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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A97276	Youths behaviour, or, Decency in conversation amongst men. Composed in French by grave persons for the use and benefit of their youth. Now newly turned into English by Francis Hawkins.	Hawkins, Francis, 1628-1681.	1646 (1646)	Wing Y204; Thomason E1180_1; Thomason C.54.aa.1(1); ESTC R39198	18,243	59

bee thy equall carry thy selfe so that thou turne proportionably with him and make him not alwayes the first Likewise stop not too often at mid-way if there bee not great necessitie for that savoreth of superioritie is accounted troublesome Hee in the middest walking with equals or as it were equals ought to turne himselfe now to the right then to the left hand and if so bee that they be not equals let him turne for the most part towards him who deserveth best Finally they who are on the side ought alwayes to turne themselves towards him who is in de midst neither before him nor behinde him 8 ⋆ In thy walkings alone expresse no passion in thy gesture lest by that meanes thou shouldst turne thy breast into Cristall and let others reade thy minde at a distance 9 ⋆ Let thy conversation be without malice or envye for that is a signe of a tractable and commendable nature And in all causes of passion admit reason for thy governesse so shall thy Reputation be either altogether inviolable or at the least not stayned with common Tinctures 10 ⋆ Never expresse any thing unbeseeming nor act against the Rules morall before thy inferiours For in these things thy owne guilt will multiply Crimes by example and as it were confirme Ill by authority 11 ⋆ Be not imumodest in urging thy friend to discover his secrets lest an accidentall discovery of them worke a breach in your amitye CHAP. VI. Of Discourse 1 VTter not frivolous things amongst grave and learned men nor any very difficult question or subject amongst the ignorant nor things which are hard to bee beleeved Farce not thy language with Sentences especially amongst thy equals and much lesse amongst thy betters Speake not of mischances and dolefull things inopportunely and to the company In time of mirth or at the Table speake not of melancholick things of wounds of sculls of death and if others speake in that kind change the discourse if thou canst dexterously Tell not thy dreames if it bee not to thy intimatest friends when they might seeme to bee of great and notable presage to which notwithstanding thou shalt not give credit 2 A man well bred ought not to vaunt himselfe of his brave atchievements or rare qualities of wit of vertue or of the like much lesse speake of his noblenesse honour riches or his kindred if hee bee not more than constrained also he ought not to depresse himselfe too much without occasion 3 It is to no purpose to breake a jest there where one taketh no pleasure in mirth Laugh not aloud and to the disfiguring of thy countenance or without subject onely be custome Deride not the mis-fortune of any one although there seeme to bee some cause why 4 Speake not an injurious word bee it in jest or in earnest Nip not any by word Likewise one ought not to scoffe any body especially if they be greater than thy selfe although they give occasion 5 Be not froward but friendly and courteous and the first to salute others heare and answer and bee not pensive when it is a time to converse and discourse 6 By no meanes detract from any other nor speake of things which belong unto him also bee not too excessive in praysing 7 Go not thither where thou knowest not whether thou shalt bee welcome Give not thy advice except one aske it of thee bee it not that thou art the best there principally out of season and where there is no hope of profiting and being intreated to deliver what thou thinkest be briefe and come quickly to to the point 8 If two contend amongst themselves take not the part of either if thou be'st not compelled and take heed that thou bee not obstinate in thine opinion In things indifferent bee thou on the part of the most of the Company who deliver thereon their opinions 9 Reprehend not the imperfections of others for that is the part of Fathers Masters and Superiours thou mayest well shew notwithstanding that they distast thee Likewise may'st thou now and then sagely give some good counsell in time and place 10 Stay not to gaze on the markes or blemishes appearing on others although they be naturall principally if they bee in the face and aske not from whence they come and that which thou well mayest speake in secret to thy friend deliver not in the presence of orhers 11 Speake not in an unknown language or in what thou knowest not well be it not in case of necessitie to be better understood but use thine own naturall tongue as men of qualitie of the Town speake it not like the meane sort especially take thou heed to utter words which savour of immodestie although in secret or to move mirth Use not homely and clownish words when things sublime and serious are treated of 12 Speake not before thou thinkest what thou would'st deliver and in the vulgar language And make not a shew of nimble conceits and clinches Pronounce not imperfectly nor hastily bring forth thy words Likewise utter not thy words so slowly that thou trouble the hearers 13 When another speaketh take heed that through thee hee bee not neglected by his auditors and be attentive turning not thine eyes here and there nor busie thy selfe in ought else If any drawl forth his words help him not therein nor prompt him bee it not that hee intreat thee so to doe or that it were in private or that thou hadst great familiaritie with him Likewise interrupt him not nor answer him untill hee have brought his speech to a period 14 Being in the midst of a discourse aske not of what one treateth since that it is a draught of authoritie but thou mayst well intreat gently that hee proced if thou perceivest that for thee hee hold his peace On the contrary if any one come on a sudden whilst thou talkest especially if hee bee a person of qualitie it is seemely to make a little Epilogue and briefe collection of what thou deliveredst then afterwards go on with thy discourse 15 Thou ought'st not to make face or use any other action of undecency with thy mouth eyes or thy hands to expresse what thou wouldest deliver neither ought'st thou to hold thy hand behind thy back either clasped ar acrosse for that savoureth of ones preheminence but place thy hands before thee one over the other somewhat under thy brest or under thy girdle When thou talkest be circumspect how thou carriest thy body Shake not thy head nor move thy hands much and hold thy feet still 16 Whilst thou speakest put not on thy hat nor ought else before thy mouth Chew not paper nor other thing Shake not thy head Deale not blowes with thy elbowes Stand not tittertatter on one foot Put not one legg overthwart the other 17 Point not with thy finger at him of whom thou speakest Approach not too nigh his person lesse his face to whom thou talkest 18 If thou be'st in Company speake not in

secret with whomsoever but referre it to another time if so bee that thou hast no authoritie over them 19 To treat with men at an unfit time is to do nothing or rather to anger them with whom thou wouldst speake 20 Take thou heed that thou make no comparisons and if any body happen to be praised for some brave act or verture praise not another for the same vertue in his presence for every comparison is odious 21 Be not apt to relate newes if thou knowest not that for the most part they bee true Discoursing of things which thou hast heard say not who told them unto the if thou thinkest not that he will take it well What hath been told thee in secret relate it not to another 22 Be not tedious in thy speech reading discourse principally when the thing is of small importance or when thou perceivest that the company doth not well like of it 23 Be not curious to know the affaires of others and approach not to that side where one speaketh in secret 24 Undertake not that which thou canst not performe but keepe thy promise 25 When thou dost a message deliverest a relation or manifestation of a businesse indeavour to doe it without Passion and with discretion although it be thou treatest with persons of mean rank or quality 26. When those that are thy Tutors talk to any body or other be thou aware to speak to laugh or to hearken to them 27. Take heed to mumble or make a noise within thy teeth 28. Assure not that which thou knowest not to be true 29. Being with persons of more quality than art thou principally if they have power over thee speak not untill thou art asked and then stand upright put off thy hat and answer in few words if so be they give thee not leave to sit or to put on thy hat 30. In disputes which occurre especially in conversation be not so desirous to win that thou leave no liberty to each one to deliver his opinion and be it that thou art in the wrong or right thou ought'st to give way to the judgement of the major part or at the least to the most cholerick and peevish and farre rather to them under whom thou art or who are Judges of the dispute 31. Although thou be'st bitten or injured by words answer not and endeavour not to defend thy selfe but make shew to take them in jest and that thou carest not for them although others do move thee to defend thy selfe for as the Proverb saith Each question doth not deserve an answer 32. Contradict not at every hand-while that which others say contending and saying It is not so it is as I say but apply thy self therein to the opinion of others principally when the things are of small consequence 33. Being in company also even with them of thy condition play not the Mountebanke and pratler but speake with measure and in due time having wherewithall to talke to the purpose of that which is handled and with certainty of truth For to speak or rehearse a thing not knowing it and afterwards to excuse ones-self in saying I do not remember it well I know well that I have read it that becommeth not 34. If any one had begun to rehearse a History say not I know it well and if he relate it not a-right and fully shake not thy head twinkle not thine eyes and snigger not thereat much lesse maist thou say It is not so you deceive your selfe 35. Speake not very loud as would the Cryer of Proclamations Nor speake so low that one cannot understand thee 36. Let thy carriage bee beseeming a man moderately grave setled and attentive to that which is spoken to the end thou hast not occasion to say at eve-discourse What say you How happened that I understand you not and the like 37. In discourses walking hold not back thy companion as it were by a bridle staying him at every three words Approach not so nigh unto him that thou justle him Keep not thy selfe further from him than a span or thereabout 38. Be not a yeare in the beginning of a Discourse and in certaine long excuses or ceremonies saying Sir excuse me if I know not to deliver my selfe well c. yet to obey you c. and other-like troublesome and sottish drawlings and nice curiosities but enter readily into the matter as much as may bee with moderate boldnesse then proceed without being troubled even to the end Be not tedious make not many digressions nor repeat often-times the same manner of speeeh 39. He who hath an unready speech let him not alwayes take upon him the Discourse but let him endeavour to correct the default of his tongue by silence and good attention 40. ⋆ Speak not evill of one absent for it is unjust to detract from the worth of any or besmeare a good name by condemning where the party is not present to cleare himselfe or undergoe a rationall conviction 41 ⋆ It is a thing very improper if not altogether ridiculous to treat of matters about ●bove the capassitie of thy Auditours for by so doing though thou should'st purchase admiration from their ignorance yet it will procure derission from the wise since by that meanes thy discourse will become common ayre and they who here thee will be altogether unsatisfied in thy Conclusions CHAP. VII Of Carriage at the Table 1 BEing set at the Table scratch not thy selfe and take thou heed as much as thou canst to spet cough and to blow thy nose but if it bee needfull do it dexterously without much noise turning thy face sideling 2 Take not thy repast like a glutton 3 Breake not bread with thy hands but cut it with a knife if it bee not very little and very new and that all the others did the same or the major part 4 Cast not thy selfe upon the Table with thine armes stretched out even to the elbowes And leane not thy shoulders or thine armes on thy chaire undecently 5 Eat not with thy cheekes full and with full mouth 6 Sop not in Wine if thou be'st not the Master of the house or hast some indisposition or other 7 Make not shew to take great delight in thy Meat or in thy wine but if hee who feasteth thee aske of thee how thou likest it thou may'st answer him with modestie and prudence much lesse should'st thou finde fault with the meat or procure others or more 8 Taking salt beware that thy knife bee not greazy when it ought to be wiped or the fork One may doe it neatly with a little peece of bread or as in certaine places with a Napkin but never with a whole loafe 9 Entertaining any one it is decent to serve him at the Table and present him with meats yea even those which are nigh him but if one bee invited by another it is better to attend untill that the Master or other do carve him meat than that he take it himselfe were