how_o terrible_a be_v the_o withdrawment_n of_o god_n when_o he_o withdraw_v in_o high_a displeasure_n and_o thou_o know_v not_o whether_o he_o will_v ever_o return_v again_o in_o mercy_n or_o not_o and_o it_o be_v say_v in_o 2_o sam._n 22.27_o and_o with_o the_o froward_a thou_o will_v show_v thyself_o unsavoury_a the_o hebrew_n have_v it_o with_o the_o perverse_a thou_o behave_v thyself_o as_o one_o turn_v about_o and_o that_o the_o very_a thought_n of_o god_n will_v be_v unsavoury_a and_o unpleasant_a thought_n to_o they_o angry_a froward_a person_n shall_v not_o have_v the_o least_o discovery_n or_o sense_n of_o god_n love_n while_o they_o be_v in_o their_o fit_n nor_o much_o at_o other_o time_n because_o a_o angry_a froward_a frame_n of_o spirit_n be_v a_o abomination_n to_o the_o lord_n prov._n 3.32_o &_o chap._n 8.13_o &_o 11.20_o '_o as_o frowardness_n cause_v strife_n between_o the_o near_a relation_n so_o it_o make_v contention_n between_o god_n and_o the_o soul_n the_o 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the_o heart_n into_o subjection_n unto_o god_n and_o unto_o another_o rule_n than_o it_o walk_v by_o before_o that_o be_v a_o principal_a work_n of_o grace_n to_o subdue_v the_o heart_n of_o a_o sinner_n unto_o god_n the_o heart_n of_o sinner_n be_v natural_o stout_a and_o rebellious_a against_o god_n and_o go_v on_o in_o a_o stubborn_a way_n till_o grace_n come_v and_o lay_v they_o under_o but_o a_o froward_a and_o passionate_a heart_n will_v be_v indeed_o above_o god_n and_o any_o of_o his_o rule_n it_o can_v keep_v itself_o under_o and_o lie_v in_o subjection_n unto_o rule_n and_o hence_o be_v the_o reason_n that_o froward_a and_o passionate_a people_n use_v to_o have_v such_o expression_n i_o will_v nay_o but_o i_o will_v and_o i_o care_v not_o their_o heart_n be_v subdue_v to_o the_o authority_n of_o god_n but_o the_o heart_n that_o be_v subdue_v to_o the_o lord_n bring_v it_o but_o a_o scripture_n and_o it_o yield_v present_o but_o a_o froward_a spirit_n be_v not_o so_o how_o 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be_v better_a than_o the_o mighty_a and_o he_o that_o rule_v his_o spirit_n than_o he_o that_o take_v a_o city_n he_o that_o overcome_v himself_o be_v strong_a than_o one_o that_o overcome_v a_o city_n now_o it_o be_v a_o glorious_a thing_n for_o a_o soldier_n to_o overcome_v a_o city_n but_o one_o that_o can_v overcome_v his_o own_o passion_n be_v more_o valiant_a and_o have_v a_o more_o excellent_a spirit_n than_o one_o that_o overcome_v a_o great_a city_n and_o so_o some_o creature_n that_o be_v more_o heroical_a be_v more_o meek_a and_o gentle_a than_o other_o be_v the_o lion_n be_v of_o a_o more_o generous_a spirit_n than_o the_o wolf_n be_v the_o more_o honourable_a any_o one_o be_v the_o more_o he_o be_v of_o a_o peaceable_a disposition_n and_o his_o anger_n be_v
very_a ordinance_n of_o god_n know_v that_o god_n will_v not_o bear_v it_o at_o thy_o hand_n to_o frustrate_v that_o great_a ordinance_n of_o he_o let_v the_o wife_n then_o consider_v the_o husband_n as_o one_o that_o god_n command_v that_o she_o shall_v reverence_v and_o obey_v in_o all_o thing_n that_o be_v not_o sinful_a and_o let_v the_o husband_n consider_v the_o wife_n as_o the_o weak_a vessel_n and_o bear_v with_o her_o sinless_a infirmity_n this_o be_v the_o way_n to_o keep_v fair_a and_o comfortable_a weather_n always_o between_o they_o but_o the_o wife_n may_v come_v under_o the_o first_o head_n of_o inferior_n god_n have_v put_v she_o in_o a_o inferior_a condition_n and_o therefore_o frowardness_n and_o passion_n be_v very_o uncomely_a in_o she_o o_o then_o as_o ever_o you_o will_v prevent_v tempestuous_a weather_n between_o you_o as_o ever_o you_o will_v maintain_v love_n comfort_n and_o quietness_n between_o you_o strive_v to_o refrain_v from_o angry_a passion_n 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and_o avoid_v all_o occasion_n of_o wrath_n and_o fall_v out_o do_v not_o do_v any_o thing_n to_o contract_v a_o discontent_a peevish_a habit_n do_v not_o in_o your_o impatiency_n wrangle_v and_o disquiet_v one_o another_o speak_v not_o reproachful_a and_o provoke_a word_n talk_v hot_o do_v blow_v the_o fire_n and_o increase_v the_o flame_n be_v but_o silent_a and_o you_o will_v soon_o return_v to_o your_o serenity_n and_o peace_n some_o calm_a and_o condescend_v word_n of_o reason_n may_v stop_v the_o torrent_n and_o revive_v the_o reason_n which_o passion_n have_v overcome_v foul_n word_n as_o they_o tend_v to_o disgrace_v and_o displease_v one_o another_o so_o they_o produce_v many_o evil_a effect_n after_o thunder_n come_v rain_n do_v not_o then_o cast_v on_o oil_n or_o fuel_n by_o answer_v one_o another_o provokingly_a or_o sharp_o or_o by_o multiply_a word_n or_o by_o answer_v wrath_n with_o wrath_n you_o must_v endeavour_v to_o mollify_v &_o not_o exasperate_v one_o another_o o_o that_o argument_n may_v prevail_v with_o you_o to_o take_v this_o course_n o_o then_o in_o how_o much_o sweetness_n amity_n and_o peace_n may_v you_o live_v with_o one_o another_o 6._o consider_v that_o no_o excuse_n or_o pretence_n whatsoever_o can_v justify_v your_o be_v angry_a with_o one_o another_o thou_o may_v say_v perhaps_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n i_o be_o of_o a_o very_a hasty_a and_o choleric_a nature_n and_o can_v leave_v it_o but_o shall_v be_v soon_o angry_a when_o occasion_n be_v give_v this_o vain_a excuse_n be_v no_o better_a than_o adam_n figleaf_n to_o hide_v the_o nakedness_n of_o sin_n and_o will_v not_o justify_v thy_o furious_a passion_n for_o if_o thou_o be_v of_o a_o passionate_a nature_n thou_o have_v a_o nature_n that_o be_v abominable_a to_o god_n prov._n 3.32_o for_o the_o froward_a be_v a_o abomination_n to_o the_o lord_n that_o be_v which_o god_n esteem_v and_o account_v a_o abomination_n for_o when_o the_o heart_n be_v froward_a the_o person_n devise_v mischief_n continual_o and_o sow_v discord_n cap._n 6.14_o this_o frowardness_n in_o the_o heart_n as_o it_o intimate_v perverseness_n of_o the_o heart_n so_o also_o a_o passionate_a nature_n so_o none_o be_v more_o obstinate_a and_o perverse_a than_o angry_a person_n and_o be_v the_o causer_n of_o great_a dissension_n and_o disagreement_n and_o therefore_o such_o god_n hate_v because_o he_o love_v transgression_n that_o love_v strife_n cap._n 17.19_o a_o angry_a nature_n be_v always_o brawl_v and_o contention_n be_v the_o original_a cause_n of_o many_o sin_n which_o the_o contentious_a person_n by_o his_o act_n seem_v to_o love_v therefore_o do_v not_o plead_v thy_o nature_n by_o way_n of_o excuse_n if_o thy_o nature_n be_v choleric_a it_o be_v not_o the_o nature_n that_o god_n create_v thou_o in_o for_o god_n make_v man_n upright_o after_o his_o own_o image_n like_o himself_o who_o be_v slow_a to_o anger_v it_o be_v the_o glory_n of_o god_n to_o be_v slow_a to_o wrath_n and_o thy_o froward_a nature_n be_v not_o god_n nature_n it_o be_v but_o thy_o original_a corruption_n thou_o be_v froward_a and_o thy_o original_a corruption_n be_v in_o the_o strength_n of_o it_o be_v this_o any_o lessen_v of_o the_o evil_a of_o the_o root_n because_o it_o have_v corrupt_a branch_n or_o will_v it_o lessen_v the_o evil_n of_o a_o child_n because_o it_o have_v a_o wicked_a father_n and_o therefore_o thou_o be_v not_o to_o excuse_v one_o sin_n with_o another_o but_o rather_o earnest_o labour_v that_o this_o pollution_n may_v be_v wash_v away_o with_o the_o water_n of_o god_n spirit_n who_o by_o his_o grace_n do_v reform_v nature_n if_o thou_o be_v of_o such_o a_o wicked_a disposition_n that_o thou_o can_v not_o but_o be_v angry_a thy_o sin_n be_v the_o more_o heinous_a and_o thy_o state_n the_o more_o dangerous_a for_o root_a sickness_n be_v worse_a than_o new-bred_n a_o old_a sore_n than_o a_o green_a wound_n the_o fin_n that_o be_v set_v most_o deep_a in_o nature_n be_v most_o hateful_a and_o dangerous_a therefore_o thy_o be_v of_o a_o choleric_a nature_n shall_v be_v thy_o humiliation_n not_o thy_o excuse_n for_o if_o thou_o have_v nothing_o but_o nature_n nothing_o to_o overcome_v thy_o nature_n thou_o shall_v never_o go_v to_o heaven_n for_o every_o man_n and_o woman_n in_o the_o world_n that_o have_v the_o least_o degree_n of_o grace_n be_v make_v partaker_n of_o the_o divine_a nature_n now_o the_o divine_a nature_n that_o prevail_v reign_n and_o rule_n in_o the_o heart_n therefore_o to_o plead_v nature_n to_o excuse_v anger_n be_v as_o much_o as_o to_o say_v i_o be_o yet_o the_o child_n of_o wrath_n therefore_o i_o can_v cease_v to_o be_v angry_a o_o thou_o may_v say_v i_o be_o flesh_n and_o blood_n and_o how_o can_v i_o be_v able_a to_o be_v of_o such_o a_o quiet_a and_o meek_a spirit_n when_o i_o be_o wrong_v indeed_o it_o be_v very_o difficult_a it_o be_v true_a all_o good_a thing_n be_v difficult_a and_o meekness_n will_v not_o be_v so_o excellent_a a_o grace_n be_v it_o not_o difficult_a to_o attain_v but_o it_o be_v difficult_a only_o to_o those_o that_o have_v no_o gracious_a principle_n in_o they_o a_o endeavour_n to_o conquer_v thy_o passion_n may_v seem_v difficult_a at_o first_o but_o try_v once_o or_o twice_o and_o thou_o wiâ—t_v find_v so_o much_o sweetness_n in_o thy_o spirit_n that_o it_o will_v not_o appear_v so_o difficult_a but_o find_v this_o yoke_n of_o christ_n very_o easy_a and_o though_o thou_o be_v flesh_n and_o blood_n yet_o thou_o have_v reason_n to_o rule_v flesh_n &_o blood_n if_o thou_o be_v but_o flesh_n and_o blood_n shall_v vile_a flesh_n and_o blood_n take_v so_o much_o upon_o it_o as_o if_o it_o be_v cross_v in_o any_o thing_n to_o fly_v in_o the_o face_n of_o god_n and_o revile_v thy_o dear_a relation_n and_o cross_a god_n will_n it_o be_v sad_a that_o flesh_n and_o blood_n shall_v do_v this_o and_o i_o tell_v thou_o if_o ever_o thou_o be_v save_v thou_o must_v be_v more_o than_o flesh_n 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thy_o own_o mind_n therefore_o give_v not_o way_n to_o anger_n see_v it_o blind_v reason_n which_o be_v the_o light_n and_o guide_v of_o the_o soul_n if_o man_n abhor_v drunkenness_n and_o that_o worthy_o because_o it_o make_v they_o differ_v from_o bruit_n beast_n only_o in_o shape_n of_o body_n why_o shall_v thou_o not_o for_o the_o same_o cause_n hate_v this_o vice_n of_o anger_n which_o like_o a_o burn_a ague_n do_v so_o disturb_v thy_o mind_n and_o while_o the_o fit_n last_v it_o utter_v nothing_o but_o rave_v do_v not_o then_o nourish_v thy_o froward_a humour_n nor_o give_v way_n to_o thy_o wrath_n be_v not_o of_o a_o hasty_a spirit_n whereby_o thou_o be_v guilty_a of_o such_o rashness_n and_o fierceness_n in_o all_o thy_o action_n because_o those_o furious_a act_n be_v so_o contrary_a to_o right_a reason_n 2._o another_o effect_n of_o anger_n and_o discord_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v that_o they_o be_v great_a enemy_n to_o the_o quiet_a of_o their_o own_o heart_n a_o angry_a passion_n be_v a_o great_a disturber_n of_o a_o man_n or_o woman_n own_o peace_n that_o we_o may_v say_v of_o it_o as_o the_o wise_a man_n say_v of_o cruelty_n prov._n 11.17_o he_o that_o be_v cruel_a trouble_v his_o own_o flesh_n so_o those_o that_o be_v of_o froward_a spirit_n they_o trouble_v their_o own_o flesh_n and_o trouble_v their_o spirit_n too_o it_o do_v macerate_v and_o vex_v the_o soul_n with_o fury_n for_o what_o great_a torment_n can_v we_o imagine_v than_o to_o have_v the_o mind_n distract_v upon_o the_o rack_n of_o rage_n as_o therefore_o we_o will_v account_v he_o a_o mad_a man_n who_o with_o his_o own_o hand_n shall_v set_v his_o house_n on_o fire_n and_o consume_v it_o alike_o mad_a be_v that_o person_n to_o be_v think_v who_o will_v set_v he_o or_o her_o soul_n on_o fire_n with_o the_o rage_a flame_n of_o anger_n wherein_o it_o be_v not_o only_o torment_v in_o this_o life_n but_o also_o without_o repentance_n in_o the_o life_n to_o come_v it_o shall_v be_v 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anger_n to_o fall_v into_o the_o disease_n of_o melancholy_a frenzy_n madness_n apoplexy_n palsy_n and_o falling-sickness_n which_o be_v the_o usual_a effect_n of_o this_o prevail_a distemper_n of_o furious_a passion_n o_o then_o shall_v i_o be_v angry_a upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n and_o offer_v my_o body_n and_o spirit_n such_o great_a injury_n no_o i_o will_v not_o for_o i_o can_v pretend_v to_o hope_v for_o any_o inward_a or_o outward_a comfort_n by_o my_o anger_n nay_o my_o passion_n do_v not_o only_o impair_v the_o health_n of_o my_o body_n but_o mighty_o deform_v my_o body_n it_o deform_v my_o countenance_n and_o take_v away_o the_o amiable_a sweetness_n of_o it_o which_o appear_v in_o a_o calm_a and_o love_a temper_n i_o shall_v loathe_v myself_o shall_v i_o view_v my_o picture_n while_o i_o be_v in_o my_o fury_n before_o the_o frown_a wrinkle_n and_o inflame_a blood_n have_v return_v to_o their_o place_n and_o have_v leave_v my_o visage_n to_o its_o natural_a 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and_o abase_v himself_o for_o thou_o what_o can_v kill_v pride_n if_o the_o humbling_n of_o christ_n do_v not_o how_o may_v thou_o school_v and_o chastise_v thy_o proud_a soul_n with_o the_o remembrance_n of_o christ_n in_o his_o abasement_n what!_o be_v christ_n a_o humble_a christ_n and_o shall_v i_o be_v a_o proud_a christian_n be_v he_o a_o humble_a master_n and_o shall_v i_o be_v a_o proud_a disciple_n do_v christ_n empty_v himself_o and_o make_v himself_o of_o no_o reputation_n and_o shall_v i_o that_o be_o but_o emptiness_n be_v lift_v up_o with_o a_o reputation_n of_o myself_o or_o with_o a_o reputation_n that_o other_o have_v of_o i_o do_v christ_n abuse_v himself_o to_o the_o form_n of_o a_o servant_n and_o shall_v i_o lift_v up_o myself_o as_o if_o i_o do_v reign_v as_o a_o king_n christ_n humble_v himself_o and_o become_v obedient_a to_o death_n even_o the_o death_n of_o the_o cross_n and_o what_o have_v i_o to_o glory_n in_o but_o the_o cross_n of_o christ_n gal._n 6.14_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o have_v any_o thing_n to_o be_v proud_a of_o it_o be_v the_o cross_n of_o christ_n think_v then_o often_o and_o much_o of_o the_o humbling_n of_o christ_n and_o then_o thou_o will_v think_v of_o thyself_o as_o a_o mere_a nothing_o this_o be_v the_o most_o effectual_a mean_n through_o the_o spirit_n to_o bring_v down_o the_o swell_n of_o thy_o heart_n and_o to_o make_v thou_o true_o humble_a and_o thus_o i_o have_v end_v what_o i_o have_v to_o say_v in_o direct_v thou_o how_o to_o get_v thy_o pride_n mortify_v and_o thy_o spirit_n humble_v o_o then_o if_o thou_o will_v be_v restrain_v from_o sinful_a anger_n and_o if_o ever_o thou_o will_v have_v any_o quiet_a in_o thy_o own_o spirit_n and_o carry_v it_o peaceable_o and_o quiet_o to_o thy_o husband_n or_o to_o thy_o wife_n endeavour_v to_o be_v of_o a_o more_o lowly_a spirit_n and_o to_o be_v clothe_v with_o humility_n as_o long_o as_o thou_o do_v nourish_v thy_o proud_a humour_n thou_o will_v fall_v out_o with_o thy_o near_a relation_n for_o every_o trifle_n but_o a_o lowly_a spirit_n do_v its_o utmost_a to_o preserve_v peace_n and_o unity_n such_o a_o one_o be_v so_o tender_a of_o other_o as_o that_o he_o or_o she_o be_v not_o willing_a to_o grieve_v any_o one_o in_o the_o world_n much_o less_o a_o husband_n or_o a_o wife_n therefore_o the_o apostle_n say_v philip._n 2.3_o let_v nothing_o be_v do_v through_o strife_n and_o vainglory_n but_o in_o lowliness_n of_o mind_n let_v each_o esteem_v other_o better_a than_o themselves_o the_o lust_n of_o vainglory_n whereby_o a_o person_n endeavour_v more_o to_o gain_v esteem_n from_o man_n than_o to_o honour_n god_n be_v the_o mother_n of_o contention_n and_o strife_n and_o a_o great_a enemy_n to_o union_n and_o peace_n and_o here_o the_o
apostle_n prescribe_v humility_n as_o a_o antidote_n against_o strife_n and_o contention_n and_o a_o sovereign_n mean_a for_o attain_v unto_o and_o entertain_v of_o union_n and_o peace_n but_o where_o pride_n be_v predominant_a man_n and_o woman_n walk_v so_o as_o that_o they_o care_v not_o to_o give_v content_a to_o any_o body_n but_o themselves_o in_o the_o family_n they_o must_v have_v all_o the_o content_n and_o no_o body_n else_o be_v please_v certain_o a_o humble_a spirit_n be_v much_o free_a from_o angry_a passion_n than_o any_o other_o because_o as_o a_o humble_a person_n be_v not_o willing_a to_o give_v offence_n to_o any_o so_o be_v not_o ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o for_o it_o be_v pride_n of_o spirit_n to_o be_v ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o upon_o every_o trifle_n and_o by_o this_o mean_n person_n prove_v to_o be_v very_o burdensome_a to_o other_o the_o ground_n of_o a_o proud_a person_n take_v offence_n be_v this_o because_o they_o think_v that_o every_o body_n must_v say_v as_o they_o say_v and_o do_v as_o they_o do_v else_o they_o cry_v out_o that_o they_o be_v always_o oppose_v and_o because_o they_o think_v their_o own_o judgement_n best_o and_o such_o a_o thing_n be_v better_a therefore_o other_o must_v do_v it_o and_o if_o they_o do_v not_o than_o they_o be_v lofty_a than_o they_o be_v proud_a and_o stout_a and_o break_v out_o into_o unseemly_a speech_n be_v inflame_v with_o passion_n evidence_v that_o they_o be_v under_o the_o tyranny_n of_o their_o pride_n so_o that_o there_o be_v no_o prevent_v of_o anger_n &_o contention_n between_o husband_n &_o wife_n without_o the_o mortification_n of_o their_o pride_n 4._o another_o direction_n to_o prevent_v sinful_a anger_n and_o hot_a contest_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v that_o thou_o do_v consider_v that_o god_n be_v merciful_a and_o gracious_a slow_a to_o anger_n and_o abundant_a in_o kindness_n exod._n 34.6_o and_o as_o he_o be_v not_o easy_o provoke_v to_o anger_n so_o be_v provoke_v his_o anger_n last_v not_o long_a for_o he_o will_v not_o always_o chide_v nor_o keep_v his_o anger_n for_o ever_o psal_n 103._o 8_o 9_o the_o lord_n with_o much_o lenity_n suffer_v the_o vessel_n ordain_v to_o destruction_n how_o long_o do_v he_o suffer_v the_o old_a world_n how_o loath_a be_v he_o to_o strikeâ—_n if_o in_o and_o hundred_o &_o twenty_o year_n he_o can_v have_v reclaim_v they_o he_o will_v have_v forbear_v they_o 1_o pet._n 3.20_o the_o measure_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o mercy_n towards_o we_o be_v daily_o boundless_a and_o exceed_v all_o measure_n he_o forgive_v we_o every_o moment_n much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v possible_o be_v wrong_v of_o man_n yea_o he_o forgive_v that_o person_n that_o injure_v we_o much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v forgive_v he_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o will_v evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v a_o child_n of_o god_n must_v thou_o not_o labour_v to_o express_v his_o virtue_n this_o be_v that_o the_o apostle_n exhort_v col._n 3.12_o 13._o put_v on_o therefore_o as_o the_o elect_a of_o god_n holy_a and_o belove_a bowel_n of_o mercy_n kindness_n humbleness_n of_o mind_n meekness_n long-suffering_a forbear_v one_o another_o if_o any_o man_n have_v a_o quarrel_n against_o any_o even_o as_o christ_n forgive_v you_o even_o so_o do_v you_o he_o recommend_v the_o practice_n of_o meekness_n and_o long-suffering_a which_o consist_v in_o bear_v with_o and_o pardon_v of_o even_o real_a injury_n do_v by_o other_o and_o persuade_v to_o it_o from_o christ_n example_n in_o pardon_v we_o the_o example_n of_o god_n and_o christ_n be_v a_o most_o convince_a pattern_n for_o exciting_a we_o to_o pardon_v and_o forgive_v on_o another_o if_o we_o consider_v either_o the_o greatness_n of_o those_o wrong_n which_o he_o pardon_v isa_n 1.18_o or_o our_o baseness_n who_o do_v injure_v he_o isa_n 40.17_o 22._o or_o his_o omnipotency_n to_o right_v himself_o of_o the_o wrong_n do_v unto_o he_o mat._n 10.28_o do_v thou_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o forgiveness_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o forgive_v thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n shall_v god_n forgive_v thou_o infinite_a sin_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o pass_v by_o one_o offence_n do_v thâ—n_o stand_v in_o deed_n of_o a_o sea_n of_o mercy_n for_o the_o wash_n away_o thy_o many_o foul_a offence_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o let_v one_o drop_v fall_n upon_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n to_o forbear_v or_o forgive_v in_o trifle_a wrong_n certain_o if_o husband_n and_o wife_n will_v but_o serious_o consider_v these_o thing_n it_o will_v make_v all_o quarrelling_n and_o contention_n between_o they_o to_o cease_v o_o what_o little_a cause_n have_v thou_o then_o to_o manifest_v a_o furious_a spirit_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n for_o every_o trifle_n see_v god_n do_v not_o deal_v furious_o with_o thou_o for_o great_a offence_n o_o that_o these_o consideration_n may_v prevent_v husband_n and_o wife_n rage_v against_o and_o fall_v out_o one_o with_o another_o for_o the_o time_n to_o come_v 5._o if_o thou_o will_v keep_v thy_o spirit_n quiet_a and_o free_a from_o furious_a passion_n when_o any_o thing_n be_v do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n that_o be_v contrary_a to_o thy_o mind_n and_o do_v much_o displease_v look_v up_o to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n and_o acknowledge_v the_o providence_n of_o god_n without_o which_o not_o the_o least_o grief_n or_o injury_n can_v befall_v thou_o for_o even_o the_o least_o be_v a_o portion_n of_o that_o cup_n which_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n reach_v out_o to_o thou_o to_o drink_v of_o job_n look_v not_o at_o the_o sabean_o and_o thief_n that_o take_v away_o his_o good_n but_o at_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n the_o lord_n have_v take_v away_o bless_a be_v his_o name_n job_n 1.21_o 22._o he_o be_v satisfy_v that_o god_n will_v that_o in_o righteousness_n and_o justice_n which_o they_o act_v with_o so_o much_o cruelty_n and_o injustice_n david_n look_v up_o to_o god_n when_o shimei_n curse_v he_o quiet_v his_o spirit_n and_o restrain_v his_o anger_n so_o in_o psal_n 39.9_o i_o be_v dumb_a and_o open_v not_o my_o mouth_n o_o lord_n because_o thou_o do_v it_o he_o do_v neither_o manifest_a forwardness_n nor_o discontent_n because_o he_o take_v notice_n of_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n joseph_n do_v not_o vent_v his_o passion_n against_o his_o brother_n for_o sell_v he_o to_o the_o ishmeelite_n but_o keep_v himself_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n by_o consider_v this_o it_o be_v god_n that_o send_v i_o hither_o a_o godly_a man_n can_v be_v angry_a at_o the_o do_v or_o speak_v of_o that_o which_o please_v god_n to_o order_v the_o speak_n or_o do_v of_o because_o he_o know_v he_o be_v bind_v to_o submit_v to_o the_o will_n of_o god_n and_o thy_o only_a observe_v of_o the_o person_n that_o do_v in_o any_o way_n displease_v thou_o and_o not_o consider_v that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v the_o cause_n that_o thou_o be_v so_o often_o transport_v with_o furious_a passion_n a_o observation_n that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v as_o water_v to_o quench_v the_o inflammation_n of_o thy_o angry_a passion_n this_o persuasion_n that_o god_n see_v cause_n for_o all_o the_o wrong_n that_o thou_o do_v suffer_v be_v many_o way_n forceable_a to_o move_v thou_o unto_o patience_n for_o 1._o if_o thou_o do_v look_v to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n in_o those_o thing_n that_o distaste_n thou_o it_o will_v constrain_v thou_o to_o confess_v that_o all_o thy_o chastisement_n be_v just_a far_o less_o than_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v for_o indeed_o all_o the_o opposition_n that_o thou_o have_v from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v in_o some_o measure_n a_o rebuke_n of_o god_n against_o some_o miscarriage_n of_o thou_o and_o god_n in_o permit_v thou_o to_o be_v exercise_v with_o such_o thing_n as_o do_v very_o much_o distaste_n thy_o spirit_n do_v do_v thou_o no_o wrong_n because_o it_o be_v not_o commensurate_a to_o the_o merit_n of_o thy_o sin_n for_o indeed_o such_o cross_n and_o provocation_n as_o thou_o do_v meet_v with_o from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v but_o light_a to_o a_o gracious_a heart_n and_o if_o not_o so_o light_a to_o thou_o as_o to_o other_o yet_o but_o momentory_n but_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v infinite_a and_o eternal_a punishment_n if_o therefore_o the_o lord_n use_v those_o earthly_a rod_n to_o correct_v thy_o sin_n thou_o shall_v rather_o admire_v his_o mercy_n than_o be_v angry_a at_o so_o gentle_a chastisement_n if_o thou_o do_v but_o consider_v that_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n be_v in_o every_o thing_n whereby_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n displease_v thou_o thou_o will_v
beginning_n which_o have_v break_v out_o into_o most_o fearful_a outrage_n how_o often_o be_v it_o in_o a_o family_n that_o a_o little_a spark_n do_v kindle_v a_o great_a fire_n at_o first_o there_o may_v be_v but_o a_o word_n speak_v amiss_o that_o may_v easy_o have_v be_v pass_v over_o but_o that_o word_n beget_v another_o and_o another_o and_o so_o grow_v to_o a_o most_o hideous_a flame_n sometime_o it_o be_v between_o the_o near_a relation_n as_o husband_n and_o wife_n that_o a_o contention_n do_v arise_v between_o they_o for_o a_o very_a small_a matter_n sometime_o for_o the_o very_a gesture_n of_o the_o hand_n or_o some_o spot_n on_o the_o apparel_n oh_o a_o very_a slight_a ground_n for_o distaste_n and_o it_o argue_v very_o little_a or_o no_o grace_n in_o that_o heart_n that_o be_v displease_v with_o such_o inconsiderable_a thing_n with_o which_o god_n be_v not_o displease_v at_o all_o sometime_o it_o begin_v in_o the_o very_a countenance_n the_o wife_n think_v that_o her_o 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never_o be_v relate_v to_o he_o and_o some_o go_v so_o far_o as_o to_o use_v indirect_a mean_n to_o extinguish_v the_o relation_n other_o grow_v fond_a of_o other_o man_n and_o so_o come_v to_o have_v unlawful_a intimacy_n with_o they_o whereas_o have_v there_o be_v care_v take_v by_o she_o at_o the_o beginning_n all_o this_o may_v have_v be_v prevent_v as_o the_o wise_a man_n say_v prov._n 17.14_o the_o beginning_n of_o strife_n be_v as_o one_o let_v out_o water_n therefore_o leave_v off_o contention_n before_o it_o be_v meddle_v with_o or_o before_o the_o breach_n be_v make_v so_o great_a as_o not_o to_o be_v repair_v so_o then_o when_o thy_o heart_n be_v first_o set_v on_o fire_n with_o anger_n do_v thou_o present_o endeavour_v to_o quench_v it_o with_o the_o water_n of_o the_o spirit_n for_o after_o thou_o be_v thorough_o inflame_v it_o will_v be_v too_o late_o to_o apply_v any_o remedy_n till_o the_o flame_n have_v spend_v itself_o but_o thou_o may_v say_v i_o fall_v into_o 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any_o thing_n give_v not_o place_n to_o wrath_n let_v it_o not_o have_v vent_n by_o sudden_a or_o unadvised_a word_n anger_n smother_v will_v languish_v but_o let_v out_o will_v flame_n into_o further_a mischief_n it_o be_v some_o cure_n of_o passion_n to_o delay_v it_o therefore_o solomon_n say_v prov._n 19.11_o the_o discretion_n of_o a_o man_n defer_v his_o anger_n and_o it_o be_v wisdom_n so_o to_o do_v so_o it_o be_v thy_o honour_n it_o be_v the_o glory_n of_o a_o man_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n not_o to_o take_v distaste_n at_o every_o offence_n therefore_o it_o be_v good_a to_o check_v thy_o precipitant_a motion_n by_o delay_n and_o due_a recourse_n to_o reason_n lest_o by_o follow_v thy_o passion_n too_o close_o thou_o run_v thyself_o into_o great_a inconvenience_n o_o by_o thy_o quickness_n and_o shortness_n of_o spirit_n thou_o be_v transport_v into_o many_o indecency_n which_o dishonour_n god_n and_o wound_v thy_o conscience_n therefore_o do_v what_o thou_o can_v to_o suppress_v thy_o anger_n as_o soon_o as_o it_o do_v appear_v if_o this_o course_n be_v take_v by_o husband_n and_o wife_n it_o will_v be_v a_o excellent_a mean_n to_o prevent_v and_o suppress_v anger_n and_o discord_n between_o they_o 11._o if_o thou_o will_v not_o be_v angry_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n take_v heed_n of_o too_o much_o curiosity_n in_o observe_v every_o little_a thing_n or_o every_o trifle_n in_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n word_n or_o action_n if_o thou_o will_v not_o be_v angry_a thou_o must_v past_o over_o a_o great_a many_o thing_n and_o take_v no_o notice_n of_o they_o thou_o must_v have_v a_o kind_n of_o holy_a negligence_n of_o a_o great_a many_o thing_n and_o pass_v over_o and_o see_v and_o not_o see_v and_o turn_v away_o thy_o ear_n from_o many_o thing_n as_o in_o eccles_n 7.21_o also_o take_v no_o heed_n unto_o all_o word_n that_o be_v speak_v many_o thing_n that_o be_v speak_v thou_o must_v let_v pass_v unregarded_a many_o time_n hard_a say_n or_o ill_a speech_n vain_a and_o undervalue_a speech_n speech_n speak_v at_o random_n without_o occasion_n without_o consideration_n and_o without_o any_o real_a detriment_n to_o we_o must_v not_o be_v take_v notice_n of_o to_o make_v they_o occasion_n of_o enmity_n and_o discord_n or_o to_o break_v our_o own_o peace_n and_o tranquillity_n thus_o mr._n cotten_n on_o this_o wise_a therefore_o i_o say_v do_v not_o take_v notice_n of_o hard_a or_o slight_a speech_n speak_v against_o thyself_o or_o vain_a impertinent_a word_n that_o do_v thou_o no_o personal_a prejudice_n paul_n take_v little_a notice_n of_o word_n speak_v against_o he_o 1_o cor._n 3.4_o but_o with_o i_o it_o be_v a_o very_a small_a thing_n that_o i_o shall_v be_v judge_v of_o you_o never_o keep_v empty_a impertinent_a word_n
in_o thy_o memory_n for_o thy_o memory_n be_v not_o to_o be_v fill_v with_o trash_n and_o all_o occasion_n of_o enmity_n and_o discord_n shall_v be_v put_v out_o of_o thy_o mind_n as_o in_o levit._n 19.18_o when_o thing_n do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n be_v not_o of_o any_o consequence_n rather_o let_v he_o or_o she_o know_v that_o thou_o do_v not_o take_v notice_n of_o they_o but_o if_o thou_o will_v be_v take_v notice_n of_o or_o offend_v with_o every_o thing_n that_o be_v do_v or_o speak_v it_o be_v impossible_a but_o there_o will_v be_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o disturbance_n between_o thyself_o and_o husband_n 12._o if_o thou_o have_v a_o angry_a husband_n or_o a_o angry_a wife_n and_o yet_o after_o all_o the_o mean_n thou_o have_v use_v to_o prevent_v he_o or_o her_o angry_a passion_n yet_o if_o he_o or_o she_o remain_v froward_a and_o contentious_a upon_o every_o trifle_n then_o observe_v this_o rule_n that_o thou_o resolve_v to_o walk_v before_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n in_o a_o convince_a way_n thy_o wife_n be_v of_o a_o troublesome_a spirit_n and_o wrest_v every_o word_n that_o thou_o speak_v and_o give_v thou_o rail_v and_o revile_v speech_n thou_o can_v not_o in_o any_o way_n meddle_v with_o she_o but_o thou_o do_v foul_a thy_o finger_n yet_o resolve_v with_o thyself_o that_o thou_o will_v not_o render_v she_o revile_v for_o revile_v and_o though_o she_o be_v froward_a yet_o thou_o will_v not_o deal_v froward_o with_o she_o say_v within_o thyself_o i_o will_v do_v what_o i_o can_v to_o convince_v she_o in_o a_o constant_a way_n of_o good_a of_o holiness_n justice_n and_o righteousness_n it_o may_v be_v i_o may_v melt_v her_o heart_n that_o way_n i_o be_o resolve_v whatever_o evil_n she_o do_v to_o i_o i_o will_v do_v good_a to_o she_o here_o be_v a_o peaceable_a spirit_n indeed_o and_o this_o be_v the_o way_n to_o keep_v peace_n between_o thyself_o and_o wife_n when_o mean_n have_v be_v try_v to_o quiet_a her_o spirit_n yet_o it_o can_v 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discord_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n thou_o may_v cry_v out_o of_o the_o contention_n that_o be_v between_o thy_o self_n and_o husband_n of_o the_o bitterness_n of_o his_o spirit_n and_o that_o he_o be_v a_o offence_n to_o thou_o but_o i_o appeal_v this_o day_n in_o the_o name_n of_o god_n to_o thy_o conscience_n what_o time_n have_v thou_o spend_v in_o secret_a prayer_n to_o make_v thy_o moan_n to_o god_n to_o complain_v to_o god_n in_o secret_a between_o god_n and_o thy_o soul_n perhaps_o when_o thou_o be_v in_o more_o public_a prayer_n thou_o may_v pray_v god_n to_o heal_v the_o breach_n betwixt_o thou_o and_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n but_o when_o thou_o have_v be_v in_o secret_a have_v thou_o pour_v out_o thy_o heart_n with_o earnest_a prayer_n that_o god_n will_v find_v out_o mean_v of_o reconciliation_n say_v unto_o the_o lord_n there_o be_v a_o great_a distance_n between_o myself_o and_o wife_n or_o between_o myself_o and_o husband_n and_o i_o find_v all_o mean_n 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