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of_o danger_n who_o then_o shall_v help_v thou_o in_o thy_o strait_n or_o direct_v thou_o in_o time_n of_o darkness_n and_o doubt_n when_o the_o original_a of_o all_o power_n and_o the_o fountain_n of_o all_o wisdom_n have_v leave_v thou_o indeed_o if_o thou_o let_v thy_o angry_a passion_n to_o rage_n upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n thou_o do_v not_o only_o provoke_v god_n to_o be_v go_v from_o thou_o but_o to_o be_v go_v in_o distaste_n it_o be_v sad_a when_o god_n conceal_v himself_o but_o a_o little_a while_n from_o a_o poor_a soul_n and_o cloud_n his_o presence_n a_o little_a while_n a_o gracious_a soul_n can_v bear_v a_o little_a withhold_v of_o god_n from_o it_o when_o he_o let_v out_o no_o intimation_n of_o displeasure_n but_o
how_o terrible_a be_v the_o withdrawment_n of_o god_n when_o he_o withdraw_v in_o high_a displeasure_n and_o thou_o know_v not_o whether_o he_o will_v ever_o return_v again_o in_o mercy_n or_o not_o and_o it_o be_v say_v in_o 2_o sam._n 22.27_o and_o with_o the_o froward_a thou_o will_v show_v thyself_o unsavoury_a the_o hebrew_n have_v it_o with_o the_o perverse_a thou_o behave_v thyself_o as_o one_o turn_v about_o and_o that_o the_o very_a thought_n of_o god_n will_v be_v unsavoury_a and_o unpleasant_a thought_n to_o they_o angry_a froward_a person_n shall_v not_o have_v the_o least_o discovery_n or_o sense_n of_o god_n love_n while_o they_o be_v in_o their_o fit_n nor_o much_o at_o other_o time_n because_o a_o angry_a froward_a frame_n of_o spirit_n be_v a_o abomination_n to_o the_o lord_n prov._n 3.32_o &_o chap._n 8.13_o &_o 11.20_o '_o as_o frowardness_n cause_v strife_n between_o the_o near_a relation_n so_o it_o make_v contention_n between_o god_n and_o the_o soul_n the_o angry_a froward_a person_n oppose_v god_n and_o god_n oppose_v that_o person_n so_o that_o hence_o it_o appear_v that_o thou_o have_v abundant_a cause_n and_o reason_n to_o use_v all_o possible_a mean_n to_o restrain_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n because_o they_o hinder_v thou_o from_o enjoy_v the_o divine_a presence_n and_o the_o hlessed_a discovery_n of_o divine_a favour_n 2._o thou_o shall_v take_v great_a care_n to_o restrain_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n and_o hasty_a frowardness_n of_o spirit_n because_o as_o they_o prevail_v thy_o act_n be_v as_o contrary_a to_o true_a grace_n as_o any_o thing_n almost_o that_o thou_o can_v think_v of_o and_o true_o there_o may_v be_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o suspicion_n whether_o thou_o have_v true_a grace_n or_o no._n i_o conceive_v there_o may_v be_v some_o analogy_n between_o a_o nazarite_n and_o a_o gracious_a soul_n it_o be_v say_v in_o numb_a 6.2_o that_o the_o nazarite_n be_v to_o separate_v themselves_o unto_o the_o lord_n they_o be_v to_o be_v separate_v from_o the_o ordinary_a course_n of_o that_o they_o may_v more_o free_o and_o whole_o dedicate_v themselves_o to_o the_o service_n of_o god_n and_o to_o a_o more_o strict_a and_o pure_a course_n of_o serve_v god_n than_o other_o man_n use_v and_o indeed_o god_n confine_v they_o to_o strict_a rule_n they_o be_v to_o abstain_v from_o any_o thing_n that_o do_v belong_v to_o the_o vine_n hereby_o also_o signify_v a_o full_a and_o perfect_a renounce_v all_o worldly_a pleasure_n or_o any_o thing_n tend_v thoreunto_o intimate_v that_o they_o be_v not_o only_o to_o abstain_v from_o all_o evil_a but_o all_o appearance_n of_o evil_a 1_o thes_n 5.22_o all_o the_o outward_a ceremony_n enjoin_v they_o be_v but_o type_n of_o inward_a holiness_n i_o take_v notice_n of_o one_o thing_n enjoin_v they_o which_o be_v most_o especial_o to_o my_o purpose_n which_o be_v that_o they_o shall_v drink_v no_o vinegar_n of_o wine_n or_o any_o other_o strong_a liquor_n that_o be_v to_o signify_v that_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o vinegar_n spirit_n of_o sour_a and_o eager_a spirit_n but_o of_o of_o quiet_a spirit_n of_o love_v and_o meek_a spirit_n now_o all_o the_o saint_n of_o god_n they_o be_v nazarites_n as_o christ_n be_v a_o nazarite_n so_o all_o that_o be_v christ_n be_v nazarite_n separate_v from_o other_o to_o be_v the_o lord_n people_n the_o lord_n separate_v the_o godly_a man_n for_o himself_o as_o in_o psal_n 4.3_o but_o know_v that_o the_o lord_n have_v set_v apart_o he_o that_o be_v godly_a for_o himself_o and_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o harsh_a and_o hot_a spirit_n but_o shall_v be_v adorn_v with_o this_o lovely_a amiable_a grace_n of_o meekness_n so_o that_o a_o hasty_a froward_a and_o passionate_a spirit_n be_v direct_o opposite_a to_o a_o meek_a patient_a and_o quieâ—_n spirit_n and_o if_o there_o be_v any_o grace_n in_o a_o furious_a person_n it_o be_v rake_v up_o under_o a_o great_a deal_n of_o ash_n of_o corruption_n that_o it_o be_v not_o easy_o discern_v now_o the_o opposition_n that_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n bear_v to_o grace_n appear_v 1._o if_o thou_o do_v consider_v what_o it_o be_v that_o grace_n do_v in_o the_o heart_n when_o it_o first_o come_v the_o first_o thing_n be_v to_o show_v unto_o the_o soul_n it_o be_v own_o vileness_n it_o be_v own_o wretchedness_n and_o baseness_n by_o sin_n and_o the_o danger_n that_o it_o be_v in_o through_o sin_n now_o a_o froward_a passionate_a heart_n be_v very_o contrary_a to_o the_o sight_n of_o its_o own_o baseness_n and_o vileness_n for_o thou_o can_v not_o see_v thyself_o to_o be_v a_o base_a vile_a sinful_a worm_n and_o yet_o bear_v nothing_o that_o be_v against_o thou_o but_o present_o thy_o heart_n be_v in_o a_o flame_n if_o any_o thing_n do_v cross_v thou_o for_o thou_o can_v not_o be_v so_o angry_a if_o thou_o do_v not_o think_v thyself_o too_o great_a and_o too_o good_a to_o be_v cross_v 2._o when_o grace_n come_v into_o the_o heart_n it_o bring_v the_o heart_n into_o subjection_n unto_o god_n and_o unto_o another_o rule_n than_o it_o walk_v by_o before_o that_o be_v a_o principal_a work_n of_o grace_n to_o subdue_v the_o heart_n of_o a_o sinner_n unto_o god_n the_o heart_n of_o sinner_n be_v natural_o stout_a and_o rebellious_a against_o god_n and_o go_v on_o in_o a_o stubborn_a way_n till_o grace_n come_v and_o lay_v they_o under_o but_o a_o froward_a and_o passionate_a heart_n will_v be_v indeed_o above_o god_n and_o any_o of_o his_o rule_n it_o can_v keep_v itself_o under_o and_o lie_v in_o subjection_n unto_o rule_n and_o hence_o be_v the_o reason_n that_o froward_a and_o passionate_a people_n use_v to_o have_v such_o expression_n i_o will_v nay_o but_o i_o will_v and_o i_o care_v not_o their_o heart_n be_v subdue_v to_o the_o authority_n of_o god_n but_o the_o heart_n that_o be_v subdue_v to_o the_o lord_n bring_v it_o but_o a_o scripture_n and_o it_o yield_v present_o but_o a_o froward_a spirit_n be_v not_o so_o how_o contrary_a then_o be_v frowardness_n to_o grace_n i_o may_v instance_n in_o many_o other_o particular_n but_o i_o shall_v be_v too_o large_a then_o o_o then_o be_v passion_n and_o frowardness_n so_o opposite_a to_o grace_n do_v it_o either_o hinder_v the_o work_n of_o grace_n in_o the_o heart_n or_o at_o least_o weaken_v yea_o smother_v grace_n that_o it_o be_v almost_o extinguish_v though_o not_o total_o yet_o so_o as_o it_o be_v not_o easy_o discernible_a do_v thou_o not_o then_o see_v great_a reason_n to_o use_v all_o mean_n to_o mortify_v thy_o passion_n 3._o thou_o shall_v use_v thy_o utmost_a endeavour_n to_o mortify_v thy_o passion_n and_o live_v in_o peace_n with_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n because_o thou_o do_v manifest_v a_o true_o noble_a and_o generous_a spirit_n if_o thou_o will_v pass_v by_o offence_n without_o manifest_v anger_n and_o frowardness_n of_o spirit_n to_o this_o effect_n speak_v solomon_n prov._n 19.11_o it_o be_v the_o glory_n of_o a_o man_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n that_o be_v not_o to_o manifest_v a_o angry_a displeasure_n for_o a_o offence_n that_o another_o do_v he_o and_o so_o we_o say_v when_o we_o restrain_v our_o anger_n against_o another_o for_o any_o thing_n do_v amiss_o i_o will_v pass_v you_o by_o for_o this_o time_n i_o will_v not_o take_v any_o severe_a notice_n of_o what_o you_o have_v do_v o_o it_o be_v a_o honourable_a thing_n to_o bridle_v anger_n when_o a_o person_n be_v offend_v to_o wink_v at_o small_a infirmity_n and_o remit_v great_a wrong_n generous_n spirit_n be_v as_o it_o be_v impenetrable_a by_o offence_n yea_o a_o spirit_n true_o elevate_v a_o generous_a and_o noble_a soul_n be_v always_o quiet_a moderate_a and_o grave_n never_o suffer_v itself_o to_o be_v transport_v with_o the_o violent_a motion_n of_o choler_n certain_o a_o meek_a person_n have_v a_o magnanimous_a and_o heroic_a spirit_n see_v what_o the_o wise_a man_n say_v in_o prov._n 16.32_o he_o that_o be_v slow_a to_o anger_n be_v better_a than_o the_o mighty_a and_o he_o that_o rule_v his_o spirit_n than_o he_o that_o take_v a_o city_n he_o that_o overcome_v himself_o be_v strong_a than_o one_o that_o overcome_v a_o city_n now_o it_o be_v a_o glorious_a thing_n for_o a_o soldier_n to_o overcome_v a_o city_n but_o one_o that_o can_v overcome_v his_o own_o passion_n be_v more_o valiant_a and_o have_v a_o more_o excellent_a spirit_n than_o one_o that_o overcome_v a_o great_a city_n and_o so_o some_o creature_n that_o be_v more_o heroical_a be_v more_o meek_a and_o gentle_a than_o other_o be_v the_o lion_n be_v of_o a_o more_o generous_a spirit_n than_o the_o wolf_n be_v the_o more_o honourable_a any_o one_o be_v the_o more_o he_o be_v of_o a_o peaceable_a disposition_n and_o his_o anger_n be_v
anger_n to_o fall_v into_o the_o disease_n of_o melancholy_a frenzy_n madness_n apoplexy_n palsy_n and_o falling-sickness_n which_o be_v the_o usual_a effect_n of_o this_o prevail_a distemper_n of_o furious_a passion_n o_o then_o shall_v i_o be_v angry_a upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n and_o offer_v my_o body_n and_o spirit_n such_o great_a injury_n no_o i_o will_v not_o for_o i_o can_v pretend_v to_o hope_v for_o any_o inward_a or_o outward_a comfort_n by_o my_o anger_n nay_o my_o passion_n do_v not_o only_o impair_v the_o health_n of_o my_o body_n but_o mighty_o deform_v my_o body_n it_o deform_v my_o countenance_n and_o take_v away_o the_o amiable_a sweetness_n of_o it_o which_o appear_v in_o a_o calm_a and_o love_a temper_n i_o shall_v loathe_v myself_o shall_v i_o view_v my_o picture_n while_o i_o be_v in_o my_o fury_n before_o the_o frown_a wrinkle_n and_o inflame_a blood_n have_v return_v to_o their_o place_n and_o have_v leave_v my_o visage_n to_o its_o natural_a comeliness_n be_v it_o not_o then_o better_a to_o forget_v injury_n pass_v by_o wrong_n bear_v with_o some_o opposition_n and_o deny_v the_o gratify_n of_o my_o will_n than_o do_v my_o body_n and_o spirit_n so_o much_o prejudice_n and_o lose_v that_o contentment_n and_o sweetness_n that_o by_o meekness_n i_o may_v enjoy_v and_o lose_v that_o inward_a peace_n and_o satisfaction_n of_o mind_n that_o otherwise_o i_o may_v have_v or_o deprive_v myself_o of_o that_o beauty_n and_o comeliness_n that_o otherwise_o i_o may_v preserve_v o_o then_o god_n forbid_v that_o i_o shall_v gratify_v my_o angry_a humour_n 3._o a_o angry_a person_n be_v very_o troublesome_a to_o other_o even_o to_o the_o whole_a family_n wherein_o that_o angry_a person_n dwell_v and_o all_o those_o that_o do_v converse_v with_o he_o or_o she_o when_o the_o husband_n or_o wife_n be_v angry_a or_o froward_a o_o how_o extreme_o burdensome_a be_v he_o or_o she_o to_o that_o family_n that_o solomon_n say_v in_o two_o place_n prov._n 21.9_o 19_o that_o it_o be_v better_a to_o dwell_v on_o the_o housetop_n or_o in_o the_o wilderness_n than_o to_o dwell_v with_o a_o brawl_a woman_n in_o a_o wide_a house_n she_o be_v such_o a_o vexation_n to_o all_o those_o with_o who_o she_o dwell_v he_o instance_v in_o a_o woman_n because_o that_o sex_n be_v most_o subject_a to_o this_o brawl_a kind_n of_o life_n they_o be_v most_o apt_a to_o be_v angry_a and_o contentious_a a_o angry_a husband_n or_o a_o angry_a wife_n be_v a_o torment_n to_o all_o those_o that_o live_v in_o family_n and_o therefore_o the_o holy_a ghost_n by_o solomon_n say_v in_o prov._n 22.24_o make_v no_o friendship_n with_o a_o angry_a man_n and_o with_o a_o furious_a man_n thou_o shall_v not_o go_v there_o be_v no_o good_a to_o be_v get_v by_o the_o company_n of_o one_o that_o be_v usual_o angry_a upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n there_o be_v no_o peace_n to_o be_v enjoy_v in_o angry_a person_n company_n a_o froward_a spirit_n trouble_v his_o own_o house_n and_o consider_v what_o be_v say_v of_o such_o a_o one_o in_o prov._n 11.29_o he_o that_o trouble_v his_o own_o house_n shall_v inherit_v the_o wind_n that_o be_v as_o he_o or_o she_o have_v be_v a_o trouble_n to_o he_o or_o her_o own_o house_n so_o god_n shall_v blast_v that_o person_n in_o all_o his_o or_o her_o way_n indeed_o passion_n be_v so_o troublesome_a between_o man_n and_o wife_n as_o they_o can_v hardly_o dwell_v together_o under_o one_o roof_n because_o they_o spend_v a_o great_a part_n of_o their_o life_n in_o trouble_v one_o another_o by_o their_o passion_n they_o be_v vexatious_a to_o one_o another_o and_o in_o their_o house_n it_o be_v stormy_a weather_n all_o the_o year_n long_o that_o it_o be_v a_o very_a rare_a thing_n to_o enjoy_v any_o calm_a weather_n in_o the_o family_n where_o angry_a person_n dwell_v hence_o it_o be_v that_o husband_n and_o wife_n can_v seldom_o eat_v their_o meat_n together_o at_o one_o table_n without_o quarrel_v because_o their_o life_n be_v so_o uncomfortable_a one_o to_o another_o their_o company_n be_v very_o uncomfortable_a to_o other_o passion_n be_v a_o unruly_a thing_n and_o therefore_o troublesome_a wherever_o it_o come_v and_o will_v thou_o then_o o_o husband_n or_o wife_n cherish_v that_o evil_a humour_n in_o thou_o that_o will_v make_v thou_o a_o burden_n to_o all_o that_o converse_v with_o thou_o if_o thou_o continue_v to_o be_v angry_a upon_o every_o slight_a opposition_n or_o contradiction_n thou_o will_v be_v have_v in_o contempt_n of_o all_o that_o be_v near_o thou_o they_o will_v despise_v thy_o person_n because_o thou_o do_v break_v their_o peace_n and_o depriuâ—_v they_o of_o their_o quiet_n so_o than_o if_o thou_o have_v any_o desire_n to_o preserve_v the_o peace_n and_o quiet_a of_o thy_o house_n and_o have_v any_o esteem_n of_o those_o that_o live_v with_o thou_o do_v thy_o utmost_a endeavour_n by_o the_o assistance_n of_o the_o spirit_n to_o mortify_v thy_o angry_a passion_n 4._o the_o prevail_a of_o anger_n and_o contention_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n do_v destroy_v their_o love_n there_o be_v thereby_o a_o great_a decay_n of_o the_o affection_n of_o love_n and_o a_o augmentation_n of_o the_o passion_n of_o hatred_n anger_n make_v person_n guilty_a of_o slight_v despise_a disrespect_v and_o undervalue_v those_o they_o shall_v high_o value_v love_n and_o esteem_v and_o this_o appear_v in_o the_o follow_a particular_n 1._o when_o person_n be_v enrage_v that_o god_n providence_n do_v thwart_v their_o humour_n they_o be_v offend_v and_o displease_v with_o god_n and_o their_o love_n to_o god_n do_v very_o much_o abate_v for_o where_o love_n to_o god_n be_v ardent_a and_o prevail_a there_o every_o providential_a act_n of_o god_n be_v kind_o accept_v and_o take_v in_o good_a part_n such_o person_n as_o love_n god_n be_v well_o please_v with_o every_o dispensation_n of_o god_n and_o be_v content_v with_o every_o condition_n god_n put_v they_o in_o but_o when_o they_o be_v offend_v that_o god_n do_v not_o give_v they_o every_o thing_n according_a to_o their_o own_o will_n when_o they_o do_v not_o like_v of_o god_n dispose_v of_o they_o in_o this_o relation_n or_o in_o this_o condition_n of_o life_n and_o in_o this_o place_n of_o habitation_n and_o begin_v to_o vex_v and_o fret_v themselves_o be_v angry_a and_o in_o a_o furious_a passion_n that_o god_n do_v not_o order_n thing_n to_o their_o like_n then_o their_o murmur_n and_o repine_n their_o vex_v and_o fret_v their_o disgust_n and_o discontent_n their_o anger_n and_o displeasedness_n of_o mind_n do_v exceed_o abate_v their_o affection_n to_o god_n they_o begin_v to_o disrespect_n god_n more_o and_o more_o they_o entertain_v conceit_n as_o if_o god_n do_v do_v they_o wrong_v in_o not_o order_v all_o thing_n according_a to_o their_o humour_n in_o their_o anger_n murmur_v that_o god_n yoke_v they_o to_o such_o consort_n wish_v that_o god_n have_v otherwise_o dispose_v of_o they_o and_o know_v that_o 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nourish_v secret_a displeasure_n against_o their_o near_a relation_n no_o no_o furious_a and_o unquiet_a thought_n must_v be_v lay_v down_o by_o those_o that_o will_v have_v favour_n with_o god_n and_o compassion_n from_o god_n if_o person_n will_v compass_v god_n altar_n and_o there_o offer_v up_o the_o sacrifice_n of_o prayer_n and_o thanksgiving_n they_o must_v first_o wash_v their_o hand_n in_o innocency_n ps_n 26.6_o and_o our_o saviour_n christ_n command_v that_o before_o person_n offer_v any_o gift_n unto_o the_o lord_n that_o they_o seek_v to_o be_v reconcile_v to_o the_o party_n with_o who_o they_o be_v displease_v mat._n 5.23_o so_o long_o therefore_o as_o any_o continue_v in_o their_o anger_n they_o be_v unfit_a to_o pray_v and_o this_o appear_v most_o manifest_o in_o the_o five_o petition_n of_o the_o lord_n prayer_n where_o we_o desire_v to_o be_v forgive_v as_o we_o forgive_v mat._n 6.12_o and_o again_o our_o saviour_n christ_n do_v single_a this_o out_o of_o all_o the_o 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the_o spirit_n of_o man_n and_o woman_n and_o cause_v they_o to_o lose_v that_o beauty_n that_o they_o have_v before_o yea_o to_o lose_v much_o of_o the_o sweetness_n of_o the_o enjoyment_n of_o god_n himself_o yea_o it_o make_v they_o lose_v the_o sense_n of_o divine_a love_n as_o we_o can_v discern_v the_o sun_n when_o we_o be_v near_o a_o scorch_a fire_n so_o the_o heavenly_a heat_n of_o divine_a love_n be_v not_o feel_v if_o the_o furious_a flame_n of_o anger_n be_v kindle_v in_o people_n heart_n froward_a christian_n have_v little_a sense_n of_o god_n love_n towards_o they_o o_o then_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n do_v thy_o continual_a brawl_n hinder_v thou_o from_o receive_v good_a by_o admonition_n counsel_n
sin_n that_o thou_o may_v not_o be_v so_o much_o under_o the_o power_n of_o a_o strong_a bent_n and_o inclination_n unto_o sin_n that_o it_o may_v not_o have_v such_o life_n power_n vigour_n promptness_n and_o readiness_n to_o be_v stir_v this_o mortification_n that_o i_o here_o intend_v be_v a_o daily_a endeavour_n after_o the_o weaken_n and_o abolish_n of_o indwelling_a sin_n by_o little_a and_o little_a that_o it_o may_v not_o incline_v thou_o &_o employ_v thou_o with_o such_o efficacy_n to_o make_v thou_o a_o servant_n to_o it_o as_o heretofore_o if_o thou_o let_v the_o root_n of_o thy_o corruption_n abide_v in_o strength_n and_o vigour_n it_o will_v be_v still_o bring_v forth_o new_a fruit_n of_o the_o flesh_n and_o thou_o will_v be_v hurry_v into_o violent_a passion_n upon_o every_o slight_a occasion_n one_fw-mi if_o we_o see_v person_n rage_v in_o wrath_n and_o fury_n we_o may_v conclude_v that_o indwelling_a sin_n be_v in_o its_o full_a power_n and_o vigour_n in_o they_o now_o 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or_o mortify_v without_o the_o spirit_n thou_o then_o be_v a_o believer_n make_v daily_o and_o sincere_a opposition_n of_o indwelling_a sin_n rise_v then_o mighty_o against_o the_o first_o moving_n and_o act_n of_o thy_o corruption_n against_o its_o first_o conception_n let_v it_o not_o have_v allowance_n from_o thou_o for_o one_o step_n for_o it_o be_v impossible_a to_o fix_v bound_n to_o it_o if_o thou_o find_v thy_o corruption_n to_o begin_v to_o entangle_v thy_o thought_n rise_v up_o with_o all_o thy_o strength_n against_o it_o with_o no_o less_o indignation_n than_o if_o it_o have_v full_o accomplish_v what_o it_o aim_v at_o else_o it_o will_v get_v ground_n in_o the_o affection_n to_o delight_n in_o it_o and_o if_o thou_o find_v it_o too_o powerful_a a_o enemy_n for_o thou_o set_v faith_n on_o work_n in_o christ_n for_o the_o kill_n of_o thy_o sin_n his_o blood_n be_v the_o great_a sovereign_a remedy_n for_o sinsick_a soul_n fill_v thy_o soul_n with_o the_o due_a consideration_n of_o that_o provision_n which_o be_v lay_v up_o in_o christ_n for_o this_o end_n that_o thy_o corruption_n may_v be_v mortify_v behold_v the_o lord_n christ_n that_o have_v all_o fullness_n of_o grace_n in_o his_o heart_n all_o fullness_n of_o power_n in_o his_o hand_n he_o be_v able_a to_o slay_v all_o thy_o corruption_n there_o be_v provision_n enough_o in_o he_o for_o thy_o relief_n and_o assistance_n then_o raise_v up_o thy_o heart_n by_o faith_n to_o a_o expectation_n of_o relief_n from_o christ_n and_o thy_o soul_n shall_v be_v satisfy_v with_o the_o relief_n it_o expect_v he_o will_v assure_o deliver_v thou_o he_o will_v slay_v thy_o corruption_n mortification_n of_o sin_n be_v one_o peculiar_a end_n of_o the_o death_n of_o christ_n which_o shall_v assure_o be_v accomplish_v by_o it_o and_o this_o whole_a work_n that_o i_o be_o press_v thou_o to_o endeavour_v after_o be_v effect_v carry_v on_o and_o accomplish_v by_o the_o power_n of_o the_o spirit_n in_o all_o the_o part_n 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