side or the like Let him relieve or Minister sufficiently to them besides this sin invalidateth what in you lyeth the 5th Commandement Mar. 7. 10 11 12 13. Moses saith Honour thy Father and Mother but you will not suffer a man to do ought for his Father or Mother and so make the word of God of none effect nor will any pretences as there are for need of what parents should have for religious uses for the Corban and that by bestowing the same upon such uses parents will have benefit enough and the like not such nor any other pretence whatsoever will pass with God why children should neglect or omit so weighty a duty of ministring to their parents If Job say if I have seen any poor without covering if his loynes have not blessed me then let my arm fall from my shoulder blade c Job 31. 19 20 21. Surely much less could he charge himself with any such sin as this is we are speaking of and lest any pretend ignorance of parents straights and wants verily you must look after that and make sure of that that they do not lack any suitable supply as 1 Tim. 5. 8 16. Evinceth and let men take heed they delude not themselves this way I may say as Solomon said in another cause Prov. 24. 12. If thou sayest behold we knew it not Doth not he that pondereth the heart consider it and he that keepeth thy soul doth not he know it and shall not he render to every man according to his works if Christ be so severe against neglect and omission of supply of ministring to his other needy sick or imprisoned ones as Matth. 25. 41. Depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the Devill and his Angels vers 42. For I namely in my members as vers 46. expoundeth it was hungry and ye gave me no meat I was thirsty and ye gave no drink vers 43. I was a stranger and ye took me not in naked and ye cloathed me not sick and in prison and ye visited me not How dreadfully will he speak to all and every one of you who are unnaturall ingratefull Children who have suffered your Christian Parents to want such supply and help as you might have ministred but did it not And here also as subordinate to this particular reproved in children we might reprove deboist youngsters who by their dissolute courses wast their estates whereby they might have ministred to Parents wants afterwards but by their own prodigality come to be disinabled But we shall leave them to consider of 1 Cor. 6. 9 10. and Prov. 23. 20 21 29. to the end and Isa 5. 22. and verse 11. unto verse 18. and such other Scriptures 3. It serveth to abase such of you as any way 3. Such as steal away or wast Parents estates impair your Parents outward Estates by stealing from them as Prov. 28. 24. Who so robbeth his Father or his Motber and saith it is no transgression is the Companion of a destroyer or a destroying man Heb. a Highway-side robber or associate to them inuring himself to pilfer smaller matters from Parents Imagining or at least pretending to himself or others that there is no hurt no great fault in that he learneth the trade of thieving and at length is an open practitioner thereof and is a destroying man to himself at last commeth to the Gallowes This as I may say is the Genesis of such a youngsters course and many a wretch at the Gallowes hath made an answerable Analysis of his lewd course till he hath brought it up to this as the very head and beginning of it they first began to pilfer this and that from their Father and Mother else had never come to this sad end Michas thieving and stealing from his Mother received indeed a stop Judg. 17. 1 2. But he occasioned his Mothers curse ibid. and so many such like acts occasion the like from other Parents But say you wast not your Parents estates this way if you do it by secret excesse in Drinking and Feasting or in gaming or company-keeping it is an evill requitall to your Parents for all their care and paines to lay up somewhat to mantain their children comfortably and honourably and you thus basely cast it away Prov. 16. 26. He that wasteth his Father and chaseth away his Mother is a Son that causeth shame Mothers who of the two are the most tender-hearted towards their Children yet even their hearts are alienated from children by such vile courses Such profuse mispending of Fathers Estates even chaseth away a tender hearted Mother But oh how farr doth it estrange the heart of the Lord himself from any such miscreants as you are 4. It serveth to abase such of you as are cruel 4. Such as are hard-hearted to their Brethren or hard-hearted to your fellow brethren or sisters like Edomites to the Israelites their kindred not only looking on upon them in their Affliction without succouring of them but spoyling of them themselves Obad. 12. 13 14 c. For which the vengeance of God was then threatned and afterwards executed upon them Now such ingratefull unkind dealings with your Brethren it is unkind requitall of your Parents in Gods account As Abimelech and the men of Shechem raging so against his seventy Brethren Judg. 9. 2 3 4 5 6. It s called wickedness done by Abimelech to his Father and God accordingly avenged the same by making Abimelech and the Shechemits which were fellow-actours in that Inhumanity to be mutuall executioners of divine Justice each upon other Judg. 9. 56. Thus God rendred the wickednesse of Abimelech which he did unto his Father in slaying his seventy Brethren Unkindness to Children being ever reckoned as unkindnesse offered to Fathers As the Edomites unkindness to the Israelites is unkindness to Edoms Brother Jacob Obad. 10. 11 c. So when Joash dealt so unworthily with Zecheriah good Jehoiadahs son It s said of it 2 Chron. 24. 22. Thus Joash the King remembred not the kindnesse which Jehoiada his Father had done to him but slew his Son c. 5. Let it abase all such of you as in any unnatural 5. Such as are treacherous or inhumane to parents way either betray your good Parents to persecutors malice of which Matth. 13. 12. The Children shall cause the Parents to be put to death which must needs be a double death to them in a manner as in a sort that was to Christ to be betrayed by one of his own Children as it were One of you saith he to his Disciples shall betray one Matth. 26. Or if you be any other waies inhumane towards your Parents by striking them though not mortally which God maketh death to such monsters of mankind Exod. 21. 15. He that striketh Father or Mother shall die And what then will be the doom of paricides who strike them mortally Absalom would have done it â— Sam. 16. 11. He sought his Fathers life and
joyes and delights as of the kingdome of grace here so of that of glory hereafter so in Deut. 30. 15 19. I set before thee life Rom. 8. 6. To be spiritually minded is life Act. 11. 18. Repentance unto life Psal 36. 9. With thee is the fountaine of life John 3. 36. He shall not see life CHAP. II. Of Honour in generall due to Parents HAving explained the words of the 5. Commandement shewn the weight of the duty therein injoyned to Children we now come to make further inquiry into the duty it self which we shall consider of in the method propounded 1. More Generally 2. More particulaly First then of Honour of Parents in a generall consideration wherein we shall 1. Consider what kind and manner of honour this honour of Parents so generally considered must be 2. Make some uses thereof To the first inquiry we answer 1. Honour not due to Parents which is 1. In way of dishoner to God Negatively what Honour is not due to Parents 2. Affirmatively what manner of Honour is due In a negative way we say the Honour of Parents 1. It must not be in any way of dishonour to God either by sinnes of Omission or of Commission Children must not so respect esteem and love Father or Mother as to love and prefer them in their respects to the Lord. He that loveth Father or Mother more then me is not worthy of me saith Christ Matth. 10. 37. Children may not be so transported with affection to Parents as thereby to be hindered from a call of Christ or attending upon it As he in Luk. 9. 65. when called to follow Christ would have gon first and buried his Father but vers 60. is answered by Christ Let the dead bury their dead but go thou and preach the Kingdome of God or as the other in Luk. 9. 61. that would ingage to follow Christ but he would first bid farewell to those at home namely Parents Kindred c. But Jesus Christ accounteth such inordinacy of affection in those who professe to set their faces towards heaven to be a looking back to the world and the like and therefore vers 62. Jesus said unto him No man having put his hand to the Plough and looking back is fit for the Kingdome of God Children may not have such carnall affection to Parents or be so glued to them as not to be able to part with them and forsake them and deny themselves in them for the sake of Christ when they are thereunto called The Spouse of Christ Solomons Antitype must forget her Kindred and Fathers house for her Lords sake and nearer Communion with him Psal 45. 10. Children may not so love Father or Mother as out of respect to them to forsake Christs truth or faith or to imbrace any thing contrary to the faith or truth of Christ a sin too common amongst the Children of Papists and other Heretiques and Opinionists this is also to love them more then Christ Better that the Daughter in such a case of Christs faith and truth be at variance against the Mother that she contend even with her for Christs truth for the faith once delivered to the Saints that she beat down with all her might the Mothers errors and evils In which case also Christ saith Matth. 10. 35. He commeth to set a man at variance against his own Father and the Daughter against her Mother He that more desireth after his Parents presence then after the Lords or more delighteth in them then in the Lord himself or is more moved in their causes then in the Lords or is more troubled for them and their disgrace then for the Lords dishonour or the like he doth not honour his Parents according to Gods mind and heart yea he that comparatively and where the love of Father or Mother and the love of Christ are not compatible where the condition and case is so qualified that love to Parents and love to Christ become flat contraries and must one give place to the other one or the other must be laid aside in such a case He that hateth not his very Father and Mother cannot be Christs Disciple Luk. 14. 26. In such a case Godly zealous Levi is commended Deut. 33. 9. Who said to his Father and his Mother I have not seen him The like might be said in that honour of Reverence and Fear Children may not be so afraid of Parents or of their frownes or blowes or distastes or disinheritings c. as not to be afraid of Gods displeasure but to adventure that in some way of sin rather then run the hazzard of â— Fathers or Mothers displeasure Christ 〈…〉 his Mothers displeasure or rebuke so as 〈◊〉 her sake to omit any duty to God his Father or to neglect his heavenly Fathers business 〈◊〉 in answer to that check of Maries Luk. 2. 48. Son why hast thou thus dealt with us behold thy Father and I have sought thee sorrowing he sayth vers 49. Wist ye not that I must be about my fathers business 〈◊〉 was a notable speech of that Pagan Priest Câ—râ—alus being to sacrifice and at the same time required to come away to his Father he boldly answered He must first dispatch the duties of publick Religion or of Religion which was of publick Concernment and after that those of private piety to Parents Children must indeed honour their Parents Counsels and Commands with the honour of obedience and observance yet not so as in a way of dishonour to God to neglect what he requireth or to do any thing which he forbideth Ahaziah King of Judah is branded for this 2. Chron. 22. 3. That he walked in the waies of the house of Ahab for his Mother was his counsellour 2. It must not be in way of Inaequality to either Parent The Father is not to be preferred 2. With In equality to either Parents by the Child as a Child before the Mother or the Mother more loved reverenced obeyed or recompensed then the Father The Parents are equally Parents and equall causes of the Children and so by the law of nature as Parents they are to share equally in the honour of such instrumentall causes of the be ing of their Children Hence though in Exod. 20. 12. Honour thy Father and thy Mother the Father is set before the Mother yet in Lev. 19. 3. which is an exposition of the 5. Commandement the Mother is set before the Father Yee shall fear every man his Mother every man his Father to shew that the Father being set before the Mother for honour which comprehendeth fear and the Mother being set before the Father for fear which is a speciall branch of honour they are both alike for honour in the generall and for fear in speciall This Willet in his sixfold Commentary upon Leviticus and Ainsworth in his notes upon Levit. 19. 3. They both do note from Maimony So Musculus in his common places and exposition of this fifth Commandement he
noteth that Gods command is for honouring not the Father onely but the Mother God saith not Honour thy Father but addeth and thy Mother the Mother indeed is the Fathers inferiour according to the Law of conjugall subjection and likewise she is by nature and Sex the weaker vessell but the Child is not thence to draw an argument that he must think the more despicably of his Mother for that difference that is made in wedlock betwixt the husband and the wife appertaineth not to him but he must look to that relation which is betwixt Mother and Son what ever she be in respect of her husband to thee she is a Mother and together with thy Father to be equally honoured since that for this that thou might'st be born she did equally cooperate yea rather much more for who can weigh sufficiently what a heap of troubles the womb big with Child bringeth along with it how great are the sorrows of bringing forth how many and great are the perils so that it is not in vain said in sorrow shalt thou bring forth Lastly how cumbersome is the suckling of the Child and the care of it whil'st in the Cradle so that they greatly sin which transfer all the Honour due in common to their Parents unto their Father onely and care not how they set by their Mothers so they can but gratifie their Father thus far Musculus and verily in Prov. 1. 8. Both are given in equall charge My Son hear the instruction of thy Father and forsake not the Law of thy Mother so in Prov. 6. 20. My Son keep thy Fathers Commandements and forsake not the Law of thy Mother And why else is there an equall reward even long life equally promised to the Honour of Mothers as to that of Fathers if the Honour of the one be not equall to that of the other or why else is the dishonour of the Mother as well as of the Father equally put under the same curse Deut. 27. 16. Cursed be he that setteth light by his Father or his Mother and all the people shall say Amen Or why is the same punishment of Justice to be equally inflicted for smiting the Mother as well as the Father being made equally death Ex. 20. 15. or for cursing the Mother as well as the Father or for stubbornness in not obeying the Mothers voice as well as the Fathers being also equally made deaht Exod. 24. 17. Deut. 21. 18 19 20 21. If the Honour of the Mother by the Childe be not equall to that of the Father where there is by God himself one and the same reward of grace equally promised as to the Honour and the same punishment of Justice equally threatned as to the dishonour as well of the Mother as of the Father there is the same Honour equally due by the will of God to the Mother as is to the Father but to the former Scriptures shew that God equally promiseth the same reward of grace to the Childs Honour and equally threatens the same punishment of Justice to the Childs dishonour as well of the Mother as of the Father therefore the Honour due according to God from the Child as a Child to his Mother as is to his Father is equall and equally due 3. It must not be a bare pretended and formall 3. Meerly formall and in pretence onely kind of Honour of Parents Such was that in Absolom who feignedly pretendeth such Honour of respect to his Father that he had rather die then not to be reconciled to his Father and enjoy his Fathers favour 2 Sam. 14. 32. Wherefore saith he to Joab am I come up from Geshur It had been good for me to have been there still now therefore let me see the Kings face and if there be iniquity in me let him kill me but his devilish plot so soon after against his Father Chap. 15. 7. 10. shewed that all that was but bare pretence and not reality of respect to his Father So in that young man professing to Christ that he had kept all the Commandements and so the fifth instanced in Matth. 19. 19 20. and that from his youth up he had begun the practice of Honour of Father Mother betimes and to that day continued it but the issue shewed that he never conscientiously sincerely and really Honour'd his Father and Mother but in a meer formal and outside way and manner even in the same sort as he kept the other Commandements being never the nearer entrance into heaven notwithstanding all that like him in the parable of the two sons Matth. 21. 28. 30. that pretendeth Honour of obedience to his Father for when his Father saith to him Son go to work to day in my Vineyard he readily and humbly in shew at least answereth I go Sir but went not It was onely pretence and dissimulation 4. Look that it be not a base selfish self-ended 4. Meerly Selfish Honouring of Father or Mother for hope of gain by them and so making much of them whil'st some requests or desires of the Child are answered his ends furthered or fulfilled some large Portions gotten out of their hands or large fleeces gain'd out of their outward estates like the yonger Son in the parable that will be giving his Father's Titles of Honour whil'st he hath fingred his Portion as he calleth it Luke 15. 12 Father give me my Portion but vers 13. not many day after he gathereth up all he hath and leaveth his Father Now his Father is not in such request with him the Text saith he took his journey but not a word of this that he asketh his Father leave or asketh his Fathers advice that way Father shall I take such a journey no verily let his Father like it or dislike it he now careth not he hath gotten what he looked for from him and now fare him well he careth to be under his Fathers watch no more he regardeth neither his Company nor his Counsell c. so Absolom Oh! his Fathers face and presence it is all in all to him he cannot live without it one would think if he speak his heart 2 Sam. 14. let me see the Kings face or if iniquity be in me let him kill me and vers 33. when permitted to come into his Fathers presence he boweth himself on his very face to the ground before him what would you have more in a Son ah but all this was for base and by ends Absoloms ambitious designes reaches and ends could not so well be furthered by living as retired and exiled from the Court though come to Jerusalem but at the Court and near the place of judicature whither the subjects from all parts of the Kingdome repair frequently for Justice there he hath opportunity to lay his traines 2 Sam. 15. 2. without suspition of any he sitteth by the gate the place of judicature and resort and he asketh each one of what tribe art thou ver 3. and biddeth them look that thy
precious daughter Ruth said even to her Mother in Law Naomi whither thou goest I will go and where thou lodgest I will lodge thy people shall be my people and thy God my God the Lord do so to me and more also if ought but death part thee and me Ruth 1. 16 17. so and much more if more may be would become every Son and Daughter even to ingage themselves and that for term of life to Honour their own Fathers and Mothers both in way of direct Honour by sharing with them in doing and suffering and by being tenderly respective and observant of them and usefull and serviceable to them wherever they become or into what condition soever the Lord may cast them and in a way of reflect Honour by personall and reall owning of their Godly Fathers and Mothers God and people that they shall be theirs And as Ruth fulfilled actually what she so solemnly ingaged that way so should any one Son or daughter much rather be to their own Father and Mother better every way than seven Sons Ruth 4. 15. Joseph also did not onely Honour his Father when he was a youth but continued honouring of his Father to the last so long as he had a Father left to Honour albeit long after he was married and so highly exalted witness that Gen. 46. 29. and 47. 31. and 48. 12. 3. It must be compleat and full not alone outwardly 3. Compleat but inwardly not in some lawfull and good things or way but in all and that in all places and upon all occasions yea every part of them which is capable of giving Honour to Parents must do their part of filiall homage and contribute their share to this common treasury of Honour in generall due to Parents Parents have been Fathers of the Childrens bodies and preparatory and effective instruments of the being of their souls in their bodies so that head tongue eyes cares hand and knee feet and the like bodily parts in their way and likewise the mind in its thoughts the understanding and judgement in its conceptions and apprehensions dictates and esteem the heart and will in its dispositions and affections c. All and each of these must render their proportions of due Honour to the instruments of their being hence that before mentioned of Solomon to his Son Prov. 23. 26. My Son give me thy heart and let thine eyes observe my wayes heart and eyes soul and body must joyn in filiall homage of his Son to him as his Father 4. It must be impartiall without respect to 4. Impartiall them as rich onely or otherwise great in the world or the like for if very poor their Honour from their Children must be never a whit the less if Mary the Mother of Christ be the espoused wife of Joseph a poor Carpenter it is all one to Christ as if she had been a Princes spouse he is subject to them as a child Luk. 2. 51. he went down with them to Nazareth and was subject to them the command of God knoweth no persons distinguisheth not of such a Father or such and such a Mother but chargeth the Child Honour thou thy Father and thy Mother be he or she poor or rich noble or ignoble high or low of meaner parts or of more accomplished abilities comely and personable or deformed and in stature more despicable yea be they of better and sweeter tempers or be they of a more harsh hasty and rigid disposition yet as servants must be subject to their Masters with all fear not onely to the good and gentle but also to the froward 1 Pet. 2. 18. so must Children much rather give Honour to their Parents whether of better or worser tempers 5. It must be in a way of eminency being such 5. In a way of eminency Honour as is next in order to that Honour due to God himself the Hebrew word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 applied to persons or things in a way of good most frequently signifieth to make weighty in honour or glory or to give some eminent and transcendent measure of Honour and Glory hence that phrase 2 Cor. 4. 17. weight of glory Speaking of that surpassing glory of heaven the same Hebrew verb which is used in my Text is sometimes used for magnifying of God Psal 22. 23. Magnifie him all ye seed of Jacob as the Geneva translation well rendereth it or make him great ponderous weighty in glory but by our New translation it is commonly rendered glorisie or make glorious or eminently Honour So Psal 86. 9. they shall glorifie thy name and vers 12. I will glorifie thy name and Psal 50. 23. he glorifies me Levit. 10. 3. I will be glorified So. Ezek. 28. 22. The same verb here made use of to express the Honour of Parents as is to express the glory of God It sheweth evidently that it is no ordinary measure of Honour which Children owe to their Parents the very name and relation of a Father and Mother is a glorious thing and hath glory and excellency in it the word derived from this verb 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in the Text is used to denominate and point out peculiar excellency as Exod. 28. 2. Aarons garment must be made 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 for glory or garments of peculiar excellency Gen. 45. 13. shew him all my glory 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 my eminency of Honours Authority Respect and the like and the verb it self is made such use of Esay 43. 3 4. thou hast been honourable or glorious as others render it or most eminent in Honour in Hebrew 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 and Psal 87. 2. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 glorious things or matters of transcendent and renouned excellency are spoken of thee now the same word used here must needs note peculiar eminency of Honour of Parents to be due from their Children Let us now make application of what hath been spoken The use serveth 1. For Reproof and that 1. Use of Reproof 1. Of Children for dishonour of Parents 1. Of Children for their dishonouring slighting and despising of their Fathers and Mothers It was of old reproved sharply in those of Jerusalem in Ezek. 22. 7. Formerly mentioned In thee they have set light by Father and Mother Solomon brandeth the fool or unregenerate person for this as his vile property Prov. 15. 20. the foolish man despiseth his Mother this is point blanck crosse to the fifth Commandement It is highest injustice not to give even your Parents their due one should think none should cut their Parents short of their right now this Honour is their right and therefore it is highest injustice in any Child to debar them of their right The word in Ezek. 22. 7. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 is directly opposite to the Hebrew word used in my Text And it signifieth to make lighter or to make abatement of due weight or measure of any thing as say of Honour of credit of commodities or the like
that you are paid in your own Coyn from your own Children 2. By bringing any just blast upon their Children 2. By bringing some blast upon their Children and posterity through some other daring sins against God or man so that even their posterity in Gods just Judgement become every way the worse even in the matter of sin also against the first and second Table thus also God visiteth the iniquity of the Fathers upon the Children unto the third and fourth generation according as is threatned for sins against the second Commandemandement As we see also in that fearfull example of the Jews rejected together with all their posterity and left unto all manner of wickedness against God or man for the Parents rejecting of Christ Rom. 11. 20. 1 Thessal 2. 14 15 16. So God threatneth Esay 14. 20. That the seed of evill doers shall never be renowned and so not honoured so much before God or men as to become true honourers of Parents So Esay 9. 13. 16. That for the peoples stubborn going on in sin threfore he will have no delight in their young men vers 17. The posterity of Cain Cham Ishmael and Esau are dreadfull examples of such a judiciall blast of posterity even in their very morals for the high-handed sins of their Ancestours 3. By neglect of good and pious education of 3. By neglect of pious education children when Parents bring up their Children rudely and profanely carnally and carelesly or to meer world and the like it causeth all kind of disorders in them it corrupteth them in their morals and you may thank your selves if you have unnatural irreverent disobedient or ingratefull Children of them hence in the old world when good education had been long neglected in the very Families which came of Seth who were of the Church Sons of God they also care not for their Parents Authority or Authoritative interests in their disposall in marriage but they took them wives of all that they themselves liked albeit those Wifes were of the Daughters of men of Cains brood outlaries from the Church as in Gen. 6. 1 2. oft occasionally mentioned So in Sodom when good education was neglected see how base the younger sort also were Gen. 19. 4. from the youngest to the eldest they came to have forced those strangers as they took them to be at Lots house and v. 14. Lots grave and godly Counsell to his Sons in Law who had espoused his Daughters It is derided by them Hence in that sad time of the Apostacy of Judah when the good man was perished out of the earth and there was none upright amongst men and so none in comparison that made conscience of that Parentall duty of good education of Children then was the time when as the Son dishonoured the Father and the Daughter riseth up against her Mother as is expressed Mic. 7. comparing v. 2. and 6. together 4. By foolish humouring of their Children in their lusts either in their Pride or voluptuousness 4. By humouring Children in vanity or the like Isaac himself smarted for it for suffering his Son Esau to give himself more to his sport in hunting than any other better Imployment for afterwards Esau slighting his Father and Mothers Authority and peculiar right in the matter of the choice of a Wife for him as for their own Son he without them chooseth himself a Wife yea two wives and that of the a cursed brood of the Hittites which were a grief of mind to Isaac and to Rebeckah Gen. 25. 27. Compared with Gen. 26. 34 35. How many in greater Cities by such foolish humouring of their Children have them prove deboist 5. By discontented harsh and rigid carriages 5. By harshness to them before or at least towards Children When the Apostle had charged Children to honour Parents Eph. 6. 2 3. he addeth And ye Fathers provoke not your Children to wrath namely by your harsh and austere carriages towards them For that will undermine Parents honour of respect from their Children by alienating their hearts more from their Parents and likewise their honour of Reverence hardning their hearts against their Parents threats or blowes so that they will grow more regardless of that displeasure and anger of their Parents which they see so readily so frequently and sometimes in a manner so causelesly to be expressed and likewise their Honour of Obedience and therefore in Col. 3. 20. When Paul had charged Children to obey their Parents vers 21. Fathers saith he provoke not your Children to anger lest they be discouraged or wax heartlesse and hopelesse to do or to set about any thing you require of them so as to give you content and so grow regardlesse whether they do or neglect to do what you command them perceiving that it is all one their Fathers will he froward hasty harsh and rigid towards them when they have many times done their best for them and they can be no worse think they if we do lesser if we do nothing yea if we do contrary to their Command And this will also undermine Parents honour of recompence from their Children which remembring Parents harsh carriages towards them when they were young may have strong temptations to do the lesse for them in their age or decaies when they need their Childrens help But more of this possibly when we come to particulars 6. By discords and uncomfortable breaches 6. By discord betwixt Parents themselves hard speeches cross carriages and discontents betwixt Fathers and Mothers hence Prov. 19. 13. those two are joyned A foolish Son is the calamity of his Father and the contentions of a Wife are a continuall dropping where there are waearing and wasting contentions ever and anon betwixt Wife and Husband there will be also such a foolish Son of such a Husband and Wife who will be a calamity to his Father Such miscarriage betwixt Father and Mother undermineth your Wisdome Gravity and Authority in your Childrens eyes who behold the same and even tempteth them the more to disrespect you and your Authority 7. By suffering Children too much to have 7. By leaving their Children to their own wils their wills and not seasonably and frequently to break them of their own head-strong wills and to cross them in their own wilful desires or designes Pro. 29. 15. A Child left in this sense also to himself to have his own will and lust bringeth his Mother to shame proveth so stubbon and rude that he is very a disgrace to her that bare him who of the two Parents is the most ready and apt to let her Child have its will too much 3. This use reproveth such also who either by 3. Reproofe to all Corrupters of Youth distilling corrupt principles into the younger sort or by any lewd counsells or the like do intentionally or actually withdraw Children from due Honour of their Parents of the former sort are such like as those false teachers among
sollicitous to hold up their Aged and miscarrying Father Noahs Honour yea though tempted by their brother Chams derisive tale about their Father to have disrespected him yet see their conscientious care of maintaining their respect and reverence to their Father in avoyding any occasion as sight of his nakedness which might have drawn on contempt of him in them Gen. 9. 22. And Ham the Father of Canaan saw his Fathers nakedness and told his two brethren without vers 23. And Shem and Japhet took a garment and laid it upon their shoulders and went backwards and covered the nakedness of their Father and their faces were backward and they saw not their Fathers nakedness 3. When good Children do even thirst after 3. If Children thirst after Parents souls welfare their carnall Parents souls welfare and peace above others and are ever and anon contriving which way to help on that also Thus did Abraham what in him lay to help out his Idolatrous Father Terah from his course and way as might be shewed by comparing Acts 7. 3 4. with Gen. 11. end and 12. 1. and John 24. 2 3. 4. When they are as willing and joyfull to Honour 4. If as willing to Honour them as to be Honoured or rewarded by others Parents all the just wayes of Honour of them as they are to partake of any benefit of their parentall respects or bounty as they are to have it be well with them here or hereafter as they are to live long upon the earth or as they are to have the like due honor put upon them by children which they already have or may come to have themselvs 5. When they do not so soon forget their Parents after they are dead and gone Sarah was 90. years old when she bare Isaac Gen. 17. 17. And lived 37. years after For she died when she was 127. years old Gen. 23. 1. then Isaac was 37. years old he was 40. years old when he maried Rebeckah Gen. 25. 20. Which was three years after his Mothers death and when he married or took Rebeckah to wife then it was that Isaac was comforted after his Mothers death Gen. 24. 67. For three years space then this pious Son was ever and anon mourning in thoughts of his good Mothers death and God made this his sweet companion Rebeckah a speciall comfort to him against that trouble about his Mothers death A third use is of exhortation and that to Parents 3. Use Of exhortation 1. To Parents to further this their due Honour 1. By preventing their being either corrupted or dismayed in matters of Religion to indeavour what in you lieth to help forward your Children in their Conscionable performance of this their duty of Honour of Parents and for this end 1. Take very speciall care to prevent whatsoever either may corrupt them or any wayes discourage them in the matter of the Honour of God himself or of his word For if they grosly fail in the matter of the Honour of God of his word they will as grosly fail in the matter of Honour of Parents As we see in Elies Sons who were vilely corrupt in the matters of Religion as those of common honesty 1 Sam. 2. 12 13 14 15 16 17 22. and vers 25. they were as vile transgressours against the fifth Commandement requiring Honour to Parents they hearkened not to the voice of their Father Imitable therefore is that care of the Godly Fathers of the two Tribes and half to remove occasions of discouraging their Children from the fear or worship of God Josh 22. 25 26 27 28. And if we have not rather done it built this Altar of witness saying in time to come your children say they to the Fathers of the ten Tribes there met may say to our Children what have you to do with the God of Israel ye have no part in the Lord so shall your Children make our Children cease or be discouraged and Apostatise from fearing or worshiping the Lord. Oh! that Christian Parents would the rather keep out Anabaptistical principles and doctrines as from their own hearts so as much as may be from the eares and minds of their Children lest being told thereby that they have nothing to do with the God of Israel and they have no part in the Lord they are made thereby to cease or be discouraged from the fear or worship of the Lord but that by the way 2. Redress what in you lyeth if you did not 2. By redressing disorders in them one towards another prevent disorderly carriages of your Children towards one another for if they are inured to carry it badly one toward another they will also carry it dishonourably towards Parents Gen. 37. 23 24. Jacobs Sons who before their conversion carried it so unworthily towards Joseph they carried it as malepertly towards their Father Gen. 34. When vers 30. their sorrowfull Father had expressed his fears of the ruine of him and of his house which might be occasioned by his Sons Murther of the Shechemites they saucily answer vers 31. Should he deal with our Sister as with an Harlot Absolom that will carry it so cruelly and perfidiously towards his brother Amnon 2 Sam. 13. 28 29. He proved as very a perfidious and cruel wretch towards his own Father not many years after Cap. 15. Rebeckah's care therefore was imitable to prevent or remove the continuall discords and jarrs and mischiefs which might arise from that heart-grudge between Esau and Jacob which because she could not heal she sends away Jacob from Esaus company Gen. 27. 42 43 44 45. 3. Labour to be fearers and honourers of God your selves as an heavenly Father and then you 3. By being fearers of God themselves have the advantages of the promises of God that your Children shall be blessed also and consequently furnished with this spirituall blessing a spirit of Honour of Parents Psal 112. 2. The generation of the upright shall be blessed that they shall be a comfort to you as Vine-branches issuing from the wombs of your wives yielding in time grapes of Consolation to Parents in the wayes of due honour to God or Parents c. Psal 128. 1. Blessed is every one that feareth God c. And vers 2. happy shalt thou be and it shall be well with thee And vers 3. Thy wife shall be as a fruitfull Vine by the sides of thine house thy Children as Olive-plants round about thy Table which is not barely a promise that their wives shall have Children or many Children as if that made them so peculiarly happy as is promised they should be for ungodly persons are full of Children Ps 17. 14. They send forth their Children like a flock Job 21. 11. No but it s a promise of making the fearer of God happy in the qualification of his Children that they shall be such as shall yield wine of consolation to them in what they shall be to God and to their Parents and to
relations so much in his way will not you honor them in your way Deu. 4. 2. Because he loved thy Fathers therefore he chose their seed after them to one and the same persons belong the glory and the Covenants Ro. 9. 4. to whom belong the glory the covenants if Gods the Churches covenant be long to Children the glory belongs to them take away Covenant church privileges ye take away their glory as the Israelites did when they would have dealt with the little ones of Judah as if they had rather been Pagans and out-Lawes than fellow-brethren in covenant-respects so they purposed to have kept sons their daughters under as bond-men women 2 Chro. 28. 8 9 10. They might only have of the heathen for bond-men and women Le. 25. 44. but not any of their brethren the Children of Israel they might not rule over them with rigour as over bond men and women v. 46. though waxen poor they must not be compelled to serve as bond-servants ver 39. Yea but for Israelites to take that course they intended was to make them as the heathen and so to take away their glory of Covenant and Church-privileges as Junius expounds that Mi. 2. 9. Of late my people are risen up as an enemy c. and from their children have ye taken away my glory for ever he referreth it in this way to that story 2 Chro. 28. 8 9 10. Now if by good Parents Children come to shame in such Honour and 3. Childrens lifts to their faith by means of good Parents glory they may well in way of gratefull retribution Honour their good Fathers and Mothers 3. In that Children have a mighty lift to their very faith in what ever concerneth their welfare outward or inward and that in all cases and charges from the covenant of God with their Parents therefore honor your Christian Parents hence Exod. 32. 13 14. In that almost desperate case of Israel Moses exerciseth his faith and thence pleadeth the Covenant with Abraham Isaac and Jacob remember saith he Abraham Isaac and Jacob c. Mic. 7. 20. The Prophet setteth his faith on work for himself and people upon that Covenant Thou wilt saith he perform the truth to Jacob and the mercy to Abraham which thou hast sworn to our Fathers from the dayes of old and this his faith therein was the ground of that which he believed vers 29. He will turn again he will have compassion upon us he will subdue our iniquities and thou wilt cast their sins into the depths of the Sea 2 Chro. 33. 12 13. Manasseth that notorious miscreant When in his affliction he besought the Lord his God viz. His God in the Covenant of his Father Hezekiah And humbled himself greatly before the God of his Fathers And prayed to live and he was intreated of him he then prayed in faith for hee prevailed with God but here was his hold and prop God was his God in the Covenant of his Father and Ancestors and therefore he will wrestle strongly with him for mercy even to surh a notorious sinner as he now seeth and feeleth himself to be Solomon's hold and bottome of his prayer in his case is this Let thy promise unto David my Father be established c. 2 Chro. 1. 9 10 11. So Kings 8. 25 26. And now Oh Lord God of Israel let thy word I pray thee be verified which thou spakest to thy servant David my Father David twise pleads his Mothers interest in God Psal 86. 16. Save the Son of thy handmaid Psal 116. 16. Truly Lord I am thy servant and the Son of thy hand-maid thou hast loosed my bonds Prov. 14. 26. In the fear of the Lord is strong confidence and his Children viz. The Children of him that feareth God shall have place and refuge No case so sad or so bad which such Children of fearers of God whose eyes and hearts God openeth in some measure to see and be sensible thereof but they have an asylum to fly too they have the Covenant and promises made and ratified in Christ to their Godly Fathers and Mothers to repair too and to keep up their faith at the deadest lift lift up Parents then high in Honor by whose Covenant-interest your faith may in saddest cases have such lifts 4. In that Children are many waies blessed and bettered by occasion of their Parents 4. Blessings of Children by good Parents prayers pleas Covenant-interests c. therefore Honour them Gen. 49. 26. The blessings of thy Father have prevailed above the blessings of my progenitors Every godly Ancestour addeth something to the Common stock of blessings of grace laid up for their posterity the latter still superadding somewhat more than the former left Psal 115. 14. The Lord shall increase you more and more you your Children Psal 102. 1 2 3. The generation of the upright shall be blessed Psal 103. 17. Gods righteousnesse or faithfulness in his Covenanted mercies is unto Childrens Children Deut. 4. 40. Thou shalt therefore keep his Statutes that it may go well with thee and with thy Children after thee So cap. 12. 28. If God then Honour you with such blessings for your good Parents sakes you may well Honour your Parents yea sometimes the very worst Children who had been many a time debased as low as hell by the destroying judgements of God yet are not out of Gods respect to their Parents or Ancestors Covenant-interests God would not destroy the house of David in wicked Jehoram's time because of the Covenant which he had made with David 2 Chro. 21. 6 7. And so the very worst might be provoked to Honour their good Parents for had it not been for their sakes its likely such had been in the lowest hell ere this let children of good parents know that by grace through your Parents instrumentally you have God for your God if not rejecting your interest if having hearts to improve the same for your help to Honour God and them Gen. 17. 7. 5. In that it is the ready way for Children to be Honoured by others to Honour their Parents 5. Childrens honour from others thereby and therefore Honour them Ruth 4. 14 15. The good woemen say of Obed Ruth's Son that his name shall be famous in Israel and adde that as an incouraging Argument to Naomi his Grand-Mother and he shall be unto thee a restorer of thy life and a nourisher of thine old age a very observant and gratefull Grand-childe and no wonder then if his name would be so Honourable in Israel God records it in Scripture in honorem in the eyes of God Angels and men concerning Sem Japhet Joseph and others that they were such Honourers of Parents The very Pagan Grecians honoured Aeneas his piety to his aged Father so as that they honourably rewarded it with the gift of all his other estate which else was the Conquerers right 6. In that it is the ready way for Children to
be 6. Blessings upon posterity thereby blessed in their Children and posterity as Shem was thereby in his posterity and Japhet in his Gen. 9. 23 26 27. Yea it s the way to have like Honour meted out to you from your Children therefore the rather Honour Parents Do to them as you would have others in like relation to do to you Matth. 7. 11. 2. Consider of some helps and means to this Helps to it Avoid Causes of dishonour to Parents as 1. Self-conceit duty 1. Take heed of all and every of the causes of Childrens dishonour of their Parents As 1. Self-conceitedness as in Absolom who thought himself fitter to rule then his Father 2 Sam. 15. 3 4. there is none deputed of the King to hear thee Oh that I were Judge I would do every man justice hence that state of high dishonour to his Father and treachery against him 2 Sam. 15. 7. to 12. Like the yonger Son in the Parable Luke 15. 12 13. Who thought himself fitter to manage his Portion then his Father and thence slighteth and so leaveth his Father's watch guidance and presence 2. Over-weaned conceits of what you do for 2. Conceit of what Children do for Parents Parents when indeed you can never do enough for them who under God gave you your being like the Elder son in the Parable Luk. 15. 28 29. Who is ready to talk great things to his Father of his serviceableness to his Father so that when his Father intreated him who might have commanded him to come in he slights his Father's intreaties he is angry with his Father findeth fault with his Fathers kindness to his prodigall Brother whereas he that had deserved more kindness from his Father never had the like from him for so he answers his Father Loe these many years do I serve thee neither at any time transgressed I thy Commandement and yet thou never gavest me a kid but as soon as this thy Son is come which hath devoured thy living with harlots thou bast killed for him the fatted Calf and it is to be feared to be the case of too many Children in N. E. where Parents are put hard to it to make more use of their Children for their work and business that they poring too much upon what they do for their Parents and not seriously weighing what their Parents have done for them they slight them in their hearts 3. Curiosity and an inordinate desire of liberty 3. Curiosity The young man Eccles 11. 9. He must needs walk in the wayes of his own heart and sight of his eyes and so careth not for Honouring God or man Like the Prodigall Son in the Parable he must needs abroad to see fashions what should such a spark as he do alwayes at home to be there held in as he is he would rather be at liberty and therefore let his Father do as he will he broad from him 4. A discontented spirit a spirit of unsettledness 4. Discontent which sometimes is the very blast of God upon young men for some other foul sin as that wandering spirit was upon Cain for his but then Cain must away from home from his parents though thereby he goeth from the presence of God like the Prodigall Son in the Parable not content with his Fathers finding but he will be for himself though after some bought experience of his he afterward finds that the meanest case and place of the lowest in his Fathers house be far better then his 5. Ambition and eager desire of man in outward 5. Ambition respects then is meet for you this also maketh many slight their Parents seek to shake off their Parentall watch and rule This made Absolom turn a vile traytor to his Father 2 Sam. 15. and this also put on Adonijah very far that way 1 Kings 1. 5 6. 6. Envy at just respects shew'd by Parents to 6. Envy fellow Brethren or Sisters like the elder Son in the parable out of envy of his Fathers kindnesse to his younger Brother this maketh him fly out so unreverently against his Father and to charge him closely with injustice and partiality Luke 15. 28 29. Thus Jacobs Sons envying that their Father respects young Joseph so much they are resolv'd to make some hand of him though they know thereby they shall rob their Father of a great part of his comfort if not undermine his life they regard neither so their Father is set light by that while 2. Take heed of bad company and counsell 2. Avoyd bad company which is apt to mislead you even to dishonour your Parents When Solomon Prov. 19. 26. had told his Son the sad doom of a Son that wasteth his Father and chaseth away his Mother he then giveth his Son this counsell as an Antidote against any such like sin vers 27. Cease my Son to hear the instruction that causeth to erre from the words of knowledge hence is it that the boon companion who is a glutton and a drunkard is also wont to be so stubborn as not to hear the voyce of his Parents Deut. 21. 20. Such as contrary to that advice Psal 1. 1. Do walk in the counsell of the ungodly and stand in the way sinners they came to sit also in the seat of the scornfull to scorn at any none excepted no not Parents themselves Prov. 30. 17. there is an eye that mocketh at his very Father despiseth to obey his Mother better therefore were it for younger persons to company and counsell with wise youth who conscienciously Honour their Parents and that will be verified Prov. 13. 20. That he that walketh with the wise shall be wise when as a companion of fools shall be destroyed 3. Take heed of poring upon any failings in Parents 3. Avoyd poring upon Parents failings which may tempt you to slight your Parents Children in such cases must be as not seeing the failings they do see in Parents carriages sometimes and as not hearing their failings in expressions sometimes which they do hear ingenious Shem and Japhet will not see their Fathers nakedness Gen. 9. 23 24. And so continue to Honour their Father Noah wheras Cham that will needs look so wistly and take such notice of his Fathers nakedness commeth to despise him and deride him Let Children remember that God the Law-maker and the fifth Commandement their Law and Rule they must walk by is without spot or failing and therefore They must Honour Father and Mother 4. Listen not to unworthy reports or whispers 4. Listen not to whisperers which ungratious persons set on work by Belial may suggest to you any away against your Parents Shem and Japhet would not listen to their Brother's tale in that vile way he told it but if ought be a miss to provoke them to slight their Father they will cover it rather when one told Teleuchus how ill his Father spake of him saith Teleuchus if my Father
hath spoken so bad of me Plutarch surely he knoweth cause enough to do so else he would not have done it an imitable example of an heathen but ingenious Child to his Father 5. Improve choycer seasons of getting good 5. Improve seasons of soul-good that you may come to be true Honourers of God and then no doubt but you will be Honourers of Parents make God only to be your God first worship him aright and sanctifie his name c. and then you will Honour Father and Mother Levit. â—9 2. Be ye holy saith God as I am holy and then vers 3. chargeth fear yea every man his Father and his Mother be pious to God-wards and you will be pious towards Parents the fear of God is the beginning of such wisdome also Prov. 10. 5. As he that sleepeth in harvest the season of reaping good soul-good also is a Son that causeth shame to Parents also so by rule of opposition he that gathereth in summer is a wise Son or one that will cause Honour to Parents as well as himself or others 6. Set often before your eyes studdy much and 6. Eye good examples this way make utmost improvement of choycer Scripture examples of persons eminen t for honor of parents as that of Shem Abraham Isaack Jacob Joseph yea Jesse himself Luke 2. 51. 7. Inure your selves betimes to Honour Fathers and Mothers without Authority as Aged persons 7. Honour aged persons Levit. 19. 32. Honour the face of the Old man Teleuchus being asked why at Sparte the younger Plut arch sort use to rise up before the aged answered that by giving Honour to others they might learn to Honour their own Parents CHAP. III. Of Honour in speciall due to Parents and that in a direct way and therein of Honour of respect and love due to Parents HAving spoken of Honour in generall required by the 5. Commandement from Children to Parents we come now to speak of Honour in speciall due to them first of that which is in a direct way and therein according to the Method propounded in the first Chapter 1. Of Honour of respect and love due to Parents that Honour is so taken in Scripture we there gave Scripture instances That honour of respect to Parents is due proved and need not now repeat them we may then note as a branch of the general point That Children are bound to Honour their Parents with the Honour of choycest respect and love Honour thy Father and Mother saith Exod. 20. 12. But having them in choycest respect and love is Honouring of them say other Scriptures therfore Children must most highly respect and love their Parents For our better handling of this branch of Honour let us only shew wherein this commanded respect and love to Parents doth consist or what is required of Children in this that they are required so highly to respect and love their Parents and then afterwards apply it by way of use To the former we answer that Children 1. They are to be delighted greatly in their This respect consisteth 1. In delighting Parents Fathers presence to be much affected with the very sight of a Father or Mother See how Joseph plotteth to have his Father near him when he could not be so near his Father Gen. 45. 10. Thou shalt be near to me c. And when he commeth to the sight of his Father after some years inforced absence of his from his Father he 's even overjoy'd as we say to see him He is as one transported for he falleth on his Fathers neck having first humbly presented himself to him Gen. 46. 29. And he wept for very extasie of joy on his neck a good while his heart was so overcome with strength of affections that for a good space he can silently weep but not utter a word that we read of till afterwards till his good old Father first brake that deep silence vers 30. and then Joseph also speaketh vers 31. As Children are to their Parents the desire of their eyes and that whereupon they set their minds their Sons and their Daughters Ezek. 24. 25. So should Parents be to Children Jacob had enough if his Son Joseph be alive and well he is content to die if God so pleased Gen. 46. 30. Let the sight of absent long absent Parents be to Children even as dear and precious and delighting as their very lives if not more as it is in that precedentall love and respect of the genuine Children of the Father of Spirits Oh the sight of his face the injoyment of his presence especially after some space of the want of his blessed presence what is it not to such Childrens hearts Such for the nature at least of our respect and love should be Childrens love to their Parents 2. They are not forward to part with 2. Backwardnesse to paâ—â— wâ—â—h them their Parents but as urged in a sort forced by any speciall call or providence of God and if sometimes called to be absent from them for a time yet to be longing in a moderate and regular way after their Company againe Both these paticulars are clear in instances the former in Ruth when her Sister Orpha left her Mother with tears in her eyes Ruth 1. 14. And they lift up their voice and wept again and Orpha kissed her Mother in Law but Ruth clave to her yea when urged by Naomi to return after her Sister-in-Law vers 15. Yet saith she vers 19. Intreat me not to leave thee for whither thou goest I will go and where thou lodged I will lodge She will share with her in wealth and woe and nothing but death shall part them vers 17. 2 King 19. 20. Elisha must needs go and kiss his Father and Mother and then he will foolow Elijah God will have the poore captive Woman when her Master liketh her for his Wife yet to bewaile her Father and Mother for a Moneth Deut. 21. 13. Such loathness God will have Children to express to part with dear Parents as Parents are wonderous loath to part with their Children living or dying unless urged by Gods Call like good old Jacob first Gen. 42. 38. My Son saith he of Benjamin shall not go down with you for his Brother is dead and he is left alone if mischief befall him by the way ye go then shall ye bring down my gray haires with sorrow to the grave and Cap. 43. 22 c. And their Father Israel said if it must needs be so then do this c. So should Children not part with their Parents till they must needs till God some way calleth them from them as the genuine Children of God such is their love to him that it is as death to part with him though but for a time Oh if it might be their Fathers pleasure they would never be from him nor have him from them So in the nature of our love to Parents should it be expressed
to them if God should take them away from us yet our love should be expressed in our greatest trouble and grief for them as Isaacks was to his Mother for three years space after as was shewed from Gen. 24. 63. compared with other Scriptures When David would express his great grief for his very afflicted enemies as if his friends or Brethren I bowed down heavily saith he as one that mourneth for his Mother a Mother-Iess Childs mourning then for a deceased Mother is the saddest of mournings Hence it was of old a good Neighbourly Custome to give a consolatory Cup to such as mourned for Father or Mother as such whose grief was deemed so great that they needed some cheering hence the contrary threatned in judgment Jer. 16. 7. Edward the first having his Father Henry the 3. newly deceased and withall one young Prince his own Son dead also he made light of his Sons death in comparison of his Fathers saying He might come to have more Sons but he should never have any more Fathers now this was gon As for the other expression of Childrens love to Parents in longing after them we see it in Jacob witness that part of his plea Gen. 28. 21. So that I come again to my Fathers house in peace and Gen 31. 30. Laban took notice that Jacob longed sore after his Fathers house as in that pattern of love of Gods Children they shew in longing sore after him and of their Communion with him Psal 42. 1 2 3. and 62. 1 2 3 c. So it is in Childrens love to their Parents only this longing after them must not exceed the bounds of particular calls and callings or relations as of Husbands Wifes Servants Ministers Magistrates c. But in such a way and season as it may not break any other bonds of God 3. Children are many waies to deny themselves 3. In denying themselves for them for their Parents choise good any way as when Children in their Parents wants or weaknesses are called to be staies to their Parents allbeit it might be more to their outward advantage to be else where yet they must be willing to suffer and lose somewhat with them and for them rather then forsake them in such a case as Ruth seeing her aged Mother-in-law who had been full of outward blessings but now is empty and very poor she will not leave her though a younger Woman and likely to do better for the outward man other where Ruth 1. 16 c. she will work hard for her stoop low to become a poor gleaner to bring in supplies to her Mother-in-law Cap. 2. and how long did Jacobs Sons imploy themselves in the Managing their Fathers estate and outward affaires supplies not alone before their Marriage Gen. 30. 35. but after witness that Gen. 37. 12 14 42. 1 2 3. 43. 15. and 47. 1 2 3 c. Yea Children are to be willing to run very great hazards or hardships for their Parents sakes rather then to indanger them in their persons and names or the like Notable is that example of good Judah Gen. 44. 33 34. having said v. 30. That his Fathers life was bound up in the Lads life so that as v. 31. If he see not him return he will die and so they shal bring their Fathers gray haires with sorrow to the grave now therefore saith Judah let thy Servant abide instead of the Lad bond-man to my Lord and let the Lad go up with his Brethren for how shall I go up to my Father and the Lad be not with me lest paradventure I see the evill that shall come to my Father Judah had rather live and die a bond-man if thereby he might lengthen out his Fathers daies by Benjamins return or prevent his sorrowfull end by the detaining Benjamin in Egypt Memorable is that story recorded by Pausanias l. 10. writing of the Catanensiaus saith that when Catana a City bordering upon Aetna was set on fire by it they made nothing of their Silver or Gold but as they fled out one taketh up his Mother upon his shoulders another his Father but because they hasted not being so loaden the fire compassed them the flame suddenly passing on yet would they not lay down their Parents wherefore they report that the flames parted as in two and passed over both the young men and their Parents without mortall hurt of them whence in his time honourable memorials were assigned by them to the Catanenses God honoured those acts of high respect to Parents with a notable deliverance and men honoured them with honourable monuments thereof And indeed what did not the pattern of filial respect to his Father the Son of God hazard and undergo for his Fathers sake and honour and what will not any genuine Child of his by his help under go rather then hazard his name or cause and there is a proportion of the like in the Children of mens love to their Parents Parents many waies denyed and hazarded themselves for Children and they may well do as much for Parents 4. They are to be exceedingly affected with 4. In being affected with Parents favour or frownes their Parents true love to them or grounded and just displeasure against them in the speaking expressions of either of them Solomon kept the Records thereof in his case as that he took speciall notice of and was much affected with and God himself took it so well that he ordereth it to be a piece of Sacred Writ Prov. 4. 3. I was saith he my Fathers Son tender and only beloved in the sight of my Mother When Ruben saw that Joseph was missing in fear of his Father distast thereof saith Gen. 37. 30. The Child is not and I whither shall I go Absolom would be feigning a genuine filiall respect to his Father in this particular that his Fathers favour is all in all to him as a Son and his life doth him no good whilest under his displeasure 2 Sam. 14. 32. He would have Joab say on his behalf to the King his Father wherefore am I come up from Geshur now therefore let me see the Kings face and if there be any iniquity in me let him kill me but he was a very Counterfeit in this God himself alludeth to the case of the displeased Father in Miriams case Numb 12. 14. If her Father saith he had spit in her face should she not be ashamed seaven daies look as it was in Christs deep affections to the expressions of his Fathers love or anger or as it is with Gods other Children that nothing more affects them then the sense of their Fathers love one way or that of his displeasure the other way So it is with ingenuous Children in a like respect of affectionatnesse with Parentall favour or anger 5. They are to prize very much Parents good 5 In prizing Parents instructions and reproofs and savoury Counsels and instructions yea their very rebukes Carefully remembring and
Children have nothing to give Parents to be a temptation to bribe their affections to them nor are they of any power to curb them any way to enforce respects to them and so they are more pure Whereas in both these regards Childrens respects to Parents may be leavened Yea Parents as Parents are instruments in Gods hands of their Childrens Souls being in their bodies and so of the faculties of their Souls and so of their naturall affections in them and of that affection of love and fear amongst the rest and therefore they may well chalenge the honourable improvement of them to themselves so far as God alloweth the same To conclude Children will never honour Parents with the honour of Reverence Obedience or Recompence or the like unlesse they give the honour of respect love due to them therefore give them this their due Now that Children may be helped and furthered in doing this Helps to it 1 Dread of the vile sin of unnaturalnesse 1. Possesse your hearts with a deep sense and dread of the heinous nature of the sin of unnaturalness which is wont to be accompanied with the vilest sins against God and Man as by comparing Rom. 2. 28 29 30 31 32. and 2 Tim. 3. 2 3 4. may be discerned Such persons who are without naturall affections commonly proving Blasphemous against God ingrateful to God and men unholy truce and Covenant-breakers whisperers back-biters false accusers of others they are commonly given to uncleanness and wantonness they are fierce and furious of a cruell Salvage unmercifull implacable spirit they are despisers of those that are good they are even haters of God they are haters of other men of a spightfull malicious quarrelsome and envious Spirit in a word They are full of all unrighteousnesse and deceit themselves and inventors of evill things evill opinions evill practises ringleaders in sin authors of sin to others If sundry of these scandalous persons in old and new England were closely search'd into they would be found to be persons who have been are unnaturall to their Parents 2. Take heed of any leading causes which breed and feed unnaturalness and undermine naturall 2. Avoiding causes of unnaturalnesse of affection as 1. Ignorance affection to Parents such as are 1. Ignorance of God and of his word and of the matters of Religion Rom 1. 31. without understanding without naturall affection if without understanding what wonder if without naturall affection 2. Self-love for they that are so full of self-love 2. Self-love have never a due proportion of love left for God or man for Parents or others 2 Tim. 3. 2. For men shall be lovers of themselves and verse 3. without naturall affection 3. A worldly covetous Spirit ibid. Covetous 3. Covetousnesse without naturall affection a Spirit of the love of the world will eat out as the love of the Father of our Spirits John 2. 15. so that of the Father of our flesh also whose Fatherhood is an Image of that in God Such if they shew respect to Parents it is but for their own advantage and gaine and if the respect to them may not stand with their gain or must be to their outward losse then adieu respect to Parents 4. A proud Spirit 2 Tim. 3. 3 4. Without naturall affection high-minded Absolom who was so Pride high-minded what wonder is it if he prove so unnaturall to his Father 5. A Voluptuous Spirit ibid. Without naturall affection lovers of pleasures more then lovers of God Voluptuousnesse They that respect their pleasures so much they never respect God as they shold nor their parents Esaus inordinatenesse of affection to his hunting brings him to that Gen. 25. that he despiseth his birth-right as his Fathers eldest Son and therein virtually despiseth his Father and his voluptuous desires after the Canaanitish women make him carelesse of grieving his Father and Mother and so far unnaturall to them Gen. 26. 3. Getting their hearts truly turned to the Lord. 3. Labour to get your hearts turned to God effectually and in love with him as a Father and then whatsoever alienations of heart there were in you from your Parents before yet then Childrens hearts will be also turned fully to your good Parents Ma. 4. 6. Jo. Baptist its said by the blessing of grace upon his Ministry turning persons to the Lord to the faith to the wisedome of the Just as Luke hath said it Luk. 1. 17. he shall turn the hearts of the Children to their good Fathers which whilest the Children were wicked they could not well abide to be controuled reproved curbed and corrected as they were by them and so their good Fathers also whose hearts were much taken off from those Children for their vilenesse should be turned towards their Children or as some say the unnaturall distances bred betwixt Parents and Children by many sects and opinions too rife among the Jewes when by sound doctrine they were brought to rights and to the truth those alienations should be healed Only Cautions about Childrens love to Parents 1. Not such as to approve sin in Parents in the love of Children to Parents let these cautions be observed 1. Look that it be not such as to approve of the evill saiyings principles or practises of your ungodly or of your seducing or seduced Parents It s blamed in them Psal 40. 13. their posterity approve their sayings Jer. 7. 18. The Children gather wood and the Fathers kindle a fire and the women knead the dough to make Cakes to the Queen of heaven 2 King 15. 13. Asaph loved his Mother well as his Mother but he hateth her Idol he destroyeth and burneth it Abraham loveth his Father Terah well but will not go after his way of Idol-worship Josh 24. 2 3. God commendeth it in the Son who seeth all his fathers sins and considereth and doth not such like Ezek. 18. 14. 2. Let it not be such as to follow their evill Of 2. Such as to follow their sinfull Counsell Counsel in any thing as Ahaziah who walked in the waies of Ahab for his Mother was his Consellour 2 Chron. 22. 3. And as Herodias who being before instructed of her Mother said to Herod give me here John Baptists head in a charger Mat. 14. 8. 3. Let it not be so as to keep their dangerous Or 3. Such as to keep their sinfull Counsel and wicked Counsel in any way of wickednesse but rather seasonably to reveal it Michol Sauls Daughter did well in this to tell her husband David of her Fathers Sauls bloody design against him so that he escaped 1 Sam. 19. 11 12. The like did Jonathan to David Cap. 20 3 4. 4. That it be not so as when you are called of Or 4. Not to bear seasonable witness against their evils God to it then not to bear seasonable witnesse against their sin as in case of Parents seducing Children from the Lord and his
worship In case of grosse Idolatry or the like then zealous Levi saith to his Father and to his Mother I have not seen him Deut. 33. 9. And Asaph an highest Civill Ruler called to do justice without respect of persons he removeth Maacha his Idolatrous Mother from her Regency 1 King 15. 13. 5. That it be not so as when you are called Or 5. Such as for them to neglect just respects to others to maried conditions then for Parents sakes to neglect just respects to your spouses and regard to your Families welfare Gen. 30. 30. in that case Jacob will say to Laban his Father-in-Law when shall I provide for my house and that Law Gen. 2. 24. taketh here place for this cause shall a man forsake Father and Mother and cleave to his Wife 2. Of exhortation to Parents to carry it so 2. To Parents to carry it so as may win respect as may even win and gain such respect and love from your Children which is due from them as for instance 1. Be frequently instructing your Children in the best things in their Soul-matters this won Solomons heart the more to his Father David insomuch that he keepeth a honourable record of his Fathers instructions Prov. 4 4 5 6 c. The bond of love is doubled when natural Fathers by Gods blessing upon their instructions and admonitions become spirituall Fathers of their Children and a twofold cord is not easily broken 2. Be ever and anon incouraging your Children 1. By incouraging them in good in any good thing hence that Allusion Isa 66. 13. as on whom his Mother comforteth which as they are more abundantly encouraged by them so enlarged also in affections to them Famous is the example of William Hunters Mother as he was leading to the stake for Christ Son William saith she I think thee as well bestowed as ever any Mr. Fox Acts and Mon. Child that I bare in my womb and that example of the Mother of that little Child which was Martyred with Romanus who stood by incouraging her Child and when all others almost wept to see the Childs tortures she stood by rejoycing and when that fatall act of cruelly was to be done upon the Child to take away its Head after she had taken her Child and kissed it she stood by singing All laud and praise with heart and voice O Lord we yield to thee To whom the death of all thy Saints We know most dear to be bidding the Child also to remember the children of Bethlehem who were martyr'd for Christ 3. Be ready to defend and vindicate Children 3. By defending them in a just cause in any just cause as Joash did his Son Gedeon against those that complained of him for throwing down Baals Altar Judg. 6. 29 30 31. and Joash said to them will yee plead for Baal will ye save him he that will plead for him let him be put to death if he be a God let him plead for himself the blind-mans Parents did not thus who out of a base fear put off all to their Son he is old enough let him answer for himself John 9. 21. yea let Parents vindicate their children from unjust slanders as the Father of the wronged Damsel was to do Deut. 22. 13. to 9. this must needs win love 4. Be conscionable sollicitous of your childrens 4. By care of their outward weal. outward welfare as was Jacob of his Sons Ge. 37. 14. and Jesse of his Son 1 Sam. 17. 17. this also much gaineth upon childrens hearts 5. Carry it towards your children with much 5. By Compassionatness toward them tenderness and bowels as need and prudence requireth Numb 11. 12. Carry them in thy bosom as a nursing Father the sucking child Psal 103. 13. as a Father patieth his children Mal. 3. 17. as a Father spareth his Son that serveth him this as it breaketh every way-ward heart of a child so it winneth the Son as it is in the fruit of Gods bowels expressed to his children so in mens to theirs CHAP. IV. Of Honour of Reverence due from children to Parents WE have handled that first branch of Honour of Parents in a direct way we now proceed to the second which is the Honour of Reverence for so Honour is taken as we shewed in the 1. Chapter Observe then as a second branch of the generall point that Children are to Honour their Parents with the Honour of Reverence Levit. 19. 3. Ye shall fear Honour of Reverence due to Parents every man his Mother and every man his Father Heb. 12. 9. the Fathers of our flesh which corrected us and we gave them due reverence For the better handling of this part of Childrens duty we shall first shew wherein this Reverence of Parents consisteth and is expressed and 2. Make use of it Touching the first we say this Reverence due to Parents is either outward or inward 1. Then outward Reverence is due from children 1. Outward as to Parents and so 1. Children are to rise up and to stand bare before their Parents when they come to them or speak to them for if of Fathers in age God saith Rise up before the hoary head and Honour the face of the old man Levit. 19. 31. Rising to Parents he surely requireth it of children to their own Parents Henre the excuse of Rachel though a married woman from unavoidable necessity as reason why she rose not up to her Father Laban Gen. 31. 35. And Rachel said to her Father Let it not displease my Lord that I cannot rise up before thee for the custome of women is upon me it must be some avoidable necessity that must be a just reason that children rise not up before their Parents else Parents have just reason to be displeased when Achsah daughter to Caleb is to request a thing of her Father she keepeth not her posture of sitting in which she was before but lighteth off the beast she rode upon and then speaketh her mind to her Father Judg. 1. 13 14 15. It stands not with Parents Honour for children to sit and speak but rather they should stand up when they speak to Parents 2. If Parents be comming towards children they 2. To meet parents comming are to prevent them and meet them 1 Kings 2. 19. Bathsheba went to Salomon to speak for Adonijah and the King rose up to meet her 3. They are to bow to them so Salomon 1 Kings 3. To bow to them 2. 19. he bowed himself to his Mother So Joseph Gen. 48. 12. and Joseph brought them out from between his Fathers knees and he bowed himself with his face to the earth So Moses to his Father-in-Law did obey sance and all these their Sons were great men yet not too great or high to stoop in way of Honour of Reverence to Parents 4. They must speak Reverently both to their 4. To speak to them and of them reverently Parents and of them
say of him Is not this the Carpenter the Son of Mary surely then he learned and commonly practised that mean Trade with his reputed Father and so was therein also subject to his Father and Mother Look as Gods children yea look as Jesus Christ himself the pattern of all true filial obedience to Parents refused not to stoop to the meanest offices and services in obedience to the Father of Spirits so must children carry it in like sort to their Parents All know how many mean and despicable offices Parents do about their children whilest babes and little ones and when sick c. And there is no cause for any childe to think much of the meanest office and service which Parents may call for from their hands Parents Authority is of no mean descent the rise or originall of it is from God even the greatness of the greatest in other respects doth not alter much less make null filial relations If any be ashamed of the Lords words of him will he be ashamed another day Mark 8. 38. Now this Children obey your Parents in the Lord according to the Lords will and word is one of the Lords words Eph. 6. 1. Let none therefore be ashamed of obedience to Parents in meanest 2. In their being content to be crossed in their wills things 2. In Childrens being content to be crossed in their own desires or wayes and to yeeld to and obey Parents minds and wils in matters lawfull although the particulars seem to be very harsh to their own sense or reason as in that instance Gen. 48. 17. At first it displeased Joseph to see his Father lay his right hand upon Ephraims head and he held up his Fathers hand to remove it to Manasses his head and v. 18. Joseph said not so my Father for this is the first born put thy right hand upon his head v. 19. And his Father refused and said I know my Son I know it he also shall become great but his brother shall be greater then he And so he gave Ephraim the yonger Son the priority in his blessing and Joseph said no more but rested satisfied therein If Jacobs Sons are injoyned by their Father to feed their flock even in Shechem in the very mouth of danger by reason of the late slaughter of the Shechemits by their hands yet they are contented with it and do not mutter or object against it Gen. 37. 14. nor do they object against the hazzards of that long Journey into Egypt but if required by their Father to go they contentedly obey Gen. 42. 23 It was contrary to dictates of flesh and blood and reason for Isaac to yeeld to be offered up in Sacrifice by his Father but it was first no doubt made known to him by his Father to be Gods mind and seconded by his Fathers command and he quietly yeeldeth to his Father therein Gen. 22. 9 10. So in case of a daughters vow unto the Lord in something which is lawfull and which she earnestly desireth should be done before the Lord if the vow be not heard by her father when it was made and after dissallowed by her Father God will have her even in this case to sit down contentedly resigning her will to her Fathers although she cannot perform what she vowed and desired and God himself passeth it by because it was not her Fathers mind that she should perform it Gen. 30. 5. Gods children are a pattern to mens children herein who resign and submit their will to his will children are to look at good Parents as Gods Oracles unto them such by means of whom he imparteth his counsell to them and maketh wiser then themselves in matters respecting their occasions and changes Obedience to Parents in this way is to be as to Superiours yea as to the mind and Authority of the highest in their mandates which also is implied in that speech Eph. 6. 1. Children obey Parents in the Lord yea even in all things as is expressed Col. 3. 20. namely which are meet and lawfull so to obey them it is wel-pleasing to God albeit in doing of it children oft displease themselves David is blamed that he never displeased Adonijah his Son 1 King 1. 5 6. surely then Adonijah had been too blame if he had not yeelded to his Fathers mind in things displeasing to himself 3. In yeedling espccially to Parents minds in the matter of marriage So Isaac matcheth with Rebekah 3. In marrying according to good Parents minds according to his Fathers mind Gen. 24 6 7. 63. compared So Jacob marrieth Labans daughter according to the mind of his Parents Isaac and Rebekah Gen. 28. 1 2 3. compared with Chap. 29. the like was done by many others mentioned in Scripture 4. in obeying chiefly in things of God as injoyned 4. In obeying in things of God to children in Gods name by their Parents whether respecting the knowledge of God in Christ mortification or in any other means or parts of the souls welfare In which especially Solomons Son must keep his Fathers Commandement and not forsake the Law of his Mother Prov. 6. 20. and 1 Kings 2. 3. David chargeth Solomon his Son to keep the charge of the Lord his God to walk in his ways Ch. 3. 3. Solom loved the Lord walking in the statutes or according to the statutes and commands of David his Father David charged him also with all the work of Gods Temple which he duly and diligently performed 1 Chro. 22. 11. build the house of the Lord thy God which he hath said of thee and he did so as 2 Chr. 5. and cap. 6. sheweth if Abraham command his children the Lord concludeth they shall keep the way of the Lord as in that place oft referred to Gen. 18. 19. I know Abraham that he will command his children and they shall keep the way of the Lord. Hence Joshuah is so confident of his house and so of his children Josh 24. 15. but I and my house we will serve the Lord he requiring it of them he is confident that they will do it Jonadabs posterity in living so in Tents like pilgrims and strangers in refusing to drink wine or strong drink they lived a mortified life a weaned life from the world but they did it because so injoyned by their Father Jonadab and so by their next Parents successively as we see in that place oft occasionally referred to in this discourse 1 Jer. 35. 6 c. In such a way God as a Father is especially honoured and no wonder that there is his secret blessing and grace conferred to inable to such like obedience to Parents commands As in Gen. 18. 19. now mentioned Abraham will command his children and they shall walk in the way of the Lord. It strengthens the bond of childrens obedience to Parents commands when Parents shew such soul-love to children and intire love and faithfulness to God as to improve their parentall Authority thus for God which
more provoketh and exciteth them to reject your authority even in lawfull commands such a parent was Laban who put Leah his daughter upon that unlawfull course of deceiving her sisters spouse of his expected conjugall communion and defiling her self and him by it Gen. 29. 23. such a Parent was Saul who would have his daughter break her conjugal covenant with David and betake her self to an adulterous bed with Phalti 1 Sam. 25. 44. such a parent was Herodias who enjoyneth her daughter to make that bloody salvage request for John Baptists head Matth. 14. 8. 2. By your own rebellion against Gods commands 2. By thelr rebellion against God for which God in judgement leaveth children to be rebellious against you as in the case of David Absalom 2 Sam. 12. 9. thou hast despised the Commandement of the Lord v. 10. Now therefore the sword shall not depart from thy house v. 11. I will raise up evill against thee out of thine house and fulfilled in Absaloms open rebellion 2 Sam. 13. 3. By being too indulgent to them when you 3. By sinfull indulgence perceive your children do not follow your charge in this or that particular This made Hophni and Phineas the worse that their Father Eli was so over indulgent to them 1 Sam. 2. Hence Eli is blamed for it ye have kicked at my sacrifice saith God to Eli Prov. 29. 15. the rod and reproof giveth wisdome but a child left to himself without seasonable reproof or correction for his faults bringeth his Mother to shame namely by his desperate folly and disobedience as the opposition of the later part of this proverb to the former sheweth A second use serveth for discovery whether A second use is for examination Marks of due obedience to parents 1. If in way of repenting for former disobedience children in that relation of children did or now do come up to that filial obedience required in the fifth Commandement which is known to be so 1. If in way of cordiall repenting for any former expressions of disobedience to Father or Mother you did or now do the rather and the more obey your Parents injunctions Like that Son in the Parable Maâ— 21. 29. who repenting of that stubborn answer to his Father in saying when he bade him go that he would not but after he repented and went and vers 31. this of the two Sons was he that did the will of his Father or like the Prodigall Son who in way of repenting of his sin against his Father and against heaven now offers his utmost service to him which he shall injoyn him and that in the meanest way of service Luk. 15. 18 19 21. The Son said to his Father Father I have sinned against heaven and in thy sight and am no more worthy to be called thy Son make me as one of thy hired servants 2. If when you are tempted to disobey your parents 2. If obeying when tempted to the contrary commands yet you overcome the temptations obey your parents lawfull injunctions notwithstanding as the Rechabites though urged to drink wine by Jeremi the Prophet yet would not that in obedience to Rechabs command or because he had charged his Sons successively to look that they drank no wine Jer. 35. 5 6. 3. If doing it in matters unpleasing to the flesh 3. If you that are children in the relation of children obey your Parents command in matters unpleasing to flesh and blood and which cross you in matters of carnall delights preferments profits or ease and which rather tend to mortification of the lusts of youth to holy weanedness from the world c. thus it was with the injunctions first of Rechab to his next sons who observed his command themselves and left the same upon their next children and they again upon theirs successively unto the very time of Jeremiah that they should live like strangers and pilgrims in tents forbearing the use of carnall delights c. 4. If Children are habituated in a way of filial 4. If habituated in it obedience to your Parents lawfull commands It is not some single act that way nor some suddain pang and fit of obedience but like that of obedient Rechabites lasting all your dayes 5. If in that relation of children you do so wel relish 5. If propagating it to their children filial obedience that you endevour to propagate conscientious filiall obedience to your posterity when you are Parents So did these good Rechahites propagate filial obedience from Jehues time to Josiahs 6. If you are filially obedient to parents lawfull 6. If doing it â—o parents in meaner conditions injunctions when your parents are in a far meaner estate than you your selves are Gen. 47. 12. Jacob was as one nourished by his Son Joseph who was next to Pharaoh in place and honour yet Joseph is as obedient to his Fathers command as ever when at home under his Fathers tuition v. 31. swear now to me saith Jacob to Joseph and be sware to him Mordecai was to his cousen Hester as a Father to bring her up after her own Fathers death Est 2. 7. Ester is made great Ahasuerus his Queen v. 16. and v. 20. Ester did the commandement of Mordecai like as when she was brought up with him A third use is for exhortation 1. To Parents Third use of exhortation 1. To parents to further this due obedience as 1. By their own repentance and peace made with God Do you so carry it as that you may every way further this honour of obedience due to you from your children for which end 1. Make your peace with God through faith in Jesus Christ and exercise of repentance in regard of any former wayes of your disobedience to God or unto parents so far as you are privy and conscious to your selves thereof Job 22. 21. Acquaint thy self with God and be at peace with him thereby good shall come to thee what good it followeth v. 23. If thou return to the Almighty thou shall be built up not only stored with estate again but with children as Ruth 4. 11. Rachel and Leah built up Israels house or filled it with a numerous posterity and thou shalt put away iniquity from thy Tabernacle or houshold children or servants so Job 11. 14. Let not wickedness dwell in thy Tabernacle that is not alone with thy self in particular but not with any children or servants in thy house so that Job acquainting himself with God in the Mesiah and repenting shall not only have a numerous family of children restored to him but when he hath them shall remove the iniquity of children also in their relation as is disobedience and irreverence c. as well as that from himself in his or his servants as theirs 2. Be you exemplary in wayes of filial obedience 2. By being examples of filial obedience to parents and observance of your parents David did not alone teach Solomon
filial obedience as Solomon saith of him Prov. 4. 3 4. I was my Fathers Son and he taught me also saying keep my Commandements and live but v. 10 11. He records other words of his Father saying thus I have taught thee in the way of wisdome and so in this of filiall obedience as vers 4. I have led thee in the right paths and how obedient a Son Solomon proved let his works declare in his exact observing all his Fathers mind in that of building and furnishing of the Temple 1 Chro. 22. and Chap. 29. with 2 Chro. 5. and 6. and in that solemn charge of his to him touching exemplary justice upon Joah and Shimei 1 King 2. 5 6 7 8 9. which he accordingly executed v. 31 32 33 34 35 36. 44 45 46. and in the great charge of his Father to keep the Lords charge c. v. 3. and Chap. 3. 3. Solomon loved the Lord walking in the statutes of David his Father The Rechabites parents which first yeelded filial obedience to their Father Rechab and taught their children practically as well as preceptively filiall obedience had a posterity successively by that means of parents doing the like from parent to child famous some ages after for filiall obedience 3. By inuring children to obedience to God 3. Inure your children to wayes of obedience unto the Lord be you frequently curbing their disobedience to Gods commands Abraham who was famous for the Lords attestation of his care to improve his authority this way in laying his command upon his houshold to walk in the way of the Lord Gen. 18. 19. as he had an obedient houshold of his servants in the relation of a master Gen. 14. 23 24. Not one of them offers to plunder to the worth of a shooe-latchet Abraham having vowed to the contrary so had he as obedient a child to him in the relation of a Father who laid down his neck to the very block is willingly bound to become Gods sacrifice at his Fathers command Gen. 22. 9 10. Jonadab who laid the weight of his parentall authority upon his children in matters savouring of an heavenly weaned and mortified Spirit had a most obedient posterity Parents are injoyned to lay out the weight of thelr authority this way Deut. 32. 46. You shall command your children to do all the words of this Law This was Davids practice 1 Chro. 28. 9. And thou Solomon my Son know thou the God of thy Father and serve him with a perfect heart c. And so 1 King 2. 3. and Prov. 4. 5 6 7. he said to me get wisdome get understanding c. Jos 24. 25. I and my house will serve the Lord Josuah dareth undertake it God hath given Josuah experience what parentall and masterlike commands also can do that way to bring them under obedience and service to the Lord and so to him also as a Father of the Family injoyning and requiring such serving of God 4. Use holy wisdome in giving your parentall 4. By using pathetical words in giving out commands to them commands to your children namely in the most moving expressions which may help on affectionate attendance and observance thereof thus good Bathshebah when she would draw Solomon to follow her gracious directions even in his place of a King to which he was devoted see how she circleth him with her pathetical expressions Prov. 31. 1. c. The prophecy which his Mother taught him v. 2. What my Son and what the Son of my womb and what the Son of my vowes hence that parenthesis in Jacobs charge to his Son Joseph Gen. 48. 7. And as for me when I came from Padan Aram Rachel Josephs deer Mother died in the Land of Canaan in the way when yet there was but a little way to come to Ephrath and I buried her there in the way of Ephrath c. He would in a holy wise insinuate and get within Josephs heart hereby And then his eares and heart will be open to all he hath to give him in charge 5. Do you readily yeeld to the just desires even 5. By yeelding to childrens just desires of your children and it will notably prevail with your children most readily to yeeld to any just commands of yours As Caleb who giveth to his daughter Achsah the upper and nether springs at her request Iud. 1. 15. As it was good counsell given to that Father of the Common-weal Rehoboam 2 Chro. 10. 3 4 7. to be kind to his people to please them speak good words to them in way of answer to their request and they would be his servants for ever So is it in this case of Fathers of Families wise and seasonable condescendencies sometimes in parents to children It winneth their hearts and ingageth them to constant obedience 6. Do you also sometimes hearken to the good 6. By hearkening sometimes to childrens good advice advice which even your children do seasonably and in a suitable manner give to you and this also will exceedingly win your childrens hearts to an obedientiall submission to your just commands Thus did Terab Abrahams Father yeeld to Abrahams advise in the matter of his remove from Vr in Mesopotamia to Haram towards Canaan as Act. 7. 1 2 3 4. compared with Gen. 11. 31 32. and 12 1. sheweth So did Rahabs parents follow her advice they repaired to her house when Jericho was besieged by Josuah and being there they stirred not out of dores according as the spies had Counselled Rahab her self to look that it might be so done Josh 2. 18 19. compared with Chap. 6. 23. 2. Exhortation to Children to yeeld such obedience 2. This use serveth for exhortation to Children that you would be stirred up to the duty of honour of filiall obedience to your parents else all other outward expressions of respect to them are but bare Complements this is in speciall sort a reall honouring of them As it is in the children of God in reference to their heavenly Father It is more than all formalities of offering sacrifices to him or the like as he said to Saul 1 Sam. 15. 22. Behold to obey is better then sacrifice and to harken then the fat of Ramms As the contrary disobedience is as iniquity and Idolatry verse 23. So is it in the case of the Children of men their obedience to Parents is all in all their disobedience and stubbornesse to Parents is vilest iniquity Now the better to further Children in giving this honour of filial obedience we shall Motives to obedience to Parents propound 1. Some motives 2. Some helps to it As for motives thereunto let it be considered 1. That the Lord himself doth highly honour such as honour their parents by honour of obedience 1. God and Men honour such as yeeld it and he ordereth for them speciall honour from others Prov. 1. 8 9. The instruction of a Father and the Law of a Mother harkened unto he saith
shall be an ornament to a Sons head and as precious chaines about his neck a badg and pledg of honour in the eyes of his people Prov. 13. 18. He that hearkneth to reproof of a Parent especially shall be honoured Hence God causeth so honourable a Record to be kept in Scripture of the Acts of obedience to Parents in Isaac Jacob Joseph and others Memorable is that Jer. 35. 18 19. Where God chargeth Jeremiah to tell the Rechabites Because you have obeyed the commandement of Jonadab your Father and kept all his precepts and done according to all that he hath commanded you therefore thus saith the Lord the God of Israel Jonadab the Son of Rechab shall not want a man to stand before me for ever namely so long as that state and Church of Judah should stand as they should not he rooted out as Jer 31. 36. There is the like phrase in a like sense so they should be be honourably imployed according to that phrase in a like sense Jer. 33. 17 18. 2. That the Lord sometimes taketh occasion 2. God manifesteth great things to such in such a way to manifest such speciall grace to children whilest in this way of filial obedience as either was not at all or not in that measure shewed to them before Observable is that in Jacob whose journey to Padan Aram is put upon the account of his filial obedience even by his malicious Brother Esau Gen. 28. 7. now as he in his obediential way journyed from Bershebah towards Haran v. 10 11. there he seeth the ladder set upon the earth and the top of it reached to heaven and behold the Angels of God ascending and descending upon it and behold the Lord stood above it and said I am the God of Abraham and the God of Isaac thy Father the land whereon thou liest will I give it to thee and to thy seed v. 12 13. and vers 14. He promiseth to multiply his seed and that in him and his seed all the families of the earth shall be blessed and vers 15. Behold I am with thee saith God and I will keep thee in all places whither thou goest and will bring thee again to this land for I will not leave thee untill I have done that which I have spoken to thee of and vers 16 17. Jacob awoke and said Surely the Lord is in this place and I knew it not this is none other then the house of God this is the gate of heaven Never had Jacob that we finde before this time so glorious a manifestation of the promised Messiah to be God and man in one person as that one Ladder with its top reaching to heaven and its bottome on earth to be as a blessed Medium and Mediator by which God and Man heaven and earth should be joyned together as by a Ladder set on earth yet reaching up to heaven to be he by whom the Angels minister unto us and by whom all graces and spirituall blessings descend upon us and our hearts and spirits our prayers praises and other holy services yea and our whole persons one day ascend up to Heaven Never had Jacob such glorious promises of blessing upon him and his seed before Never was he in such a Corner of Heaven before And who then would not be incouraged to filial obedience and to be found in the way there of wherein others have found more of God and Christ than ever before 3. That Gods speciall presence and blessing 3. Gods special presence and blessing is with such is with you in a way of filial obedience to your parents so in this Scripture mentioned Jacob had Gods gracious promise of his presence with him and preservation of him in all places whither he went and that his seed with him should be blessed 4. Promises made to children with their parents come by that meanes to be fulfilled 4. That it tendeth to the ratification and accomplishment of the promises made to you in your godly parents As to Abrahams children in case of their obedience of his godly commands Gen. 18. 19. I know Abraham that he will command his Children and household after him And they in obedience to his command shall keep the way of the Lord that the Lord may bring upon Abraham even in his children after him that which he hath spoken of him even his promises respecting him and his seed Deut. 32. 46. Set your hearts to all the words which I testifie among you this day which you shall command your children to observe to do all the words of this Law vers 47. For this is not a vain thing for you because it is your life and through this thing you shall prolong your daies in the land which yee go to possess Albeit God had made so many promises of their injoyment of Canaan and many blessings of grace protection peace and the plenty there upon them and their posterity yet the meanes of accomplishment of all must be 1. That parents themselves must set themselves to obey all Gods Commands 2. They must lay their authority upon their Children to require of them also obedience to all Gods Commands 3. The Children in obedience to their parents commands under God they must observe to do all the words of that Law 1 King 2. 1 2 3. David chargeth his Son Solomon saying Keep the charge of the Lord thy God to walk in all his waies c. that by keeping this charge of God as given in charge by me thy Father according to God thou maiest prosper in all thou doest and vers 4. that the Lord may confirm his word which he spake concerning me namely in respect to my Children saying If thy Children take heed to their way to walk before me in truth with all their heart and soul there shall not fail thee said he a man on the throne of Israel 5. That your examples of filial obedience in 5. It will be a meanes of the like obedience in other Children you may be a meanes to work somewhat at least upon other Children yea even upon disobedient ones as Jacobs did upon Esau Gen. 28. 6 7 8. He never considered his disobedient course of matching with Canaanites against his parents minde But when he saw that Isaac his father had blessed Jacob and sent him away to Padan Aram to take him a Wife from thence and not to take a Wife of the Daughters of Canaan and that Jacob obeyed his Father and Mother and was gone to Padan Aram and Esau seeing the Daughters of Canaan pleased not Isaack his father vers 9. Then went Esau to Ishmael and took Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael Abrahams Son to wife Now he thought his matching thus unto the family of Abraham might better please his Father and so did it 6. In that else in a contrary way of dishonour 6. The contrary will expose the very place where they are to Gods curse of parents you will what in you lieth
recompence to be given to Parents proved thankful recompence Christ himself ratifieth this as commanded of God and as injoyned also virtually in the fifth Commandement and that if a Son do nothing for his Father and his Mother in their need they break that Commandement and such as are instruments to hinder them from it they make the word of God of none effect Mark 7. 10. Moses said honour thy Father and thy Mother vers 12. and ye suffer a man no more to do ought for his Father or Mother vers 13. making the word of God of none effect 1 Tim. 5. 4. But if any Widdow have Children or Nephewes let them that is the Adult Children of such ancient widdowes learn to shew piety or kindnesse at home and to requite their parents that this is the meaning is evident from the scope of the Apostle who is speaking of what Widdowes are to be honoured and owned by the Church imployed and maintained by the Church viz. such as are Widdowes indeed vers 3. namely as vers 5. expoundeth every way desolate not only in respect of want or deprivall of an husband to provide for her but of Children or near kindred to take care of her or minister supply to her As for any other Widdow as vers 4. expresseth who hath Children or Nephewes to provide for her the Apostle would not have the Church charged with them but injoyneth it from God as the Childrens duty if such be living or near kinsfolkes duty to shew piety or kindness to them and especially the Children they must learn to shew piety to them at home and to requite their parents And its observable that the Holy Ghost saith not let them only shew piety requite Parents but let them learn to do it there is an holy skill and art of doing it to know wherein and how and when and for what ends to do it every one knoweth not the right art of doing it And he that hath any holy skill that way may be a daily proficient in it there is some mystery in it and it would be learned by all every one must be teachable and willing and desirous to understand his duty this way and to know it more and more and the more each one practiseth according to the Rules of God this commendable art the better artist no doubt he will prove therein I shall endevour according to that small measure which I have received to give some few directions which may be of some use this way Let us then first consider wherein or in what way this filial gratefull recompence is to be made to Parents 2. Why it is to be made 3. Make such use of it as may both discover any thing contrary to it or any hinderance in it and likewise what may any way further either the Theorie or Practice of it In all which we shall make much use of that fundamentall notion as I may call it which the Holy Ghost giveth us for this end in the very phrase he useth to express the duty it self 1 Tim. 5. 4. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 vicem rependere as Beza and others render it parentibus or to progenitours as it is in the Greek whether next parents or Grand-Fathers and Grand-Mothers or the like there must be a thankful retaliation as much as may be though perfectly and fully it cannot be for parents have given their children their beings under God and their very life and existence which the children can never do to them but as much as may be they must repay them like for like Touching the first thing propounded in what way children must recompence parents I answer 1. In way of gratefull serving of them and It consisteth in childrens 1. Gratefull serving of their parents their good as thereunto called of God Paul alludeth to this in Phil. 2. 22. for as a Son with the Father hath he served with me in the Gospell Mal. 3. 17. his Son that serveth him In case especially of parents meanness as with us generally in New England there is need that some of their children at least should even work for them Jesus Christ when on earth he wrought hard with his reputed Father for the maintenance of his poor Mother Mark 6. 3. Is not this the Carpenter say they the Son of Mary And I say in way of grateful serving of parents they must do that in a way of gratitude which their parents in way of parentall love did for them they must vicem reddere as I said the phrase is in Tim. 5. 4. give like for like How did parents work and labour Working for them out of love to them for them Answ 1. They did it with much tender respect and affection to children for love of them rather than themselves they had many a bowel-pang and thought of their children carrying them on to and in their toyles and labours Alas thought they many and many a time if we take not such and such pains if we use not such and such diligence in our callings our poor helpless babes our poor children will want this and that for the back and for the belly c. As Jacob said Gen. 30. 30. when shall I be for mine own house also He looketh not so much to provide for himself as for his wives as an husband for his children as a Father children do you like for like If servants in some cases will continue serving their Masters because they love them whence that boring of such a servants ear Exod. 21. 5 6. then do you children much more out of respect to your parents this serving of parents and labouring for them and that out of respect to them is all but due debt on your part You have reason to look backward to what is past and lyeth already in banck on your parents part and what Bils or Bonds on their part which requir greater disbursments this way than ever you can make if you should serve them all your daies And if you pay in now a little and then a little as you are able and as your parents needs call for it yet may you very well have low thoughts of all such petty payments as yet are so exceedingly short of that vast sum of service and ministration which is due to your parents 2. Parents did what service of love they did for their children with a great deal of Alacrity With alacrity and freeness with heart and good will as we use to say Children do you the like for them even servants are to serve their Masters with good will Eph. 6. 7. and to do what they do for them ex animo heartily Col. 3. 23. Much more should children do so in what you do for your parents Farents good hearts they did nothing they did for children grudgingly though never so harsh to flesh and blood though very toilsome no it never deared them as we say knowing that their poor children should have the benefit
of it more wayes than one Oh that children would think of it and do like service of love for them then would there never be such grumbling with children as there is with too many as if every thing were too much or too harsh which they are put to do for supply of parents wants Parents never needed urging or forcing no nor their childrens calling upon them to be doing for them and their good let children do like for like let none parents or others need to urge you with many arguments or compel you by blowes or mulcts to be doing this compensatory service but let it be as a very naturall fruit arising freely from an innate principle and root within Parents needed no eye of man of their children or of others to look after them and see that they were diligent in their service of love for their children no when none were by as well as when any were present still they plied it hard for the supply of their childrens wants for their childrens welfare let children do like for like very servants to Masters should not do eye service Col. 3. 22. and it would be a shamefull and loathsome thing most of all in children to do eye service for parents 3. Parents were constant and unwearied in Constantly and unweariedly their labours for their childrens good they thought nothing they did or could do too much or scarce enough for their childrens good Oh that children would but give like for like to parents then would there never be such counting upon so much and so much which children have done for parents Many a poor honest parent hath even worn out themselves and wasted and exhausted their very strength in their service of love for their children and it would be a monstrous thing if children should not now do all that ever they can to maintain these their decayed decrepit exhausted parents I had almost said servants 4 Parents in their service of love on behalf of their children condescended to meanest offices and imployments such indeed they were especially when their children were little were diseased or many wayes bodily distempered and ill at ease that none else but tender hearted parents Fathers and Mothers would have done for them let children do like for like for parents as they may have use or stand in need of them As in the parable oft made use of in this discourse the Son when come to rights he was willing to be as his Fathers servant yea the meanest of servants as his hired servant Luke 15. 17 18 19. 2. In being a comfort to them in their sorrows and sufferings A second way of such grateful recompencing of parents is by being a comfort to them against their sorrows and sufferings As when parents meet with any sad losses crosses reproaches persecutions for Christs sake when exiled imprisoned or the like let children cheer them up all they can Gen. 5. 29. Lamech called his Sons name Noah saying this Son shall comfort us concerning our work and toil of our hands because of the ground which the Lord hath cursed Let children be as so many Noahs comforts and comforters against whatsoever miseries or calamities which may befall their parents Ruth 4. 15. this shall be a restorer of thy life and a nourisher of thy old age the grand-child Boaz must be his grand-mothers cherisher succourer and supporter under God against all her faintings sinkings and troubles of her elder times when that sad news of Josephs supposed death came to Jacobs eares All his Sons and daughters rose up to comfort him Children are branches of their Parents as of a Vine Psal 128. 3. thy wife shall be as the fruitfull Vine by thy house side whose branches yeeld such grapes such fruit from which choycest wine is made whereby mans heart is cheared quickned and inlarged let children then yeeld such chearing quickening strengthning and inlarging fruit to their parents when sad when their Spirits are ready to fail and sink within them through troubles inward or outward As other wine or fruit of the Vine is for those that are of a heavy heart Prov. 31. 6. So children as children as receiving a being from their parents as of the Vine of which they came are to yeeld comforting fruit especially to their sorrowfull parents children should carry it so and be such to sad and suffering parents as they may make up many other losses and crosses to them As it was said of Ruth whose story is often occasionally made use of in this discourse Ruth 4. 15. for thy daughter-in-Law which loveth thee which is more to thee than seven Sons hath born him Naomi had lost her two dear Sons yea but Ruth is such a succourer and supporter and comforter to her that she is instead of many Sons that way to her Eve loseth her hopefull Son Abel and her wound is the greater in that his brother Cain murthered him yea but Seth is given her as one appointed of God to be another seed to her instead of Abel whom his brother Cain slew Gen. 4. 25. she looketh for all that good and comfort from him which Abel might have ministred to her and so doubtless she found it made good to her children in this also must vicem rependere pay and give in like for like Ah the bowels of parents towards children when any evill or calamity befalleth them when any way ill at ease when sad through-outward or inward troubles or pressures they put their souls in their souls stead they would not suffer them to lie grieving and wasting themselves with grief if with all their wisdom and grace and ability they had inward or outward they could redress the same when their children were litle such comforts and cordials were parents unto them and when their children are adult they were the same to them let children then repay like for like to their grieved afflicted parents If to him that is melting away with trouble as that Hebrew word in Job 6. 14. signifieth such expressions of sympathy should be shewed from a friend to his friend much more from a child to a parent if a brother be born for adversity Prov. 17. 17. Is it not one end of a childs being born from his parents to be a help and succour to them in adversity Children should be as eyes to their dim-sighted parents as strength to them when weak Feet to them when lame nourishers to them when in need of meat and refreshment sweet melody to them to make their very hearts dance within them and a very flaffe to their age as it is said that Scipio Africanus was unto his Father If Christ himself account so of each of his Disciples who do the will of his Father to be his Brother Sister and Mother not alone in the faithfull respects and service of the love of such to him-ward but in respect of his own respects and services of love succour and sympathy towards them as of a
Senacheribs sons did it as he was worshiping in the house of Nisroch his God they smote him with the sword 2 King 19. 37. Surely the Law even all the Curses and Judgments of the Law must needs be the portion of such Paricides 2 Tim. 1. 9. Who so ill requite their tender-hearted Parents and causes of their lives A second use serveth for exhortation 1. To 2. Use of exhortation Parents Do you what lieth in you to further and look 1. To parents to further this gratitude in their Children 1. By leaving them the choycer blessings of God that you no way do any thing to hinder your children in this duty of gratefull recompencing of Parents for which end 1. Take speciall care to leave your children the good blessings of God respecting their souls welfare for this will lie as a strong ingagement upon your childrens hearts the rather gratefully to recompence you their Parents Thus God required of them of old that they should so carry it that they might leave the Land of Canaan a Type of blessings of an higher nature for an inheritance to their Children for ever The like is charged 2 Chron. 28. 8. This was the gratious care of the Fathers of the two tribes and half to detain their children in the way of Gods worship and fear and to prevent whatsoever might hinder or discourage their posterity from the same Josh 22. 25 26 27 28. And if we have not rather done it for fear of this thing saying in time to come your children might speak to our Children saying what have you to do with the Lord God of Israel yee have no part in the Lord So shall your Children make our Children cease from fearing the Lord. Therefore we said let us now prepare to build us an altar not for burnt offerings nor for sacrifice but that it may be a witnesse between us and you and our generations after us that we might do the service of the Lord before him c. This was Joshuah's care also for his Josh 24. 15. But as for me and my house we will serve the Lord And this was Abrahams care Gen. 28. 29. I know him saith the Lord that he will command his Children and household after him and they shall walk in his waies that God may bring upon Abraham namely in his posterity what he hath promised him 2. Use all lawfull meanes industry and providence to leave your Children in such places and 2. By leaving them inabling meanes and wayes for it in such callings and if it may be with such portions that they may not alone be the more ingaged but inabled also in an ordinary way of providence to discharge such a duty of filial recompence to the utmost Thus Jacobs care was to provide for his house Gen. 30. 30. and he had children solicitous and industrious to provide for him in his straits in that time of famine witness their journeyes for that end into Egypt Gen. 42. and 43 and 44. But in a most eminent way it was seen in his Son Ioseph whose great care was that way Gen. 45. 9. Thus saith thy Son Joseph Come down to me and tarry not and vers 10. Thou shalt dwell in the land of Goshen and thou shalt be near to me thou and thy Children and thy Childrens Children and thy flocks and herds and all that thou hast vers 22. and there will I nourish thee for yet there are five years of Famine lest thou and thy household and all that thou hast come to poverty 3. By distilling into Children principles of gratitude to others and curbing the contrary in them 3. Distil into your children principles of gratitude to others especially unto progenitors So did Ruth into Obed her Son whence that prophetical speech of good women present at Obeds birth which they spake to his Grandmother Naomi Ruth 4. 15. He shall be to thee a restorer of thy life and a nourisher of thy old age for thy Daughter-in-law which loveth thee and therefore will be instructing him that way hath born him And if Parents perceive any expressions of an ungratefull Spirit in their Children though towards others let them be sure to rebuke their children for it and seasonably to root up such sprouts of so bad a Spirit So did good Jethro in his Daughters when they told him what kindness Moses had done to them Exod. 2. 19 20. saith he to his Daughters and where is he why is it that ye left the man call him that he may eat bread 4. Be you exemplary to your Children in this 4. By being examples thereof to Children gratefull recompence of your Parents Hence also their Argument concerning Obed that he would prove such a pious child to his Grandmother Naomi Ruth 4. 15. He will be a nourisher of thy old age For thy Daughter which loveth thee which is better to thee then seaven sons and in her exemplary piety towards thee hath born him If children are continually taught by Parents examples of piety to their parents as well as by their Instructions to be thus pious they will assuredly learn as Pauls phrase is 1 Tim. 5. 4. to shew piety at home and to requite their Parents 5. Be it far from you to be so ungracious towards 5. By avoiding any thing favouring of unnaturalness to them your godly children as not to shield off blowes from them what in you lieth like the Father and Mother of the blind man leave him to shift for himself with He is of years let him answer for himself John 9. 21 22. So did not Joash who in that honest cause of his son Gideon stood in his defence Iudg. 6. 31. Joash said to all that stood by him against his Son will you plead for Baal will you save him he that will plead for him let him be put to death whilest it is yet morning if he be a God let him plead for himself because one hath cast down his Altar But much less let any Parent requite good children so ill as themselves to undermine their childrens safety or liberty Luke 21. 16. Yee shall be betrayed by Parents c. 2. It is of exhottation to children 2. Exhortation to Children gratefully to recompence Parents Motives to it Be you stirred up to piety and gratefull recompence to your Parents And that you may be stirred up hereunto besides that it is honourable in the sight of God Angels and Men so to do whence such Records kept of gratefull Children in honorem as of Joseph and others Consider 1. That by the very light of nature it hath been 1. Naturall light strongly urged and exemplarily practised as we have hinted before Plato in his 8. Book de Republica sheweth that a Child oweth to the Father all things respecting his outward maintainance and comfort as a recompence for his Birth and Education and Tully saith We are not born for our selves but partly for our Country partly for
that good of grace as of faith 9. By imitating all that was truly good in them love and holiness righteousness patience meekness courage constancy humility zeal of Gods glory holy fervency diligence fidelity and the like which children have beheld and seen in their parents Prov. 4. 12. Saith David to Solomon I have led thee in the right paths even by holy example also Joh. 8. 39. If ye were Abraham's children ye would do the works of Abraham if they were genuine children of Abraham they would shew it by the honour they really put upon him by making him an holy exemplar and pattern to themselves how to walk before the Lord and to be upright It was a noble speech of a good daughter-in-Law to her Mother Naomi a godly Matron Ruth 2. 16. Thy God shall be my God and thy people my people she would honour all that was honourable in her her Religion her faith in God and worship and service of him and obedience to him as also her union and communion with the Church and love to them and the like 10. Not to suffer themselves to be drawn aside 10. By cleaving to their good wayes without degenerating and Apostatising or to Apostatise or degenerate from that of God and Christ and his grace truth worship and wayes which their Parents have held forth to them in word and deed precept and practice and have frequenrly given in charge to their children This is charged upon children Prov. 6. 20. My Son keep tby Fathers Commandements and forsake not the Law of thy Mother And Prov. 4. 2. Forsake you not my Law Prov. 1. 8. My Son hear the instructions of thy Father and forsake not the Law of thy Mother This was commended in those of Judah the posterity of godly Ancestors Hos 11. 12. Judah ruleth yet with God and comparatively to Israel is faithfull to the Saints viz. their godly Ancestors who delivered their faith to their successors to be kept and carryed and conveyed to posterity successively according as they had taught them by precept and practice It s faithfulness to Ancestors and so honoureth Ancestors when posterity continueth to hold out what was most honourable in them and doth not degenerate them-from Hence that also Jer. 35. 13 14. will you not hearken to my words saith the Lord The words of Jonadab the Son of Rechab that he commanded his Sons are performed for unto this day they drink no wine but obey their Fathers Commandement As if he had said they put this Honour upon their Ancestors from Jonadabs time who first practised it and gave it in charge to his children who also left it as their practice and precept to their Children and so successively from Parent to Child it hath been observed without alteration to this day nor will they by any temptation or triall even of Jeremiah himself be drawn aside from that their mortified practice of weanedness from the worlds delights and contentments but you will not Honour me so much as to follow the Counsels and godly examples of my Prophets by whom time after time I have called upon you to wayes of holy obedience These two last wayes of Reflect Honour of Parents by their Children being the main we shall therefore in the prosecution of the point chiefly attend them The Reason hereof may be taken from the titles Reasons hereof from childrens Titles calling for it given to Children in Scripture which hold forth as much that in Gods appointment Children as child should be an honor to their parents 1. Hence they are called Parents and Ancestors Crowns Prov. 17. 6. Childrens Children are the Crown of old men A badge and pledge of their holy royalty dignity and excellency as Crowns are to Princes heads and Hos 9. 11. They are called Parents glory their glory shall flee away viz. their Children from the birth womb and conception v. 12. I will bereave them of their Children which they bring up 2. They are called Stars Gen. 37. 9 10. The glory of the firmament where they are the Families where they are albeit not of equall glory to the Father and Mother of the Family which are theirs as the Sun and Moon as Jacob and his wife and eleven Sons are in Josephs dream the Sun Moon and eleven Stars 3. They are Parents rewards from God and so appointed to be as rewards are to others for their Honour so are they in Gods intent godly Parents heritage and heritages redound to the possessors Honour 4. They are in Gods appointment to be as Olive plants about their Table a badge and pledge of Honour to their Parents such as from whom commeth that which will make their parents faces to shine as Oyle-olive will a mans face They are as Arrows in the hand of a Gyant which become instrumental to many an honourable Trophe and Lawrell Crown of theirs such as Parents need not beashamed of but glory in even in despite of envy and malice it self Psal 127. 4. 5. As Arrows are in the hand of a Gyant so are Children of youth happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them they shall not be ashamed but they shall speak with the enemies in the Gate 5. Children are in Scripture account builders 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 from 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 he hath built Isay 49. 17. Genev. Transl not only in respect of holding up the Family and the like but in that their work is to contrive compose advance adorn replensh or occasionally to repair that goodly piece their Parents Honour as well as safety comfort peace prosperity or the like 6. Children are in Scripture account as polished stones of a Palace Psal 144. 22. redounding much to the Honour of Parents who instrumentally formed and framed them Reason 2. May be taken from Parents they are 2. From Times of Parents in Scripture their Childrens glory Prov. 17. 6. and the glory of Children are their Fathers and if good Parents are such an Honour to their Children Children should be a glory and Honour to their godly Parents yea the Honour put upon Parents redounds to their Children the more glory is upon the Parent the more is upon the Children whose glory their Fathers are so that the more Honour Children are to Parents and the better they carry it in way of Honour to their Parents the more Honour they put thereby upon themselves The use of this point serveth first for reproof Use 1. For Reproof and that and that first of Parents who are many of you too guilty of your Childrens dishonourable courses and carriages namely 1. When you unadvisedly expose your Children 1. Of Parents too much furthering Childrens dishonourable carriages and courses to dishonourable practices or temptations thereunto as Gen. 19. 8. I have two daughters saith Lot to those beastly Sodomites which have not known man let me I pray you bring them out to you and do yee to them as is good in your own
last saying how have I hated instruction It is the reproof he hath had but despised how hath my heart despised reproof it is the voyce of his teachers which he hath heard but not obeyed I have not obeyed the voyce of my Teachers If one might lay ones ear in the other world at the mouth of the bottomless pit one should hear many such desperate moans and yellings out such complaints so that though poor Parents suffer by such wretches as you are at the present yet a time will come when you your selves shall thus clear them and condemn your selves 3. Such Children of Christian Parents who take to deboist company and take up any Ruffianly 3. For deboist company and courses customs or courses in your hair in your garb in your jovialling and rioting Prov. 17. 2. A wise servant shall have rule over a Son that causeth shame a deboist Son who is not fit to be trusted with any business of his Fathers putteth shame even upon his Father and Family as well as upon himself Christians are spiritual Priests unto God 1 Pet. 2. 5. truly as it was of old Num 21. 9. the daughter of any Priest if she profane her self she profaneth her Father so it is here such profane Children as you are you do even profane your very good Parents Or as it is in the case of Elders of Churches it s put upon their account of blame if their Children be accused of Riot or are unruly and therefore it s said Tit. 1. 6 7. If he be blameless having Children not accused of riot or unruly for a Bishop must he blameless c. So is it true of other godly Parents some blemish and blame reflecteth upon them when their Children are so culpable such scandalous Children of the Church as you are It is no wonder that you get no good by your Education if given to such loose companions and their Counsels this is the cause of the other as it was in Rehoboam when those young blades gave him that boisterous counsell 2 Chron. 11. 4. He slighted the grave counsell of those Ancient Fathers of the State so it is here hang it will such companions say what needst thou care what the old man saith nor is it likely that ever such a Son should be better so long as knit to such comrades Prov. 9. 6. Forsake the foolish and live and go in the way of understanding yea but first those companions must be cashiered yea this also is the cause of the first branch of dishonour cast upon your Parents by deriding of their good Children Psal 1. 1. There is a gradation 1. A man walketh in the counsell of the ungodly 2. Then he standeth in the way of sinners then 3. He taketh up his chair he sitteth in the seat of the scorners such snares are there in the way of the froward to others as well as to themselves Prov. 22. 5. And so true is it that evill communication corrupteth good manners 4. Such Children as match dishonourably to 4. For matching dishonourably your Parents even to your Christian Parents profession and gracious interests so did that posterity of Seth the Children of the Church in matching with the posterity of out-cast Cain Gen. 6. 2. The Sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair and took them wives of all which they chose thus did Esau dishonour that blessed stock of which he came to match into the cursed brood and Family of Cham Gen. 26. 34 35. And Judah did too much this way Gen. 38. 2. and God put dishonour upon him in that vile brood which came of his Canaanitish wife Shuah even Er and Onan whose vile wickedness God immediately revenged Vers 7 9 10. And no wonder since he so much dishonoured his Father and Fathers house by that match and so mingled the holy seed with the people of the lands as it s called Ezra 9. 2. And they said truly though they spake it guilefully Gen. 34. 14. We cannot give our Sister to one that is uncircumcised for that were a reproach when such matches are made by your selves yet your Parents are supposed if not censured by others either to abuse their parentall Authority in way of Commission contrary to Gods Rules forbidding such unequall matchings or to neglect their Authority in way of sin of omission of duty for prevention of such an evill and so your Parents come hereby to suffet reproach besides by such unworthy matches vile practices come to arise which yet were more reflect upon your godly Parents Honour As was too evident in that posterity of the Sons of God and Daughters of men Gen. 6. 2 3 4 5. and in Judahs brood by Shuah now mentioned and in that mungrell generation which spake half the Jewes Language and half the Language of Ashdod This also tendeth to undermine those direct Acts of Honour due to your Parents such bad Husbands will be hindring the wives due respect to her good Parents or any due reverence to them or filiall obedience to them or any filiall recompence of them and the like mischief will a bad wife do in that way to her husband to withdraw him from giving due Honour to his good Father or Mother as too common experience maketh it good but God will pay such of you home either by laying you as low as hell in troubling and terrifying your consciences for such courses of which there are sometimes examples or if not that way yet by some notable judgements of his exposing you to contempt as he did those of the old world 5. Such persons are especially to be reproved 5. For degerating from the good precepts and practices of their godly parents and Ancestors who being Children of the Church Children of godly Parents and Ancestors yet walk not after the precepts which they often gave you nor in the blessed paths wherein they exemplary led you yea you steer a contrary course unto that of your gracious Fathers or Mothers Grand-fathers or Grand-mothers yea some of you who possibly have been convinced of the evill of your State by nature and have been so far wrought upon as to give good hops of the best things to bebegun in you yet you also come afterwards to degenerate like those Sons of God Sons of the Church Gen. 6. 2. who receive not so much as the Footsteps of any of the gracious wayes of their good Ancestors such a generation are spoken of Judg. 2. 7 10 12 17. And the people served God all the daies of Joshuah and all the dayes of the Elders that outlived Joshuah And all that generation died and there arose another generation after them which knew not the Lord. And they forsook the Lord God of their Fathers they turned quickly out of the way which their Fathers walked in obeying the Commandements of the Lord but they did not so Your Parents and Ancestors made conscience of reading and hearing the word of God
and due meditation upon it but you their Children at least some of you hardly ever look into the Bible the great things of Gods Law there written are as a strange thing to you Hos 8. 12. If with much ado you drop in into an Assembly where the word is taught there you fit as careless high-way-side hearers mind not what is said lay not up what you hear mind most such young men and womens garbs and gestures c. And as for any serious meditation upon the word you are strangers wholly to it your godly Parents were exercised in godly conference but you in frothy discourses as soon as ever you are out of the Assembly and when ever you meet with other companions like your selves God is never in your mouths unless in way of profaning some way of his blessed name Your Parents were wont to be much in Prayer not alone in publick in the Assembly or in private in the Family but in secret by themselves alone in their closets but you their Children make no conscience of Prayer God seldom or never heareth of you by your selves alone in a corner bemoaning your selves or earnestly desiring that he would turn your hearts unto him and to his wayes how conscionable were your Parents of Sanctifying the Sabbath of which you make none you care not if you may do it unseen of others how vainly or profanely you mispend that sacred time how conscionable were your Parents of what they spake at any time and of their thoughts if possible not to yeeld to a vain and carnall thought but to suppress it but you regard neither what you think nor speak you let your minds drive and rove after all manner of vanity and folly and your lips even powr out foolishness how observant were your good Parents what company they came into or were familiar with that they were godly or hopefull persons but no company commeth amiss to you unless they be now and then a godly person who rather putteth you into your dumps How tender were your good Parents of their dealings with men to discharge a good conscience therein of their very outward garb what they ware and in what fashion and the like but you their Children regard not what you do nor how you deal with others nor what you wear nor of what Fashion so the newest As it was said of those degenerate ones Deut. 32. 17. They sacrificed to devils not to God to new Gods whom their Fathers feared not so it may be said of you you give up your selves to walk after the sight of your own eyes and after the desire of your own hearts Eccles 11. 9 You give up your selves to serve your own vain imaginations and lusts of the flesh of the eye and of the pride of life which your Fathers subjected not themselves unto if one should ask many such Children of godly Ancestors did ever your good Father or Grand-father wear such ruffianly hair upon their heads did they ever transform themselves like Nebuchadnezzar Dan. 4. 3â— into the manner of beasts to be so careless of their seasonable and suitable cutting their hair as you do that as it s said of him your hairs are grown like Fagles Feathers which yet are not so long as womens hair nor indeed according to the ordinary causes in nature can mans hair ever be so long as womens who are naturally of a moyster temper and if that were all in 1 Cor. 11. It s a shame to a man even by natures law and light to have long hair that is say our Ruffianly haired men to have it as long as women but that need not to be forbidden by Paul or any other for nature forbiddeth that among the number of things not in ordinary causes usuall or possible but this by way of digression or did your godly Parents frisk from one new fangled fashion to another as you do surely no or did they ever give you examples of such loosness prodigality scurrility and the like lewdness which you practise assuredly no nay if your godly Ancestors and Parents were now existing upon the earth would they now know you their posterity theirs Sons their Daughters surely no You are so strangely Metamorphozed from any likeness to your good Parents or Ancestors It may be confessed as it was of their Ancestors Esai 63. 16. Abraham is ignorant of us and Israel acknowledgeth us not as some would have it expounded we are so degenerate that if Abraham or Israel were now alive again they would not know or own us to be their posterity John 8. 39 40. Yea do not too many of you now a dayes degenerate whil'st your good Parents are with you Praying and weeping many a time over you and for you before God and giving many a pull at you before Gods throne if it might be to rescue you from the bottomless pit into which they fear you are hasting and many a time with tears sometimes the Father sometimes the Mother in holywise adjuring and sometimes meekly and lovingly intreating and beseeching such or such a Son or Daughter Ah dear Son dear Daughter that you would once at length look out seriously after the salvation of your souls after God after Christ that you would but once set upon the blessed work of Faith Repentance and Gospel-obedience will you not leave these and these vain courses and customs fashions and companions will you not be more conformable to Gods holy Rules when shall it once be and truly if the arising generation now a daies too many of them begin to grow so rude and graceless and so far to degenerate whil'st godly Parents Masters Tutors Kind red Magistrates and Ministers are with them Alas what will they do when they are gone as Moses once said to that degeneration race of Abraham Isaac and Jacob Deut. 31. 27. Behold while I am yet alive with you this day you have been Rebellious against the Lord and how much more after my Death so we may too justly fear concerning too many of this arising Generating of Christians that if whil'st we are with them they so fast decline and degenerate they will much more do it after we are gone Alas what wrack did those seven famous Asian Churches soon suffer in their degenerate posterity and Ah! that we had not too much cause to fear as much of ours If it were the case onely of a few of the younger generation of the very Churches that they onely were degenerated it were the less to be feared But when degenerating from godly Parents and Ancestors Paths and Principles waxeth so common and even Epidemicall in Protestant Churches here and elsewhere under so much light and help to the Contrary who can but fear the worst yea when Children grow so bold if not impudent in their impieties and iniquities as not secretly but openly not in any way of blushing but even in a shameless way to be casting off the yoak of Jesus Christ who would not
in the way of wisdome namely instructively I have led thee in the right paths namely exemplarily the like holy advantage did they make of that counsel and doctrine of their Fathers Psalm 144. 1. and David likewise maketh advantage of his Mothers interest in God Psalm 86. 16. and Psalm 116. 18. Now if this be a talent it must be accounted for one day and Children had need look that they make answerable returnes Parentall nurture and admonition and Christian education is an holy advantage to such Children above others that want the same As being Gods ordinance for Childrens best welfare as was shewed before When Solomon had charged his Son to keep his Fathers command and not to forsake the Law of his Mother Prov. 6. 20. verse 23. he addeth this reason for the commandement even of a godly Father is a lamp and the Law even of a godly Mother is light and reproofs of instruction given by Parents also to Children are the way of life Prov. 29. 11. The rod and reproof give wisdome namely as Gods appointed means in the use whereof he will give it to Children Godly examples are also very forcible and helpfull hence the godly are said to be blessings in all places where they are cast Isa 19. 2. As Husbands may be wonne to God good while they behold the Godly and wise conversation of their wives 1 Pet. 3. 1. So may a child by the gracious example of godly Parents yea such children have the superadded advantage of their good Parents and Ancestours Covenant interest Prayers and blessing Gen. 49. 26. The blessings of thy Father saith Jacob to his Son Joseph have prevailed above the blessings of my Progenitors every godly Ancestour and Parent contributeth something to the Childs blessed stock besides the blessed advantage which such Children have to be an Honour to God and to their Parents by the very Entail of grace by Promise and Covenant of God from their Parents unto them Deut. 30. The Lord will circumcise thine heart and the heart of thy seed to love him c. and Isa 59. 21. The word and spirit in the mouth of the Ancestours is promised to the suceeding Children let Children then of the Church of the godly look you husband this holy advantage the rather to Gods and godly Parents Honour 2. In that the posterity of Papists and Mahumetans will follow the tract of their parents instructions and examples and will by no means depart therefrom and shall not such children as you are much rather follow your godly teaching and leading Parents without departing from their blessed counsels and examples God forbid any should do otherwise 3. In that otherwise if you will not do thus to the honour of your godly parents verily then all the blessed words which your good parents have urged and charged and that as from God by their parentall authority upon you their children they will come in another day as evidences against you according to that phrase concerning Gods word delivered by Moses to the Israelites and by them to be commanded to their Children successively in case of their Apostacy it 's said this Song shall be Gods witness to testifie against them Deut. 31. 19 21 26. Touching the helps to further you in being such an honour to godly parents they may be such as these 1. Take heed of what tendeth to dishonourable degenerating and Apostacy from the gracious counsels and examples of your godly Parents and Ancestors and for this end take heed of 1. corrupt principles or practices in Religion for they tend to Apostacy hence the Apostacy of those hopefull beginners in 2 Pet. 2 19. 20. whil'st corrupt libertine principles are distilled into them and imbraced by them they are intangled again and fall off 2 Tim. 21. 16 17. Timothy must avoid such profane and vain bablings such the Apostle termeth their false doctrines because they tend to ungodliness and their word and doctrine like a Canker eateth out the heart and life of Religion where it taketh 2. A worldly spirit that causeth degenerating in hopefull persons that hopefull young man in Mark 10. 20 2â— was spoiled by it so was Saul Judas Ananias and Saphira Demas and all those professors which so far out-go those of the high way and stony hearers even those of the thorny soyl they come to be choaked by the thorny cares desires occasions and contentments of the world so that no fruit of theirs ever commeth to perfection 3. Pride this ushereth in even this fall also instead of him whose bea rt is lifted up in Hab. 2. 4. it is in Heb. 10. 35. if any man draw back the one ushereth in the other let Children hopefull ones specially beware of this 4. Wantonness under outward prosperity plenty peace liberty civill and sacred Deut. 32. 11. Jesurun waxed fat and kicked turned against God So those Nehem. 9. 22 26. Hence God warneth them then to take heed that when in Canaan they have all they can desire in a manner that then they forget not and forsake not the Lord Deut. 8. 10 11 12 13 14. let the posterity of the godly here and elsewhere take heed of this spirituall wantonness which ushereth in Apostacy 5. Bad matching this caused Jehoram good Jehoshaphats Son so vilely to degenerate namely his matching into wicked Ahabs stock 2 Chro. 21. 1 2. bad wives out-landish women caused even wise Solomon to sin and for a time to degenerate Nehem. 13. 26. let young persons especially take heed of this 2. Let such Children of the Church of the godly engage themselves personally in solemn wise before the Lord and his people also as well as privatly to walk according to God and those godly counsels and examples of their good Parents and Ancestors and by his strength and help never to turn away there from good Ruth did so privatly when she so solemnly vowed before God and her Mother-in-Law that she would go with her be with her partake in weal and woe with her own her God and people and only them for hers and nothing but death should hinder the same Ruth 1. 15 16. whither thou goest thither I will go thy God shall be my God and thy people my people God do so to me and more also if ought but death part me and thee she engages implicitly to all honour of her both direct to honour her with all honour of respects reverence obedience and recompence and reflectly to be an honour to her also all which may be very well gathered out of that speech of hers as I might particularly evince but I forbear Nehem. 10. 28 29. the Children of the Church there their sons and daughters that could understand as well as their Parents came publickly to enter into an oath and curse to walk in Gods Laws to observe and do all his Commandements and if Churches would call upon their Church Children who are of understanding personally to renew the Covenant of God made by their Parents on their behalf such a bond would the more engage and unite their hearts by the Lords blessing to the good wayes and things of God to his and their Parents Honour 3. Let such Children according as the Lord helpeth them eye and plead with God his own words undertaking this in effect that they shall walk after the blessed precepts and practices of their godly Parents and Ancestors and so be an honour to them this is held forth in that promise of God made with reference to his Kingdom and Church in all Nations amongst the Gentiles Psal 22. 27. with vers 30 31. their seed as the Geneva reads it shall serve him it shall be counted to the Lord for a generation they shall come and shall declare his righteousness unto a people that shall be born that he hath done this if God undertake that this seed of Gentile-believers shall hold up Religion after their Parents and convey it to their next generation what can godly Parents desire more for their Children or their children desire for themselves they shall hereby greatly honour God his truth wayes and government and greatly honour their godly Parents their instructions examples and prayers beside that good that will thereby come to themselves and their own souls and posterity also O let such children then intrench themselves within this and such like blessed strong holds and places of spirituall refuge And so at length we have dispatched our discourse about this so necessary a subject and the blessing of our gracious God be upon it FINIS Imprimatur Edm. Calamy 30. March 1655.
matter be good and right As if he were very sollicitous of Right twixt man and man but withall telleth them there is none deputed by the King to hear thee Now he beginneth closely to scatter seeds of prejudice and discontent in the subjects against the present government set over them then vers 4. wisheth in their hearing Oh that I were Judge in the Land that every man which hath any sute or cause might come to me and I would do him Justice now he speaketh a good word for himself to be thought of and put in some chief place in the state and vers 5. every subject that cometh near him must have his hand he must take him he must imbrace him and kiss him and no wonder that now he hath as v. 6. even stollen away the hearts of the men of Israel Oh thinketh every one what a worthy and hopefull Prince is this how sollicitous that every man do right and have right done him how marvellous kind and condescending to the meanest subject he would surely make us in time a very good King c. Now Absolom hath plaid his game well thus far it remaineth onely that Absolom in pretence at least give his Father the Honour of going by his leave to Hebron a place fittest to hatch the Treason against his Father which he hath been all that while brooding and where that fire may flame out best which he hath been kindling this leave is easily gained from his Father vers 7 8 9. he hath 200 men to attend him to Hebron and when thither come Achitophel is sent for the conspiracy is ripened and numbers of Associates daily increase and good David soon perceiveth his mistake in his Sons pretended submission and obeisance Yea but the fifth Commandment would cut off all such Attractives to selfish Honour of Parents and therefore saith Honour thy Father and thy Mother namely poor or rich high or low as well I that hath nothing to give and leave thee as that hath never so much hence when Christ would shew upon what as upon their bottome and basis all the commands of God either respecting God or men do hang and depend he saith Matth. 22. 37 38. Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all tby heart this is the first and great Commandement and vers 39. the second is like to this Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thy self and vers 40. On these two Commandements hang all the Law and the Prophets those are the two wel-springs of all obedience to the Law and word of God and therefore all the particulars are reducible to those two heads if the Honour of respect reverence or obedience which we give to God be not from love to our selves or to our own ends but to himself then it is honouring of God indeed so if our honour which we give to our Parents be not from love to our selves but it is from intire love to them that we shew forth such respect or reverence or obedience or thankfulness to them now it is Honour of Parents indeed Again as it must not be Honour of Parents from self-love as opposed to intire love of Parents so it must not be from self-love as opposed to love of God the love of whom especially should put Children upon Honouring the Image of his Father-hood in their Parents hence in that Levit. 19. 3. Ye shall fear every man his Mother and Father why so I am the Lord thy God and so thy Father in Covenant and Covenant-mercies and priviledges a Father of mercies promised and offered to them c. therefore out of love to me Honour every one of you his Parents And as Childrens honour of Parents must not be selfish in reference to love of self-profit and preferment or the like so neither in reference to love of self-ease or meer immunity from punishments or corrections in any contrary way of dishonour whether from Parents privately or the civil Magistrate publickly if Childrens Honour of reverence and obedience which they outwardly hold forth should be extracted chiefly from the force of Parents austere carriage or threats or blows or the dread of the correction from civill Authority or the like it is a slavish and not a filiall Honouring of them when Paul would express in a word that Timothy served with him in the Gospel neither formally nor feignedly nor selfishly nor slavishly nor forcedly but freely sincerely and regularly he expresseth it thus Phil. 2. 22. As the Son with the Father he hath served with me in the Gospel the Honour then of a Son to the Father is or should be neither feigned formall selfish nor slavish 2 In an affirmative way we say the Honour Honour of Parents must be 1. Cordiall of Parents 1. It must be cordiall not alone God as a Father must have each of his Childrens hearts in all the Honour they give him as his Sons and Daughters but Solomon as a Father may groundedly say as Prov. 23. 26. My Son give me thy heart namely as that which must crown all the Honour which thou my Son must give me as thy Father thus Timothy serveth with Paul in the Gospel as with his Father by grace as an ingenious Son with his Father at any other work namely with all his heart Phil. 2. 22. 2. It must be constant as long as the relation 2. Constant holdeth firm twixt Parent and Child which is as long as they Coexist in this world and till one of the Relates are taken away by death Parents from Children or Children from Parents they must obey this morall precept which bindeth semper ad semper alwaies and to all times Honour thy Father and Mother hath no prefixed time set to it It is not Honour thy Father and Mother whil'st a little one whil'st a youth whil'st so or so old whil'st in a single condition or with the like limitations no but it is without restraint and limitation to ages sexes conditions places relations callings imployments it is for term of life and that to which each one Male or Female younger or elder married or unmarried learned or unlearned godly or ungodly high or low Prince or Peasant rich or poor is bound unto hence also that Prov. 23. 22. despise not thy Mother when she is old when she was young yea when she was middle aged or the like thou prisedst and respectedst and didst reverence and obey her do it as well when she is old hold on doing of it to the last Age may wear and waste a Mothers beauty strength parts senses limbs estate c. but her relation of a Mother is as the Sun when he goeth forth in his might for the ever of this life that is alwayes in its meridian and knoweth no evening the person may be gray-headed but her Motherly relation is ever in its flourish It may be Autumn yea Winter with the woman but with the Mother as a Mother it is alwayes Spring Look as that
It is used in Jonah 1. 5. For the Mariners lightning their ship by casting out the good wares in it as forced by a storm to do that which had they done in another case it had been manifest wrong and injustice to the owners of all others Parents should not be scanted and pinched and that by you their own Children of their just weight and measure but rather have it upheaped or pressed down or running over if God in other cases would have no unrighteousness in meteyards in weight or in measure but have just ballances just weights a just Ephah and a just Hin Levit. 19. 35 36. Much more would he have no unrighteousness in weight or measure here And if in other matters the scant measure be so abominable to God and good men Mic. 6. 10. Much more is a scant measure of filiall Honour But that we may the better meet with this sin in all sorts Here is to be reproved 1. Childrens slighting their Parents instructions 1. By slighting Parents instructions or rebukes directions reproofs or corrections this is made a black brand of a person yet unregenerate Prov. 15. 5. The Fool or unregenerate person despiseth his Fathers instruction Know it therefore who ever you are be your pretences to Religion whatsever they may be yet you are graceless persons who Honour not your Parents Counsels or instructions but slight and undervalue them this is made also the very trick of a scorner and that is somewhat worse Prov. 13. 1. a scorner heareth not rebuke-namely not of his own Father for it is opposed to that A wise son heareth his fathers instructions Yea this is made a very brutish sin Prov. 12. 1. he that hateth reproof is brutish And if the rejecting others just reproof be so inhumane so unreasonable a sin verily the contempt of parentall reproofs is so much rather I had almust said it is worse then brutish For the brute creatures as say young birds or beasts they do not sleight the hints which the old ones give them of what they should shun or what they should desist from or what way they should take or the like as experience witnesseth in many particulars I need not instance yea it is a deadly token of a person either already given up to hardness of heart and so to be ruined or of one that is at the brink of such a pit 1 Sam. 2. 25. It is said of Elias Sons whom he had even too gently reproved for their gross sins notwithstanding they harkned not unto the voice of their Father because the Lord would destroy them such persons do but even despise their own souls and their peace and welfare here and hereafter Prov. 15. 32. he that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul which if true of refusing others much more of refusing Parents good instructions one may safely say to any such Son or Daughter surely thou carest not what becometh of thy soul but let all such despisers of Parents counsels instructions or reproofs especially in matters respecting their souls I say let all such know tremble to consider it that all those despised instructions and reproofs will one day be as so many stings of Adders in your hearts the venome wherof will even drink up your spirits they wil be as so many viols of oyl to the flame in your fired consciences here or in hell or both which will make your tormenting flames more raging lasting and tormenting See in Prov. 5. 11 12 13. in the deboist youngster that never cared a pin for any counsels or rebukes which Parents Friends Masters or Ministers gave to him when in his ruff of vanity but when under Gods dreadfull hand and his conscience withall awakened then this is that in speciall which galleth him that he hath not inclined his eares to them which instructed him and so not to his very Parents also And thou mourn at the last when thy flesh and thy body are consumed and say how have I hated instruction and my heart despised reproof and have not obeyed the voice of my teachers nor inclined mine ear to them which instructed me 2. By slighting their Commands 2. It reproveth Childrens slighting Parents injunctions or commands Prov. 30. 17. The eye that despiseth to obey his Mother the Ravens of the valley shall pick it out that is some suddain strange shamefull and remarkable Judgement of God in wayes and by means unlikely shall befall them and they that whil'st living would not honour Parents but despise them when they are dead they shall not be honoured as other men but like beasts rather then men they shall be cast out in contempt as not deserving the common Honour of rationall persons when dead to be buried As their sin is more unnatural and inhumane so shall their usage be when dead 3. It reproveth Childrens sleighting their Parents watch and government like the younger 3. By slighting their watch Son in the parable Luk. 15. 12 13. often made use of upon divers occasion in this discourse they must needs be for themselves and before they are fitted for it or called to it they will leave their Fathers but you may be reckoned with that prodigal to be persons that while besides your selves as the effect proved in him for he slighting his Fathers presence guidance and provision he was blasted in his way and soon took such loose courses as brought him low enough and the like will befall all such like youngsters in their way of flighting their Parents watch and government if Dinah paid so dearly for that little gadding fit of hers from her Fathers house as to fall under such sin and shame of being deflowred by a stranger Gen. 34. 1 2. What will be the sin and shame of such Sons or Daughters of whom we are now speaking It may be said of Children who out of some lust of pride or discontent will be leaving of Parents and forsaking their watch and tuition when they are not called to it 〈◊〉 in Prov. 27. 8. As a bird that wandreth from her neast so is a man that wandereth from his place the fittest best and safest place for the young bird is her neast where the old ones will be providing well for it and watching carefully of it that it come to no hurt but when the young bird before it be fitted to flie abroad with safety and strength to watch over it self or shift for it self yet will needs be hopping out of its neast and wandring thence it becommeth a prey to every bird of prey and commonly commeth by some means or other to ruine by it So if young persons will needs be leaving their Fathers house which is their neast and place before they are called to it or fitted for it mischief is commonly the issue of it As it is said of Cain in his case going out from his Fathers house that he went out from the presence of God so it may be said of Childrens leaving
Parents houses in such a way of dishonour of Parents they go from Gods presence and let not any such Children ever look for Gods gracious presence with you in any such way but the terrifying presence rather of his justice and displeasure pursuing you as it did wandring Cain who therefore could not long rest in any place wheresoever he came It may be also said of such like Children as of him in Luke 13. that in this way left his Fathers house that he was lost and dead and so are these among the number of persons spiritually dead and if ever by grace they come to themselves as it is said of him in the parable Luke 15. 17. Surely they will lay on hard upon this sin of dishonour of Parents above all other sins as he did whence that speech thereupon Father I have sinned against heaven and before thee and am no more worthy to be called thy Son 4. It reproveth Childrens less honouring or 4. By slighting Parents when aged or decayed slighting of Parents when they are old or decayed in strength estate or the like contrary to that express charge of God Prov. 23. 22. despise not thy Mother when she is old It was the sin of Samuels Sons that when he was old they cared not for his counsels or checks or imitation of his godly course witness that they walked not in the steps of their Father then 1 Sam. 8. 5. So Adonijah when his Father was old and decrepit he without regard to his Fathers mind counsell or leave is ready to leap into his throne 1 Kings 1. 5. but these had dishonour from others as their punishment for this dishonour of their Parents which was their sinne The people as little regard Judge Samuels Sons 1 Sam. 8. 5. as they did their Father And Adonijah whose sin it was not to Honour his Father when he was old in way of punishment hath not the Honour of a Brother much less of an Elder Brother to Solomon but is brought to an untimely and dishonourable end That Son or daughter who despiseth Father or Mother when old seldome liveth to be old 5 It reproveth the guile of Children in pretending 5. By bare semblances of Honour of them to Honour Father or Mother when in heart they slight them like Absolom formerly mentioned pretending to Honour his Father but intending by and base ends or like him in that parable forementioned Matth. 21. 30. When his Faither saith go and work in my vineyard to day he saith I go Sir but went not Who will such be true to if you be not true to your own Parents Hence when the sin of dishonour of Parents aboundeth here and there that is accounted a perfidious time and place And God in judgement will order it that none shall trust such as have been perfidious dishonourers of Parents albeit they may have never such promising qualifications or relations in other respects Mic. 7. 5. Trust yee not in a friend put not confidence in a guide keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lyeth in thy bosome why so for the Son Honoureth not the Father the Daughter riseth up against her Mother 6. It reproveth Childrens disgracing or any 6. By disgracing Parents way reproaching of their Parents You are ill birds which thus defile your own nests It was a vile sin in Absolom secretly to disgrace his Fathers government as if careless in it and neglective of what concerned him to look after 1 Sam. 15. 3. there is no man deputed of the King to hear thee saith that Sycophant this was Chams sin to discover his Fathers nakedness to his reproach Gen. 9. 22 25. C ham the Father of Canaan saw his Fathers nakedness and went and told his brethren without namely in a reproachfull way but Absolom and Chams stories shew that they had reproach for reproach in the issue and God will assuredly mete out to such like Children like reproach either from their Children in after times or from others as a just punishment of their reproaching their own Parents 7. It reproveth persons younger or elder having 7. By rayling against Parents Parents living that you now at any time or formerly use railing reviling girding taunting or upbraiding speeches to them or of them Prov. 30. 11. There is a generation that curseth their Father and doth not bless their Motber but such are so odious and inhumane that God singleth out Children of that sort to be cut off by the hand of civill Authority Exod. 21. 17. Levit. 20. 9. He that curseth Father or Mother let him die the death which command of God Christ himself vindicateth from the Pharisees undermining traditions Mark 7. 9 10. Or if such a sin pass the cognizance or vengeance of earthly Judges yet the Lord himself will not suffer such to escape his hand Prov. 20. 20. who so curseth Father or Mother his Lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness He shall come to a loathsome noisome dishonourable and untimely end as a Lamp or Candle that might have burned and shined much Mischiefs attending dishonour of Parents longer but is suddainly put or blown out and that with a stinking Savour left And that Children of all sorts sexes and Ages may more deeply consider and lay to heart this sin of dishonour of Parents let them look wistly and advisedly upon the mischiefs also which attend this sin 1. It maketh way in you for all other sins In 1. It maketh way for other sins Cain this let in fratricide in Absolom who also regarded not Parents or their guidance or Counsels it let in parricide intentionally 2 Sam. 17. 3 4. He never cordially honoured his Father and when he thought he had an opportunity he as little regarded his Fathers life Adrammeleck and Sharezer were no doubt such as had been traded in a way of dishonour of their Father Senacherib that they durst lay their bloody hands upon him to take away his life who had instrumentally given them theirs 2 Kings 19. 37. No doubt but from this root of dishonourable thoughts of Jacob sprung Rubens incest Gen. 49. 5. else the very reverence of a Father had deterred him from it As the Prodigall in the Parable he first breaketh this bond of Honour of Parents and so sinneth against his Father then he is at liberty to commit the vilest acts of riot excess filthinest c. that youngster in Prov. 5. 11 12 13 14 Who confesseth that it was his sin to disregard any thing that Parents of others said to him he also confesseth that even in the midst of the Congregation openly and where the best means were to the contrary he was almost in all evill 2. It bringeth Parents just curses and Gods 2. It brings a curse curse also upon you and upon your posterity As Gen. 9. 22. 25. It brought upon Cham and his posterity by Canaan C ham himself being no more exempted from that curse albeit his
Fathers curse light especially upon his posterity by Canaan than Sem himself is exempted from his Father Noahs blessing though he were also blessed in his posterity especially by his Son Eber and so Terah Abraham Isaac and Jacob. Yea this sin putteth you under the dint of the imprecation of the Church and Saints of God Deut. 17. 16. Cursed be he that setteth light by his Father or his Mother and all the people shall say Amen Ah miserable case of such as you are who are by Gods command to be cursed by all the people of God! 3. It brings the exclusion of you and of your 3. It brings exclusion from Gods Church posterity from the Church of God and the priviledges thereof Cham a dishonour of his Father is in that respect as an outlary and God will not have his Church to have any near civill much less Sacred and Church-Communion with his posterity by Canaan Deut. 7. Cain who flung off his Fathers Counsels commands rebukes and watch and went from his Fathers house like a very vagrand Gen. 4. 16. His posterity are in opposition to those of the Church stiled the sons and daughters of men not of God Ishmael who regarded not his Father Abrahams displeasure witness his mocking at his dearly beloved Son Isaac he and his are cast out and aftewards left out as outlaries from the Church of Abraham Esau likewise who honoured not his Parents witness his cross matching against their minds he and the Edomites which came from him are excluded Church priviledges The Moabites and Ammonites of Lots daughters who so vilely dishonoured their Father Lot were also by Gods command excluded Gods congregation for many generations 4. It bringeth commonly with it the vilest 4. It brings vilest outward conditions outward conditions either for reproach under which such Children by Gods just hand do lie Shame is the portion of such who resuse instruction especially of Parents Prov. 13. 18. Or for poverty poverty and shame shall be to him that refuseth instruction ibid. Like as to him in the Parable Luke 15. Who was brought to less than a morsell of bread to husks and draff Or for extreamest and basest servitude like that prodigall scornfull Son that would have been glad of the meanest hired servants place with that Citizen Luke 15. 15. And is set about as mean imployment to feed his swine and as for his food he must either eat with the swine or fast and sterve vers 16 17. Thus Cham in his posterity by Canaan the beginner in that vile act of dishonour to Noah he is destinated to become the vilest of servants or a servant of servants Gen. 9. 2â— Prov. 17. 2. a wise servant shall have rule over a Son that causeth shame A Son that any way dishonoureth or reproacheth his Parents shall be put under the rule of a servant made a servant of a servant Or finally this bringeth vilest conditions in respect of hasty and vilest deaths and ends following the same as was hinted before from Prov. 30. 17. and as is manifest in Absoloms end 2 Sam. 18. 2. This use serveth for reproof of Parents who 2. Reproof of Parents undermining this Honour of theirs 1. By bad examples of theirs any way undermine this Honour in generall which is due to them from their Children And that 1. By giving them bad examples of dishonour to their own Parents So did Cain to his posterity and thence also was it that they were so bad every way both to God-ward and likewise to man-ward their measure of sin was full Gen. 6. 5. And so the flood swept that whole generation away yea the posterity of Seth did the like at that time witness their taking wives of all that they themselves liked not Honouring their Parents with their proper right namely to choose wives for their Sons when fit to be disposed in marriage Gen. 6. 1 2. And no wonder that their Children begotten in that 120. years space of Gods patience vers 3. they prove no better than those their Parents for a little before the very entrance of Noah into the Ark Noah onely is seen righteous of all that generation Gen. 7. 1. and all the rest of the generation Fathers and Children perished Cham the Grand-father and Canaan the Father of the cursed race of the Canaanites were both derisive spectators and informers of old Noahs nakedness and thence also the Canaanites their cursed posterity they became in after times so notorious and shameless in that very way and sin of dishonour of Parents for hence is it that Levit. 20. 9. When God had forbidden Cursing of Father and Mother and vers 11. The uncovering of a mans own Fathers wifes nakedness or that of a mans own Mothers Sisters nakedness vers 9. vers 23. He chargeth the Jewes not to walk in the manners of the Nations which he casteth out before them namely the Canaanites for they committed all these things namely which were mentioned from vers 9. to 22. Amongst which were those Acts of highest dishonour to Parents ' even now instanced in for which the Lord abhorred and rejected the Canaanites The like might be said of the posterity of Ishmael Esau like Parents for exemplary dishonour to Parents like Children and posterity or rather each posterity successively worse that way than their Fathers As it was in Jobs case that Father or chief ruler sometimes of the people he was had in derision of some younger men Job 30. 1. And no wonder for vers 8. he saith they were Children of fooles and of base men who were more vile than the earth their Parents therefore being as vile in their manners as in their outward estates no wonder that their Children had their civill Father in derision So if Parents are vile towards their own naturall Fathers and Mothers their Children commonly prove as bad that way also as themselves And it were good for Parents when to their grief they see their Children are ready to curse or slight or any way dishonour them to consider whether they themselves have done as much to their Parents and so beside the evill example which they possibly set before their very children that way they have thereby provoked God to mete out to them by their children according to that measure of dishonour that their Parents had from them According to that word of Christ Luke 6. 37 38. With the same measure that yee mete withall it shall be measured to you again And like as Solomon telleth Masters when they hear that their servants dishonour or curse them that oftentimes their own hearts know that themselves likewise have cursed others even that were their Masters also Eccles 7. 21. And so they might the less wonder at such hard measures from their servants the like might be said to Parents in cases of their dishonour from their Children that if your hearts know that you have been faulty that way towards your Parents it is no wonder
the Jewes who taught the Sons who had Fathers and Mothers living and needing their help that yet they needed not to relieve them or to give ought to them but instead thereof either to give somthing to the Corban or treasury for temple-uses and that would exempt them and excuse them from the other work of relieving their Parents and so teaching them to deny to their Parents the Honour of recompence due to them they made the 5 th Commandement Honour thy Father and Mother void and of no force and Authority or place as Christ reasoneth Mark 7. 9. to 14. There are too many such like corrupters of Children not aloue amongst Papists who hold forth the same in substance which is there instanced in as might be shewed in their Principles who would have men give away their whole estates to Religious uses as they call them and so dis-enable themselves to relieve their Parents in what need soever they may stand thereof they would also have young Men and Women without Parents Consent to become their Votaries and when once such no way to Minister to their Parents any more though sick or otherwise needing their Childrens help but I fear there are too many other petty Antichristian Spirits in these daies who by other erronious tenents wherein they pretend to be for Christ but are indeed against Christ they leaven their Disciples and such as they can subtilly draw after them with a Spirit of Alienation even from their own good Parents if they will not be of their corrupt Judgments and opinions but as those seducers among the Jewes notwithstanding their goodly pretences to Religion are branded by Christ to be Hypocrites according to that of Solomon Prov. 11. 9. The Hypocrite with his mouth or the corrupt principles and perswasions uttered by his mouth destroyeth his Neighbour And as Christ charged them to be such bold and high-minded sinners as by those corrupt speeches of theirs did what in them lay make void the Commands of God so doubtless are such like seducers to be justly charged with the like guilt of prevailing and ruling Hypocrisie and rebellion against the Lord. And Jesus Christ who when on earth did doctrinally charge and impeach them in such sort will assuredly at the last day Judicially sentence men and Angels for the same wickednesse if they seasonably seriously and sincerely repent not of the same As for others who by their Counsels as well as scandalous examples are Corrupters as of others so of youth also and as in other matters so in this which respecteth the honour which they ow to their Parents these shew themselves to be the Children of Belial or of the very Devill as of one who is amongst all yoaks in Church or State or Familie they were Children of Belial in 1 Sam. 10. 26 27. who despised Saul that Father of the Common-wealth of Israel and they are no better who act or teach contempt of Fathers of Families As Elies Sons those ring-leaders in such wayes of dishonour of Fathers of Families 1 Sam. 2. 25. they are called men of Belial vers 12. Such Corruptors of youth in the matter of Honour due to Parents be their profession of Religion what it may be or give they never such good hopes of the truth thereof as one while Achitophel did who was Davids equall all one heart with him as he thought his guide his most intimate acquaintance one with whome he took sweet Counsell in sacred as well as Civill things and walked to the house of God in Company with him Psal 55. 13 14 Yet if a Counsellour to Absolom a Son in way of high dishonour to David his own Father as he was in that Counsel he gave Absolom to defile his Fathers bed 2 Sam. 17. 20 21 22 23. and to seek his Fathers very life as well as throne 2 Sam. 17. 1 2 3 4 21. I say such a vile Counsellour of Children any way to dishonour their Parents he is no doubt a desperate Apostate ripe for the very Imprecation of a godly Parents as in Davids case 2 Sam. 15. 31. Lord turn the Counsel of Achitophel into foolishnesse Such Corrupters of youth also as well of others you are surely impenitent obdurate persons persons of a seared Conscience past hope of good and refuse persons in Gods sight Jer. 6. 28 29 30. They are Brass and Iron they are all corrupters the bellowes are burnt the Led is consumed of the fire the Founder melteth in vaine for the wicked are not plucked away reprobate silver shall men call them because the Lord hath rejected them You are soul-murtherers Prov. 12. 5 6. The Counsels of the wicked are deceit The words of the wicked are to lie in wait for blood even the very souls of men Prov. 11. 9. An Hypocrite with his mouth or with the words Counsels and principles uttered by his mouth destroyeth his Neighbour even his Neighbours soul also and shall such bloody and deceitfull men such crafty soul-murtherers escape no Assuredly If sowing discord amongst brethren be singled out from the rest as one speciall thing which is an abomination to the Lord Prov. 6. 16 19. compared O how abominable is this unto the Lord for you by your vile corrupting speeches tenents or Counsels to lay the seeds of Alienation of Childrens hearts from their own dear Parents As the City or civill polity and society is too oft overthrown by the mouth or corrupt speeches principles and Counsels uttered by the mouth of the wicked Prov. 11. 11. So is the Family also And shall such enemies to mankind escape unpunished no assuredly Prov. 17. 20. He that hath a perverse tongue to give such like or any other perverse Counsel falleth into mischief Prov. 13. 2. As a man a good man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth or by the good words principles or Counsels proceeding from his mouth so by way of opposition the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence they shall be paid in their own coin and reap the fruit of all the cursed speeches or Counsels which proceeded from their mouths Prov. 10. 31. The mouth of the just bringeth forth wisdome namely in those whom they instruct rebuke perswade or Counsel but the froward tongue which uttereth naughty counsels and tenents c. shall be cut out And commonly such bad Counsellours of Sons or Daughters unto any waies of dishonour to their Parents they come to dishonourable and vile if not desperate ends as did that bad Counsellour Achitophel who dyed by a halter but which was worst of all he was his own hangman 2 Sam. 17. 23. And O! that all bad Counsellours of Children against their Parents might in time take warning by that and many other dreadfull examples mentioned in Histories of the sad ends of such like Counsellours A second use of the point may serve for examinaon whether any have or do rightly Honour their Parents This is the rather to be considered in that there is a
others as the Vine-branches do yeeld the grapes which yeeld the chearing wine to mans heart and that they shall be such as shall be an honour to their Parents by their manner of walking towards God Parents and others as Olive-plants yeeld that oyle of Olive which maketh mans face to shine I forbear to instance in other promises 4. Pray much and plead earnestly with God 4. By praying and pleading with God much for Children for your Children that God would write his Law and so the Law of the fifth Commandement also in their hearts ingrave the Law of grace in them to dispose and inable them to obedience to all his Commandements 5. Act your faith upon the promises of God 5. By acting faith in Gods promises for Children undertaking for your Childrens best welfare as Esay 61. 9 and 65. 23. Gen. 17. 7. Acts 2. 38 39. Esay 59. ult cap. 44. 3 4. Which as they are made to the whole Church as an homogeneall whole so to each part of which that whole consisteth If the woman of Canaan can believe And for her daughter she may have not only that mercy of disposessing the devill but what she will for her Matth. 15. 28. Oh woman great is thy faith be it to thee as thou wilt If that man in Mark 9. 21 22 23 24. Can believe that Christ can help his Son at that or any other dead lift all things are possible to him that believeth even to a Parent believing for his Child Eveu that could believe for her very babe whom out of faith she called Seth for God said she hath appointed me another seed or good and godly Child instead of Abel whom Cain slew she faled not of what she believed for him for he proved a most worthy man to God and man-ward So did Noah prove of whom his father when born could believe therfore in faith called him Noah saying this Son shall comfort us concerning our work and toyl of our hands c. Gen. 5. 29. So did Moses prove a man eminent not alone for honour of God but for honour of Parents witness those Acts of Honour to his very Father in Law Jethro mentioned Exod. 4. 8. and cap. 18. 7. and Numb 10. 31 32 33. Concerning which Moses when he was a very babe his own Parents acted their faith and from that faith used that means to become an instrument of speciall honour Heb. 11. 23. They in Psal 102. That believed for their Children that their Children should continue vers 28. The Children of thy servants shall continue must needs believe for their help and grace to obey the fifth Commandement which is made by God himself a very speciall means of continuing and living long in the Land which the Lord thy God shall give them 6. By good education of Children 6. Bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord hence those two joyned Eph. 6. 1 2 3. Children are charged with this Honour thy Father and thy Mother Parents with their duty in lieu thereof and as a means to further it vers 4. Likewise ye Parents provoke not your Children to wrath and that way hinder your children in it but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord and that way further your Children in it Isaac that was so well educated by his Father in what a high degree doth he honour his Father with this Honour of obedience when at his Command though being in the flowre of his youth about 30. years old he could easily have escaped his old Fathers hand yet is content to let him bind him to be offered up as a sacrifice unto God Gen. 22. 9. So Noah's Shem and Japhet whom he had educated well though Cham proved a wretch yet they proved eminent examples of Honour of Parents witness their act formerly mentioned Gen. 9. 23 24. So Solomon who was so well educated and instructed both by his Father David witness the Records which he kept of the principle things his Father instructed him in mentioned Prov. 4. 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13. and of his Mother Bathsheba witness his Records of some speciall Patheticall Counsels of her to him mentioned Prov. 31. 1. to 10. How eminent he proved in this way of Honour of Parents let that act of his towards his Mother mentioned 1 Kings 2. 19. declare though a King upon his throne yet the King rose up to meet her and bowed himself to her c. the like might be said of Jacob's Joseph so well educated by his Father witness the earliness of grace in him Gen. 37. 1 2 3 4 c. How eminent he was in this way of Honour of Parents his story shewes Gen. 47. 12. be nourished his father c. And cap. 48. 12. and Joseph bowed himself viz. to his Father with his face toward the earth But concerning Parents education of Children we shall speak largely to it God willing afterward 7. It is good also that as Manoah in that case 7. By advising with best Ministers what is best for that end inquired of the Angel concerning their Son Sampson Judg. 13. 8 12. How they should order the Child and how they should do to live so let Christian Parents be taking the best advise and help they can of their able and faithfull Ministers how they should order their Children as may be for the best every way for Gods glory and their Honour 2. Use Exhortation To Children 2. To Children to give Parents such due Honour Motives to it to endeavour to give this Honour in general due by the Command of God from you to your Parents for which consider 1. Of some Motives to it And 2. Of some helps and means to this duty only remember I speak to the Children of the Godly to the Children of the Church though not altogether excluding others Motives to this duty are such as these 1. In that God hath placed the image of his father 1. Gods image in Parents hood upon parents therfore honour them he that honoreth God wil honor an especial Image of any divine excellency of his the father-hood of God is a choice relative divine excellency of his witness that name of honor not alone respecting us his adopted Children yea his begotten ones by grace but respecting his only beloved Son only begotten by nature let this Image hereof in the parents of our Persons be the rather venerable and honourable in our eyes Hence that Argument of God Mal. 1. 6. A Son Honoureth his Father If I be a Father where is my Honour my Fatherly Image is Honoured by a Son in his Father and will not you who are in a sense my Sons Honour my own father-hood whereof that in others is but 2. Childrens Covenant-interest by their good Parents an Image 2. In that God taketh Children into his Covenant even from the respect he hath to their Godly Parents if God honor parentall
recording their most usefull sayings Thus Solomon taketh this as Davids charge to him Prov. 4. 4. Let thine heart retain my words and the choicer passages thereof he records vers 5. such as those get Wisdome get Vnderstanding and other like golden Counsels vers 6 7 8 c. He giveth the like in charge to his Son vers 21. My Son attend unto my words keep them in the midst of thine heart See the like Prov. 3. 1. and 2. 1. and 6. 21. Cap. 7. 1 2 3. Herein Gods Childrens honour of respect and love to their heavenly Father is expressed that they make so much of his words and keep them as their treasure It is the like in the case of the Children of men towards their Parents 6. They are to prize and cleave to their good 6. In prizing Parents friends and Children Parents speciall friends Prov. 27. 10. Thy Fathers friend forsake not but especially they are to cleave to Brethren and Sisters of the same Parents 1 Pet. 3 8. Love as Brethren saith he in Saints cases but it is borrowed from that which is naturall to Brethren of the same Parents which is to love each other dearly it s else a dishonour to the Image of their Parents which is as one Common stamp upon them all so that if they love the one they must love the other whence also that by the same allusion when speaking of love to Gods Children 1 Joh. 5. 1. And every one that loveth him that begat loveth him also that is begotten he that loveth the Father begetting will love his Image in his begotten Moses thought it was a sufficient antidote against any thing contrary to love to those two Israelites that they were Brethren of one house yea of one Father even God why should they strive or wrong each other Acts 7. 26. 7. They are meekly and wisely to use all faithfull 7. In diswading Parents from soulevills and dangers endeavours to disswade Parents and to take them off from whatsoever might in danger their very souls welfare for that is love indeed Hence by allusion of such Children Hos 2. 2. Plead with your Mother plead saith God to the good Children of the Church Children may in such a way and must plead with their very Mothers Good Jonathan did wisely deal with his Father and said to him 1 Sam. 19. 4. Let not the King sin against his servant against David because he hath not sinned against thee and because his works have been to thee-ward very good c. 8 They are cordially to symphathize with 8. In sympathising with Parents their Parents in their joyes or sorrows Ge. 44. 34. How shall I go up to my Father and the Lad not with me lest peradventure I see the evill that shall come on my Father Gen. 37. 35. All Jacobs Sons and Daughters rose up to comfort him Use 1. Of Reproof of Childrens unnaturallness to Parents 1. Use of reproof 1. It serves to reprove such wretched Children who even in these very dayes of Gospel-light are without naturall affection to their Parents You have this charged upon the Heathen Rom. 1. 31. That they were 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 but the Apostle 2 Tim. 3. 3 5. Chargeth it upon Christians also who had a form of godliness and I wish too many such were not to be found amongst Christians and such as would be thought some body for Religion Some indeed restrain this in 2 Tim. 3. 3. To Parents unnaturallness to Children which yet upon Rom. 1. 31. expound it of Childrens unnaturallnesse to Parents but there is no need to restrain it to either onely Parents or onely Children the word is the same in the Greek in both places and it s well known that the word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 signifies most properly that affection of love whereby either Parents respect their Children or Children againe respect their Parents And 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 are persons without that affection whether they be Parents or Children and so in the Bible put out by the late synod they well note upon that Rom. 1. 31. That the sin there taxed by the Apostle did reign among the Gentiles who sacrificed in some places their aged Parents and sometimes their Children unto their Idols exposed them to ruine and destroyed them though not guilty of any capitall crimes and they refer to 2 Tim. 3. 3. as the same in sense but that part of unnaturalnesse which we here deal withall is that of the Children to the Parents though we acknowledge that all the aggravations of this sin deduceable from those two Scriptures are appliable as well to unnaturalness in Parents with which I deale not at present as to unnaturalnesse in Children of which I am now speakiag But that we lose not our bottome for the reproof are there not too many Children of Christians who are as those spoken of 2 Tim. 3. 3 4. Heady and unruly Children to their Parents Fathers and Mothers cannot shall not now rule Signes of it them their words they care not for and their blowes they as little regard are not these void of naturall affection to their Parents Some there are who are treacherous to their very Parents also Traytors they are called as 2 Tim. 3. 3 4. Such as Parents know not how to trust with their Counsels Secrets Estates or occasions they are so false to them as Micah complained in his time Micah 7. 5 6. and have these genuine affection to their Parents Some will cunningly draw their very Parents into some sinfull snares as some Sons and Daughters do Parents into errours Deut. 13. 6. or as Lots Daughters who drew him first to drink too much of their wine and then drew him into incest Gen. 19. 33 35. but do such love or are not they rather baters grand-enemies to their Parents Some there are who rise up against their good Parents and even for their goodness Some neglect to do for them in their needs Some there are who are ready to give reviling speeches to their Parents Exod. 21. to strike at them ibid. or to scoffe at them Prov. 30 17. or to imbesil or wast their estates Pro. 19. 26. or at least to wast their farthers viz. their Spirits hasten their end by their lewd courses and care not though they know what crosse courses they take do even break their Parents hearts yet will on But do any such as you are honour Parents with the Honour of respect and love Surely no you are 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 without filiall affection what ever your form of godliness may be to be sure it is without power 2 Tim. 3. 3 5. Such as you are make the times perilous vers 1. and you carry a very black Evills of it brand of persons given up to a reprobate mind for persons given up to a reprobate mind Rom. 1. 28. they are noted out to be without naturall affection vers 31. But wo be to all such
to others To them thence those titles of Honour expressed in childrens speeches to Parents as in Rachels to Laban Gen. 31. 35. let not my Lord be displeased So in Isaac's to Abraham Gen. 22. 7. my Father c. So in Davids to Saul 1 Sam. 24. 11. moreover see my Father c. And cap. 26. 28. wherefore doth my Lord thus pursue after his Servant c. So in speaking of them Prov. 31. 28. her children rise up aad call her blessed 5. To attend duly to their counsells 5. They are to attend reverently to their counsels or instructions Prov. 4. 1. hear ye children he instruction of a Father and attend to know understanding and vers 20. My Son attend to my words 6. They must meekly and humbly subject 6. To subject to their Corrections themselves to their seasonable corrections Heb. â—2 9. if Fathers of our flesh correcting us we gave them reverence shall we not much rather be in subjection to the Father of Spirits correcting of us and live 7. To express filial shame and blushing to Parents 7. To blush and be ashamed of faults upon occasion of faults and sins against them especially when Parents deal with children for the same the Greek word in Heb. 12. 9. we gave them reverence it is 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 which properly signifies we turned away our face by reason of shame Numb 22. 14. if her Father had spit in her face should she not be ashamed Hitherto belong humble confessions to Parents with shame and blushing of unworthy acts of children against them especially Like the Prodigall in the parable who Luke 15. 21. saith to his Father Father I have sinned against heaven and in thy sight and am no more worthy to be call'd thy Son in this sense is the Greek word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 used Company not with them that they may be ashamed even outwardly also confess and take holy shame for their scandals So Tit. 2. 8. that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed having no evill thing to say of you 2. Inward Reverence is due from Children to Or inward as inwardly to fear Parents Levit. 19. 3. ye shall fear every one his Mother and his Father and so Children 1. They are inwardly to own the very persons 1. Their persons and parentall relations and Authority of their Parents ye shall fear every man his Mother and Father that is their very persons relations and Authority 2. They are inwardly to awe the commandâ— 2. Their words reproofs threats and corrections of Parents thiâ— is filial and not slavish fear Jer. 35. 6. Jonadab's posterity even when tempted to do otherwise yet the awe of his commands made them not to dare to transgress them 3. They are inwardly to fear to lose parents favour 3. To lose their favour or to incur their just displeasure by giving them any just offence as Jacob Gen. â—7 12. My Father peradventure will feel me and I shall seem to him as a deceiver and I shall bring a curse upon me and not a blessing 4. They are to fear to cross any weighty intents 4. To cross their just intents purposes or desires of parents especially when in sacred matters so Jephtah his daughter Judg. 11. 36. and she said My Father if thou hast opened thy mouth unto the Lord do to me according to that which hath proceeded out of thy mouth 5. They are to fear that trouble or heart-grief 5. To grieve them should be occasioned to parents if they can prevent it So Saul 1 Sam. 9. 5. Come let us return lest my Father leave caring for the Asses and take thought for us So Judah Gen. 44. 34. how shall I go to my Father and the Lad be not with me lest peradventure I see the evill that shall come upon my Father 6. They are to fear to fall short of their blessing 6. To fall short of their blessing and benefit of parents prayers and of their godly parentall wishes and Counsels hence when Joseph heard that his Father Jacob was so sick he made such haste to him carrying his sons with him that he and they might not miss of Jacobs blessing even rude Esau was amazed when he heard that his Father had blessed his brother instead of him Gen. 27. 34. hence that bitter cry Bless me even me also O my Father 7. They are also to be inwardly as well as outwardly 7. To be inwardly also ashamed of faults before them ashamed that parents have just cause of distaste against them at any time so giving reverence to parents Heb. 12. 9. may according to the Greek word used there be rendered being ashamed before them hence the derivative from that verb is used 1 Cor. 6. 5. and 15. 34. to signifie shame inward and outward as there I speak this to your shame even of heart also So here the Awfull childe like that prodigall occasioning just distaste in his Father against him he is inwardly ashamed of it and therefore confesseth his sin against his Father and unworthiness to be called his Son All which is clearly seen in the presidentiall filial fear of Gods children to their heavenly Father they inwardly fear his Fatherhood and Fatherly Authority his commands reproofs threats and corrections the loss of his favour and incurring of his displeasure by their offending of him at any time they are affraid to cross his mind in any thing or to grieve his Spirit themselves or that it should be grieved by others they are affraid to fall short of his Fatherly blessing and are inwardly ashamed and even confounded that at any time they offend displease grieve or provoke him The use of this branch of the point serveth Use 1. For reproof 1. Of childrens irreverence 1. For Reproof 1. Of Children for all that rudeness and irreverence of yours towards your parents as if you had forgotten that you were children or as if principles of piety yea of morality were extinct in you And this alas how common an evill is it in children even of professours how rudely do they sit before their parents and how irreverently do they carry it in their gestures before them how loud will too many be gabling laughing and flouting even in their parents presence how forward are they to prevent or interrupt their parents in speaking or to answer them again if rebuked by them whereas those in Job time even Princes and Nobles refrained talking in his presence or whil'st he as a civill Father of the state was speaking Job 29. 9 10. and vers 22. after his words they spake not again Elihu when in the presence of Fathers to him in Age is affraid to speak much more to interrupt them whil'st speaking Job 32. 4 6 7. And dare children word it so before their parents Again how over-familiar do too many children make themselves with their parents as if hail-fellow well met as they say
and no difference twixt parent and child yea too many there are who carry it proudly disdainfully and scornfully towards parents and it s well if their very parents escape their flouts but what the end of such graceless children will be we have shewed from Prov. 30. 17. Again how are many children ready to chop it with their parents and as we say to chop logick with them it may be so daring are they as to bid their very parents hold their tongue as some profaner ones have done or how ever if not going so high yet giving to parents very cross curt and curst answers As Jacobs sons did sometimes to him Gen. 34. 31. should he deal with our sister as with an Harlot like the elder son in the Parable who even chideth and checketh his Father for entertaining his younger brother better then him Luke 15. 29. Again how frowardly and discontentedly do many children carry it to their Parents no diet no clothing no lodging and the like which parents can provide for them will content them but as if parents were beholding to them or that they had wronged their children and must seek to please them if they knew how Like the Elder son in the Parable which findeth fault with his usage by his Father as so much below his serviceableness to him And are there not too many children who are ready to mutter and grumble at their parents counsels commands just threats rebukes or corrections yea will not some plainly contest and contend with their parents as Rebecka's daughters-in-Law who by such like unreverent carriages made her even weary of her life Gen. 26. 35. with 27. 46. they were a grief of mind 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 the septnagint renders it 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 such as did contend or were contentious or rebellious how little also do too many children dread their parents commands counsels prohibitions reproofs or corrections how little do they fear the loss of their favour or blessing or the incurring of their just displeasure or curse how little care they whether they be contented and comforted in them and in what they say or do or otherwise be troubled and discouraged and in all how shameless are they but all such as you are do proclame to all the world that there is no fear of God before your eyes as it is evident in Cain Hophni and Phinebas and other such graceless children whose just doome will be to be as Cain and as is threatned to graceless persons that they shall be in fear where no fear or cause of fear is Psal 53. 5. shall flee when none pursueth them Prov. 28. 1. and for the want of this due fear of parents if you repent not eternall dread and horrour will be your portion in another world 2. It serveth to reprove parents who any way 2. Of Parents undermining this their Honour 1. By contemptible carriages undermine this filial awe and Reverence which your children owe unto you and that 1. By carrying it any way contemptibly and unbeseeming your selves in your childrens sight as did Noah first by being drunk and then by uncovering his nakedness within view of others this gave occasion to Chams unreverent speeches of him unto his brethren Gen. 9. 21 22 23. C ham saw the nakedness of his Father in his tent and went and told his brethren without when parents are frothy slighty foolish or any way ridiculous in their gestures speeches or actions before their children this breedeth or feedeth contempt and irreverence in their children Look as the very conceit of unseemly behaviour in David that Father of the state made Michol despise him her heart and speak unreverently of him with her lips 2 Sam. 6. 16 20 21. How glorious saith she scoffingly was the King of Israel to day who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the hand-maids of his servants as one of the vain fellows shamelessely uncovereth himself the like will any reall discovery of morall or spirituall nakedness before the Family become an occasion to children and servants to despise the Father of the Family 2. By being too fond of your children or too familiar 2. By overmuch fondness and familiarity with them at sometimes at least not keeping constantly your due distance such fondness and familiarity breeds and causeth contempt irreverence in children Good Abraham was somewhat too fond of Ishmael as appeareth by his overlooking the promise of Isaac and going on to urge God that Ishmael might live in his sight Isaac was too fond of Esau when he loved him so for his venison Gen. 25. 28. David was too fond of his Absolom that when he was justly banished for his wilfull fratricide and deserved death rather for it yet Davids soul longed or was in a wasting plight as it is in the Hebrew to go forth unto Absolom 2 Sam. 13. 39. but what unreverent children all these proved to their Parents their stories shew 3. By complying too much with any vain motions 3. By sinfull compliance with children of your children this was a sin in the Mother of James and John who had so ambitious a motion to make to Christ Mark 10. 35. that she would move it for them Matth. 20. 20 21. she commeth desiring that her two Sons may sit one at his right hand the other at his left hand in his kingdome David would never cross Adonijah in his desires or doings he never displeased him at any time in saying why hast thou done so 1 Kings 1. 6 but Adonijah careth not to cross his Father in his mind of one to succeed him in his throne even Solomon and yet Adonijah knew well enough it had been publickly and sufficiently declared formerly as in 1 Chron. 23. 1. and 28. 5. yet 1 Kings 1. 5. he exalteth himself and saith I will be King and vers 7. he conferreth with Joab and Abiathar about it for their help therein 4. By reproachfull and reviling speeches to 4. By rayling upon children your children in rashness of anger and fury or by any other uncivill or unseemly expressions of rage against them as flinging things at them which might indanger life or limb or the like this provoked Jonathan to say and do somewhat savouring of unreverence to a Parent 1 Sam. 20. 30. thou son of the perverse and rebellious woman saith Saul his Father to him and v. 33. he cast a Javeling at him and v. 34. Jonathan arose from the Table in fierce anger some unwise Parents at some times will be over-familiar with their children and at other times as much too harsh and fiery against them and by such an unequall carriage come to be slighted by them The second use serveth for exhortation and 2. Use for exhortation 1. To children to Reverence Parents that 1. To children Do you then strive what in you lyeth to give this Honour of Reverence both outward and inward which is due to your Parents And for this end
consider 1. Of some Motives 2. Two or three helps Motives 1. It will breed and feed in you due Motives to it 1. It furthereth reverence to other superiours Reverence to all other superiours hence in the fifth Commandement Honour of Parents and therein Honour of Reverence of them is put for the like Honour of Magistrates Ministers and Masters from their subjects people and servants if the one be in persons in truth in the former relation it will be in them in the latter 2. It wil be a notable means to prevent many other 2. It preventeth other sins sins of yours which would be dishonourable to parents Moses having rehearsed many abominable practices of the Canaanites in Levit. 18. and in the last verse said ye shall not commit any of those abominable customes Chap. 19. 3. he chargeth them to fear every man his Mother and his Father and vers 4. also adjoyneth that they should not turn to Idols c. or apostatise from God and his worship Surely then that Reverence unto Parents is inserted as a help both against the former and against the later evils and scandals and wofull experience evinceth this that where this hedge of childrens Reverence and awe to Parents is broken down there is a free inlet of vilest and most scandalous 3. The power of Parents to bless or curse children courses 3. There is in your Parents some paternall power if justly used to bless and to curse you Gen. 49. is a record of Jacobs blessing of his Sons and in an ordinary way there is a proportion thereof in other Parents and therefore the rather Awe your Parents Helps this way may be such as these Helps to it 1. Awe of God 1. Labour for a filial awe of God as your Father and so of his Fatherly commands and consequently of this his command as his command and of his displeasure against you if it be not attended and observed 2. Labour you for more holiness of heart It 2. Holiness is profaness of heart God-ward which breedeth and feedeth irreverence to Parents and so contrariwise the more holy God-ward the more awfull of Parents Levit. 19. 2. be ye holy for I am holy and vers 3. yea shall fear every one his Mother c. 3. Present your Parents so to your minds as 3. Eye the Image of God in Parents bearing the Image of Gods Father-hood and that also will help on your filiall awe and Reverence to them 2. It serveth for exhortation to Parents to carry 2. Exhortation to Parents to further filial Reverence in their children 1. By your piety it so as may gain Reverence and awe from your children for which end 1. Carry it very piously in your places for that will gain awe in your inferiours children or others Job 29. 7. when I prepared my seat in the street saith holy Job the young men saw me and hid themselves vers 8. let but any other Godly man come suddainly where rude persons are met how doth the very sight of him oftentimes appale them as experience witnesseth the Image of Gods holiness in any is venerable 2. Season your children betime with principles 2. By right principling of them of religion of their duty to God to Parents to others so did Eve her Seth and Seth his Cainan and Cainan his Mahaleel c. and all of them proved well to God and man-ward 3. Bring them oft to Gods aweful and awing 3. By inuring them to holy Assemblies Assemblies where they will hear and learn Reverence to God or men Deut. 31. 12. gather men women and children that they may hear and learn and fear the Lord thy God and observe to do all the words of this Law even this of the fifth Commandement also Honour Father and Mother with the Honour of Reverence 4 Correct them wisely and seasonably as for 4. By correcting irreverence in them other sins so for those which savour of irreverence to Parents this by the Lords blessing will help on filial Reverence hence those two joyned Heb. 12. 9. we had Fathers of our flesh who corrected us and we did them Reverence there is a great deal of folly and so a bundle of irreverence also in a childs heart naturally but God saith the rod of correction shall drive it far from him Prov. 22. 5. Acquaint your Children ever and anon 5. By minding children oft of Gods judgements with Gods more awing and dreadfull providences especially respecting Children which gave not their Parents reverence as of Cham Absolom and others The punishment of a stubborn Son by mans hand must be so as all Israel may hear and fear Deut. 21. 21. So let all our Children hear of Gods hand this way that they may fear the sins of dishonour of Parents 6. Inure them to awfull subjection and obeysance 6. By inuring them to filiall subjection to you as Parents betimes early practising of filial Reverence will strengthen and stablish a very habit of it hence the requisit in Church officers or elders and deacons 1 Tim. 3. 4. 12. having their children in subjection with gravity or honesty they must see they be inur'd to reverence and seemly carriages towards them and before them and then others that come to their houses will find this to the Elders Honour CHAP. V. Of Honour of Obedience due to Parents NOw we come to the third branch of direct Honour of obedience due to parents Honour namely Honour of obedience for so Honour is taken in Scripture as we shewed before Observe then as a third branch of the generall point that children are to Honour their Parents with the Honour of obedience Honour thy Father and Mother saith Exod. 20. 12. but obeying them is Honouring of them say other Scriptures as we shewed Chap. 1. therefore children are bound to yield obedience to their Parents For the fuller handling of this particular we shall inquire 1. Wherein this Honour of filial obedience It consisteth consisteth 2. What manner of obedience it is which must be yielded 3. Why children must yeeld it 1. In childrens being content to be set about meanest imployments 4. What use is to be made of this branch of Honour of Parents To the first I answer that filial obedience consisteth 1. In childrens being content to be set about meanest imployments even as though they were servants their Parents so requiring it hence that Mal. 3. 17. his son which serveth him Neither Rebekah nor Rachel though of able Parents thought much to keep their Fathers sheep Gen. 24. and Chap. 29. neither did Christ himself refuse to be subject to his Parents in their meaner imployments Luke 2. 51. Matth. 13. 55. his reputed Father Joseph was a Carpenter of a very mean Trade hence that Is not this the Capenters Son but Mark 6. 3. these neighbours and Countreymen of Christ as man who had most cause to note his usuall imployments they
is also included in that speech Eph. 6. 1. Obey your Parents in the Lord especially injoyning what the Lord requireth 5. In childrens yeelding humbly meekly and 5. In submission to parents just corrections quietly to Parents just reproofs and corrections Heb. 12. 9. The Fathers of our flesh corrected us and we gave them reverence even in way of awfull subjection to them therein whence this is added shall we not much more be in subjection to the Father of Spirits and live for what are such actings of Parents but fruits of their obedience to God their Fathers eommands who chargeth Prov. 19. 18. Chasten thy Son while there is hope and Prov. 23. 13. withhold not correction from the child and v. 14. thou shalt beat him and Prov. 29. 17. Correct thy Son and he shall give thee rest yea they are fruits o◠Parents love to their children Heb. 12. 6 7. Prov. 13. 14. he that loveth his Son chasteneth him betimes What are they but Gods ordinance and appointed means to rescue children from sin and ruin Prov. 23. 13. if thou beatest him he shall not die v. 14. thou shalt beat him and deliver his soul from Hell Prov. 22. 15. foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child but the rod of correction shall drive it out Prov. 29. 15. the rod and reproof give wisdome but a child left to himself bringeth his Mother to shame and in a word it would be greatest folly and danger to Children not to yeeld and obedientially to hearken to such rebukes Prov. 15. 8. A fool despiseth his Fathers instruction and v. 10. Correction is grievous to him that forsaketh the way and v. 32. He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul To the second query with what manner of This obedience must be obedience are children to obey Parents I answer more briefly 1. With a kind of universall and unlimited obedience 1. Universall falling under the compass of lawfull things so Col. 3. 20. Children obey your Parents in all things one as well as another being all lawfull there is no exception or limitation made 2. With a Sedulous obedience Phil. 2. 22. Paul 2. Sedulous alluding to this saith of Timothy as a Son with the Father he hath served with me in the Gospel i. e. very diligently so Jacobs sons followed their Fathers business diligently sparing no pains to remove their flock hither and thither for his best advantage Gen. 37. 17. 3. With a ready and cheerfull obedience Gen. 3. Cheerfull 37. 13. Come I will send thee to thy brethren saith Jacob to Joseph here am I saith Joseph he is as ready to do it as his Father to command it So in a like case David injoyned by his Father Jessai 1 Sam. 17. 20. He ariseth early in the morning and leaving his sheep with a keeper he took and went as Jessai had commanded Gen. 42. 2. Get you down into Egypt to buy us corn saith Jacob to his Sons v. 3. And Josephs ten brethren went down to buy corn in Egypt and Chap. 47. 31. swear unto me saith Jacob to Joseph and he sware unto him such ready obedience yeelded they to their Father 4. With a resolute obedience Children are not 4. Resolute to be diverted from lawfull obedience to Parents either by frowns or flattering perswasions of others if Jeremiah a man of God will set before Rechabs Sons pots of wine and bid them drink it Jer 35. 5. such a tempting and trying of them will not prevail with them vers 6. but they said we will drink no wine for Jonadab the Son of Rechab our Father commanded us saying you shall drink no wine neither you nor your Sons for ever 5. With a conscientious obedience namely to 5. Conscientious parentall Authority as of God and as to Gods command requiring it of you to Honour Father and Mother with such Honour of obedience and injoyning children to obey their parents in all tbings Col. 3. 20. To the second query why children must give Reasons of it this Honour of obedience to Parents I answer also briefly they must do it 1. Because it is pleasing to God Gal. 3. 20. 1. It is wel-pleasing to God Children obey your parents in all things for this is well pleasing to the Lord. It s an incouragement to children to do such or such things for Parents when they know it will please them very well but most of all when they understand that God himself is well pleased therewith God himself is very well pleased with filiall obedience to Parents as seeing therein his own Image of Fatherhood Honoured his own authority and command requiring this attended and Honoured and a ready way hereby made in children to all other obedience to the Lord himself And who would not endevour that they might thus at once Crown the Lord himself and their Parents with their due Honour and be crowned not so much with parentall as divine acceptance 2. Because this is right or just or meet Eph. 2. It is just and right 6. 1. Children obey your Parents in the Lord for this is right in the Greek it is 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 just due by the Law of God of nature and of nations It s a due debt children owe obedience to their Parents as a debt and must be paying it all their dayes Children who have received their whole man soul and body instrumentally from their Parents ow the service of both in an obedientiall way to their lawfull commands It s not a matter of liberty or curtesie but due debt which is daily due to be paid in part Justice which requireth to give every other person his due requieth children to give Parents also their due of which this is part even filiall obedience 3. Because manifold blessings and benefits do 3. Many blessing attend it attend due and true filial obedience unto Parents Children obey your parents in the Lord Eph. 6. 1. v. 2. Honour thy Father and thy Mother and v. 3. that it may be well with thee and that thou maist live long on earth Giving this Honour of filiall obedience as it is a means of long life as Prov. 4. 4. 10. Keep my Commandements saith David to Solomon and live and vers 10. Hear O my Son and receive my sayings and the years of thy life shall be many and as it is a means of bodily health Pro. 4. 22. Parents lawfull and gracious commands observed by Children are health to all their flesh and sickly times often befall the yonger sort as here with us where filiall obedience and observance is too much wanting But I say besides that the Apostle inlargeth the benefit thereof in that expression that it may be well with thee namely not alone in matter of bodily health but in that of name also of estate of family relations of personall callings and occasions of generall calling as Christians and as members of the Church
yea also in those spirituall matters of their souls in the things and comforts of God and of his word and seals and services c. The way to have body and soul to do well and prosper yea the way to have God himself shining and smiling upon children to have Gods blessing upon childrens reading hearing and meditating of the word to have God answering even their prayers to have God ordering all things for good to them which befall them to have God to be with them and bless all they do take in hand to do well by them in life and death is to yeeld due and true obedience to Parents Prov. 15. 5. is verified in obedientiall hearkning to Parents counsels or rebukes the eare that heareth reproof abideth among the wise It is amonst the number of them else that care or person would not hearken but which is more it abideth among them such an one doth not apostatize from the company and condition of persons truly wise I fear if the bottom of the Apostasie of many promising professors now a daies were searched into this would be found there they were or are disobedient children to their parents but as for the obedient God is so well pleased with them that he thinks he can never deal well enough with them Now in the third place we shall make use of 1. Use of reproof of childrens this branch even of siliall obedience the use whereof serveth 1. For reproof and that first of children 1. Of such who in shew express obedience to 1. Pretended obedience your Parents commands but in reality do it not like the Son in the Parable who when bid by his Father to go and work in his Vineyard he saith I go Sir but went not Matth. 21. 30. Or if you do any thing which for the matter of it is injoyned by your Parents yet formally and properly it s not filial obedience but rather yeelding obedience to some lust of your own which biddeth you do such and such things which Parents enjoyn As when a covetous lust will put you on to do your Fathers will and work that you may have the gain of it or the like or if you do at length what Parents require in a better manner yet it may abase you that you did it not more readily and seasonably you first were too disobedient in your carriage like the Son in the parable that said at first he would not Matth. 21. 28 29. Afterward indeed he repented and went and so at last did the will of his Father But it was to him and by proportion should be to you a ground of penitent shame and sorrow that at first you were so disobedient 2. Of such children who are plainly disobedient 2. Disobedience to parents to your Parents and persist in it or at least continue too long in it without repentance for the same Some there are that when their Parents do even stoop somewhat below themselves and not command so much as intreat them to do this or that lawfull thing at their request yet will boldly deny their parents desires like the Elder Son in the Parable who when his Father commeth out to him and intreateth him to come in will not come in Luk. 15. 28 29. Some when their Parents would have them of an honest calling or course of life as more fit for that and such as may be more serviceable to God and men in it yet will not be ruled no they must take to some other course that their foolish hearts like better or else their Parents cannot be in quiet like Adonijah that contrary to God and his Father Davids mind would needs be a King when yet he was no way fitted for it 1 King 1. Some will like those in Gen. 6. 2. be matching but as themselves only foolishly fansie and Parents cannot be at rest for them but they must needs have such a one like Sampson Judg. 14. 2. He came and told his Father and Mother saying I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistins now therefore get her for me to wife and when his Parents wisely and faithfully replyed vers 3. Is there never a daughter among all my people that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistins Sampson saith to his Father get her for me for she pleaseth me or is right enough in mine eyes Some children are grown to such an height of disobedience as they are grown stubborn resolute wilful in their disobedience they are long habituated in it they will not now be counselled commanded reproved or corrected by Parents they are above that they are past that they will be no longer curbed or controlled not they by Mother or Father either but little do you consider what a black brand you do carry herein upon your selves of your reprobation and as a token thereof of your judiciall hardening It was said of Esau Esau have I hated or in my counsell rejected Rom. 9. and what a grief of mind was he to his Parents by disobedient carriage in his matches Gen. 26. When God hath a mind to ruinate Elies Sons as men of Belial whom he abhorred 1 Sam. 2. 25. It s said they hearkened not to the voyce of their Father they would on in their course say the old man what he will to the contrary because the Lord would slay them Their counsels commands checks rebukes yea and corrections too are not hearkened to but all slighted to make way for the fatall ruin of children devoted and destinated to saddest ends either by the hand of some enemies as in the case of Hophni and Phineas 1 Sam. 2. 25. compar'd with Chap. 4. 11. or by the hand of civill justice as Deut. 21. 20 21. they bring out their stubborn Son that will not be ruled by them and he is stoned to death sometimes by some more immediate hand of God as that disobedient yong man which would none of the voyce of his teachers parents or others he hated their reproofs c. He is smitten by dreadfull horror of conscience inwardly whence that dolefull mourning at last when it is too late Prov. 5. 11 12 13. and with lothsome diseases outwardly he even rotteth above ground and pineth away his flesh and body is consumed ibid. And hence we might give instances of very dreadfull examples of the lives and deaths of stubborn and disobedient children and what other can be expected when they are in that black rowl of persons given up of God to a reprobate mind Rom. 1. 28. He gave them up to a mind void of judgement to do those things which are not convenient being filled with all unrighteousness v. 29 c. disobedient to parents v. 30. 2. It serveth to reprove parents who any way 2. Of parents occasioning childrens disobedience 1. By abusing their Authority occasion disobedience in children 1. By abusing their authority in giving out unjust commands to them which the
expose the very place where you are to Gods curse Hence that of Mal. 4. 6. It is prophesied that by the presence and blessing of God in John Baptists ministry parents hearts which were ever alienated from their stubborn and wicked children and theirs as much from their good parents not induring to be at their Beck the Children shall be so effectually changed to holy obedience to God and them according to God that the Children shall win parents hearts and the parents shall have their Childrens hearts lest otherwise I come saith God and smite the earth with a curse And oh that all Children would consider this become obedient according to God lest otherwise God be provoked to blast and crush the very place where they are as he is wont to blast that very place and country where dishonour and disobedience to parents becommeth the common and prevailing sin thereof Now for the helps unto honour of filial obedience Helps to it they are such as these 1. Take heed of such things as hinder filial obedience and breed and feed stubbornesse in you 1. Avoid all hinderances to it to your parents such as self-conceitednesse self-willednesse over weaned conceit of what Children have formerly done at their Parents command curiosity discontent ambition envy at fellow Brethren and Sisters bad company and counsell poring upon parents meanesse infirmities failings and the like of which you may see more in the 2. Chapter in the helps there proposed to further Children in giving that honour in generall which is due to parents 2. Labour to see the evils of your former disobedient 2. See the evill of former disobedience carriages towards your parents and to bewayle the same and humbly to confess the same as to God so to your wronged parents if yet living As in the Parable of the prodigall youngster who cast off the yoak of his Father when he commeth to himself and is now sensible of that mad course and spirit of his he goeth to his Father and confesseth it with that aggravation that he hath so sinned against him that he is no more worthy to be called his Son Luk. 15. 17 18 19 c. so should you do in the case of your disobedient carriages to parents and as you also will then be willing to yeeld to the meanest acts of obedience to be as hired servants 3. Make an holy and fruitfull improvement 3. Improve Gods Word providences which in speciall awaken thereunto both of any speciall words of God in the ministery or Scriptures and other good books tending to quicken you up to filial obedience to your parents and of any speciall afflictions which you meet with in a way of disobedience to parents for God useth to be breathing in the word sometimes in Childrens hearts obediential workings and purposes as experience witnesseth and as that place Mal. 4. 6. even now opened sheweth yea and in his providences also crossing stubborn and dissolute Children in their way he giveth them a loud call to alter their course of disobedience and dissoluteness like that penury and misery which God made use of to awaken the dissolute Son in the parable from his course and to bring him back again under his Fathers government Luke 15. 16 17 18. Onely when at any time God is stirring that way in your hearts occasionally either from any awakening word or providence of his look to it that you do not stifle those movings nor suppresse those workings of heart nor procrastinate and put off the real practising of such counsels of God as at such times are presented to you but forthwith without further delay set about the course directed and hinted and urged upon you lest otherwise as too often it falleth out those good motions in your hearts not being attended and cherished they die and come to nothing but rather like that dissolute Son in the parable so soon as ever he was moved inwardly to consider his perishing condition in the way he was and had been since he wretchedly brake away from under his Fathers watch rule and how well it might be with him to return to his Fathers house in Luke 15. 17 18 19. He resolveth of his course that he will home again and submit himself to his Father and vers 20 21. his purposes died not but presently he performed what he so had purposed and doe you likewise That example of the Psalmist is imitable in this case of Children as well as in other cases who saith Psal 119. 59. I thought on my waies and turned my feet unto thy testimonies and vers 60. to shew that he did lose no time therein he saith I made hast and delayed not to keep thy Commandements 4. Yeeld to your parents their due honour 4. Yeeld to Parents honour of repect and reverence both of respect and of reverence and you will assuredly yeeld them their due honour of obedience My Son saith Solomon as a Father also to his Child give me thine heart and let thine eyes observe my waies Prov. 23. 26. If a Father have his Childs heart love and awe he hath been undoubtedly at his command as if Children of God indeed then loving and standing in awe of him and if so then surely keeping his commandements then departing from forbidden evils so is it in the case of the Children of men loving and reverencing their parents they are ready to obey them they are fearfull to offend them 5. Do you herein also as well as in other acts of honour of Parents set before your eyes 5. Herein also good examples and the evils of the contrary the examples of persons eminent for filial obedience as Isaac Jacob Joseph and Jesus Christ who also was subject to his Parents Luke 2. 51. Yes set before you the contrary miserable lives and deaths of Children that were disobedient and stubborn to their Parents and see if by the blessing of God upon such meditations God will not exceedingly quicken you up to filial obedience and shame you or deter you from disobedience to Parents God maketh accout that exemplary punlshing of one disobedient Son even by mans hand should cause all other to hear and fear Deut. 21. 20 21 This our Son will not obey the voice of his Father or of his Mother and all the men of the City shall stone him with stones that he die and all Israel shall hear and fear CHAP. VI. Of Honour of Recompence or thankefulness due to Parents WE have handled three branches and parts of direct honour of parents injoyned in the fifth Commandement namely honour of respect of reverence and of obedience We come now to the fourth and that is honour of Recompence for so honour is taken in Scripture language for honour of recompence as was shewed in the first Chapter Observe then as a fourth branch of the poynt in generall that children are to honour their parents with the honour of thankfulnesse or Honour of
child towards a Mother and of a Brother or Sister towards a Brother or Sister especially when afflicted Esay 63. 9. and Mark 3. 35. It will be a Christ-like part and an Image of his indeared and self-denying respects to us who have done to him any services and offices of love that gracious children be as children indeed in way of holy recompences by all due respects succour and sympathy of love to their afflicted Mothers or Fathers for all those greater services succours and sympathies of their love towards them 3. Let children recompence parents by being 3. In being very sollicitous of parents good and safety in hazzards and straits effectually sollicitous of their parents outward safety and good in times of danger and straits thus David fearing the malicious rage of Saul against his parents for his sake secureth them with the King of Moab whom he requested saying 1 Sam. 22. 3. Let my Father and Mother I pray thee come forth and be with you till I know what God will do for me and vers 4. he brought them before the King of Moab and they dwelt with him all the time that David was in the hold So Jesus Christ that unparalleld example of thankful recompence of parents see Joh. 19. 26 27. how sollicitous he is and what effectual order he taketh for his poor Mother even then when he hung bleeding upon the Cross when Jesus saw his Mother and the disciple standing by whom he loved he saith unto his Mother Woman behold thy Son then he saith to the Disoiple Behold thy Mother or take her use her love her tender her look to her do for her as for thy own Mother and so indeed John understood Christs speech and therefore it is added And from that hour that Disciple took her unto his own home When a Lion intercepteth Sampson and his Father and Mother in their journey Judg. 14. 5 6. Sampson interposeth twixt danger and his parents adventureth his own life and slaieth the Lion when danger was impending upon Jericho and a bloody storm was gathering over it Rahab will not be saved alone but must have her Parents and Kindred also preserved Josh 2. 13. That ye will save alive my Father and my Mother and my Brethren and Sisters and all that they have and deliver our lives from death And indeed parents are the head of the Family and as it is in the body natural every member is ready to rescue the head from hurt and rather expose it self to hazzard than indanger the head so should it be in the body oeconomicall the children especially should take all effectuall care that may be to preserve their parents from hazzard or harms like those young men of Catana of whom we spake before which adventured the very flames to preserve their parents from burning Scipio Africanus when the consul Scipio Cornelius his Father had almost lost the day to Hannibal and was now both sorely wounded and surrounded by the enemy he being then but 17 years old boldly and undauntedly breaketh through the surrounding enemy and rescueth his Father from that danger as Livy reporteth young Manlius Son to Lucius Manlius a young man of rare abilities and sit for publique services but put by his Father to live an obscure life in too mean imployments for which amongst other faults his Father was to be impeached by Pomponius the Tribune which young Manlius perceiving he repaireth early to the Tribunes Chamber who supposing he came to help on the intended impeachment of his Father he caused all to depart the room but young Manlius having a sword privily under his coat threatned the Tribune with present death unless he would swear to desist wholly from prosecution of his Father and as Valerius Maximus reporteth he did so and so rescued his Father from that danger overlooking all unkind passages mentioned of his Father towards him when the Son of Craesus who was formerly dumb saw a Persian Souldier ready to run him thorow though to him unknown who he was it is said that this young man that for a time had lived mute for himself then for the safety of his Father he obtained power to speak for he cryed out to the Persian Soldier Oh do not kill King Craesus my Father as also Val. Max. l. 5. reporteth Such strange effects even in poor Pagans hath their sollicitous care of their parents safety produced and let not the children of Christians be behind hand therein Herein also must children vicem reddere pay and give in like for like Oh the many sollicitous thoughts and most serious endeavours of parents about their childrens safety and outward good when time was when they were but in any likely-hood of any harm come to them when they were little if they were but missing a while from home and their parents not knowing where they were like Joseph and Mary when Jesus being then 12 years old was missing they sought him sorrowing Luke 2. 48. So have dear parents many a time done the like for their children if looking but a little more pale than usual or not eating their meat as at other times Ah the fears and heart-akes of tender-hearted parents about them lest they should fall sick or if any way hurt or in pain or sick Oh the sorrowful dayes and nights which parents that while pass over fearing lest they should miscarry and how many castings about and contrivings and inquiries are made by parents what way or course or means might be seasonably used which is most likely to ease or heal or revive their dear children and to rescue them from the Jawes of death let children repay unto parents like for like How many hazzards how many sufferings have parents formerly exposed themselves unto for childrens good and safety Like Moses his parents Heb. 11. 23. through faith hiding Moses when an infant from the mischief of Pharaohs Butchery not fearing the Tyrants bloody edict which was that each male child of the Israelites should be slain or like David who understanding that wife and children and all are captived by the Amalekites he will adventure a thousand hazzards but he will rescue them Many a tender-hearted Mother will expose her self to be some way mischiefed by a bear or bull or dog or the like to save and rescue her child from being hurt by any of them when they are in imminent danger thereof She will be ready to thrust her tender hand into the very fire to pull or snatch out her little child from being burnt or scorched by it Now let children repay them like for like 4. Let children in way of recompence improve 4. In improving their utmost interests in God or men fot their good their best interests either in God for their good inward or outward through exercise of their faith in prayer or otherwise for that end or in men by intreaties or otherwise to further the same parentall good As Hester did for her Unckle Mordecai who had been
our Parents and partly for our Children c. 2. Consider that those that are not gratefull to 2. Else not gratefull to ones Country their Parents will never be grateful to their country or self-denying for its good Hence that also of Tully It conduceth much to the welfare of our country that Children be pious to their Parents 3. Consider that therefore the Lord inableth 3. Childrens abilities given for this end you the rather with bodily strength with gifts and parts with Estates with advantageous places and callings that you may be fit for such a service of gratefull recompence of your Parents That blessed man Joseph concludeth thus of all his great Preferments and Abilities which God brought him to in Egypt that it was all for this very end Gen. 45. 7 8 9 10 11. God sent me before your face saith he to his Brethren to preserve you a posterity in the earth c. So then it was not you that sent me hither but God and he hath made me a Father to Pharaoh and Lord of all his house and a Ruler throughout all the Land of Egypt Haste you and go up to my Father and say to him thus saith thy Son Joseph God hath made me Lord of all Egypt Come down to me and tarry not c. And there will I nourish them c. 4. Consider that there is nothing lost by what 4. Nothing is lost by it you do deny your selves in out of gratitude to your Parents but much gained every way thereby 2 Tim. 5. 4. And to requite their Parents for this is good and acceptable before God It s good with the goodness of advantage as well as honesty or honour before God It is acceptable before God and therefore surely most beneficiall from Helpes 1. Serious meditations of what Parents have done for them God to Children And for your helps this way It were good for you to think very much and often and that with much seriousness of intention of mind upon the many unexpressible invaluable irrecompensible benefits and kindnesses which you have from your Parents O when the people thought of that service of love of Jonathan to them all and should any discourtesie be offered to such a one no by no means 1 Sam. 14. 45. Shall Jonathan dye who hath wrought this great Salvation in Israel God forbid So in like sort the thoughts of what good Parents have been instruments of to Children they will crush temptations to ingratitude and provoke to gratitude Besides be you conscious in giving your Parents 2. Give their other honour of Respect Reverence Obedience their due honour of Respect Reverence and Obedience and then there is no doubt but you will be put upon it to give them this other part also of direct Honour even the Honour of Recompence Cautious Let it be with greatest 1. Bowels only look to it that what you do this way in gratefull Rccompence to Parents 1. That it be with greatest bowels and tenderness Parents did so in ministring to you what you wanted do you repay them like for like 2. That it be with greatest meekness and patience 2. Meekness bearing with frailties and waywardness of age as Parents did with waywardness in ministring to you in infancy and child-hood so repay them like for like 3. That it be with much humility stooping to the meanest offices of love for them as Parents did 3. Humility for you whil'st little do you herein repay them like for like To conclude Children may also discern their Marks of right doing it conscientious piety to Parents 1. If when you your selves are in disconsolate 1. If when Children in saddest conditions are cordially sollicitous of Parents help yea desolate conditions yet you are then very cordially carefull of your Parents outward welfare as David of his Parents safety with the King of Moab 2 Sam. 22. when himself is as an outlaw or as it was with the Son of David when upon the Crosse in all that sorrow and pain c. yet how carefull was he that his poor Mother be provided well for Joh. 19. 26 27. Man saith he to John behold thy Mother 2. If your effectuall care of your parents 2. When carefull this way in married conditions comfortable beeings be not alone in your single conditions whil'st unmarried but flourish when you are marryed So it did in Joseph in David in Ruth and others 3. If when you are in a very high and more honourable 3. When carefull this way in highest conditions place than parents then you be nourishers of them yea if you are perswaded in your very hearts that God the rather exalted you thus for your parents sakes that in their straights you might have abundantly and sufficiently to supply them withall and the rather do it Thus it was in Josephs case he thought that God made him a Lord in all the Land of Egypt to preserve his Father and his houshold alive in that time of famine and upon that ground sends to him to come to him promising to nourish him Gen. 45. 7 8 9 10 11. and accordingly he did it Gen. 47. 12. And Joseph nourished his Father and his brethren and all his Fathers houshold with bread according to their Families To conclude this with that memorable speech of Cyrus mentioned by Plutarch in his Apothegms he used to say and that which is the truth he is not fit to rule over others who is not profitable to his parents CHAP. VII Of Honour in a Reflect way due from Children unto Parents HAving dispatched the direct Acts and wayes of Honour of parents we come now to that Honour of Parents which is due to them in a Reflect way For so honouring another is taken in Scripture for being such or carrying it so towards another whom men are to Honour as it may make for such an ones Honour as we shewed in the 1. Chapter So here in the 5th Commandement this indefinite word Honour thy Father thy Mother taketh in Honouring of parents in a reflect way and bindeth Children to be such to their parents and to carry it so as may redound to their Honour especially being such parents as the covenant Jewes were in Church State and many of them godly to whom this Law of the 5th Commandement was first solemnly promulged and to whom it was more solemnly established Whence note That its the duty of children Children of good Parents especially bound to be such and to carry it so as maketh for their Parents Honour and that 1. By minding prising and storing up parents instructions especially the children of godly parents and such as are in covenant and Church-estate to be such and to carry it so as may redound to their parents honour Now here also let us shew 1. How this is to be done 2. Why it must be so And 3. Apply and make use of this so weighty a point
Concerning the first such children especially are bound 1. To be observing minding prising and treasuring up such parents good speeches as so many oracles of God which will evidence to all that their Children honour them Job 15. 18. which wise men have told from their Fathers and have not hid it a sign then that those wise Children minded well and stored up their godly Fathers counsels so Psal 44. 1 2. We have heard with our ears Oh God our Fathers have told us what thou didst in their dayes c. So Psal 78. 2 3. I will utter mysterious sayings of old which we have heard and known and our Fathers have told us Prov. 4. 3 4. For I was my Fathers Son he taught me also and said to me retain my words keep my Commandements and live Get wisdome yet understanding c. To which purpose also children must in case of any difficulty or doubt arising to them repair firstly to their godly parents for counsell and resolution How oft is that mentioned when thy Son asketh thee in time to come saying what mean the Testimonies and the Statutes which the Lord our God hath Commanded you then thou shalt say thus and thus to thy Son c. Deut. 6. 20 21 22 23 24 25. So Exod. 13. 14. Josh 4. 6 21. This reflecteth much Honour upon parents wisdome and ability that they are able to give forth Gods mind to their children and upon their piety and fidelity that they make conscience to do it and upon their holy industry and vigilancy that they are ready to take all occasions to help on their Children in the things of God 2. To acquaint parents in the first place with 2. By acquainting them with their secrets all their Secrets which are of weight It s implyed in Sampsons speech speaking of his Riddle Judg. 14. 16. I have not told my Father nor my Mother and should I tell it thee This evidenceth that Children magnifie their parents wisdome and fidelity above others that their breasts shall be the only prime Cabinet of the Childrens Secrets 3. To ask leave of their parents at least whil'st 3 By asking their leave for what they do Children are under their tuition for what they do Ruth 2. 2. Let me go I pray thee saith Ruth to Naomi to glean in his field in whose eyes I shall find favour and she said go my Daughter Exod. 4. 18. Let me go saith Moses to Jethro and return to my brethren which are in Egypt and see whether they be yet alive and Jethro said to Moses go in peace 2 Sam. 13. 26. Let my brother Ammon go with us saith Absolom to David though out of a bad end and Chap. 15. 17. Let me go I pray thee and pay my vow unto the Lord in Hebron saith Absolom to his Father though out of a base end If Dinah as its probable did without leave from her parents go to see the daughters of the Country then was it no wonder that being out of her way she so miscarried as Genesis 34. 1 2. Shechem saw her took her and lay with her and defiled her This also redounds to the Honour of the Parents Authority that Children shew thereby that they dare not attempt any thing without their likings yea and their wisdome-fidelity is hereby honoured that they know better what is meet for Children to do than themselves and will order their wayes better than they can do themselves 4. To set forth to parents praise what is good in 4. By setting forth the praise worthiness in parents them as occasion requireth and to maintain their names even when they are dead all they can Prov. 31. 28. Her Children rise up and call her blessed 5. To vindicate any wrongs injury or dishonor 5. By vindicating parents wrongs done to parents so far as it lyeth in the compass of Childrens calls places thus Amaziah 2 Kings 14. 5. as soon as confirmed in his Kingdome he slew his servants who had slain Jehoash his Father 6. To do parents all the honour they can at 6. By honouring them at their death their death Genes 25. 9. Abrahams Sons Isaac and Ishmael buried him in the Cave of Machpelah So Gen. 35. 29. Isaacs Sons Esau and Jacob buried him Gen. 50. 8. And Joseph went up to bury his Father and with him went up all the servants of Pharaoh and all the Elders of his house and all the Elders of Egypt and all the house of Joseph and his Brethren and his Fathers house only they left their little ones their flocks and herds in the land of Goshen they and their wives also went so 7. By thankfull rendring notable mercies shewed to parents great a journey to solemnize the old Fathers Funerall and to do him Honour there 7. To maintain a thankfull remembrance of remarkable mercies extended to parents or Ancestors Esay 38. 19. The living the living he shall praise thee as I do this day saith Hezekiah when he recovered from so great a death the Father to the Children shall make known thy truth God would have them of old to perpetuate their Ancestors deliverance out of Egypts bondage Exod. 13. 8 9 10. From the slaughter of their first born there which to the succeeding posterity were also Fathers Exod. 12. 25 26 27. So Est 9. 21 22 23 24 26 27. Care was taken for the perpetuation of a thankfull remembrance succesfully for their Ancestors delivery from the mischiefs of Hammons bloody plot And if our Fathers had more Honour put upon them in our thankfull solemnizing the memoriall of their deliverance from the horrid mischief of that devilish Powder-plot in the year 1605. it might do well Surely it redoundeth to parents Honour if they are of so high esteem and respect in their Childrens eyes that any notable mercy extended to them shall be for ever kept in thankfull remembrance by their posterity 8. To improve godly persons interest in the 8. To make best improvement of the holy interests Lord and in his Covenant by faith and to plead them in their prayers this act of Children redoundeth exceedingly to parents Honour holding forth their parents to be persons so highly honoured of God as to be deeply interested in him in his Covenant and Grace and to be of such faith in God and in his Covenant thus did David twice Psalm 116. 16. Truly Lord I am thy servant the Son of thy handmaid Psal 86. 16. give thy strength to thy servant and save the Son of thy handmaid In the former he in a holy wise glorieth in his Mothers interest in the latter he pleadeth her interest in the Lord 1 Kings 8. 25 26. Therefore now Oh Lord God of Israel keep with thy servant David my Father that which thou promis'dst him So Jacob pleaded his Grand-Fathers and his Fathers interest Gen. 32. 5. And Jacob said Oh God of my Father Abram God of my Father Isaac c. 9. To imitate all
that we may preserve seed of our Father So in Tamars case from Judahs neglect of bestowing his Son Shelah upon her according to his own promise and consent pretended at least Gen. 38. 11. and vers 14. When Tamar saw that Shelah was grown and she was not given to him to wife then she went and sate in the way where Judah should come with her veil as if she had been some strumpet and vers 26. Judah confesseth it as his fault that such incest was committed to the shame indeed of his and of his Fathers house She hath been saith he more righteous than I because I gave her not to Shelah my Son Hence the Apostles counsell to Parents to dispose seasonably of their Virgins in marriage 1 Cor. 7. 36. If any man thinketh that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin if she pass the flower of her age and need so requires it let them marry 5. When you lay up ill gotten goods as gain 5. By laying up ill gotten goods for mem of oppression deceit violence or any injustice this layeth your Children open to reproachfull courses to themselves and you even by the just hand of God against such injust gain Hab. 2. 9 10. Woe to him that coveteth an evill covetousness to his house vers 10. Thou hast consulted shame to thine own house 6. When Christian you suffer others yea it 6. By suffering their judgements to be corrupted may be too forward your selves to be distilling into them corrupt principles of Religion or furthering them in the practice thereof but Oh how dishonourable must this needs prove to your selves by the sad and sorrowfull consequences thereof in your Children like that sad effect of Idolatry in those Children Jer. 17. 2. Whil'st vers 2. the Children remember their Fathers groves and altars or like Ahaziah 2 Chro. 22. 3. He walked in all Ahabs wayes for his Mother was his counsellor to do wickedly Thus Micahs Mother put him upon making that Idoll Judg. 17. 2 3 4 c. and Oh that in these Apostatising dayes the seed of the degenerating of the posterity of Godly Ancestors and of all their loose and scandalous courses to the shame of their Fathers houses had not been first laid in them by their own Parents leavening them with corrupt opinions 2. It serveth for reproof unto Children or 2. It reproeth children especially those of good parents persons in the relation of Children especially the Children of godly parents the Children of the Church that even you are every way a dishonour to your parents and reflect and put much dishonour upon them and so sharply reproveth 1. Such of you as scoff at and deride such of 1. For deriding their good brethren or sisters your godly Brethren or Sisters whom your Parents most respect or do any wrong to your Brethren or Sisters of one or both Parents of the former sort was Ishmael Abrahams Son by Hagar the Egyptian whom Sarah saw mocking of Isaac that beloved Childe of the promise Gen. 21. 9. Of the Latter sort were Josephs brethren who before their conversion envied godly Joseph who brought their evill report unto Jacob Gen. 37. 2. because Jacob loved him above them vers 3 4. and because God had shewed him in two severall dreams that he would so highly exalt him above them vers 8. And out of Envy sold him afterwards into Egypt Acts 7. 7. Such an one was Abimelech Gedeons Son who slew his 70. Brethren and the Holy Ghost reckoneth it as a wicked and vile fact done to his very Father Judg. 9. 56. Gen. 42. 36. Jacob telleth his Sons that they had bereaved him of his Children Joseph is not Simeon is not and you will take away Benjamin all these things are against me Such who trample upon and rend away good Children they trample upon and rend away their Fathers Crown and Glory for such are Children unto Parents Prov. 17. 6. Hos 9. 11 12. Such reflect dishonour upon their godly parents wisdome and zeal as if they did misplace their respects upon those Children who deserved not the same But God hath been wont to abase such proud envious malicious Spirits and to put as much or more dishonour upon them Ishmael and his whole posterity was cast out of the Church for it Gen. 21 9 10 11 12 13. Jacobs Sons were brought very low inwardly and outwardly when so roughly handled in Egypt and for a time imprisoned Gen. 72. 17 30 33. Abimelech came to a vile and dishonourable end by a Stone hurled upon him from a Tower by the hand of a woman together with his Armour-bearers sword Judg. 9. 57. and 56. Thus God rendred the wickedness of Abimelech which he did unto his Father in slaying his 70. Brethren 2. Such Children of Christian Parents who neglect the best time of your good under the good 2. For neglecting their opportunities of good whil'st with their good parents education of your Parents under a godly Ministry of whom it may be said as Jer. 8. 20. The Harvest is past the Summer is ended and they are not saved now such a Son that sleepeth in that blessed Harvest time of reaping so much soul-good is a Son that causeth shame even to his very Parents also as well as to himself Prov. 10. 5. Others who know you will be ready to censure or at least to suspect that your Parents were not so conscionable in this matter of their education did not pray enough or not so seriously for you and so your Parents names suffer by such unprofitable burthens of the Church as you are but let me tell you that it very frequently happeneth that those who get no good under the Tuition of their godly Parents they are left to vilest courses and that without recovery It s more rare if they come to good who had not some godly seeds thereof in their godly Parents Families if bred up to adult age there nor Cain nor Cham nor Esau nor Nadab nor Abihu nor Abimelech nor Hophni nor Phineas nor Ammon nor Absolom nor Adonijah nor such like which were not good nor had seeds of good in them whil'st under their good Parents wing were ever good after And you must dearly answer one day for those Talents of good education and opportunities of good in your Parents Families God will say as in another case Prov. 17. 16. wherefore was there a price in the hand of a fool to get wisdome since he had no heart to it And all those helps and seasons of good which you had in such Families will be as oyle to make your tormenting flames burn the more fiercely and as pricks to stir up that raging vexing gnawing worm within you as in that poor forlorn young man in awakenings of his conscience listen what it is that he howleth and roareth over 1 Prov. 5. 11 12 13. Oh it is the instruction which he hath had from Parents and others but hated and thou mourn at
Honour of Respect Reverence Obedience and Recompence to Fathers of our flesh and such carrying of it so by Children as it redoundeth to parents honour as we have largely declared O what Honour of Respect Reverence Obedience and holy Recompence to him and what manner of carrying of it so as may redound to his Honour doth God expect from you his Chldren to whom he is not only a Father of your Spirit or Soul as he is to all others but a Covenant-Father If God require that to Parents from their Children upon pain of life and death he much more requireth this from you his Covenant and Church-Children upon pain of loss of eternal life and undergoing eternal death But is that the Honour of Respect which you who are degenerate Children give to this your Father to have no desire of the knowledge of his wayes As it is said of that degenerate generation in Job 21. 14 15. whether those in Jobs own time or those before the floud of whom Job 22. 15 16 17 18. but to wish rather what those wretches there mentioned that God might depart from you in respect of any such motions which he maketh and convictions and restraints upon your Spirits which sometimes you meet with and to take no delight at all in God in his word worship wayes daies government Saints and Servants Or is this the honour of Reverence which you give him to be awless fearless of his presence when you are in his house when at Prayer with your Parents or the like and to be constantly fearless of his displeasure or of sinning against him Or is this the Honour of Obedience which you give him to obey the motions of your own hearts lusts of your Companions of Seducers and of the very Divell himself but as for Gods charge or Commands you make light of them So that God may say of you as he did of that degenerate generation of old and speak of it as inter horrenda Hear O Heavens and give ear O earth for the Lord hath spoken I have nourished Children and they have rebelled against me the Oxe knoweth his owner the Ass his Masters Crib but Israel doth not know my people doth not consider Ah sinfull Nation Children that are corruptors they have forsaken the holy one they are gone away backward Isa 1. 2 3 4. And as Isa 30. 9. This is a rebellious people lying Children Children that will not hear the law of the Lord. Or is this the honour of holy Recompence which you should have rendered to him for all his benefits towards you to depart from him to vex and provoke his holy Spirit which is striving with you as he was with that degenerate generation in Gen. 6. 2 3. to corrupt your selves as did that other generation mentioned Deut. 32. 5. whose spot was not the spot of Children or of right-bred children of God who were a crooked and perverse generation Surely God may and doth say to you as he did by Moses to them vers 6. Do you thus requite the Lord O foolish people and unwise is not he thy Father that hath bought thee hath not he made and established thee finally is this your being an honour to God your heavenly father to cause the name of God to be blasphemed and the way of truth to be evill spoken of for your sakes as it may be said of you which was said of those degenerate Jewes Rom. 2. 23. Thou that makest thy boast of the law through breaking of the law dishonourest thou God vers 24. For the name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles through you when such as you are by your vile speeches carriages opinions or courses of life shall occasion the prophaner sort or enemies to God and his Church Ironically to say as they of old did of those degenerate Jewes Ezech. 36. 20. These are the people of the Lord So by your meanes others now a daies to say of you Yea these are your younger generation of the Church these are those that are in the Covenant of grace these are your Church-members these are they which in their Infant-Baptism were devoted to the faith and worship of Father Son and Holy Ghost these are the brood of such Puritan Ministers and other precise followers and the like blasphemous sarcasmes wherin the Lords precious name together with his Truth Covenant Saints and Servants are also vilely reproached Again as such Children are Gods Servants and Children so they are by externall calling Covenant and Church Interest his subjects also Of them is Gods kingdome Luk. 18. 16 17. Now for His Subjects such as you are who are the subjects of the Lord thus to break your Oath or Covenant of Allegiance and to reject his goverment over you by his Word Spirit or Discipline like those degenerate Jewes who said of the promised Messiah Jesus Christ We will not have this man to rule over us Luke 19. 27. Hereby you do but rebel against your Lord and Soveraign and what is rebellion but as the sin of witchcraft 1 Sam. 15. 23. even a hellish execrable and damnable crime But to proceed to the other branches of the evill of sin in this degeneration of such Children In which we shall be more brief 2. Hereby you become breakers of Covenant 2. It is a breach of Covenant with God with God with whom you are confederate Yea you hereby tear off the very seal of the Covenant even your Baptism Thus God when telling Moses how that people would degenerate he saith Deut. 31. 20. They would break his Covenant so Isaiah charging the degenerate generation in his daies also with their sin he saith Isa 24. 5. They have transgressed the Lawes they have broken the everlasting Covenant And as for invalidating after a sort of the Covenant-seal thereby you may see it in those degenerate ones mentioned even now Rom. 2. 25. If thou be a breaker of the law thy Circumcision which to them was the seal of the Covenant and of the righteousness of faith as Baptism is to us Gen. 10. 11 13. Rom. 4. 11. is made uncicumcision and so ineffectuall It is as it were torn off and trampled under foot through that sin of theirs Now if this be so heinous a thing with men to break Covenant with Princes to tear off tread under foot their broad seals how evill is this in Gods sight and if that breach of a Covenant made before God even with a tyrant by Zedechiah were so grievous to God that as Ezech. 17. 15 16 17. he saith Shall he escape that doth such things or shall he break Covenant and be delivered So I may say here to these degenerate Children of the godly shall such as you are escape the fiery displeasure of God that do such things or shall you that break Gods Covenant be delivered from wrath to come no assuredly unlesse the Lord give you repentance unto life And consider of it in the fear of God
grandmother Lois and then in her Daughter Eunice and then in her young Son Timothy 2 Tim. 1. 5. This holy Parentall industry in such instructions and education of their Children it is Gods own ordinance Eph. 6. 4. and Prov. 22. 6. and therefore one of Gods ordinary waies and means to effect saving good in Children therefore in an ordinary way his Blessing is upon it as upon any other Ordinance of his Hence that engagement of God Train up a Child in the way he shall go Parents do you instruct and educate your Children well and through my Blessing it shall come about that they shall not alone be towardly for a time but in their old age it will stick by them they will not apostatize nor degenerate therefrom Hence that ingagement of the Lord touching Abrahams faithfull care and endeavour with his Children Gen. 18. 19. I know Abraham that he will command his Children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord that God might bring upon Abraham that which he hath promised And here give me leave a little to clear up that place in Gen. 14. 14. He armed his trained servants born in his house trained servants namely to his religion not to warlike affaires onely or chiefly so in the Margen of your greater Bibles it is well rendred instructed it is the same Hebrew word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 used there as is used in Prov. 22. 6. Train up a Child c. Or as the Geneva notes have it there Train up a Child virtuously when he is young Nor is that Hebrew word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 whence that word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 his trained ones Gen. 14. 14. is taken ever used so farr as I can find in Scripture but in a religious sense it is used for dedicating a thing to holy use Numb 7. 10 11 84 88. 1 King 8. 63. 2 Chron. 7. 5 9. Ezra 6. 16 17. Nehem. 12. 27. Deut. 20. 5. Psalm 30. Title It is used in Dan. 3. 23. for the consecrating of that Idoll which though an abuse yet still the word noteth a religious sense of it and possibly godly Jared the Father of Enoch did therefore call his Son 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 that is a dedicated a devoted one one to be trained up and initiated from a very Child to the Lord and to his use as it seemed he was proved a very worthy man one that walked long with God himself Gen. 5. and was of publick good use to others as Judg. 11. sheweth I have the more largely insisted upon these passages respecting Abraham and his Family 1. Because Abraham hath his name to be a Father of all believers Gen. 17. 5. Who amongst them have that blessing amongst others to be accomplished which is mentioned Gen. 12. 3. In thee shall all families of the earth be blessed which as in the first place it looketh to Christ comming out of Abrahams Loins in whom they should all be blessed so in a second place in and through Christ it is fulfilled in all and each of Abrahams beleeving seed who becoming Fathers Mothers of Families shall also become by the blessing of grace upon their Covenant-interests Prayers and holy diligence in matters of education Blessings to their respected Families throughout all the earth So that hence also godly Parents may be incouraged to take paines in Vertuous and Religious education of their Children in that it is a Covenant-blessing to them in their Father Abrahams Charter for them that they shall become Blessings to their Families Hence also in one tespect among others Christ sayed This day is salvation come to this house for as much as he also Zacheus is become a Child of Abraham Lu. 19. 9. Hence also that Act. 16. 31. Beleeve in the Lord Jesus thou shalt be saved thy house 2. That it might appear what a Family-church Abraham had in his house the adult circumcised ones were all proselited and such as from very Childhood gave pledges of fearing God through their good education for they were Sons of his house or born there most of them Gen. 14. 14. with 17. Gen. 23. He circumcised all that were born in his house Such as Eliezer is said to be Gen. 15. 3. A Son of his house or born there and how godly a man he was let his works declare Gen. 24. 2 9 12 15 21 26 27 33 42 43 44 45 48 49 52 56. and how godly the rest were may be gathered by their conscionable obedience to Abraham who therefore could undertake that on all their behalf mentioned Gen. 14. 23. The Angel spake also of Abraham by experience of what was already when he sayed Gen. 18. 19. I have found him such an one by experience That he will command his Children and household after him they shall keep his way he that had so done will do so and indeed beeing most of them Sons of his house or born there therefore faithfull Abraham must needs see them so educated from their very Childhood that they might walk in Gods wayes 3. That it may be seen in our Father Abrahams Church how exactly carefull God was that the Children of godly proselites and members of the Church might be admitted to the seal of the covenant of the righteousness of faith as it is called Gen. 17. 11 13. My Covenant in their flesh i seal of it Ro. 4. circumcision the seal of righteousnesse of faith Yâ—â— was Abrahams Church no Jewish Church all but Abraham and Sarah being not of Eber but of other Ancestors Nor was it a nationall Church for they were all one intire congregation in covenant with God and each other implicitly at least and meeting constantly in one place to wor-God together as 600 might very well do if that 300. Genesis 14. were doubled that the weight of such pious educating of Children may appear namely to be Gods appointed means of good of grace in Children as the meanes for the full effecting of the promises of grace as the end which promises are made to godly Parents with respect to their children namely that God will be a God to them c. Gen. 17. 7. and 18. 19. For so God saith to this Father and pattern believer He will command his Children and they shall walk in his waies that God may bring upon Abraham in his Children also what he hath spoken of him with respect also to his Children Hence David in his instructing of Solomon taketh up the like speech 1 King 23. 4. and keep the Charge of the Lord that God may confirm his word and that promise in the generall Gen. 17. 7. being not of an absolute but of a conditionall nature So that the greatest love and faithfulness which Parents as Covenanters can shew to God and to their Children who in and with themselves are joynt Covenanters with God is so to educate them that what in them lieth the conditions of the
his Coronation Favour and Bounty to his Church for such high holy and honourable ends nor need I say more in honour of your children If becomming faithfull Ministers their Scripture titles do Emblazon that sufficiently Ministers being called Angels Rev. 2. 1. Embassadours 2 Cor. 5. 20. Stewards 1 Cor. 4. 1. Watchmen Ezek. 3. 17. Co-workers with God 1 Cor. 3. And many other titles of honour which he is pleased to crown Ministers withall As for motives I will but name two or three Motives to good education of Children 1. They are the Lords more than ours 1. Our Children are more the Lords than ours by Covenant-right by our own act of devoting them to him in Baptism Matth. 28. 19. and many other waies Ezek. 16. 20. Let Parents therefore bring up their Children for God in the best way they can 2. Education will greatly difference our Children 2. That will honourably distinguish them from others from others not so well educated as Lycurgus when he would convince the Lacedaemonians of the benefit of education he taketh two whelpes of one litter the one he traineth up to Hunting the other not the one proved of use to the field the other was good for nothing but for a cur in the Kitchin and experience witnesseth that ordinarily persons well educated become of very publick and good use more waies than one where ever God casteth their habitation others not so educated are little serviceable in any matters of publick concernment Socrates used to say that many Mens Sons who were without education were like couragious Horses without well ordering and government becomming very Asses or as it might be added resty Iades I need not apply it it s easily understood 3. The honour of good education will be 3. Children also will have the honour of it the sin of the contrary will lie upon the Parents partly the Childs and will partly reflect honour upon the Parents As that of Augustus who so well educated his Sones that what they spake he would have them speak it openly and then have the Speech as matter of worth and note publickly recorded But in neglect of good education Childrens sins will be charged upon Parents As in Elies case of neglect of well educating and Fatherly watching over his Sons Hophni Phineas 1 Sam. 2. 29 30. he is charged with kicking at his sacrifices why have ye kicked at my sacrifices c. The very Heathens by natures light so took this hence the Lacedaemonian Ephori they punished a certain Father for suffering two of his Sons to fall out and to fight one with another 4. It may somewhat awaken and move Christian 4. Even Heathens have been much for good education Justin l. 3. Parents to a more conscionable care in this matter of well educating your Children to consider some of the Lawes Acts and speeches of the very Heathen about this very particular Lycur-the Spartan Law-giver commanded that Youth should be brought into the field not into the Markets that they should spend their first year not in Lxury but in work and Labours And the Spartans had another Law that if any of their Free-men neglected the discipline of youth he should be disenffranched Aelian also speaketh of another sore punishment which the conquering Mytilenesians imposed upon their revolting associates that their Children should not be trained up to the liberall Sciences Plato was wont to reprove this as a grosse evill in those of his times that men would bestow all their care and paines in getting Riches but took little or no care about their Children unto whom they were to leave their Riches When one answered Aristippus that for a thousand drachmes which he demandded to bring up his Son to Learning that he could buy a servant nay saith the Philosopher you shall have two servants to wit him that you buy and your own Son too Diogenes sometime said he had rather be a Ram or sheep of a Megarensian than his Son whereby he declared that the Megarenses took more diligent care of their Cattel than of their Children To conclude with one admonitory Item to some in these daies who are secret enemies to catechizing Children and bringing them up in Learning Let them tremble to think with how like a spirit they are acted to that of that notorious Apostate Julian who designing the extirpation of the Christian Religion thought no way better than to put down catechising and Schooles of Learning as for other Parents who would full gladly bring up some of their Sones who have naturall partes for Learning but through Idlenesse or Voluptuousnesse or the like they will not be drawn to attend it or to be trained up to it let then some other way punish them with suitable epressions of Parentall distast and displeasure Solons law this way was somewhat too harsh that if Sons would not be drawn by their Parents to Learning their Parents should deny them necessaries but yet Christian Parents would do somewhat this way that such Children should know themselves and sufficiently see cause to bewail their folly and errour I have been long in this first way of Parents furthering Children in being an honour to them because it is of great moment we shall be briefer in the rest 2. Then let Christian Parents as a help to the said end be sure to leave your Children under 2. By leaving Children under Gods ordinances and good government Gods ordinances purely powerfully dispensed in the Church and under good government in the civill state The Children of Israel would not leave one of their Children in Egypt Exod. 10. 9 10. Where God pure Religion was not nay where sacrifices to the Lord was an abomination Exod. 8. 27. and where the government of the state was tyrannicall these better-minded people of Israel when the godly Priests were put down by Jeroboam and removed to Judah under Rehoboham and when Jeroboam set up corrupt unworthy fellowes to be priests they also removed themselves and families to Jerusalem 2 Chron. 11. 13 14 15 16. Hence that enquiry of the company of the godly Canticles 1. 7. Tell me O thou whom my Soul loveth where thou dwellest and where thou causest thy flock to rest at noon that parching time of enemies raging against the truth waies and people of Christ to which Christs answers vers 8. Go thy way forth by the footsteps of the flock the rest of my people and feed thy kids itttle ones by the shepheards godly Magistrates Ministers tents Alas for us and ours to go where Gods pure ordinances or goverment is not it is to expose our selves and them to to soul-ruines as David said in that case 1 Sam. 6. Cap. 16. They have cast me out this day from the Lords inheritance where his ordinances and Ministers and people are saying Go and serve other Gods their actions in driving me out amongst strangers to Gods pure Religion and Lawes do even as it were say Go
and serve other gods putting me upon that temptation to it But by leaving our Children under good ordinances and goverment we do hereby greatly further them in the best things and thereby also in becomming an honour to us For 1. They are furthered that way by your godly Ministers there and the pure dispensation of the word and ordinances by them when such Fishers are upon the Churches banks your fish of all hand great and small are wont to be caught and drawn to the Land Ezek. 47. 8 9 10. by John Baptists Ministry as we before shewed all is brought to rights 'twixt Children and Parents Mal. 4. 6. He shall turn the hearts of the fathers to the Children and the hearts of the Children to the father 2. They are much helped that way by the Churches and Saints Christian watch over them Counsels instructions and seasonable admonitions of them and prayers for them Peter as an Apostle having all virtuall Apostollical and Church power in him is charged with the feeding teaching and ruling of Christs Lambs as well as elder sheep Joh. 21. 15 16. The Children of the Church have a beneficiall privilege that they must be watched over kept from wanderings searched out if started aside and brought in if gone astray healed if diseased cherished and nourished up by all holy meanes of which they are capable kept to their pasturage watering folding and the like 3. They will be much helped by the good civill governours meanes also who is a nursing Father unto the Church and to her little Children Jsa 49. 23. and who is to take magistraticall care in speciall sort of the education of Children As even the heathen Aristotle saies it 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Arist polit l. 8. c. 1. That it is an unquestionable thing to all men that it especially concerneth the civill Law-giver to look to and make lawes about the education or disciplining of youth which being not attended saith he in States it overthroweth them It was one of Lycurgus his Lawes to restrain the carelesness of Parents in educating their children that after Children were seaven years old their Parents should not breed them up as they list but they should be disposed to certain companies of Children to be excercised to good instructions and discipline and when grown up to be Youths they should mispend no time without instructions and regulations and no doubt that Spartan state flourished the better for that and other like Laws of Lycurgus as stories tell us God himself maketh account that a godly ruling Eliakim is of great use to his people in respect of their offspring or Children whence that in Esai 22. 20 24. in a word the Lord doth promise it as a most advantageous privilege in the daies of the Gospel both to the godly returning Jewes and to their Children that they shall be in his Church and under his blessed ordinances in his Church in which he will be present his sanctuary shall be amongst them Ezek. 37. 25 26. and that they shall be under the goverment of Christ under the name of David Ibid. and that not alone ecclesiasticall in the Church but civill also in their Christian-state and Common-wealth all goverments civill and sacred being in a diverse respect Christs delivered to him of the Father Matth. 28. 18. and by him to Christian rulers Prov. 8. 15. as King of Kings and Lord of Lords 3. Let Christian Parents for the furtherance of their Children being an Honour to them take special care to maintain peace among their Children and to take away all occasion of breaches among them in after times this was Abrahams care in his life time to give Returahs Children their portions and so to send them away farther off from Isaac who was to hold on Abrabrahams Honour as a Covenant and church-Church-Father c. Gen. 25. 5 6. In defect of such Parentall care worse matters have fallen out in Christian Families to their Parents great dishonour 4. Let Christian Parents also for the end mentioned take speciall care of the well disposing of their Sons and Daughters in Matiage So did Abraham for his only Son as God in a sense called him Isaac Gen. 24. 1 2 3 c. So did Isaac and Rebeckah for Jacob Gen. 28. 2 3 c. Having smarted for the contrary neglect in Esau Gen. 27. 46. and both Isaac and Jacob proved an Honour to their Parents but Ishmael and Esau not looked after that way by their Parents were rather a reproach to them who begat them Hence that charge of God to Jewish Parents to look much to the disposing of their Children in Mariage Deu. 7. 3. Lastly let Christian Parents who would have their Children be an honour to them lay up many prayers for them for that end and accordingly exercise faith also in Gods promises for bringing the same to passe Psal â—0 16. Let thy glory appear to our Children and then vers 17. Let thy beauty be upon us so Psalm 144. 12. It is one great part of the matter and scope of their prayer that they may have an hopefull honourable and usefull posterity even as growing plants and as choise polished corner pieces of a Palace and when Hannah was now about disposing of young Samuel under Elies Tuition 1 Sam. 1. 23. all Hannahs prayer is this onely the Lord establish his word even that which he hath promised respecting this our Son And the godly Psalm 102. 28. are brought as acting of faith for this end the Children of thy servants shall continue and their seed shall be established before thee and if thus to continue before God then such as should honour Parents also both in a direct and reflect way as a meanes under God of their living long and continuing of them in the Land which God giveth them Thus much for the Exhortation respecting Parents 2. It is of Exhortation also to Children or unto persons as in the relation of Children whether Children in years or grown persons to be an honour to your godly Parents especially by imitation of what is good in them and following their gracious counsels and by holding on in the truths and waies of God wherein they have taught and led you without ever turning aside therefrom For which end let me briefly propound 1. Some motives 2. Some helpes The Motives to it may be such as these 1. In that such good interest of Children and such godly precepts and examples of Parents which are layed before them they are a special talent of mercy and therefore God expects that you should make an honourable inprovement of them Solomon speaketh of the same thus as his mercifull advantage Prov. 4. 3. For I was my Fathers Son vers 4. He taught me also and verse 10. Hear O my Son and receive my instruction and the yeares of thy life shall be many and so be an honour every way of Parents as a meanes to that end and then addeth vers 11. I have taught thee
eyes c. and vers 33. 34. they bring him into that snare In exposing rhem to temptations to them of Incest and they made their Father drink wine and the first night the Elder the next night the younger daughter went in and lay with her Father The like was the failing of the good old man Judg. 19. 23 24. behold here is my daughter saith he to those Sodomiticall Benjamites I will bring her out to you and humble her c. Levit. 19. 29. Do not prostitute thy daughter to be a whore lest the land fall to whoredome and the land become full of wickedness Such a blast of God followeth upon such sinfull acts of Parents And the like may be said of other evils of oppression pride c. when Parents professing Religion will put on your Children upon taking of oppressing wages prices upon new-fangled fashions such a generation commonly proveth degenerate and the shame of their Fathers houses 2. When you will be ingaging of your Children 2. By rash ingagements laid upon them in wayes which tend to insnaring of them as too many amongst Papists do their Children in vowes of virginity when not being able to contain they are insnared in wayes of unnatural pollutions and other filthy practices in secret and too oft of horrid Murthers of the fruit of their bodies in this way Jephtah was to blame who rashly vows Judg 11. 31. That whatsoever commeth out of his house to meet him returning in peace from the Children of Ammon shal surely be the Lords even the Lords votaries if they be persons or that he would offer it up for a burnt-offering namely if it were a meet thing to be offered for so the particle vau is to be read disjunctively for or and not conjunctively for and and so it is in the Margin of your larger Bibles of the New Edition and a little to digress for the cleering of this place Shindler Junius Mr. Perkins and others do so render and understand this vow of Jephtah's and the words of that Scripture And its usuall in Scripture so to take the particle vau disjunctively as Gen. 26. 11. He that toucheth this man vau or not and his wife shall die Ex. 20. 10. thou shalt not do any work thou or thy Sons or thy daughter c. Exod. 21. 15. he that smiteth his Father or his Mother shall dye if he smite not his Father yet if he smite his Mother its death Exod. 12. 5. yee shall take your Lamb out from the sheep or from the goats It is not and conjunctively as if there were to be taken a Lamb from the Sheep a Lamb from the Goats and so two Lambs Deut. 17. 1. yee shall not sacrifise to the Lord any Bullock or Sheep wherein is blemish It is disjunctive though they should not sacrifise a Bullock that is blemished yet if a blemished Sheep be sacrifised its culpable God had indeed provided a remedy in the law as for a Male Person so for a Female Person which any man had by vow devoted to God he was to pay in lieu of her 30. Sheckels Levit. 27. 2 4. And so Jephtah might have redeemed his daughter from this vow of virginity but he either was ignorant of it or in his rashness attended it not and therefore saith as vers 35. that he hath opened his mouth to the Lord and cannot go back which his daughter crediting yeeldeth to his rash vow v. 36. if so saith she do to me according to that which proceeded out of thy mouth and v. 37. Let me go two moneths up and down the mountains I and my fellows and bewail my virginity She saith not let me go and bewail my life as indeed she had greatest cause if her Father had been so bereft of all humanity as to intend to offer her up for a burnt-offering or so grosly haereticall as to think that any such forbidden unnaturall Murther might have been as a Sacrifice to God But let me go and bewail my Virginity to which she was now devoted and wherein she was offered to the Lord to be only sequestred to him and never to marry and have Children which to them was a great reproach and hence vers 40. The Daughters of Israel went out yearly namely to the house where she lived without the City apart from all company to talk with her so it is in the margin of the greater Bibles though rendred to Lament And so it is in Arias Montanus his interlineary Bible ad confabulandum to talk together So Buxtorfius in his Hebrew Lexicon renders it and quoteth Kimchi for it also as rendring this word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 ad confabulandum and so Judg. 5. 11. the same word in the same conjugation is rendred there 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 confabulabuntur they shall reherse together the righteous acts of the Lord not they shall lament those acts 3. When you are too neglectfull of your holy 3. By neglecting their holy watch over them watch over your Children to keep a wise and straight hand over them and that in time before your Children are grown too stiff and inflexible or too much hardned in ways tending to their Parents reproach when you carelesly leave your Children too much to themselves if they will pray or read the Scriptures or hear the word or attend unto it or give account of what they heard or read well but if they will not you do not much regard it If your Children are affected with their naturall state with things of Christ with their need of Christ so if otherwise you do not much inquire into it If your Children be secretly naught if they be company-keepers scoffers at purity and the like you look not narrowly after those things and so leave your Children in a manner to themselves and what wonder then if as Prov. 25. 11. A Child left to himself bringeth his Mother to shame 4. When you provide not seasonably and suitably 4. By not providing seasonably for them in marriage for your Children in Marriage or possibly having consented to the disposall of your children in marriage will rashly assay to cross your Children and break their conjugall Ingagements which with your consent they have made How frequently do reproaches arise to Parents from dishonourable consequences thereof in their Children Lot was too blame that he looked not out seasonably for some fit matches for his two daughters which had formerly minded marriage witness the contract between them and two men in Sodom called therfore for his Sons in Law which had married his daughters Gen. 19. 14. for they seeing no man like to come in to them in a conjugall way as v. 30. there is no man to come in to us after the manner of all the earth then they plotted that incestuous course whereby their Father was so highly dishonoured v. 32. come therefore let us make our Father drink wine and we will come and lie with him