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if_o thou_o do_v nourish_v thy_o froward_a humour_n and_o be_v so_o often_o contend_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n thou_o do_v gratify_v thyself_o exceed_o thou_o do_v do_v as_o he_o will_v have_v thou_o thou_o do_v give_v he_o a_o welcome_a entertainment_n in_o thy_o heart_n alas_o how_o can_v thou_o fancy_v such_o a_o monstrous_a fiend_n as_o to_o comply_v with_o his_o suggestion_n be_v not_o so_o vile_a a_o wretch_n as_o to_o be_v kind_a to_o the_o mortal_a enemy_n of_o thy_o soul_n his_o design_n be_v to_o have_v thou_o angry_a and_o so_o contentious_a that_o he_o may_v hinder_v the_o exercise_n of_o thy_o reason_n and_o so_o make_v thou_o unreasonable_a in_o thy_o action_n o_o then_o when_o thy_o anger_n begin_v to_o rise_v suppress_v it_o with_o this_o consideration_n if_o i_o give_v way_n to_o my_o anger_n i_o please_v no_o one_o but_o the_o devil_n all_o other_o except_o the_o devil_n be_v displease_v with_o my_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n that_o act_n must_v needs_o be_v dreadful_o evil_a which_o the_o devil_n do_v rejoice_v in_o the_o do_n of_o what_o a_o sad_a wretch_n will_v thou_o evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v in_o despise_v the_o counsel_n of_o god_n and_o follow_v the_o devil_n god_n bid_v thou_o not_o to_o be_v of_o a_o hasty_a spirit_n but_o to_o forgive_v the_o trespass_n of_o thy_o brother_n and_o the_o devil_n tell_v thou_o be_v not_o such_o a_o fool_n as_o to_o pass_v by_o such_o wrong_n or_o suffer_v such_o opposition_n and_o will_v thou_o slight_v god_n to_o hearken_v to_o the_o devil_n shall_v the_o devil_n prevail_v more_o with_o thou_o than_o god_n will_v thou_o shut_v the_o door_n of_o thy_o heart_n against_o god_n and_o open_v it_o to_o let_v in_o satan_n then_o thou_o make_v thyself_o a_o child_n of_o
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the_o lord_n they_o be_v to_o be_v separate_v from_o the_o ordinary_a course_n of_o that_o they_o may_v more_o free_o and_o whole_o dedicate_v themselves_o to_o the_o service_n of_o god_n and_o to_o a_o more_o strict_a and_o pure_a course_n of_o serve_v god_n than_o other_o man_n use_v and_o indeed_o god_n confine_v they_o to_o strict_a rule_n they_o be_v to_o abstain_v from_o any_o thing_n that_o do_v belong_v to_o the_o vine_n hereby_o also_o signify_v a_o full_a and_o perfect_a renounce_v all_o worldly_a pleasure_n or_o any_o thing_n tend_v thoreunto_o intimate_v that_o they_o be_v not_o only_o to_o abstain_v from_o all_o evil_a but_o all_o appearance_n of_o evil_a 1_o thes_n 5.22_o all_o the_o outward_a ceremony_n enjoin_v they_o be_v but_o type_n of_o inward_a holiness_n i_o take_v notice_n of_o one_o thing_n enjoin_v they_o which_o be_v most_o especial_o to_o my_o purpose_n which_o be_v that_o they_o shall_v drink_v no_o vinegar_n of_o wine_n or_o any_o other_o strong_a liquor_n that_o be_v to_o signify_v that_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o vinegar_n spirit_n of_o sour_a and_o eager_a spirit_n but_o of_o of_o quiet_a spirit_n of_o love_v and_o meek_a spirit_n now_o all_o the_o saint_n of_o god_n they_o be_v nazarites_n as_o christ_n be_v a_o nazarite_n so_o all_o that_o be_v christ_n be_v nazarite_n separate_v from_o other_o to_o be_v the_o lord_n people_n the_o lord_n separate_v the_o godly_a man_n for_o himself_o as_o in_o psal_n 4.3_o but_o know_v that_o the_o lord_n have_v set_v apart_o he_o that_o be_v godly_a for_o himself_o and_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o harsh_a and_o hot_a spirit_n but_o shall_v be_v adorn_v with_o this_o lovely_a amiable_a grace_n of_o meekness_n so_o that_o a_o hasty_a froward_a and_o passionate_a spirit_n be_v direct_o opposite_a to_o a_o meek_a patient_a and_o quieâ—_n spirit_n and_o if_o there_o be_v any_o grace_n in_o a_o furious_a person_n it_o be_v rake_v up_o under_o a_o great_a deal_n of_o ash_n of_o corruption_n that_o 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the_o heart_n into_o subjection_n unto_o god_n and_o unto_o another_o rule_n than_o it_o walk_v by_o before_o that_o be_v a_o principal_a work_n of_o grace_n to_o subdue_v the_o heart_n of_o a_o sinner_n unto_o god_n the_o heart_n of_o sinner_n be_v natural_o stout_a and_o rebellious_a against_o god_n and_o go_v on_o in_o a_o stubborn_a way_n till_o grace_n come_v and_o lay_v they_o under_o but_o a_o froward_a and_o passionate_a heart_n will_v be_v indeed_o above_o god_n and_o any_o of_o his_o rule_n it_o can_v keep_v itself_o under_o and_o lie_v in_o subjection_n unto_o rule_n and_o hence_o be_v the_o reason_n that_o froward_a and_o passionate_a people_n use_v to_o have_v such_o expression_n i_o will_v nay_o but_o i_o will_v and_o i_o care_v not_o their_o heart_n be_v subdue_v to_o the_o authority_n of_o god_n but_o the_o heart_n that_o be_v subdue_v to_o the_o lord_n bring_v it_o but_o a_o scripture_n and_o it_o yield_v present_o but_o a_o froward_a spirit_n be_v not_o so_o how_o 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