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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
prayer_n	forgive_v	lord_n	trespass_n	3,485	5	11.3824	5	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
B03435	A fathers advice to his son at the university: wherein is hinted some general directions, which may be usefully read by persons of any age or sex.		1693 (1693)	Wing F553A; ESTC R176976	82,678	160

Scripture to be against His express and positive Command 54. So much as is within your power endeavour the living peaceably with all Men forbear if possible all Law-Suits with your Neighbours for it is surely your Interest to forgo some considerable part of what is your own rather than seek your Redress by that Mean and if you can perswade your Party if Providence shall tryst your having of any to refer what Difference there may be betwixt you to equal knowing and honest Arbitrators chosen by your selves you may have a Sentence it is like better and with much less trouble and vexation than can be had the Difference being insisted upon before ordinar Judges 55. As you are to forbear prejudging or offending of your Neighbour so if you be prejudged or offended by him entertain no resentment of the Injury that may be inconsistent with an intire forgiving thereof Remember our blessed Lord Mat. 18.22 In answer to that Question How often shall a Man forgive his Brother Enjoyns it not only seven times but seventie times seven And in Prov. 20.22 We are required not to recompence evil but to wait upon the Lord and he shall save us Yea truly there is no access to God in Duty where there is not in the heart an absolute forgiving of Injuries received You find in Mat 5.24 The Israelites were to leave their Gift at the Altar and go and be reconciled to their Brother and then to offer and surely if our hearts entertain any Rancor or Prejudice toward our Neighbour We do in pronuncing the words of that excellent Prayer of our Lord directly desire our ever lasting Destruction The Petition in plain and express words being not only to be forgiven as we do forgive but in Mat. 6. where He i● teaching His Disciples that Prayer in the very Verses following He adds But if ye forgive not men their Trespasses neither will he forgive you your Trespasses 56. If your Neighbours or others by speaking or acting prejudge you in your Person your Relations your Goods or good Name let the Effect thereof be your retiring your self to your own heart and your examining your Ways in the sight of God if you find that you have deserved such usage fly to God by hearty Repentance and acknowledge even your Obligation to the Instrument albeit your Good hath not been by him intended and if after a strict search you shall not see that you in that measure deserved what you have met with yet look not to the Rod that striketh but the Hand that ordereth every thing well in His wise Providence and believe that no Dispensation comes without its errand nor can we meet with any thing so grievous to us but what we merit at Gods Hand and humble your self in His Presence that He for Christ our Lord's sake may sanctify every Dispensation to you-ward and thereby bring you to a greater nearness to Him 57. If it please God you live in this foolish and vain World whilst it be your Duty to enter into a married State remember your doing thereof is the Action that doth not only greatly concern your Well-being in the World but is what may further or hinder your eternal Happiness Therefore that your choice of a fit Person may be conducive to these Ends be in the first place earnest in your Prayers to God that he direct you therein Parentage Beauty and a competency of Means are desireable and what you may very lawfully with Moderation concern your self about but either yea all of them together are what yields no real satisfaction Beauty is a Blessing and I think the Choice of every man should at least have so much thereof as satisfies him but it will evidence the height of Folly to propose it as a chief Ground of satisfaction for Sickness a few Years or a thousand Accidents may not only impair but destroy it And albeit it were possible it could continue in the greatest Perfection desirable yet is it certainly amongst what gives just Ground to cry out that all is Vanity and the wisest of Men and of greatest Experience even in that Particular hath said Prov. 31.30 Favour 〈◊〉 deceitful and Beauty is vain but a woman that feareth the Lord she shall be praised Let it b● your great care she have the fear of God i● her heart It is true it is hard to determine where that is and I can give you no Rules directing to any certainty thereof but it is mo●● desirable she be of honest and religious Parentage and that she be of good Report and fre● of such Carriage and Deportment as speaks for t her want of the Fear of God such as any tendency to immodesty in her Speech or Actions Ga●ding and being much Abroad Idleness 〈◊〉 frequenting idle Company or any thing else notoriously vitious for albeit a Woman not gu●ty of these Crimes may prove an uncomfortable Match to a Man Certainly such as are guilty without the special Grace of God restraining wi●● prove so Endeavour as what will much te●● to your quietness in that State that she be 〈◊〉 a meek and affectionate Temper and Disposit● on for as it is a quality unexpressibly desireable in either Man or Women so it is most necessar to the Peace and Wel-being of Parties under that relation 58. As ye would not enter rashly into a married State so being in it consider the Charge ye thereby come under which is indeed great and requires the discharge of Duty toward your Children your Servants as you are severally concerned in them and of Family-duties towards them and all within your Family in general I intreat the great end ye propose to your self in Marriage may be the having such a Wife as will encourage you in the ways of Godliness and make it your great work so to live with her as your only Strife may be who shall excell therein Remember she is one flesh with you and is the nearest of Relations as in Eph. 5.31 A man shall leave his Father and his Mother and shall cleave to his Wife and they two shal be one flesh Yea the same Apostle hath told you in the 28. vers of that Chapter Men ought to love their Wives as their own Bodies he that loveth his Wife loveth himself Fornication is expresly discharged in Scripture and Adultery is a dreadful Aggravation of the Crime let not the thought of your Heart go after any other Woman But as in Prov. 5.18 Rejoyce with the wife of thy youth and in Mal. 2.15 Command that none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth Be tenderly affectionate to her and express it at all occasions But I my self could never like of that Affection that is held forth by a Man's giving of Gift to his Wife whilest they live together what is convenient for her in her Station being absolutely her Proprietie and I consider a man's giving any thing to his Wife except with a prospect of it's being useful