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to_o provoke_v she_o to_o anger_n for_o love_n suffer_v long_o yea_o suffer_v all_o thing_n and_o be_v not_o provoke_v to_o anger_n 1_o cor._n 13.4_o 7._o the_o prevail_a of_o self-love_n and_o the_o cool_a and_o decay_n of_o conjugal_a love_n be_v the_o fundamental_a cause_n of_o all_o disturbance_n that_o be_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n and_o that_o party_n that_o be_v most_o passionate_a have_v least_o conjugal_a affection_n and_o by_o want_n of_o this_o love_n small_a matter_n do_v exasperate_v and_o breed_v distaste_n and_o he_o or_o she_o that_o be_v most_o furious_a be_v most_o faulty_a for_o a_o husband_n or_o wife_n can_v have_v a_o bitter_a mind_n upon_o small_a provocation_n against_o one_o another_o if_o they_o dear_o love_v one_o another_o and_o every_o thing_n that_o provoke_v be_v a_o small_a provocation_n which_o be_v not_o a_o breach_n of_o god_n law_n and_o as_o
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comeliness_n be_v it_o not_o then_o better_a to_o forget_v injury_n pass_v by_o wrong_n bear_v with_o some_o opposition_n and_o deny_v the_o gratify_n of_o my_o will_n than_o do_v my_o body_n and_o spirit_n so_o much_o prejudice_n and_o lose_v that_o contentment_n and_o sweetness_n that_o by_o meekness_n i_o may_v enjoy_v and_o lose_v that_o inward_a peace_n and_o satisfaction_n of_o mind_n that_o otherwise_o i_o may_v have_v or_o deprive_v myself_o of_o that_o beauty_n and_o comeliness_n that_o otherwise_o i_o may_v preserve_v o_o then_o god_n forbid_v that_o i_o shall_v gratify_v my_o angry_a humour_n 3._o a_o angry_a person_n be_v very_o troublesome_a to_o other_o even_o to_o the_o whole_a family_n wherein_o that_o angry_a person_n dwell_v and_o all_o those_o that_o do_v converse_v with_o he_o or_o she_o when_o the_o husband_n or_o wife_n be_v angry_a or_o froward_a o_o how_o extreme_o burdensome_a be_v he_o or_o she_o to_o that_o family_n that_o solomon_n say_v in_o two_o place_n prov._n 21.9_o 19_o that_o it_o be_v better_a to_o dwell_v on_o the_o housetop_n or_o in_o the_o wilderness_n than_o to_o dwell_v with_o a_o brawl_a woman_n in_o a_o wide_a house_n she_o be_v such_o a_o vexation_n to_o all_o those_o with_o who_o she_o dwell_v he_o instance_v in_o a_o woman_n because_o that_o sex_n be_v most_o subject_a to_o this_o brawl_a kind_n of_o life_n they_o be_v most_o apt_a to_o be_v angry_a and_o contentious_a a_o angry_a husband_n or_o a_o angry_a wife_n be_v a_o torment_n to_o all_o those_o that_o live_v in_o family_n and_o therefore_o the_o holy_a ghost_n by_o solomon_n say_v in_o prov._n 22.24_o make_v no_o friendship_n with_o a_o angry_a man_n and_o with_o a_o furious_a man_n thou_o shall_v not_o go_v there_o be_v no_o good_a to_o be_v get_v by_o the_o company_n of_o one_o that_o be_v usual_o angry_a upon_o every_o trifle_a occasion_n there_o be_v no_o peace_n to_o be_v enjoy_v in_o angry_a person_n company_n a_o froward_a spirit_n trouble_v his_o own_o house_n and_o consider_v what_o be_v say_v of_o such_o a_o one_o in_o prov._n 11.29_o he_o that_o trouble_v his_o own_o house_n shall_v inherit_v the_o wind_n that_o be_v as_o he_o or_o she_o have_v be_v a_o trouble_n to_o he_o or_o her_o own_o house_n so_o god_n shall_v blast_v that_o person_n in_o all_o his_o or_o her_o way_n indeed_o passion_n be_v so_o troublesome_a between_o man_n and_o wife_n as_o they_o can_v hardly_o dwell_v together_o under_o one_o roof_n because_o they_o spend_v a_o great_a part_n of_o their_o life_n in_o trouble_v one_o another_o by_o their_o passion_n they_o be_v vexatious_a to_o one_o another_o and_o in_o their_o house_n it_o be_v stormy_a weather_n all_o the_o year_n long_o that_o it_o be_v a_o very_a rare_a thing_n to_o enjoy_v any_o calm_a weather_n in_o the_o family_n where_o angry_a person_n dwell_v hence_o it_o be_v that_o husband_n and_o wife_n can_v seldom_o eat_v their_o meat_n together_o at_o one_o table_n without_o quarrel_v because_o their_o life_n be_v so_o uncomfortable_a one_o to_o another_o their_o company_n be_v very_o uncomfortable_a to_o other_o passion_n be_v a_o unruly_a thing_n and_o therefore_o troublesome_a wherever_o it_o come_v and_o will_v thou_o then_o o_o husband_n or_o wife_n cherish_v that_o evil_a humour_n in_o thou_o that_o will_v make_v thou_o a_o burden_n to_o all_o that_o converse_v with_o thou_o if_o thou_o continue_v to_o be_v angry_a upon_o every_o slight_a opposition_n or_o contradiction_n thou_o will_v be_v have_v in_o contempt_n of_o all_o that_o be_v near_o thou_o they_o will_v despise_v thy_o person_n because_o thou_o do_v break_v their_o peace_n and_o depriuâ—_v they_o of_o their_o quiet_n so_o than_o if_o thou_o have_v any_o desire_n to_o preserve_v the_o peace_n and_o quiet_a of_o thy_o house_n and_o have_v any_o esteem_n of_o those_o that_o live_v with_o thou_o do_v thy_o utmost_a endeavour_n by_o the_o assistance_n of_o the_o spirit_n to_o mortify_v thy_o angry_a passion_n 4._o the_o prevail_a of_o anger_n and_o contention_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n do_v destroy_v their_o love_n there_o be_v thereby_o a_o great_a decay_n of_o the_o affection_n of_o love_n and_o a_o augmentation_n of_o the_o passion_n of_o hatred_n anger_n make_v person_n guilty_a of_o slight_v despise_a disrespect_v and_o undervalue_v those_o they_o shall_v high_o value_v love_n and_o esteem_v and_o this_o appear_v in_o the_o follow_a particular_n 1._o when_o person_n be_v enrage_v that_o god_n providence_n do_v thwart_v their_o humour_n they_o be_v offend_v and_o displease_v with_o god_n and_o their_o love_n to_o god_n do_v very_o much_o abate_v for_o where_o love_n to_o god_n be_v ardent_a and_o prevail_a there_o every_o providential_a act_n of_o god_n be_v kind_o accept_v and_o take_v in_o good_a part_n such_o person_n as_o love_n god_n be_v well_o please_v with_o every_o dispensation_n of_o god_n and_o be_v content_v with_o every_o condition_n god_n put_v they_o in_o but_o when_o they_o be_v offend_v that_o god_n do_v not_o give_v they_o every_o thing_n according_a to_o their_o own_o will_n when_o they_o do_v not_o like_v of_o god_n dispose_v of_o they_o in_o this_o relation_n or_o in_o this_o condition_n of_o life_n and_o in_o this_o place_n of_o habitation_n and_o begin_v to_o vex_v and_o fret_v themselves_o be_v angry_a and_o in_o a_o furious_a passion_n that_o god_n do_v not_o order_n thing_n to_o their_o like_n then_o their_o murmur_n and_o repine_n their_o vex_v and_o fret_v their_o disgust_n and_o discontent_n their_o anger_n and_o displeasedness_n of_o mind_n do_v exceed_o abate_v their_o affection_n to_o god_n they_o begin_v to_o disrespect_n god_n more_o and_o more_o they_o entertain_v conceit_n as_o if_o god_n do_v do_v they_o wrong_v in_o not_o order_v all_o thing_n according_a to_o their_o humour_n in_o their_o anger_n murmur_v that_o god_n yoke_v they_o to_o such_o consort_n wish_v that_o god_n have_v otherwise_o dispose_v of_o they_o and_o know_v that_o all_o conjugal_a relation_n be_v of_o god_n order_v and_o appointment_n they_o complain_v high_o as_o if_o he_o have_v deal_v injurious_o with_o they_o in_o appoint_v such_o a_o relation_n for_o they_o and_o hereupon_o their_o love_n to_o god_n decline_v and_o they_o care_v not_o for_o god_n company_n slight_a those_o duty_n and_o service_n wherein_o they_o â—ight_a converse_n with_o god_n and_o be_v more_o displease_v with_o the_o seem_a offence_n they_o pretend_v be_v do_v they_o by_o their_o husband_n and_o wife_n than_o for_o the_o neglect_n of_o god_n worship_n and_o indeed_o love_n grow_v cold_a to_o one_o who_o company_n be_v not_o delight_v in_o for_o all_o person_n take_v delight_n to_o be_v much_o in_o company_n of_o their_o belove_a and_o when_o god_n company_n be_v not_o prize_v he_o be_v not_o love_v now_o see_v anger_n and_o discord_n do_v lessen_v people_n love_n to_o god_n it_o must_v needs_o be_v the_o great_a evil_n as_o it_o do_v cause_v a_o decay_n of_o love_n to_o the_o chief_a good_a the_o want_n of_o love_n to_o god_n be_v the_o most_o comprehensive_a and_o odious_a sin_n it_o be_v the_o life_n of_o all_o particular_a sin_n to_o be_v defective_a in_o love_n to_o the_o god_n of_o love_n the_o fountain_n of_o love_n the_o felicity_n of_o the_o soul_n be_v a_o sin_n not_o to_o be_v pardon_v to_o any_o till_o it_o be_v repent_v of_o and_o partly_o cure_v therefore_o stay_v o_o man_n or_o o_o woman_n to_o what_o a_o height_n do_v thy_o angry_a passion_n make_v thou_o to_o ascend_v do_v thou_o not_o tremble_v to_o think_v how_o much_o thou_o do_v provoke_v god_n when_o thou_o do_v in_o thy_o anger_n slight_a and_o disrespect_n god_n and_o be_v angry_a with_o god_n because_o thou_o be_v displease_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n and_o because_o
god_n providence_n do_v not_o suit_v thy_o humour_n if_o his_o anger_n be_v dreadful_a when_o kindle_v but_o a_o little_a what_o be_v it_o then_o when_o kindle_v very_o much_o here_o be_v the_o sad_a effect_n of_o thy_o be_v angry_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n thou_o than_o vent_a thy_o froward_a humour_n upon_o god_n and_o begin_v to_o quarrel_v with_o god_n for_o order_v such_o a_o relation_n for_o thou_o and_o begin_v to_o abate_v thy_o respect_n to_o god_n and_o care_v not_o to_o exercise_v thyself_o in_o those_o exercise_n wherein_o thou_o may_v enjoy_v god_n company_n do_v not_o then_o feed_v thy_o angry_a passion_n whereby_o thy_o heart_n be_v so_o much_o estrange_v from_o god_n and_o whereby_o you_o thrust_v god_n from_o your_o heart_n oh_o how_o shall_v thou_o loathe_v thy_o violent_a passion_n and_o contention_n when_o thou_o consider_v how_o they_o deaden_a thy_o affection_n to_o god_n may_v not_o god_n just_o thrust_v thou_o from_o his_o presence_n when_o by_o thy_o 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the_o prejudice_n that_o come_v to_o themselves_o by_o give_v way_n to_o their_o anger_n by_o neglect_v to_o endeavour_v to_o suppress_v it_o o_o what_o cruelty_n be_v this_o for_o person_n to_o vex_v and_o torture_v themselves_o o_o then_o what_o a_o heinous_a evil_n be_v it_o for_o people_n to_o let_v anger_n to_o rest_v in_o their_o bosom_n bethink_v thyself_o o_o man_n or_o o_o woman_n of_o the_o danger_n of_o let_v thy_o spiritâ—_n to_o be_v enrage_v with_o passion_n against_o thy_o near_a relation_n for_o every_o trifle_n thou_o think_v only_o to_o manifest_v the_o height_n of_o thy_o displeasure_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o against_o thy_o wife_n but_o indeed_o thou_o do_v hurt_v thyself_o and_o do_v evidence_n that_o thou_o have_v so_o little_a love_n to_o thyself_o as_o thou_o have_v no_o tender_a regard_n of_o thy_o own_o good_a if_o thou_o do_v real_o love_v thyself_o thou_o will_v careful_o avoid_v whatever_o do_v prejudice_v thyself_o thou_o will_v faithful_o watch_v against_o every_o thing_n that_o will_v break_v thy_o peace_n or_o deprive_v thou_o of_o thy_o amiableness_n or_o deform_v thou_o with_o a_o tart_a sâ—â—ire_n and_o furious_a countenance_n and_o as_o hereby_o thou_o do_v make_v it_o appear_v that_o thou_o do_v not_o love_v thyself_o by_o undervalue_v a_o calm_a and_o quiet_a spirit_n so_o thereby_o no_o body_n will_v love_v thou_o thy_o passion_n do_v cause_v other_o to_o cease_v manifest_v respect_n to_o thou_o they_o make_v other_o to_o slight_v thou_o and_o shun_v thou_o if_o thou_o can_v not_o live_v in_o quiet_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n no_o body_n will_v esteem_v thou_o so_o than_o passion_n and_o contention_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n must_v needs_o be_v a_o very_a great_a evil_n 3._o anger_n will_v abate_v thy_o love_n to_o the_o person_n that_o thou_o be_v angry_a with_o the_o decay_n of_o thy_o love_n to_o the_o party_n with_o who_o thou_o be_v angry_a do_v appear_v in_o misinterpreting_a his_o action_n in_o the_o worst_a sense_n raise_v contention_n from_o suspicion_n or_o imagination_n invent_v cause_n of_o displeasure_n where_o none_o be_v thus_o by_o anger_n charity_n be_v notable_o violate_v for_o love_n suffer_v all_o thing_n therefore_o their_o love_n be_v small_a that_o will_v suffer_v nothing_o love_n cover_v a_o multitude_n of_o sin_n they_o therefore_o that_o find_v fault_n where_o they_o be_v not_o rather_o than_o cover_v they_o where_o they_o be_v do_v plain_o show_v their_o want_n of_o love_n to_o the_o party_n with_o who_o they_o be_v angry_a it_o be_v the_o nature_n of_o love_n to_o make_v great_a fault_n seem_v little_a and_o little_a fault_n none_o at_o all_o but_o when_o a_o person_n anger_n make_v every_o slip_n in_o he_o or_o her_o friend_n or_o relation_n a_o capital_a offence_n than_o there_o appear_v a_o great_a decay_n of_o love_n when_o a_o person_n apprehend_v itself_o high_o wrong_v by_o another_o do_v present_o begin_v to_o slight_v that_o party_n that_o 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