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The bridegroome by Samuel Hieron
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Hieron, Samuel, 1576?-1617.
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after death there ought to bee a respect to her memory and after her separation for adulterie a loue of pity though not of delight Reioyce with the wife of thy youth let her breastes satisfie thee at all times i Pro. 5.19 Constancy is the crowne of euery good action Indeed good is not good if it be not perpetuall and it is one of the qualities of Loue not to fall away k 1. Cor. 13.8 This condemneth the inconstancy of many mens affections The vse Seneca speaketh of one who was so fond that he tied his wife to him with his garter forsooth he could not endure her out of his sight Such violent loue is in some in the daies of their first acquaintance that they scarse can tell what belongs to comlines which yet in time loath as much as they were ouer aboundantly kind in the beginning It is the glory of mariage when there is both a continuance and a grouth of loue so that the last parting affecteth with greater griefe then the first meeting satisfied with content He that would further this had need of good discretion It must be his glory to passe by many offences l Pro. 19.11 and to temper himselfe from the ouer-quicke apprehension of euery occasion of distast His Loue must couer m 1. Pet. 4.8 yea and labour to recouer a multitude of defects Bitternes and violence must be no guests in his house and of all other Wraths it were pity the Sunne should go downe vpon his n Eph. 4.26 to his wife The more tender the loue the more hard to be sodered when it hath receiued a cracke I may say of such breaches as Solomon doth of those betwixt Brethren they are as the barres of a Palace o Pro. 18.19 it is not easie to dissolue them These things must be watched against that loue may bee perpetuall Thus much how euery bridegroome may learne of this grand Bridegroome how to chuse his loue and how to loue his choice In chusing let religion be the maine enquiry In louing let there be bounty to supply euery want and constancy to keep the affection strong vnto the End Now lest I should be thought to giue instructions but by halues a word let me adde touching her to whom the Bridegroomes loue must be thus bountifull thus perpetuall Out of his duty shee may iudge of hers Is he bound to loue and shall it be free for her to answere his good affection with neglect If he must be bountifull surely she must be dutifull if he must not spare to supplie her shee must not faile to obey him If his loue must be to her without change her fashion must be such to him as may occasion no distast Hee must instruct she must learne he must guide she must follow he must admonish she must hearken he must allow her cheerefully out of his estate she must conforme her selfe contentedly to his estate He must not straiten her and she must not vndoe him he must trust her and she must not deceiue him he must not be bitter and she must not be stout In a word he must euer account her for his Loue and shee must euer esteeme him as her head Here is a sweet proportion I wish it to you that are espoused this day it shal be better vnto you then both your estates So much of that which is to be noted out of the similitude agreably to the present occasion The next generall thing is the Lawfulnes of reioycing when we are called to the company of the Bridegroome Our Sauiour secretly insinuateth this to be lawfull for out of the freedome to be more cheerefull then vsuall at a Mariage he iustifieth his course of not binding his disciples to the seuerity of fasting whiles he was present The 4. Doct. The Doctrine is thus That there is a lawfulnes of mutuall Reioycing at Mariage Solemnities I haue alreadie made it to appeare how this Doctrine springeth hence Christ buildeth vpon this generall ground that a Mariage is rather a time of gladnes then of mourning It is well knowne that our Sauiour himselfe being thereunto inuited afforded his presence at a Mariage feast in Cana of Galile yea and by his first miracle supplied there the lacke of wine p a sufficient testimonie of the lawfulnesse of the liberall vse of the creatures of God vpon such an occasion I remember how in the Prophet q Is 62.5 the Lord describeth the contentment he taketh in his chosen by that ioy which is vpon the mariage day as a Bridegroome is glad of the Bride so shall thy God reioice ouer thee With this sortes the parable in which the inuiting calling of men by the Gospell to the grace of God is shadowed out by a Mariage-feast celebrated by a king at the nuptials of his sonne to which many are entreated r Matth. 22. Such courses we read in Scriptures vpon like occasions as Abrahams feast at Isaacks weaning Å¿ Gen. 21.8 Iosephs feast at the entertainment of his brethren t Gen. 43.32 the peoples feast after the returne from captiuitie when the law had been expounded to them u Neh. 8.10 the Iewes feast vpon their deliuerance from Hamans conspiracy x Ester 9.22 In the primitiue Church they had Loue-feasts y Iude v. 12. In a word our Sauiours direction how a man should demeane himselfe being inuited to a Mariage-feast z Luk. 19.7 is a sufficient iustification of this point for had the course been vnlawful he would rather haue vtterly inhibited it then haue deliuered rules of behauiour at it The vse is not The vse to perswade to this cause or to vrge it for although we may doe it yet we are not bound to do it but to informe vs heerein out of Gods Word that we may behaue our selues in things of this nature as Men of knowledge which is the true seasoning vnto euery course S. Paul saith that the creatures of God are sanctified by the Word a 1. Tim. 4.5 Euery man eates and eating in it owne nature is not vnlawful but yet euery mans eating is not lawfull So there is a generall vse of Mariage-feasts and a Mariage-feast in it owne nature is lawfull but yet euery mans vsing of it is not good and why because it is not sanctified vnto him by the Word hee goeth to it at aduenture his conscience not hauing any direction and guidance from the Word and so that which is lawfull in it selfe becometh a sinne vnto him It is a good course for a Christian to bee sure of his warrant for his actions Whatsoeuer is not of faith is sinne b Rom. 14.23 Againe the lawfulnesse of the thing bindes to a care to take heed of vnlawfulnesse in the vse There be no greater sins committed then in the abuse of lawfull things The name of lawful carieth vs headlong into euill before we be ware Is it not lawfull to
THE BRIDEGROOME BY SAMVEL HIERON LONDON Printed for Samuel Macham and are to be sold at his shop in Pauls Church-yard at the signe of the Bull-head 1613. TO THE RIGHT WORSHIPFVLL AND vertuous Lady the Lady Brigit Halsewell of Halsewell in Somerset MAdam I pray pardon my boldnesse in that being vnknowne I dare thus to presse vpon you with these papers My excuse is he who first moued me to preach and since perswaded me to publish this ensuing Sermon would needs I should inscribe it to your Name It was deliuered at the Nuptials of your hopefull Heire in that respect I know it shall finde acceptance But yet the maine inducement to me to commend it by this particular direction to your Ladiship is the constant report I haue receiued of your good affection to the least things In assurance of this I was the more emboldened to present you with this Mite which if it shall afford any comfort either to your selfe or to any other truly fearing God I haue all that I aimed at in imparting it to the common view For which end I will follow it with my praiers and to your Ladiship in particular will remaine From Modbury A true desirer of the only good SAM HIERON THE BRIDEGROOME Math. Chap. 9. Ver. 15. Can the children of the Mariage-chamber mourne as long as the Bridegroome is with them But the daies shall come when the Bridegroome shall he taken from you and then shall they fast BEing entreated to this seruice This Sermon was preached as a Mariage my desire was to handle some such Scripture as might occasion me both to deliuer something agreeable to the cause of our present meeting and withall to speake that which might concerne vs all as we be Christians Should I speake nothing of Mariage duties happely when I had done it might be said of some what was this Sermon to the present busines Should I treat therof only many perhaps might go away with a conceit that they had heard nothing which did much concerne them This text I trust shall fit both turnes of which I will not doubt to say as Iacob did of his pretended venison The Lord hath brought it to my hands a Gen. 27.20 I entreat you to sit vp and eat thereof that your soules may blesse mee when you shall find that I haue presented you with such sauoury meat as either you doe loue or els ought if your stomakes be well affected to desire The state of the Text. Touching this Text I pray you in a word to conceiue thus much Ceremonies haue been in all ages of the Church because of the diuersity of mens affections an occasion of contention They which haue agreed well together in the Maine yet haue been exceedingly heated and as is said of Paul and Barnabas b Act. 15.39 stirred one against the other in the Bye and hereby the chiefe businesse hath beene much letted and the common enemie much aduantaged Sathan the enginer of all mischiefe practized this stratagem in the daies of our Sauiour When he perceiued how the Truth grew and preuailed by the vniforme proceedings of Iohn Baptist and Christ he endeuoured to make a Rent if it were possible betwixt them by promoting a question about Fasting Iohn trayned vp his disciples in much outward strictnesse the follower of our Sauiour liued as might seem after a more easie fashion Here now grew a question How could the freedom of Christs disciples be iustified without condemning the austeritie of Iohn and if Iohns strictnesse was good surely then the libertie of Christ could not be approoued This mooued the wicked Pharisees to taxe them both to say as they did that the one had a Deuill and the other was a Glutton c Luk. 7.33.34 This matter was set a foot by some of Iohns approouers and the Pharisees ioyned with them indeed to them it would haue been a ioy to haue seen Christ and Iohn by the eares The challenge is made something peremptorily in the former verse Why doe not thy disciples fast Now my Text is Christs plea for clearing of himselfe and for deciding of the difference Can the children of the mariage chamber mourne c. Wherein hee compares himselfe to a Bridegrome and his Disciples to the speciall guests chosen to accompanie the Bridegroome Now a Wedding saith he you all know is a time of mirth not of mourning of feasting not of fasting will you that I should now stint my Disciples as Iohn doth his Should I during the time of this my comfortable presence with them apply them to this sadder course of fasting It fitteth not with that plenty of reioycing which my being among them doth afford Indeed there is a time approching in which I shall bee taken from them that will be a time of humiliation then shall they Fast. Thus haue you the state of this Scripture For order in handling it The order in handling is I will follow this course Sith it is a similitude fetched from such a businesse as hath giuen Being to this dayes meeting I will first speake of such things as out of the Text may concerne the present occasion and then of such things as were principally intended by our Sauiour and doe concerne vs all Respectiuely to the occasion I will treat of two particulars 1. The title of a Bridegroome applyed to Christ 2. The lawfulnes of reioycing together when wee are called to the companie of a Bridegroome It is manifest to al who conceiue ought that by the title of a Bridegroome our Sauiour ment himselfe In Math. Chap. 25. he which in the first verse is called the Bridegroome in the thirteenth is termed the son of man The Church is his Beloued d Can. 1.8 This life is the time of Wooing Betrothing The Ministers of the Gospell are the Bridegroomes friends e Ioh. 3.29 and do beseech as in Christs steed f 2. Cor. 5.20 they are busied in preparing the Church for one husband and to present her as a pure virgin vnto Christ g 2. Cor. 11.2 The assurances are here drawne vp and he hath giuen his word in his Word vnto her that he will marry her vnto him for euer in iudgment in mercy and in compassion h Hos 2.19 Earned is giuen i Eph. 1.14 A ioynture is made Thee shall be an Heire annexed with Christ k Rom. 8.17 He sendeth her euer and anon tokens of loue spirituall blessings in heauenly things l Eph. 1.3 shee shall not bee destitute of any gift m 1. Cor. 1.7 Hee is but gone before to prepare a place for her her train in the many mansions of his Fathers house n Ioh. 14.23 He will returne and the last day of the World shall be the first day of her full enioying him Now shee cryeth as the mother of Sisera Why is his chariot so long why tary the wheeles of his chariot o Iudg. 5.28