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grease_n with_o chafe_v this_o be_v a_o effect_n of_o divine_a displeasure_n whereby_o god_n in_o judgement_n do_v suffer_v people_n wrath_n to_o be_v so_o vexatious_a to_o they_o that_o it_o make_v their_o life_n a_o continual_a death_n to_o they_o and_o at_o last_o so_o weary_a and_o waste_v their_o spirit_n that_o they_o die_v for_o very_a grief_n and_o except_o the_o lord_n be_v merciful_a to_o they_o and_o the_o death_n of_o christ_n heal_v the_o wound_n that_o their_o anger_n and_o impatiency_n have_v make_v they_o will_v murder_v their_o own_o soul_n for_o ever_o frowardness_n and_o anger_n be_v a_o person_n sin_n and_o torment_n for_o people_n tear_v themselves_o in_o their_o anger_n job_n 18.4_o the_o more_o fretful_a people_n be_v the_o more_o miserable_a do_v they_o make_v themselves_o those_o that_o be_v of_o wrathful_a spirit_n will_v certain_o feel_v some_o degree_n of_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n either_o in_o this_o life_n or_o in_o the_o life_n to_o come_v that_o must_v 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towards_o our_o neighbour_n or_o our_o near_a and_o dear_a relation_n be_v a_o bite_n and_o devour_v we_o bite_v and_o devour_v one_o another_o when_o we_o be_v unkind_a wrathful_a and_o vexatious_a one_o to_o another_o see_v what_o follow_v as_o the_o effect_n of_o their_o passionate_a and_o froward_a carriage_n one_o to_o another_o take_v heed_n you_o be_v not_o consume_v one_o of_o another_o take_v heed_n lest_o by_o walk_v so_o unlike_o christian_n and_o so_o unanswerable_a to_o the_o law_n of_o gospel-love_n you_o provoke_v god_n to_o kindle_v such_o a_o fire_n among_o you_o and_o in_o you_o as_o may_v prove_v a_o utter_a consumption_n when_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v not_o careful_a to_o walk_v together_o in_o love_n as_o christ_n have_v love_v we_o god_n sometime_o as_o a_o evidence_n of_o his_o wrath_n and_o displeasure_n give_v they_o up_o to_o a_o spirit_n of_o contention_n and_o their_o breach_n be_v like_o the_o sea_n which_o can_v be_v heal_v their_o cruel_a and_o 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if_o thou_o do_v nourish_v thy_o froward_a humour_n and_o be_v so_o often_o contend_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n thou_o do_v gratify_v thyself_o exceed_o thou_o do_v do_v as_o he_o will_v have_v thou_o thou_o do_v give_v he_o a_o welcome_a entertainment_n in_o thy_o heart_n alas_o how_o can_v thou_o fancy_v such_o a_o monstrous_a fiend_n as_o to_o comply_v with_o his_o suggestion_n be_v not_o so_o vile_a a_o wretch_n as_o to_o be_v kind_a to_o the_o mortal_a enemy_n of_o thy_o soul_n his_o design_n be_v to_o have_v thou_o angry_a and_o so_o contentious_a that_o he_o may_v hinder_v the_o exercise_n of_o thy_o reason_n and_o so_o make_v thou_o unreasonable_a in_o thy_o action_n o_o then_o when_o thy_o anger_n begin_v to_o rise_v suppress_v it_o with_o this_o consideration_n if_o i_o give_v way_n to_o my_o anger_n i_o please_v no_o one_o but_o the_o devil_n all_o other_o except_o the_o devil_n be_v displease_v with_o my_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n that_o act_n must_v needs_o be_v dreadful_o evil_a which_o the_o devil_n do_v rejoice_v in_o the_o do_n of_o what_o a_o sad_a wretch_n will_v thou_o evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v in_o despise_v the_o counsel_n of_o god_n and_o follow_v the_o devil_n god_n bid_v thou_o not_o to_o be_v of_o a_o hasty_a spirit_n but_o to_o forgive_v the_o trespass_n of_o thy_o brother_n and_o the_o devil_n tell_v thou_o be_v not_o such_o a_o fool_n as_o to_o pass_v by_o such_o wrong_n or_o suffer_v such_o opposition_n and_o will_v thou_o slight_v god_n to_o hearken_v to_o the_o devil_n shall_v the_o devil_n prevail_v more_o with_o thou_o than_o god_n will_v thou_o shut_v the_o door_n of_o thy_o heart_n against_o god_n and_o open_v it_o to_o let_v in_o satan_n then_o thou_o make_v thyself_o a_o child_n of_o
how_o terrible_a be_v the_o withdrawment_n of_o god_n when_o he_o withdraw_v in_o high_a displeasure_n and_o thou_o know_v not_o whether_o he_o will_v ever_o return_v again_o in_o mercy_n or_o not_o and_o it_o be_v say_v in_o 2_o sam._n 22.27_o and_o with_o the_o froward_a thou_o will_v show_v thyself_o unsavoury_a the_o hebrew_n have_v it_o with_o the_o perverse_a thou_o behave_v thyself_o as_o one_o turn_v about_o and_o that_o the_o very_a thought_n of_o god_n will_v be_v unsavoury_a and_o unpleasant_a thought_n to_o they_o angry_a froward_a person_n shall_v not_o have_v the_o least_o discovery_n or_o sense_n of_o god_n love_n while_o they_o be_v in_o their_o fit_n nor_o much_o at_o other_o time_n because_o a_o angry_a froward_a frame_n of_o spirit_n be_v a_o abomination_n to_o the_o lord_n prov._n 3.32_o &_o chap._n 8.13_o &_o 11.20_o '_o as_o frowardness_n cause_v strife_n between_o the_o near_a relation_n so_o it_o make_v contention_n between_o god_n and_o the_o soul_n the_o angry_a froward_a person_n oppose_v god_n and_o god_n oppose_v that_o person_n so_o that_o hence_o it_o appear_v that_o thou_o have_v abundant_a cause_n and_o reason_n to_o use_v all_o possible_a mean_n to_o restrain_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n because_o they_o hinder_v thou_o from_o enjoy_v the_o divine_a presence_n and_o the_o hlessed_a discovery_n of_o divine_a favour_n 2._o thou_o shall_v take_v great_a care_n to_o restrain_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n and_o hasty_a frowardness_n of_o spirit_n because_o as_o they_o prevail_v thy_o act_n be_v as_o contrary_a to_o true_a grace_n as_o any_o thing_n almost_o that_o thou_o can_v think_v of_o and_o true_o there_o may_v be_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o suspicion_n whether_o thou_o have_v true_a grace_n or_o no._n i_o conceive_v there_o may_v be_v some_o analogy_n between_o a_o nazarite_n and_o a_o gracious_a soul_n it_o be_v say_v in_o numb_a 6.2_o that_o the_o nazarite_n be_v to_o separate_v themselves_o unto_o the_o lord_n they_o be_v to_o be_v separate_v from_o the_o ordinary_a course_n of_o that_o they_o may_v more_o free_o and_o whole_o dedicate_v themselves_o to_o the_o service_n of_o god_n and_o to_o a_o more_o strict_a and_o pure_a course_n of_o serve_v god_n than_o other_o man_n use_v and_o indeed_o god_n confine_v they_o to_o strict_a rule_n they_o be_v to_o abstain_v from_o any_o thing_n that_o do_v belong_v to_o the_o vine_n hereby_o also_o signify_v a_o full_a and_o perfect_a renounce_v all_o worldly_a pleasure_n or_o any_o thing_n tend_v thoreunto_o intimate_v that_o they_o be_v not_o only_o to_o abstain_v from_o all_o evil_a but_o all_o appearance_n of_o evil_a 1_o thes_n 5.22_o all_o the_o outward_a ceremony_n enjoin_v they_o be_v but_o type_n of_o inward_a holiness_n i_o take_v notice_n of_o one_o thing_n enjoin_v they_o which_o be_v most_o especial_o to_o my_o purpose_n which_o be_v that_o they_o shall_v drink_v no_o vinegar_n of_o wine_n or_o any_o other_o strong_a liquor_n that_o be_v to_o signify_v that_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o vinegar_n spirit_n of_o sour_a and_o eager_a spirit_n but_o of_o of_o quiet_a spirit_n of_o love_v and_o meek_a spirit_n now_o all_o the_o saint_n of_o god_n they_o be_v nazarites_n as_o christ_n be_v a_o nazarite_n so_o all_o that_o be_v christ_n be_v nazarite_n separate_v from_o other_o to_o be_v the_o lord_n people_n the_o lord_n separate_v the_o godly_a man_n for_o himself_o as_o in_o psal_n 4.3_o but_o know_v that_o the_o lord_n have_v set_v apart_o he_o that_o be_v godly_a for_o himself_o and_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o harsh_a and_o hot_a spirit_n but_o shall_v be_v adorn_v with_o this_o lovely_a amiable_a grace_n of_o meekness_n so_o that_o a_o hasty_a froward_a and_o passionate_a spirit_n be_v direct_o opposite_a to_o a_o meek_a patient_a and_o quieâ—_n spirit_n and_o if_o there_o be_v any_o grace_n in_o a_o furious_a person_n it_o be_v rake_v up_o under_o a_o great_a deal_n of_o ash_n of_o corruption_n that_o it_o be_v not_o easy_o discern_v now_o the_o opposition_n that_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n bear_v to_o grace_n appear_v 1._o if_o thou_o do_v consider_v what_o it_o be_v that_o grace_n do_v in_o the_o heart_n when_o it_o first_o come_v the_o first_o thing_n be_v to_o show_v unto_o the_o soul_n it_o be_v own_o vileness_n it_o be_v own_o wretchedness_n and_o baseness_n by_o sin_n and_o the_o danger_n that_o it_o be_v in_o through_o sin_n now_o a_o froward_a passionate_a heart_n be_v very_o contrary_a to_o the_o sight_n of_o its_o own_o baseness_n and_o vileness_n for_o thou_o can_v not_o see_v thyself_o to_o be_v a_o base_a vile_a sinful_a worm_n and_o yet_o bear_v nothing_o that_o be_v against_o thou_o but_o present_o thy_o heart_n be_v in_o a_o flame_n if_o any_o thing_n do_v cross_v thou_o for_o thou_o can_v not_o be_v so_o angry_a if_o thou_o do_v not_o think_v thyself_o too_o great_a and_o too_o good_a to_o be_v cross_v 2._o when_o grace_n come_v into_o the_o heart_n it_o bring_v the_o heart_n into_o subjection_n unto_o god_n and_o unto_o another_o rule_n than_o it_o walk_v by_o before_o that_o be_v a_o principal_a work_n of_o grace_n to_o subdue_v the_o heart_n of_o a_o sinner_n unto_o god_n the_o heart_n of_o sinner_n be_v natural_o stout_a and_o rebellious_a against_o god_n and_o go_v on_o in_o a_o stubborn_a way_n till_o grace_n come_v and_o lay_v they_o under_o but_o a_o froward_a and_o passionate_a heart_n will_v be_v indeed_o above_o god_n and_o any_o of_o his_o rule_n it_o can_v keep_v itself_o under_o and_o lie_v in_o subjection_n unto_o rule_n and_o hence_o be_v the_o reason_n that_o froward_a and_o passionate_a people_n use_v to_o have_v such_o expression_n i_o will_v nay_o but_o i_o will_v and_o i_o care_v not_o their_o heart_n be_v subdue_v to_o the_o authority_n of_o god_n but_o the_o heart_n that_o be_v subdue_v to_o the_o lord_n bring_v it_o but_o a_o scripture_n and_o it_o yield_v present_o but_o a_o froward_a spirit_n be_v not_o so_o how_o contrary_a then_o be_v frowardness_n to_o grace_n i_o may_v instance_n in_o many_o other_o particular_n but_o i_o shall_v be_v too_o large_a then_o o_o then_o be_v passion_n and_o frowardness_n so_o opposite_a to_o grace_n do_v it_o either_o hinder_v the_o work_n of_o grace_n in_o the_o heart_n or_o at_o least_o weaken_v yea_o smother_v grace_n that_o it_o be_v almost_o extinguish_v though_o not_o total_o yet_o so_o as_o it_o be_v not_o easy_o discernible_a do_v thou_o not_o then_o see_v great_a reason_n to_o use_v all_o mean_n to_o mortify_v thy_o passion_n 3._o thou_o shall_v use_v thy_o utmost_a endeavour_n to_o mortify_v thy_o passion_n and_o live_v in_o peace_n with_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n because_o thou_o do_v manifest_v a_o true_o noble_a and_o generous_a spirit_n if_o thou_o will_v pass_v by_o offence_n without_o manifest_v anger_n and_o frowardness_n of_o spirit_n to_o this_o effect_n speak_v solomon_n prov._n 19.11_o it_o be_v the_o glory_n of_o a_o man_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n that_o be_v not_o to_o manifest_v a_o angry_a displeasure_n for_o a_o offence_n that_o another_o do_v he_o and_o so_o we_o say_v when_o we_o restrain_v our_o anger_n against_o another_o for_o any_o thing_n do_v amiss_o i_o will_v pass_v you_o by_o for_o this_o time_n i_o will_v not_o take_v any_o severe_a notice_n of_o what_o you_o have_v do_v o_o it_o be_v a_o honourable_a thing_n to_o bridle_v anger_n when_o a_o person_n be_v offend_v to_o wink_v at_o small_a infirmity_n and_o remit_v great_a wrong_n generous_n spirit_n be_v as_o it_o be_v impenetrable_a by_o offence_n yea_o a_o spirit_n true_o elevate_v a_o generous_a and_o noble_a soul_n be_v always_o quiet_a moderate_a and_o grave_n never_o suffer_v itself_o to_o be_v transport_v with_o the_o violent_a motion_n of_o choler_n certain_o a_o meek_a person_n have_v a_o magnanimous_a and_o heroic_a spirit_n see_v what_o the_o wise_a man_n say_v in_o prov._n 16.32_o he_o that_o be_v slow_a to_o anger_n be_v better_a than_o the_o mighty_a and_o he_o that_o rule_v his_o spirit_n than_o he_o that_o take_v a_o city_n he_o that_o overcome_v himself_o be_v strong_a than_o one_o that_o overcome_v a_o city_n now_o it_o be_v a_o glorious_a thing_n for_o a_o soldier_n to_o overcome_v a_o city_n but_o one_o that_o can_v overcome_v his_o own_o passion_n be_v more_o valiant_a and_o have_v a_o more_o excellent_a spirit_n than_o one_o that_o overcome_v a_o great_a city_n and_o so_o some_o creature_n that_o be_v more_o heroical_a be_v more_o meek_a and_o gentle_a than_o other_o be_v the_o lion_n be_v of_o a_o more_o generous_a spirit_n than_o the_o wolf_n be_v the_o more_o honourable_a any_o one_o be_v the_o more_o he_o be_v of_o a_o peaceable_a disposition_n and_o his_o anger_n be_v
soon_o pacify_v it_o be_v enough_o to_o fall_v down_o before_o a_o lion_n a_o lion_n be_v pacify_v if_o you_o fall_v before_o he_o but_o fot_o the_o wolf_n and_o tiger_n and_o other_o base_a creature_n they_o will_v tear_v those_o that_o fall_v down_o before_o they_o hence_o observe_v such_o as_o be_v soon_o move_v to_o violent_a passion_n that_o will_v not_o pass_v by_o a_o slight_a offence_n but_o will_v be_v furious_a for_o every_o trifle_n they_o be_v of_o ignoble_a base_a sordid_a temper_n of_o vile_a wretched_a and_o dunghill_n disposition_n o_o then_o what_o care_n shall_v thou_o take_v to_o watch_v against_o the_o first_o rise_n of_o anger_n and_o faithful_o endeavour_v to_o suppress_v thy_o violent_a passion_n when_o rise_v to_o wink_v and_o connive_v at_o many_o offence_n if_o ever_o thou_o will_v evidence_n a_o noble_a spirit_n it_o be_v thy_o true_a glory_n so_o to_o do_v but_o it_o be_v thy_o ignominy_n and_o disgrace_n to_o be_v of_o a_o gunpowder-spirit_n to_o be_v transport_v into_o a_o flame_n of_o fury_n by_o every_o little_a spark_n of_o distaste_n give_v nay_o a_o furious_a spirit_n be_v a_o devilish_a spirit_n and_o therefore_o the_o devil_n be_v very_o often_o call_v fury_n o_o let_v this_o consideration_n stir_v thou_o up_o to_o endeavour_v after_o meekness_n calmness_n and_o peaceablenss_n of_o spirit_n 4._o thou_o shall_v be_v careful_a to_o abstain_v from_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n of_o spirit_n because_o there_o be_v nothing_o that_o thou_o can_v do_v in_o anger_n but_o thou_o may_v do_v it_o better_o out_o of_o anger_n thou_o can_v have_v thy_o mind_n or_o thy_o will_n in_o nothing_o in_o anger_n but_o thou_o may_v have_v thy_o mind_n and_o will_v better_o out_o of_o a_o angry_a fit_n and_o wherefore_o then_o shall_v thou_o be_v angry_a consider_v when_o thou_o have_v thy_o anger_n stir_v what_o thou_o will_v do_v in_o thy_o anger_n thou_o may_v it_o say_v i_o will_v reprove_v my_o wife_n or_o my_o husband_n that_o have_v do_v amiss_o i_o say_v thou_o must_v reprove_v without_o anger_n thou_o must_v restore_v with_o a_o spirit_n of_o meekness_n gal._n 6.1_o there_o be_v no_o recover_v a_o fall_v relation_n from_o sin_n in_o a_o boisterous_a way_n there_o be_v gentle_a mean_n that_o be_v most_o influential_a thy_o reproof_n shall_v be_v as_o physic_n thou_o do_v not_o use_v to_o give_v physic_n scald_a hot_a thou_o may_v reprove_v thy_o wife_n husband_n child_n or_o servant_n without_o anger_n as_o well_o as_o with_o anger_n and_o if_o thou_o will_v give_v correction_n thou_o may_v do_v it_o best_o without_o anger_n if_o thou_o do_v correct_v in_o anger_n or_o reprove_v in_o anger_n thy_o servant_n or_o any_o other_o relation_n will_v think_v it_o be_v rather_o from_o thy_o fury_n than_o his_o fault_n that_o thou_o do_v it_o perhaps_o thou_o will_v do_v some_o special_a service_n for_o god_n and_o thou_o say_v that_o anger_n will_v quicken_v thou_o but_o james_n say_v cap._n 1.20_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n accomplish_v not_o the_o righteousness_n of_o god_n god_n will_v not_o be_v behold_v to_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n for_o any_o thing_n a_o heathen_a can_v say_v that_o fortitude_n have_v no_o need_n of_o wrath_n no_o need_n of_o gall_n bitterness_n and_o choler_n but_o it_o may_v be_v well_o enough_o without_o it_o perhaps_o thou_o will_v make_v thy_o husband_n sensible_a of_o the_o wrong_n he_o have_v do_v thou_o that_o thou_o may_v do_v without_o anger_n if_o he_o have_v wrong_v thou_o show_v he_o the_o more_o respect_n and_o kindness_n this_o way_n thou_o shall_v make_v he_o sensible_a of_o the_o wrong_n he_o have_v do_v thou_o as_o well_o as_o any_o way_n in_o the_o world_n that_o it_o will_v either_o melt_v his_o heart_n or_o trouble_v his_o spirit_n till_o he_o have_v make_v thou_o restitution_n or_o confess_v his_o fault_n i_o say_v every_o thing_n can_v be_v better_o do_v in_o a_o calm_a and_o quiet_a frame_n than_o in_o a_o angry_a fit_n for_o in_o thy_o anger_n thou_o can_v not_o sol_o well_o exercise_v thy_o reason_n as_o at_o another_o time_n for_o the_o fire_n of_o passion_n when_o it_o be_v kindle_v cause_v a_o great_a smoke_n to_o come_v up_o to_o the_o understanding_n and_o judgement_n and_o even_o put_v out_o thy_o reason_n so_o that_o be_v very_o great_a reason_n why_o thou_o shall_v use_v all_o mean_n to_o prevent_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n 5._o thou_o shall_v do_v thy_o utmost_a to_o refrain_v from_o anger_n and_o attain_v meekness_n of_o spirit_n because_o meekness_n be_v that_o grace_n whereby_o man_n and_o woman_n come_v to_o have_v fair_a weather_n all_o the_o year_n long_o it_o be_v a_o comfortable_a thing_n to_o have_v fair_a weather_n to_o continue_v but_o two_o or_o three_o week_n together_o and_o thou_o know_v that_o rainy_a weather_n and_o drop_a weather_n be_v very_o tedious_a and_o irksome_a to_o we_o and_o we_o say_v it_o be_v pity_n fair_a weather_n shall_v do_v any_o hurt_n but_o when_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v 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the_o worst_a sense_n raise_v contention_n from_o suspicion_n or_o imagination_n invent_v cause_n of_o displeasure_n where_o none_o be_v thus_o by_o anger_n charity_n be_v notable_o violate_v for_o love_n suffer_v all_o thing_n therefore_o their_o love_n be_v small_a that_o will_v suffer_v nothing_o love_n cover_v a_o multitude_n of_o sin_n they_o therefore_o that_o find_v fault_n where_o they_o be_v not_o rather_o than_o cover_v they_o where_o they_o be_v do_v plain_o show_v their_o want_n of_o love_n to_o the_o party_n with_o who_o they_o be_v angry_a it_o be_v the_o nature_n of_o love_n to_o make_v great_a fault_n seem_v little_a and_o little_a fault_n none_o at_o all_o but_o when_o a_o person_n anger_n make_v every_o slip_n in_o he_o or_o her_o friend_n or_o relation_n a_o capital_a offence_n than_o there_o appear_v a_o great_a decay_n of_o love_n when_o a_o person_n apprehend_v itself_o high_o wrong_v by_o another_o do_v present_o begin_v to_o slight_v that_o party_n that_o person_n do_v manifest_v more_o displeasure_n against_o the_o person_n he_o or_o she_o be_v angry_a with_o than_o the_o offence_n and_o have_v no_o love_n at_o all_o for_o he_o such_o be_v the_o violence_n of_o passion_n that_o there_o be_v scarce_o any_o other_o affection_n so_o strong_a which_o it_o do_v not_o easy_o subdue_v love_n be_v say_v to_o be_v strong_a than_o death_n yet_o anger_n if_o it_o be_v once_o admit_v to_o rage_n easy_o overcome_v it_o person_n than_o forget_v the_o love_n of_o the_o relation_n that_o they_o be_v in_o in_o anger_n wife_n speak_v to_o their_o husband_n as_o if_o they_o have_v no_o kind_n of_o superiority_n at_o all_o or_o as_o if_o god_n have_v not_o set_v they_o over_o they_o any_o way_n so_o own_o neither_o subjection_n or_o reverence_n to_o be_v due_a unto_o they_o and_o so_o cause_v they_o instead_o of_o the_o duty_n of_o love_n to_o bring_v forth_o the_o fruit_n of_o hatred_n when_o the_o furious_a flame_n of_o anger_n be_v kindle_v in_o the_o heart_n of_o some_o people_n they_o care_v not_o what_o reproach_n they_o cast_v upon_o or_o any_o other_o prejudice_n that_o they_o do_v unto_o those_o that_o they_o shall_v love_v as_o themselves_o indeed_o this_o be_v the_o evil_a effect_n of_o anger_n that_o it_o incline_v person_n to_o hurt_v they_o that_o make_v they_o angry_a that_o it_o put_v hurt_v thought_n into_o their_o mind_n and_o hurt_v word_n into_o their_o mouth_n and_o incline_v they_o to_o think_v or_o do_v some_o mischief_n and_o will_v thou_o favour_v that_o passion_n that_o tend_v to_o extinguish_v thy_o love_n to_o thy_o near_a and_o dear_a relation_n that_o make_v thou_o neglect_v to_o manifest_v those_o respect_n that_o be_v long_o to_o thy_o husband_n or_o to_o thy_o wife_n if_o thou_o be_v a_o wife_n anger_n will_v put_v thou_o upon_o usurp_a authority_n over_o thy_o husband_n deny_v subjection_n to_o he_o that_o the_o wâ—râ—_n of_o god_n require_v make_v thou_o insolent_a and_o inâ—verent_a and_o herein_o it_o make_v thou_o oppose_v the_o word_n of_o god_n which_o command_v thou_o in_o all_o thing_n to_o acknowledge_v thy_o husband_n superiority_n by_o be_v obedient_a to_o he_o in_o all_o thing_n in_o the_o lord_n that_o be_v in_o all_o thing_n that_o be_v not_o positive_o sinful_a if_o thou_o be_v humble_a and_o meek_a thou_o will_v not_o be_v of_o such_o a_o captious_a contentious_a and_o wrangle_a disposition_n but_o overlook_a those_o fail_n that_o provoke_v proud_a spirit_n thus_o it_o be_v evident_a how_o anger_n have_v a_o tendency_n to_o extinguish_v the_o love_n of_o god_n for_o the_o love_n of_o god_n will_v not_o kindle_v and_o flame_n in_o a_o unquiet_a breast_n it_o make_v man_n and_o woman_n fret_v against_o god_n and_o murmur_v at_o his_o providence_n and_o make_v they_o discontent_v with_o that_o state_n and_o relation_n he_o have_v put_v they_o into_o and_o that_o it_o abate_v people_n love_n to_o themselves_o and_o make_v they_o desperate_a in_o their_o way_n make_v they_o ready_a to_o mischief_n themselves_o that_o be_v make_v they_o run_v upon_o such_o way_n and_o course_n as_o be_v likely_a to_o prove_v mischievous_a to_o they_o without_o all_o love_n or_o pity_n to_o themselves_o be_v not_o then_o such_o a_o enemy_n to_o thyself_o as_o to_o nourish_v such_o fiery_a passion_n in_o thou_o as_o will_v do_v thyself_o the_o great_a prejudice_n also_o anger_n abate_v people_n love_n to_o their_o near_a relation_n make_v they_o entertain_v jealousy_n and_o suspicion_n which_o feed_v their_o anger_n make_v they_o take_v in_o ill_a part_n every_o light_a action_n and_o so_o their_o heart_n grow_v estrange_v from_o their_o dear_a friend_n and_o have_v their_o near_a relation_n in_o contempt_n thou_o then_o that_o dâ—st_v find_v thyself_o by_o nature_n prâ—ne_v to_o anger_n labour_v earnest_o with_o thyself_o that_o thou_o
they_o be_v angry_a and_o displease_v with_o than_o immoderate_a and_o common_a anger_n frequency_n of_o husband_n and_o wife_n passionate_a fit_n mighty_o blaze_v abroad_o and_o discover_v their_o shame_n and_o folly_n which_o occasion_v their_o contempt_n as_o wisdom_n cause_v honour_n and_o respect_n when_o husband_n and_o wife_n anger_n and_o the_o effect_n thereof_o clamorous_a brawl_n and_o sometime_o fight_v be_v usual_a and_o common_a as_o well_o for_o trifle_n as_o weighty_a matter_n person_n do_v desperate_o contemn_v both_o when_o they_o have_v no_o hope_n to_o prevent_v either_o if_o thou_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n will_v have_v the_o better'dness_n of_o thy_o displeasure_n have_v any_o effectual_a operation_n upon_o the_o mind_n of_o the_o party_n with_o who_o thou_o be_v displease_v for_o the_o purge_n away_o fault_n and_o vice_n thou_o must_v manifest_v thy_o displeasure_n as_o the_o physician_n administer_v strong_a physic_n only_o upon_o extraordinary_a case_n for_o if_o physic_n be_v common_o take_v it_o will_v have_v no_o extraordinary_a effect_n if_o thou_o do_v habituate_v thyself_o to_o the_o use_n of_o physic_n in_o a_o common_a way_n as_o thou_o do_v thy_o food_n it_o will_v not_o benefit_v thou_o in_o time_n of_o sickness_n so_o if_o thy_o anger_n be_v frequent_a and_o common_a it_o will_v neither_o do_v good_a to_o thyself_o or_o another_o it_o will_v not_o be_v regard_v the_o frequent_a brawling_n of_o a_o angry_a person_n do_v but_o make_v he_o the_o scorn_n of_o other_o that_o person_n that_o will_v not_o let_v pass_v any_o rumour_n or_o report_n that_o be_v spread_v of_o he_o or_o she_o without_o reason_v and_o stir_v do_v expose_v he_o or_o herself_o to_o the_o more_o reproach_n for_o they_o that_o can_v rule_v their_o own_o spirit_n deserve_v no_o respect_n because_o as_o solomon_n say_v prov._n 25.28_o he_o that_o have_v no_o rule_n over_o his_o own_o spirit_n be_v like_o a_o city_n break_v down_o and_o without_o wall_n who_o be_v able_a to_o defend_v himself_o against_o no_o assault_n therefore_o every_o one_o slight_n he_o 7._o if_o a_o husband_n or_o wife_n do_v manifest_v much_o passion_n frowardness_n and_o discontent_n against_o the_o other_o the_o prevail_a of_o such_o corrupt_a humour_n will_v hinder_v the_o angry_a froward_a and_o discontent_a contentious_a wrangle_a person_n from_o do_v any_o good_a a_o person_n in_o a_o froward_a temper_n be_v exceed_o indispose_v to_o any_o good_a work_n when_o thou_o will_v seem_v to_o aim_v at_o the_o glory_n of_o god_n and_o yet_o will_v show_v thyself_o very_o passionate_a know_v god_n have_v no_o need_n of_o thy_o wrath_n it_o be_v true_a he_o have_v need_n of_o thy_o zeal_n but_o that_o be_v not_o thy_o wrath_n and_o passion_n to_o break_v out_o in_o outrageous_a speech_n or_o rail_v bitter_a language_n god_n have_v no_o need_n of_o this_o wrath_n of_o man_n let_v person_n have_v never_o such_o excellent_a part_n yet_o they_o will_v not_o be_v able_a to_o do_v any_o good_a almost_o if_o they_o be_v froward_a but_o they_o be_v like_a unto_o a_o candle_n wet_a with_o salt_n brine_n they_o spit_v up_o and_o down_o and_o be_v very_o unuseful_a in_o the_o place_n where_o they_o live_v 1._o the_o prevail_a of_o anger_n in_o any_o person_n the_o indulge_v and_o gratify_v a_o humorous_a spirit_n indispose_v they_o to_o do_v good_a to_o themselves_o angry_a person_n will_v be_v averse_a to_o commune_v with_o their_o own_o heart_n and_o to_o consider_v their_o own_o way_n or_o to_o search_v out_o their_o own_o disorder_n of_o life_n the_o wife_n be_v so_o transport_v with_o disgust_n against_o her_o husband_n that_o she_o apprehend_v to_o have_v displease_v she_o that_o she_o can_v think_v of_o nothing_o or_o talk_v of_o nothing_o but_o what_o may_v vilify_v or_o reproach_v her_o husband_n she_o will_v not_o do_v so_o much_o good_a to_o herself_o as_o to_o try_v whether_o those_o carriage_n correspond_v with_o the_o divine_a rule_n whether_o she_o can_v justify_v what_o she_o say_v or_o do_v to_o her_o husband_n by_o a_o warrant_n from_o god_n word_n she_o will_v not_o consider_v whether_o she_o have_v not_o be_v transport_v into_o indiscreet_a and_o indecent_a excess_n or_o whether_o she_o will_v not_o have_v condemn_v such_o violent_a heat_n in_o another_o as_o she_o have_v manifest_v what_o i_o speak_v of_o one_o sex_n here_o i_o intend_v of_o both_o so_o i_o proceed_v people_n frowardness_n and_o passion_n hinder_v they_o from_o do_v good_a to_o themselves_o as_o to_o far_o the_o convince_a themselves_o of_o the_o evil_a that_o they_o have_v do_v and_o bring_v they_o to_o repentance_n for_o it_o and_o will_v thou_o then_o dare_v indulge_v thy_o angry_a passion_n that_o make_v thou_o uncapable_a of_o do_v thyself_o good_a most_o man_n aim_v at_o self-interest_n self-advantage_n and_o self-applause_n but_o thou_o by_o thy_o passion_n do_v disable_v thyself_o from_o do_v any_o act_n advantageous_a to_o thyself_o either_o to_o promote_v thy_o spiritual_a good_a present_a profit_n or_o present_a credit_n sure_o that_o temper_n of_o spirit_n must_v needs_o be_v very_o evil_a that_o hinder_v thou_o from_o do_v good_a to_o thyself_o 2._o thy_o frowardness_n and_o angry_a passion_n thy_o contentious_a wrangle_a spirit_n hinder_v from_o do_v any_o spiritual_a good_a it_o indispose_v thou_o for_o performance_n of_o any_o spiritual_a duty_n to_o god_n it_o make_v thou_o averse_a to_o converse_v with_o god_n and_o unfit_a to_o serve_v god_n in_o a_o right_a manner_n it_o be_v a_o hindrance_n of_o holy_a prayer_n angry_a person_n can_v call_v upon_o god_n in_o a_o serious_a spiritual_a manner_n because_o their_o heart_n be_v carnal_a earthy_a and_o poison_a with_o self-love_n nor_o will_v god_n hear_v they_o if_o they_o call_v upon_o he_o anger_n hinder_v person_n in_o all_o ordinance_n it_o make_v they_o the_o most_o unfit_a person_n in_o the_o world_n for_o to_o pray_v therefore_o the_o apostle_n say_v in_o the_o 1_o tim._n 2.8_o i_o will_v therefore_o that_o man_n pray_v every_o where_o how_o lift_n up_o holy_a hand_n but_o without_o wrath_n o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n thou_o must_v be_v sure_a when_o thou_o lifte_v up_o thy_o hand_n to_o prayer_n that_o there_o be_v no_o wrath_n in_o thy_o spirit_n that_o thou_o do_v not_o go_v to_o prayer_n in_o a_o passion_n angry_a passionate_a prayer_n be_v vain_a prayer_n the_o lord_n love_v zeal_n and_o much_o warmth_n of_o affection_n in_o prayer_n but_o he_o can_v abide_v wrath_n or_o the_o least_o spark_n of_o passion_n in_o prayer_n a_o peaceable_a heart_n be_v as_o necessary_a in_o prayer_n as_o a_o pure_a hand_n when_o a_o wife_n come_v to_o god_n in_o prayer_n have_v i_o know_v not_o what_o wrathful_a dispute_n within_o herself_o against_o her_o husband_n how_o can_v she_o look_v for_o a_o gracious_a acceptance_n with_o god_n the_o like_o may_v be_v say_v of_o the_o husband_n will_v the_o lord_n be_v please_v with_o those_o that_o nourish_v secret_a displeasure_n against_o their_o near_a relation_n no_o no_o furious_a and_o unquiet_a thought_n must_v be_v lay_v down_o by_o those_o that_o will_v have_v favour_n with_o god_n and_o compassion_n from_o god_n if_o person_n will_v compass_v god_n altar_n and_o there_o offer_v up_o the_o sacrifice_n of_o prayer_n and_o thanksgiving_n they_o must_v first_o wash_v their_o hand_n in_o innocency_n ps_n 26.6_o and_o our_o saviour_n christ_n command_v that_o before_o person_n offer_v any_o gift_n unto_o the_o lord_n that_o they_o seek_v to_o be_v reconcile_v to_o the_o party_n with_o who_o they_o be_v displease_v mat._n 5.23_o so_o long_o therefore_o as_o any_o continue_v in_o their_o anger_n they_o be_v unfit_a to_o pray_v and_o this_o appear_v most_o manifest_o in_o the_o five_o petition_n of_o the_o lord_n prayer_n where_o we_o desire_v to_o be_v forgive_v as_o we_o forgive_v mat._n 6.12_o and_o again_o our_o saviour_n christ_n do_v single_a this_o out_o of_o all_o the_o other_o petition_n but_o if_o you_o will_v not_o forgive_v man_n their_o trespass_n no_o more_o will_v your_o father_n forgive_v your_o trespass_n they_o who_o be_v sue_v for_o and_o expect_v favour_n and_o mercy_n from_o god_n have_v need_n to_o discharge_v themselves_o of_o all_o wrath_n and_o displeasure_n towards_o man_n and_o the_o apostle_n peter_n in_o the_o 1_o ep._n 3.7_o exhort_v man_n and_o wife_n to_o live_v together_o in_o love_n that_o their_o prayer_n be_v not_o interrupt_v jarring_n between_o such_o relation_n do_v hinder_v their_o pray_v together_o to_o any_o good_a purpose_n therefore_o if_o you_o will_v be_v fit_a to_o go_v to_o god_n together_o for_o mercy_n and_o favour_n beware_v that_o you_o carry_v no_o wrath_n in_o your_o heart_n towards_o one_o another_o for_o than_o you_o will_v be_v send_v empty_a away_o and_o be_v not_o that_o a_o very_a great_a evil_n
and_o too_o bad_a to_o be_v harbour_v in_o the_o heart_n of_o husband_n and_o wife_n that_o will_v hinder_v they_o from_o enjoy_v fellowship_n and_o acceptance_n with_o god_n in_o prayer_n that_o will_v either_o make_v they_o cease_v to_o pray_v together_o or_o if_o they_o do_v pray_v will_v make_v their_o prayer_n vain_a and_o fruitless_a as_o passion_n and_o discord_n usual_o do_v also_o anger_n and_o discord_n be_v a_o very_a great_a evil_n in_o hinder_v husband_n &_o wife_n to_o do_v good_a by_o unfit_v they_o to_o come_v together_o to_o the_o sacrament_n of_o the_o lord_n supper_n i_o question_v not_o but_o many_o angry_a husband_n and_o wife_n be_v convince_v in_o their_o own_o conscience_n that_o they_o ought_v not_o to_o come_v to_o the_o sacrament_n in_o a_o passion_n when_o they_o be_v angry_a with_o one_o another_o they_o know_v they_o must_v lay_v aside_o wrath_n and_o malice_n then_o and_o be_v in_o charity_n with_o all_o person_n hence_o many_o husband_n &_o wife_n will_v rather_o lose_v a_o sacrament_n than_o come_v in_o a_o passion_n many_o will_v say_v i_o can_v not_o come_v to_o the_o sacrament_n because_o my_o husband_n and_o i_o fall_v out_o or_o my_o wife_n and_o i_o fall_v out_o now_o this_o be_v a_o vile_a thing_n that_o when_o there_o be_v a_o sacrament_n that_o man_n and_o their_o wife_n be_v convince_v that_o they_o ought_v to_o come_v unto_o but_o the_o breach_n that_o be_v between_o they_o hinder_v they_o so_o many_o man_n and_o woman_n by_o give_v way_n unto_o their_o passion_n be_v unfit_a to_o hear_v and_o read_v the_o word_n unfit_a for_o any_o act_n of_o obedience_n of_o the_o divine_a will_n unfit_a for_o any_o act_n that_o have_v a_o tendency_n to_o promote_v the_o glory_n of_o god_n so_o that_o the_o violence_n of_o passion_n do_v hinder_v man_n and_o woman_n from_o do_v of_o any_o spiritual_a good_a 3._o passion_n and_o frowardness_n do_v hinder_v husband_n and_o wife_n from_o do_v good_a to_o one_o another_o in_o disable_v they_o from_o admonish_v one_o another_o of_o any_o fault_n because_o a_o admonition_n be_v to_o be_v administer_v in_o a_o spirit_n of_o meekness_n a_o furious_a person_n be_v very_o unlikely_a to_o convince_v another_o of_o sin_n neither_o have_v such_o a_o one_o any_o heart_n to_o give_v another_o who_o he_o or_o she_o be_v disgu_v with_o any_o spiritual_a counsel_n that_o secret_a prejudice_n which_o be_v harbour_v in_o the_o angry_a person_n breast_n hinder_v he_o or_o she_o from_o do_v any_o office_n of_o love_n for_o he_o or_o her_o near_a relation_n but_o instead_o of_o do_v such_o a_o relation_n good_a will_v do_v he_o or_o her_o the_o great_a prejudice_n that_o may_v be_v do_v angry_a person_n be_v no_o way_n serviceable_a to_o the_o good_a of_o other_o rather_o offer_v indignity_n than_o kindness_n to_o they_o here_o be_v a_o sore_a evil_a indeed_o that_o angry_a husband_n and_o angry_a wife_n be_v neither_o serviceable_a to_o god_n themselves_o nor_o one_o another_o o_o then_o do_v not_o let_v thy_o passion_n rage_n for_o every_o trifle_n thou_o than_o make_v thyself_o unfit_a either_o for_o the_o service_n of_o god_n or_o man_n and_o what_o a_o sad_a thing_n be_v it_o to_o be_v a_o useless_a creature_n not_o capable_a of_o do_v any_o good_a oh_o than_o it_o be_v a_o sad_a and_o sore_o evil_a to_o be_v a_o angry_a passionate_a froward_a and_o contentious_a person_n 8._o anger_n passion_n and_o frowardness_n of_o spirit_n hinder_v person_n from_o receive_v any_o good_a a_o froward_a spirit_n be_v unfit_a to_o take_v in_o any_o good_a there_o be_v no_o deal_n with_o angry_a and_o froward_a spirit_n when_o they_o be_v in_o their_o fit_n as_o there_o be_v no_o physic_n to_o be_v give_v to_o a_o man_n when_o he_o be_v in_o the_o heat_n of_o his_o fever_n so_o there_o be_v no_o meddle_v with_o angry_a person_n when_o they_o be_v in_o a_o flame_n you_o must_v come_v to_o they_o when_o they_o be_v quiet_a or_o else_o you_o will_v not_o be_v able_a to_o do_v they_o any_o good_a and_o indeed_o this_o be_v the_o horrible_a distemper_n of_o this_o passion_n that_o god_n and_o man_n must_v stay_v till_o it_o be_v down_o that_o god_n shall_v not_o only_o wait_v on_o person_n to_o do_v they_o good_a but_o also_o wait_v upon_o their_o wicked_a vile_a base_a lust_n that_o he_o must_v stay_v till_o they_o be_v over_o before_o they_o be_v fit_a to_o hear_v he_o speak_v to_o they_o now_o it_o be_v a_o mean_a thing_n to_o wait_v upon_o a_o person_n humour_n than_o to_o wait_v upon_o the_o mean_a creature_n in_o the_o world_n when_o the_o fire_n of_o anger_n be_v kindle_v in_o people_n heart_n they_o be_v fit_a to_o hearken_v to_o nothing_o their_o soul_n be_v on_o fire_n and_o not_o fit_a to_o hear_v any_o thing_n thus_o man_n angry_a passion_n hinder_v they_o from_o receive_v good_a and_o angry_a person_n be_v impatient_a of_o admonition_n which_o be_v ordain_v of_o god_n as_o a_o mean_n of_o their_o recovery_n from_o sin_n angry_a person_n will_v fly_v in_o the_o face_n of_o a_o reprover_n they_o can_v endure_v to_o have_v their_o way_n and_o action_n find_v fault_n withal_o the_o more_o you_o endeavour_v to_o convince_v they_o of_o their_o sin_n the_o more_o they_o be_v exasperate_v the_o more_o you_o persuade_v they_o from_o their_o evil_a course_n they_o grow_v the_o more_o furious_a in_o their_o passion_n they_o be_v not_o fit_a to_o receive_v any_o good_a counsel_n while_o they_o be_v angry_a they_o be_v obstinate_a and_o resolute_a if_o you_o smite_v with_o a_o reproof_n it_o be_v as_o if_o you_o have_v strike_v upon_o a_o anvil_n it_o make_v no_o impression_n on_o they_o and_o also_o anger_n be_v the_o cause_n that_o the_o word_n of_o god_n become_v unprofitable_a anger_n cause_v man_n to_o entertain_v the_o truth_n of_o the_o word_n of_o life_n as_o wind_v in_o the_o stomach_n do_v wholesome_a meat_n that_o will_v not_o suffer_v it_o to_o enter_v those_o that_o will_v benefit_n by_o hear_v god_n word_n must_v be_v slow_a to_o wrath_n james_n 1.19_o for_o anger_n harden_v the_o heart_n that_o the_o seed_n of_o life_n can_v take_v root_n or_o leave_v impression_n yea_o it_o make_v resistance_n to_o the_o work_n of_o grace_n those_o spirit_n in_o who_o there_o be_v a_o wrathful_a fierceness_n rise_v up_o in_o rage_n against_o the_o word_n of_o god_n angry_a spirit_n think_v that_o the_o minister_n rail_v when_o he_o do_v but_o discover_v their_o guilt_n to_o they_o so_o people_n passion_n stir_v they_o up_o many_o time_n to_o a_o fierce_a opposition_n of_o the_o truth_n but_o let_v such_o consider_v that_o their_o perverse_a opposition_n with_o be_v their_o ruin_n as_o in_o luke_n 7.30_o they_o reject_v the_o counsel_n of_o god_n against_o themselves_o that_o be_v to_o their_o own_o loss_n though_o anger_n may_v not_o altogether_o hinder_v or_o keep_v they_o back_o from_o hear_v yet_o it_o will_v full_o hinder_v they_o from_o practice_n for_o then_o only_a person_n receive_v good_a by_o the_o word_n when_o they_o practice_n what_o they_o hear_v when_o they_o be_v doer_n of_o the_o word_n and_o not_o hearer_n only_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n do_v thou_o observe_v what_o a_o hindrance_n thy_o froward_a and_o passionate_a spirit_n be_v to_o thy_o receive_n good_a indeed_o it_o be_v a_o sore_a evil_a to_o indulge_v thyself_o in_o that_o humour_n which_o resist_v those_o mean_n that_o shall_v do_v thou_o good_a whereby_o tho_o receive_v no_o benefit_n by_o any_o mean_n that_o be_v use_v for_o thy_o good_a yea_o the_o allow_v thyself_o in_o thy_o passion_n do_v deprive_v thou_o of_o the_o good_a thou_o have_v before_o thou_o be_v not_o only_o hinder_v from_o receive_v more_o good_a but_o thou_o shall_v lose_v even_o what_o thou_o have_v it_o be_v report_v that_o some_o pearl_n may_v be_v dissolve_v by_o vinegar_n so_o there_o be_v many_o excellent_a thing_n in_o man_n and_o woman_n but_o they_o be_v dissolve_v by_o the_o vinegar_n of_o passion_n the_o vinegar_n of_o passion_n do_v stain_v the_o spirit_n of_o man_n and_o woman_n and_o cause_v they_o to_o lose_v that_o beauty_n that_o they_o have_v before_o yea_o to_o lose_v much_o of_o the_o sweetness_n of_o the_o enjoyment_n of_o god_n himself_o yea_o it_o make_v they_o lose_v the_o sense_n of_o divine_a love_n as_o we_o can_v discern_v the_o sun_n when_o we_o be_v near_o a_o scorch_a fire_n so_o the_o heavenly_a heat_n of_o divine_a love_n be_v not_o feel_v if_o the_o furious_a flame_n of_o anger_n be_v kindle_v in_o people_n heart_n froward_a christian_n have_v little_a sense_n of_o god_n love_n towards_o they_o o_o then_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n do_v thy_o continual_a brawl_n hinder_v thou_o from_o receive_v good_a by_o admonition_n counsel_n
sin_n that_o thou_o may_v not_o be_v so_o much_o under_o the_o power_n of_o a_o strong_a bent_n and_o inclination_n unto_o sin_n that_o it_o may_v not_o have_v such_o life_n power_n vigour_n promptness_n and_o readiness_n to_o be_v stir_v this_o mortification_n that_o i_o here_o intend_v be_v a_o daily_a endeavour_n after_o the_o weaken_n and_o abolish_n of_o indwelling_a sin_n by_o little_a and_o little_a that_o it_o may_v not_o incline_v thou_o &_o employ_v thou_o with_o such_o efficacy_n to_o make_v thou_o a_o servant_n to_o it_o as_o heretofore_o if_o thou_o let_v the_o root_n of_o thy_o corruption_n abide_v in_o strength_n and_o vigour_n it_o will_v be_v still_o bring_v forth_o new_a fruit_n of_o the_o flesh_n and_o thou_o will_v be_v hurry_v into_o violent_a passion_n upon_o every_o slight_a occasion_n one_fw-mi if_o we_o see_v person_n rage_v in_o wrath_n and_o fury_n we_o may_v conclude_v that_o indwelling_a sin_n be_v in_o its_o full_a power_n and_o vigour_n in_o they_o now_o thou_o can_v not_o carry_v on_o this_o work_n of_o mortification_n except_o thou_o be_v ingraft_v into_o christ_n by_o faith_n i_o do_v not_o say_v except_o thou_o be_v assure_v of_o it_o but_o thou_o must_v be_v indeed_o a_o true_a believer_n because_o mortification_n be_v not_o do_v without_o the_o aid_n of_o god_n spirit_n who_o be_v promise_v to_o do_v it_o and_o all_o other_o mean_n be_v vain_a without_o he_o now_o the_o spirit_n aid_v for_o the_o work_n of_o mortification_n be_v not_o gain_v except_o we_o be_v in_o christ_n by_o faith_n and_o when_o we_o be_v in_o christ_n we_o have_v the_o spirit_n and_o so_o have_v power_n for_o mortification_n all_o attempt_n then_o for_o mortification_n of_o indwelling_a sin_n without_o a_o interest_n in_o christ_n be_v vain_a for_o there_o must_v be_v first_o conversion_n and_o faith_n in_o christ_n than_o mortification_n will_v ensue_v know_v then_o that_o sin_n can_v be_v kill_v without_o a_o interest_n in_o the_o death_n of_o christ_n or_o mortify_v without_o the_o spirit_n thou_o then_o be_v a_o believer_n make_v daily_o and_o sincere_a opposition_n of_o indwelling_a sin_n rise_v then_o mighty_o against_o the_o first_o moving_n and_o act_n of_o thy_o corruption_n against_o its_o first_o conception_n let_v it_o not_o have_v allowance_n from_o thou_o for_o one_o step_n for_o it_o be_v impossible_a to_o fix_v bound_n to_o it_o if_o thou_o find_v thy_o corruption_n to_o begin_v to_o entangle_v thy_o thought_n rise_v up_o with_o all_o thy_o strength_n against_o it_o with_o no_o less_o indignation_n than_o if_o it_o have_v full_o accomplish_v what_o it_o aim_v at_o else_o it_o will_v get_v ground_n in_o the_o affection_n to_o delight_n in_o it_o and_o if_o thou_o find_v it_o too_o powerful_a a_o enemy_n for_o thou_o set_v faith_n on_o work_n in_o christ_n for_o the_o kill_n of_o thy_o sin_n his_o blood_n be_v the_o great_a sovereign_a remedy_n for_o sinsick_a soul_n fill_v thy_o soul_n with_o the_o due_a consideration_n of_o that_o provision_n which_o be_v lay_v up_o in_o christ_n for_o this_o end_n that_o thy_o corruption_n may_v be_v mortify_v behold_v the_o lord_n christ_n that_o have_v all_o fullness_n of_o grace_n in_o his_o heart_n all_o fullness_n of_o power_n in_o his_o hand_n he_o be_v able_a to_o slay_v all_o thy_o corruption_n there_o be_v provision_n enough_o in_o he_o for_o thy_o relief_n and_o assistance_n then_o raise_v up_o thy_o heart_n by_o faith_n to_o a_o expectation_n of_o relief_n from_o christ_n and_o thy_o soul_n shall_v be_v satisfy_v with_o the_o relief_n it_o expect_v he_o will_v assure_o deliver_v thou_o he_o will_v slay_v thy_o corruption_n mortification_n of_o sin_n be_v one_o peculiar_a end_n of_o the_o death_n of_o christ_n which_o shall_v assure_o be_v accomplish_v by_o it_o and_o this_o whole_a work_n that_o i_o be_o press_v thou_o to_o endeavour_v after_o be_v effect_v carry_v on_o and_o accomplish_v by_o the_o power_n of_o the_o spirit_n in_o all_o the_o part_n and_o degree_n of_o it_o and_o that_o thou_o may_v have_v more_o power_n to_o oppose_v and_o weaken_v the_o power_n of_o thy_o corruption_n beg_v of_o god_n earnest_o for_o christ_n sake_n to_o give_v thou_o his_o spirit_n o_o then_o be_v it_o from_o the_o corruption_n in_o thy_o heart_n that_o thy_o passion_n break_v out_o against_o thy_o husband_n or_o against_o thy_o wife_n in_o thy_o life_n be_v it_o thy_o corruption_n that_o make_v thou_o froward_a and_o contentious_a that_o make_v discord_n between_o thou_o and_o thy_o husband_n then_o bend_v all_o thy_o strength_n against_o thy_o corruption_n by_o the_o aid_n of_o the_o spirit_n endeavour_v the_o mortification_n of_o the_o deed_n of_o the_o flesh_n rom._n 8.13_o before_o the_o strength_n of_o thy_o corruption_n be_v weaken_v thy_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n will_v not_o be_v prevent_v for_o as_o the_o motion_n of_o original_a sin_n be_v permanent_a thou_o will_v not_o be_v rid_v of_o the_o body_n of_o death_n until_o the_o death_n of_o thy_o body_n so_o they_o be_v exceed_o violent_a and_o impetuous_a in_o their_o operation_n and_o put_v people_n into_o violent_a passion_n upon_o small_a occasion_n if_o thou_o do_v not_o oppose_v thy_o corruption_n thou_o do_v not_o endeavour_v to_o prevent_v tiâ—y_o break_v out_o into_o furiousness_n of_o spirit_n keep_v down_o then_o thy_o indwelling_a sin_n and_o thou_o will_v not_o have_v such_o hot_a contest_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n for_o quarrel_v and_o contention_n come_v from_o the_o lust_n that_o be_v within_o james_z 4_o 1._o consider_v then_o when_o ever_o any_o thing_n displease_v thou_o if_o i_o be_v angry_a i_o gratify_v my_o corruption_n which_o i_o be_o bind_v to_o mortify_v col._n 3.5_o certain_o thy_o froward_a carriage_n to_o thy_o husband_n do_v arise_v more_o from_o the_o evil_a that_o be_v within_o thou_o than_o the_o displeasure_n that_o be_v do_v thou_o thou_o have_v just_a cause_n to_o say_v it_o be_v not_o my_o temptation_n but_o my_o corruption_n that_o make_v i_o froward_a and_o so_o do_v thou_o fall_v a_o study_v to_o mortify_v thy_o corruption_n if_o ever_o thou_o will_v prevent_v thy_o passion_n 2._o consider_v o_o husband_n and_o o_o wife_n if_o you_o will_v prevent_v fall_n out_o with_o one_o another_o keep_v up_o your_o conjugal_a love_n in_o a_o constant_a heat_n and_o vigour_n love_n will_v suppress_v wrath_n as_o well_o as_o prevent_v it_o you_o can_v have_v a_o bitter_a mind_n upon_o small_a provocation_n against_o those_o that_o you_o dear_o love_n much_o less_o can_v you_o proceed_v to_o revile_v word_n or_o to_o averseness_n and_o estrangedness_n or_o any_o abuse_n of_o one_o another_o or_o or_o if_o a_o breach_n or_o wound_n be_v unhappy_o make_v the_o balsamic_a quality_n of_o love_n will_v heal_v it_o but_o when_o love_v once_o cool_v small_a matter_n will_v exasperate_v and_o breed_v distaste_n therefore_o i_o shall_v give_v some_o direction_n how_o conjugal_a love_n may_v be_v maintain_v and_o preserve_v 1._o take_v more_o notice_n of_o the_o good_a that_o be_v in_o one_o another_o than_o the_o evil_n leâ—_n not_o the_o observation_n of_o one_o another_o fault_n make_v you_o overlook_a or_o forget_v one_o another_o virtue_n love_n be_v kindle_v and_o preserve_v by_o the_o sight_n of_o love_n and_o goodness_n if_o you_o will_v observe_v nothing_o in_o one_o another_o but_o your_o infirmity_n and_o some_o indiscreet_a inconsiderate_a and_o unadvised_a act_n you_o neither_o preserve_v love_n nor_o keep_v peace_n with_o one_o another_o if_o you_o will_v magnify_v fault_n in_o one_o another_o and_o flight_n and_o despise_v any_o good_a quality_n you_o take_v the_o ready_a course_n to_o destroy_v conjugal_a love_n and_o beget_v hatred_n to_o one_o another_o therefore_o turn_v away_o your_o eye_n from_o one_o another_o humane_a frailty_n and_o prize_v what_o you_o can_v see_v of_o god_n in_o one_o another_o and_o put_v a_o charitable_a construction_n upon_o word_n and_o action_n and_o this_o be_v a_o excellent_a way_n to_o cherish_v conjugal_a love_n and_o prevent_v dissension_n between_o you_o 2._o stir_v up_o that_o most_o in_o one_o another_o into_o exercise_n which_o be_v best_a and_o stir_v not_o up_o that_o which_o be_v worst_a avoid_v that_o which_o will_v move_v your_o corruption_n to_o violent_a operation_n use_v such_o action_n as_o may_v provoke_v one_o another_o unto_o love_n and_o good_a work_n and_o then_o the_o good_a that_o be_v in_o you_o will_v most_o appear_v and_o the_o evil_n will_v be_v as_o bury_v there_o be_v some_o uncleanness_n in_o the_o best_a on_o earth_n and_o if_o you_o will_v be_v daily_o stir_v the_o filth_n no_o wonder_n if_o you_o have_v the_o annoyance_n and_o for_o that_o you_o may_v thank_v yourselves_o draw_v out_o the_o fragrancy_n of_o that_o which_o be_v good_a and_o delectable_a in_o
apostle_n prescribe_v humility_n as_o a_o antidote_n against_o strife_n and_o contention_n and_o a_o sovereign_n mean_a for_o attain_v unto_o and_o entertain_v of_o union_n and_o peace_n but_o where_o pride_n be_v predominant_a man_n and_o woman_n walk_v so_o as_o that_o they_o care_v not_o to_o give_v content_a to_o any_o body_n but_o themselves_o in_o the_o family_n they_o must_v have_v all_o the_o content_n and_o no_o body_n else_o be_v please_v certain_o a_o humble_a spirit_n be_v much_o free_a from_o angry_a passion_n than_o any_o other_o because_o as_o a_o humble_a person_n be_v not_o willing_a to_o give_v offence_n to_o any_o so_o be_v not_o ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o for_o it_o be_v pride_n of_o spirit_n to_o be_v ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o upon_o every_o trifle_n and_o by_o this_o mean_n person_n prove_v to_o be_v very_o burdensome_a to_o other_o the_o ground_n of_o a_o proud_a person_n take_v offence_n be_v this_o because_o they_o think_v that_o every_o body_n must_v say_v as_o they_o say_v and_o do_v as_o they_o do_v else_o they_o cry_v out_o that_o they_o be_v always_o oppose_v and_o because_o they_o think_v their_o own_o judgement_n best_o and_o such_o a_o thing_n be_v better_a therefore_o other_o must_v do_v it_o and_o if_o they_o do_v not_o than_o they_o be_v lofty_a than_o they_o be_v proud_a and_o stout_a and_o break_v out_o into_o unseemly_a speech_n be_v inflame_v with_o passion_n evidence_v that_o they_o be_v under_o the_o tyranny_n of_o their_o pride_n so_o that_o there_o be_v no_o prevent_v of_o anger_n &_o contention_n between_o husband_n &_o wife_n without_o the_o mortification_n of_o their_o pride_n 4._o another_o direction_n to_o prevent_v sinful_a anger_n and_o hot_a contest_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v that_o thou_o do_v consider_v that_o god_n be_v merciful_a and_o gracious_a slow_a to_o anger_n and_o abundant_a in_o kindness_n exod._n 34.6_o and_o as_o he_o be_v not_o easy_o provoke_v to_o anger_n so_o be_v provoke_v his_o anger_n last_v not_o long_a for_o he_o will_v not_o always_o chide_v nor_o keep_v his_o anger_n for_o ever_o psal_n 103._o 8_o 9_o the_o lord_n with_o much_o lenity_n suffer_v the_o vessel_n ordain_v to_o destruction_n how_o long_o do_v he_o suffer_v the_o old_a world_n how_o loath_a be_v he_o to_o strikeâ—_n if_o in_o and_o hundred_o &_o twenty_o year_n he_o can_v have_v reclaim_v they_o he_o will_v have_v forbear_v they_o 1_o pet._n 3.20_o the_o measure_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o mercy_n towards_o we_o be_v daily_o boundless_a and_o exceed_v all_o measure_n he_o forgive_v we_o every_o moment_n much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v possible_o be_v wrong_v of_o man_n yea_o he_o forgive_v that_o person_n that_o injure_v we_o much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v forgive_v he_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o will_v evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v a_o child_n of_o god_n must_v thou_o not_o labour_v to_o express_v his_o virtue_n this_o be_v that_o the_o apostle_n exhort_v col._n 3.12_o 13._o put_v on_o therefore_o as_o the_o elect_a of_o god_n holy_a and_o belove_a bowel_n of_o mercy_n kindness_n humbleness_n of_o mind_n meekness_n long-suffering_a forbear_v one_o another_o if_o any_o man_n have_v a_o quarrel_n against_o any_o even_o as_o christ_n forgive_v you_o even_o so_o do_v you_o he_o recommend_v the_o practice_n of_o meekness_n and_o long-suffering_a which_o consist_v in_o bear_v with_o and_o pardon_v of_o even_o real_a injury_n do_v by_o other_o and_o persuade_v to_o it_o from_o christ_n example_n in_o pardon_v we_o the_o example_n of_o god_n and_o christ_n be_v a_o most_o convince_a pattern_n for_o exciting_a we_o to_o pardon_v and_o forgive_v on_o another_o if_o we_o consider_v either_o the_o greatness_n of_o those_o wrong_n which_o he_o pardon_v isa_n 1.18_o or_o our_o baseness_n who_o do_v injure_v he_o isa_n 40.17_o 22._o or_o his_o omnipotency_n to_o right_v himself_o of_o the_o wrong_n do_v unto_o he_o mat._n 10.28_o do_v thou_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o forgiveness_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o forgive_v thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n shall_v god_n forgive_v thou_o infinite_a sin_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o pass_v by_o one_o offence_n do_v thâ—n_o stand_v in_o deed_n of_o a_o sea_n of_o mercy_n for_o the_o wash_n away_o thy_o many_o foul_a offence_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o let_v one_o drop_v fall_n upon_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n to_o forbear_v or_o forgive_v in_o trifle_a wrong_n certain_o if_o husband_n and_o wife_n will_v but_o serious_o consider_v these_o thing_n it_o will_v make_v all_o quarrelling_n and_o contention_n between_o they_o to_o cease_v o_o what_o little_a cause_n have_v thou_o then_o to_o manifest_v a_o furious_a spirit_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n for_o every_o trifle_n see_v god_n do_v not_o deal_v furious_o with_o thou_o for_o great_a offence_n o_o that_o these_o consideration_n may_v prevent_v husband_n and_o wife_n rage_v against_o and_o fall_v out_o one_o with_o another_o for_o the_o time_n to_o come_v 5._o if_o thou_o will_v keep_v thy_o spirit_n quiet_a and_o free_a from_o furious_a passion_n when_o any_o thing_n be_v do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n that_o be_v contrary_a to_o thy_o mind_n and_o do_v much_o displease_v look_v up_o to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n and_o acknowledge_v the_o providence_n of_o god_n without_o which_o not_o the_o least_o grief_n or_o injury_n can_v befall_v thou_o for_o even_o the_o least_o be_v a_o portion_n of_o that_o cup_n which_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n reach_v out_o to_o thou_o to_o drink_v of_o job_n look_v not_o at_o the_o sabean_o and_o thief_n that_o take_v away_o his_o good_n but_o at_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n the_o lord_n have_v take_v away_o bless_a be_v his_o name_n job_n 1.21_o 22._o he_o be_v satisfy_v that_o god_n will_v that_o in_o righteousness_n and_o justice_n which_o they_o act_v with_o so_o much_o cruelty_n and_o injustice_n david_n look_v up_o to_o god_n when_o shimei_n curse_v he_o quiet_v his_o spirit_n and_o restrain_v his_o anger_n so_o in_o psal_n 39.9_o i_o be_v dumb_a and_o open_v not_o my_o mouth_n o_o lord_n because_o thou_o do_v it_o he_o do_v neither_o manifest_a forwardness_n nor_o discontent_n because_o he_o take_v notice_n of_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n joseph_n do_v not_o vent_v his_o passion_n against_o his_o brother_n for_o sell_v he_o to_o the_o ishmeelite_n but_o keep_v himself_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n by_o consider_v this_o it_o be_v god_n that_o send_v i_o hither_o a_o godly_a man_n can_v be_v angry_a at_o the_o do_v or_o speak_v of_o that_o which_o please_v god_n to_o order_v the_o speak_n or_o do_v of_o because_o he_o know_v he_o be_v bind_v to_o submit_v to_o the_o will_n of_o god_n and_o thy_o only_a observe_v of_o the_o person_n that_o do_v in_o any_o way_n displease_v thou_o and_o not_o consider_v that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v the_o cause_n that_o thou_o be_v so_o often_o transport_v with_o furious_a passion_n a_o observation_n that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v as_o water_v to_o quench_v the_o inflammation_n of_o thy_o angry_a passion_n this_o persuasion_n that_o god_n see_v cause_n for_o all_o the_o wrong_n that_o thou_o do_v suffer_v be_v many_o way_n forceable_a to_o move_v thou_o unto_o patience_n for_o 1._o if_o thou_o do_v look_v to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n in_o those_o thing_n that_o distaste_n thou_o it_o will_v constrain_v thou_o to_o confess_v that_o all_o thy_o chastisement_n be_v just_a far_o less_o than_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v for_o indeed_o all_o the_o opposition_n that_o thou_o have_v from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v in_o some_o measure_n a_o rebuke_n of_o god_n against_o some_o miscarriage_n of_o thou_o and_o god_n in_o permit_v thou_o to_o be_v exercise_v with_o such_o thing_n as_o do_v very_o much_o distaste_n thy_o spirit_n do_v do_v 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needless_o or_o be_v concern_v for_o every_o domestic_a trifle_n and_o if_o any_o thing_n miscarry_v thou_o will_v not_o so_o much_o look_v to_o the_o mean_n as_o to_o the_o supreme_a cause_n the_o providence_n of_o god_n o_o if_o thou_o be_v a_o heavenly_a christian_a thou_o will_v be_v lift_v up_o far_o above_o these_o sublunary_a thing_n and_o will_v not_o be_v afflict_v when_o cross_v in_o they_o consider_v then_o when_o thou_o be_v jar_a and_o contend_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n when_o thou_o be_v vent_v thyself_o in_o passion_n for_o every_o trifle_n for_o every_o unadvised_a word_n for_o every_o unsuitable_a gesture_n or_o for_o thing_n that_o be_v no_o way_n sinful_a thou_o do_v evidence_n that_o thou_o be_v a_o stranger_n to_o a_o heavenly_a frame_n thy_o heart_n be_v drossy_a and_o earthly_a thy_o heart_n be_v too_o much_o set_v upon_o the_o please_a of_o thy_o humour_n and_o do_v prefer_v thy_o own_o will_n before_o god_n will_n if_o thou_o will_v be_v 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that_o be_v usual_a attendant_n of_o a_o journey_n to_o heaven_n consider_v with_o thyself_o thus_o why_o shall_v i_o fret_v myself_o with_o a_o little_a opposition_n or_o contradiction_n from_o my_o husband_n or_o wife_n now_o it_o will_v not_o be_v long_o before_o i_o come_v home_o to_o my_o father_n house_n where_o i_o shall_v be_v above_o all_o opposition_n and_o shall_v not_o i_o bear_v a_o little_a disquiet_n for_o a_o eternal_a rest_n o_o be_v thou_o a_o heavenly_a christian_a thou_o will_v live_v in_o more_o sweetness_n amity_n content_n and_o satisfaction_n with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n 8._o if_o thou_o will_v keep_v down_o the_o rise_n of_o thy_o anger_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v exceed_o humble_v for_o thy_o former_a break_n out_o into_o anger_n they_o that_o resolve_v to_o set_v upon_o a_o duty_n and_o be_v not_o humble_v for_o their_o former_a neglect_n of_o it_o be_v like_a to_o do_v little_a good_a by_o their_o resolution_n physician_n use_v to_o purge_v out_o choler_n by_o bitter_a thing_n and_o those_o that_o will_v tame_v wild_a creature_n keep_v they_o in_o the_o dark_a so_o humiliation_n for_o the_o distemper_n of_o passion_n be_v a_o special_a mean_n to_o purge_v out_o passion_n and_o to_o tame_v and_o quiet_a the_o spirit_n of_o man_n and_o woman_n it_o may_v be_v thou_o have_v be_v overcome_v with_o passion_n in_o froward_a fit_n and_o thou_o have_v see_v the_o inconveniency_n of_o they_o and_o it_o may_v be_v afterward_o thou_o have_v thought_n o_o this_o be_v ill_a and_o thou_o hope_v thou_o shall_v do_v so_o no_o more_o but_o although_o thou_o think_v that_o thou_o will_v do_v so_o no_o more_o yet_o except_o thou_o be_v humble_v for_o what_o thou_o have_v do_v thou_o will_v fall_v to_o it_o again_o upon_o the_o next_o occasion_n o_o then_o thou_o that_o be_v often_o and_o soon_o angry_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n for_o trifle_n i_o appeal_v to_o thy_o conscience_n can_v thou_o affirm_v that_o thou_o have_v be_v under_o deep_a humiliation_n for_o thy_o former_a passion_n have_v thou_o smart_v in_o spirit_n for_o thy_o former_a anger_n have_v thou_o mourn_v and_o be_v afflict_v for_o thy_o former_a hastiness_n of_o spirit_n and_o causeless_a venting_n of_o thy_o passion_n what_o can_v thou_o answer_v to_o this_o question_n o_o never_o expect_v to_o be_v restrain_v from_o future_a miscarriage_n except_o thou_o be_v true_o humble_v for_o former_a miscarriage_n of_o this_o nature_n o_o therefore_o thou_o that_o have_v such_o a_o froward_a spirit_n o_o get_v alone_o and_o apply_v the_o salt_n tear_n of_o humiliation_n unto_o the_o choler_n of_o thy_o heart_n and_o see_v what_o this_o will_v do_v humiliation_n for_o that_o which_o be_v past_a will_v be_v a_o special_a help_n to_o keep_v thou_o from_o bark_v snarl_v at_o and_o bite_v thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n i_o use_v such_o expression_n because_o angry_a person_n be_v very_o dog_v in_o their_o carriage_n one_o to_o another_o 9_o if_o thou_o will_v live_v in_o peace_n and_o quietness_n with_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n thou_o shall_v be_v offend_v with_o nothing_o in_o thy_o husband_n or_o in_o thy_o wife_n but_o what_o god_n be_v offend_v with_o such_o of_o thy_o husband_n action_n as_o do_v displease_v god_n shall_v displease_v thou_o what_o authority_n or_o right_n have_v thou_o to_o be_v offend_v with_o thy_o husband_n when_o god_n be_v not_o or_o what_o reason_n can_v give_v why_o thou_o shall_v be_v distaste_v with_o any_o of_o his_o action_n that_o god_n be_v not_o yea_o certain_o thou_o ought_v not_o to_o find_v fault_n with_o that_o in_o thy_o husband_n which_o god_n do_v not_o if_o you_o will_v both_o of_o you_o more_o faithful_o endeavour_v to_o conform_v to_o god_n will_v your_o will_n will_v be_v more_o unite_a and_o there_o will_v not_o be_v such_o difference_n between_o you_o but_o if_o your_o will_n do_v oppose_v god_n will_n it_o be_v no_o wonder_n if_o there_o be_v heat_n and_o contest_v between_o you_o sin_n be_v the_o great_a makebate_n in_o the_o world_n if_o you_o be_v not_o afraid_a of_o displease_v god_n you_o will_v not_o be_v afraid_a of_o displease_v one_o another_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o can_v so_o far_o govern_v thy_o own_o spirit_n as_o to_o take_v offence_n at_o nothing_o in_o thy_o husband_n but_o what_o be_v sinful_a thou_o will_v not_o be_v so_o angry_a with_o he_o as_o thou_o be_v the_o apostle_n say_v ephes_n 4.26_o be_v angry_a and_o sin_v not_o or_o be_v angry_a with_o nothing_o or_o for_o nothing_o but_o what_o be_v sinful_a for_o i_o find_v the_o learned_a interpreter_n render_v the_o meaning_n thus_o be_v not_o angry_a with_o the_o person_n of_o one_o another_o but_o his_o sin_n and_o be_v angry_a as_o much_o against_o that_o sin_n in_o thyself_o as_o another_o observeâ—_n but_o this_o rule_n and_o it_o will_v prevent_v abundance_n of_o contention_n that_o usual_o arise_v between_o such_o near_a relation_n 10._o if_o 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