satisfie the vast and boundless desires of the Soul which cause is God for the Soul could not make it self and its admirable faculties 5. The practices of Satan prove as much for the devil labours by all means to move men to deny God to draw them to sin and all ungodliness to extinguish the light of the word and to keep men in ignorance bring them into errours prophaness and all wickedness as our present times and all Ages prove by woful experience and so to bring men to eternal destruction which plainly shews that there is a God who is most holy just good and that gives eternal life to his children servants that desire faithfully to serve him keep his law and obey his commandments John 10.27 28. Heb. 5.9 6. The consent of all Nations in the world prove clearly that there is a God no Nation was ever so barbarous as not to acknowledge and worship a God as the Heathen Orator Cicero observed although they could not by the light of nature know the true God yet they had and worshipped many Gods or Idols rather yea some unknown as Acts 17.23 To the unknown God that they might be sure amongst them all to worship the true God a plain sure argument that they knew there is a God to whom divine worship is due 7. The defence protection and increase of the Church and people of God who were very few at the first notwithstanding all the malice fury power and policy of the Devil and all worldly men his instruments who were very many to one Christian and those many of them of great Authority malice power and policy and laboured with all their might by all means possible that the Devil and worldly men could invent utterly to root out all that did own and profess Jesus Christ and the Christian Religion as Psal 83.2 3 4 5 6. Notwithstanding the Christians have been wonderfully preserved defended supported and strengthned to indure contempt disgrace poverty imprisonment and the most exquisite torments that could be invented even to the death with invincible courage and admirable patience comfort and cheerfulness also many of them were much increased by the very same means the Enemies used to root them out and the Enemies were plagued with dreadful judgements and horrors of conscience so that many of them out of anguish and despair of attaining their ends the destruction of the Church made away themselves others did leave their places of great Authority power wealth and honour which is an evident demonstration that there is a God of infinite power wisdom goodness and justice that did so defend protect support comfort and multiply his suffering people and disappoint plague and severely punish their Enemies that they might easily see their sin in their punishment 8. Lastly to name no more it is an evident and undeniable argument that there is a God that such as have studied to become Atheists could never blot this truth out of their consciences but at some times were forced to confess that there is a God at least to fear and tremble at the thoughts of his Majesty and wonderful workes as thunder and such like 2. That there is but one God is evident to common reason because there can be but one infinite omnipotent eternal and most perfect being but one first cause of all things for all things are referred to one first cause Dan. 4.35 Rom. 11.36 Revel 1.8 and 4.11 3. That there are three distinct persons or manners of subsisting in that one God-head That there is a plurality of divine persons more then one is evident from the Hebrew forms of speaking of God Gen. 1.1 In the original word for word Gods he created a Noun plural to a Verb singular Isai 54.5 Thy makers is thy husbands Eccles. 12.1 Remember thy Creators So Psalm 149.2 Also Genes 19.24 Jehovah rained upon Sodom and Gomorrha brimstone and fire from Jehovah out of heaven likewise Gen. 1.26 Let us make man Job 35.10 These and divers other Hebrew forms and expressions prove that there is a plurality of persons of divine persons in the God-head That there is a Trinity three distinct divine persons in the God-head is clearly evidenced and so as cannot with any colour of reason be denyed from those words of our Saviour Matth. 28.19 Go and teach all Nations baptizing them in the name of the Father of the Son and of the holy Ghost Also from 1 John 5.7 There are three that beare record in Heaven the Father the Word and the holy Ghost and these three are one namely one God See likewise Mat. 3.16 17. Which three divine persons in that one undivided essence nature or God-head are these the Father the Son and the holy-Holy-Ghost or Spirit and are all co-equal co-essential and co-eternal of a most pure and spiritual nature infinite in understanding wisdom power goodness mercy most holy and most righteous That God is the creator maker preserver and governour of the whole world and of all persons and things in it with all their actions and events that he made man after his own Image in knowledge righteousness and true holiness who by eating of the forbidden fruit lost the Image of God in which he was created and all his peace and happiness and all mankind in him and became very sinful and miserable of himself and by nature altogether unable to do any thing that is truly and spiritually good and pleasing unto God or not to do evil which brings guilt and condemnation That Jesus Christ the eternal Son of God the second Person in the blessed Trinity took on him the nature of man and was made in all things like unto us sin only excepted was born of the Virgin Mary suffered under Pontius Pilate and so on as it is in the Creed and this that in our nature name and stead he might fulfil the law satisfie Gods justice and purchase for all his righteousness and life eternal Also that Jesus Christ is the Prophet Priest and King of his Church 1. A Prophet to reveal unto us the way to everlasting life what we are to know believe and do that we might be eternally saved Deut. 18.18 19. John 6.14 Luke 4.18 19. 2. That he is a Priest and our great high Priest to offer up himself a sacrifice once for all Heb. 5.1 and 9.26 Which he did by his suffering death and rising again to satisfie the justice and law of God for mans sins in transgressing his law and thereby purchasing for all his eternal redemption reconciliation forgiveness of sins justification acceptation of our persons and services and eternal life Rom. 4.25 and all good things needful for this life and that to come and also to make intercession to the Father for us Heb. 7.25 3. That Christ is also a King to bridle and subdue all his Enemies Col. 2.15 1 Cor. 15.28 Psal 110.1 2. and so gather govern his Elect and chosen powerfully to save them out of
the hand and power of sin Satan death and hell bring them into his Church and kingdome by effectual calling and regeneration and to govern them by his word and spirit to life everlasting John 10.16 Haggai 2 7. Ezek. 34.23 24. Also there must be a particular and distinct knowledge in some measure of the moral law of God and of the Sacraments Of the law of God a brief sum of which we have contained in the Decalogue or Ten Commandments which contains the duty we doe owe to God and Man what is evil and what we are to repent of shun and avoid and what we are to do and practice how we are to carry our selves both towards God in all duties of piety and holiness and towards man our selves and others in the duties of mercy justice and equity The Sacraments also There must be a particular knowledge of the Sacraments of the new Testament viz. Baptism the Lords Supper Baptism is a Sacrament of our ingrafting into Christ communion with him and entrance into the Church Mat. 28.19 Rom. 6.3 4. It signifies the washing away of sin from the Soul by the blood of Christ and the renewing graces of his Spirit and so our justification and forgiveness of sinnes and our sanctification Mark 1.4 Acts 2.38 Titus 3.5 And binds all that have been baptized to believe in Christ forsake sin and live holy according to the command of God Acts 8.37 38. Mat. 3.8 Rom. 6.3 4 5. Baptism it a priviledge which belongs to all the Infants of believing Christian Parents Mark 10.13 14. When some would have hindred the Parents from bringing their young children to Christ to bless them his Disciples rebuked those that brought them but when Jesus saw it he was much displeased and said Suffer little children to come unto me and forbid them not for of such is the kingdom of God 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 of these and such like is the kingdome of God If little children 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Infants Children new borne as Luke hath it Luke 18.15 be within the Covenant as they are then they ought to have the Seal of the Covenant and if they be of Gods kingdome his subjects then they must wear his Livery and badge Infants are now as capable of receiving Baptism and the benefits of it as the Infants of the Jews were to receive Circumcision and what is now objected against Infant-baptism might as well have been alleadged against the Jews circumcising their children therefore to lay aside or deny Infant-baptism to the children of believing Christians is in effect to make themselves wiser then God I will add but one argument That which was commanded and practised by the people of God for two thousand years yea and much more was approved and commanded of God and is no where forbidden or repealed is still to be used but the sealing of the Infants of believers with the first seal of the Covenant was commanded practised by the people of God so long also approved and commanded of God and 't is no where repealed or forbidden shew it if any can therefore it is still a duty to be observed by Christian believing Parents Object It is objected that Infant-baptism is no where commanded in the new Testament nor any express example and we must do nothing without divine warrant Answ True but this is sufficient warrant to give the first seal of the Covenant to Infants was expresly commanded in the old Testament and is no where repealed or forbidden therefore a duty still as the observation of the Lords day or Christian Sabbath is by the fourth Commandment Besides there are express general commands to baptize Infants in the New Testament as Mat. 28.19 Act. 2.38 39. and general examples of whole housholds and 't is much more then probable there were many children in them let them prove the contrary if they can men had need to have cleer express Scripture to lay aside a duty commanded and approved of God so long practised by the godly by the whole Church of God It troubles me to see and hear that any professing godliness should be so far deceived and be so injurious to themselves their poor Infants as to deny to give them that priviledge and favour which undoubtedly Christ allows and intends whose grace and priviledges are not less to the children under the Gospel then to them under the Law but rather much more That place most think is full Rom. 11.17 The Gentiles being ingrafted into the true Olive-tree do partake of the root and fatness of the Olive-tree of all the priviledges of the Jews the true Church of God whereof Abraham was the root and father of which to be within the Covenant to be members of the Church of God and have the first Seal of the Covenant which now is baptism is one and when they come to years the Sacrament of the Lords supper also I will add but this If Christ under the Gospel hath barred Infants of believing Parents of the Sacrament of Baptism then it is either in mercy or in judgement let them that deny Infant-Baptism make their answer I know readily what to reply But I now study brevity brief hints onely not large treatises 2. The Sacrament of the Lords Supper is also an ordinance instituded by Jesus Christ in the same night in which he was betrayed to be a Sacrament of our continuance and growth in Christ to represent and signifie the body and blood of Christ crucifyed for our sins together with all the benefits of his suffering and death 1 Cor. 10.16 and 11.23 24 25 26. To be a special token and pledge of his great love in suffering and dying for lost and miserable sinners and enemies Rom. 5.6 7 8. The end is to confirm our faith in Christ communion with him and all saving graces in us but it cannot confirm these where they are not to keep in remembrance the Lords death until he come again and to testify our love one to another 1 Cor. 10.16 1 Cor. 11.24 26. 1 Cor. 12.13 These and all other grounds and principles of the Christian Religion at least those which are absolutely necessary to life and salvation must be known and understood for without a particular distinct knowledge of these doctrines of faith and godliness in some measure there can be neither saving faith nor repentance nor love nor holiness in truth without which there can be no salvation John 17.3 Isai 53.11 This is life eternal to know thee the only true God and Jesus Christ whom thou hast sent Prov. 19.2 Without knowledge the minde is not good Hos 4.6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledg Particularly concerning the Sacrament consider 1 Cor. 11.27 29. Whosoever shall eat this bread and drink this cup of the Lord unworthily is guilty of the body and blood of the Lord and eateth and drinketh damnation to himself Mark the reason in the next words not discerning the Lords body
abundantly reward and crown all their patient humble suffering in a quiet submission to his will Mat. 24.13 Rev. 2.10 12 26. for his sake and well-doing Mat. 5.11 12 13. Rom. 8.17 18. 2 Cor. 4.17 18. Further God in afflictions and suffering very often helps the memories of his servants to call to mind these and such like gratious sutable promises and helps their faith to believe them and rest on them for assistance the comfort and accomplishment of them in his best time for all the promises in Christ are Yea and Amen sure and certain 2 Cor. 1.20 by which they are inabled to overcome all sufferings and temptations and to triumph in the end 1 John 5.4 Consider therefore the patience of Job and what end the Lord made of it Jam. 1.1 2. and 5.11 also of Josephs sufferings and the happy issue the great preferment and honour that followed and the very great good he was inabled to do not only to the Egyptians but to the Church of God Gen. chapt 41.45 and 50. For the Lord is very pitiful and of tender mercy Jam. 5.11 7. Be sure to endeavour truly to repent to believe in Jesus Christ to walk holily and to make your calling and election sure that you are in the favour of God and that he afflicts in mercy out of love and with faithfulness for our eternal good 2 Pet. 1.10 14. In Temptations to sin consider these things 1. Be not self-confident go not out in your own strength be always jealous and suspitious of your selves and look unto God for wisdom to see the evil in them for grace and power to withstand and overcome them Remember Peter a good soul but relying too much on his own strength was sham fully foiled Mat. 26.33 71 72 73 74. 2 Arm your serves in the best wise ye can 1. by prayer 2. with some good Scriptures as sutable as you can find to your occasion and present temptation the word is The sword of the Spirit Ephes 6.17 3. The shield of faith whereby you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the devil ver 16. and 4. Confider and rest your selves on the promises the power goodness and faithfulness of God and 5. with an holy resolution to suffer any thing rather than to sin 3. Consider what a shameful and dishonorable a thing it is to yeeld to Satan and be overcome of sin and Satan and the sad consequents ufually follow and then consider also the comfort peace and honour of not yeelding but overcoming with the encouraging promises made to them that do overcome and hold out in well-doing to the end Rev. 2.17 26. But resist him stedfastly in the faith 1 Pet. 5.9 that is by laying hold on 1. the faithfulness of God believing the promises as most true the threatnings also the precepts as holy just and good 2. By laying hold on the power mercy wisdome and goodness of God Faith reasons thus the Promises are true and sure why should I nor believe them and rest upon them The Threatnings are sure why should I then venture on sin the Precepts are all holy just good therefore all reason I should observe keep them God hath been loving good and merciful to me therefore I would not offend him and he is able all sufficient to support strengthen me in and deliver me out of all in due time therefore I will rest upon him alone 4. As God gives in wisdom to discover the evil in temptations and ability and strength of Grace to resist and overcome them so give to God all the praise and glory he is most worthy of it Thankfulness for benefits received is as I may say an holy inducement to move God to do more who delights to do good to thankful Souls 15. Study unity peace and love towards one another and towards all men 1. Study unity both in judgment and affection As much as possibly may be labour to be all of one judgment and one mind in the Lord and where you cannot be all of one judgment yet labour to be all of one heart to love all that are sound in their judgments in all truths necessary to life and godliness and joyn with them in all Ordinances of Christ How can I separate from them whom Christ owns and receives and where any do differ only in circumstantials or lesser matters that may stand with Godliness bear with them pity them cover their weaknesses in love and use all loving means to inform them a right and gain them to the truth Beware of censuring others that are not of the same judgment and way with your selves in those smaller matters being otherwise found holding the foundation and blameless in their lives Titus 3.2 God doth not give alike knowledge and understanding to every one And especially beware of division and separation from any whom Christ owns and receives The censoriousness division and separation of Professors hath almost undone us weakned the Protestants very much given a great wound to the Protestant Religion brought a great scandal upon Professors Religion and Godliness given occasion to many loose Protestants to slight all Religion many to turn Atheists others prophane and given the common Adversary very great advantage by our divisions to destroy both the Protestant Religion and the Professors of it You know that a bundle of sticks or arrows taken singly one after another may all easily be broken but joyntly bound together they cannot Therefore the Romish Adversaries have of late years endeavored and do still endeavour what in them lieth to sow errors debauch others and make divisions amongst the Protestants that they may destroy them and the Truth also and set up their Romish Antichristian idolatrous Masses and superstition But let not any of you I beseech you and I hope in the Lord you will never be the Jesuites and Devils instruments to make divisions rents and separation in the Church of Christ which is a work of the flesh and forbidden of God 1 Cor. 3.3 and 1.10 Rom. 16.17 The Lord doth often and much command and press to unity Read 1 Cor. 1.10 Rom. 16.17 Phil. 2.1 2 to 8. If there be therefore any consolation in Christ if any comfort of love if any fellowship of the Spirit if any bowels and mercies fulfil ye my joy that ye be like minded having the same love being of one accord of one mind Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than themselves and so on Ephes 4.3 4 5 6. Endeavour to keep the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace Observe his weighty Reasons 1. There is one Body namely mystical the Church of Christ 2. One Spirit by whom they are united and governed 3. Ye are called into one hope to wit of life eternal 4. Have the same Lord even Christ 5. Have one faith namely in Christ 6. Have the same Baptism to wit into the Name of
Avoid also all evil times some times and seasons as well as some places are evil dangerous to walk in especially at some places as the night late or very early in some places Every man by nature is like to dry wood yea to dried tinder which is apt to take fire so soon as any spark of temptation to sin is cast into us by Satan and if the Devil do not tempt us yet our corrupt hearts are apt to take fire as soon as the least occasion is offered to us or we meet with it as too frequent experience proves Yea Fourthly Labour to mortifie sin every inordinate lust Col. 3.5 Mortifie your members which are upon the earth i. e. your sinful lusts desires and motions that are born and bred up with us and are as dear to us as our natural members are as a right hand or right eye Rom. 8.13 If ye live after the flesh ye shall die but if ye by the Spirit do mortifie the deeds of the body ye shall live Secondly Mind well and look to these things 1. Make choice of and improve good company yea the best company you can I count that the best company that is truly religious and godly which will further us in the best things especially be furthered by us to whom we may do good and by whom we may receive good And I count him my best friend that will help me most in the way to Heaven Worldly company I count also good company in this respect and so far as being otherwise civil and unblameable they may be helpful to me for the managing of my worldly affairs wisely and discreetly so as they may be most subservient to the highest ends You know Davids profession and practice Psal 16.23 My goodness extends not to thee but to the Saints that are in the earth and to the excellent in whom is all my delight Psal 119 63. I am a companion of all them that fear thee and of all them that keep thy Commandments Psal 119.115 Depart from me ye evil-doers for I will keep the Commandments of my God Let your most familiar intimate bosome-friend be as much as in you lieth one that is a most godly wise and grave experienced Christian 2. Look well to your actions give a good Example and the greater and more esteemed any of you are the more cause to look well to your actions every where to give a good Example of godliness humility gravity faithfulness justice righteousness and the like Do nothing but what is commendable virtuous and praise-worthy Beware of doing any thing that may leave an ill savour behind you which may open the mouths of evil men to speak or think evil of you or of Religion harden them in their evil ways or sadden the hearts of good men or be a stumbling-block to weak Christians that are coming on not light vain foolish idle vile and prophane carefully shun and avoid all such 3. Look to your words that they be true sober grave and seasonable not false idle filthy vain foolish ridiculous bitter or railing Ephes 4 25. Wherefore putting away lying speak every man the truth unto his Neighbour ver 29. Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth but that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister grace to the hearers Jam. 5.12 Above all things my Brethren swear not Ephes 5.3 4. But fornication and all uncleaness and covetousness let it not be once named among you as it becometh Saints Nor filthiness nor foolish talking nor jesting that is scurrility or jeering scurrilous jesting and unseemly mirth are much unbeseeming the gravity and sanctity of a Christian For we must give an account of every idle word at the day of Judgment Matt. 12.36 37. much more of scurrilous and unclean words And if any man seem to be religious and yet bridleth not his tongue that mans Religion is vain Jam. 1.26 Not but that Christians may be cheerful and merry in company but their mirth must be harmless and innocent not light vain idle foolish much less vile and prophane In all things labour to shew your selves Patterns especially elder persons of goodness truth faithfulness righteousness uprightness c. and in all your dealings that you may adorn the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ and gain credit to Religion by your good conversation Let the Name of God Christ and his word be seldome in your mouths unless in an humble reverent manner to do or receive some good not in ordinary worldly discourse but let them be often in your minds hearts let them be to you as hony in your months and musick to your ears that you may say as David Psal 139.17 18. How precious are thy thoughts unto me O God How great is the sum of them If I should count them they are more than the sand when I awake I am still with thee Titus 3.2 Speak ill of no man be gentle shewing all meekness to all men Make the best construction of other mens words and actions as far as may be with a good conscience Love thinketh no evil is not easily provoked beareth all things believeth all things hopeth all things endureth all things 1 Cor. 13.5 7. Be not jealous be not suspitious yet labour wisely to foresee and prevent evils that may be Use not many words in speaking be not full of speech for as Solomon observes Eccles 5.7 In many words there are also divers vanities but fear thou God ver 3. A fools voice is known by a multitude of words It is often observed that even some very good persons and worthy to be honoured for the truth that is in them who are of a free speech when they speak of a person or thing which they like or dislike suppose it be of some distemper are sometimes so superlative and excessive in their expressions that they do speak often very much beyond what the thing in truth is to the grief of some tender consciences to hear such persons lash out beyond measure and which 't is believed if themselves did before God in their own consciences seriously consider surely they would not speak so largely It is good to speak always within the bounds of apparent truth also to perform what they promise lest some others censure us as lyers and say as too many are apt to do without cause Professors will not swear but they will lye or stretch foully This is sad and to be bewailed 4. Look to your affâ—ctions love desire delight hope fear joy sorrow anger hatred and the like that they be set on right objects so as to desire hope love delight and rejoyce in good things especially spiritual so to sorrow and grieve for sin to shan and hate it Col. 3.2 Set your affections on things above not on things on the earth Let David be your pattern Psal 16.3 In the Saints and the excellent in whom it all my delight Psal 119.104 I hate every
and condition to be always good and useful as David who served his generation Act. 13 36. and so fulfilled 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 all the wills of God ver 22. 20. Vse Recreations when nature requires in conventent places fit company and at convenient times and seasons not in times of mourning fasting or publike calamity never on the Lords day which is to be imployed in holy exercises Read and consider Isa 22.12 13. Exod. 20.8 and use them lawfully as recreations not as a trade or calling to refresh and make you more fit for the duties of your calling civil and religious not like him that is all day or a great part of it whetting his sythe but cuts down nothing or little But always let your recreations be only such as are lawful honest harmless of good report and sutable to the end you use them gravely and soberly as Christians Dicing carding mixt-dancing scurrilous sports and stage-plays are unbecoming the piety and gravity Christians should exercise in all their act on s if not simply unlawful for Christ ans 21. Think often of and prepare daily for suffering and death For our Saviour commands all that will be his Disciples to deny themselves and take up his cross and so follow him Luke 9.23 in respect of preparation and expectation for as Solomon tells us We know not what a day may bring forth Prov. 27.1 And the Apostle James also Chap. 4. ver 14. Therefore labour to get and clear up to your selves that you have true saving faith truly repented of your sins and have all other renewing and sanctifying Graces that you have an interest in Jesus Christ that your sins are pardoned the sting of death pulled out and all sufferings shall work together for your spiritual and eternal good See before in Adversity And then for death Know and consider that when where or howsoever it cometh it is to a true believer to a godly man only a means to put off the body of sin and to free the Soul from all sin both actual and original from Satans temptations from all worldly cares sufferings and sorrows from all toil and labour from all diseases distempers weaknesses and imperfections both of body and Soul a passage from natural life to eternal life from earth to Heaven from the company of evil and ungodly men and enemies for so many are in this world to have immediate and full communion with God the Father Jesus Christ the Holy Spirit and all the holy Angels Patriarks Prophets Apostles Martyrs and all other Saints departed in the faith And though you must part with many things desirable in this world and lovely as friends relations and some with riches honour and greatness in the world yet remember it is but for a time and to enjoy a far better estate incomparably better far better friends the most blessed and glorious Lord God the Heavenly Father Jesus Christ your husband Head Redeemer Justifier elder Brother the blessed Spirit your sanctifier and comforter godly relations and all the spirits of just men made perfect in Heaven and free from all the infirmities and corruptions they had while on earth which sometimes made the meetings of beloved and desired friends uncomfortable yea bitter as that of Paul and Barnabas two most godly persons and dear friends and companions Act. 15 37 38 39. And though the body shall go to the grave and see corruption yet it is but for a time God will destroy death it self and the grave raise up the body and glorifie it with the Soul to live for ever in Heaven in glory and happiness Hos 13.14 Phil. 3.21 1 Thes 4 15 16 17. Who after wearisome labour all day is unwilling to go to bed and rest Isa 57.1 2. why should any be unwilling to part with the worse for a state and condition that is every way incomparably better and everlasting wherefore comfort your selves and one another with these things and in an holy humble manner triumph over death and all worldly evils as the Apostle did 1 Corinth 15.54 c. 22. Married persons husbands and wives you know you are one flesh Gen. 2.24 And therefore your duty in common is 1. To dwell together that you may be mutual helpers one to another and to live chastly keeping each to other only keeping your bodies undefiled Adultery is a great sin to be punished with death Levit. 20.10 16. Whoremongers and adulterers God will judge Heb. 13.4 Consider Prov. 5.15 16 17 18 20 21. Drink waters out of thine own cistern c. 2. In a special manner to love one another above all other persons in the world and delight one in another above all others in respect of Gods command and because of their near union In this respect Solomon and God by him counselleth Prov. 5.18 Rejoyce with the wife of thy youth let her be as the loving Hand and pleasant Roe let her brest satisfie thee at all times This is the wives duty as well as the Husbands Love is the ground of all other duties and good carriages the bond of perfection it bindeth together all those duties that do or ought to pass between man and wife neighbour and neighbour Love provoketh constraineth to all duties where this is wanting all other duties will be wanting and often altogether neglected or slightly performed and where true love is there all other duties will be readily performed 3. To bear one with another and bear one anothers infirmities Gal. 6.2 Bear ye one anothers burden and so fulfil the Royal Law Jam. 2.8 4. To defend protect and preserve one anothers person good name credit and chastity 5. To nourish and cherish one another Eph. 5.29 No man hateth his own flesh but nourisheth cherisheth it Now husband and wife are one flesh and thus doing they do in effect preserve their own persons lives chastity credit comfort and nourish their own bodies This duty lieth on them at all times and in all estates and conditions in sickness and weakness in health in poverty lameness c. as well as in time of health strength beauty prosperity yea though the other party be not able or wilfully wanting to do his or her duty because of Gods command their near conjunction and solemn Matrimonial covenant to take one another for better for worse for richer for poorer c. 6. To be diligent provident careful to increase preserve that estate which God hath or shall give you the command of God reason and your own common interest mutually bind both to be as careful of the goods of the family as if they were their particular own goods and therein also to be helpful one to another 7. To govern the children servants and whole family wisely and discreetly for the good of the whole family and therein also to be helpful one to another 8. Especially to be the helpers one to another for the good of your Souls using all loving means to win and draw
that power over her Also she ought to declare her reverence to him by an inward wife-like fear of offending him and outwardly by her mild courteous loving and modest speech to him and of him behaviour before him and respective obedience to him as her husband 3. To nourish and cherish him and provide things needful and convenient for him most especially in time of sickness weakness and the like as for her self Ephes 5.29 4. To go soberly modestly and gravely and after a seemly manner in her apparel as becomes godliness not garish flanting and fantastick 1 Tim. 2.9 I will that women adorn themselves with modest apparel modest apparel then is an ornament as well as garish rich and fine or costly apparel and in some respects much more and doth more win the the affections of all sober persons with shamefastness and sobriety and which becometh godliness with good works 1 Pet. 3.4 5. whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair and of wearing of of gold or of putting on of apparel but let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which in the sight of God is of a great price For after this manner in old time the holy women who trusted in God adorned themselves being in subjection to their own husbands 5. To look to the house and the affairs of it and to preserve the goods of it as her own and order them for the best advantage also the children and maid-servants this is expresly commanded in terms 1 Tim. 5.14 6. To advise with her husband ask and learn of him in private 1 Tim. 2.11 7. But especially to be a true helper to her husband in the things of God that concern their spiritual good according to her power And it is a great advantage the wife hath by reason of her interest in her husband and children and the frequent being with him and them to instruct the children mind him of his duty lovingly and meekly advise comfort and encourage him to every good work as well as he her one great end of Marriage Gen. 2.19 20 21. 23. Parents you whom God hath given the honour to be fathers and mothers of children Let me mind you of the particular duties God requireth of you in reference to your children I need not advise you to have care of their bodies and to provide for them in due season all things needful for them Nature teacheth that and he is worse than an infidel or Heathen that doth not provide for his own house 1 Tim. 5.8 but do not mind them more than God but their spiritual good I chiefly aim at 1. Teach and instruct your children in the grounds and Principles of Religion as soon as they are capable of retaining any thing though they do not for the present understand it yet children do many times understand more than we think they do teach them a little at once as they are capable the most easie and fundamental truths first Deut. 6.6 7. These words which I command thee this day shall be in thy heart and thou shalt teach them thy children diligently The word signifies to whet or sharpen as a man sharpens his knife by degrees often drawing it to and fro so should parents teach their children and mark what follows and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thy house and when thou walkest by the way and when thou liest down when thou risest up Eph. 6.4 Ye fathers provoke not your children to anger but bring them up in the nourture and admonition of the Lord. A good Catechisme is of great use to this end amongst others Mr. Perkins Catechisme Mr. John Balls and the Exposition also and the Assemblies are all of singular use learned by heart more especially with the proofs the shortest and easiest way to furnish children with the main grounds of Religion and to fit them to hear Sermons 2. Pray often with them and for them 3. Read the Holy Scriptures to them and other good Books as you have opportunity 4. Teach them to read betimes and to read well and hear them read daily 5. See that they attend reverently in time of Religious duties and on the publike Ministry also Exod. 20.8 9 10. 6. Repeat the Sermons unto them or the heads as well as you can and God will help you 7. Examine what they remember what they have heard or read otherwise they will not mind and so not profit by hearing and reading 8. Commend and encourage them when they do well Reprove them when they do evil Correct them also when need requires not in passion a sinful thing and doth little good yet too common and which is worse some foolish Parents presently after correction are ready to take them into their bosom this is of evil consequence and besides it shews they did not correct them in love and judgment but only vent their sinful passion but correct them wisely in meekness and love and let them see you are angry with them for their Souls good till they melt kindly for their faults and humble themselves and beg your pardon Consider well Prov. 19.18 and 22.15 and 23.13 Ephes 6.4 but provoke them not to anger Col. 3.21 Use not threatnings nor many words lest when they see they are but words they slight them and regard not your words nor commands nor your selves neither in a while as I have often seen 9. Give them always a good example in word and deed carry your selves gravely meekly religiously and after a seemly manner towards them evil examples will do them more hurt than all your good instructions will do them good Children have a great conceit of all the Parent doth though bad or untrue and are wonderful apt to imitate them Col. 4.6 Let your speech be always seasoned with salt that is discretion and prudence that it may rellish savour and season others well Avoid all corrupt communication foolish and scurrilous words and jesting Ephes 4.29 And the rather you have great reason thus to do and to endeavour their regeneration and salvation because you have been instruments of their corrupt sinful miserable and damnable estate by natural generation If you be instruments under God of begetting them again as furthering a new spiritual birth and life in them and so of their salvation it will add much to your comfort and crown at the day of your account But if they miscarry and perish through your evil example or neglect of due educating them they shall die in their sins but your Souls must answer to God for them at the day of death and judgment and that may be very soon and will be very sad for you 10. Busie them in some honest and fit imployment as soon as they are capable teach them to be good husbands and house-wives Skill diligence and providence are alone a good portion and livelihood and many times
of Belial Deut. 13.13 and the Apostle compares such to brute and unruly beasts 3. Maintenance also is due unto Parents from the children in case of want or need to their utmost ability to visit them in time of sickness weakness and trouble as Joseph did his father Gen. 48.1 comfort them in time of mourning and sorrow as Jacobs children did Gen. 42.5 and relieve them in their wants and nourish them as Joseph did Gen. 47.12 and Ruth her good mother-in-law Ruth 2.8 And this is that which the Apostle requires of children to requite their parents which he calls a shewing piety at home and says it is good and acceptable before God These things are contained under the word Honour Secondly Children must love their Parents unfeinedly for their great love and many respects to them and to esteem them highly as worthy all love honour and obedience from them Thirdly Pray for your Parents daily heartily fervently Fourthly If you observe any failings and infirmities in them as alas who living is without being frail sinful men all subject to like passions and infirmities I say 't is your duty above all others to bear with them and cover them in love as far as you can Notable is the example of Shem and Japhet Noahs sons towards their father Noah for which they were blessed and Cham and Canaan for discovering their fathers shame cursed Gen. 9.22 c. This is a duty due from all inferiors-to their Superiors There are many strong and weighty reasons obliging children to the performance of all these duties to reverence their parents both of them equally to obey them also to maintain them love them esteem them bear with and cover their infirmities As 1. Because you have your beings from them you never had a being in the world and so a capacity of being holy and happy to all eternity without them Therefore you owe unto them next under God your own selves and all you have and can do for them 2. Because of the great pain and trouble in child-bearing breeding and bringing forth 3. Their great pains care and trouble day and night continually to preserve you and nurse you up when you were the most weak helpless shiftless and vilest creatures in the world by reason of native corruption and original guilt 4. For covering and clothing you when you were naked and worse than naked all polluted in your blood Ezek. 16.3 6. 5. For their continual care and cost in bringing you up to be able to shift and do something for your selves 6. They intend that all they have laboured for taken great pains and care early and late day and night shall be yours in due time 7. Especially for their many prayers pains and endeavors in instructing you c. that you may be born again be new creatures sanctified and saved eternally Fifthly Give all diligence to learn of them to get sound and saving knowledg grace and holiness to be truly Godly and live holily to be justified sanctified and eternally saved Now while you are young as soon as you are capable of doing any thing towards your salvation in the use of means before the world hath gotten room and possession in your hearts and affections Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth saith the wise Solomon Eccles 12.1 Now you are most fit for that duty now your minds and hearts are in some respects like clean white paper free to receive any thing in to write any thing upon If the devil once ingrave wickedness in your hearts and the world its sinful vanities you are like to live always die and perish in your sins for ever unless God be very merciful unto you But if you get your minds and hearts seasoned with sound knowledg and saving Grace while you are young you will be always good godly and everlastingly saved and happy Oh! it is a lovely thing to be Godly while young to see young persons breathing and panting after grace and holiness following hard after the Lord and walking in the ways of God as young King Josiah did and young Samuel and Timothy a thing very pleasing to God He delights greatly in such persons communicates much of himself unto them honors them much When you come into years you will have many worldly occasions and businesses to mind besides you do not know how soon you may die how short your lives are and how little time you have to get that which of necessity must be had or perish for ever namely sound knowledge of the doctrine of salvation true living Grace and holiness your persons justified by the only righteousness of Jesus Christ and so pardon of sin reconciliation with God acceptation of your persons services in the blood and for the sake merit and mediation of Jesus Christ for by Nature and your first birth you were the children of wrath children and slaves to sin and Satan walking in the lusts of the flesh and fulfilling the lusts of the flesh utterly unable to do any thing that is truly good and acceptable to God or to avoid evil and the wrath to come as the Apostle and experience assures us Ephes 2.1 2 3. Titus 3.3 Four things which a good old experienced Christian but the last night before I wrote this put some few of you in mind of which I will here set down with some enlargement 1. To labour to get sin imbittered That is to see and be truly sensible what an evil thing sin is how filthy hateful dangerous and damnable that it may be bitter unto you loathed subdued and mortified by you by all means through the assistance of the Spirit of God Rom. 8.13 2. To be self-emptied That is to see how empty you are of any thin that is truly and spiritually good in and of your selves that the best performances even of the most holy persons are so imperfect that they must utterly renounce all confidence in them in the point of justification before God Isai 64.6 Luk. 17.10 Rom. 3.23 to the end Gal. 2.16 3. To esteem Christ highly as only necessary to redeem you justifie and save you and most worthy of all your love service and obedience 4. To imbrace holiness also as that which is absolutely necessary to spiritual life and salvation Heb. 12.14 1 Pet. 1.14 15. To this end consider and what I say to you in this as also in the former things I say unto all consider seriously two things 1. The torments of hell as most intolerable easeless and endless Oh! to suffer eternally without all possibility of an end or any intermission ease or mitigation it is a thing most astonishing fully to consider of and see into 2. The joys felicity and glory of Heaven in the presence immediate and full enjoyment of God himself Jesus Christ c. and that for ever and ever never to have any end nor abatement Such and so great as mortal eyes never saw nor ear heard nor the heart of man