage_n be_v from_o god_n yea_o in_o innocency_n and_o he_o still_o order_v it_o see_v psal_n 68_o 6._o god_n set_v solitary_a one_o in_o family_n pro._n 12._o 4._o pro._n 31._o 10._o man_n honourable_a 1_o cor._n 11._o 7._o pro._n 17._o 27._o gen_n 49._o 3._o dan._n 4._o 34._o job_n 42._o 12._o the_o second_o respect_n of_o honour_n the_o nature_n of_o marriage_n 2_o pet._n 1._o 2._o 2_o sam._n 18._o 3._o gen._n 1._o 28._o &_o 2._o 18._o john_n 2._o 5._o three_o respect_n the_o use_n of_o marriage_n the_o four_o respect_n of_o honour_n viz._n the_o sacrednesse_n 1_o cor._n 3._o 17._o rom._n 13._o 5._o psal_n 105._o 15._o 1_o sam._n 26._o 9_o pro._n 6._o 34._o terror_n to_o the_o dishonourer_n of_o it_o against_o papist_n papist_n have_v personal_a sacrament_n 1_o tim._n 4._o 2._o see_v our_o learned_a writer_n centur._n 2_o tim._n 2._o 17._o the_o life_n and_o practice_n of_o papist_n just_o punish_v by_o god_n 1_o thes_n 2._o 15._o revel_v 18_o 2._o gen._n 2._o 18._o 1_o cor._n 7._o 1._o popish_a magnify_v of_o virginity_n confute_v act_n 19_o 35._o mat._n 19_o 12._o act_n 19_o 15._o 2._o branch_n of_o terror_n against_o all_o prophaner_n of_o marriage_n 1._o sam._n 2._o 23._o 1_o king_n 21._o 25._o sam._n 25._o marriage_n abhor_v by_o the_o base_a life_n of_o some_o couple_n exod._n 4._o 25._o num._n 25._o 6._o 14_o prov._n 31._o 10._o admonition_n to_o prevent_v the_o dishonour_n of_o marriage_n marriage_n no_o buckler_n to_o sense_n ourselves_o in_o bad_a course_n 1_o sam._n 2._o 30._o conclusion_n comfort_n to_o good_a couple_n who_o honour_n marriage_n want_v of_o weak_a and_o religious_a couple_n shall_v be_v pardon_v rome_n 12._o 2._o 1_o king_n 8._o application_n of_o the_o comfort_n marriage_n be_v no_o loose_a nor_o idle_a way_n of_o service_n encouragement_n to_o religious_a couple_n job_n 5._o 24._o job_n 20._o 17._o prov._n 17._o 6._o psal_n 138._o 3._o isaiah_n 59_o 21._o ezra_n 8_o 9_o psal_n 128._o 6._o misery_n shun_v by_o good_a couple_n marry_a couple_n must_v serve_v god_n in_o their_o time_n 2._o sam._n 19_o 24._o amos_n 6._o 6._o joel_n 2._o 16._o isaiah_n 26._o 20._o luke_n 5._o 34._o zach._n 12._o 17._o psal_n 137._o 5._o isaiah_n 4._o ult_n revel_v 3._o psal_n 32._o 6._o isai_n 26._o 3._o malac._n 3_o psal_n 91._o 7._o quest_n how_o may_v marry_v couple_n attain_v this_o honour_n answ_n by_o two_o thing_n first_o by_o good_a entrance_n second_o continuance_n the_o former_a part_n to_o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n entrance_n require_v goodness_n and_o aptness_n to_o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n what_o 2_o cor._n 5._o 20._o mark_n of_o it_o 1_o sam._n 25._o the_o first_o sight_n of_o unworthiness_n of_o this_o favour_n the_o second_o they_o see_v a_o reconciliation_n judg._n 19_o 3._o jer._n 2._o â—_o
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of_o parent_n in_o disregard_n of_o their_o child_n to_o be_v tax_v what_o those_o be_v 90._o parent_n offence_n in_o the_o extreme_a of_o over-providing_a for_o child_n by_o undo_v of_o themselves_o p._n 91._o two_o degree_n of_o it_o ibid._n promise_v of_o marriage_n the_o root_n of_o a_o explicate_v contract_n 97._o to_o be_v very_o cautious_o make_v ibid._n the_o property_n of_o they_o ibid._n what_o promise_v for_o marriage_n do_v bind_v 99_o viz._n a_o mutual_a one_o 2._o a_o free_a one_o 3._o a_o plain_a and_o undeceive_a one_o and_o what_o that_o be_v 101._o rash_n inconsiderate_a promise_n of_o marriage_n very_o foolish_a and_o sinful_a 103._o providence_n a_o second_o peculiar_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n necessary_a 219._o open_v of_o the_o point_n ibid._n reason_n of_o it_o because_o its_o honour_n to_o marriage_n and_o how_o 220._o 221._o providence_n of_o the_o husband_n in_o what_o it_o consist_v 1_o in_o skill_n in_o the_o trade_n of_o his_o way_n 2._o wisdom_n insight_n and_o experience_n in_o it_o 3_o curiosity_n in_o trade_n abhor_v 4._o a_o stock_n necessary_a to_o occupy_v with_o 5._o application_n of_o himself_o to_o his_o object_n diligent_o 221._o 222._o 223._o vusubjectednesse_n of_o mind_n to_o the_o rule_n of_o providence_n a_o ill_a sign_n of_o good_a husbandry_n 235._o exhortation_n to_o husband_n to_o be_v provident_a ibid._n providence_n of_o the_o wife_n in_o conjugal_a estate_n a_o three_o part_n of_o her_o helpfulnesse_n 296._o in_o what_o particular_n it_o stand_v 297._o 298._o 299._o 300._o forward_a professor_n to_o take_v heed_n of_o uncleanness_n vid._n adultery_n because_o professor_n can_v dispense_v with_o this_o sin_n 353._o q._n question_v about_o publication_n of_o contract_n answer_v 109._o question_v about_o marry_v by_o a_o minister_n answer_v 110._o question_v whether_o cozen-germans_a may_v marry_v answer_v 111._o question_v wherein_o marriage_n and_o a_o contract_n differ_v 115._o why_o a_o space_n be_v 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blame_v 212._o husband_n
god_n 1_o tim._n 2._o 11._o â—2_n how_o far_o the_o wife_n may_v undertake_v the_o service_n of_o god_n in_o her_o family_n yâ—t_v with_o caution_n caution_n 1._o woman_n deny_v this_o liberty_n must_v be_v patient_a exod._n 21._o 6._o 2._o branch_n of_o practice_n matter_n of_o the_o world_n limitation_n of_o subjection_n in_o worldly_a thing_n prov._n 31._o may_v the_o woman_n of_o herself_o give_v to_o charitable_a use_n ordinary_o she_o may_v not_o but_o in_o some_o case_n she_o may_v in_o public_a misery_n of_o the_o church_n decision_n of_o the_o doubt_n 3._o branch_v her_o subjection_n in_o marriage_n converse_v manifold_a in_o attire_n 1._o pet._n 3._o 3_o in_o gesture_n and_o composition_n of_o body_n domestical_a converse_n must_v be_v subject_a rom._n 12._o matt._n 11._o 30._o she_o must_v he_o subject_v abroad_o in_o her_o tongue_n and_o company_n subject_a â—_o in_o point_n of_o nursery_n ruth_n 4._o 16._o admonition_n shun_v rebel_n iron_n exod._n 4._o 25._o 1._o 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