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A67866	A godly forme of houshold government for the ordering of priuate families, according to the direction of Gods word : wherunto is adioyned in a more particular manner, the seuerall duties of the husband towards his wife, and the wiues dutie towards her husband, the parents dutie towards their children, and the childrens towards their parents, the maisters dutie towards his seruants, and also the seruants duty towards their maisters / first gathered by R.C. ; and now newly perused, amended and augmented by Iohn Dod and Robert Cleuer.	Cleaver, Robert, 1561 or 2-ca. 1625.; Carr, Roger, d. 1612.; Cawdry, Robert.	1621 (1621)	STC 5387.5; ESTC S118705	199,876	382

We see by experience that euery beast and euery fowle is nourished and bred of the same that did beare it onely some women loue to be mothers but not nurses As therefore euery tree doth cherish and nourish that which it bringeth forth euen so also it becometh naturall mothers to nourish their children with their owne milke Secondly the examples of the Scriptures are many that proue this As Sarah who nursed Isaack though she were a Princesse and therefore able enough to haue had others to haue taken that paines Though she was a beautifull woman and of great yeares yet she her selfe nursed and gaue sucke to her sonne Also Anna vnto whom the holy Ghost hath left it recorded as a commendation that she nursed her owne sonne Samuel So when God chose a nurse for Moses he led the hand-maide of Pharaos daughter to his mother as though God would haue none to nurse him but his mother Like wise when the Sonne of God was borne his Father thought none fit to be his nurse but the blessed virgin his mother It is a commendation of a good woman and set downe in the first place as a principall good worke in a widow that is well reported of if she haue nursed her children And therfore such as refuse thus to do may well and fitly be called nice and vnnaturall mothers yea in so doing they make themselues but halfe mothers and so breake the holy bond of nature in locking vp their breasts from their children and deliuering them forth like the Cuckoo to be hatched in the sparrowes nest Thirdly the childrens bodies be commonly so affected as the milke is which they receiue Now if the nurse be of an euill complexion as she is affected in her body or in her mind or hath some hidden disease the child sucking of her breast must needs take part with her And if that be true which the learned do say that the temperature of the mind followes the constitution of the body needs must it be that if the nurse be of a naughty nature the child must take thereafter Yet if it be so that the nurse be of a good complexion and of an honest behauiour whereas contrariwise maidens that haue made a scape are commonly called to be Nurses yet can it not be but that the mothers milke should be much more naturall for the child then the milke of a stranger As by experience let a man be long accustomed to one kind of drinke if the same man change his ayre and his drinke he is like to mislike it as the egges of a henne are altered vnder a hawke Neuerthelesse such women as be oppressed with infirmities diseases want of milke or other iust and lawfull causes are to be dispensed withall But whose breasts haue this perpetuall drought Forsooth it is like the gowt no beggers may haue it but Citizens or Gentlewomen In the ninth of Hosea verse 14. drie breasts are named for a curse What a lamentable hap haue Gentle-women to light vpon this curse more then others Sure if their breasts be drie as they say they are they should fast and pray together that this curse might be remoued from them And lastly that it is hurtfull to the mothers themselues both Physitians can tell and some women full oft haue felt when they haue bene troubled with sore breasts besides other diseases that happen to them through plentie of milke The wise is further to remember that God hath giuen her two breasts not that she should employ and vse them for a shew or of ostentation but in the seruice of God and to be a helpe to her husband in suckling the child common to them both Experience teacheth that God conuerteth the mothers bloud into the milke wherewith the child is nursed in her wombe He bringeth it into the breasts furnished with nipples conuenient to minister the warme milke vnto the child whom he endueth with industrie to draw out the milke for his owne sustenance The woman therefore that can suckle her child and doth it not but resuseth this office and duty of a mother declareth her selfe to be very vnthankfull to God and as it were forsaketh and contemneth the fruite of her wombe And therefore the bruite beasts lying vpon the ground and granting not one nipple or two but sixe or seauen to their young ones shall rise in iudgment against these dainty half-mothers who for feare of wrinckling of their faces or to auoyd some small labour do refuse this so necessary a duty of a mother due to her children The properties due to a married wife are that she haue grauitie when she walketh abroad wisedome to gouerne her house patience to suffer her husband loue to breed and bring vp her children courtesie towards her neighbours diligence to lay vp and to saue such goods as are within her charge that she be a friend of honest company and a greater enemie of want on and light toyed So then the principall dutie of the wife is first to be subiect to her husband Ephes. 5. 22. Colloss 3. 18. 1. Pet. 3. 1. 2. To be chast and shamefast modest and silent godly and discreet 3. To keepe her selfe at home for the good gouernment of her family and not to stray abroad without iust cause Here it is not to be pretermitted but we must say somewhat touching men and women that betwise married and so become step-fathers and step-mothers Such husbands and wiues as marrie againe after the death of their first wiues or first husbands are carefully to remember that they do not displease their wiues or their husbands which they now haue by ouermuch rehearsing of their first wife or first husband For the course and condition of the world is such that husbands and wiues do account and reckon things past better then things that be present And the reason is because no commoditie or felicitie is so great but it hath some griefe and displeasure and also some bitternesse mingled with it which so long as it is present grieueth vs sore but when it is once gone it leaueth no great feeling of it selfe behind it and for that cause we seeme to be lesse troubled with sorrowes and discommodities past then with those that are present Also age stealeth and commeth on apace which causeth both men and women to be the lesse able to sustaine and endure troubles and griefes then before Therefore such men and women as be twise married and be wise and religious ought not to esteeme their wife or husband which is dead better then her or him which they enioy now aliue remembering the common prouerbe That we must liue by the quicke and not by the dead and that we must make much of that we now haue Let the name of step-father and step-mother admonish and put them in mind of their duty towards the children of the one and the other For step-father and step-mother doth signifie a sted-father and a

they are gone and they are made common as also are the debtes whether hers or her husbands And therefore can neither of them say this is mine but this is ours When a woman hath brought great goods yet may she not say I will do with mine owne what I list for she her selfe is not her owne but her husbands The husband as the head and chiefe guide of the family must haue the custody and chiese gouernment of the goods in the house yet may he discharge himselfe of the whole or of part as himselfe shall thinke meete and conuenient Yet let him remember that he intreate her not as a seruant by giuing her money as it were in mistrust or with condition to returne him a particular account for the husbands mistrust doth many times prouoke the woman and the wiues vaine expence breedeth mistrust in the husband But the faithfull and discret employment and good vsage of the wife and her husbands confidence in her will procure that as the goods be common to both so each alike shall vndertake the custody and employment of the same Hereunto for a conclusion of this point we will yet adde two duties common both to the husband and the wife The first that they daily pray to God to giue them grace to liue together in peace and loue and that each may be an helpe to others saluation Let all such as desire to enioy such a selicitie vnderstand that they must daily pray to God for the obtaining thereof And let those that liue in strife and debate examine themselues whether they haue no cause to impute their miserable estate to their neglect of this duty The second consisteth in the practise of the same which Saint Paul teacheth saying Let those that be married be as if they were not married But how by so enioying the commodity and contentation of marriage that the benefit of their coniunction breed no diuorce betweene God and them Likewise that thereby they be not hindered or made slacke in any duty towards God and their neighbours as also that no affliction depending or proceeding of marriage withdraw them or force them to resolue any thing contrary to the vnion of marriage and these Christian profession that they be the children of God The particular duties of the husband toward the wife are first to protect her to haue regard and care ouer her c. Ruth 3. 9. Secondly that he vnfainedly loue her out of which fountaine springeth this dutie that he must beare with her infirmities and not by and by to enter into bitternesse and wrath Colossions 3. 16. To the same end Saint Peter exhorting husbands to behaue themselues discreetly and with knowledge and wisedome toward their wiues he requireth of them two things First that they neuer say nor do any thing that may iustly offend their wiues as some there be who being prodigall great spenders or idle and slacke in their businesse do cause their wiues and children to languish in pouertie Others who haunting tauernes ale-houses and gaming do consume and wast that which should maintaine their family Others who comming home drunke do beate and vexe their wiues and as it were driue them into dispaire Others who by vile and bitter speeches by threatnings and other vnchristian actions vnworthy a husband do prouoke their wiues and so stirre vp such strife and debate as do conuert the comfort of marriage into an hell Seeing therefore that the husband is head he ought in such wisedome reason and discretion to beare himselfe that he giue his wife no iust occasion of offence or prouocation yet he must remember that if the head be drunke the whole body is in danger of weake gouernment euen oflying in the mire Secondly that albeit the wife should minister iust cause of griefe and displeasure yet that the husband should not thereof take occasion against his wiues infirmities or enter into bitternesse taunts or disquietnesse but discreetly and patiently beare with her that so they may quietly and louingly liue together The hurt or weaknesse of any one member of the body prouoketh not the head to wrath or bitternesse but rather to compassion and an inclination to helpe it And indeede whereas God hauing created the woman the weaker vessell as Saint Peter noteth and did so ioyne her to man it was not to the end that he striuing with so fraile a vessell should bruise and breake it but that by gentle and discreet intreating he should quietly enioy the help that God hath giuen him Let him therefore after the counsell of Saint Peter so respect her as one who albeit she be weake is neuerthelesse a profitable vessell for him Moreouer let him loue and honour her as one whom notwithstanding the frailtie of her Sexe God hath so honoured and Iesus Christ so loued that being together with man redeemed with his bloud she is together with her husband co-heire of life euerlasting A chrystall glasse is a precious and profitable vessell yet brittle so is the married woman But albeit she be brittle yet is she profitable to her husband and precious in the sight of God as a child of God and member of Christ. As therefore a man doth more carefully take heed ofbreaking such a glasse then some earthen or tinne vessell the one being more base and the other more strong so likewise should the husband haue such regard of the frailtie of his wife that he may beare with her and intreate her with gentlenesse and discretion that he may vse her as a precious and profitable vessell to his comfort and ioy And in as much as prayer is an excellent seruice that God requireth of vs and the ready meanes to purchase his blessings let the husband discretly beare with his wife lest otherwise through their strife and contention their prayers as Saint Peter saith be letted and interrupted 1. Pet. 3. 7. Yet must we not say but the husband both may and ought to tell his wife of her infirmities that she may amend But here we are to enter into consideration of sundrie points First he is especially to reproue her offences against God as when Rachel said vnto Iacob Giue me children or else I die he reproued her of impoitunitie saying Am I in Gods stead who hath withholden from thee the fruit of thy wombe Also when Iobs wife said to her husband Doest thou abide in thy integritie Curse God and die he wisely reproued such a wicked speech saying Thou speakest as an vnwise woman What shall we receiue good at the hand of God and not receiue euill Secondly that it be with gentlenesse and testimonie of good will as Elkanah dealt with his wife Hanna when she mourned because she had no children And indeed it is meete that the husband should reproue his wife louingly rather by perswasion then by force For as in a great stormie winde a man lappeth his cloake about him and holdeth it fast for feare oflosing it but