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love_n child_n good_a love_v 6,316 5 6.3785 4 true
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A01541 Marriage duties briefely couched togither out of Colossians, 3. 18, 19. By Thomas Gataker Bachelar of Diuinitie and pastor of Rotherhith. Gataker, Thomas, 1574-1654. 1620 (1620) STC 11667; ESTC S102975 35,459 56

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