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barren_a as_o you_o may_v read_v gen._n 16.1_o 2._o abraham_n leave_v her_o maid_n at_o her_o mistress_n dispose_v and_o she_o by_o her_o hard_a usage_n make_v she_o fly_v away_o and_o this_o must_v needs_o be_v against_o abraham_n heart_n that_o hagar_n shall_v be_v so_o hardly_o use_v and_o constrain_v to_o fly_v away_o who_o he_o have_v get_v with_o child_n by_o his_o wife_n consent_n and_o no_o doubt_n have_v affection_n for_o she_o yet_o abraham_n condescend_v to_o his_o wife_n for_o abraham_n say_v unto_o sarah_n thy_o maid_n be_v in_o thy_o hand_n do_v to_o she_o as_o it_o please_v thou_o again_o when_o sarah_n have_v bring_v forth_o isaac_n and_o sarah_n do_v see_v ishmael_n the_o son_n of_o hagar_n mock_v of_o her_o son_n isaac_n she_o call_v to_o abraham_n her_o husband_n put_v away_o the_o bondwoman_n and_o her_o son_n for_o the_o son_n of_o the_o bondwoman_n shall_v not_o be_v heir_n with_o my_o son_n even_o with_o isaac_n gen._n 21.10_o 11._o this_o thing_n be_v very_o 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show_v her_o beauty_n to_o his_o guest_n as_o he_o desire_v hester_n 1.11_o 12._o she_o may_v have_v prevent_v his_o anger_n and_o continue_a queen_n to_o her_o death_n in_o all_o likelihood_n thus_o you_o see_v the_o pass_n by_o of_o occasion_n of_o anger_n and_o a_o love_a condescend_v to_o each_o other_o lawful_a desire_n be_v a_o excellent_a gold-link_a of_o love_n and_o mean_n to_o preserve_v love_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n during_o life_n the_o seventeen_o direction_n love_n the_o seventeen_o direction_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n now_o follow_v this_o be_v to_o exercise_v spiritual_a wisdom_n how_o and_o when_o to_o speak_v one_o to_o another_o of_o any_o thing_n that_o be_v not_o well_o do_v or_o say_v by_o either_o party_n or_o that_o they_o perceive_v be_v contrary_a to_o either_o of_o their_o mind_n or_o affection_n or_o not_o for_o their_o profit_n safety_n or_o honour_n a_o word_n fit_o speak_v in_o due_a season_n how_o good_a be_v it_o say_v king_n solomon_n prov._n 15.23_o and_o prov._n 25.11_o a_o word_n fit_o speak_v be_v like_a apple_n of_o gold_n in_o picture_n of_o silver_n and_o the_o kingly_a preacher_n tell_v we_o there_o be_v a_o time_n for_o all_o thing_n eccles_n 3.1_o for_o that_o which_o be_v speak_v may_v be_v well_o take_v at_o one_o time_n which_o will_v not_o be_v so_o well_o resent_v at_o another_o time_n for_o example_n example_n example_n when_o churlish_a covetous_a nabal_n have_v use_v david_n young_a man_n unkind_o and_o bring_v himself_o and_o family_n in_o great_a danger_n we_o see_v abigail_n meet_v david_n with_o a_o present_a and_o pacifi_v david_n and_o prevent_v his_o shed_n of_o blood_n as_o you_o may_v read_v 1_o sam._n 25.26_o and_o return_v home_o she_o find_v her_o husband_n keep_v a_o feast_n like_o a_o king_n and_o merry_a with_o wine_n for_o he_o be_v very_o drunken_a verse_n 36._o wherefore_o she_o tell_v he_o nothing_o less_o or_o more_o until_o the_o morning_n but_o it_o come_v to_o pass_v in_o the_o morning_n when_o the_o wine_n be_v go_v out_o of_o nabal_n than_o she_o tell_v he_o these_o thing_n and_o then_o he_o be_v sensible_a of_o his_o folly_n to_o the_o full_a 1_o sam._n 25.37_o 25.37_o 1_o sam._n 25.37_o thus_o when_o a_o husband_n or_o wife_n be_v in_o any_o distemper_n drunken_a with_o wine_n or_o strong_a drink_n or_o with_o any_o passion_n or_o discontent_n it_o be_v wisdom_n to_o forbear_v speak_v and_o to_o observe_v a_o sit_v time_n and_o in_o a_o love_a manner_n to_o declare_v mild_o and_o peaceable_o what_o be_v a_o fail_v on_o either_o part_n and_o that_o with_o meekness_n of_o spirit_n for_o a_o soft_a answer_n turn_v away_o wrath_n but_o grievous_a word_n stir_v up_o anger_n as_o we_o note_v before_o prov._n 15.10_o the_o apostle_n st._n james_n his_o direction_n be_v good_a james_n 1.19_o 20._o be_v swift_a to_o hear_v slow_a to_o speak_v slow_a to_o wrath_n for_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n work_v not_o the_o righteousness_n of_o god_n thus_o spiritual_a policy_n yea_o even_o civil_a wisdom_n be_v one_o special_a help_n to_o quench_v the_o fire_n of_o jar_n and_o unnecessary_a fall_n out_o and_o to_o preserve_v conjugal_a love_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n during_o their_o life_n a_o eighteen_o direction_n love_n the_o eighteen_o direction_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n in_o this_o golden_a chain_n of_o love_n be_v to_o be_v of_o a_o well-pleasing_a quiet_a spirit_n towards_o each_o other_o not_o seek_v quarrel_n but_o rather_o seek_v to_o please_v one_o another_o in_o love_n in_o the_o lord_n this_o duty_n st._n paul_n intimate_v 1_o cor._n 7.33_o 34._o the_o marry_a man_n care_v for_o the_o thing_n of_o this_o world_n how_o he_o may_v please_v his_o wife_n and_o the_o marry_a woman_n how_o she_o may_v please_v her_o husband_n the_o apostle_n hold_v this_o out_o i_o humble_o conceive_v not_o only_o as_o a_o practice_n but_o as_o a_o christian_a duty_n also_o to_o be_v careful_a both_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o please_v one_o another_o in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o convenient_a in_o the_o lord_n for_o rom._n 15.1_o 2_o 3._o he_o give_v this_o rule_n for_o christian_n in_o general_a that_o the_o strong_a aught_o to_o bear_v the_o infirmity_n of_o the_o weak_a and_o not_o to_o please_v ourselves_o but_o let_v every_o one_o please_v his_o neighbour_n to_o edification_n now_o if_o this_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o all_o christian_n to_o please_v one_o another_o for_o their_o good_a then_o much_o more_o of_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o be_v well-pleasing_a to_o each_o other_o not_o to_o be_v contentious_a or_o quarrelsome_a or_o cross_v for_o trifle_n or_o small_a matter_n but_o to_o be_v wise_a and_o seek_v to_o please_v and_o give_v content_a to_o each_o other_o according_a to_o their_o duty_n and_o place_n this_o be_v heavenly_a wisdom_n say_v st._n james_n which_o be_v from_o above_o and_o be_v first_o pure_a then_o peaceable_a gentle_a and_o easy_a to_o be_v entreat_v full_a of_o mercy_n and_o good_a fruit_n without_o partiality_n and_o without_o hypocrisy_n james_n 3.17_o 18._o and_o this_o wisdom_n ought_v to_o be_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o be_v peaceable_a not_o troublesome_a to_o each_o other_o for_o as_o the_o wise_a man_n speak_v he_o that_o trouble_v his_o own_o house_n shall_v inherit_v the_o wind_n and_o the_o fool_n shall_v be_v servant_n to_o the_o wise_a in_o heart_n prov._n 11.29_o and_o prov._n 19.13_o 11._o a_o foolish_a son_n be_v the_o calamity_n of_o his_o father_n and_o the_o contention_n of_o a_o wife_n be_v a_o continual_a drop_n it_o will_v rot_v a_o house_n in_o time_n and_o again_o house_n and_o riches_n be_v the_o inheritance_n of_o father_n but_o a_o prudent_a wife_n be_v from_o the_o lord_n prov._n 19.14_o
4._o 1_o sam._n 1.15_o nor_o pour_v out_o our_o soul_n to_o god_n like_o hannah_n and_o therefore_o if_o any_o discomfort_n or_o disagreement_n have_v fall_v out_o between_o we_o we_o may_v well_o thank_v ourselves_o that_o we_o have_v not_o have_v wisdom_n and_o power_n to_o do_v better_a 15.13_o 1_o chron._n 15.13_o because_o we_o have_v not_o seek_v they_o at_o god_n hand_n 3._o james_n 4.2_o 3._o or_o not_o in_o a_o right_a manner_n for_o although_o thou_o god_n do_v free_o promise_v blessing_n to_o his_o church_n yet_o he_o will_v be_v inquire_v of_o 36.37_o ezek._n 36.37_o and_o pray_v unto_o by_o his_o child_n for_o his_o grace_n or_o any_o the_o like_a mercy_n o_o therefore_o most_o gracious_a father_n i_o most_o humble_o entreat_v thou_o give_v 〈◊〉_d i_o and_o my_o wife_n true_o humble_a and_o penitent_a and_o contrite_a heart_n 16._o mic._n 6.6_o isaiah_n 57.15_o 16._o for_o this_o and_o all_o our_o former_a fail_n and_o give_v we_o wisdom_n and_o strength_n of_o grace_n for_o the_o time_n to_o come_v right_o to_o perform_v our_o duty_n to_o thou_o our_o god_n and_o mutual_o one_o to_o another_o whilst_o we_o live_v that_o so_o our_o marriage_n may_v be_v a_o joyful_a and_o christian-like_a merry-age_n indeed_o 21._o prov._n 5.18_o 19_o 20_o 21._o to_o thy_o glory_n and_o our_o comfort_n to_o the_o end_n of_o our_o life_n o_o then_o give_v we_o grace_n i_o most_o humble_o beseech_v thou_o to_o fly_v all_o occasion_n of_o discord_n or_o disagreement_n that_o there_o may_v never_o be_v any_o such_o breach_n between_o we_o thy_o servant_n as_o there_o have_v be_v between_o too_o many_o husband_n and_o wife_n in_o the_o world_n let_v it_o be_v far_o from_o we_o upon_o any_o discontent_n unkind_o to_o separate_v one_o from_o another_o 7.5_o 1_o cor._n 7.5_o except_o it_o be_v with_o consent_n for_o a_o time_n that_o we_o may_v give_v ourselves_o to_o fast_v and_o prayer_n and_o come_v together_o again_o willing_o and_o joyful_o as_o we_o ought_v to_o do_v and_o if_o either_o of_o we_o have_v fail_v in_o our_o choice_n in_o not_o follow_v the_o apostle_n rule_n to_o have_v be_v careful_a to_o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n or_o any_o other_o scripture_n direction_n to_o have_v be_v consider_v better_a before_o hand_n 7.39_o 1_o cor._n 7.39_o for_o our_o comfortable_a communion_n in_o marriage_n ay_o most_o humble_o beg_v pardon_n for_o that_o which_o be_v pass_v for_o the_o merit_v sake_n of_o my_o dear_a redeemer_n and_o now_o o_o bless_a lord_n give_v we_o thy_o heavenly_a grace_n that_o we_o may_v follow_v the_o direction_n of_o thy_o most_o holy_a word_n set_v before_o we_o 119.105_o psal_n 119.105_o and_o true_o and_o religious_o seek_v by_o all_o good_a mean_n the_o eternal_a salvation_n of_o both_o our_o soul_n that_o we_o may_v be_v happy_a here_o and_o hereafter_o o_o give_v we_o wisdom_n to_o cherish_v love_n and_o increase_v it_o in_o one_o towards_o and_o with_o the_o other_o and_o let_v there_o be_v no_o bitterness_n between_o we_o in_o word_n or_o deed_n give_v we_o contentedness_n of_o mind_n with_o our_o present_a condition_n 8._o 1_o tim._n 6.6_o 7_o 8._o keep_v we_o true_o faithful_a to_o each_o other_o according_a to_o our_o marriage-covenant_n in_o obedience_n to_o thy_o command_n and_o fear_v of_o thy_o heavenly_a majesty_n who_o be_v present_v in_o all_o place_n and_o before_o who_o all-seeing-eye_n all_o thing_n be_v open_a and_o naked_a that_o we_o have_v do_v or_o shall_v do_v all_o the_o day_n of_o our_o life_n 23.23_o jer._n 23.23_o give_v we_o i_o most_o humble_o entreat_v thou_o 8.6_o heb._n 4.13_o prov._n 6.34_o 35._o cant._n 8.6_o wisdom_n and_o power_n to_o avoid_v all_o occasion_n of_o jealousy_n that_o our_o heart_n may_v true_o trust_v one_o another_o in_o the_o lord_n 5.14_o numb_a 5.14_o that_o peace_n and_o happiness_n may_v be_v our_o portion_n all_o our_o day_n help_v we_o by_o thy_o spirit_n grace_v to_o pray_v one_o for_o another_o and_o to_o seek_v thy_o blessing_n upon_o our_o 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they_o our_o most_o gracious_a king_n and_o his_o royal_a queen_n with_o his_o royal_a family_n and_o his_o kingdom_n with_o all_o estate_n and_o order_n of_o man_n in_o church_n and_o in_o common_a wealth_n grant_v o_o lord_n that_o truth_n and_o peace_n 8.19_o zach._n 8.19_o righteousness_n and_o love_n with_o the_o gospel_n of_o peace_n may_v be_v a_o blessing_n to_o these_o nation_n to_o we_o and_o we_o to_o the_o end_n of_o the_o world_n if_o it_o be_v thy_o bless_a will_n and_o pleasure_n hear_v thy_o unworthy_a servant_n most_o merciful_a god_n and_o grant_v that_o what_o i_o have_v ask_v according_a to_o thy_o will_n and_o whatsoever_o else_o thou_o know_v necessary_a for_o this_o life_n or_o that_o happy_a life_n to_o come_v ay_o most_o humble_o beg_v they_o further_o in_o that_o prayer_n which_o christ_n jesus_n have_v teach_v we_o our_o father_n which_o be_v in_o heaven_n etc._n etc._n a_o special_a closet_n or_o secret_a prayer_n for_o a_o wife_n to_o seek_v the_o lord_n for_o herself_o and_o her_o husband_n and_o family_n that_o they_o may_v have_v grace_n and_o strength_n from_o god_n through_o christ_n to_o perform_v their_o mutual_a duty_n to_o each_o other_o live_v happy_o together_o and_o enjoy_v god_n blessing_n upon_o they_o and_o they_o for_o ever_o o_o most_o love_a god_n 63.16_o isa_n 63.16_o and_o my_o most_o tender_a father_n in_o jesus_n christ_n thou_o be_v love_n and_o thy_o holy_a spirit_n have_v witness_v that_o he_o who_o dwell_v in_o love_n 4.16_o 1_o joh._n 4.16_o dwell_v in_o thou_o o_o god_n and_o thou_o in_o he_o thou_o who_o do_v require_v by_o thy_o bless_a son_n jesus_n 5.44_o mat._n 5.44_o that_o we_o shall_v love_v our_o enemy_n 5.25_o eph._n 5.25_o and_o much_o more_o our_o friend_n husband_n their_o wife_n 2._o titus_n 2._o and_o wife_n their_o husband_n and_o those_o that_o be_v near_o relate_v unto_o they_o behold_v 1.11_o 1_o sam._n 1.11_o i_o thy_o unworthy_a handmaid_n a_o woman_n feeble_a in_o devotion_n 3.7_o 1_o 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health_n and_o to_o keep_v we_o faithful_a to_o each_o other_o until_o death_n separate_v we_o i_o find_v by_o direction_n from_o thy_o word_n that_o there_o be_v many_o duty_n both_o proper_a to_o each_o and_o common_a both_o to_o husband_n and_o wife_n which_o by_o experience_n we_o may_v find_v without_o strength_n of_o grace_n from_o thou_o in_o thy_o christ_n our_o saviour_n we_o be_v not_o able_a to_o fulfil_v our_o very_a nature_n be_v corrupt_a 3._o psal_n 53.1_o 2_o 3._o and_o we_o be_v subject_a sometime_o to_o fret_a passion_n provocation_n and_o vain_a desire_n 32.4_o 1_o sam._n 1.6_o isa_n 32.4_o yea_o subject_a to_o rashness_n and_o rash_a anger_n peevish_a discontent_n 25.24_o act._n 19.36_o pro._n 21.19_o pro._n 25.24_o contention_n and_o frowardness_n