Selected quad for the lemma: woman_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
woman_n	child_n	mother_n	nurse_n	1,698	5	11.4284	5	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A03407	A sanctuary for honest men. Or An abstract of humane wisedome Contayning, a certaine way leading to a perfect knowledge of Man, and directing to a discreet cariage in the vvhole course of our humane condition. Collected and composed by Io: Hitchcock student in the Middle Temple.	Hitchcock, John, student in the Middle Temple.	1617 (1617)	STC 13530; ESTC S118697	37,328	202

which must be in secret not before company 3. the manner of admonishing which must be 1. without passion 2. without flatterie and dissimulation out of an honest carelesse nature and freedome of heart 3. vsing generall tearmes and comprehending a mans selfe in the same fault 4. expressing the fault in better words then the nature of the offence doth require 5. to beginne with commendations and end with profers of seruice and helpe and not to be gone as soone as the admonition is ended but to stay and fall into some common and pleasant discourse The third office of Friendship consisteth in benefits obligation Benefits thankefulnesse and thankfulnesse these three are linkt one in the other and may well bee comprised in this word Obligation which comprehendeth liberalitie friendship almesdeedes and whatsoeuer is charitable and humane For there is an Actiue and a Passiue obligation the Actiue bindeth Parents Princes and Superiours either by law or nature to doe good to them that are committed to their charge and generally those that haue meanes to helpe them that are in want Now there is a two-fold manner of benefiting or doing good by profiting and by pleasing so are there two sorts of good turnes the one duties proceeding from this naturall or lawfull obligation the other free and voluntarie good deeds done out of pure affection and of these benefits or good turnes such are most welcome as proceed either from one whom a man is inclined to loue without this occasion or such as come from one that is bound to the receiuer o● such as may bee easily requited Now in doing a good turne these rules are to be obserued 1. to doe it willingly and from a heartie affection 2. wisely without ostentation without the offence of another 3. speedily when there is neede 4. without hope of restitution 5. according to the intent of the receiuer and then if it bee to succour his want weaknesse shame or necessitie it must be done priuately 6. not to repent of his good deed 7. not to obiect it to the receiuer not to twit him or hit him in the teeth with it as the vulgar speake The other part of an obligation is Passiue which is nothing but a thankfulnesse for a benefit receiued and herein a man must obserue foure things 1. to receive the benefit cheerefully 2. alwayes to remember it 3. to publish it 4. to make a recompence which must bee done 1. willingly 2. not too speedily but vpon some good occasion 3. with vsurie surpassing the benefit receiued yet alwayes acknowledging a mans selfe indebted 4. if a man bee vnable to requite to shew alwayes testimonies of his thankfulnesse The second part of our duty towards our Neighbour is speciall Speciall duties including the particular duties required betweene seuerall persons by speciall obligation and these duties are either Priuate or Publike the Priuate respect the iustice obserued ●n Families betweene the Husband and the Wife Parents and Children Masters and Seruants The duties betweene ●he man and the wife are ●ither common equall ●o both The duty of maried folkes consisting in an ●ntire loyaltie fidelitie ●ommunitie care and authoritie ouer their familie and the goods of ●e house and communication of all things on Particular respecting first themselues secondly their domesticall husbandrie The husbands duty First of the husband this is required to instruct his wife in those things that concerne he● duty her honour he● good to loue to nourish to cloath her to cohabi● with her The wifes duty Secondly o● the wife this is required to honour her husban● as her Lord to humou● him to bee obedient i● things iust and lawfull t● keepe the house to employ her time in the practise of huswifery and t● be silent that is not ta●katiue but to learne ho● and when to speake Thirdly in domesticall or houshold husbandrie this is expedient Houshold husbandry 1. to buy and sell all things at the best times and seasons 2. to prouide first for necessitie cleanlines order 3. to take care that the goods of the house be not spoiled nor lost 4. to learne to make a good shew with a little cost 5. for a man to know precisely the value of his meanes and to liue vnder his estate 6. to haue an eye and care ouer all for the eye of the Master sats the horse and the land The duty of Parents and Children is reciprocally naturall The duty of parents and hath respect first to the Parents secondly to the Children The duty o● Parents respecteth 1● their Infancie 2. their Youth 3. their Carriage towards them at mens and womens estate In the Infancie of the childe this must bee obserued 1. the nurse must bee either the mother which is most naturall or a woman that is young and of a hot and dri● complexion 2. it mus● be fed with creame so● with hony and a little salt 3. it must bee accustomed by little and little to the aire to heat and cold In the Youth of the childe as soone as it is able to goe and speake and the faculties of the minde are awakened which beginne about the fourth or fift yeare it is the duty of the Parent to instruct it well and to season this new vessell with a good and wholesome tincture Now these instructions are either Common or Particular the Common are these 1. carefully to guard the eyes and eares of the childe that none speake or doe any thing that is euill in his sight or hearing 2. to procure good Tutors or Instructors who must bee fuller of wisdome then Pedanticall science and such as accord in opinion and their manner of proceeding teaching mildly without seueritie and rigour Now there is no better way of instruction then often to examine the scholler and to make him giue his opinion and afterwards a reason of his opinion and touching the bookes to bee read they must be of noble and serious matters teaching the knowledge of our humane condition and such as reforme the will and direct the iudgement teaching the difference betweene passion and virtue what to flie what to desire The Particular instructions of youth consist in the forming of the spirit the ordering of the body the ruling of the manners In forming the spirit of the childe a man must aime both at the End and the Meanes of instruction The end of instruction is to build vp the minde in knowledge honestie virtue wisedome and the aduisements in this point are two first not to endeuour so much to inflame the imagination and stuffe the memorie as to conforme the iudgement and the will but to studie more for wisdome then science because wisdome is farre better then science and because these two are much different especially by reason of the contrarietie of their temperatures for science is in the memorie which requireth a moist temper of the braine wisdome in the vnderstanding which requireth it to bee drie so that

science is nothing but an accumulation of an acquired good or a collection of what is seene heard read but wisdome is the rule of the soule the guide of our thoughts desires opinions words actions The second aduice in this point is this not to gather the opinions and knowledge of other men for ostentation or report but for profit to make them his owne as the Bee extracts the hony from the flower and in reading other mens writings not to taske the memorie to retaine the leafe the place the chapter but the summe and marrow of the booke Now of Sciences the best are the Naturall that shew what wee are and the Morall that shew what we should bee vnder which are contained the Oeconomickes Politickes Histories The Meanes of instruction which is the second thing to be considered in forming the minde of the scholler is two fold the one by word of mouth and that either by precepts or conference the other by example both from the good by imitation and from the bad by dissenting from them in opinion and life And these two wayes of profiting by speech and example are drawne either from the liuing by discourse and frequentation of their company or from the dead by reading their bookes In ordering the Body these are the rules 1. to keepe the childe from pride and delicacy in apparell 2. to vse him to a moderation in sleeping eating and drinking 3. to accustome him to heate and cold labour and paines In ruling the Manners a man must take care to rate vp in his child those things that are euill correcting in him first all swearing lying sottish shame hiding the face houlding downe the head blushing at euery question and weeping at euery sharpe worde Secondly all affectation in habit speech gate and gesture Thirdly all obstinate sullennesse that the childe neuer haue his will by froward or peruerse meanes And as a man must extinguish the euill so hee must endeuour to kindle in his childe the sparkes of goodnesse ingrafting in his heart first the feare of God by making him reuerence his name and admire his wisdome his power his workes secondly ingenuity integrity teaching him to bee honest for the loue of vertue and not for any sinister respect thirdly modesty in behauiour towards all whether they bee his superiours equals or inferiours eyther in condition or sufficiencie fourthly affability in company to carry himselfe courteously towards all yet let him know euen the most licentious behauiors but teach him to abstaine not for want of courage but will In the carriage of Parents toward their children at mens womens estate which is the fourth and last point of their duty it behooues them to receiue their children if they bee discreet and capable into their society and part of their goods and to admitt them into their councell their opinions thoughts designments the knowledge of their worldly affaires not practising the austere fashion of some parents that alwaies keepe their children vnder their girdle they carry themselues seuerely towards them restraine them of liberty pinch them in allowance and vpon euery displeasing occasion euer fright them with the bug beare of a small annuity after their decease so to keepe them in awe and subiection But this is the way for a man to bee feared not loued of his children and to shew himselfe a Tyrant not a Father The duty of chi●dren Now the duty of children towards their Parents consisteth principallie in 5. points 1. To reuerence them both outwardly in speech countenance and gesture and inwardly in opinion and estimation 2. To obey them in all commands that are iust and honest 3. To succour them in want sicknesse age and impotency if neede shall require 4. To attempt nothing in marriage or any other matter of importance without their consent and aduise 5. To beare with their testie humours imperfections to endure gently thei● seuerity and rigour The duties of Masters and Seruants are these The duty of masters 1. the Master must seeke to be more beloued then feared of his seruants 2. to haue an eye ouer them 3. to instruct them in matters of religion 4. to vse them gently not cruelly and yet it is needfull for a Master of a family sometimes to bee angry with his seruants obseruing these conditions 1. that it bee not often nor vpon slight occasions 2. that it be not in a murmuring or rayling manner behind their backes nor vpon vncertainties 3. that it be speedily in the nicke of the offence and serious without commixture of laughter that so it may bee a profitable chastisement for what is past a warning for what is to come And for Seruants The duty of seruants their duty is 1. to honour and feare their Masters 2. to bee industrious and prouident for their good 3. to be faithfull and trustie 4. not to reply and multiply words THis of the priuate iustice required in Families between the Husband and the Wife Parents and Children Masters and Seruants The other is Publike in a Common-weale concerning the duty of Princes and Subiects of Magistrates Great and Smal. The duety of a Prince is already sufficiently handled in the tract of politick Prudence shewing his office both Praeparatiue and Actiue The duty of subiects The duty of Subiects consisteth principally in three points 1. to honour their Prince as Gods vice-gerent 2. to obey his authority to go to the wars to pay tributes and imposts and to conforme themselues to all things that are iustly required by the lawes customes 3. to pray for the preseruation of his person his prosperity and happines The duty of Magistrates The duety of Magistrates followeth in whom is required both honesty to keepe them from auarice bribes and respect of persons and courage to withstand the commands of great men the entreaties of friends and the teares of the distressed Their duety respecteth the Prince and priuate men their duty towards the Prince consisteth in obeying his edicts and commands eyther readily slowly or not at all In those commands that are iust and indifferēt in themselues or those that giue to the Magistrate acknowledgment and allowance with a warrātable clause there the Magistrate is to obey readily In those that include a clause derogatorie where the Prince by his authority doth derogate from the law there hee must also obey but not so readily In those that haue no derogatory clause but are wholly preiudiciall to the Commonwealth hee ought to resist once or twice and not obey before the second or third command But in those that are repugnant to the Lawes of God and nature he must not obey at all but rather leaue his office then shipwracke his conscience The duety of Magistrates towards priuate men is this to be alwaies at hand to be of easie accesse to heare al indifferently as well poore as rich and to be impartiall in the execution of iustice The duty of great