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woman_n furnishâ—_n with_o this_o grace_n more_o precious_a than_o all_o pearl_n even_o as_o also_o a_o husband_n be_v birth_n education_n mean_n and_o wealth_n great_o conduce_v to_o a_o completeness_n and_o contentment_n of_o marriage_n but_o as_o for_o make_v it_o happy_a and_o honourable_a they_o reach_v it_o not_o only_o religion_n can_v do_v that_o they_o be_v as_o the_o second_o sort_n of_o worthy_n of_o david_n which_o attain_v not_o to_o the_o first_o many_o daughter_n have_v do_v well_o 19_o but_o thou_o have_v the_o birthright_n and_o surmounte_v they_o all_o there_o be_v a_o honour_n of_o compliment_n and_o there_o be_v a_o honour_n of_o substance_n the_o former_a may_v stand_v in_o external_o the_o latter_a only_o in_o religion_n salomon_n word_n will_v express_v the_o point_n 22._o that_o which_o be_v desirable_a in_o a_o man_n be_v his_o goodness_n no_o man_n be_v praise_v for_o that_o which_o be_v out_o of_o he_o but_o for_o that_o which_o be_v within_o he_o respect_n 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be_v not_o blear_v with_o the_o false_a and_o erroneous_a opinion_n of_o the_o world_n which_o as_o in_o all_o other_o respect_n so_o in_o this_o point_n forsake_v the_o rule_n of_o god_n for_o vain_a shadow_n and_o emplinesse_n and_o have_v embrace_v they_o all_o their_o life_n time_n seek_v in_o the_o creature_n that_o which_o be_v not_o there_o to_o be_v have_v for_o as_o apparel_n can_v feed_v nor_o meat_n cloth_n nor_o any_o thing_n exceed_v his_o own_o sphere_n so_o neither_o can_v beauty_n reach_v beyond_o that_o be_v in_o she_o nor_o riches_n above_o that_o be_v in_o they_o they_o cry_v out_o at_o last_o teach_v by_o experience_n of_o fool_n we_o have_v lose_v the_o body_n for_o the_o shadow_n embrace_v vanity_n and_o forsake_a mercy_n 8._o all_o be_v vanity_n so_o it_o be_v at_o the_o first_o but_o you_o see_v it_o not_o use_v 3_o three_o let_v this_o admonish_v we_o to_o shun_v all_o delusion_n and_o error_n in_o this_o kind_n herein_o which_o may_v destroy_v the_o honour_n of_o marriage_n imagine_v not_o that_o profit_n and_o pleasure_n can_v do_v the_o work_n of_o honour_v marriage_n first_o a_o heathen_a can_v say_v these_o be_v but_o by-respect_n in_o a_o low_a contract_n of_o friendship_n how_o much_o more_o here_o when_o sweet_a and_o profit_n be_v once_o wear_v off_o as_o the_o nap_n from_o the_o fine_a cloth_n nothing_o remain_v behind_o save_o thred-barenesse_n as_o when_o the_o leve_n be_v blow_v off_o the_o rose_n nothing_o be_v leave_v save_o the_o prickle_n not_o so_o here_o for_o although_o she_o begin_v with_o some_o sourness_n yet_o she_o be_v durable_a and_o oulast_v second_o second_o be_v not_o gull_v with_o the_o rashness_n of_o such_o brainsick_a idiot_n as_o think_v marriage_n to_o be_v magic_a that_o look_v what_o defect_n so_o ever_o there_o be_v in_o couple_n yet_o marriage_n will_v accommodate_v all_o sudden_o marry_o they_o say_v one_o and_o all_o will_v do_v well_o enough_o can_v marriage_n make_v all_o error_n vanish_v be_v any_o man_n so_o mad_a as_o to_o think_v that_o because_o he_o have_v a_o great_a sum_n to_o pay_v therefore_o he_o may_v convey_v twenty_o slip_n into_o it_o and_o not_o be_v discard_v shall_v not_o each_o piece_n come_v to_o the_o weight_n sure_o that_o which_o in_o the_o several_a be_v naught_o can_v do_v well_o in_o the_o compound_n once_o as_o our_o english_a story_n mention_n there_o be_v in_o the_o english_a court_n a_o very_a sweet_a lady_n call_v jane-make-peace_n which_o no_o soon_o perceive_v any_o little_a difference_n among_o the_o noble_n or_o courtier_n but_o she_o will_v accord_v they_o present_o but_o this_o office_n be_v only_o in_o religious_a marriage_n not_o marriage_n only_o nay_o rather_o marriage_n ill_o enter_v upon_o be_v common_o so_o far_o from_o sweet_a accord_n that_o rather_o afterward_o they_o prove_v worse_o for_o than_o do_v the_o devil_n present_v more_o bait_n of_o liberty_n to_o a_o unbrideled_a heart_n than_o before_o the_o old_a speech_n be_v magistracy_n make_v not_o the_o man_n but_o discover_v what_o mettle_n be_v in_o he_o 7._o be_v not_o deceive_v god_n be_v not_o mock_v as_o a_o man_n sow_n so_o shall_v he_o reap_v of_o wheat_n wheat_n of_o darnel_n darnel_n and_o he_o be_v mad_a who_o will_v look_v for_o other_o branch_n three_o neither_o let_v any_o think_v that_o in_o unequal_a marriage_n the_o religious_a husband_n as_o the_o strong_a may_v better_a adventure_n upon_o a_o irreligious_a wife_n than_o a_o christian_n woman_n upon_o a_o husband_n of_o that_o strain_n for_o my_o part_n i_o have_v see_v small_a odds_n in_o the_o bargain_n salomon_n word_n prove_v too_o true_a here_o 11._o victory_n be_v not_o always_o to_o the_o strong_a its_o ill_a grapple_v by_o strong_a hand_n with_o a_o headstrong_a woman_n she_o shall_v be_v the_o weak_a vessel_n
chap._n iii_o the_o second_o requisite_a unto_o a_o good_a entrance_n viz._n aptness_n or_o suitableness_n now_o than_o i_o come_v to_o the_o second_o general_a thing_n apt_o pertinent_a to_o good_a entrance_n and_o that_o be_v to_o marry_v apt_o in_o the_o lord_n that_o be_v to_o join_v all_o circumstance_n of_o equality_n and_o suitableness_n to_o religion_n and_o in_o this_o as_o i_o conceive_v as_o well_o as_o the_o former_a consist_v the_o entry_n upon_o a_o happy_a and_o honourable_a marriage_n it_o be_v not_o for_o nothing_o that_o the_o lord_n bring_v adam_n a_o meet_a helper_n for_o he_o that_o be_v not_o only_o one_o create_v in_o the_o same_o image_n of_o holiness_n as_o he_o but_o make_v of_o himself_o flesh_n of_o his_o flesh_n and_o bone_n of_o his_o bone_n woman_n of_o man_n equal_a to_o he_o in_o dignity_n not_o of_o his_o head_n nor_o his_o foot_n or_o low_a part_n but_o of_o his_o fides_fw-la and_o rib_n in_o token_n of_o one_o that_o be_v to_o fide_fw-la with_o he_o 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