not_o a_o possibility_n that_o the_o case_n may_v be_v your_o own_o for_o this_o reason_n you_o be_v not_o to_o carry_v your_o dearness_n so_o far_o as_o absolute_o to_o lose_v your_o sight_n where_o your_o friend_n be_v concern_v because_o malice_n be_v too_o quick-sighted_a it_o do_v not_o follow_v that_o friendship_n must_v be_v blind_a there_o be_v to_o be_v a_o mean_a between_o those_o extreme_n else_o your_o excuse_n of_o good_a nature_n may_v betray_v you_o into_o a_o very_a ridiculous_a figure_n and_o by_o degree_n may_v be_v prefer_v to_o such_o office_n as_o you_o will_v not_o be_v proud_a of_o your_o ignorance_n may_v lessen_v the_o gild_n but_o will_v improve_v the_o jest_n upon_o you_o who_o shall_v be_v kind_o solicitous_a to_o procure_v a_o meeting_n and_o innocent_o contribute_v to_o the_o ill_n you_o will_v avoid_v whilst_o the_o contrive_v lover_n when_o they_o be_v alone_o shall_v make_v you_o the_o subject_a of_o their_o mirth_n and_o perhaps_o with_o respect_n to_o the_o goddess_n of_o love_n be_v it_o speak_v it_o be_v not_o the_o worst_a part_n of_o their_o entertainment_n at_o least_o it_o be_v the_o most_o last_a to_o laugh_v at_o the_o believe_a friend_n who_o be_v so_o easy_o delude_v let_v the_o good_a sense_n of_o your_o friend_n be_v a_o chief_a ingredient_n in_o your_o choice_n of_o they_o else_o let_v your_o reputation_n be_v never_o so_o clear_a it_o may_v be_v cloud_v by_o their_o impertinence_n it_o be_v like_o our_o house_n be_v in_o the_o power_n of_o a_o drunken_a and_o careless_a neighbour_n only_o so_o much_o worse_o as_o that_o there_o will_v be_v no_o insurance_n here_o to_o make_v you_o amends_o as_o there_o be_v in_o the_o case_n of_o fire_n to_o conclude_v this_o paragraph_n if_o formality_n be_v to_o be_v allow_v in_o any_o instance_n it_o be_v to_o be_v put_v on_o to_o resist_v the_o intrusion_n of_o such_o forward_a woman_n as_o shall_v press_v themselves_o into_o your_o friendship_n where_o if_o admit_v they_o will_v be_v either_o a_o snare_n or_o a_o encumbrance_n censure_n it_o will_v come_v next_o to_o your_o consideration_n how_o you_o be_v to_o manage_v your_o censure_n in_o which_o both_o care_n and_o skill_n will_v be_v a_o good_a deal_n require_v to_o distinguish_v be_v not_o only_o natural_a but_o necessary_a and_o the_o effect_n of_o it_o be_v that_o we_o can_v avoid_v give_v judgement_n in_o our_o mind_n either_o to_o absolve_v or_o to_o condemn_v as_o the_o cafe_z require_v the_o difficulty_n be_v to_o know_v where_o and_o when_o it_o be_v proper_a to_o proclaim_v the_o sentence_n a_o aversion_n to_o what_o be_v criminal_a and_o a_o contempt_n of_o what_o be_v ridiculous_a be_v the_o inseparable_a companion_n of_o understanding_n and_o virtue_n but_o the_o let_v they_o go_v far_o than_o our_o own_o thought_n have_v so_o much_o danger_n in_o it_o that_o though_o it_o be_v neither_o possible_a nor_o fit_a to_o suppress_v they_o entire_o yet_o it_o be_v necessary_a they_o shall_v be_v keep_v under_o great_a restraint_n a_o unlimited_a liberty_n of_o this_o kind_n be_v little_o less_o than_o send_v a_o herald_n to_o proclaim_v war_n to_o the_o world_n which_o be_v a_o angry_a beast_n when_o so_o provoke_v the_o contest_v will_v be_v unequal_a though_o you_o be_v never_o so_o much_o in_o the_o right_a and_o if_o you_o begin_v against_o such_o a_o adversary_n it_o will_v tear_v you_o in_o piece_n and_o with_o this_o justification_n that_o it_o be_v do_v in_o its_o own_o defence_n you_o must_v therefore_o take_v heed_n of_o laugh_v except_o in_o company_n that_o be_v very_o sure_a it_o be_v throw_v snowball_n against_o bullet_n and_o it_o be_v the_o disadvantage_n of_o a_o woman_n that_o the_o malice_n of_o the_o world_n will_v help_v the_o brutality_n of_o those_o who_o will_v throw_v a_o slovenly_a untruth_n upon_o she_o you_o be_v for_o this_o reason_n to_o suppress_v your_o impatience_n for_o fool_n which_o beside_o that_o they_o be_v too_o strong_a a_o party_n to_o be_v unnecessary_o provoke_v be_v and_o of_o all_o other_o the_o most_o dangerous_a in_o this_o case_n a_o blockhead_n in_o his_o rage_n will_v return_v a_o dull_a jest_n which_o will_v lie_v heavy_a though_o there_o be_v not_o a_o grain_n of_o wit_n in_o it_o other_o will_v do_v it_o with_o more_o art_n and_o you_o must_v not_o think_v yourself_o secure_a because_o your_o reputation_n may_v perhaps_o be_v out_o of_o reach_n of_o ill-will_a for_o if_o it_o find_v that_o part_n guard_v it_o will_v seek_v one_o which_o be_v more_o expose_v it_o fly_v like_o a_o corrupt_a humour_n in_o the_o body_n to_o the_o weak_a part_n if_o you_o have_v a_o tender_a side_n the_o world_n will_v be_v sure_a to_o find_v it_o and_o to_o put_v the_o worst_a colour_n on_o all_o you_o say_v or_o do_v give_v a_o aggravation_n to_o every_o thing_n that_o may_v lessen_v you_o and_o a_o spiteful_a turn_n to_o every_o thing_n that_o may_v recommend_v you_o anger_n lay_v open_v those_o defect_n which_o friendship_n will_v not_o see_v and_o civility_n will_v be_v willing_a to_o forget_v malice_n need_v no_o such_o invitation_n to_o encourage_v it_o neither_o be_v any_o pain_n more_o superfluous_a than_o those_o we_o take_v to_o be_v ill_o speak_v of_o if_o envy_n which_o never_o die_v and_o seldom_o sleep_v be_v content_a sometime_o to_o be_v in_o a_o slumber_n it_o be_v very_o unskilful_a to_o make_v a_o noise_n to_o awaken_v it_o beside_o your_o wit_n will_v be_v misapply_v in_o it_o if_o it_o be_v whole_o direct_v to_o discern_v the_o fault_n of_o other_o when_o it_o be_v so_o necessary_a to_o be_v so_o often_o use_v to_o mend_v and_o prevent_v your_o own_o the_o send_v our_o thought_n too_o much_o abroad_o have_v the_o same_o effect_n as_o when_o a_o family_n never_o stay_v at_o home_n neglect_v and_o disorder_n natural_o follow_v natural_o follow_v as_o it_o must_v do_v within_o ourselves_o if_o we_o do_v not_o frequent_o turn_v our_o eye_n inward_o to_o see_v what_o be_v amiss_o with_o we_o where_o it_o be_v a_o sign_n we_o have_v a_o unwelcome_a prospect_n when_o we_o do_v not_o care_v to_o look_v upon_o it_o but_o rather_o seek_v our_o consolation_n in_o the_o fault_n of_o those_o we_o converse_v with_o avoid_v be_v the_o first_o in_o fix_v a_o hard_a censure_n but_o let_v it_o be_v confirm_v by_o the_o general_a voice_n before_o you_o give_v credit_n to_o it_o neither_o be_v you_o then_o to_o give_v sentence_n like_o a_o magistrate_n or_o as_o if_o you_o have_v a_o special_a authority_n to_o bestow_v a_o good_a or_o ill_a name_n at_o your_o discretion_n do_v not_o dwell_v too_o long_o upon_o a_o weak_a side_n touch_n and_o go_v away_o take_v pleasure_n to_o stay_v long_o where_o you_o can_v commend_v like_o bee_n that_o fix_v only_o upon_o those_o herb_n out_o of_o which_o they_o may_v extract_v the_o juice_n of_o which_o their_o honey_n be_v compose_v a_o virtue_n stick_v with_o bristle_n be_v too_o rough_a for_o this_o age_n it_o must_v be_v adorn_v with_o some_o flower_n or_o else_o it_o will_v be_v unwilling_o entertain_v so_o that_o even_o where_o it_o may_v be_v fit_a to_o strike_v do_v it_o like_o a_o lady_n gentle_o and_o assure_v yourself_o that_o where_o you_o take_v care_n to_o do_v it_o you_o will_v wound_v other_o more_o and_o hurt_v yourself_o less_o by_o soft_a stroke_n than_o by_o be_v harsh_a or_o violent_a the_o triumph_n of_o wit_n be_v to_o make_v your_o good_a nature_n subdue_v your_o censure_n to_o be_v quick_a in_o see_v fault_n and_o slow_a in_o expose_v they_o you_o be_v to_o consider_v that_o the_o invisible_a thing_n call_v a_o good_a name_n be_v make_v up_o of_o the_o breath_n of_o number_n that_o speak_v well_o of_o you_o so_o that_o if_o by_o a_o disoblige_a word_n you_o silence_v the_o mean_a the_o gale_n will_v be_v less_o strong_a which_o be_v to_o bear_v up_o your_o esteem_n and_o though_o nothing_o be_v so_o vain_a as_o the_o eager_a pursuit_n of_o empty_a applause_n yet_o to_o be_v well_o think_v of_o and_o to_o be_v kind_o use_v by_o the_o world_n be_v like_o a_o glory_n about_o a_o woman_n head_n it_o be_v a_o perfume_n she_o carry_v about_o with_o she_o and_o leave_v wherever_o she_o go_v it_o be_v a_o charm_n against_o ill-will_a malice_n may_v empty_v her_o quiver_n but_o can_v wound_v the_o dirt_n will_v not_o stick_v the_o jest_n will_v not_o take_v without_o the_o consent_n of_o the_o world_n a_o scandal_n do_v not_o go_v deep_a it_o be_v only_o a_o slight_a stroke_n upon_o the_o party_n injure_v and_o return_v with_o the_o great_a force_n upon_o those_o that_o give_v it_o vanity_n and_o affectation_n i_o must_v with_o more_o than_o ordinary_a earnestness_n give_v you_o caution_n against_o vanity_n it_o be_v the_o
the_o lady_n new-year_n gift_n or_o advice_n to_o a_o daughter_z under_o these_o follow_a head_n viz._n religion_n husband_n house_n and_o family_n servant_n behaviour_n and_o conversation_n friendship_n censure_n vanity_n and_o affectation_n pride_n diversion_n dance_v the_o second_o edition_n correct_v by_o the_o original_a london_n print_v for_o matt._n gillyflower_n in_o westminster-hall_n and_o james_n partridge_n at_o charing-cross_n 1688_o advertisement_n this_o book_n be_v send_v to_o a_o scrivener_n to_o be_v copy_v out_o the_o scrivener_n surreptitious_o take_v another_o copy_n of_o it_o for_o himself_o and_o dispose_v it_o to_o a_o person_n that_o know_v not_o what_o to_o do_v with_o it_o and_o ignorant_a of_o its_o worth_n he_o sell_v it_o we_o we_o get_v a_o licence_n for_o it_o as_o a_o book_n of_o a_o unknown_a author_n put_v it_o to_o the_o press_n but_o find_v such_o a_o multitude_n of_o fault_n in_o it_o as_o have_v make_v we_o ashamed_a and_o trouble_v that_o so_o excellent_a a_o piece_n according_a to_o the_o universal_a judgement_n shall_v be_v so_o mangle_v and_o abuse_v we_o have_v make_v all_o the_o haste_n we_o can_v to_o get_v the_o original_a manuscript_n itself_o which_o the_o say_a person_n have_v and_o print_v this_o new_a edition_n the_o reader_n shall_v know_v this_o right_a copy_n from_o the_o other_o by_o the_o engrave_v figure_n before_o the_o title_n matthew_n gillyflower_n james_n partridge_n the_o lady_n new-year_n gift_n or_o advice_n to_o a_o daughter_z introduction_n dear_a daughter_n i_o find_v that_o even_o our_o most_o please_a thought_n will_v be_v unquiet_a they_o will_v be_v in_o motion_n and_o the_o mind_n can_v have_v no_o rest_n whilst_o it_o be_v possess_v by_o a_o darling_n passion_n you_o be_v at_o present_a the_o chief_a object_n of_o my_o care_n as_o well_o as_o of_o my_o kindness_n which_o sometime_o throw_v i_o into_o vision_n of_o your_o be_v happy_a in_o the_o world_n that_o be_v better_o suit_v to_o my_o partial_a wish_n than_o to_o my_o reasonable_a hope_n for_o you_o at_o other_o time_n when_o my_o fear_n prevail_v i_o shrink_v as_o if_o i_o be_v strike_v at_o the_o prospect_n of_o danger_n to_o which_o a_o young_a woman_n must_v be_v expose_v by_o how_o much_o the_o more_o lively_a so_o much_o the_o more_o liable_a you_o be_v to_o be_v hurt_v as_o the_o fine_a plant_n be_v soon_o nip_v by_o the_o frost_n whilst_o you_o be_v play_v full_a of_o innocence_n the_o spiteful_a world_n will_v bite_v except_o you_o be_v guard_v by_o your_o caution_n want_v of_o care_n therefore_o my_o dear_a child_n be_v never_o to_o be_v excuse_v since_o as_o to_o this_o world_n it_o have_v the_o same_o effect_n as_o want_v of_o virtue_n such_o a_o early_a sprout_a wit_n require_v to_o be_v so_o much_o the_o more_o shelter_v by_o some_o rule_n like_o something_o strew_v on_o tender_a flower_n to_o preserve_v they_o from_o be_v blast_v you_o must_v take_v it_o well_o to_o be_v prune_v by_o so_o kind_a a_o hand_n as_o that_o of_o a_o father_n there_o may_v be_v some_o bitterness_n in_o mere_a obedience_n the_o natural_a love_n of_o liberty_n may_v help_v to_o make_v the_o command_v of_o a_o parent_n hard_a to_o go_v down_o some_o inward_a resistance_n there_o will_v be_v where_o power_n and_o not_o choice_n make_v we_o move_v but_o when_o a_o father_n lay_v aside_o his_o authority_n and_o persuade_v only_o by_o his_o kindness_n you_o will_v never_o answer_v it_o to_o good_a nature_n if_o it_o have_v not_o weight_n with_o you_o a_o great_a part_n of_o what_o be_v say_v in_o the_o follow_a discourse_n may_v be_v above_o the_o present_a growth_n of_o your_o understanding_n but_o that_o become_v every_o day_n tall_a will_v in_o a_o little_a time_n reach_v up_o to_o it_o so_o as_o to_o make_v it_o easy_a to_o you_o i_o be_o willing_a to_o begin_v with_o you_o before_o your_o mind_n be_v quite_o form_v that_o be_v the_o time_n in_o which_o it_o be_v most_o capable_a of_o receive_v a_o colour_n that_o will_v last_v when_o it_o be_v mix_v with_o it_o few_o thing_n be_v well_o learn_v but_o by_o early_a precept_n those_o well_o infuse_v make_v they_o natural_a and_o we_o be_v never_o sure_a of_o retain_v what_o be_v valuable_a till_o by_o a_o continual_a habit_n we_o have_v make_v it_o a_o piece_n of_o we_o whether_o my_o skill_n can_v draw_v the_o picture_n of_o a_o fine_a woman_n may_v be_v a_o question_n but_o it_o can_v be_v none_o that_o i_o have_v draw_v that_o of_o a_o kind_a father_n if_o you_o will_v take_v a_o exact_a copy_n i_o will_v so_o far_o presume_v upon_o my_o workmanship_n as_o to_o undertake_v you_o shall_v not_o make_v a_o ill_a figure_n give_v i_o so_o much_o credit_n as_o to_o try_v â—nd_v i_o be_o sure_a that_o neither_o your_o wish_n nor_o i_o shall_v be_v disappoint_v religion_n the_o first_o thing_n to_o be_v consider_v be_v religion_n it_o must_v be_v the_o chief_a object_n of_o your_o thought_n since_o it_o will_v be_v a_o vain_a thing_n to_o direct_v your_o behaviour_n in_o the_o world_n and_o forget_v that_o which_o you_o be_v to_o have_v towards_o he_o who_o make_v it_o in_o a_o strict_a sense_n it_o be_v the_o only_a thing_n necessary_a you_o must_v take_v it_o into_o your_o mind_n and_o thence_o throw_v it_o into_o your_o heart_n where_o you_o be_v to_o embrace_v it_o so_o close_o as_o never_o to_o lose_v the_o possession_n of_o it_o but_o than_o it_o be_v necessary_a to_o distinguish_v between_o the_o reality_n and_o the_o pretence_n religion_n do_v not_o consist_v in_o believe_v the_o legend_n of_o the_o nursery_n where_o child_n with_o their_o milk_n be_v feed_v with_o the_o tale_n of_o witch_n hobgoblin_n prophecy_n and_o miracle_n we_o suck_v in_o so_o greedy_o these_o early_a mistake_v that_o our_o ripe_a understanding_n have_v much_o ado_n to_o cleanse_v our_o mind_n from_o this_o kind_n of_o trash_n the_o story_n be_v so_o entertain_v that_o we_o do_v not_o only_o believe_v they_o but_o relate_v they_o which_o make_v the_o discovery_n of_o the_o truth_n somewhat_o grievous_a when_o it_o make_v we_o lose_v such_o a_o field_n of_o impertinence_n where_o we_o may_v have_v divert_v ourselves_o beside_o the_o shame_n throw_v upon_o we_o for_o have_v ever_o receive_v they_o this_o be_v make_v the_o world_n a_o feast_n and_o impute_v to_o god_n almighty_a that_o the_o province_n he_o assign_v to_o the_o devil_n be_v to_o play_v at_o blind-mans-buff_n and_o show_v trick_n with_o mankind_n and_o be_v so_o far_o from_o be_v religion_n that_o it_o be_v not_o sense_n and_o have_v right_a only_o to_o be_v call_v that_o kind_n of_o devotion_n of_o which_o ignorance_n be_v the_o undoubted_a mother_n without_o competition_n or_o dispute_n these_o mistake_v be_v therefore_o to_o be_v leave_v off_o with_o your_o hanging-sleeve_n and_o you_o ought_v to_o be_v as_o much_o out_o of_o countenance_n to_o be_v find_v with_o they_o about_o you_o as_o to_o be_v see_v play_v with_o baby_n at_o a_o age_n when_o other_o thing_n be_v expect_v from_o you_o the_o next_o thing_n to_o be_v observe_v to_o you_o be_v that_o religion_n do_v as_o little_o consist_v in_o loud_a answer_n and_o devout_a convulsion_n at_o church_n or_o pray_v in_o a_o extraordinary_a manner_n some_o lady_n be_v so_o extreme_a stir_v at_o church_n one_o will_v swear_v the_o worm_n in_o their_o conscience_n make_v they_o so_o unquiet_a other_o will_v have_v such_o a_o divide_a face_n between_o a_o devout_a goggle_v and_o a_o invite_v glance_n that_o the_o unnatural_a mixture_n make_v even_o their_o best_a look_n to_o be_v at_o that_o time_n ridiculous_a these_o affect_a appearance_n be_v ever_o suspect_v like_o very_o strong_a perfume_n which_o be_v general_o think_v no_o very_o good_a symptom_n in_o those_o that_o make_v use_v of_o they_o let_v your_o earnestness_n therefore_o be_v reserve_v for_o your_o closet_n where_o you_o may_v have_v god_n almighty_a to_o yourself_o in_o public_a be_v still_o and_o calm_a neither_o indecent_o careless_a or_o affect_v in_o the_o other_o extreme_a it_o be_v not_o true_a devotion_n to_o put_v on_o a_o angry_a zeal_n against_o those_o who_o may_v be_v of_o a_o differ_a persuasion_n partiality_n to_o ourselves_o make_v we_o often_o mistake_v it_o for_o a_o duty_n to_o fall_v hard_o upon_o other_o in_o that_o case_n and_o be_v push_v on_o with_o self-conceit_n we_o strike_v without_o mercy_n believe_v that_o the_o wound_n we_o give_v be_v meritorious_a and_o that_o we_o be_v fight_v god_n almighty_n quarrel_n when_o the_o truth_n be_v we_o be_v only_o set_v out_o ourselves_o our_o devotion_n too_o often_o break_v out_o into_o that_o shape_n which_o most_o agree_v with_o our_o particular_a temper_n the_o choleric_a grow_v into_o a_o harden_a severity_n against_o all_o
who_o dissent_n from_o they_o snatch_v at_o all_o the_o text_n of_o scripture_n that_o suit_n with_o their_o complexion_n and_o because_o god_n wrath_n be_v some_o time_n kindle_v they_o conclude_v that_o anger_n be_v a_o divine_a virtue_n and_o be_v so_o far_o from_o imagine_v that_o their_o ill-natured_a zeal_n require_v a_o apology_n that_o they_o value_v themselves_o upon_o it_o &_o triumph_v in_o it_o other_o who_o nature_n be_v more_o credulousthan_n ordinary_a admit_v no_o bound_n or_o measure_n to_o it_o they_o grow_v as_o proud_a of_o extend_v their_o faith_n as_o prince_n be_v of_o enlarge_a their_o dominion_n not_o consider_v that_o our_o faith_n like_o our_o stomach_n be_v capable_a of_o be_v overcharged_a and_o that_o as_o the_o last_o be_v destroy_v by_o take_v in_o more_o than_o it_o can_v digest_v so_o our_o reason_n may_v be_v extinguish_v by_o oppress_v it_o with_o the_o weight_n of_o too_o many_o strange_a thing_n especial_o if_o we_o be_v forbid_v to_o chew_v what_o we_o be_v command_v to_o swallow_v the_o melancholy_a and_o the_o sullen_a be_v apt_a to_o place_v a_o great_a part_n of_o their_o religion_n in_o deject_a and_o ill-humoured_a look_n put_v on_o a_o unsociable_a face_n and_o declaim_v against_o the_o innocent_a entertainment_n of_o life_n with_o as_o much_o sharpness_n as_o they_o can_v bestow_v upon_o the_o great_a crime_n this_o general_o be_v only_o a_o vizard_n there_o be_v seldom_o any_o thing_n real_a in_o it_o no_o other_o thing_n be_v the_o better_a for_o be_v sour_a and_o it_o will_v be_v hard_a that_o religion_n shall_v be_v so_o which_o be_v the_o best_a of_o thing_n in_o the_o mean_a time_n it_o may_v be_v say_v with_o truth_n that_o this_o surly_a kind_n of_o devotion_n have_v perhaps_o do_v little_a less_o hurt_v in_o the_o world_n by_o fright_v than_o the_o most_o scandalous_a example_n have_v do_v by_o infect_v it_o have_v tell_v you_o in_o these_o few_o instance_n to_o which_o many_o more_o may_v have_v be_v add_v what_o be_v not_o true_a religion_n it_o be_v time_n to_o describe_v to_o you_o what_o be_v so_o the_o ordinary_a definition_n be_v no_o more_o like_o it_o than_o the_o common_a sign-post_n be_v like_o the_o prince_n they_o will_v represent_v the_o unskilful_a dawber_n in_o all_o age_n have_v general_o lay_v on_o such_o ill_a colour_n and_o draw_v such_o harsh_a line_n that_o the_o beauty_n of_o it_o be_v not_o easy_o to_o be_v discover_v they_o have_v put_v in_o all_o the_o forbid_a feature_n that_o can_v be_v think_v of_o and_o in_o the_o first_o place_n have_v make_v it_o a_o irreconcilable_a enemy_n to_o nature_n when_o in_o reality_n they_o be_v not_o only_a friend_n but_o twin_n bear_v together_o at_o the_o same_o time_n and_o it_o be_v do_v violence_n to_o they_o both_o to_o go_v about_o to_o have_v they_o separate_v nothing_o be_v so_o kind_a and_o so_o invite_v as_o true_a and_o unsophisticated_a religion_n in_o stead_n of_o impose_v unnecessary_a burden_n upon_o our_o nature_n it_o ease_v we_o of_o the_o great_a weight_n of_o our_o passion_n and_o mistake_v in_o stead_n of_o subdue_a we_o with_o rigour_n it_o redeem_v we_o from_o the_o slavery_n we_o be_v in_o too_o ourselves_o who_o be_v the_o most_o severe_a master_n whilst_o we_o be_v under_o the_o usurpation_n of_o our_o appetite_n let_v loose_a and_o unrestrained_a religion_n be_v a_o cheerful_a thing_n so_o far_o from_o be_v always_o at_o cuff_n with_o good_a humour_n that_o it_o be_v inseparable_o unite_v to_o it_o nothing_o unpleasant_a belong_v to_o it_o though_o the_o spiritual_a cook_n have_v do_v their_o unskilful_a part_n to_o give_v a_o ill_a relish_n to_o it_o a_o wise_a epicure_n will_v be_v religious_a for_o the_o sake_n of_o pleasure_n good_a sense_n be_v the_o foundation_n of_o both_o and_o he_o be_v a_o bungler_n who_o aim_v at_o true_a luxury_n but_o where_o they_o be_v join_v religion_n be_v exalt_v reason_n refine_a and_o sift_v from_o the_o grosser_n part_n of_o it_o it_o dwell_v in_o the_o upper_a region_n of_o the_o mind_n where_o there_o be_v no_o cloud_n or_o mist_n to_o darken_v or_o offend_v it_o it_o be_v both_o the_o foundation_n and_o the_o crown_n of_o all_o virtue_n it_o be_v morality_n improve_v and_o raise_v to_o its_o height_n by_o be_v carry_v near_a heaven_n the_o only_a place_n where_o perfection_n reside_v it_o cleanse_v the_o understanding_n and_o brush_v off_o the_o earth_n that_o hang_v about_o our_o soul_n it_o do_v not_o want_v the_o hope_n and_o the_o terror_n which_o be_v make_v use_n of_o to_o support_v it_o neither_o ought_v it_o to_o descend_v to_o the_o borrow_v any_o argument_n out_o of_o itself_o since_o there_o we_o may_v find_v every_o thing_n that_o shall_v invite_v we_o if_o we_o be_v to_o be_v hire_v to_o religion_n it_o be_v able_a to_o outbid_v the_o corrupt_a world_n with_o all_o it_o can_v offer_v to_o we_o be_v so_o much_o the_o rich_a of_o the_o too_o in_o every_o thing_n where_o reason_n be_v admit_v to_o be_v judge_n of_o the_o value_n since_o this_o be_v so_o it_o be_v worth_a your_o pain_n to_o make_v religion_n your_o choice_n and_o not_o make_v use_n of_o it_o only_o as_o a_o refuge_n there_o be_v lady_n who_o find_v by_o the_o too_o visible_a decay_n of_o their_o good_a look_n that_o they_o can_v shine_v no_o more_o by_o that_o light_n put_v on_o the_o varnish_n of_o a_o affect_a devotion_n to_o keep_v up_o some_o kind_n of_o figure_n in_o the_o world_n they_o take_v sanctuary_n in_o the_o church_n where_o they_o be_v pursue_v by_o grow_a contempt_n which_o will_v not_o be_v stop_v but_o follow_v they_o to_o the_o altar_n such_o late_a penitence_n be_v only_o a_o disguise_n for_o the_o torment_a grief_n of_o be_v no_o more_o handsome_a that_o be_v the_o kill_a thought_n which_o draw_v the_o sigh_n and_o tear_n that_o appear_v outward_o to_o be_v apply_v to_o a_o better_a end_n there_o be_v many_o who_o have_v and_o aguish_a devotion_n hot_a and_o cold_a fit_n long_a intermission_n and_o violent_a rapture_n this_o unevenness_n be_v by_o all_o mean_n to_o be_v avoid_v let_v your_o method_n be_v a_o steady_a course_n of_o good_a life_n that_o may_v run_v like_o a_o smooth_a stream_n and_o be_v a_o perpetual_a spring_n to_o furnish_v to_o the_o continue_a exercise_n of_o virtue_n your_o devotion_n may_v be_v earnest_a but_o it_o must_v be_v unconstrained_a and_o like_o other_o duty_n you_o must_v make_v it_o your_o pleasure_n too_o or_o else_o it_o will_v have_v but_o very_o little_a efficacy_n by_o this_o rule_n you_o may_v best_o judge_v of_o your_o own_o heart_n whilst_o these_o duty_n be_v joy_n it_o be_v a_o evidence_n of_o their_o be_v sincere_a but_o when_o they_o be_v a_o penance_n it_o be_v a_o sign_n that_o your_o nature_n make_v some_o resistance_n and_o whilst_o that_o last_v you_o can_v never_o be_v entire_o secure_a of_o yourself_o if_o you_o be_v often_o unquiet_a and_o too_o near_o touch_v by_o the_o cross_a accident_n of_o life_n your_o devotion_n be_v not_o of_o the_o right_a standard_n there_o be_v too_o much_o allay_v in_o it_o that_o which_o be_v right_a and_o unmixed_a take_v away_o the_o sting_n of_o every_o thing_n that_o will_v trouble_v you_o it_o be_v like_o a_o heal_a balm_n that_o extinguish_v the_o sharpness_n of_o the_o blood_n so_o this_o soften_v and_o dissolve_v the_o anguish_n of_o the_o mind_n a_o devout_a mind_n have_v this_o privilege_n of_o be_v free_a from_o passion_n as_o some_o climate_n be_v from_o all_o manner_n of_o venomous_a kind_n of_o creature_n it_o will_v raise_v you_o above_o the_o little_a vexation_n to_o which_o other_o for_o want_n of_o it_o will_v be_v expose_v and_o will_v bring_v you_o to_o a_o temper_n not_o of_o stupid_a indifference_n but_o of_o such_o a_o wife_n resignation_n that_o you_o may_v live_v in_o the_o world_n so_o as_o it_o may_v hang_v about_o you_o like_o a_o loose_a garment_n and_o not_o tie_v too_o close_o to_o you_o take_v heed_n of_o run_v into_o that_o common_a error_n of_o apply_v god_n judgement_n upon_o particular_a occasion_n our_o weight_n and_o measure_n be_v not_o competent_a to_o make_v the_o distribution_n either_o of_o his_o mercy_n or_o his_o justice_n he_o have_v throw_v a_o veil_n over_o these_o thing_n which_o make_v it_o not_o only_o a_o impertinence_n but_o a_o kind_n of_o sacrilege_n for_o we_o to_o give_v sentence_n in_o they_o without_o his_o commission_n as_o to_o your_o particular_a faith_n keep_v to_o the_o religion_n that_o be_v grow_v up_o with_o you_o both_o as_o it_o be_v the_o best_a in_o itself_o and_o that_o the_o reason_n of_o stay_v in_o it_o upon_o that_o ground_n be_v somewhat_o strong_a for_o your_o sex_n than_o it_o will_v perhaps_o be_v allow_v to_o be_v for_o
have_v the_o same_o effect_n a_o fit_a of_o vanity_n ambition_n and_o sometime_o of_o kindness_n shall_v open_v and_o enlarge_v his_o narrow_a mind_n a_o do_v of_o wine_n will_v work_v upon_o this_o tough_a humour_n and_o for_o the_o time_n dissolve_v it_o your_o business_n must_v be_v if_o this_o case_n happen_v to_o watch_v these_o critical_a moment_n and_o not_o let_v one_o of_o they_o slip_v without_o make_v your_o advantage_n of_o it_o and_o a_o wife_n may_v be_v say_v to_o want_v skill_n if_o by_o these_o mean_v she_o be_v not_o able_a to_o secure_v herself_o in_o a_o good_a measure_n against_o the_o inconvenience_n this_o scurvy_a quality_n in_o a_o husband_n may_v bring_v upon_o she_o except_o he_o shall_v be_v such_o a_o incurable_a monster_n as_o i_o hope_v will_v never_o fall_v to_o your_o share_n the_o last_o supposition_n i_o will_v make_v be_v that_o your_o husband_n shall_v be_v weak_a and_o incompetent_a to_o make_v use_n of_o the_o privilege_n that_o belong_v to_o he_o it_o will_v be_v yield_v that_o such_o a_o one_o leave_v room_n for_o a_o great_a many_o objection_n but_o god_n almighty_a seldom_o send_v a_o grievance_n without_o a_o remedy_n or_o at_o least_o such_o a_o mitigation_n as_o take_v away_o a_o great_a part_n of_o the_o sting_n and_o smart_n of_o it_o to_o make_v such_o a_o misfortune_n less_o heavy_a you_o be_v first_o to_o bring_v to_o your_o observation_n that_o a_o wife_n very_o often_o make_v the_o better_a figure_n for_o her_o husband_n make_v no_o great_a one_o and_o there_o seem_v to_o be_v little_a reason_n why_o the_o same_o lady_n that_o choose_v a_o waiting-woman_n with_o worse_a look_n many_o not_o be_v content_a with_o a_o husband_n with_o less_o wit_n the_o argument_n be_v equal_a from_o the_o advantage_n of_o the_o comparison_n if_o you_o will_v be_v more_o ashamed_a in_o some_o case_n of_o such_o a_o husband_n you_o will_v be_v less_o afraid_a than_o you_o will_v perhaps_o be_v of_o a_o wise_a one_o his_o unseasonable_a weakness_n may_v no_o doubt_n sometime_o grieve_v you_o but_o then_o set_v against_o this_o that_o it_o give_v you_o the_o dominion_n if_o you_o will_v make_v the_o right_a use_n of_o it_o it_o be_v next_o to_o his_o be_v dead_a in_o which_o case_n the_o wife_n have_v right_a to_o administer_v therefore_o be_v sure_a if_o you_o have_v such_o a_o idiot_n that_o none_o except_o yourself_o may_v have_v the_o benefit_n of_o the_o forfeiture_n such_o a_o fool_n be_v a_o dangerous_a beast_n if_o other_o have_v the_o keep_n of_o he_o and_o you_o must_v be_v very_o undextrous_o if_o when_o your_o husband_n shall_v resolve_v to_o be_v a_o ass_n you_o do_v not_o take_v care_n he_o may_v be_v your_o ass_n but_o you_o must_v go_v skilful_o about_o it_o and_o above_o all_o thing_n take_v heed_n of_o distinguish_v in_o public_a what_o kind_n of_o husband_n he_o be_v your_o inward_a thought_n must_v not_o hinder_v the_o outward_a payment_n of_o the_o consideration_n that_o be_v due_a to_o he_o your_o stight_v he_o in_o company_n beside_o that_o it_o will_v to_o a_o discern_a by-stander_n give_v too_o great_a encouragement_n for_o the_o make_n near_a application_n to_o you_o be_v in_o itself_o such_o a_o undecent_a way_n of_o assume_v that_o it_o may_v provoke_v the_o tame_a creature_n to_o break_v loose_a and_o to_o show_v his_o dominion_n for_o his_o credit_n which_o he_o be_v content_a to_o forget_v for_o his_o ease_n in_o short_a the_o fure_a and_o the_o most_o approve_a method_n will_v be_v to_o do_v like_o a_o wife_n minister_n to_o a_o easy_a prince_n first_o give_v he_o the_o order_n you_o afterward_o receive_v from_o he_o with_o all_o this_o that_o which_o you_o be_v to_o pray_v for_o be_v a_o wife_n husband_n one_o that_o by_o know_v how_o to_o be_v a_o master_n for_o that_o very_a reason_n will_v not_o let_v you_o feel_v the_o weight_n of_o it_o one_o who_o authority_n be_v so_o soften_v by_o his_o kindness_n that_o it_o give_v you_o ease_n without_o abridge_n your_o liberty_n one_o that_o will_v return_v so_o much_o tenderness_n for_o just_a esteem_n of_o he_o that_o you_o will_v never_o want_v power_n though_o you_o will_v seldom_o care_v to_o use_v it_o such_o a_o husband_n be_v as_o much_o above_o all_o the_o other_o kind_n of_o they_o as_o a_o rational_a subjection_n to_o a_o prince_n great_a in_o himself_o be_v to_o be_v prefer_v before_o the_o disquiet_n and_o uneasiness_n of_o unlimited_a liberty_n before_o i_o leave_v this_o head_n i_o must_v add_v a_o little_a concern_v your_o behaviour_n to_o your_o husband_n friend_n which_o require_v the_o most_o refine_a part_n of_o your_o understanding_n to_o acquit_v yourself_o well_o of_o it_o you_o be_v to_o study_v how_o to_o live_v with_o they_o with_o more_o care_n than_o you_o be_v to_o apply_v to_o any_o other_o part_n of_o your_o life_n especial_o at_o first_o that_o you_o may_v not_o stumble_v at_o the_o first_o set_v out_o the_o family_n into_o which_o you_o be_v graft_v will_v general_o be_v apt_a to_o expect_v that_o like_o a_o stranger_n in_o a_o foreign_a country_n you_o shall_v conform_v to_o their_o method_n and_o not_o bring_v in_o a_o new_a model_n by_o your_o own_o authority_n the_o friend_n in_o such_o a_o case_n be_v tempt_v to_o rise_v up_o in_o arm_n as_o against_o a_o unlawful_a invasion_n so_o that_o you_o be_v with_o the_o utmost_a caution_n to_o avoid_v the_o least_o appearance_n of_o any_o thing_n of_o this_o kind_n and_o that_o you_o may_v with_o less_o difficulty_n afterward_o give_v your_o direction_n be_v sure_a at_o first_o to_o receive_v they_o from_o your_o husband_n friend_n gain_v they_o to_o you_o by_o early_o apply_v to_o they_o and_o they_o will_v be_v so_o satisfy_v that_o as_o nothing_o be_v more_o thankful_a than_o pride_n when_o it_o be_v comply_v with_o they_o will_v strive_v which_o of_o they_o shall_v most_o recommend_v you_o and_o when_o they_o have_v help_v you_o to_o take_v root_n in_o your_o husband_n be_v good_a opinion_n you_o will_v have_v less_o dependence_n upon_o they_o though_o you_o must_v not_o neglect_v any_o reasonable_a mean_n of_o preserve_v it_o you_o be_v to_o consider_v that_o a_o man_n govern_v by_o his_o friend_n be_v very_o easy_o inflame_v by_o they_o and_o that_o one_o who_o be_v not_o so_o will_v yet_o for_o his_o own_o sake_n expect_v to_o have_v they_o consider_v it_o be_v easy_o improve_v to_o a_o point_n of_o honour_n in_o a_o husband_n not_o to_o have_v his_o relation_n neglect_v and_o nothing_o be_v more_o dangerous_a than_o to_o raise_v a_o objection_n which_o be_v ground_v upon_o pride_n it_o be_v the_o most_o stubborn_a and_o last_a passion_n we_o be_v subject_a to_o and_o when_o it_o be_v the_o first_o cause_n of_o the_o war_n it_o be_v very_o hard_a to_o make_v a_o secure_a peace_n your_o caution_n in_o this_o be_v of_o the_o last_o importance_n to_o you_o and_o that_o you_o may_v the_o better_o succeed_v in_o it_o carry_v a_o strict_a eye_n upon_o the_o impertinency_n of_o your_o servant_n take_v heed_n that_o their_o ill_a humour_n may_v not_o engage_v you_o to_o take_v exception_n or_o their_o too_o much_o assume_v in_o small_a matter_n raise_v consequence_n which_o may_v bring_v you_o under_o great_a disadvantage_n remember_v that_o in_o the_o case_n of_o a_o royal_a bride_n those_o about_o she_o be_v general_o so_o far_o suspect_v to_o bring_v in_o a_o foreign_a interest_n that_o in_o most_o country_n they_o be_v insensible_o reduce_v to_o a_o very_a small_a number_n and_o those_o of_o so_o low_a a_o figure_n that_o it_o do_v not_o admit_v the_o be_v jealous_a of_o they_o in_o little_a and_o in_o the_o proportion_n this_o may_v be_v the_o case_n of_o every_o new-married-woman_n and_o therefore_o it_o may_v be_v more_o adviseable_a for_o you_o to_o gain_v the_o servant_n you_o find_v in_o a_o family_n than_o to_o tie_v yourself_o too_o fast_o to_o those_o you_o carry_v into_o it_o you_o be_v not_o to_o overlook_v those_o small_a reflection_n because_o they_o may_v appear_v low_a and_o inconsiderable_a for_o it_o may_v be_v say_v that_o as_o the_o great_a stream_n be_v make_v up_o of_o the_o small_a drop_n at_o the_o head_n of_o the_o spring_n from_o whence_o they_o be_v derive_v so_o the_o great_a circumstance_n of_o your_o life_n will_v be_v in_o some_o degree_n direct_v by_o these_o seem_a trifle_n which_o have_v the_o advantage_n of_o be_v the_o first_o act_n of_o it_o have_v a_o great_a effect_n than_o single_o in_o their_o own_o nature_n they_o can_v pretend_v to_o i_o will_v conclude_v this_o article_n with_o my_o advice_n that_o you_o will_v as_o much_o as_o nature_n will_v give_v you_o leave_v endeavour_v to_o forget_v the_o great_a indulgence_n you_o have_v find_v at_o
you_o that_o you_o be_v not_o to_o expect_v return_v of_o kindness_n from_o you_o if_o ever_o you_o have_v any_o without_o grain_n of_o allowance_n and_o yet_o it_o be_v not_o so_o much_o a_o defect_n in_o their_o good_a nature_n as_o a_o shortness_n of_o thought_n in_o they_o their_o first_o insufficiency_n make_v they_o lean_a so_o entire_o upon_o their_o parent_n for_o what_o be_v necessary_a that_o the_o habit_n of_o it_o make_v they_o continue_v the_o same_o expectation_n for_o what_o be_v unreasonable_a and_o as_o oft_o as_o they_o be_v deny_v so_o often_o they_o think_v they_o be_v injure_v and_o whilst_o their_o desire_n be_v strong_a and_o their_o reason_n yet_o in_o the_o cradle_n their_o anger_n look_v no_o far_a than_o the_o thing_n they_o long_v for_o and_o can_v have_v and_o to_o be_v displease_v for_o their_o own_o good_a be_v a_o maxim_n they_o be_v very_o slow_a to_o understand_v so_o that_o you_o may_v conclude_v the_o first_o thought_n of_o your_o child_n will_v have_v no_o small_a mixture_n of_o mutiny_n which_o be_v so_o natural_a you_o must_v not_o be_v angry_a except_o you_o will_v increase_v it_o you_o must_v deny_v they_o as_o seldom_o as_o you_o can_v and_o when_o there_o be_v no_o avoid_v it_o you_o must_v do_v it_o gentle_o you_o must_v flatter_v away_o their_o ill_a humour_n and_o take_v the_o next_o opportunity_n of_o please_v they_o in_o some_o other_o thing_n before_o they_o either_o ask_v or_o look_v for_o it_o this_o will_v strengthen_v your_o authority_n by_o make_v it_o soft_a to_o they_o and_o confirm_v their_o obedience_n by_o make_v it_o their_o interest_n you_o be_v to_o have_v as_o strict_a a_o guard_n upon_o yourself_o among_o your_o child_n as_o if_o you_o be_v among_o your_o enemy_n they_o be_v apt_a to_o make_v wrong_a inference_n to_o take_v encouragement_n from_o half_a word_n and_o misapply_v what_o you_o may_v say_v or_o do_v so_o as_o either_o to_o lessen_v their_o duty_n or_o to_o extend_v their_o liberty_n far_o than_o be_v convenient_a let_v they_o be_v more_o in_o awe_n of_o your_o kindness_n than_o of_o your_o power_n and_o above_o all_o take_v heed_n of_o support_v a_o favourite_n child_n in_o its_o impertinence_n which_o will_v give_v right_o to_o the_o rest_n of_o claim_v the_o same_o privilege_n if_o you_o have_v a_o divide_a number_n leave_v the_o boy_n to_o the_o father_n more_o peculiar_a care_n that_o you_o may_v with_o the_o great_a justice_n pretend_v to_o a_o more_o immediate_a jurisdiction_n over_o those_o of_o your_o own_o sex_n you_o be_v to_o live_v so_o with_o they_o that_o they_o may_v never_o choose_v to_o avoid_v you_o except_o when_o they_o have_v offend_v and_o then_o let_v they_o tremble_v that_o they_o may_v distinguish_v but_o their_o penance_n must_v not_o continue_v so_o long_o as_o to_o grow_v sour_a upon_o their_o stomach_n that_o it_o may_v not_o harden_n in_o stead_n of_o correct_v they_o the_o kind_n and_o severe_a part_n must_v have_v their_o several_a turn_n seasonable_o apply_v but_o your_o indulgence_n must_v have_v the_o broad_a mixture_n that_o love_n rather_o than_o fear_v may_v be_v the_o root_n of_o their_o obedience_n your_o servant_n be_v in_o the_o next_o place_n to_o be_v consider_v and_o you_o must_v remember_v not_o to_o fall_v into_o the_o mistake_n of_o think_v that_o because_o they_o receive_v wage_n and_o be_v so_o much_o inferior_a to_o you_o therefore_o they_o be_v below_o your_o care_n to_o know_v how_o to_o manage_v they_o it_o will_v be_v as_o good_a reason_n for_o a_o master_n workman_n to_o despise_v the_o wheel_n of_o his_o engine_n because_o they_o be_v make_v of_o wood._n these_o be_v the_o wheel_n of_o your_o family_n and_o let_v your_o direction_n be_v never_o so_o faultless_a yet_o if_o these_o engine_n stop_v or_o move_v wrong_a the_o whole_a order_n of_o your_o house_n be_v either_o at_o a_o stand_n or_o discompose_v beside_o the_o inequality_n which_o be_v between_o you_o must_v not_o cause_v you_o to_o forget_v that_o nature_n make_v no_o such_o distinction_n but_o that_o servant_n may_v be_v look_v upon_o as_o humble_a friend_n and_o that_o return_v of_o kindness_n and_o good_a usage_n be_v as_o much_o due_a to_o such_o of_o they_o as_o deserve_v it_o as_o their_o service_n be_v due_a to_o we_o when_o we_o require_v it_o a_o foolish_a haughtiness_n in_o the_o style_n of_o speak_v or_o in_o the_o manner_n of_o command_v they_o be_v in_o itself_o very_o undecent_a beside_o that_o it_o beget_v a_o aversion_n in_o they_o of_o which_o the_o least_o ill_a effect_n to_o be_v expect_v be_v that_o they_o will_v be_v flow_n and_o careless_a in_o all_o that_o be_v enjoin_v they_o and_o you_o will_v find_v it_o true_a by_o your_o experience_n that_o you_o will_v be_v so_o much_o the_o more_o obey_v as_o you_o be_v less_o imperious_a be_v not_o too_o hasty_a in_o give_v your_o order_n nor_o too_o angry_a when_o they_o be_v not_o altogether_o observe_v much_o less_o be_v you_o to_o be_v loud_a or_o too_o much_o disturb_v a_o evenness_n in_o distinguish_v when_o they_o do_v well_o or_o ill_o be_v that_o which_o will_v make_v your_o family_n move_v by_o a_o rule_n and_o without_o noise_n and_o will_v the_o better_o set_v out_o your_o skill_n in_o conduct_v it_o with_o ease_n and_o silence_n that_o it_o may_v be_v like_o a_o well-disciplined_a army_n which_o know_v how_o to_o anticipate_v the_o order_n that_o be_v fit_a to_o be_v give_v they_o you_o be_v never_o to_o neglect_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o present_a hour_n to_o do_v another_o thing_n which_o though_o it_o may_v be_v better_o in_o itself_o be_v not_o to_o be_v unreasonable_o prefer_v allot_v well_o choose_v hour_n for_o the_o inspection_n of_o your_o family_n which_o may_v be_v so_o distinguish_v from_o the_o rest_n of_o your_o time_n that_o the_o necessary_a care_n may_v come_v in_o their_o proper_a place_n without_o any_o influence_n upon_o your_o good_a humour_n or_o interruption_n to_o other_o thing_n by_o these_o method_n you_o will_v put_v yourself_o in_o possesson_n of_o be_v value_v by_o your_o servant_n and_o then_o their_o obedience_n will_v natural_o follow_v i_o must_v not_o forget_v one_o of_o the_o great_a article_n belong_v to_o a_o family_n which_o be_v the_o expense_n it_o must_v not_o be_v such_o as_o by_o fail_v either_o in_o the_o time_n or_o measure_n of_o it_o may_v rather_o draw_v censure_n than_o gain_v applause_n if_o it_o be_v well_o examine_v there_o be_v more_o money_n give_v to_o be_v laugh_v at_o than_o for_o any_o other_o thing_n in_o the_o world_n though_o the_o purchaser_n do_v not_o think_v so_o a_o well-stated_n rule_n be_v like_o the_o line_n when_o that_o be_v once_o pass_v we_o be_v under_o another_o pole_n so_o the_o first_o stray_v from_o rule_n be_v a_o step_n towards_o make_v that_o which_o be_v before_o a_o virtue_n to_o change_v its_o nature_n and_o to_o grow_v either_o into_o a_o vice_n or_o at_o least_o a_o impertinence_n the_o art_n of_o lay_v out_o money_n wise_o be_v not_o attain_v to_o without_o a_o great_a deal_n of_o thought_n and_o it_o be_v yet_o more_o difficult_a in_o the_o cafe_z of_o a_o wife_n who_o be_v accountable_a to_o her_o husband_n for_o her_o mistake_n in_o it_o it_o be_v not_o only_o his_o money_n his_o credit_n too_o be_v at_o stake_n if_o what_o lie_v under_o the_o wife_n care_n be_v manage_v either_o with_o undecent_a thrift_n or_o too_o loose_a profusion_n you_o be_v therefore_o to_o keep_v the_o mean_a between_o these_o two_o extreme_n and_o it_o be_v hardly_o possible_a to_o hold_v the_o balance_n exact_o even_o let_v it_o rather_o incline_v towards_o the_o liberal_a side_n as_o more_o suitable_a to_o your_o quality_n and_o less_o subject_a reproach_n of_o the_o two_o a_o little_a money_n misspend_v be_v soon_o recover_v than_o the_o credit_n which_o be_v lose_v by_o have_v it_o unhandsome_o save_v and_o a_o wife_n husband_n will_v less_o forgive_v a_o shameful_a piece_n of_o parsimony_n than_o a_o little_a extravaance_n if_o it_o be_v not_o too_o often_o repeat_v mind_n in_o this_o must_v be_v your_o chief_a direction_n and_o his_o temper_n when_o once_o know_v will_v in_o a_o great_a measure_n justify_v your_o part_n in_o the_o management_n if_o he_o be_v please_v with_o it_o in_o your_o clothes_n avoid_v too_o much_o gaudiness_n do_v not_o value_v yourself_o upon_o a_o imbroidered-gown_n and_o remember_v that_o a_o reasonable_a word_n or_o a_o oblige_a look_v will_v gain_v you_o more_o respect_n than_o all_o your_o fine_a trappings_o this_o be_v not_o say_v to_o restrain_v you_o from_o a_o decent_a compliance_n with_o the_o world_n provide_v you_o take_v the_o wise_a and_o not_o the_o foolish_a part_n of_o your_o sex_n for_o your_o pattern_n some_o distinction_n