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through_o anger_n or_o hastiness_n a_o man_n do_v not_o fight_v nor_o chide_v 4.5_o patience_n be_v a_o steadfastness_n in_o suffer_v the_o evil_n that_o come_v to_o we_o by_o any_o work_n so_o that_o they_o can_v not_o discourage_v us._n phil._n 4.5_o before_o he_o have_v make_v the_o fault_n manifest_a to_o the_o offender_n that_o if_o it_o may_v be_v his_o conscience_n may_v be_v touch_v for_o it_o again_o by_o patience_n one_o must_v hear_v what_o the_o offender_n can_v say_v in_o his_o defence_n and_o not_o disdain_v to_o hear_v he_o modest_o allege_v for_o himself_o and_o when_o his_o defence_n be_v make_v by_o equity_n to_o allow_v or_o disallow_v the_o same_o so_o do_v job_n chap._n 13._o verse_n 13._o and_o balaam_n do_v not_o disdain_v to_o hear_v the_o defence_n of_o his_o beast_n numb_a 22.30_o etc._n etc._n this_o patience_n also_o will_v keep_v a_o man_n from_o bitterness_n which_o may_v soon_o make_v the_o party_n angry_a then_o draw_v he_o to_o amendment_n which_o 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heart_n this_o kind_n of_o promise_n as_o it_o do_v not_o bind_v the_o party_n to_o keep_v it_o so_o it_o ought_v to_o be_v frustrate_v and_o break_v by_o the_o parent_n themselves_o or_o by_o such_o master_n as_o may_v and_o aught_o to_o command_v and_o rule_v they_o in_o such_o case_n if_o this_o be_v not_o so_o how_o can_v the_o party_n keep_v the_o commandment_n of_o god_n give_v they_o direction_n who_o to_o marry_v first_o that_o they_o shall_v marry_v only_o in_o the_o lord_n again_o that_o they_o shall_v not_o be_v unequal_o yoke_v with_o the_o infidel_n neither_o whereof_o they_o can_v keep_v if_o their_o parent_n may_v compel_v they_o or_o contract_n &_o marry_v it_o become_v rather_o the_o parent_n to_o persuade_v their_o child_n by_o all_o good_a mean_n to_o yield_v their_o consent_n rather_o than_o to_o draw_v they_o by_o wicked_a sleight_n and_o cunning_a drunkenness_n or_o any_o other_o wicked_a and_o violent_a mean_n for_o as_o that_o be_v not_o to_o marry_v in_o the_o 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her_o head_n and_o she_o his_o glory_n and_o aught_o to_o lead_v and_o guide_v she_o in_o all_o thing_n wherein_o the_o lord_n have_v put_v a_o pre-eminence_n for_o if_o this_o promise_n be_v not_o mutual_o make_v of_o they_o both_o but_o of_o one_o alone_a it_o be_v no_o true_a and_o perfect_a contract_n and_o therefore_o may_v be_v break_v by_o parent_n and_o such_o as_o have_v authority_n herein_o because_o the_o party_n unpromised_a be_v not_o bind_v by_o word_n nor_o deed_n but_o be_v free_a insomuch_o that_o such_o a_o contract_n be_v rather_o so_o term_v then_o for_o that_o it_o be_v any_o true_a contract_n indeed_o but_o if_o it_o be_v mutual_a than_o it_o do_v mutual_o and_o inviolable_o bind_v both_o so_o that_o in_o this_o regard_n neither_o parent_n magistrate_n nor_o any_o other_o can_v or_o aught_o to_o break_v it_o for_o this_o be_v full_o perform_v and_o accomplish_v be_v one_o principal_a cause_n of_o make_v two_o one_o flesh_n in_o such_o sort_n as_o it_o be_v write_v therefore_o shall_v man_n leave_v his_o father_n and_o mother_n and_o shall_v be_v join_v to_o his_o wife_n and_o they_o two_o shall_v be_v one_o flesh_n etc._n etc._n genes_n 2.24_o also_o that_o the_o man_n have_v not_o power_n over_o his_o own_o body_n nor_o the_o woman_n over_o she_o and_o so_o to_o be_v short_a hence_o arise_v all_o mutual_a benevolence_n between_o they_o and_o therefore_o a_o point_n of_o great_a weight_n and_o necessity_n in_o no_o wise_a to_o be_v omit_v in_o contract_n five_o we_o say_v it_o must_v be_v between_o one_o man_n and_o one_o woman_n where_o first_o it_o be_v to_o be_v note_v that_o it_o may_v not_o nor_o ought_v not_o to_o be_v between_o any_o other_o creature_n but_o mankind_n nay_o neither_o among_o brute_n beast_n