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A59539	Discourses useful for the vain modish ladies and their gallants under these following heads, viz. I. Of some of the common ways many vertuous women take to lose their reputation, &c. II. Of meer beauty-love, &c. III. Of young mens folly in adoring young handsom ladies, &c. IV. Of the power womens beauty exercises over most young men. V. Of the inconstancy of most ladies, especially such as are cry'd-up beauties, &c. VI. Of marriage, and of wives who usurp a governing power over their husbands. VII. Of the inequality of many marriages, with the sad end that usually attend such matches. VIII. Against maids marrying for meer love, &c. IX. Against widows marrying. X. Against keeping of misses. XI. Of the folly of such women as think to shew their wit by censuring of their neighbours. XII. Of the French fashions and dresses, &c. XIII. Of worldly praises which all ladies love to receive, but few strive to deserve. XIV. Useful advices to the vain and modish ladies, for the well regulating their beauty and lives. By the right honourable Francis Lord Viscou	Shannon, Francis Boyle, Viscount, 1623-1699.	1696 (1696)	Wing S2963A; ESTC R222490	137,565	280

hearts like strong Fortresses have been lost by too great a dependency upon their own strength and too mean an undervaluing of others attempts against them I shall therefore advise all young Ladies especially Virgins by no means on any account to suffer their beauty to lie under the pressing temptations of young Mens high praises and constant Courtship which often enflames them beyond their own natural temper and strength for continual blowing is able to kindle in time a great Fire out of a little Spark And also young handsom Women ought to avoid giving or receiving any favourable attracting looks from young Men for the Eye is as well the Pulse of the Mind as the Door of the Heart and no Love flames can enter into the heart but it must first enter the Eye as we see the Sun it self still sends his light before he brings his heat Next Ladies remember that the Scripture couples with the lust of the Eye the pride of Life as a lesson to teach you that you ought as much to well order your looks as to regulate your lives which you may perform much the easier and better if you will but seriously reflect on the ways and means young Gallants use in making their approaches towards gaining their Mistrisses I do not here intend as to the making them Mistrisses in order to being Wives but Misses which is usually after this kind of manner first they present them with swarms of Praises and Complements thick garnished with great Oaths and repeated Vows of a never dying love and a never failing constancy and all attended with sad looks deep sighs and humble postures no matter though there be not one grain of reality among them all and if these Counterfits can but work so powerful an Operation on their Mistrisses soft good nature as to make them receive the constant repeated Oaths of their highly adoring them with some kind of delight they are then in a sad yielding condition for such Womens hearts cannot pretend to be stronger than fortified Towns which when they once come to admit of frequent parlies seldom hold out after long Sieges but yeild to a Surrender Certainly if young Gallants can by their eager courting their Mistrisses but gain of them some returns of compassion and esteem next of course follows a favourable liking of them and then there 's no very great difficulty after such prosperous advances to create in them the beginnings of a Love fondness and fondness in a young Womans heart like a weighty body down a steep Hill it seldom stops till it runs to the very bottom and when a Gallant has work'd his Mistris into such a yielding temper as to credit his Oaths and be pleas'd with his Company as believing he truly loves her and highly admires her and so grows delighted with the Repetition of them esteeming all his Courtship real then surely they cannot on the account of good Nature and pure Civility forbear presenting their Gallants though to their own ruin this new Article of their Faith that they believe their Oathes and love their Persons and when once they declare that common experience may soon teach them this that 't is no great rarity in young Maids by liking of young Men to stray into vicious actings with them and thus by these kinds of degrees and steps Gallants commonly mount to their Mistrisses ruin for as the Poet says Long waiting Love doth still a passage find to the most unbelieving mind at least to the blasting her Reputation if not the utter undoing of her vertue fortune and freedom for when once a Gallant is become Master of his Mistrisses heart he commonly swells to a Monster and governs like a Tyrant and instead of treating you like an ador'd Mistris he uses you like a conquer'd Captive Now I have told the young Ladies some of the common ways their Gallants use to gain them by give me leave here in a word or two to tell you their usual manner of treating them after they have gain'd an entire Conquest over their hearts which is very bad and sinful in then to suffer Therefore let me advise you to carry still this Memorandum about you That all your Gallants dying expressions Love-Oaths Idolizing postures and often repeated Vows that their admiration and love for you shall be as lasting as their Lives which translated out of the Lovers Language into true plain English is no more but just as long as they shall fancy your Beauty for usually as fast as their Mistrisses beauty breaks so do their Oaths of Love and Constancy which they think they are bound to keep no longer than their Mistrisses keep their beauty as being but the meer effects of that cause and the cause being remou'd the effect must of course cease and besides there 's nothing more certain than that skin deep beauty seldom creates better than meer sensual love which never contains reality or long duration But Ladies if this were all it would not be so very bad or indeed this is only the least part of it and when your Gallant has enjoy'd you methinks you ought not to wonder that he honours you no longer as his Mistris when you dishonour your self by becoming his Miss for fancy what you please an enjoy'd Mistris is no better let her Quality be never so good and her beauty never so great and there 's no Woman ought to think it strange that her Gallant after enjoyment undervalues her when by it she shews him the way by fiirst undervaluing her self and so ought to expect little Love and less Courtship but rather much slighting if not aversion for this is most certain Ladies that though your Gallants use all flattering means and arts not sparing their Oaths or Money Soul or Purse to purchase your good Nature I should have said sinful folly to bless them as they call it with the enjoyment of you that is to curse your selves by admitting it which when your Gallants have obtain'd on any terms Swearing and forswearing not excepted they presently like greedy Hawks who assoon as they have fully gorg'd themselves on their Quarry slight and turn Tail to the very same Game which just before they flew so eagerly after and grow soon as weary of an enjoy'd Mistris as most eldest Sons are of their long long liv'd Fathers or their ugly monied Wives in a word our Amorous Age is so very wicked and unchast that really most of our young Mens fiery Love to the thing call'd a Mistris is by our present mode become of the same nature of Fire it self which all know cannot subsist long if not often recruited with fresh matter And I have yet Ladies something more to add which is of a much worse consequence than all before which is this that after your Gallants have enjoy'd you though never so much in private they will not be satisfied unless they may boast of it in Publick so vain are our young Sparks as to take more

Institution of Marriage which is pure and comfortable in it self tho more are made miserable than happy by it Marriage being a Sacred Order not only as old as our father Adam but almost as Nature her self for it began with the World and is not like to end but with it and can truly boast both of the greatest Antiquity for its Parent and the first rank of Miracles for its honour for Scripture tells us that the first Miracle our blessed Saviour did in Canaa was at a Wedding and we read in Genesis that God had no sooner finished Creating the World but he presently acted a Miracle in it by making a Marriage for the perfection of which he miraculously divided one body into two and united two bodies into one And in those blessed days of purity and innocency before sin began to reign in the World God the great Maker and wise disposer of all things thought one Husband sufficient for one Wife and one Wife for one Husband but in our wicked Age of excess wantonness and inconstancy there are crowds of Men and Women that list themselves into the holy Order of Matrimony that will not confine themselves to those limited bounds which God himself gave and they themselves vow'd to keep but will rather choose those Adulterous courses God has forbid than use those lawful means which God has given by Marriage But 't is a sin descends to us from our father Adam to leave all the lawful fruit in the Garden to eat of the forbidden Tree And now I fancy it need not pass for Raillery or a meer Romantick expression to say 'T would be now another Wedding Miracle in England to see our vain modish Ladies as just and obedient to their Husbands as they ought to be or indeed our foppish young Gallants as kind and constant to their Wives as they should be for we are got into such a Brood of ill Wives and bad Husbands they commonly hunt in Couples one still helping to make the other as infamous as they can and so as many of the bad Wives think one Husband too little so many of these ill Husbands think one Wife too much Now if any wonder at this new fashion of ranking in writing the Wife before the Husband I fancy they will not much admire at it when I tell them my reason is because 't is the Wives right from the very beginning of the World to take place and go before her Husband but yet you ought not to be either pleas'd or proud of it when I remember you in what manner you took place and went before your Husband which was only in sinful disobedience a misery Wives ought ever to mourn for but never to boast of and which is so far from a new fashion as we may read in Scripture 't is as very old as the first Woman and afforded Adam no other excuse for his being perswaded to disobedience by his Wife than that the Woman beguiled me and I did eat S. Paul orders the Wife to be subject to her Husband and gives this reason for it for first Adam was made then Eve to shew 't is the Mans place to go first and the Woman to follow the Man and not the Man to follow the Woman so that 't is most clear by the Law of God the Woman was made for the Man and formed the weaker Vessel but by our new English practice it seems to pass for good currant modish doctrin that the Man was created for the Woman and made the weaker Vessel else sure Men would never endure that so very many Wives should rule their Husbands and so very few Husbands should govern their Wives The subtil Lawyers that can talk the craftiest Men out of their mony some giving them indeed only but talk for their mony cannot yet talk their Wives into due obedience many of them only laughing at their Husbands threats of bringing Writs of Errors and Actions of Trespass against them for usurping and practising an unlawful governing power over them which tho contrary to Magna Charta and the fundamental Law of this Kingdom and all other Laws whatsoever except that of Custom yet Lawyers Wives will keep this Law in full force I am sure they cannot say and vertue for they break all Laws both divine and human by it Nor can our Ministers with all their Canonical gravity Divine Rhetorick and eloquent Preaching teach their Wives so effectually S. Pauls lesson of submission as to make them pay them so much as the Tythe of obedience for if they could sure they would never suffer them to wear such rich Clothes which is not only unsuitable to the gravity and decency of a Clergy Mans Wife but very contradictory to the Apostle Pauls doctrin who orders in general all Women and sure Ministers Wives above all not to adorn themselves with rich but modest Apparel nor can our great Merchants that Plow the Seas with their Ships to all Kingdoms of the World in all their long Voyages and great dealings purchase any considerable quantity of this rare Commodity call'd Wife obedience and let me tell them not for their comfort if they can buy none of it abroad they will hardly find any given them at home Nay I may yet go farther and say that the greatest and most wise Statesmen with all their Politicks cannot make their Wives pay them their just obedience and I fancy their Husbands esteem it a great part of their wisdom and prudence not to expect it because probably they in great wisdom do seriously reflect on the state of their Adam who though he had all the Wit and Wisdom Policy and Power of the whole World solely and intirely in himself yet when he got a Wife or rather a Wife got him we all know to his high shame and our great misery that she govern'd him not he her by which all Husbands may receive this small Consolation that Wives usurping the Government is no new Error but as old almost as the Creation All I shall say to our Nobility and Gentry on this sad Subject of Wives governing their Husbands is only to desire most of them to lay their hands on their Hearts and then tell me if seeing is not believing In truth one need go no farther than the Streets to meet many Men that do not govern their Wives but one must travel the whole Kingdom over to meet a few that do We find that Springs which move only by the meer course of Nature will mount no higher than their Heads because 't is against Nature to do it and if we may believe S. Paul and he is no good Christian that does not he tells us that the Husband is the head of the Wife and if the Wife will but believe that sure she cannot tell how to deny this that Africa it self can produce nothing more monstrous than for a Woman to grow above her head which being the uppermost part of the body nothing can grow above