of_o thy_o future_a tranquillity_n glory_n and_o bliss_n at_o the_o right_a hand_n of_o thy_o dear_a saviour_n in_o heaven_n to_o all_o eternity_n hereafter_o in_o the_o six_o place_n wife_n the_o six_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n to_o bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n we_o that_o be_v strong_a ought_v say_v the_o apostle_n to_o bear_v the_o infirmity_n of_o the_o weak_a rom._n 15.1_o and_o peter_n in_o 1_o pet._n 3.7_o say_v the_o woman_n be_v the_o weak_a vessel_n ergo_fw-la a_o man_n ought_v to_o bear_v with_o the_o infirmity_n of_o his_o wife_n but_o the_o question_n be_v what_o fault_n may_v be_v say_v to_o be_v infirmity_n to_o be_v bear_v with_o in_o any_o in_o general_a and_o in_o the_o woman_n in_o particular_a i_o answer_v these_o and_o such_o like_a as_o forgetfulness_n of_o some_o material_a business_n some_o unusual_a neglect_n of_o duty_n to_o the_o husband_n child_n or_o servant_n some_o 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conceive_v then_o be_v elevate_v in_o herself_o and_o cast_v off_o due_a honour_n from_o her_o mistress_n which_o she_o discern_v be_v present_o full_a of_o passion_n and_o vent_v it_o very_o uncivil_o into_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n and_o speak_v thus_o that_o be_v my_o wrong_n be_v upon_o thou_o i_o give_v thou_o my_o maid_n into_o thy_o bosom_n and_o when_o she_o see_v that_o she_o have_v conceive_v i_o be_v despise_v in_o her_o eye_n thâ—_n lord_n judge_n between_o i_o and_o thou_o well_o saraâ—_n what_o be_v the_o matter_n here_o be_v a_o great_a complaint_n out_o who_o have_v do_v thou_o the_o wrong_n what_o abram_n no_o he_o poor_a man_n be_v innocent_a in_o comparison_n of_o thyself_o what_o a_o false_a charge_n iâ—_n here_o draw_v up_o against_o abram_n what_o clamour_n upon_o it_o what_o appeal_v to_o god_n about_o it_o but_o how_o do_v abram_n demean_v himself_o in_o the_o condition_n true_o singular_o well_o he_o beat_v wiâ—_n this_o infirmity_n in_o his_o wife_n he_o know_v this_o wâ—_n not_o the_o frame_n and_o temper_n of_o her_o spirit_n anâ—_n therefore_o answer_v very_o mild_o and_o say_v to_o be_v behold_v thy_o maid_n be_v in_o thy_o hand_n do_v to_o she_o at_o please_v thou_o the_o second_o sad_a precedent_n as_o beforesaid_a be_v that_o of_o the_o carraige_a of_o zipporah_n to_o her_o husband_n moses_n ex._n 4.19_o 20_o 21_o 25_o 26_o moses_n be_v command_v by_o god_n to_o leave_v the_o land_n of_o midian_a and_o to_o return_v into_o egypt_n about_o the_o deliver_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n out_o of_o bondage_n he_o take_v his_o wife_n and_o son_n and_o the_o rod_n of_o god_n in_o his_o hand_n and_o begin_v his_o journey_n but_o be_v have_v neglect_v the_o observation_n of_o a_o special_a ordinance_n of_o god_n viz._n the_o circumcise_n of_o his_o son_n god_n say_v the_o text_n meet_v he_o in_o the_o inn_n and_o seek_v to_o kill_v he_o where_o note_n by_o the_o way_n that_o it_o be_v a_o dangerous_a thing_n for_o a_o man_n to_o take_v a_o journey_n though_o upon_o as_o lawful_a a_o occasion_n as_o can_v be_v with_o the_o neglect_n of_o a_o duty_n or_o the_o guilt_n of_o any_o sin_n lie_v on_o the_o conscience_n unrepented_a of_o moses_n you_o see_v be_v in_o great_a danger_n of_o death_n and_o his_o wife_n know_v the_o cause_n of_o it_o take_v a_o sharp_a stone_n and_o cut_v off_o the_o foreskin_n of_o her_o son_n and_o throw_v it_o at_o his_o foot_n with_o these_o word_n sure_o a_o bloody_a husband_n be_v thou_o unto_o i_o which_o be_v a_o very_a contemptible_a contumelious_a uncivil_a and_o unmannerly_a behaviour_n in_o she_o yet_o he_o be_v silent_a bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n and_o no_o doubt_n but_o he_o do_v consider_v there_o lay_v a_o sad_a temptation_n on_o her_o spirit_n and_o withal_o be_v conscientious_a of_o his_o own_o sin_n against_o god_n and_o so_o sweet_o pass_v by_o his_o wife_n weakness_n now_o these_o infirmity_n which_o a_o husband_n out_o of_o duty_n to_o his_o wife_n must_v bear_v with_o must_v not_o be_v public_a nor_o give_v scandal_n and_o offence_n to_o other_o nay_o whatever_o they_o be_v he_o must_v take_v a_o fit_a opportunity_n to_o give_v she_o a_o sweet_a reproof_n for_o such_o a_o husband_n as_o be_v in_o a_o passion_n for_o his_o wife_n infirmity_n will_v make_v such_o a_o smoke_n in_o his_o house_n as_o shall_v disturb_v all_o in_o or_o near_o it_o the_o discretion_n of_o a_o man_n defer_v his_o anger_n and_o it_o be_v his_o glory_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n prov._n 19.11_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v due_a maintenance_n in_o all_o thing_n both_o inward_a and_o outward_a for_o her_o comfortable_a bodily_a subsistence_n here_o both_o in_o life_n and_o livelihood_n for_o supportation_n of_o health_n while_o it_o be_v enjoy_v and_o for_o restoration_n of_o it_o when_o decay_a and_o this_o to_o be_v perform_v with_o as_o much_o dearness_n of_o affection_n and_o tenderness_n of_o heart_n as_o to_o himself_o which_o duty_n the_o apostle_n clear_o require_v husband_n to_o perform_v to_o their_o wife_n eph_n 5.28_o 29._o so_o ought_v man_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n as_o their_o own_o body_n be_v that_o love_v his_o wife_n love_v himself_o for_o no_o man_n ever_o yet_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n but_o cherish_v and_o nourish_v it_o even_o as_o christ_n do_v his_o church_n now_o we_o know_v all_o man_n will_v nourish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o meat_n and_o drink_v and_o physic_n with_o such_o preservative_n and_o restorative_n of_o health_n as_o be_v necessary_a and_o they_o will_v cherish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o apparel_n as_o may_v not_o only_o keep_v they_o warm_v in_o their_o body_n but_o be_v some_o delight_n unto_o their_o mind_n the_o same_o for_o kind_n and_o measure_n for_o quality_n and_o quantity_n they_o must_v allow_v unto_o their_o wife_n if_o it_o be_v of_o necessity_n or_o necessary_a for_o they_o which_o i_o dare_v presume_v it_o be_v almost_o always_o yet_o this_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o a_o man_n must_v not_o maintain_v himself_o in_o any_o thing_n either_o for_o food_n or_o raiment_n above_o his_o ability_n or_o unbecoming_a his_o place_n and_o call_v neither_o must_v he_o allow_v it_o his_o wife_n and_o doubtless_o no_o discreet_a wife_n will_v desire_v the_o same_o belove_a you_o have_v hear_v at_o large_a that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n to_o tender_v the_o good_a of_o her_o soul_n and_o can_v any_o man_n think_v that_o the_o good_a of_o her_o body_n be_v to_o be_v neglect_v true_o it_o be_v absurd_a for_o any_o to_o conceit_v any_o such_o thing_n god_n will_v not_o have_v the_o mouth_n of_o the_o ox_n to_o be_v muzzle_v when_o he_o tread_v out_o the_o corn_n 25.4_o deut._n 25.4_o and_o will_v he_o have_v the_o mouth_n of_o she_o muzzle_v that_o do_v draw_v with_o thou_o in_o the_o same_o yoke_n sure_o no_o the_o apostle_n say_v that_o he_o be_v worse_a than_o a_o infidel_n that_o do_v not_o provide_v for_o his_o own_o family_n 1_o tim._n 5.8_o now_o if_o the_o whole_a family_n must_v be_v provide_v for_o as_o none_o dare_v deny_v then_o much_o more_o she_o who_o in_o thy_o absence_n be_v the_o head_n of_o the_o family_n and_o in_o thy_o own_o presence_n thy_o right-hand_a mate_n what_o encouragement_n can_v thy_o wife_n have_v to_o seek_v thy_o good_a when_o thou_o shall_v in_o whole_a or_o in_o part_n neglect_v she_o beside_o when_o thou_o shall_v especial_o with_o cheerfulness_n allow_v thy_o wife_n all_o due_a and_o necessary_a maintenance_n for_o her_o comfort_n and_o encouragement_n in_o this_o life_n if_o she_o
have_v their_o allowance_n from_o god_n and_o be_v keep_v at_o his_o table_n as_o we_o may_v say_v and_o at_o his_o charge_n the_o lord_n have_v a_o great_a family_n but_o be_v it_o ten_o thousand_o time_n big_a he_o have_v such_o a_o inexhausted_a store-house_n of_o provision_n of_o all_o kind_n that_o not_o one_o of_o they_o can_v want_v ease_n thyself_o then_o of_o thy_o care_n i_o mean_v distract_n and_o distrustful_a care_n and_o cast_v they_o upon_o god_n who_o care_v for_o thou_o 1_o pet._n 5.7_o i_o be_o god_n al-sufficient_a say_v the_o lord_n to_o abraham_n walk_v before_o i_o and_o be_v upright_o do_v thou_o but_o labour_n to_o walk_v before_o god_n and_o to_o be_v upright_o and_o then_o thou_o may_v act_v faith_n on_o god_n alsufficiency_n to_o do_v good_a to_o and_o for_o thou_o and_o thou_o let_v i_o yet_o a_o little_a further_o argue_v with_o thou_o about_o this_o particular_a thou_o say_v in_o effect_n thou_o be_v afraid_a that_o if_o thou_o shall_v have_v many_o child_n they_o will_v undo_v thou_o how_o can_v this_o be_v when_o the_o lord_n affirm_v child_n to_o be_v a_o blessing_n mind_n these_o two_o place_n first_o psal_n 127.5_o where_o the_o holy_a ghost_n speak_v of_o child_n say_v bless_a be_v the_o man_n who_o have_v his_o quiver_n full_a of_o they_o second_o psal_n 128._o bless_a be_v the_o man_n say_v the_o psalmist_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n and_o walk_v in_o his_o way_n but_o how_o be_v he_o bless_v true_o this_o be_v one_o part_n of_o his_o blessedness_n that_o his_o wife_n shall_v be_v like_o a_o fruitful_a vine_n and_o his_o child_n like_o olive_n branch_n round_o about_o his_o table_n lothus_n say_v he_o shall_v the_o man_n be_v bless_v that_o fear_v the_o lord_n v._o 3_o 4._o child_n you_o see_v then_o be_v a_o blessing_n nay_o many_o child_n be_v a_o blessing_n yea_o they_o be_v as_o so_o many_o several_a blessing_n now_o to_o apply_v this_o what_o a_o preposterous_a thing_n be_v this_o for_o thou_o to_o say_v many_o child_n will_v undo_v thou_o will_v blessing_n undo_v any_o it_o be_v very_o incongruous_a to_o speak_v or_o think_v so_o it_o be_v impossible_a that_o blessing_n as_o they_o be_v blessing_n can_v hurt_v much_o less_o undo_v any_o i_o confess_v the_o abuse_n of_o blessing_n may_v undo_v thou_o but_o this_o be_v per_fw-la accidens_fw-la and_o spring_n from_o thyself_o it_o be_v not_o the_o have_v many_o child_n that_o can_v undo_v thou_o but_o thy_o abuse_n of_o so_o rich_a a_o blessing_n there_o be_v no_o blessing_n in_o the_o world_n enjoy_v by_o any_o but_o if_o they_o be_v unsanctified_a they_o will_v undo_v those_o that_o have_v the_o fruition_n of_o they_o i_o have_v be_v the_o long_o in_o this_o point_n because_o distrust_v of_o the_o lord_n providence_n in_o general_a but_o more_o especial_o relate_v to_o mean_n for_o maintenance_n of_o many_o child_n be_v grow_v to_o be_v a_o epidemical_a disease_n overspread_v the_o face_n of_o the_o christian_a world_n ah_o true_o let_v i_o say_v that_o thou_o whosoever_o thou_o be_v and_o myself_o too_o shall_v not_o be_v ashamed_a to_o take_v shame_n for_o this_o exceed_o vile_a sin_n be_v then_o in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n convince_v that_o the_o propagate_a of_o the_o church_n in_o the_o procreation_n of_o child_n be_v a_o essential_a and_o principal_a end_n why_o god_n do_v ordain_v marriage_n and_o that_o which_o be_v the_o lord_n end_n must_v be_v thy_o aim_n and_o this_o shall_v suffice_v for_o this_o particular_a marriage_n the_o second_o end_n of_o marriage_n the_o second_o end_n we_o be_v to_o aim_v at_o in_o desisire_v marriage_n be_v the_o subdue_a our_o corruption_n and_o base_a lust_n especial_o when_o we_o find_v they_o to_o be_v predominant_a there_o be_v no_o man_n in_o this_o life_n but_o his_o regeneration_n be_v only_o in_o part_n sanctification_n here_o be_v at_o best_a but_o inchoate_n in_o heaven_n it_o shall_v be_v consummate_v and_o therefore_o be_v obnoxious_a to_o temptation_n as_o in_o all_o kind_n have_v the_o seed_n of_o all_o sin_n in_o he_o so_o to_o the_o sin_n of_o uncleanness_n in_o particular_a yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o man_n as_o do_v enjoy_v this_o holy_a ordinance_n of_o marriage_n be_v more_o free_a from_o the_o concupiscence_n of_o the_o flesh_n especial_o the_o violence_n of_o they_o than_o they_o ordinary_o be_v who_o enjoy_v not_o this_o bless_a help_n and_o the_o apostle_n do_v intimate_v as_o much_o when_o he_o say_v to_o avoid_v fornication_n let_v every_o man_n have_v his_o own_o wife_n and_o every_o woman_n she_o own_o husband_n 1_o cor._n 7.2_o which_o place_n to_o the_o like_a occasion_n be_v mention_v before_o though_o on_o another_o head_n and_o in_o ver_fw-la 8_o 9_o he_o add_v if_o the_o unmarried_a can_v contain_v let_v they_o marry_v and_o back_n his_o exhortation_n with_o a_o reason_n viz_o it_o be_v better_a to_o marry_v than_o to_o burn_v it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o every_o one_o to_o labour_v to_o preserve_v themselves_o pure_a and_o chaste_a virgin_n unto_o christ_n which_o that_o person_n can_v do_v who_o have_v a_o impure_a heart_n though_o free_a from_o the_o act_n of_o uncleanness_n he_o that_o look_v on_o a_o woman_n to_o lust_n after_o she_o have_v commit_v adultery_n in_o his_o heart_n say_v our_o saviour_n mat._n 5.28_o christ_n also_o make_v the_o heart_n the_o proper_a seat_n and_o receptacle_n of_o adultery_n and_o fornication_n mat_n 15.19_o now_o for_o this_o heart-defilement_n every_o soul_n have_v cause_n not_o only_o to_o be_v humble_v but_o also_o thankful_o to_o make_v use_n of_o the_o remedy_n prescribe_v of_o god_n against_o the_o same_o when_o our_o saviour_n reprove_v divorce_n between_o man_n and_o wife_n but_o in_o case_n of_o fornication_n and_o the_o sin_n of_o those_o that_o be_v just_o divorce_v if_o they_o marry_v the_o sin_n also_o of_o those_o who_o marry_v such_o his_o disciple_n say_v if_o the_o case_n be_v so_o it_o be_v not_o good_a to_o marry_v our_o saviour_n answer_v all_o man_n can_v receive_v this_o say_n save_o those_o to_o who_o it_o be_v give_v mat._n 19.11_o that_o be_v to_o say_v all_o man_n can_v nay_o no_o man_n can_v at_o pleasure_n attain_v this_o gift_n of_o chastity_n for_o it_o be_v the_o gift_n of_o god_n therefore_o such_o to_o who_o the_o lord_n deny_v it_o ought_v to_o take_v the_o help_n of_o marriage_n but_o if_o the_o end_n of_o man_n marry_v be_v rather_o to_o satisfy_v the_o lust_n of_o the_o flesh_n than_o to_o subdue_v the_o same_o they_o may_v just_o fear_v themselves_o as_o person_n never_o like_v to_o be_v gainer_n by_o such_o conjunction_n but_o to_o have_v the_o fire_n of_o lust_n so_o enkindle_v in_o their_o impure_a nature_n as_o that_o chastity_n shall_v be_v make_v but_o combustible_a matter_n to_o be_v whole_o consume_v thereby_o and_o so_o make_v unsufferable_a loser_n which_o be_v a_o judgement_n most_o dreadful_a let_v therefore_o the_o destruction_n and_o extirpation_n of_o impure-selfe_n be_v sincere_o thy_o aim_n and_o endeavour_v in_o seek_v the_o marriage_n condition_n we_o have_v do_v with_o this_o second_o end_n of_o marriage_n and_o proceed_v to_o the_o last_o the_o last_o end_n we_o be_v to_o aim_v at_o in_o desire_v marriage_n be_v comfortable_a society_n to_o enjoy_v a_o solid_a sweet_a and_o bosom_n companion_n in_o which_o estate_n for_o the_o most_o part_n it_o may_v be_v expect_v man_n be_v a_o sociable_a creature_n and_o therefore_o god_n will_v not_o have_v he_o live_v alone_o but_o create_v he_o a_o meet_a helper_n gen._n 2.18_o and_o solomon_n say_v two_o be_v better_o than_o one_o eccl._n 4.9_o true_o they_o speak_v most_o profane_o and_o be_v every_o way_n unworthy_a of_o the_o comfort_n that_o marriage_n do_v afford_v that_o say_v a_o woman_n be_v a_o necessary_a evil_n we_o may_v rather_o say_v she_o be_v a_o singular_a and_o necessary_a good_a yet_o understand_v she_o be_v only_o so_o when_o she_o answer_v the_o end_n god_n make_v she_o for_o that_o 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preserve_v from_o the_o evil_a of_o punishment_n the_o patience_n of_o god_n will_v be_v but_o his_o omission_n of_o punishment_n and_o not_o the_o remission_n of_o thy_o sin_n reas_n 4_o the_o four_o and_o last_o reason_n to_o induce_v thou_o to_o the_o practice_n of_o these_o duty_n to_o thy_o family_n may_v be_v take_v from_o that_o respect_n thou_o may_v in_o due_a place_n have_v to_o the_o recompense_n of_o reward_n for_o if_o thou_o be_v a_o instrument_n of_o the_o glory_n of_o god_n in_o the_o conversion_n of_o soul_n thou_o may_v through_o free_a grace_n expect_v a_o interest_n in_o that_o promise_n of_o god_n that_o they_o that_o be_v wise_a shall_v shine_v as_o the_o firmament_n but_o they_o that_o convert_v many_o to_o righteousness_n shall_v shine_v as_o the_o star_n for_o ever_o and_o ever_o dan._n 12.3_o and_o what_o know_v thou_o but_o thou_o may_v have_v the_o presence_n and_o assistance_n of_o the_o spirit_n of_o god_n with_o thou_o in_o thy_o discharge_n of_o these_o 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