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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A86101	A sermon preached at Hievvorth at the funerall of Edmund Warneford Esq. By Thomas Hauskins minister of Gods word. On the 24. of August. 1649.	Hauskins, Thomas.	1651 (1651)	Wing H1152; Thomason E1286_3; ESTC R15019	15,521	43

ever I shall never be a widow c. and thence it is that God making a sudden and unexpected alteration they are as much overwhelmed with sorrow and amazement as afore they were full and did overflow with joy just as it was with Ionah so it is with them for as Ionah was over-joyed when he had a Gourd and when he was suddenly deprived of it he did so take it to heart as that he wished his owne death so they being over-joyed in the enjoyment one of another when God hath made a separation they are so out of measure passionate and impatient as to wish that they had died the same day and been buried in the same grave with them But would you know your duty remember then this first particular from the text to wit That you are so to live together in the married estate as making account that it cannot alwaies yea that it cannot long be so but that within a short time you must part Man and wife must soe live in the Hourse as the Patriarchs did in the world to wit as strangers and sojourners together Heb. 11.13 14. 2 Would man and wife so live married as unmarried they must be carefull to use all the comforts and contents of marriage soberly and moderately It is one maine part of the Apostles end and scope in these words to exhort all married persons unto Christian sobrietie and moderation in the use of all mariage contentments so that they may be wings but not weights unto them we may surfer as well of the comforts as of the cares of this life Thirdly That man and wife may so live married as if they were unmarried they must have a speciall care not to coole or abate in affection to the Lord Iesus Christ We must still love the Lord Iesus Christ in such sort as if we had no other Love but him The law of marriage is for the married persons to forsake father and mother and to cleave to each other but it is not to forsake the Lord Christ This admonition is the rather needfull because of the common fault of very many married couples in the world We do live in a world of extremes both within doores and without for as some couples do love too little and searse at all so others do love one another too much in so much as that they do quite dote one upon another make idols one of another they love one another as Eli did his sonnes to wis more then they love God their Maker and Christ their Redeemer God may have the same controversie against many married persons as he had against Ephesus to wit That they have lost much of their first love to him But oh that married persons would remember that God is a Jealous God And oh that they would remember those words of Christ Mat. 10.37 He that loveth Father or Mother Sonne or Daughter Hhusband or Wife more then Christ is unworthy of Christ I might here have added certained other particulars but that I hasten to speak a few words concerning the next particular And they that weep as if they wept not Let the question be demanded what is it for a Christian so to weep for a losse or crosse as if hee wept not I answer 1. A Christian must so weep for his sinnes which are the meritorious cause of every losse and crosse as not weeping for the losse and crosse it selse Our sorrows in respect of any suffering should be nothing in comparison of our sinnes that have deserved it I cannot say indeed tha it is the scope of the Apostle in the text to presse the belceving Corinths to sorrow for sinne above all things neverthelesse I have thought good to answer the Question in this sort in the first place partly because it is a true saying That a Christian ought so to weep for his sinnes as not weeping for his sufferings for our sufferings we must so weep as not weeping but for our sinnes we must so weep as it we wept indeed and partly because those persons who do truly and plentifully weep for their sinnes cannot choose but weep moderately for any outward suffering which faid moderation is the scope of the Apostle in the text 2 Would we so weep as not weeping we must so weep as not to refuse such Christian counsell or comfort as is fit to be given to us in our mournfull condition When people are under the heavy hand of God they are more sit to be spoken unto then when they thrive and prosper in the world and one cause why Solomon tels us that sorrow is better then laughter is because saies he by the sadnesse of the countenance the heart is made better more soft and more humble Eccl. 7.3 We should therefore so weep as that we do not refuse such Christian advise counsell or comfort as it fit to be given unto persons in our sad condition The contrary excesse is a fault too common for many weep for their losses as Rachel did for the losse of her children they will not be comforted or as Israel did for their bondage They harkned not unto Moses for anguish of heart Exod. 6.9 3. That we may so weep as not weeping we must so weep as not to murmure repine or once to open our mouthes against the Lord and his dealing wee must so weep as quietly silently patiently submitting our selves to the disposing of the only wise God and Soveraigne Lord of all I shall for this referre you to such Scriptures as wherein patience under all losses and crosses is as a very speciall and Christian vertue commanded and wherein the contrary evils of fretting murmuring and repining are forbidden as very great grievous evils Fourthly That we may so weep as not weeping we must so weep as not to dishonour our Religion and specially that faith and hope which we professe to have in God It is a great sinne and shame for a Christian to mourne excessively for any outward suffring for thereby he doth dishonour religion and give the world occasion to think that there is no such comfort in the word and in the waies of God as the Scriptures do testifie therfore we should beware of so mourning as to do the least dishonour unto religion by bringing an evill report upon it And more especially we should beware of so mourning as to dishonour our faith and hope in God either that hope which we professe to have either touching our selves or touching any of our departed friends First we should so weep for the dead for any of our departed friends as not to dishonour or disparage that hope which we professe to have concerning them and their better condition in another world we should so mourne that they are lost to us and to the comfort which we might have had by them here as not mourning that they are lost to God and to themselves we should so mourne for them being dead as rejoicing that they are alive to Christ and that one day they shall rise againe to life everlasting This is the Apostlles counsell concerning the manner or measure of mourning for the dead 1 Thess 4.13 Secondly and lastly we should so mourne as not to dishonour that faith and hope which we do professe to have in God his love favour Every true Saint and servant of God is most deeply most highly in the love favour of God as the Scriptures do testisie and they cannot be under such sadnesse for any outward losse and crosse but that stil they have abundant cause to rejoice in the interests which they have in the favour friendship of the Lord Iesus Christ in so much as that Iesus Christ may well say to his over sad and pensive servants as Elkanah did to his beloved Hannah 1 Sam. 1.8 Why weepest thou and why is thy heart so much so over much grieved am not I better to thee then ten sons Is not my love better then the love of ten husbands or ten wives Briefly then upon occasions of weeping a Christian must of weep for the losse of one comfort as not weeping but rejoycing rather that he hath not lost all nor the maine of comsorts A wife must so weep for the losse of a loving Husband as not weeping but rejoycing rather that shee hath not lost an ever living God and an ever loving Saviour Caution As Christ said in another case so I say here All men and women cannot receive this comfort but onely those to whom it is given I meane the true Saints and servants and children of God such as can say with the spouse in the Canticles I am my welbeloveds and my welbeloved is mine and therefore Qui potest capere capiat They that can receive this comfort as belonging to them let them and them alone receive it but as for worldlings and the wicked continuing in the estate wherein they are I must needs say as Christ did to the rich Luk. 6.24 Woe unto you for you have received your consolation FINIS