Selected quad for the lemma: spirit_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
spirit_n	grace_n	love_n	soul_n	6,851	5	4.8704	4	false

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A43768	Conjugall counsell, or, Seasonable advice, both to unmarried, and married persons directing the first how to enter into marriage estate, and the other how to demeane themselves in the Christian discharge of all such duties as that estate of life blads them to, that God may have glory, the church edification, and themselves and families, present and future comfort, tending much (by the blessing of God) to a through reformation of all the enormities of these evil times / by T.H. ...	Hilder, Thomas.	1653 (1653)	Wing H1974; ESTC R20660	113,375	218

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the_o peace_n of_o a_o good_a conscience_n and_o do_v enjoy_v peace_n with_o god_n which_o pass_v understanding_n phil._n 4.7_o psalm_n 37.37_o god_n give_v she_o the_o white_a stone_n and_o therein_o the_o new_a name_n write_v which_o none_o know_v but_o herself_o who_o receive_v it_o rev._n 2.17_o she_o be_v full_a of_o heavenly_a rapture_n and_o divine_a manifestation_n of_o the_o love_n of_o god_n to_o her_o soul_n on_o her_o deathbed_n she_o go_v not_o out_o by_o death_n like_o the_o snuff_n of_o a_o stink_a candle_n leave_v a_o ill_a savour_n behind_o but_o like_o jumper_n or_o the_o choice_a sweet_a perfume_n die_v abner_n as_o a_o fool_n 2_o sam._n 3.33_o no._n or_o die_v this_o precious_a christian_a as_o a_o daughter_n of_o belial_n no._n the_o thought_n thereof_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n be_v to_o be_v abhor_v with_o a_o kind_n of_o infinite_a detestation_n it_o may_v be_v true_o affirm_v that_o she_o live_v like_o a_o saint_n and_o die_v like_o a_o daughter_n of_o the_o 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instrument_n under_o his_o bless_a self_n of_o pluck_v you_o out_o of_o the_o mire_n of_o your_o corruption_n jude_n ver_fw-la 23._o and_o god_n do_v know_v that_o in_o all_o these_o line_n i_o have_v have_v a_o aim_n and_o very_o ardent_a desire_n and_o sincere_a endeavour_n to_o contribute_v something_o this_o way_n but_o to_o draw_v towards_o a_o close_o let_v i_o say_v in_o some_o sense_n as_o solomon_n prov._n 22.20_o i_o have_v write_v to_o you_o excellent_a thing_n in_o counsel_n and_o knowledge_n yet_o not_o as_o they_o flow_v from_o i_o for_o out_o of_o i_o who_o be_o but_o a_o empty_a and_o dark_a creature_n can_v no_o such_o thing_n come_v but_o as_o god_n have_v enable_v i_o through_o his_o grace_n to_o gather_v they_o together_o as_o so_o many_o precious_a flower_n spring_v in_o the_o garden_n of_o his_o own_o word_n dear_a heart_n it_o be_v say_v of_o abel_n that_o whilst_o he_o be_v dead_a he_o yet_o speak_v heb._n 11.4_o ah_o let_v i_o tell_v you_o that_o by_o these_o 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