Selected quad for the lemma: love_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
love_n	appear_v	love_v	son_n	2,609	5	5.7862	4	false

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A43768	Conjugall counsell, or, Seasonable advice, both to unmarried, and married persons directing the first how to enter into marriage estate, and the other how to demeane themselves in the Christian discharge of all such duties as that estate of life blads them to, that God may have glory, the church edification, and themselves and families, present and future comfort, tending much (by the blessing of God) to a through reformation of all the enormities of these evil times / by T.H. ...	Hilder, Thomas.	1653 (1653)	Wing H1974; ESTC R20660	113,375	218

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call_v his_o son_n name_n of_o who_o she_o die_v benjamin_n or_o the_o son_n of_o his_o right_a hand_n gen._n 35.18_o god_n call_v the_o wife_n of_o ezekiel_n the_o desire_n of_o his_o eye_n son_n of_o man_n i_o take_v from_o thou_o the_o desire_n of_o thy_o eye_n with_o a_o stroke_n ezek._n 24.16_o 18._o the_o prophet_n nathan_n tell_v david_n in_o a_o parable_n that_o bathsheba_n the_o wife_n of_o uriah_n lie_v in_o his_o bosom_n that_o be_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n affection_n 2_o sam._n 12.3_o you_o plain_o see_v then_o that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n now_o that_o there_o be_v scripture_n incitation_n for_o it_o and_o scripture_n precedent_n for_o it_o too_o you_o must_v know_v you_o sin_n against_o god_n if_o you_o perform_v it_o not_o and_o if_o you_o do_v it_o not_o then_o as_o you_o have_v hear_v you_o bring_v affliction_n and_o grief_n on_o your_o wife_n so_o likewise_o you_o bring_v much_o prejudice_n on_o your_o 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