and instruct our Children or Servants because they are stubborn and rebellious 3. Though our Children and Servants should be hard-hearted and rebellious yet we should not forbear or cease to instruct and teach them the good word of the Lord For 1. This will be a means to break their hard hearts and lead them to Repentance and keep them from being rebellious for time to come It will break their hearts though they be as hard as the Rock Jer. 23.29 Is not my word lik as a fire saith the Lord and like a Hammer that breaketh the Rock in pieces It will be a means to lead them to repentance though they be of such a refractory spirit as to oppose the the Truth and should be such slaves to Satan as to be led captive by him when and to what he pleaseth 2 Tim. 2.24 c. The servant of the Lord must not strive but be gentle unto all men apt to teach patient in meekness instructing those that oppose themselves if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth and that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the Devil who are taken captive at his will It may keep them from being rebellious for time to come Psal 78.5 7 8. He established a Testimony in Jacob and appointed a Law in Israel which he commanded our Fathers that they should make them known to their Children that they might set their hope in God and not forget the works of God and keep his Commandments and might not be as their Fathers a stubborn and rebellious Generation 2. We should sin against God if we should leave off teaching our Children or Servants because they carry themselves unkindly and disobediently towards us The people of Israel carried themselves stubbornly and rebelliously both against God and against Samuel 1 Sam. 8.7 19. yet Samuel tells them he would not cease to pray for them and to teach them lest he should sin against God 1 Sam. 12.23 Moreover as for me God forbid that I should sin against the Lord in ceasing to pray for you but I will teach you the good and the right way It is the Will and Command of God that rebellious and hard-hearted persons should be taught his Word as we may see Ezek. 2.3 4 7. where the Lord acknowledgeth the Children of Israel to be rebellious impudent and stiff-hearted and yet he saith to the Prophet Thou shalt speak my words unto them whether they will hear or whether they will forbear for they are most rebellious And if it be Gods Command that the Rebellious should be taught his Word it must needs be a sin to forbear teaching our Families though some or all of them are rebellious persons for then we sin when we transgress any of the Commandments of God 1 John 3.4 Sin is the transgression of the Law 3. Though our Children should for the present rebel against those Instructions and Commands which they receive from us yet afterward they may consider their ways and repent and follow those Counsels and Instructions which we have given them The elder Son spoken of in the Parable at first refused to obey his Father but afterwards he repented and did what his Father commanded him Matth. 21.28 29. A certain man had two Sons and he came to the first and said Son go work to day in my Vinyard he answered and said I will not but afterwards he repented and went 4. If your Children be hard-hearted weep over them when you instruct them that may be a means to break their hearts Acts 21.13 What mean you to weep and to break my heart It is said Job 14.13 The Water wear the Stones Seeing waters will wear the stones why may not you hope by your tears to dissolve and break the stony hearts of your Children SECT 6. The Plea of such as say their Children are too young to be instructed answered Object 6 Mr Children are young and it is too soon to begin to teach them the Scriptures they can't understand any thing as yet if I should go about to teach them and besides I am afraid I should prophane the word of God and take the Name of God in vain if I should teach them whilst they are young and therefore I will let this work alone until they are grown up unto years of discretion then I will do it Answ 1. We can't begin too soon to teach our Children the word of God As soon as they have learned to speak we should endeavour to learn them the Scriptures Isa 28.9 Whom shall he teach knowledge and whom shall he make to understand Doctrine Them that are weaned from the Milk and drawn from the Brests It is said of Timothy 2 Tim. 3.15 From a Child thou hast known the Holy Scriptures 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 which is rendred by the Vulgar Latin Ab infantia From thy Infancy and by Schmidius A primâ infantia From thy first Infancy the same greek word is translated Luke 18.15 Infants and Acts 7.19 Young Children Luke 2.12 A Babe The word imports that Timothy was taught the Scriptures very early as soon as ever he was capable of learning them That Precept which is given Prov. 22.6 Train up a Child in the Way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it implies that we should begin betimes to teach our Children the ways of the Lord. The Hebrew word used there for a Child as Schindler observes totam aetatem teneram complectitur comprehends all a mans tender years as Infancy Childhood Youth It is rendred a Babe Exod. 2.6 The Babe wept and it is applied to one that hath not capacity to discern between good and evil Isa 7.16 Before the Child shall know to refuse the evil and chuse the good So that when Solomon saith Train up a Child in the way that he should go this Precept reacheth our youngest Children and intimates we should begin very early with them to teach and instruct them as soon as there is any capacity in them to learn 2. Satan begins betimes to corrupt our Children and to teach them that which is evil We see many Children learn to lie as soon as they can speak Psal 58.3 They go astray as soon as they are born speaking lies Others learn to mock the people of God 1 King 2.23 There came forth little Children out of the City and mocked him Others learn other vices And shall not we begin as early to teach them good things as Satan begins to teach them wicked and evil things 3. There is a greater capacity in Children to learn and understand than many are aware of They are capable of receiving the holy Ghost whilst they are in their Mothers womb Luk. 1.15 41. And such on whom God pours out his Spirit whilst they are Infants are capable betimes of knowing the things of God We read Psal 8.2 Out of the mouths of Babes and Sucklings hast thou ordained strength because
made the same Jesus whom you have crucified both Lord Lord and Christ Now when they heard this they were pricked in their heart 2. To demonstrate to them out of the word of God the evil and danger of those things for which you rebuke them for Gods word is called the Sword of the Spirit Ephes 6.17 No sword cuts and pierces like the sword of the Spirit For the word of God is quick and powerful and sharper than any two edged Sword piercing even to the dividing asunder of Soul and Spirit and the Joynts and Marrow and is a Discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart Heb. 4.12 6. Reprove with wisdom for when a Reproof is managed wisely it becomes more amiable and successful Prov. 25.12 As an ear-ring of Gold and an Ornament of fine Gold so is a wise Reprover upon an obedient ear Our wisdom must be discovered in taking the fittest time for giving a Reproof and doing it in a judicious manner Eccles 8.5 A wise mans heart discerneth both time and judgment We must take the fittest time we must not defer too long We must do it when we are in the best capacity to give and the offending party to receive a Reproof We must reprove with Judgement which will teach us to weigh and consider the nature of the Offence and the Offender Some persons are of a more softly yielding disposition than others a word will do more with one than many blows with another Prov. 17.10 A Reproof entreth more into a wise man than a hundred stripes into a fool Some Offences are more heinous for their own nature and for their circumstances than others In some cases we are to rebuke secretly Mat. 18.15 Go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone In some cases we are to rebuke publickly in the presence of all 1 Tim. 5.20 Them that sin rebuke before all that others also may fear Wisdom will direct us what to do in these and other such like Cases Eccles 10.10 Wisis profitable to direct And that we may manage this work the more wisely we must not go about it rashly but consult with our selves about the fittest season and best manner of giving a Reproof Neb. 5.7 Then I consulted with my self and rebuked the Nobles Prov. 13.10 With the well-advised is wisdom 7. Look to God for Direction Courage and Success in giving a Reproof and rest upon him for his blessing for the success of every work we take in hand depends upon Gods blessing And therefore we must pray to God to assist accept and prosper us in this work And as we must pray so also rest upon God for his blessing in the administring a Reproof whether it be to such as are unconverted or to such as are in a state of Grace for God hath promised to bless Reproof to both sorts To such as are gracious Prov. 19.25 Reprove one that hath understanding and he will understand knowledge To such as are yet in their sins Pro. 24.25 To them that rebuke him that is a wicked person spoken of ver 24. shall be delight and a good blessing shall come upon them 8. Reprove and tell them of their faults with a tender compassionate heart not in an insulting way or in a way of jesting or jearing but rather mourning over them and for them Phil. 3.18 Many walk of whom I told you often and now tell you even weeping that they are Enemies of the Cross of Christ When the Apostle wrote an Epistle to the Corinthians to reprove them for their indulging the incestuous person he tells them Out of much affliction and anguish of heart I wrote unto you with many tears 2 Cor. 2.4 SECT 8. The Benefits of Correction Directions for Correcting Children Direct 8 IF Reproofs do not prevail with your Children to practise those things which you teach them out of the Scriptures correct them Correction joyned with Instruction rightly administred is the way to make our Children holy and gracious Prov. 19.15 The Rod and Reproof give Wisdom but a Child left to himself bringeth his Mother to shame It maketh Children prove great blessings and comforts to their Parents Prov. 29.17 Correct thy Son and he shall give thee rest yea he shall give delight unto thy Soul Correction will be a means of preventing their eternal Damnation by effecting their Reformation Prov. 23.13 14. With-hold not Correction from the Child for if thou beatest him with the Rod he shall not die Thou shalt beat him with the Rod and shalt deliver his Soul from Hell Though they be never so much addicted to any sin which seems to be deeply and fast rooted in their Souls Correction prudently and rightly administred will be a means to reform them and make them leave their sins Prov. 22.15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a Child but the Rod of Correction will drive it far from him Prov. 20.30 The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil so do stripes the inward parts of the Belly If any ask How should we correct our Children so as to make our Corrections become effectual for their good I answer 1. Begin with them betimes before they have got too great an head or are habituated to sin A Twig is easily bent and made straight whilst it is young but being let alone for some years it becomes inflexible Prov. 19.18 Chasten thy Son while there is hope Prov. 13.24 He that spareth his Rod hateth his Son but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes 2. Be not overcome with fond pity either by their crying or pleading with you to with-hold correction from them when you see it meet and necessary to correct them Prov. 19.18 Chasten thy Son while there is hope and let not thy Soul spare for his crying They had better cry and roar under your Rod than roar under Gods wrath in Hell to all Eternity 3. Joyn Faith and Prayer with your Corrections Pray to God to bless the Corrections as well as the Instructions which you give your Children and though you see no present fruit of your Corrections yet be not discouraged but rest upon Gods promises who hath promised that Correction shall make our Children leave their sins Prov. 22.15 and be a means to save their souls Prov. 23.13 14. 4. In correcting your Children imitate God in correcting his Children As for instance 1. God joyns Instruction with Correction and thereby his Corrections come to have a blessed effect upon his Children Psal 94.12 Blessed is the man whom thou chastenest O Lord and reachest him out of thy Law Deal thus with your Children when you chasten them teach them out of the Scriptures the evil of those things for which you correct them 2. When God chastens he doth not only shew us our sins but layeth his commands upon us to leave off our sins Job 36.8 9 10. If they be holden in cords of affliction then he sheweth them their work and their transgression that they have
against thee As is the Mother so is the Daughter So that if Mothers live religiously and shew a good example to their Children and instruct them out of Gods word there is great hope that their Children will become Religious also It is remarkable both amongst the good and evil Kings that were in Judah and Israel that the Scripture doth frequently record their Mothers names as for good Kings we may see 1 Kings 22.42 43. 2 Kings 18.2 3. and 22.12 And for evil Kings 2 King 8.26 27. 1 Kings 15.2 3. which sheweth that the Mothers example and carriage amongst her Children hath a great influence upon them to make them either good or evil 6. Mothers have greater opportunities to be instilling good things into their Children than their Fathers for they are oftener with them especially whilst they are young as they are dressing or undressing them or giving them meat or sitting with them at work or walking abroad with them they should be talking with them of the word of God Deut. 6.6 7. And every one is to do good according to the opportunities that God puts into their hands Gal. 6.10 7. Hereby Mothers may do great service for Christ in training up Children for the Lord All the good that such Children shall do in their generation shall redound to the Mothers Comfort and Reward The Apostle mentioneth the bringing up of Children by which is meant bringing them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord amongst the first and chiefest good works which women are able to do in their generation 1 Tim. 5.10 Well reported of for good works if she have brought up Children 8. What service women do for Christ he takes as kindly as he doth what men do for him when there was a woman poured upon his head a Box of pretious Oyntment though the Disciples had indignation yet the Lord Jesus took it well from her and said that this act of the woman should be had in remembrance and be spoken of to her praise as long as the Gospel should be preached in the world Mat. 26.13 Verily I say unto you Wheresoever this Gospel shall be preached in the whole world there also this that this woman hath done shall be told for a memorial of her If you that are Mothers teach Gods word to your Children and labour to bring them up in the knowledge and fear of God the Lord Jesus will take this more kindly from you than he took this box of pretious Oyntment from this woman which anointed his body against his burial And that may be evidenced several ways 1. Christ was more pleased with those that minded his word than with those that were at the cost and trouble to provide for his Body as appears from the case of Mary and Martha Mary sat at Jesus feet and heard his word but Martha was cumbred with much serving Luk. 10.38 39. Hereupon Martha complains to Christ that her sister had left her to serve alone and desires him to bid Mary to help her but Christ commends Mary's choice and her work who was employed about his word above Martha's who was employed in preparing food for his Body and those that were with him Vers 40 41 42. 2. The Lord Jesus loves your Childrens Souls as well as he loves his own Body he gave his own Body to be crucified to save your Childrens Souls And therefore doubtless it is as acceptable to see you endeavouring to save your Childrens Souls by instructing and teaching them out of his holy Word as it was to have his Body anointed with pretious Ointment 3. The Name of God and Christ is like pretious Ointment Cant. 1.3 Thy Name is as Ointment poured forth Yea it is more precious than any Ointment in the World And when you bring your Children acquainted with the Name of God and Christ by instructing them out of the Word of God you convey that to them which is beyond all the pretious Ointment in the world 4. The Ointment that was poured on Christs Body did bur little if any thing advantage the body of Christ he accepted it not so much for the advantage he had by it as he did for the Faith and Love which the Woman manifested in this work But by instructing your Children out of the Word of God you shall greatly promote the good and welfare of their pretious Souls If the Lord Jesus did so kindly accept the Womans anointing his body with precious Ointment that he recorded her praise in the Gospel and will have the Memorial thereof preserved in all Ages throughout the whole World Then doubt not you that are Mothers that if you instruct your Children in the knowledge of his Word but he will accept this very kindly at your hands and cause this good Work of yours to be had in eternal Remembrance CHAP. II. Motives to stir up Parents and Masters of Families to instruct their Children and Servants in the Knowledge and to train them up in the obedience of the Scriptures IN the former Chapter I have proved it to be the Duty of Parents and Masters of Families to train up their Children and Servants in the knowledge and obedience of the Scriptures I shall now proceed to lay down some Motives to stir up those that neglect this good work to be diligent constant and conscientious in the performance of their Duty in teaching and instructing their Familier SECT 1. Instructing our Children and Servants out of the Scriptures will be a means of their Conversion Reasons why we should endeavour their Conversion Motive 1 INstructing your Children and Servants out of the word of God will be a powerful and an effectual means to convert and save their souls For The Law of the Lord is perfect converting the Soul Psal 19.7 And The Gospel is the power of God to salvation Rom. 1.16 The Commandment is a Lamp and the Law is Light and Reproofs of instruction are the way of Life Prov. 6.23 Though they be such as walk in sinful and destructive courses by teaching and instructing them out of the Scriptures they may be converted from their sins unto God Psal 5.13 I will teach Transgressors thy ways and Sinners shall be converted unto thee We read of Cornelius that both he himself and all his house were saved by the word wherewith they were instructed by Peter Act. 11.14 Who shall tell thee words whereby thou and all thy house shall be saved In like manner if Governours of Families did carefully instruct their Families out of the word of God they might in so doing both save themselves and all their house With what diligence with what speed with what alacrity with what a resolved minde to persevere therein under all discouragements should you set upon this work seeing there is hope that hereby you may save your Children and your Servants Souls That this argument may have the greater force to perswade and prevail with you to set your hearts to this work Consider 1. What
the same shall judge him in the last day Rev. 20.12 And I saw the dead small and great stand before God and the Books were opened and another Book was opened which is the Book of Life and the Dead were judged out of those things which were written in the Books according to their works SECT 14. They deal unjustly with their Families who defraud them of the Instruction that is due to them Motive 14 THe Law of Equity requires that Parents should use their utmost diligence to instill knowledge into their Children and to train them up in a godly sort 1. Because they have been instrumental to convey to them a sinful ignorant nature Psal 51.5 Job 14.4 If one man had hurt another the Law of God delivered by Moses required that he should be at the cost and pains to get him throughly healed Exod. 21.19 He shall pay for the loss of his time and cause him to be throughly healed Seeing Parents are instrumental to convey that sin to their Children which hath given their Souls a deadly wound t is but just and equal that they should be at the cost and take pains to get them healed of their ignorance and do what in them lieth to get their Souls converted to the Lord. 2. It is just and equal that we should teach our Children because God hath taught us his Word for this very end and purpose that we should teach the same unto our Children Deut. 4.10 The Lord said unto me Gather the people together and I will make them hear my words that they may teach their Children 3. Justice requires that we should give to every one that which is due to him He that detains from any one that which is his due when it is required and it is in the power of his hand to render it is an unjust man Now Instruction is due to our Children and Servants for God commands us as we have heard before to instruct them and their necessity calleth aloud upon us to be diligent in teaching and instructing them and therefore we cannot withhold instruction from them without being guilty of injustice And it is a great crime to be guilty of injustice Unjust persons are accounted amongst the chiefest of Sinners And to with-hold from our Children or Servants that which is due to their Souls is greater injustice then to wrong them in their Estates or in those things which are due to to their outward man If then we would fulfill that Precept Col. 4.1 Masters give unto your Servants that which is just and equal knowing that ye have a Master in Heaven And that of the Apostle Rom. 13.7 Render to all their dues And that of Solomon Prov. 3.27 With-hold not good from them to whom it is due when it is in the power of thine hand to do it We must not neglect this good work of teaching and instructing our Children and Servants seeing Instruction is due to them Let thus much suffice by way of motive to stir up Parents and Masters of Families to set upon a diligent performance of this duty of training up their Children and Servants in the Knowledge and Obedience of the Scriptures CHAP. III. Directions for managing of this work of Family-Instruction so as to promote the Conversion Edification and Eternal Salvation of all that are under our Charge I Shall in the next place proceed to some Directions for the successful managing of this work of Family-Instruction and shall shew how we should carry it on so as to promote the Conversion Edification and Eternal Salvation of all such as are under our Charge SECT 1. Such as would instruct their Families in the knowledge of the Scriptures must be diligent in studying the Scriptures Direct 1 IF we would instruct our Families in the knowledge of the Scriptures it is necessary that we our selves should be well acquainted with them and that we may come to be well acquainted with the Scriptures we must read them often observe diligently what we read and pray to God to open our understandings that we may understand his holy Word and lay up what he teacheth us in our hearts and meditate in his Law night and day Before the Lord commands us to teach his Word to our Children he prefixeth this Charge That we should lay up his Word in our own hearts Deut. 6.6 7. These words which I command thee this day shall be in thine heart and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy Children And the Apostle calls upon those whom he would have teach others to let the word of Christ dwell richly in themselves Col. 3.16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another A daily searching of the Scriptures attended with Meditation and Prayer will greatly advantage us in this work of Family-Instruction and that in several respects I will instance in two 1. Hereby we shall be furnished with wisdom and knowledge Psal 119.98 99. Thou through thy Commandments hast made me wiser than mine Enemies for they are ever with me I have more understanding than all my Teachers for thy Testimonies are my meditation And the more we are furnished with Heavenly Wisdom the more dextrous and ready we shall be to win those Souls that are committed to our charge Prov. 11.30 He that winneth Souls is wise 2 Cor. 12.16 Being crafty I caught you with guile And as wisdom will make us dextrous in winning Souls to Christ so also it will conduce much to the inabling of us to edifie and build up such as are brought home to him Col. 1.28 Teaching every man in all wisdom that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus The Romans who were filled with knowledge were thereby made able to teach and admonish others Rom. 15.14 I my self am perswaded of you my Brethren that ye also are full of Goodness filled with all knowledge able also to admonish one another 2. By searching the Scriptures and meditating on them night and day we shall become successful in this work of Family-Instruction God will make this work prosper in our hands to the Conversion Edification and Salvation of such as he hath committed to our care to be instructed in his holy word For the Lord hath promised that whatsoever that man doth who meditates in his Law it shall prosper Psal 1.1 2 3. Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly But his delight is in the Law of the Lord and in his Law doth he meditate day and night And he shall be like a tree planted by the Rivers of water that bringeth forth his fruit in his season his leaf also shall not wither and whatsoever he doth shall prosper Ezra who was a ready Scribe in the Law of Moses Ezra 7.6 taught Gods Word to the people of Israel vers 10. And what effect had his teaching It had great power to humble and reform the people Ezra 10.1 12. The people wept very sore
thine heart and tie them about thy neck when thou goest it shall lead thee when thou sleepest it shall keep thee when thou awakest it shall talk with thee 6. The abiding of Gods word in our hearts and memories will help our perseverance 1 John 2.24 If that which ye have heard from the beginning shall remain in you ye also shall continue in the Father and in the Son The way to abide in Christ is to let his word abide in us John 15.7 If ye abide in me and my words abide in you 7. It will help forward our salvation to keep in memory the word of God 1 Cor. 15.2 By which also ye are saved if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you It is not only useful to such as are in a state of Grace to treasure up Gods word in their memories but also to the Unconverted for it may be a means of their Conversion and turning unto God Psal 22.27 All the ends of the world shall remember and turn unto the Lord Seeing therefore it is so advantagious for all sorts of persons to have Gods Word treasured up in their memories cause both your Servants and Children to commit to and keep in memory what you teach them out of the Scriptures and to that purpose cause them often to reherse those Scriptures wherein they have been instructed The Hebrew word which we translate teach diligently Deut. 6.7 Thou shalt teach them diligently to thy Children signifieth also to repeat often one and the same thing to inculcate it again and again with much diligence And let not the rehearsing of the same Scriptures by and to the members of your Family be irksome and tedious to you seeing it will prove beneficial to them For what the Apostle faith of writing the same things to the same persons viz. to the Church at Philippi Phil. 3.1 To write the same things to you to me indeed is not grievous but for you it is safe The same I may say of repeating the same things in our Families it should not be grievous to you seeing it is safe for them SECT 6. The necessity of watching over our Families Direct 6 WAtch over your Families and see whether they live according to those Instructions which you give them out of the Word of God Solomon speaking of a vertuous Woman saith of her Prov. 31.27 She looketh well to the ways of her houshold A Governour of a Family must not only instruct his Houshold but look yea look well to the ways of his Houshold that he may see that none of them live in any vice or in the neglect of their duty to God or their Neighbour We read of a man which sowed good seed in his field but while men slept the Enemy came and sowed Tares among the Wheat Matth. 13.24 25. Though we sow the good Seed of the word in our Families yet if we sleep when we have done that is if we be secure and careless and do not watch over them the Enemy will come and endeavour to sow Tares either the Tares of Error or the Tares of Strife and Dissention or some other evils To quicken you to this duty of watching over your Families consider 1. How prone mans nature is unto that which is evil our proneness to sin is so great that they which have had good and wholesome Instructions given to them are very apt to turn aside and go astray if they be left but a little to themselves A remarkable instance of this we have in the Children of Israel who upon Moses his absence by the space only of forty days fell into the sin of Idolatry and made a golden Calf and worshipped the same for the God that brought them out of the Land of Egypt Exod. 32.1 to vers 9. And yet Israel had received many good instructions from Moses yea they had heard God himself speaking to them from Mount Sinai and delivering his Law to them wherein he had expresly charged them not to make to themselves any graven image c. And to beget the greater Reverence of his Law there were such Thundrings and Lightnings and such dreadful fire as that Moses and all the people quaked and trembled with fear And notwithstanding this solemn delivery of the Law of God they quickly fell into this fearful sin of Idolatry Exod. 32.8 They have turned aside quickly out of the way that I commanded them It was not above six weeks as some compute the time after the delivery of the Law that they made this Calf not above six months after they came out of Egypt as Rivet observes This sin of theirs was the more to be wondered at because they had seen the mighty works of God upon the Egyptians whose gods could not deliver them out of the Lords hand they had also seen his wonders at the red Sea besides they bad in a solemn manner promised obedience to all the Commands of God Exod. 24.3 All the people answered with one voice and said All the words which the Lord hath said will we do And yet after all the Instructions and all the Ingagements that lay upon them to obey the Lord they quickly fell into that foul sin of Idolatry 2. Consider what a mighty charge you have to look after It is beyond Silver or Gold or precious Stones you have the Souls of your Families committed to your charge you have such a charge of them as that you must give an account to God for them Heb. 13.17 Obey them that have the Ruleover you and submit your selves for they watch for your souls as they that must give account SECT 7. The Vsefulness of Reproof and Directions about giving Reproof Direct 7 WHen your Children or Servants do any thing contrary to the Instructions you have given them out of the Word of God Rebuke and Reprove them Reproofs grounded upon the Word of God and wisely administred will be a great furtherance of their Souls salvation as you may see Prov. 6.23 The Commandment is a Lamp and the Law is Light and Reproofs of Instruction are the way of Life The sence of which is this the Law of God gives us Light and Direction how to order our Conversations aright and when persons are instructed out of this Law and reproved when they go astray from it this is the way to save their Souls Although some persons in your Families should be addicted to lying and other hainous sins and have been habituated to them for a long season yet you may hope by instructing and reproving them according to the Rules of Gods Word that you shall reclaim them from their Vices and make them sound and sincere Christians The Cretians were notorious Lyars and so given to sensuality that they seemed more like Beasts than Men slothful persons that minded little else but their Bellies yet the Apostle would not have Titus despair of reforming them and making these Cretians sound and good Christians And what course doth he direct
instil Grace into their hearts and to convert them to God Psal 34.16 Come ye Children hearken unto me I will teach you the fear of the Lord. We should not only teach our Children to know the Lord but we must also teach them to fear the Lord. It may be you will say Can we instil Grace into our Children Can we put the fear of God into their hearts Can we give them Repentance I answer No but we may use the means and in so doing we may hope for Gods blessing If you ask What means should we use to instil Grace into and convert such of our Families as are in a graceless unconverted condition I answer 1. Warn them of the danger of a graceless unconverted condition tell them That except they be converted they cannot enter into the Kingdom of Heaven Mat. 18.3 and that if they do not repent they will most certainly perish be cast into everlasting burnings Luk. 13.3 Mat. 13.41 42. And therefore warn them often of the danger of living and dying in an impenitent condition Warning persons of the danger and damnable nature of sin is an effectual means to prevent their dying in their sins and to bring them to repentance and salvation 2 Chron. 19.10 Ye shall warn them that they trespass not against the Lord Ezek. 3.21 He shall surely live because he is warned Ezek. 33.5 He that taketh warning shall deliver his Soul If you find that after many warnings there is no amendment yet cease not to warn them day after day and year after year and that with much tenderness till you see some fruit of your labours Act. 20.31 By the space of three years I ceased not to warn every one night and day with tears 2. Take all occasions to discourse with them about the things of God especially of those things wherein you have formerly instructed them out of the Word of God Good Discourse is a means of conveying Grace to those with whom we converse Ephes 4.29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth but that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister Grace to the Hearers 3. Reprove them when they do that which is contrary to the Will of God and if Reproofs will not make them reform joyn Correction with Reproof Reproof and Correction are means of instilling grace into our Children Prov. 29.15 The Rod and Reproof give Wisdom 4. Stir them up to consider their ways how contrary they are to the Word of God and what will be the fruit and effect of their sins if they repent not A serious consideration of our ways is a means of leading us to repentance Psal 119.59 I thought on my ways and turned my feet unto thy Testimonies Ezek. 18.28 Because he considereth and turneth away from all his transgressions 5. Stir them up to read and meditate upon the Word of God that may be a means of converting their Souls Psal 19.7 The Law of the Lord is perfect converting the Soul 6. Cause them to attend upon the Publick Ministry of the Word The preaching of the Word is the usual means of working Grace in our hearts Jam. 1.18 Of his own Will begat he us with the Word of Truth Acts 10.44 While Peter yet spake these words the holy Ghost fell on all them which heard the Word 7. Exhort them to forsake ungodly company and to walk and converse with them that fear God Prov. 9.6 Forsake the foolish and live and walk in the way of understanding Prov. 13.20 He that walketh with wise men shall be wise 8. Be earnest with God to give them saving Grace By prayer to God we may obtain Grace for others as well as for our own Souls 1 John 5.16 If any man see his Brother sin a sin which is not unto death he shall ask and he shall give him life for them that sin not unto death Secondly If upon discoursing with your Families you find they profit by the Instructions you give them and that they obey from the heart that Form of Doctrine which you deliver to them and that they grow in Grace and in the knowledge of JESUS CHRIST Then 1. Be thankful to God for blessing your Labours Rom. 6.17 God be thanked that ye were the Servants of sin but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of Doctrine which was delivered you 2. Love the Lord for causing your Family to flourish and prosper by those instructions that you give them Cant. 7.11 12. Come my Beloved let us go up early to the Vineyards let us see if the Vine flourish whether the tender Grape appear and the Pomegranates bud forth there will I give thee my loves Our Families may be compated to Vineyards the Wife is resembled by the Psalmist to a Vine and the Children to Olive-Plants Psal 128.3 The Governour of the Family is placed in this Vineyard as Adam was in Eden to dress it and to keep it Now such of us as are made keepers of Vineyards should be often looking whether the Vine flourish whether the tender Grape appear and when we go about this work we should call to CHRIST to go with us and assist us And if we find any Grapes though they be but tender yea if we perceive but any Buds any thing that gives us hope of Fruit we should give the Lord JESUS not only our love but our loves that is we should love him abundantly for 't is He that gives a Blessing to our Labours 1 Cor. 3.6 I have planted Apollo watered but God gave the increase 3. Exhort them to look to themselves that they do not lose what you have by Gods Blessing wrought in them that so neither you nor they may lose your Reward 2 John 8. Look to your selves that ye lose not those things which we have wrought but that we may receive a full Reward When Jesus saw some of the Jews believing he exhorted and incouraged them to continue in his word John 8.30 31. As he spake these words many believed on him then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him If ye continue in my word then are ye my Disciples indeed 4. Endeavour to make them more Fruitful Thus God dealeth with his Children that bring forth fruit he teacheth and helpeth them to bring forth more Fruit John 15.2 Every Branch that beareth Fruit he purgeth it that it may bring forth more Fruit. The more fruitful any Christian is the more glory he bringeth to God vers 8. Herein is my Father glorified that ye bear much fruit 5. Direct them to the right end in bearing Fruit which is not any selfish interest for that Fruit which is brought forth for selfish ends is in Gods account as good as none Hos 10.1 Israel is an empty Vine he bringeth forth fruit unto himself The glorifying and pleasing God is that which we must aim at in our bearing fruit Rom. 7.4 That we should bring forth fruit unto God 6. Endeavour that they may
the training up our Families in the knowledge of the Scriptures cause the Ministry or Ministers of Gods word to be slighted but on the contrary the more our Children and Servants are acquainted with the Scriptures the more they will prize and reverence the Ministers of Christ for the Scriptures do teach us to esteem very highly of Christs Ministers 1 Thes 5.12 13. We beseech you Brethren to know them that labour among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you and to esteem them very highly in love for their works sake Rom. 10.15 How beautiful are the feet of them that preach the Gospel of Peace and bring glad Tydings of good things 1 Tim. 5.17 Let the Elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour especially they who labour in the Word and Doctrine They are stiled Christs Embassadors 2 Cor. 5.20 Now we are Ambassadours for Christ And who are more honoured than the Embassadours of an Earthly Prince The Scriptures shew what a great sin it is to despise the Ministers of Christ the Lord Jesus counts himself and his Father despised when they are despised Luke 10.16 He that heareth you heareth me and he that despiseth you despiseth me and he that despiseth me despiseth him that sent me 1 Thes 4.8 He that despiseth despiseth not man but God who also hath given unto us his holy Spirit So that the training up of our Families in the fear of God and knowledge of the Scriptures will be so far from causing them to slight the Ministers of Christ or the Ministry of the Word that it will cause them to reverence and esteem them SECT 16. It is dangerous to neglect reading the Scriptures or teaching them our Children from this Plea That we need do nothing more than follow the Light within us Object 16 THere is a Light in all Men Women and Children which will teach them to do that which is just and right in the sight of God and men and will lead them to Life and Salvation if they do but follow the Light that is in them So that we judge it needless to read the Scriptures or to instruct our Families in the knowledge of the Scriptures we do enough if we call upon them to follow the Light that is within them Answ It is a great and dangerous mistake for a man to neglect reading and searching the Scriptures and instructing his Family in the knowledge of the Scriptures from a perswasion that neither he nor his Family need to do any thing more towards the obtaining Salvation than to follow the Light that is in them To make this evident Consider 1. There is no man hath so much Light or Knowledge but it is necessary that he should give himself to the reading of the Scriptures thas he may gain more Knowledge All men may be ranked under these two heads either they are such as abide in their natural unregenerate condition or they are such as are converted and endued with the grace of God As for men in their natural condition they are destitute of saving knowledge Rom. 3.11 There is none that understandeth there is none that seeketh after God 1 Cor. 2.14 The natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God for they are foolishness unto him neither can he know them because they are spiritually discerned Rom. 1.31 Without understanding They are said to be in darkness 1 John 2.9 11. He that saith he is in the Light and hateth his Brother is in darkness even until now He that hateth his Brother is in darkness and walketh in darkness and knoweth not whither he goeth because that darkness hath blinded his eyes They are said not only to be in darkness but to be darkness it self Ephes 5.8 Ye were sometimes darkness but now are ye Light in the Lord walk as Children of Light And therefore men in their natural condition had need give themselves to reading of the Scriptures that they may be inlightned and converted to God Psal 19.7 8. The Law of the Lord is perfect converting the Soul the Testimony of the Lord is sure making wise the simple The Commandment of the Lord is pure inlightning the eyes And that they may be made wise to salvation for the knowledge of the Scriptures will make men wise to salvation 2 Tim. 3.15 From a Child thou hast known the holy Scriptures which are able to make thee wise to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus As for such as are inlightned and converted to God even those of them that are endued with the greatest measure of saving knowledge have need to read the Scriptures daily and diligently that they may get more knowledge for the wisest men are imperfect in knowledge The Apostle Paul saith of himself that he knew but in part 1 Cor. 13.12 Now we see through a glass darkly but then face to face Now I know in part but then I shall know even as also I am known David who was wiser then his Enemies Psal 119 98. and had more understanding than all his Teachers vers 99. and understood more than the Ancients vers 100. doth acknowledge before God that he had much folly and ignorance Psal 69.5 O God thou knowest my foolishness Psal 73.22 So foolish was I and ignorant I was as a Beast before thee And he prayeth with great earnestness unto God to give him knowledge and understanding and to teach him his Statutes as we may see Psal 119.18 Open thou mine eyes that I may behold wondrous things out of thy Law Verse 33. Teach me O Lord the way of thy Statutes Vers 34. Give me understanding and I shall keep thy Law Verse 125. I am thy Servant give me under standing that I may know thy Testimonies And in many other places We are commanded to grow in knowledge as well as in grace 2 Pet. 3.18 But grow in grace and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ And therefore seeing the Scriptures are the means whereby we get knowledge Psal 119.104 Through thy Precepts I get understanding And the means of increasing knowledge verse 99. I have more understanding than all my Teachers for thy Testimonies are my meditation It is necessary that they who have the greatest measure of Light and Understanding should read and meditate in the Word of God night and day that they may grow in knowledge 2. There are some sins which that Light which is in natural men cannot discover without the help of the Word and Spirit of God As for instance The first motions of sin though not consented to are sin for they are transgressions of the Law which saith Thou shalt not covet The Law doth not only say Thou shalt not consent to thou shalt not follow or yeild to thy inordinate desires but it forbids the motions themselves Thou shalt not covet Now the Apostle Paul telleth us he had not known these first motions which he calls by the name of lust to be
sin if it had not been for the Law of God Rom. 7.7 Nay I had not known sin but by the Law for I had not known lust except the Law had said Thou shalt not covet Not to believe in Jesus Christ is a great sin it is a sin for which God will damn men at the day of Judgment Mark 16.16 He that believeth not shall be damned Now the Light of Nature doth not convince a man that it is a sin not to believe in Jesus Christ it is by the Scripture which holdeth forth the damnable nature of this sin of not believing in Jesus Christ John 3.18 He that believeth not is condemned already because he hath not believed in the name of the onely begotten Son of God And by the help of the Spirit that we come to be convinced of the sin of not believing in Christ John 16.8 9. And when he that is the Spirit which is the Comforter spoken of in the former verse is come he will reprove the world of Sin of Righteousness and of Judgment of Sin because they believe not in me And as there are some sins of which natural Light doth not convince a man so those sins of which it doth convince a man it doth not convince with such clearness and power as the Law doth which stops a mans mouth and makes him fall down before God as as a lost undone Creature Rom. 3.19 20. Now we know that what things soever the Law saith it saith to them who are under the Law that every mouth may be stopped and all the world may become guilty before God By the Law is the knowledge of sin 3. There are several Points of the Christian Religion of great moment which that Light that is in natural men discovereth not neither can we know them any other ways but by the help of the Scriptures or by immediate Revelation from God As for instance To know and believe that Jesus of Nazareth is the promised Messiah is of such moment as that we can't be saved unless we believe him to be the Messiah John 8.24 I said therefore unto you That ye shall die in your sins for if ye believe not that I am he ye shall die in your sins Now this knowledge Flesh and Blood Nature in its highest improvements cannot attain it must either be by Revelation from God Matth. 16.15 16 17. Whom say ye that I am And Simon Peter answered and said Thou art Christ the Son of the living God And Jesus answered and said unto him Blessed art thou Simon Bar-jona for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee but my Father which is in Heaven Or by the help of the Scriptures And therefore when Apollos would convince the Jews that Jesus was the Christ he did it by the Scriptures Acts 18.28 For he mightily convinced the Jews and that publickly shewing by the Scriptures that Jesus was Christ And this way the Apostle Paul took also he alledged those Scriptures that spoke of the Messiah and explained them and thereby proved to them that Jesus of Nazareth was Christ And Paul as his manner was went in unto them and three Sabbath days reasoned with them out of the Scriptures opening and alledging that Christ must needs have suffered and risen again from the dead and that this Jesus whom I preach unto you is Christ It is of great moment to know what that Righteousness is whereby a Sinner should come to be justified in the sight of God If a man be ignorant of this Righteousness he will seek to establish his own and will not submit to the Righteousness of God Rom. 10.3 For they being ignorant of Gods Righteousness and going about to establish their own Righteousness have not submitted themselves unto the Righteousness of God The Light of Nature cannot find out this Righteousness it is no where revealed but in the Gospel Rom. 1.16 17. I am not ashamed of the Gospel of Christ for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth to the Jew first and also to the Greek for therein is the Righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith as it is written The Just shall live by faith That there are Three Persons and yet but One God is plainly revealed in the Scriptures 1 John 5.7 There are Three that bear Record in Heaven the Father the Word and the Holy Ghost and these Three are One But without the help of the Scriptures the Light of Nature can attain to but little or no knowledge of this great Mystery And as there are some Doctrines so also some Duties in the Christian Religion which the Light of Nature cannot discover As for instance Baptizing of persons with water in the Name of the Father Son and holy Ghost is an Ordinance of Jesus Christ which he would have continued and with which he will afford his presence to the end of the world Matth. 28 19 20. So also is eating Bread and drinking Wine in the Lords Supper and Ordinance of Christ to be continued in the Church till his coming to Judgment 1 Cor. 11.26 As often as ye eat this Bread and drink this Cup ye do shew forth the Lords death till he come But natural Light doth not teach a man that it is his duty to be baptized or to receive the Lords Supper It is from the Scriptures we learn that Baptism and the Lords Supper are Ordinances of Jesus Christ and that the use of these Ordinances is to be continued in the Church of Christ to the end of the World 4. The Light which we must attend unto and follow and by which we must order our Lives and Conversations is the Mind and Will of God revealed in the Scriptures 2 Pet. 1.19 We have also a more sure Word of Prophecy whereunto ye do well that ye take heed as unto a Light that shineth in a dark place until the Day dawn and the Day-star arise in your hearts Observe here First That the Light to which the Apostle would have us take heed and saith they do well who take heed to it is the Word of Prophecy by the Word of Prophecy he understands the Scriptures which were written and delivered to us by the Prophets as is evident from the ensuing word Knowing this first that no Prophecy of the Scriptures c. Secondly It is our duty to take heed to the word of Prophecy as long as we live in this world Whereunto ye do well to take heed until the Day dawn and the Day-star arise in your hearts By the Day-star is meant Jesus Christ Rev. 22.16 I am the bright and morning Star By the Day is not meant only or chiefly the day of Grace or the day of the Gospel for these days had already dawned upon those persons to whom the Apostle wrot this Epistle for he saith of them They knew and were established in the present truth vers 12. They were not only acquainted with the Doctrine of the Gospel
the very act of sin as they were offering up strange fire fire came from the Lord and consumed them Eli's children were such sons of Belial that their wickedness caused men to abhor the offerings of the Lord 1 Sam. 2.12 17 David met with much affliction in his children Amnon ravished his sister Tamar Absolom killed Amnon when his heart was merry with wine Absolom was cut off in the Act of his Rebellion Adonijah seeks the Crown which his father had devolved upon his son Solomon Our Lord Jesus Christ himself had a select Family consisting of twelve Apostles whom he chose out of all Israel and whom he often instructed with great power for his word was with power Luke 4.32 and yet one of them proved little better than a devil John 6.70 Have not I chosen you twelve and one of you is a devil He proved so vile that he betrayed his Master for thirty pieces of silver and then went and hang'd himself and went to his own place Elisha the Prophet had a lying servant Gehazi who went in his Masters name but contrary to his Masters mind to Naaman the Syrian and demanded and received for his own use a great sum of money as much as two men could carry and two changes of Garments 2 Kings 5.20 21 22 23. These examples with several others which might be produced do shew that though it be a great affliction to have evil children and evil servants yet it is a temptation common to men even to good men yea such as have befallen the best men that ever lived upon the face of the earth whose persons have been very dear and precious in the sight of God and their works and labours have been graciously accepted of him And therefore we should not be disquieted or cast down without measure because God doth not bless our labours with the converting and saving of all the members of our families neither should we conclude from hence that either our persons or our labours are not accepted with God III. Our children are Gods creatures as well as our children God hath a greater right to them and a greater interest in them than we have We were but Gods instruments to bring them into the world It was not we but God created and gave them their beings it was Gods hands that framed and fashioned their Bodies when they lay in their Mothers womb Psal 119.97 Thy hands have made and fashioned me 1 Cor. 12.24 God hath tempered the body together It is God that gave them every part of their Bodies as Skin and Bones and Flesh and Sinews Job 10.11 Thou hast clothed me with skin and flesh and hast fenced me with bones and sinews And every member of their Bodies as Eyes Hands Feet c. Psal 139.16 Thine eyes did see my substance yet being imperfect and in thy Book all my members were written which in continuance were fashioned whenas yet there was none of them It was God which created their Souls after he had formed their Bodies Zech. 12.1 Saith the Lord which stretcheth forth the Heavens and layeth the foundation of the Earth and formeth the Spirit of Man within him Ezek. 18.4 Behold all Souls are mine as the Soul of the Father so also the Soul of the Son is mine the Soul that sinneth shall die It was God that drew them out of the womb Psal 22.9 Thou art he that took me out of the womb It is God that hath preserved them alive ever since they were born Psal 66.8 9. O bless our God ye people who holdeth our Soul in life And seeing God hath a far greater right to our Children than we have shall we be discontented when he disposeth of them as he seeth good May not he say to us when we repine at any thing that he doth to our children as the good Housholder said to those that murmured at him Matth. 20.13 15. Friend I do thee no wrong Is it not lawful for me to do what I will with mine own And as our children are the works of his hands so his mercies towards his works are beyond our mercies towards those that proceed from our bowels Psal 145.9 The Lord is good to all and his tender mercies are over all his works He desires their welfare both here and for ever more than we can do Job 14.15 Thou wilt have a desire to the work of thine hands Deut. 5.29 O that there were such an heart in them that they would fear me and keep all my commandments always that it might be well with them and with their Children for ever Now if the Lord whose tender mercies are over all his works and who desireth our Childrens welfare more than we our selves do saw cause to cast away the works of his own hands into eternal torments shall we by our discontent go about to controul God in what he hath done as though we were wiser or more merciful than He IV. Though there be a great depth in Gods Judgments and such as we can't search out the reason of them why sometimes he converteth one and leaveth another to perish in his sins although both are born of the same Parents and live under the same means of grace Yet he is always Just and Righteous and True and Faithful in all his ways The Apostle was a man of a deeper insight into the mysteries of the Gospel than we are yet he confesseth some of Gods ways to be unsearchable Rom. 11.34 O the depth of the Riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are his Judgments and his Ways past finding out Whatever Judgments God inflicts upon Nations or particular Persons though we may not be able to fathom the reason of them yet we must believe that all that the Righteous God doth is Just and True and that he never acts contrary to the Truth of his Word or against the Rules of Justice Rev. 15.3 They sing the Song of Moses the Servant of God and the Song of the Lamb saying Great and marvellous are thy works Lord God Almighty Just and True are thy Ways thou King of Saints This Song was sung upon the pouring out of the seven last Plagues in which was filled up the Wrath of God verse 1. From hence it is evident that the Lord doth nothing beyond the Rules of Justice or contrary to his Truth when he poureth out his wrath to the utmost either upon a Nation or upon particular persons When the children of godly Parents sin against God and God casteth them away for their sins he doth not by this act pervert Justice and Equity Job 8.3 4. Doth God pervert Judgment Or doth the Almighty pervert Justice If thy Children have sinned against him and he have cast them away for their transgression Now when God doth those things which are Just and Right we should be so far from murmuring that vve should praise and honour God although vve our selves should suffer deeply by those Judgments After Nebuchadnezzar
a thousand times more value than many Sparrows And seeing it is God hath done it how grievous and bitter soever it be unto your Souls you must bear it with patience Psal 39.9 10. I was dumb I opened not my mouth because thou diddest it And this was no small stroke under which David was dumb because the Lord gave him the blow but it was so great as that he was even consumed with it as the next words shew Remove thy stroke away from me I am consumed by the blow of thine hand By his being consumed we may understand the greatness of his grief as Psal 31.9 Mine eye is consumed with grief yea my soul and my belly yet under this great stroke which consumed his Soul and his Body with grief he was dumb and opened not his mouth because God did it Whatsoever cometh from the hands of God must be born with silence and submission to his will although it be so sharp and bitter as that it will make us go mourning as long as vve live Isa 38.15 What shall I say He hath spoken unto me and himself hath done it I shall go softly all my years in the bitterness of my Soul And as vve must be patient under all our griefs so we must contentedly bear vvhatever grievous things befal our children Jer. 10.19 20. Wo is me for my hurt my wound is grievous but I said Truly this is a grief and I must bear it My Children are gone forth of me and are not II. God is righteous in vvhat he hath done to your Children although he hath cast them into eternal torments If you think it not consistent with Righteousness and Equity to punish the sins of a few years vvith endless and eternal torments consider 1. That the Scriptures assure us that the Lord is righteous in all his vvays Psal 145.18 The Lord is righteous in all his ways and holy in all his works And if the Lord be righteous in all his ways then also in this vvay of his Providence vvhen he condemneth vvicked men to eternal torments for the sins they committed in that short space of time they lived in the vvorld Yea more particularly vve find the Scriptures ascribing Righteousness to God in this very case vvhen he punisheth ungodly persons vvith everlasting torments 2 Thes 1.6 9. It is a righteous thing with God to recompence tribulation to them that trouble you who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his power 2. The Angels are more glorious Creatures than the Souls of Men yet vvhen they sinned against God the Lord did not spare them but for their first sin cast them down into hell 2 Pet. 1.4 God spared not the Angels that sinned but cast them down to hell and delivered them into Chains of Darkness to be reserved unto Judgment And that they shall be punished in Hell vvith everlasting torments is evident from Matth. 25.41 Depart from me ye cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the Devil and his Angels And this he did vvithout affording them any means of their recovery from their sin and misery vvhich vvas granted to fallen man Heb. 2.16 For verily he took not on him the Nature of Angels but he took on him the Seed of Abraham Now seeing God cast those glorious Creatures the Angels into eternal torments for their first transgression and did not spare them one day or afford them any means of recovery after their fall shall vve think that God deals hardly vvith the Sons of men in condemning them to eternal torments vvhenas he afforded them means of grace and salvation and gave them a long time and space for their Repentance vvaiting day after day and year after year for their returning to him Is not this far greater mercy and less severity then vvas shewn to the fallen Angels 3. Sin is committed against an eternal God against an infinitely holy great and glorious GOD and therefore deserveth an infinite and eternal punishment We do not understand or at least vve do not consider what an odious thing Sin is and what a great God the Lord is and vvhat an infinite distance there is between the great and holy God and a poor sinful man vvhen vve think that the Lord deals hardly vvith sinners in punishing their sins vvith eternal torments What an hainous crime is it for man who is but a poor vvorm made of dust and ashes to affront despise and rebel against the great GOD of Heaven and Earth vvho gave him his Being and loadeth him vvith his Benefits every day To tread the Laws of God under his feet and to cast his vvord behind his back to slight all his Promises and Threatnings to contemn all his offers of Grace and Mercy and though he wait with much patience and long-suffering many days and years for his Repentance to refuse to return and obey the Voice of his Creator Doth not such a despising of the Eternal Immortal Ever-Blessed God deserve to be punished with eternal Torments 4. It is accounted no injustice among men to inflict a punishment of long continuance for a crime that was committed in a very short time If Murder Adultery Treason or some other capital Offence which was committed in the space of a few minutes be punished with perpetual imprisonment or perpetual banishment no man counts it injustice or thinks the Offender is hardly dealt with because he is so long punish'd for an offence committed in so short a time Why then should any man think that the Righteous God dealeth hardly or unjustly in punishing sinners with perpetual torments for the sins they committed those few years they lived in the world 5. It was their own choice to embrace eternal death God set before them Life and Death He told them if they did evil they should die eternally but if they would repent and do that which is good in his sight they should have everlasting life and he called upon them earnestly to chuse Life rather than Death Deut. 30.15 19. See I have set before you this day life and good death and evil Therefore chuse life He offered them Life in his Son and they would not go unto him for it John 5.40 And ye will not come to Me that ye might have life He protested solemnly to them that he was loth they should die and therefore pleaded with them Why will ye die Ezek. 33.11 Say unto them As I live saith the Lord God I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked but that the wicked turn from his way and live Turn ye turn ye from your evil ways for why will ye die O House of Israel And therefore they must blame themselves not the Lord for their being cast into eternal Torments 6. Had they been permitted to have lived for ever upon the face of the Earth they would have sinned for ever The heart of the Sons of men is fully set in them to do evil
you must take heed of being swallowed up with over-much sorrow Satan labours what he can to keep us under blindness and hardness of heart and to hinder us for mourning for our sins but when he cannot do that because God hath opened our eyes and affected our hearts with the sight of our sin and misery he will endeavour to make us mourn without measure especially if we have been great sinners The incestuous Corinthian committed a great sin such as was not so much as named among the Gentiles 1 Cor. 5.1 And till he was brought to repentance the Apostle adviseth the Church of Corinth to deal sharply with him ver 4 5. but when he was humbled the Apostle adviseth the Church to comfort him and why Least perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with over-much sorrow 2 Cor. 12.7 2. Though this be a mighty great and crying sin for Parents by their evil example or their neglect to teach them or by any other means to be guilty of the bloud of their Childrens souls yet it is not an unpardonable sin but I may say of it as Shecaniah did to Ezra in another case Ezra 10.2 We have trespassed against our God Yet now there is hope in Israel concerning this thing By Faith and Repentance you may obtain forgiveness of this as well as of other sins The bloud of Christ being applied by Faith cleanseth us from all manner of sin 1 John 1.7 The bloud of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin If Christs bloud cleanseth from all sin then from being guilty of the bloud of souls as well as from other sins The merits of Christs bloud are sufficient to wash away the sins of the greatest sinners in the whole world John 1.29 Behold the Lamb of God which taketh away the sin of the world And all that believe in him shall for his sake receive the remission of their sins of what nature soever they have been Acts 13.38 39. Be it known unto you men and brethren that through this man is preached unto you the forgiveness of sins And by him all that believe are justified from all things from which we could not be justified by the Law of Moses Acts 10.43 To him give all the Prophets witness that through his name whosoever believeth in him shall receive remission of sins Such whose sins are of the deepest die who have committed scarlet and crimson sins whose hands have been full of bloud have the full and free remission of all their sins promised upon their repentance Isa 1.15 16 17 18. Your hands are full of bloud wash ye make ye clean put away the evil of your doings from before mine eyes cease to do evil learn to do well Come now and let us reason together saith the Lord though your sins be as scarlet they shall be as white as snow though they be red like crimson they shall be as wool The Lord taxeth the Jews with the bloud of the Souls of poor Innocents and telleth them their guilt herein was as evident as what appeareth upon a mans skirts Jer. 2.34 Also upon thy skirts is found the bloud of the souls of poor innocents Yet to these Jews that were guilty of the bloud of souls of poor Innocents the Lord promiseth mercy upon their repentance Jer. 3.12 13. Return thou back-sliding Israel saith the Lord and I will not cause mine anger to fall upon you for I am merciful saith the Lord and I will not keep mine anger for ever only acknowledge thine iniquity that thou hast transgressed against the Lord thy God Who were greater sinners than they that shed the bloud of the Lord Jesus Christ Yet even to them that were guilty of the bloud of Christ the Lord promiseth remission of that and all their other sins upon their repentance Acts 3.14 15 19. Ye denied the Holy One and the Just and desired a Murderer to be granted unto you and killed the Prince of life Repent ye therefore and be ye converted that your sins may be blotted out when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord. The like we have also promised Acts 2.23 38 39. where the Apostle tells them who had taken and with wicked hands had crucified and slain the Lord Jesus that they were not excluded from the promises of mercy but that upon their repentance they should receive remission of their sins 3. Testifie the truth of your repentance for suffering your deceased Children to perish through your negligence by doubling your diligence in doing what in you lieth to save the souls of your surviving Children and Servants and all others under your charge by praying to God for them night and day and instructing them in the knowledge of those things that make for their peace and shewing of them a good example and the use of all other means This will be a means to moderate your excessive sorrow and to restore peace and comfort to your souls For all Gods ways are ways of pleasantness and his paths are paths of peace Prov. 3.17 whilst we are in the way of our duty God is wont to come in with comfort SECT 5. The Plea of such as are cast down because God hath not answered their Prayers or prospered their labours answered Plea 4 IT may be some will say The ground of my trouble for my deceased Children ariseth from hence because I prayed often and earnestly for their conversion and took much pains in teaching them and yet the Lord hath cast them away and because he hath not answered my prayers nor blessed my labours I am afraid I am none of his Elect because it is said Isa 65.22 23. Mine Elect shall long enjoy the work of their hands They shall not labour in vain Answ I. This is not so to be understood as though Gods Elect did convert every soul whom they laboured by their instructions to bring home to the Lord. Jesus Christ is stiled Gods Elect Isa 42.1 Behold my Servant whom I uphold mine Elect in whom my soul delighteth Yet we find the same Prophet bringing in the Lord Jesus speaking thus Isa 49.4 I have laboured in vain I have spent my strength for nought And when he was here upon earth many that saw his Miracles and heard his Sermons remained in their unbelief and unconverted condition Luke 16.14 John 12.37 II. You have not laboured in vain although your Children were not converted for 1. Though you did not convert your Children yet you have delivered your own soul Ezek. 3.19 If thou warn the wicked and he turn not from his wickedness nor from his wicked way he shall die in his iniquity but thou hast delivered thy soul And the delivering of your own soul is worth all your pains although you had taken a thousand times more than you have done 2. Your labour is not in vain in respect of God 1 Cor. 15.58 You know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord Although you did not
estrangement from God yet he hoped that God in due time would convert them and cause them to embrace the true Religion which was continued in the Off-spring of Shem Gen. 9.27 God shall enlarge or as the word may be render'd God shall perswade Japheth and he shall dwell in the Tents of Shem. So should we hope concerning our Children that God will perswade their hearts to repent of their sins though we should see them go on in evil and destructive courses a long time together and that because of his promise to circumcise not only our hearts but the hearts also of our Seed to love him with all our hearts and all our souls that both we and they may have everlasting life Deut. 30.6 2. If after all our prayers and tears and instructions and endeavours after their salvation we should see any of our Children or Servants live and die in such a condition as that we could have no hope of their salvation we may quiet our minds with such considerations as these I. Consider Gods Soveraignty He hath a soveraign power over all his Creatures to dispose of their temporal and spiritual estate according to his own pleasure we are in Gods hand as clay in the hands of the Potter Jer. 18.6 O House of Israel cannot I do with you as this Potter saith the Lord Behold as the Clay is in the Potters hand so are ye in mine hand O House of Israel And what is the power the Potter hath over the Clay Rom. 9.21 Hath not the Potter power over the Clay of the same lump to make one Vessel unto Honour and another unto Dishonour Jer. 18.4 The Vessel that he made of Clay was marred in the hand of this Potter so he made it again another Vessel as seemed good to the Potter to make it If it be in the Potters power to make every Vessel as seemeth good to him if he may make of the same lump one Vessel to honour and another to dishonour may not the great God do what he pleaseth with his Creatures May not He make of Children that are born of the same Parents and enjoy the same instructions one a Vessel unto Honour and another a Vessel of his Wrath and Displeasure for ever All Creatures in Heaven and in the Earth and in the Sea and in all other places are disposed of by God according to his will and good pleasure Psal 135.6 Whatsoever the Lord pleased that did he in Heaven and in Earth and in the Seas and in all deep places And shall we think much or repine against God when he disposeth of our Children or any other Member of the Family as seemeth good in his sight When the Lord said to Eli I will judge his House for ever And I have sworn unto the House of Eli That iniquity of Eli's House shall not be purged with sacrifice nor offering for ever 1 Sam. 3.13 14. This was sad tidings yet when Eli considered it was the Lord who had power to dispose of him and his Family as seemeth good in his sight he quietly submitted his will to the will of God vers 18. It is the Lord let him do what seemeth him good No Parents did ever thirst more after the salvation of their Childrens Souls than Jesus Christ thirsted after the salvation of fallen man yet when he saw that it was his Fathers good pleasure to hide the Mysteries of the Gospel from some persons who were wise and prudent in worldly matters with whom he had taken much pains in preaching the Gospel he rested abundantly satisfied in the will and pleasure of his Father Mat. 11.25 26. At that time Jesus answered and said I thank thee O Father Lord of Heaven and Earth because thou hast hid these things from the wise and prudent and hast revealed them unto Babes Even so Father for so it seemed good in thy sight From verse 19. to 24. Jesus Christ upbraids the Cities wherein most of his mighty works were done because they repented not and tells them what an heavy condemnation they should have at the day of Judgment more dreadful than Tyre or Sydon or Sodom and Gomorrah And at that time when he had done upbraiding those Cities he addresseth himself to his Father wherein he declares his perfect acquiescence in his Fathers will Even so Father for so it seemed good in thy sight although he had hid the Mysteries of the Gospel from the wise and prudent and we know that eternal perdition followeth the hiding of the Gospel 2 Cor. 4.3 If our Gospel be hid it is hid to them that are lost and had revealed them only or chiefly at least to such as were in comparison of the wise and prudent men in the world but Babes Now seeing our Lord Jesus did acquiesce in his Fathers good pleasure when he saw many amongst whom he had preached and done his mighty works continuing in their unbelief and impenitent condition and so perishing eternally It concerneth us to submit our selves to the will and pleasure of God if after all the pains that we have taken to convert and save our Childrens Souls he should leave some of them to perish in their sins We must know that he is God and so may dispose of us and all that belongs to us as he pleaseth and howsoever he is pleased to deal with us we must be still and silent under his hand Psal 46.10 Be still and know that I am God II. Others as good and better than we have met with the same trial viz. some of their children and servants have degenerated and proved vicious and lewd persons and have lived and died in their sins notwithstanding all the pains that their Parents and Governours have taken to convert and save their souls Adam had a Cain who murthered his own brother and was a fugitive and vagabond in the earth and hath the brand of a wicked man set upon him by the Holy Ghost 1 John 3.12 as well as righteous Abel Noah had an Ham who saw and divulged his fathers nakedness and had his fathers curse upon him and his posterity as well as a pious Shem and Japheth righteous Lot had two daughters that enticed him to drunkenness and incest Ishmael in his younger time was so vile that Abraham cast him out of his family for a scoffer Isaac had a profane Esau who sold his Birthright for a mess of Pottage a man hated of God Esau have I hated Rom. 9.13 as well as a godly Jacob. Jacob met with crosses in his Children Reuben his first-born defiled his Fathers Bed Simeon and Levi by their cruelty in slaying the Shechemites after they had drawn them to be circumcised made Jacob's name to stink among the Inhabitants of the Land Gen. 34.30 Judah lieth with his daughter-in-Daughter-in-law Tamar supposing her to have been an Harlot with divers other crosses in the rest of his Children as the selling of Joseph into Egypt c. Aaron lost two sons Nadab and Abihu In