of_o thy_o future_a tranquillity_n glory_n and_o bliss_n at_o the_o right_a hand_n of_o thy_o dear_a saviour_n in_o heaven_n to_o all_o eternity_n hereafter_o in_o the_o six_o place_n wife_n the_o six_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n to_o bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n we_o that_o be_v strong_a ought_v say_v the_o apostle_n to_o bear_v the_o infirmity_n of_o the_o weak_a rom._n 15.1_o and_o peter_n in_o 1_o pet._n 3.7_o say_v the_o woman_n be_v the_o weak_a vessel_n ergo_fw-la a_o man_n ought_v to_o bear_v with_o the_o infirmity_n of_o his_o wife_n but_o the_o question_n be_v what_o fault_n may_v be_v say_v to_o be_v infirmity_n to_o be_v bear_v with_o in_o any_o in_o general_a and_o in_o the_o woman_n in_o particular_a i_o answer_v these_o and_o such_o like_a as_o forgetfulness_n of_o some_o material_a business_n some_o unusual_a neglect_n of_o duty_n to_o the_o husband_n child_n or_o servant_n some_o 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conceive_v then_o be_v elevate_v in_o herself_o and_o cast_v off_o due_a honour_n from_o her_o mistress_n which_o she_o discern_v be_v present_o full_a of_o passion_n and_o vent_v it_o very_o uncivil_o into_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n and_o speak_v thus_o that_o be_v my_o wrong_n be_v upon_o thou_o i_o give_v thou_o my_o maid_n into_o thy_o bosom_n and_o when_o she_o see_v that_o she_o have_v conceive_v i_o be_v despise_v in_o her_o eye_n thâ—_n lord_n judge_n between_o i_o and_o thou_o well_o saraâ—_n what_o be_v the_o matter_n here_o be_v a_o great_a complaint_n out_o who_o have_v do_v thou_o the_o wrong_n what_o abram_n no_o he_o poor_a man_n be_v innocent_a in_o comparison_n of_o thyself_o what_o a_o false_a charge_n iâ—_n here_o draw_v up_o against_o abram_n what_o clamour_n upon_o it_o what_o appeal_v to_o god_n about_o it_o but_o how_o do_v abram_n demean_v himself_o in_o the_o condition_n true_o singular_o well_o he_o beat_v wiâ—_n this_o infirmity_n in_o his_o wife_n he_o know_v this_o wâ—_n not_o the_o frame_n and_o temper_n of_o her_o spirit_n anâ—_n therefore_o answer_v very_o mild_o and_o say_v to_o be_v behold_v thy_o maid_n be_v in_o thy_o hand_n do_v to_o she_o at_o please_v thou_o the_o second_o sad_a precedent_n as_o beforesaid_a be_v that_o of_o the_o carraige_a of_o zipporah_n to_o her_o husband_n moses_n ex._n 4.19_o 20_o 21_o 25_o 26_o moses_n be_v command_v by_o god_n to_o leave_v the_o land_n of_o midian_a and_o to_o return_v into_o egypt_n about_o the_o deliver_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n out_o of_o bondage_n he_o take_v his_o wife_n and_o son_n and_o the_o rod_n of_o god_n in_o his_o hand_n and_o begin_v his_o journey_n but_o be_v have_v neglect_v the_o observation_n of_o a_o special_a ordinance_n of_o god_n viz._n the_o circumcise_n of_o his_o son_n god_n say_v the_o text_n meet_v he_o in_o the_o inn_n and_o seek_v to_o kill_v he_o where_o note_n by_o the_o way_n that_o it_o be_v a_o dangerous_a thing_n for_o a_o man_n to_o take_v a_o journey_n though_o upon_o as_o lawful_a a_o occasion_n as_o can_v be_v with_o the_o neglect_n of_o a_o duty_n or_o the_o guilt_n of_o any_o sin_n lie_v on_o the_o conscience_n unrepented_a of_o moses_n you_o see_v be_v in_o great_a danger_n of_o death_n and_o his_o wife_n know_v the_o cause_n of_o it_o take_v a_o sharp_a stone_n and_o cut_v off_o the_o foreskin_n of_o her_o son_n and_o throw_v it_o at_o his_o foot_n with_o these_o word_n sure_o a_o bloody_a husband_n be_v thou_o unto_o i_o which_o be_v a_o very_a contemptible_a contumelious_a uncivil_a and_o unmannerly_a behaviour_n in_o she_o yet_o he_o be_v silent_a bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n and_o no_o doubt_n but_o he_o do_v consider_v there_o lay_v a_o sad_a temptation_n on_o her_o spirit_n and_o withal_o be_v conscientious_a of_o his_o own_o sin_n against_o god_n and_o so_o sweet_o pass_v by_o his_o wife_n weakness_n now_o these_o infirmity_n which_o a_o husband_n out_o of_o duty_n to_o his_o wife_n must_v bear_v with_o must_v not_o be_v public_a nor_o give_v scandal_n and_o offence_n to_o other_o nay_o whatever_o they_o be_v he_o must_v take_v a_o fit_a opportunity_n to_o give_v she_o a_o sweet_a reproof_n for_o such_o a_o husband_n as_o be_v in_o a_o passion_n for_o his_o wife_n infirmity_n will_v make_v such_o a_o smoke_n in_o his_o house_n as_o shall_v disturb_v all_o in_o or_o near_o it_o the_o discretion_n of_o a_o man_n defer_v his_o anger_n and_o it_o be_v his_o glory_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n prov._n 19.11_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v due_a maintenance_n in_o all_o thing_n both_o inward_a and_o outward_a for_o her_o comfortable_a bodily_a subsistence_n here_o both_o in_o life_n and_o livelihood_n for_o supportation_n of_o health_n while_o it_o be_v enjoy_v and_o for_o restoration_n of_o it_o when_o decay_a and_o this_o to_o be_v perform_v with_o as_o much_o dearness_n of_o affection_n and_o tenderness_n of_o heart_n as_o to_o himself_o which_o duty_n the_o apostle_n clear_o require_v husband_n to_o perform_v to_o their_o wife_n eph_n 5.28_o 29._o so_o ought_v man_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n as_o their_o own_o body_n be_v that_o love_v his_o wife_n love_v himself_o for_o no_o man_n ever_o yet_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n but_o cherish_v and_o nourish_v it_o even_o as_o christ_n do_v his_o church_n now_o we_o know_v all_o man_n will_v nourish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o meat_n and_o drink_v and_o physic_n with_o such_o preservative_n and_o restorative_n of_o health_n as_o be_v necessary_a and_o they_o will_v cherish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o apparel_n as_o may_v not_o only_o keep_v they_o warm_v in_o their_o body_n but_o be_v some_o delight_n unto_o their_o mind_n the_o same_o for_o kind_n and_o measure_n for_o quality_n and_o quantity_n they_o must_v allow_v unto_o their_o wife_n if_o it_o be_v of_o necessity_n or_o 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the_o apostle_n say_v that_o he_o be_v worse_a than_o a_o infidel_n that_o do_v not_o provide_v for_o his_o own_o family_n 1_o tim._n 5.8_o now_o if_o the_o whole_a family_n must_v be_v provide_v for_o as_o none_o dare_v deny_v then_o much_o more_o she_o who_o in_o thy_o absence_n be_v the_o head_n of_o the_o family_n and_o in_o thy_o own_o presence_n thy_o right-hand_a mate_n what_o encouragement_n can_v thy_o wife_n have_v to_o seek_v thy_o good_a when_o thou_o shall_v in_o whole_a or_o in_o part_n neglect_v she_o beside_o when_o thou_o shall_v especial_o with_o cheerfulness_n allow_v thy_o wife_n all_o due_a and_o necessary_a maintenance_n for_o her_o comfort_n and_o encouragement_n in_o this_o life_n if_o she_o
have_v say_v be_v sure_o let_v the_o wife_n take_v diligent_a care_n of_o this_o and_o mind_n it_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n that_o she_o omit_v it_o not_o by_o any_o mean_n to_o reverence_v her_o husband_n eph._n 5.33_o but_o if_o it_o be_v demand_v how_o this_o reverence_n shall_v be_v perform_v i_o answer_v two_o way_n in_o her_o word_n and_o in_o her_o gesture_n first_o in_o her_o word_n and_o that_o two_o way_n first_o when_o she_o speak_v to_o he_o second_o when_o she_o speak_v of_o he_o first_o when_o she_o speak_v to_o he_o by_o avoid_v clamour_n and_o high_a language_n second_o by_o avoid_v of_o unnecessary_a repetition_n and_o tautology_n especial_o if_o her_o husband_n be_v a_o judicious_a and_o prudent_a man_n for_o take_v this_o for_o a_o undeniable_a truth_n that_o a_o man_n of_o part_n can_v endure_v a_o multitude_n of_o word_n and_o large_a preamble_n three_o when_o she_o make_v her_o desire_n know_v to_o he_o rather_o by_o request_n than_o by_o peremptory_a demand_n yet_o this_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o a_o woman_n may_v speak_v to_o her_o husband_n in_o a_o way_n of_o intimate_a familiarity_n last_o when_o she_o take_v a_o fit_a time_n and_o place_n to_o fasten_v some_o christian_a reproof_n on_o he_o and_o then_o to_o do_v it_o with_o much_o meekness_n and_o tender_a love_n second_o a_o woman_n must_v reverence_v her_o husband_n in_o her_o word_n when_o she_o speak_v of_o he_o to_o other_o first_o by_z giving_z he_o on_o all_o occasion_n that_o be_v just_a due_a praise_n and_o commendation_n and_o second_o by_o be_v ready_a to_o vindicate_v his_o reputation_n against_o all_o unjust_a aspersion_n &_o calumniation_n that_o do_v impeach_v his_o credit_n and_o obstruct_v his_o well-deserved_n estimation_n in_o the_o heart_n of_o such_o as_o be_v wise_a and_o godly_a whereby_o she_o shall_v not_o only_o reverence_v he_o herself_o but_o cause_v other_o to_o do_v the_o same_o second_o the_o wife_n must_v reverence_v her_o husband_n in_o her_o gesture_n and_o action_n first_o by_o give_v he_o due_a respect_n before_o other_o abroad_o and_o before_o child_n and_o servant_n at_o home_n not_o behave_v herself_o in_o a_o rude_a and_o uncivil_a way_n towards_o he_o as_o slight_v his_o presence_n second_o in_o leave_v to_o he_o the_o wise_a and_o orderly_a government_n of_o the_o family_n and_o all_o domestic_a discipline_n without_o contradiction_n last_o and_o in_o special_a in_o observe_v his_o good_a counsel_n and_o in_o follow_v his_o religious_a and_o godly_a example_n i_o may_v here_o take_v occasion_n to_o fasten_v a_o just_a reproof_n upon_o many_o woman_n that_o be_v so_o far_o from_o reverence_v their_o husband_n that_o on_o the_o contrary_n they_o be_v instrument_n but_o curse_v once_o of_o much_o disrespect_n disgrace_n and_o dishonour_n to_o be_v call_v upon_o their_o husband_n by_o their_o contumelious_a word_n to_o they_o their_o scandalous_a and_o contemptible_a word_n behind_o their_o back_n and_o in_o their_o unworthy_a and_o unbeseeming_a gesture_n and_o action_n towards_o they_o but_o let_v such_o woman_n know_v that_o as_o they_o be_v transgressor_n against_o the_o command_n of_o god_n relate_v to_o the_o wife_n duty_n of_o reverence_v her_o husband_n which_o be_v most_o of_o all_o so_o they_o be_v no_o gainer_n hereby_o it_o may_v be_v they_o make_v their_o husband_n good_a esteem_n fall_v to_o the_o ground_n among_o the_o base_a condition_a people_n but_o to_o be_v sure_a their_o own_o good_a name_n if_o ever_o they_o have_v any_o they_o make_v to_o stink_n in_o the_o nostril_n of_o all_o man_n who_o have_v but_o moral_a honesty_n and_o much_o more_o with_o those_o who_o be_v pious_a and_o godly_a indeed_o but_o i_o shall_v not_o prosecute_v this_o because_o i_o think_v it_o rare_o the_o sin_n of_o a_o godly_a woman_n and_o i_o despair_v of_o do_v good_a on_o other_o in_o the_o six_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o bear_v with_o her_o husband_n infirmity_n husband_n the_o six_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n though_o the_o woman_n be_v the_o weak_a vessel_n yet_o the_o man_n be_v not_o free_a from_o but_o obnoxious_a to_o many_o weakness_n and_o infirmity_n which_o a_o love_a and_o tender-hearted_a wife_n must_v labour_v to_o bear_v with_o sometime_o it_o do_v come_v to_o pass_v and_o often_o too_o that_o the_o husband_n meet_v with_o turbulent_a and_o cross_a business_n may_v have_v such_o perturbation_n of_o mind_n that_o for_o a_o time_n it_o may_v interrupt_v his_o otherwise_o sweet_a composure_n of_o spirit_n and_o make_v he_o malcontent_n and_o wayward_a and_o hard_o to_o please_v by_o his_o dear_a relation_n that_o neither_o wife_n nor_o child_n can_v have_v a_o cheerful_a look_n from_o he_o nor_o a_o good_a word_n of_o he_o which_o the_o wife_n with_o a_o sweet_a silence_n or_o amiable_a carriage_n both_o in_o word_n and_o action_n must_v pass_v by_o and_o it_o will_v be_v her_o great_a wisdom_n and_o godly_a discretion_n so_o to_o do_v and_o hereby_o his_o passion_n of_o mind_n will_v waste_v the_o fast_o and_o he_o return_v to_o his_o usual_a temper_n the_o soon_o but_o if_o on_o the_o contrary_a the_o wife_n to_o his_o enkindle_a coal_n add_v fuel_n and_o combustible_a matter_n by_o bad_a word_n and_o a_o crosse-grained_a behaviour_n the_o whole_a house_n will_v not_o only_o be_v in_o a_o disturb_a smoke_n but_o in_o a_o burn_a flame_n grievous_a word_n stir_v up_o anger_n pro._n 15.1_o whereas_o on_o the_o contrary_a a_o soft_a answer_n turn_v away_o wrath_n it_o be_v the_o sin_n of_o zipporah_n who_o fail_v in_o her_o duty_n in_o not_o bear_v with_o her_o husband_n infirmity_n but_o as_o have_v be_v observe_v moses_n do_v well_o to_o bear_v with_o she_o exod._n 4.25_o bear_v you_o one_o another_o burden_n and_o so_o fulfil_v the_o law_n of_o christ_n say_v the_o apostle_n gal._n 6.2_o this_o duty_n concern_v all_o christian_n to_o practice_n in_o general_a but_o in_o the_o case_n we_o speak_v to_o it_o do_v concern_v the_o wife_n most_o to_o practise_v in_o relation_n to_o her_o husband_n but_o for_o she_o to_o take_v a_o fit_a opportunity_n with_o abigail_n to_o acquaint_v he_o that_o his_o carriage_n be_v not_o good_a but_o he_o be_v godly_a very_o ill-beseeming_a he_o and_o of_o scandal_n to_o other_o this_o will_v be_v a_o ornament_n of_o grace_n to_o she_o especial_o if_o she_o perform_v it_o in_o a_o right_a way_n there_o may_v be_v many_o other_o infirmity_n in_o a_o man_n beside_o anger_n and_o passion_n which_o his_o wife_n must_v i_o say_v bear_v with_o which_o we_o shall_v not_o endeavour_v to_o particularize_v but_o leave_v to_o she_o to_o judge_v of_o only_o we_o shall_v in_o one_o word_n give_v she_o the_o rule_n to_o proceed_v by_o viz._n a_o man_n infirmity_n proper_o be_v a_o unvoluntary_a deviation_n from_o that_o rule_n of_o exactness_n whereby_o by_o the_o grace_n of_o god_n he_o do_v walk_v in_o the_o general_a course_n of_o his_o life_n both_o in_o relation_n to_o god_n and_o man_n have_v first_o respect_n to_o the_o duty_n of_o piety_n require_v in_o the_o first_o table_n and_o second_o to_o the_o duty_n of_o righteousness_n in_o the_o second_o table_n of_o the_o decalogue_n or_o ten_o commandment_n in_o the_o seven_o place_n husband_n the_o seven_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n to_o yield_v he_o help_v and_o furtherance_n in_o his_o outward_a estate_n but_o in_o the_o prosecution_n of_o this_o duty_n we_o shall_v use_v the_o more_o concisenesse_n have_v mention_v something_o this_o way_n in_o the_o nine_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n only_o what_o be_v there_o deliver_v be_v upon_o another_o account_n that_o be_v to_o put_v it_o upon_o the_o husband_n to_o stir_v up_o his_o wife_n to_o avoid_v idleness_n and_o to_o labour_v to_o be_v industrious_a where_o her_o chief_a employment_n be_v express_v to_o be_v to_o guide_v the_o 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answer_v all_o man_n can_v receive_v this_o say_n save_o those_o to_o who_o it_o be_v give_v mat._n 19.11_o that_o be_v to_o say_v all_o man_n can_v nay_o no_o man_n can_v at_o pleasure_n attain_v this_o gift_n of_o chastity_n for_o it_o be_v the_o gift_n of_o god_n therefore_o such_o to_o who_o the_o lord_n deny_v it_o ought_v to_o take_v the_o help_n of_o marriage_n but_o if_o the_o end_n of_o man_n marry_v be_v rather_o to_o satisfy_v the_o lust_n of_o the_o flesh_n than_o to_o subdue_v the_o same_o they_o may_v just_o fear_v themselves_o as_o person_n never_o like_v to_o be_v gainer_n by_o such_o conjunction_n but_o to_o have_v the_o fire_n of_o lust_n so_o enkindle_v in_o their_o impure_a nature_n as_o that_o chastity_n shall_v be_v make_v but_o combustible_a matter_n to_o be_v whole_o consume_v thereby_o and_o so_o make_v unsufferable_a loser_n which_o be_v a_o judgement_n most_o dreadful_a let_v therefore_o the_o destruction_n and_o extirpation_n of_o impure-selfe_n be_v sincere_o thy_o aim_n and_o endeavour_v in_o seek_v the_o marriage_n condition_n we_o have_v do_v with_o this_o second_o end_n of_o marriage_n and_o proceed_v to_o the_o last_o the_o last_o end_n we_o be_v to_o aim_v at_o in_o desire_v marriage_n be_v comfortable_a society_n to_o enjoy_v a_o solid_a sweet_a and_o bosom_n companion_n in_o which_o estate_n for_o the_o most_o part_n it_o may_v be_v expect_v man_n be_v a_o sociable_a creature_n and_o therefore_o god_n will_v not_o have_v he_o live_v alone_o but_o create_v he_o a_o meet_a helper_n gen._n 2.18_o and_o solomon_n say_v two_o be_v better_o than_o one_o eccl._n 4.9_o true_o they_o speak_v most_o profane_o and_o be_v every_o way_n unworthy_a of_o the_o comfort_n that_o marriage_n do_v afford_v that_o say_v a_o woman_n be_v a_o necessary_a evil_n we_o may_v rather_o say_v she_o be_v a_o singular_a and_o necessary_a good_a yet_o understand_v she_o be_v only_o so_o when_o she_o answer_v the_o end_n god_n make_v she_o for_o that_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n and_o it_o be_v such_o a_o one_o that_o in_o the_o sequel_n of_o this_o small_a treatise_n i_o shall_v endeavour_v to_o put_v thou_o on_o and_o stir_v thou_o up_o to_o seek_v such_o a_o one_o will_v fit_v as_o we_o say_v for_o every_o occasion_n both_o in_o prosperity_n and_o adversity_n in_o sickness_n and_o health_n next_o the_o glory_n of_o god_n she_o will_v spend_v and_o be_v spend_v for_o the_o good_a of_o thou_o and_o thou_o she_o will_v help_v bear_v thy_o burden_n in_o every_o kind_n she_o will_v sympathize_v and_o condole_v with_o thou_o in_o all_o thy_o suffering_n in_o her_o bosom_n there_o be_v a_o passage_n to_o receive_v in_o any_o secret_n thou_o shall_v think_v fit_a to_o impart_v but_o no_o vent_n to_o
to_o love_n and_o good_a work_n she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n to_o help_v thou_o in_o the_o growth_n of_o grace_n here_o and_o so_o a_o mean_n of_o thy_o happiness_n hereafter_o here_o be_v more_o flower_n to_o add_v to_o thy_o begun-nosegay_n in_o the_o last_o end_n of_o marriage_n bound_v they_o together_o and_o they_o will_v be_v very_o odoriferous_a to_o please_v thy_o sense_n three_o thou_o have_v need_v to_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o choose_v a_o wife_n as_o thou_o desire_v thy_o love_n shall_v hold_v out_o to_o the_o end_n for_o if_o thou_o make_v riches_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n they_o may_v be_v lose_v they_o be_v subject_a to_o many_o casualty_n riches_n have_v wing_n like_o a_o eagle_n and_o may_v fly_v away_o prov._n 23.5_o and_o when_o they_o be_v go_v thy_o love_n will_v fly_v after_o if_o thou_o make_v beauty_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v vanish_v away_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vanity_n prov._n 31.30_o beauty_n may_v be_v take_v away_o by_o sickness_n or_o by_o some_o accidental_a blow_n in_o the_o face_n by_o loss_n of_o a_o eye_n by_o a_o canker_n in_o the_o nose_n or_o some_o other_o mean_n and_o if_o once_o go_v love_n will_v go_v too_o if_o thou_o make_v person_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v suffer_v much_o detriment_n crookedness_n may_v grow_v in_o a_o body_n former_o straight_o such_o a_o comely_a body_n may_v come_v to_o want_v a_o leg_n or_o a_o arm_n which_o will_v be_v a_o blemish_n to_o it_o now_o person_n be_v defective_a love_n will_v be_v the_o same_o if_o thou_o make_v hope_n of_o honour_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n thy_o wife_n great_a kindred_n may_v fail_v of_o power_n to_o advance_v thou_o nay_o of_o power_n to_o hold_v up_o themselves_o we_o want_v not_o plentiful_a experience_n of_o this_o or_o they_o may_v be_v prejudice_v against_o thou_o and_o frustrate_v thy_o expectation_n and_o make_v thou_o see_v too_o late_o that_o thou_o have_v but_o build_v castle_n in_o the_o air_n to_o depend_v on_o they_o so_o all_o hope_n that_o way_n be_v lose_v thy_o love_n will_v be_v lose_v too_o now_o when_o thy_o love_n have_v fetch_v its_o last_o gasp_n it_o may_v be_v happy_a be_v it_o for_o thou_o in_o some_o sense_n if_o thou_o and_o thy_o love_n may_v be_v bury_v both_o in_o one_o grave_n for_o after_o love_n be_v once_o depart_v what_o will_v or_o can_v thy_o life_n be_v but_o a_o condition_n of_o grief_n and_o heart-sorrow_n and_o great_a discontentment_n that_o thou_o shall_v have_v a_o wife_n who_o thou_o can_v take_v no_o pleasure_n in_o and_o will_v with_o all_o thy_o heart_n part_n with_o and_o yet_o it_o may_v be_v thou_o shall_v not_o part_v with_o she_o until_o death_n cut_v thou_o off_o first_o but_o if_o thou_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n and_o withal_o be_v no_o whit_n mistake_v but_o thou_o find_v it_o to_o be_v in_o the_o heart_n of_o thy_o wife_n in_o deed_n and_o in_o truth_n then_o as_o grace_n do_v increase_v so_o thy_o love_n will_v abound_v but_o grace_n can_v but_o increase_v continual_o therefore_o love_n will_v multiply_v in_o thy_o heart_n exceed_o now_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v keep_v from_o apostasy_n or_o fall_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v help_v forward_o in_o all_o christian_a counsel_n and_o good_a way_n and_o as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o keep_v life_n in_o thy_o love_n and_o to_o increase_v therein_o to_o thy_o own_o comfort_n and_o the_o comfort_n of_o thy_o wife_n so_o let_v it_o be_v thy_o care_n in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n to_o look_v to_o thy_o own_o heart_n that_o it_o deceive_v thou_o not_o but_o that_o thou_o do_v indeed_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o thy_o wife_n then_o thou_o may_v certain_o expect_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n much_o comfort_n in_o such_o a_o yokefellow_n in_o all_o thy_o want_n of_o wealth_n or_o health_n of_o soul_n or_o body_n and_o may_v while_o thou_o enjoy_v she_o begin_v to_o write_v encomium_n of_o she_o and_o when_o she_o be_v dead_a 20._o gen_n 35.19_o 20._o then_o with_o jacob_n set_v up_o a_o pillar_n upon_o her_o grave_a and_o perhaps_o may_v true_o say_v many_o daughter_n have_v do_v virtuous_o but_o thou_o excelle_v they_o all_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vain_a but_o a_o woman_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n she_o shall_v be_v praise_v give_v she_o of_o the_o fruit_n of_o her_o hand_n and_o let_v she_o own_o work_n praise_v she_o in_o the_o gate_n here_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o in_o the_o amplification_n of_o the_o first_o inward_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n wife_n the_o second_o qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n in_o the_o second_o place_n the_o chief_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n next_o save_v grace_n be_v sweet_a disposition_n of_o nature_n that_o she_o be_v of_o a_o quiet_a and_o peaceable_a spirit_n for_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o in_o divers_a man_n and_o woman_n that_o we_o doubt_v not_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n but_o that_o they_o be_v very_o gracious_a and_o desire_v to_o prove_v their_o soul_n to_o god_n in_o all_o way_n of_o holiness_n yet_o be_v of_o bad_a nature_n and_o themselves_o can_v but_o see_v it_o and_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o they_o desire_v to_o bewail_v it_o before_o god_n in_o secret_a and_o yet_o can_v attain_v to_o have_v their_o corruption_n in_o this_o kind_n mortify_v in_o any_o comfortable_a way_n yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o person_n be_v not_o many_o time_n comfortable_a consort_n and_o therefore_o thou_o that_o be_v to_o make_v choice_n of_o a_o wife_n have_v cause_n enough_o to_o endeavour_v to_o avoid_v lay_v a_o conjugal_a tie_n upon_o thyself_o to_o live_v and_o die_v with_o such_o a_o woman_n though_o otherwise_o one_o of_o good_a part_n if_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o churlish_a nature_n &_o of_o cross_a dispositon_n in_o the_o abstract_n she_o will_v cast_v such_o a_o cool_a damp_n on_o her_o husband_n love_n as_o may_v not_o only_o chill_a but_o kill_v it_o whereby_o though_o she_o may_v be_v a_o sad_a sufferer_n herself_o she_o will_v abundant_o prejudice_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o comfort_n and_o may_v shorten_v his_o day_n for_o a_o man_n can_v live_v that_o can_v love_v the_o love_n of_o any_o thing_n give_v contentment_n to_o the_o mind_n to_o enjoy_v the_o same_o a_o cross_n and_o tart_n nature_n in_o a_o wife_n un-wifes_n her_n as_o i_o may_v say_v for_o she_o that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n be_v either_o not_o a_o wife_n or_o else_o a_o very_a imperfect_a one_o for_o how_o can_v she_o be_v say_v to_o be_v a_o wife_n that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n who_o be_v unfit_a for_o comfortable_a society_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v as_o sharp_a and_o bitter_a touchy_a and_o tangue_n by_o nature_n will_v not_o ordinary_o be_v sociable_a love_a kind_a and_o amiable_a in_o her_o carriage_n and_o deportment_n to_o her_o husband_n and_o do_v it_o not_o concern_v thou_o to_o avoid_v she_o in_o thy_o choice_n of_o a_o wife_n for_o such_o a_o woman_n as_o we_o speak_v of_o will_v not_o make_v a_o good_a wife_n nor_o good_a mother_n nor_o good_a dame_n or_o mistress_n she_o will_v not_o be_v good_a in_o any_o relation_n i_o mean_v in_o the_o latter_a part_n of_o this_o discourse_n where_o a_o untoward_a nature_n be_v predominant_a in_o a_o woman_n solomon_n say_v it_o be_v be_v better_a to_o dwell_v in_o a_o corner_n of_o the_o house_n top_n than_o with_o a_o brawl_a woman_n in_o a_o wide_a house_n prov._n 21.9_o he_o also_o say_v the_o contention_n of_o a_o wife_n be_v a_o continual_a drop_n pro._n 19.13_o a_o continual_a drop_n will_v wear_v waist_n and_o consume_v stone_n as_o observation_n will_v prove_v and_o true_o this_o drop_n from_o a_o contentious_a wife_n will_v wear_v waste_n and_o consume_v not_o only_o all_o the_o comfort_n that_o her_o husband_n otherwise_o may_v have_v in_o she_o but_o his_o skin_n flesh_n bone_n marrow_n and_o vital_a spirit_n and_o all_o in_o time_n the_o apostle_n tell_v we_o that_o a_o meek_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n in_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o great_a price_n with_o god_n 1_o pet._n 3.4_o and_o so_o it_o be_v doubtless_o with_o every_o rational_a man_n therefore_o as_o thou_o will_v avoid_v many_o inconvenience_n in_o the_o marriage_n estate_n and_o wear_v the_o comfort_n of_o it_o as_o a_o crown_n of_o all_o temporal_a felicity_n so_o labour_v to_o gain_v a_o woman_n of_o sweet_a natural_a disposition_n of_o a_o very_a amiable_a and_o
affable_a carriage_n of_o a_o meek_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n the_o happiness_n whereof_o will_v be_v permanent_a in_o the_o next_o place_n we_o shall_v proceed_v by_o the_o help_n of_o god_n to_o some_o outward_a yet_o very_o necessary_a qualification_n for_o thou_o to_o pitch_v thy_o thought_n on_o and_o to_o labour_v to_o obtain_v that_o so_o thou_o may_v lay_v a_o good_a groundwork_n to_o prevent_v too_o late_a repentance_n in_o thou_o for_o thy_o rashness_n qualification_n the_o three_o qualification_n in_o the_o three_o place_n to_o make_v a_o addition_n to_o thy_o comfort_n in_o the_o marriage_n estate_n be_v very_o careful_a in_o thy_o choice_n to_o satisfy_v thy_o eye_n both_o in_o the_o person_n and_o favour_n of_o such_o a_o one_o as_o thou_o will_v enjoy_v for_o thy_o consort_n both_o in_o bed_n and_o at_o board_n as_o we_o say_v and_o in_o this_o thou_o must_v be_v somewhat_o curious_a belove_a there_o be_v a_o threefold_a curiosity_n first_o there_o be_v a_o unnecessary_a curiosity_n thou_o may_v be_v nice_a and_o this_o be_v fleshly_a and_o carnal_a and_o may_v come_v within_o just_a suspicion_n of_o that_o sin_n of_o make_v provision_n for_o the_o flesh_n to_o fulfil_v the_o lust_n thereof_o rom._n 13.14_o second_o there_o be_v a_o prudentiall_a curiosity_n and_o that_o be_v when_o a_o man_n lay_v a_o groundwork_n of_o contentation_n beforehand_o yet_o therein_o observe_v a_o mediocrity_n too_o for_o the_o future_a three_o there_o be_v a_o conscientious_a curiosity_n and_o that_o be_v when_o a_o christian_a labour_n to_o prevent_v temptation_n and_o so_o to_o circumvent_v his_o spiritual_a adversary_n now_o the_o first_o that_o be_v unnecessary_a curiosity_n be_v to_o be_v condemn_v but_o the_o other_o two_o to_o be_v commend_v for_o they_o provide_v for_o purity_n of_o heart_n and_o life_n as_o also_o for_o perpetuate_a love_n and_o sweet_a society_n first_o it_o provide_v for_o purity_n etc._n etc._n and_o prevent_v the_o contrary_a for_o by_o undeniable_a consequence_n it_o will_v follow_v that_o he_o who_o do_v not_o rejoice_v in_o the_o wife_n of_o his_o youth_n and_o he_o who_o wife_n be_v not_o to_o he_o as_o a_o love_a hind_n and_o pleasant_a roe_n will_v be_v ravish_v with_o a_o strange_a woman_n and_o embrace_v the_o bosom_n of_o a_o stranger_n prov._n 5.18_o 19_o 20._o rebecca_n be_v beautiful_a and_o fair_a gen._n 26.7_o and_o her_o husband_n be_v take_v therewith_o for_o he_o can_v not_o forbear_v dalliance_n with_o she_o when_o it_o be_v dangerous_a to_o his_o life_n ver_fw-la 8_o 9_o which_o strength_n of_o his_o affection_n to_o her_o be_v so_o abundant_o satisfy_v with_o her_o beauty_n divine_n render_v as_o a_o reason_n that_o he_o only_o of_o all_o the_o patriarch_n be_v preserve_v from_o the_o sin_n of_o polygamy_n strength_n of_o affection_n between_o marry_a person_n be_v a_o sovereign_a antidote_n against_o all_o uncleanness_n and_o how_o can_v strength_n of_o affection_n be_v expect_v where_o there_o be_v not_o satisfaction_n in_o each_o other_o person_n but_o where_o there_o be_v there_o temporal_a mercy_n become_v spiritual_a advantage_n then_o judge_n whether_o it_o be_v not_o under_o this_o main_a consideration_n of_o very_o great_a concernment_n to_o mind_n meet_v with_o both_o person_n and_o favour_n in_o such_o a_o one_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o wed_v but_o in_o a_o second_o place_n yet_o in_o a_o way_n of_o subordination_n to_o the_o former_a this_o satisfaction_n before_o speak_v of_o tend_v to_o the_o perpetuate_a love_n between_o thou_o and_o thy_o please_a consort_n jacob_n have_v two_o wife_n leah_n and_o rachel_n now_o the_o holy_a ghost_n mention_n no_o deformity_n in_o leah_n but_o that_o she_o be_v tender-eyed_n but_o rachel_n say_v the_o text_n be_v beautiful_a and_o fair_a or_o well-favoured_a gen._n 19.17_o then_o in_o ver_fw-la 18._o the_o text_n say_v and_o jacob_n love_v rachel_n and_o say_v to_o her_o father_n i_o will_v serve_v thou_o seven_o year_n for_o rachel_n thy_o young_a daughter_n he_o be_v so_o take_v with_o her_o beauty_n that_o he_o be_v content_a to_o serve_v even_o a_o seven_o year_n apprenticeship_n as_o we_o may_v say_v for_o she_o and_o verse_n 30._o it_o be_v say_v he_o love_v rachel_n more_o than_o leah_n but_o some_o may_v say_v hot_a love_n be_v soon_o cold_a do_v this_o love_n hold_v out_o i_o answer_v 35.19_o gen_n 35.19_o yea_o long_o than_o life_n for_o after_o god_n take_v rachel_n away_o by_o death_n who_o die_v in_o child-bearing_a her_o husband_n take_v care_n two_o way_n to_o preserve_v the_o remembrance_n of_o she_o first_o he_o call_v her_o son_n who_o she_o die_v of_o benjamin_n the_o son_n of_o my_o right_a hand_n as_o if_o he_o have_v say_v this_o benjamin_n be_v the_o son_n of_o my_o wife_n rachel_n who_o be_v as_o dear_a to_o i_o as_o my_o right_a hand_n his_o mother_n have_v call_v he_o benoni_n as_o much_o as_o to_o say_v the_o son_n of_o my_o sorrow_n but_o that_o name_n must_v not_o pass_v 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the_o second_o place_n thou_o must_v kind_o and_o with_o all_o possible_a sweetness_n admonish_v she_o of_o the_o danger_n of_o sin_n and_o of_o the_o fearful_a fruit_n and_o sad_a effect_n of_o it_o as_o that_o thereby_o she_o dishonour_v a_o good_a god_n she_o wound_v she_o own_o conscience_n she_o bring_v discredit_v to_o the_o gospel_n she_o provoke_v the_o lord_n indignation_n and_o wrath_n against_o she_o to_o her_o confusion_n if_o she_o persevere_v in_o sin_n labour_v to_o persuade_v she_o that_o sin_n have_v a_o long_a tail_n of_o judgement_n at_o the_o heel_n of_o it_o externall_n internal_a and_o eternal_a inchoated_a on_o earth_n consummate_v in_o hell_n
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as_o she_o may_v if_o need_v require_v to_o her_o husband_n in_o his_o outward_a call_v but_o thou_o that_o be_v a_o wife_n if_o thou_o desire_v to_o perform_v thy_o duty_n this_o way_n then_o for_o thy_o imitation_n read_v often_o and_o consider_v serious_o of_o the_o way_n of_o the_o good_a housewife_n in_o pro._n 31.10_o to_o the_o end_n of_o that_o chapter_n and_o true_o let_v i_o tell_v thou_o that_o if_o thou_o be_v not_o conscientious_a to_o further_o thy_o husband_n in_o his_o outward_a estate_n thou_o be_v very_o unworthy_a to_o have_v any_o share_n in_o that_o honour_n of_o be_v repute_v among_o the_o number_n of_o meet_a helper_n there_o have_v many_o a_o man_n be_v raise_v to_o a_o good_a outward_a estate_n by_o the_o industry_n of_o his_o wife_n for_o the_o hand_n of_o the_o diligent_a make_v rich_a prov._n 10.4_o whether_o the_o hand_n of_o husband_n or_o wife_n and_o many_o a_o man_n have_v be_v bring_v to_o miserable_a penury_n and_o beggary_n by_o the_o idleness_n and_o such_o quality_n as_o attend_v thereon_o of_o his_o wife_n last_o the_o wife_n may_v very_o much_o help_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o outward_a estate_n by_o labour_v to_o prevent_v he_o or_o to_o seek_v to_o reclaim_v he_o from_o profuse_a unthrifty_a and_o expensive_a way_n i_o say_v she_o shall_v first_o labour_v to_o prevent_v he_o from_o such_o estate-consuming_a course_n which_o she_o may_v do_v by_o labour_v to_o provide_v all_o necessary_a and_o wholesome_a diet_n at_o home_n for_o he_o with_o due_a attendance_n and_o a_o quiet_a family_n for_o many_o a_o man_n have_v want_v these_o at_o home_n have_v seek_v they_o abroad_o and_o so_o by_o little_a and_o little_a custom_n in_o unthrifty_a course_n have_v bring_v a_o necessity_n on_o he_o of_o continuance_n in_o they_o a_o necessity_n indeed_o but_o yet_o spring_v from_o his_o own_o wicked_a heart_n but_o thou_o that_o be_v a_o wife_n if_o thou_o can_v not_o prevent_v this_o plague_n from_o fall_v on_o thy_o family_n then_o in_o the_o second_o place_n thou_o must_v labour_v in_o all_o way_n of_o wisdom_n and_o sweetness_n to_o reclaim_v he_o out_o of_o these_o pernicious_a course_n beseech_v he_o to_o consider_v his_o sin_n by_o this_o wicked_a way_n of_o his_o against_o god_n second_o against_o his_o own_o soul_n three_o against_o his_o body_n by_o unhealthfulnesse_n and_o noisome_a disease_n four_o against_o his_o credit_n five_o against_o his_o own_o estate_n sixthly_a against_o thyself_o last_o against_o his_o poor_a child_n thou_o must_v also_o labour_v to_o be_v as_o amiable_a in_o his_o eye_n as_o possible_a that_o he_o may_v delight_v in_o thy_o company_n true_o they_o be_v no_o good_a mean_n that_o some_o woman_n use_v to_o reclaim_v their_o husband_n by_o as_o to_o follow_v they_o with_o a_o enrage_a spirit_n to_o a_o alehouse_n and_o there_o to_o rail_v and_o foam_n pull_v and_o tear_v as_o if_o they_o will_v throw_v the_o house_n out_o of_o the_o window_n as_o we_o say_v for_o this_o course_n 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and_o the_o reason_n why_o i_o thus_o think_v be_v because_o thy_o husband_n alone_o have_v the_o propriety_n in_o his_o estate_n unless_o some_o agreement_n between_o you_o before_o marriage_n or_o between_o thy_o friend_n and_o he_o have_v alter_v the_o case_n and_o we_o must_v for_o ever_o walk_v by_o this_o rule_n that_o we_o must_v not_o do_v evil_a that_o good_a may_v come_v thereby_o rom._n 3.8_o for_o their_o damnation_n be_v just_a but_o this_o thou_o must_v do_v and_o in_o so_o do_v approve_v thyself_o a_o christian_n thou_o must_v act_v faith_n on_o god_n hab._n 3.17_o 18._o and_o that_o thou_o can_v not_o do_v if_o thou_o neglect_v lawful_a mean_n or_o use_v any_o that_o be_v unlawful_a husband_n the_o eight_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n now_o in_o the_o eight_o and_o last_o place_n the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o her_o husband_n be_v to_o put_v forth_o herself_o with_o all_o tenderness_n and_o endear_a affection_n with_o all_o readiness_n enlargednesse_n and_o cheerfulness_n to_o yield_v he_o comfort_v and_o succour_v in_o the_o time_n of_o bodily_a affliction_n sickness_n and_o weakness_n we_o have_v see_v before_o that_o the_o aim_v at_o comfort_n in_o all_o condition_n be_v one_o end_n and_o a_o principal_a one_o too_o of_o our_o desire_v the_o marriage_n condition_n and_o if_o a_o woman_n be_v any_o way_n negligent_a herein_o she_o do_v leave_v unperformed_a one_o special_a duty_n she_o do_v owe_v to_o her_o husband_n for_o if_o ever_o a_o man_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o his_o wife_n help_v he_o do_v so_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n when_o he_o can_v help_v himself_o now_o the_o time_n of_o sickness_n and_o weakness_n be_v such_o a_o time_n and_o then_o the_o wife_n must_v in_o a_o extraordinary_a way_n put_v forth_o her_o best_a ability_n in_o her_o own_o person_n to_o contribute_v to_o the_o foresay_a purpose_n and_o not_o only_o so_o but_o she_o must_v labour_v to_o procure_v able_a and_o faithful_a attendant_n about_o he_o and_o by_o no_o mean_n neglect_v to_o look_v out_o to_o procure_v under_o god_n help_v from_o such_o physician_n as_o have_v both_o the_o theory_n &_o practic_a part_n of_o their_o profession_n and_o manifest_v most_o tenderness_n care_n and_o honesty_n for_o the_o good_a and_o recovery_n of_o their_o patient_n but_o what_o mean_v soever_o she_o make_v use_v of_o she_o must_v depend_v on_o the_o god_n of_o mean_n for_o a_o blessing_n which_o she_o must_v crave_v of_o he_o by_o earnest_n and_o fervent_a prayer_n for_o such_o prayer_n be_v a_o mean_v sanctify_v of_o god_n to_o save_v the_o sick_a jam._n 5.15_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o here_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o to_o lay_v down_o the_o particular_a duty_n that_o the_o wife_n do_v owe_v to_o her_o husband_n of_o which_o she_o must_v make_v conscience_n as_o in_o the_o presence_n of_o god_n and_o that_o as_o she_o will_v approve_v herself_o to_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n to_o her_o husband_n the_o number_n of_o which_o duty_n you_o see_v be_v eight_o first_o matrimonial_a love_n second_o cohabitation_n three_o to_o be_v helpful_a to_o he_o in_o the_o best_a thing_n for_o the_o good_a of_o his_o soul_n four_o submission_n to_o he_o five_o to_o reverence_v he_o sixthly_a to_o labour_v to_o bear_v with_o his_o infirmity_n seven_o to_o yield_v he_o furtherance_n in_o his_o outward_a estate_n eighthly_a and_o last_o to_o labour_v to_o help_v and_o comfort_v he_o in_o time_n of_o illness_n and_o weakness_n of_o any_o kind_n we_o have_v endeavour_v hitherto_o to_o consider_v of_o the_o distinct_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n and_o of_o the_o wife_n duty_n to_o her_o husband_n or_o which_o duty_n some_o that_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n