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faithfulness_n to_o perform_v his_o promise_n true_o if_o you_o do_v you_o infinite_o derogate_v from_o god_n and_o much_o provoke_v he_o mind_v the_o sin_n of_o the_o israelite_n can_v god_n prepare_v a_o table_n in_o the_o wilderness_n psal_n 78.19_o 20_o 21._o mind_n also_o the_o sad_a effect_n of_o this_o god-provoking_a sin_n true_o i_o shall_v tell_v thou_o and_o i_o beseech_v thou_o to_o consider_v what_o i_o say_v thou_o can_v as_o well_o keep_v one_o hundred_o child_n as_o one_o i_o know_v this_o be_v a_o paradox_n but_o thou_o must_v know_v thou_o can_v not_o keep_v one_o to_o speak_v proper_o no_o not_o thyself_o for_o thou_o and_o thou_o yea_o and_o all_o the_o creature_n in_o the_o world_n
to_o love_n and_o good_a work_n she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n to_o help_v thou_o in_o the_o growth_n of_o grace_n here_o and_o so_o a_o mean_n of_o thy_o happiness_n hereafter_o here_o be_v more_o flower_n to_o add_v to_o thy_o begun-nosegay_n in_o the_o last_o end_n of_o marriage_n bound_v they_o together_o and_o they_o will_v be_v very_o odoriferous_a to_o please_v thy_o sense_n three_o thou_o have_v need_v to_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o choose_v a_o wife_n as_o thou_o desire_v thy_o love_n shall_v hold_v out_o to_o the_o end_n for_o if_o thou_o make_v riches_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n they_o may_v be_v lose_v they_o be_v subject_a to_o many_o casualty_n riches_n have_v wing_n like_o a_o eagle_n and_o may_v fly_v away_o prov._n 23.5_o and_o when_o they_o be_v go_v thy_o love_n will_v fly_v after_o if_o thou_o make_v beauty_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v vanish_v away_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vanity_n prov._n 31.30_o beauty_n may_v be_v take_v away_o by_o sickness_n or_o by_o some_o accidental_a blow_n in_o the_o face_n by_o loss_n of_o a_o eye_n by_o a_o canker_n in_o the_o nose_n or_o some_o other_o mean_n and_o if_o once_o go_v love_n will_v go_v too_o if_o thou_o make_v person_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v suffer_v much_o detriment_n crookedness_n may_v grow_v in_o a_o body_n former_o straight_o such_o a_o comely_a body_n may_v come_v to_o want_v a_o leg_n or_o a_o arm_n which_o will_v be_v a_o blemish_n to_o it_o now_o person_n be_v defective_a love_n will_v be_v the_o same_o if_o thou_o make_v hope_n of_o honour_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n thy_o wife_n great_a kindred_n may_v fail_v of_o power_n to_o advance_v thou_o nay_o of_o power_n to_o hold_v up_o themselves_o we_o want_v not_o plentiful_a experience_n of_o this_o or_o they_o may_v be_v prejudice_v against_o thou_o and_o frustrate_v thy_o expectation_n and_o make_v thou_o see_v too_o late_o that_o thou_o have_v but_o build_v castle_n in_o the_o air_n to_o depend_v on_o they_o so_o all_o hope_n that_o way_n be_v lose_v thy_o love_n will_v be_v lose_v too_o now_o when_o thy_o love_n have_v fetch_v its_o last_o gasp_n it_o may_v be_v happy_a be_v it_o for_o thou_o in_o some_o sense_n if_o thou_o and_o thy_o love_n may_v be_v bury_v both_o in_o one_o grave_n for_o after_o love_n be_v once_o depart_v what_o will_v or_o can_v thy_o life_n be_v but_o a_o condition_n of_o grief_n and_o heart-sorrow_n and_o great_a discontentment_n that_o thou_o shall_v have_v a_o wife_n who_o thou_o can_v take_v no_o pleasure_n in_o and_o will_v with_o all_o thy_o heart_n part_n with_o and_o yet_o it_o may_v be_v thou_o shall_v not_o part_v with_o she_o until_o death_n cut_v thou_o off_o first_o but_o if_o thou_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n and_o withal_o be_v no_o whit_n mistake_v but_o thou_o find_v it_o to_o be_v in_o the_o heart_n of_o thy_o wife_n in_o deed_n and_o in_o truth_n then_o as_o grace_n do_v increase_v so_o thy_o love_n will_v abound_v but_o grace_n can_v but_o increase_v continual_o therefore_o love_n will_v multiply_v in_o thy_o heart_n exceed_o now_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v keep_v from_o apostasy_n or_o fall_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v help_v forward_o in_o all_o christian_a counsel_n and_o good_a way_n and_o as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o keep_v life_n in_o thy_o love_n and_o to_o increase_v therein_o to_o thy_o own_o comfort_n and_o the_o comfort_n of_o thy_o wife_n so_o let_v it_o be_v thy_o care_n in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n to_o look_v to_o thy_o own_o heart_n that_o it_o deceive_v thou_o not_o but_o that_o thou_o do_v indeed_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o thy_o wife_n then_o thou_o may_v certain_o expect_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n much_o comfort_n in_o such_o a_o yokefellow_n in_o all_o thy_o want_n of_o wealth_n or_o health_n of_o soul_n or_o body_n and_o may_v while_o thou_o enjoy_v she_o begin_v to_o write_v encomium_n of_o she_o and_o when_o she_o be_v dead_a 20._o gen_n 35.19_o 20._o then_o with_o jacob_n set_v up_o a_o pillar_n upon_o her_o grave_a and_o perhaps_o may_v true_o say_v many_o daughter_n have_v do_v virtuous_o but_o thou_o excelle_v they_o all_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vain_a but_o a_o woman_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n she_o shall_v be_v praise_v give_v she_o of_o the_o fruit_n of_o her_o hand_n and_o let_v she_o own_o work_n praise_v she_o in_o the_o gate_n here_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o in_o the_o amplification_n of_o the_o first_o inward_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n wife_n the_o second_o qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n in_o the_o second_o place_n the_o chief_a qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n next_o save_v grace_n be_v sweet_a disposition_n of_o nature_n that_o she_o be_v of_o a_o quiet_a and_o peaceable_a spirit_n for_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o in_o divers_a man_n and_o woman_n that_o we_o doubt_v not_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n but_o that_o they_o be_v very_o gracious_a and_o desire_v to_o prove_v their_o soul_n to_o god_n in_o all_o way_n of_o holiness_n yet_o be_v of_o bad_a nature_n and_o themselves_o can_v but_o see_v it_o and_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o they_o desire_v to_o bewail_v it_o before_o god_n in_o secret_a and_o yet_o can_v attain_v to_o have_v their_o corruption_n in_o this_o kind_n mortify_v in_o any_o comfortable_a way_n yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o person_n be_v not_o many_o time_n comfortable_a consort_n and_o therefore_o thou_o that_o be_v to_o make_v choice_n of_o a_o wife_n have_v cause_n enough_o to_o endeavour_v to_o avoid_v lay_v a_o conjugal_a tie_n upon_o thyself_o to_o live_v and_o die_v with_o such_o a_o woman_n though_o otherwise_o one_o of_o good_a part_n if_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o churlish_a nature_n &_o of_o cross_a dispositon_n in_o the_o abstract_n she_o will_v cast_v such_o a_o cool_a damp_n on_o her_o husband_n love_n as_o may_v not_o only_o chill_a but_o kill_v it_o whereby_o though_o she_o may_v be_v a_o sad_a sufferer_n herself_o she_o will_v abundant_o prejudice_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o comfort_n and_o may_v shorten_v his_o day_n for_o a_o man_n can_v live_v that_o can_v love_v the_o love_n of_o any_o thing_n give_v contentment_n to_o the_o mind_n to_o enjoy_v the_o same_o a_o cross_n and_o tart_n nature_n in_o a_o wife_n un-wifes_n her_n as_o i_o may_v say_v for_o she_o that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n be_v either_o not_o a_o wife_n or_o else_o a_o very_a imperfect_a one_o for_o how_o can_v she_o be_v say_v to_o be_v a_o wife_n that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n who_o be_v unfit_a for_o comfortable_a society_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v as_o sharp_a and_o bitter_a touchy_a and_o tangue_n by_o nature_n will_v not_o ordinary_o be_v sociable_a love_a kind_a and_o amiable_a in_o her_o carriage_n and_o deportment_n to_o her_o husband_n and_o do_v it_o not_o concern_v thou_o to_o avoid_v she_o in_o thy_o choice_n of_o a_o wife_n for_o such_o a_o woman_n as_o we_o speak_v of_o will_v not_o make_v a_o good_a wife_n nor_o good_a mother_n nor_o good_a dame_n or_o mistress_n she_o will_v not_o be_v good_a in_o any_o relation_n i_o mean_v in_o the_o latter_a part_n of_o this_o discourse_n where_o a_o untoward_a nature_n be_v predominant_a in_o a_o woman_n solomon_n say_v it_o be_v be_v better_a to_o dwell_v in_o a_o corner_n of_o the_o house_n top_n than_o with_o a_o brawl_a woman_n in_o a_o wide_a house_n prov._n 21.9_o he_o also_o say_v the_o contention_n of_o a_o wife_n be_v a_o continual_a drop_n pro._n 19.13_o a_o continual_a drop_n will_v wear_v waist_n and_o consume_v stone_n as_o observation_n will_v prove_v and_o true_o this_o drop_n from_o a_o contentious_a wife_n will_v wear_v waste_n and_o consume_v not_o only_o all_o the_o comfort_n that_o her_o husband_n otherwise_o may_v have_v in_o she_o but_o his_o skin_n flesh_n bone_n marrow_n and_o vital_a spirit_n and_o all_o in_o time_n the_o apostle_n tell_v we_o that_o a_o meek_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n in_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o great_a price_n with_o god_n 1_o pet._n 3.4_o and_o so_o it_o be_v doubtless_o with_o every_o rational_a man_n therefore_o as_o thou_o will_v avoid_v many_o inconvenience_n in_o the_o marriage_n estate_n and_o wear_v the_o comfort_n of_o it_o as_o a_o crown_n of_o all_o temporal_a felicity_n so_o labour_v to_o gain_v a_o woman_n of_o sweet_a natural_a disposition_n of_o a_o very_a amiable_a and_o
but_o if_o by_o these_o love_a admonition_n thou_o can_v not_o prevail_v thou_o must_v then_o proceed_v to_o sharp_a â—_o proof_n and_o rebuke_n thou_o shall_v not_o hate_v say_v god_n thy_o brother_n in_o thy_o heart_n thou_o shall_v in_o any_o wise_a rebuke_n thy_o neighbour_n and_o not_o suffer_v sin_n upon_o he_o leu._n 19.17_o now_o if_o a_o man_n shall_v be_v tender_a of_o the_o salvation_n of_o a_o brother_n and_o of_o a_o neighbour_n then_o much_o more_o of_o the_o salvation_n of_o a_o wife_n who_o have_v a_o kind_n of_o oneness_n with_o thyself_o rachel_n be_v jacob_n best_o belove_a wife_n yet_o when_o in_o a_o discontent_a humour_n she_o come_v to_o he_o and_o say_v give_v i_o child_n or_o else_o i_o die_v thereby_o derogate_a from_o god_n and_o arrogate_a to_o her_o husband_n which_o sin_n of_o she_o we_o read_v not_o that_o ever_o before_o she_o do_v commit_v yet_o the_o text_n note_n that_o when_o jacob_n hear_v iâ—_n his_o anger_n be_v kindle_v and_o he_o say_v unto_o she_o be_o i_o in_o god_n stead_n who_o have_v withhold_v from_o thou_o the_o fruit_n of_o the_o womb_n gen._n 30.1_o 2._o the_o wife_n of_o job_n bid_v he_o curse_n god_n and_o die_v which_o be_v her_o fearful_a sin_n her_o husband_n reply_v with_o a_o word_n of_o sharp_a reproof_n and_o tell_v she_o that_o she_o speak_v like_o a_o foolish_a woman_n job_n 2.10_o when_o the_o tumour_n be_v swell_v to_o such_o a_o bigness_n it_o be_v full_a time_n to_o lance_v it_o and_o apply_v corrosive_n to_o it_o to_o eat_v out_o the_o corruption_n else_o it_o may_v gangrene_n to_o the_o destruction_n of_o the_o body_n but_o herein_o use_v thy_o best_a wisdom_n to_o choose_v the_o fit_a time_n and_o place_n to_o seek_v to_o fasten_v a_o reproof_n on_o she_o now_o a_o seasonable_a and_o fit_a time_n thus_o to_o deal_v with_o she_o be_v when_o she_o be_v out_o of_o her_o passion_n and_o free_a from_o perturbation_n of_o spirit_n for_o if_o she_o be_v in_o the_o heat_n of_o anger_n and_o the_o boil_a of_o her_o choler_n she_o be_v very_o unfit_a to_o be_v deal_v with_o in_o this_o way_n 37._o 1_o sam._n 25.36_o 37._o nabal_n when_o drink_v with_o wine_n be_v full_a as_o capable_a of_o a_o word_n of_o reproof_n from_o his_o discreet_a wife_n for_o his_o churlish_a and_o absurd_a carriage_n to_o david_n as_o a_o woman_n or_o man_n can_v be_v when_o drink_v with_o outrageous_a anger_n and_o passion_n from_o the_o wise_a and_o most_o judicious_a â—â—iend_n they_o have_v in_o the_o world_n for_o indeed_o thou_o take_v a_o unseasonable_a time_n to_o reprove_v thy_o wife_n thou_o do_v not_o only_o lose_v thy_o labour_n of_o win_v she_o but_o thou_o may_v fear_v she_o will_v be_v the_o more_o incorrigible_a thereby_o but_o if_o thou_o take_v a_o fit_a time_n to_o deal_v with_o she_o in_o this_o kind_n thou_o may_v hope_v through_o the_o lord_n blessing_n to_o see_v some_o good_a effect_n of_o thy_o pain_n and_o of_o the_o discharge_n of_o thy_o duty_n second_o thou_o must_v make_v choice_n of_o a_o convenient_a place_n to_o perform_v this_o duty_n of_o reproof_n which_o place_n be_v a_o secret_a and_o private_a room_n free_a from_o the_o hear_n of_o any_o other_o for_o if_o thou_o rip_v up_o her_o fault_n in_o the_o hear_n of_o other_o that_o will_v be_v a_o mean_v the_o more_o to_o enrage_v she_o and_o to_o make_v she_o the_o more_o obstinate_a in_o her_o evil_a way_n and_o the_o more_o refractory_a against_o all_o mean_n of_o good_a unto_o she_o but_o if_o she_o perceive_v thou_o do_v tender_v her_o credit_n and_o reputation_n thou_o may_v find_v she_o more_o flexible_a &_o docible_a than_o perhaps_o thou_o be_v a_o ware_n of_o but_o if_o thou_o do_v yet_o lose_v thy_o labour_n then_o in_o the_o three_o place_n make_v trial_n of_o a_o more_o public_a way_n of_o reproof_n to_o see_v if_o she_o will_v be_v ashamed_a of_o her_o vileness_n and_o labour_n to_o reform_v if_o this_o will_v not_o work_v upon_o she_o for_o amendment_n then_o in_o the_o four_o place_n thou_o 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enlargednesse_n and_o cheerfulness_n to_o yield_v he_o comfort_v and_o succour_v in_o the_o time_n of_o bodily_a affliction_n sickness_n and_o weakness_n we_o have_v see_v before_o that_o the_o aim_v at_o comfort_n in_o all_o condition_n be_v one_o end_n and_o a_o principal_a one_o too_o of_o our_o desire_v the_o marriage_n condition_n and_o if_o a_o woman_n be_v any_o way_n negligent_a herein_o she_o do_v leave_v unperformed_a one_o special_a duty_n she_o do_v owe_v to_o her_o husband_n for_o if_o ever_o a_o man_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o his_o wife_n help_v he_o do_v so_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n when_o he_o can_v help_v himself_o now_o the_o time_n of_o sickness_n and_o weakness_n be_v such_o a_o time_n and_o then_o the_o wife_n must_v in_o a_o extraordinary_a way_n put_v forth_o her_o best_a ability_n in_o her_o own_o person_n to_o contribute_v to_o the_o foresay_a purpose_n and_o not_o only_o so_o but_o she_o must_v labour_v to_o procure_v able_a and_o faithful_a attendant_n about_o he_o and_o by_o no_o mean_n neglect_v to_o look_v out_o to_o procure_v under_o god_n help_v from_o such_o physician_n as_o have_v both_o the_o theory_n &_o practic_a part_n of_o their_o profession_n and_o manifest_v most_o tenderness_n care_n and_o honesty_n for_o the_o good_a and_o recovery_n of_o their_o patient_n but_o what_o mean_v soever_o she_o make_v use_v of_o she_o must_v depend_v on_o the_o god_n of_o mean_n for_o a_o blessing_n which_o she_o must_v crave_v of_o he_o by_o earnest_n and_o fervent_a prayer_n for_o such_o prayer_n be_v a_o mean_v sanctify_v of_o god_n to_o save_v the_o sick_a jam._n 5.15_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o here_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o to_o lay_v down_o the_o particular_a duty_n that_o the_o wife_n do_v owe_v to_o her_o husband_n of_o which_o she_o must_v make_v conscience_n as_o in_o the_o presence_n of_o god_n and_o that_o as_o she_o will_v approve_v herself_o to_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n to_o her_o husband_n the_o number_n of_o which_o duty_n you_o see_v be_v eight_o first_o matrimonial_a love_n second_o cohabitation_n three_o to_o be_v helpful_a to_o he_o in_o the_o best_a thing_n for_o the_o good_a of_o his_o soul_n four_o submission_n to_o he_o five_o to_o reverence_v he_o sixthly_a to_o labour_v to_o bear_v with_o his_o infirmity_n seven_o to_o yield_v he_o furtherance_n in_o his_o outward_a estate_n eighthly_a and_o last_o to_o labour_v to_o help_v and_o comfort_v he_o in_o time_n of_o illness_n and_o weakness_n of_o any_o kind_n we_o have_v endeavour_v hitherto_o to_o consider_v of_o the_o distinct_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n and_o of_o the_o wife_n duty_n to_o her_o husband_n or_o which_o duty_n some_o that_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n
not_o worse_o be_v thy_o language_n i_o be_o certain_a that_o by_o this_o mean_v thou_o come_v within_o the_o list_n of_o that_o woe_n isa_n 5.20_o woe_n unto_o they_o who_o call_v evil_a good_a and_o good_a evil_n etc._n etc._n thou_o condemne_v god_n way_n and_o hustify_v thy_o own_o way_n let_v man_n walk_v in_o the_o way_n â—o_o get_v wealth_n or_o pleasure_n or_o carnal_a profit_n or_o worldly_a honour_n or_o run_v apace_o in_o the_o high_a road_n â—o_o hell_n these_o ungodly_a person_n before_o speak_v of_o will_v not_o dishearten_v they_o but_o rather_o encourage_v they_o by_o keep_v company_n with_o they_o but_o let_v any_o man_n or_o woman_n who_o heart_n god_n have_v warm_v with_o zeal_n for_o his_o glory_n and_o tender_a love_n to_o such_o poor_a soul_n as_o be_v under_o they_o let_v they_o but_o lend_v they_o a_o little_a finger_n to_o guide_v they_o or_o but_o a_o small_a spark_n of_o light_a to_o conduct_v they_o by_o in_o the_o way_n to_o heaven_n than_o they_o be_v in_o their_o bedlam-fits_a not_o know_v how_o to_o contain_v themselves_o within_o the_o bound_n of_o civility_n but_o these_o man_n have_v either_o never_o learn_v or_o soon_o forget_v that_o place_n of_o our_o saviour_n the_o kingdom_n of_o heaven_n suffer_v violence_n and_o the_o violent_a take_v it_o by_o force_n mat._n 11.12_o and_o other_o place_n luk._n 13.24_o heb._n 12.14_o luk._n 11.52_o such_o opposite_a spirit_a man_n and_o woman_n as_o these_o will_n by_o no_o mean_n endure_v that_o any_o child_n or_o friend_n of_o they_o shall_v come_v within_o the_o wall_n of_o a_o godly_a family_n to_o live_v in_o for_o fear_v they_o shall_v become_v puritan_n as_o they_o call_v they_o but_o to_o conclude_v this_o point_n or_o use_v let_v i_o tell_v they_o that_o without_o abundance_n of_o repentance_n for_o and_o reformation_n of_o this_o sin_n they_o shall_v have_v as_o large_a a_o share_n if_o not_o more_o of_o those_o inconceivable_a misery_n which_o be_v imperfect_o mention_v in_o the_o use_n of_o reproof_n and_o terror_n as_o the_o portion_n of_o such_o as_o do_v any_o way_n neglect_v the_o performance_n of_o those_o duty_n they_o owe_v unto_o child_n and_o servant_n and_o it_o may_v be_v they_o shall_v have_v a_o large_a share_n than_o the_o other_o because_o for_o aught_o can_v be_v know_v such_o scoff_a ishmael_n as_o these_o have_v be_v a_o special_a cause_n of_o hinder_v many_o from_o the_o performance_n of_o their_o duty_n to_o their_o family-relation_n which_o otherwise_o will_v have_v set_v themselves_o to_o the_o discharge_n of_o those_o duty_n the_o use_n in_o the_o last_o place_n may_v be_v for_o exhortation_n use_v 4_o to_o stir_v up_o christian_a parent_n and_o master_n first_o to_o labour_v to_o be_v well_o acquaint_v with_o those_o duty_n which_o they_o owe_v unto_o their_o child_n and_o servant_n and_o then_o to_o set_v themselves_o with_o much_o diligence_n pain_n and_o care_n to_o the_o performance_n of_o they_o the_o duty_n have_v be_v lay_v down_o and_o full_o demonstrate_v from_o divers_a scripture_n there_o have_v be_v some_o illustration_n and_o amplification_n of_o they_o and_o divers_a undeniable_a reason_n to_o urge_v the_o performance_n of_o they_o now_o what_o shall_v i_o say_v this_o pain_n as_o in_o order_n to_o thou_o be_v lose_v if_o thou_o sit_v still_o and_o come_v not_o forth_o to_o the_o performance_n of_o they_o when_o david_n have_v make_v a_o large_a preparation_n for_o build_v the_o house_n of_o god_n in_o jerusalem_n have_v get_v together_o abundance_n of_o material_n for_o that_o magnificent_a work_n what_o say_v he_o to_o his_o son_n solomon_n arise_v say_v he_o therefore_o and_o be_v do_v and_o the_o lord_n be_v with_o thou_o 1_o chro._n 22.16_o now_o if_o without_o offence_n i_o may_v allude_v to_o to_o this_o i_o may_v say_v i_o have_v endeavour_v as_o god_n have_v gracious_o enable_v i_o to_o prepare_v in_o some_o poor_a measure_n some_o material_n to_o help_v thou_o to_o â—uild_v god_n a_o temple_n or_o church_n in_o his_o own_o family_n unto_o which_o i_o desire_v thou_o may_v add_v in_o thy_o retire_a meditation_n now_o i_o also_o say_v to_o thou_o arise_v and_o be_v do_v and_o the_o lord_n be_v with_o â—hee_o thou_o will_v say_v thou_o be_v a_o poor_a weak_a creature_n thy_o knowledge_n be_v little_a and_o thy_o part_n â—re_n small_a let_v i_o advise_v thou_o to_o gain_v good_a form_n of_o catechism_n be_v studious_a in_o they_o be_v diligent_a to_o improve_v they_o for_o the_o good_a of_o all_o under_o thou_o by_o this_o mean_n if_o thou_o be_v conscientious_a indeed_o and_o seek_v to_o approve_v thyself_o to_o god_n in_o thy_o discharge_n of_o these_o duty_n and_o abundant_o desire_v to_o yield_v furtherance_n to_o the_o soul_n of_o thy_o wife_n child_n and_o servant_n by_o this_o mean_n i_o say_v thou_o shall_v find_v that_o in_o teach_v other_o thy_o own_o knowledge_n shall_v increase_v and_o thou_o have_v a_o promise_n from_o the_o mouth_n of_o christ_n for_o this_o that_o to_o he_o that_o have_v more_o shall_v be_v give_v and_o he_o shall_v have_v in_o abundance_n mat_n 13.12_o we_o have_v a_o good_a proverb_n applicable_a here_o that_o be_v use_v leg_n and_o have_v leg_n and_o thou_o say_v thy_o part_n be_v weak_a if_o thou_o can_v not_o pray_v with_o thy_o family_n but_o in_o a_o very_a weak_a manner_n than_o i_o say_v pray_v to_o god_n to_o teach_v thou_o to_o pray_v pray_v in_o secret_a for_o both_o the_o spirit_n and_o gift_n of_o prayer_n that_o thou_o may_v be_v able_a to_o perform_v it_o in_o thy_o family_n but_o beware_v thou_o set_v not_o too_o high_a a_o rate_n on_o the_o gift_n of_o prayer_n for_o it_o often_o go_v alone_o without_o the_o spirit_n thou_o be_v better_o of_o the_o two_o have_v the_o spirit_n of_o prayer_n than_o the_o gift_n but_o both_o together_o do_v best_a especial_o in_o relation_n to_o edify_a other_o simon_n magus_n desire_v to_o purchase_v a_o power_n to_o give_v the_o holy_a ghost_n to_o who_o he_o please_v his_o end_n be_v base_a as_o well_o as_o his_o tender_a vile_a he_o do_v aim_v as_o good_a divine_n think_v at_o popular_a applause_n beside_o a_o curse_a gain_n true_o i_o much_o fear_v popular_a applause_n and_o vain_a ostentation_n be_v too_o too_o much_o the_o aim_n of_o some_o in_o our_o time_n where_o i_o see_v a_o gift_n of_o prayer_n yea_o and_o of_o preach_v too_o and_o a_o spirit_n of_o predominant_a pride_n i_o must_v take_v the_o liberty_n to_o think_v of_o such_o a_o man_n as_o i_o do_v apprehend_v clear_a ground_n for_o this_o last_o passage_n i_o do_v insert_v for_o this_o end_n principal_o to_o take_v off_o the_o inordinate_a affection_n of_o any_o poor_a soul_n from_o the_o gift_n of_o prayer_n sincerity_n in_o all_o thy_o walking_n with_o god_n will_v comfort_v thou_o in_o the_o midst_n of_o all_o defect_n and_o what_o know_v thou_o dear_a christian_n but_o god_n will_v join_v his_o strength_n with_o thy_o weakness_n and_o make_v thou_o a_o instrument_n of_o beget_v soul_n to_o god_n as_o well_o as_o body_n and_o so_o make_v thou_o in_o a_o sense_n a_o spiritual_a father_n as_o well_o as_o a_o bodily_a and_o enable_v thou_o at_o the_o last_o day_n to_o say_v to_o god_n behold_v here_o be_o i_o and_o the_o child_n who_o thou_o have_v give_v i_o where_o we_o may_v allude_v to_o that_o which_o the_o apostle_n apply_v and_o make_v proper_a to_o christ_n heb._n 2.13_o now_o in_o the_o last_o place_n for_o it_o deserve_v no_o other_o by_o thy_o religious_a care_n to_o further_a thy_o child_n and_o servant_n in_o the_o way_n of_o god_n thou_o may_v make_v such_o child_n and_o servant_n very_o profitable_a to_o thou_o in_o outward_a respect_n paul_n take_v notice_n that_o onesimus_n be_v no_o profitable_a servant_n to_o his_o master_n when_o he_o be_v graceless_a but_o after_o he_o be_v convert_v he_o tell_v philemon_n that_o now_o he_o be_v profitable_a phil._n 11._o there_o be_v much_o cry_v out_o in_o the_o world_n and_o not_o without_o cause_n against_o stubborn_a disobedient_a and_o undutiful_a child_n and_o against_o refractory_a and_o unprofitable_a servant_n but_o may_v not_o the_o neglect_n of_o parent_n and_o master_n about_o make_v their_o child_n in_o the_o use_n of_o mean_n god_n child_n and_o their_o servant_n by_o the_o foresay_a mean_n the_o servant_n of_o god_n may_v not_o i_o say_v this_o be_v a_o special_a cause_n of_o all_o this_o confusion_n doubtless_o yea_o for_o it_o be_v just_a with_o god_n that_o when_o thou_o will_v not_o make_v thy_o child_n and_o servant_n to_o answer_v god_n end_n at_o least_o so_o far_o as_o possible_a thou_o may_v that_o thy_o own_o shall_v be_v whole_o frustrate_a thus_o much_o for_o the_o use_n belove_a be_v please_v to_o