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A59541	Several discourses and characters address'd to the ladies of the age wherein the vanities of the modish women are discovered / written at the request of a lady, by a person of honour.	Shannon, Francis Boyle, Viscount, 1623-1699.	1689 (1689)	Wing S2965A; ESTC R38898	101,219	214

for fancy what you please an enjoy'd Mistris is no better let her Quality be never so good and her beauty never so great and there 's no Woman ought to think it strange that her Gallant after enjoyment undervalues her when by it she shews him the way by fiirst undervaluing her self and so ought to expect little Love and less Courtship but rather much slighting if not aversion for this is most certain Ladies that though your Gallants use all flattering means and arts not sparing their Oaths or Money Soul or Purse to purchase your good Nature I should have said sinful folly to bless them as they call it with the enjoyment of you that is to curse your selves by admitting it which when your Gallants have obtain'd on any terms Swearing and forswearing not excepted they presently like greedy Hawks who assoon as they have fully gorg'd themselves on their Quarry slight and turn Tail to the very same Game which just before they flew so eagerly after and grow soon as weary of an enjoy'd Mistris as most eldest Sons are of their long long liv'd Fathers or their ugly monied Wives in a word our Amorous Age is so very wicked and unchast that really most of our young Mens fiery Love to the thing call'd a Mistris is by our present mode become of the same nature of Fire it self which all know cannot subsist long if not often recruited with fresh matter And I have yet Ladies something more to add which is of a much worse consequence than all before which is this that after your Gallants have enjoy'd you though never so much in private they will not be satisfied unless they may boast of it in Publick so vain are our young Sparks as to take more satisfaction in the thoughts that others believe they enjoy their Mistrisses than they themselves do in the actual enjoyment of them our young Men retaining still so much of the old Roman pride as to love the Triumph more than the Conquest and indeed I am of opinion that on the bragging account of enjoying Mistrisses now so much in fashion among the late Debauchees those Men that boast they do though they do it not are not so bad as those that boast of it in so vain-glorious a manner as to act a real Sin. Then the young Gallant can tell their enjoy'd Mistrisses that meer love of beauty is but a meer amorous desire and that none but fools desire what they possess possession being the full end and accomplishment of all desire and consequently of all beauty Love and so laugh at the simplicity of those that will endure long the scorching flames of a violent Love passion fancying none but the foolish barbarous Persians can long adore that Sun which burns them And our young Gallants are now generally grown so very nice that they cannot feed on any thing but sweet variety which makes them rant in the Hectoring Language of the Times and say that 't is as unmodish to have but one Mistris as to have none at all and therefore Swear that Mistrisses enjoy'd though never so young and beautiful are but like Romances read and Plays once seen and indeed methinks enjoy'd Mistrisses ought not to wonder at their Gallants fickleness it being not at all strange that an unvertuous Love should make an inconstant Lover And now I must beg leave to glance my discourse a little on a Fault which some young Ladies commit without ever considering 't is one which is sometimes to exercise their wit shew their pride and vanity or gaity of humor or what else you please to call it to make themselves sport and entertainment spread abroad their fine silken nets of inticing arts and attracting allurements to incourage and invite some young Fop to become fond of one of their Company as his dearly beloved and highly admir'd Mistris only that they may have thereby the better means and occasion to railly and make pastime with him never considering that by making him thus to fall in love with one of them he is obliged by the general Rules and common practices of our Modern refin'd Lovers to magnify and extoll her beauty and never to be sparing of his Oaths and Lies in praising her perfections and his own overflowing passion and so cause him to sin in earnest though probably design'd by the Lady as a Jest but 't will be no sufficient excuse in this bad kind of raillery to say your intention was innocent since its effect is culpable for we are not to do ill that good may come of it and sure much less to do ill where no good can come of it and I am sure this is an undeniable truth That she who makes another do an ill thing does an ill thing her self by her making another to do it Therefore Ladies whether in Jest or Earnest if you are truly vertuous and desire really to continue so and that the world should esteem you such as designing to admit men only to admire your Persons but never to ruin your vertue the best way to effect it is never to let them Court your beauty for remember that the Fire of Love is like that of Anger a short but fierce madness for a Man that 's in Love during the raging fit of his enflam'd lustful passion talks light and idly for a Lovers heart rises and falls is happy and unhappy according as his Mistris is kind or unkind it being indeed but very suitable to the folly of being in Love that such a Lovers heart should never move according to the dictates of his own reason but the vain motions of his Mistrisses fickle fancy and therefore because such Men know not what the do their Mistrisses ought not to mind what they say nor admit their Addresses though they pretend them in jest or for meer pastime and not to kindle their hopes when they mean never to feed their desires but avoid conversing with them and entertaining of them for surely all persons ought to avoid mad Bedlam acquaintances and young Men during their distracted Love passion value not what Praises they present what Offers they make nor indeed what price they give to purchase the enjoyment of their dear Mistrisses though it be at the damnable rate of long continued Idolatry and often repeated Perjury O strange and wicked madness that these kind of Lovers cannot be content to give their Mistrisses their heart for a little time without giving their Souls to the Devil for ever and fancy he is as very obliging as they are foolish and inconstant and that the Devil will as easily forget the Oaths they made to him as they do theirs they made to their Mistrisses which were intended but as meer Courtiers Complements which are meant no longer than they are speaking and therefore ought to be thought on no longer than they are hearing but though such Lovers fancy they give their Souls to the Devil but in jest yet he will be careful to keep

are so very hard to be found in it And now I have nam'd some of the principal Ingredients that are absolutely necessary to compleat a happy Marriage I hope I shall not need here name any of those great Faults and ill Humors which go to the making up the Composition of a bad Wife but shall refer you to the next Husband you meet and know who can certainly tell you by woful experience some of them that his Wife has and the next you inquire after may tell you more for every Husband can tell you more or less of his Wives faults for there is no Husband but knows some and 't is well if she has not some more than he knows so that I shall only need tell you here by whole-sail that as many Figures joyn'd together make a great Sum so many great Faults and cross peevish ill humors united in one Woman make an ill Wife Now if you would know the difference between such Husbands who esteem themselves in their Wives very happy and those that believe themselves to be made by them very miserable Of the first kind the Husband thinks as good as his Wife is that there cannot be a Wife that has no fault the other thinks that there can be no fault but what his Wife has so that the sum total of this difference is easily cast up in these few words as to the belief that good and bad Husbands have of their Wives faults that all Wives have some and some Wives have all But this truth neither the good or bad Husband can deny that tho there are as well bad as good successes in Mens choice of Wives and Wives choice of Husbands yet that does not at all lessen or take from the holy Institution of Marriage which is pure and comfortable in it self tho more are made miserable than happy by it Marriage being a Sacred Order not only as old as our father Adam but almost as Nature her self for it began with the World and is not like to end but with it and can truly boast both of the greatest Antiquity for its Parent and the first rank of Miracles for its honour for Scripture tells us that the first Miracle our blessed Saviour did in Canaa was at a Wedding and we read in Genesis that God had no sooner finished Creating the World but he presently acted a Miracle in it by making a Marriage for the perfection of which he miraculously divided one body into two and united two bodies into one And in those blessed days of purity and innocency before sin began to reign in the World God the great Maker and wise disposer of all things thought one Husband sufficient for one Wife and one Wife for one Husband but in our wicked Age of excess wantonness and inconstancy there are crowds of Men and Women that list themselves into the holy Order of Matrimony that will not confine themselves to those limited bounds which God himself gave and they themselves vow'd to keep but will rather choose those Adulterous courses God has forbid than use those lawful means which God has given by Marriage But 't is a sin descends to us from our father Adam to leave all the lawful fruit in the Garden to eat of the forbidden Tree And now I fancy it need not pass for Raillery or a meer Romantick expression to say 'T would be now another Wedding Miracle in England to see our vain modish Ladies as just and obedient to their Husbands as they ought to be or indeed our soppish young Gallants as kind and constant to their Wives as they should be for we are got into such a Brood of ill Wives and bad Husbands they commonly hunt in Couples one still helping to make the other as infamous as they can and so as many of the bad Wives think one Husband too little so many of these ill Husbands think one Wife too much Now if any wonder at this new fashion of ranking in writing the Wife before the Husband I fancy they will not much admire at it when I tell them my reason is because 't is the Wives right from the very beginning of the World to take place and go before her Husband but yet you ought not to be either pleas'd or proud of it when I remember you in what manner you took place and went before your Husband which was only in sinful disobedience a misery Wives ought ever to mourn for but never to boast of and which is so far from a new fashion as we may read in Scripture 't is as very old as the first Woman and afforded Adam no other excuse for his being perswaded to disobedience by his Wife than that the Woman beguiled me and I did eat S. Paul orders the Wife to be subject to her Husband and gives this reason for it for first Adam was made then Eve to shew 't is the Mans place to go first and the Woman to follow the Man and not the Man to follow the Woman so that 't is most clear by the Law of God the Woman was made for the Man and formed the weaker Vessel but by our new English practice it seems to pass for good currant modish doctrin that the Man was created for the Woman and made the weaker Vessel else sure Men would never endure that so very many Wives should rule their Husbands and so very few Husbands should govern their Wives The subtil Lawyers that can talk the craftiest Men out of their mony some giving them indeed only but talk for their mony cannot yet talk their Wives into due obedience many of them only laughing at their Husbands threats of bringing Writs of Errors and Actions of Trespass against them for usurping and practising an unlawful governing power over them which tho contrary to Magna Charta and the fundamental Law of this Kingdom and all other Laws whatsoever except that of Custom yet Lawyers Wives will keep this Law in full force I am sure they cannot say and vertue for they break all Laws both divine and human by it Nor can our Ministers with all their Canonical gravity Divine Rhetorick and eloquent Preaching teach their Wives so effectually S. Pauls lesson of submission as to make them pay them so much as the Tythe of obedience for if they could sure they would never suffer them to wear such rich Clothes which is not only unsuitable to the gravity and decency of a Clergy Mans Wife but very contradictory to the Apostle Pauls doctrin who orders in general all Women and sure Ministers Wives above all not to adorn themselves with rich but modest Apparel nor can our great Merchants that Plow the Seas with their Ships to all Kingdoms of the World in all their long Voyages and great dealings purchase any considerable quantity of this rare Commodity call'd Wife obedience and let me tell them not for their comfort if they can buy none of it abroad they will hardly find any given them at