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304._o what_o this_o gracious_a virtue_n be_v ibid._n two_o thing_n in_o it_o matter_n and_o that_o be_v grace_n especial_o these_o 7._o 1._o humility_n 2._o self_n denial_n the_o 3._o i'faith_o &_o both_o in_o the_o truth_n &_o in_o the_o life_n of_o it_o a._n 4._o innocency_n 5._o zeal_n and_o piety_n 6._o mercy_n and_o compassion_n 7._o confidence_n with_o other_o as_o cheerfulnes_n &_o sincerity_n etc._n etc._n from_o 305._o to_o 312._o second_o the_o form_n or_o temperature_n of_o it_o in_o what_o it_o consist_v ibid._n graceless_a and_o bad_a wife_n what_o misery_n to_o their_o husband_n 314._o graceful_a wife_n must_v express_v it_o to_o their_o husband_n 315._o husband_n that_o be_v happy_a in_o the_o grace_n of_o their_o wife_n must_v return_v the_o like_a ibid._n general_n use_v arise_v from_o the_o whole_a treatise_n 316._o objection_n about_o degree_n of_o grace_n in_o either_o party_n of_o the_o marry_a 56._o h._n heathen_a opinion_n of_o fornication_n 3._o honour_n of_o marriage_n uphold_v by_o two_o mean_n viz._n good_a entrance_n and_o good_a continuance_n 21._o honour_n of_o marriage_n stand_v both_o in_o joint_a act_n and_o several_a 128._o motive_n to_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n 160._o to_o the_o wife_n to_o love_v he_o 162._o humiliation_n meet_v for_o all_o couple_n who_o have_v live_v in_o dissension_n 192._o the_o duty_n urge_v 193._o ill_o husbandry_n what_o it_o be_v 233._o husband_n especial_a duty_n to_o be_v a_o man_n of_o understanding_n 203._o what_o that_o understanding_n be_v what_o particular_n it_o stand_v in_o 1._o in_o what_o not_o viz._n not_o in_o a_o high_a spirit_n 2._o not_o in_o a_o rash_a selfe-wildnesse_n 3_o not_o in_o knowledge_n without_o practice_n 4._o not_o in_o yield_v to_o good_a counsel_n without_o embrace_v it_o 5._o not_o in_o give_v counsel_n to_o other_o take_v none_o ourselves_o 204._o 205._o 206._o second_o in_o what_o it_o consist_v 1._o in_o renounce_v our_o own_o understanding_n 2._o to_o be_v first_o subject_n to_o god_n and_o so_o to_o guide_v the_o wife_n 3._o to_o be_v more_o sensible_a of_o a_o burden_n then_o of_o a_o honour_n 4._o to_o be_v qualify_v with_o a_o spirit_n of_o grace_n for_o all_o occasion_n 206._o 207._o 208._o wasteful_n heir_n overthrower_n of_o their_o marriage_n 232._o unnatural_a husband_n language_n 244._o several_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o the_o wife_n look_v wise_a husband_n though_o but_o mean_o part_v deserve_v subjection_n by_o the_o ordinance_n 260._o man_n heart_n not_o so_o tender_a as_o woman_n if_o they_o be_v right_a vide_fw-la men._n i._o jew_n confute_v in_o his_o conceit_n of_o marriage_n 2._o joint_a act_n of_o the_o marry_a 4._o 1._o joint_n religion_n 2._o joint_n love_n 3._o chastity_n 4._o consent_n 128._o jealousy_n between_o couple_n most_o odious_a p._n 182._o remedy_n for_o the_o wrong_a party_n ibid._n the_o duty_n urge_v ibid._n idleness_n in_o a_o man_n calling_n to_o be_v avoid_v 225._o engross_a many_o farm_n at_o once_o ill_a husbandry_n 234._o impudence_n in_o usurp_a wife_n in_o matter_n of_o god_n tax_v 284._o god_n deal_v with_o his_o own_o by_o judgement_n and_o threat_n and_o why_o 328._o godly_a person_n have_v a_o slavish_a part_n in_o they_o as_o well_o as_o a_o free_a 329._o judgement_n of_o god_n grievous_a against_o uncleanness_n in_o many_o branch_n declare_v 1._o god_n dear_a servant_n not_o exclude_v from_o this_o sentence_n of_o punishment_n 2._o the_o offspring_n of_o the_o adulterer_n exclude_v for_o many_o generation_n from_o the_o tabernacle_n or_o temple_n worship_n 3._o the_o old_a penalty_n of_o adultery_n death_n without_o remedy_n 4._o severe_a judgement_n execute_v upon_o adulterer_n do_v show_v it_o sundry_a of_o thâ—m_n in_o scripture_n and_o from_o experience_n mention_v 5._o manifold_a mark_n of_o wrath_n upon_o uncleanness_n 1._o upon_o the_o soul_n 2._o upon_o the_o name_n when_o man_n have_v have_v fail_v god_n have_v strike_v in_o 3._o beggary_n 4._o coherence_n of_o uncleanness_n 1._o upon_o the_o soul_n 5._o it_o be_v the_o devil_n nest-egge_n 6._o consequence_n of_o mischief_n upon_o it_o 7._o upon_o the_o body_n 337._o to_o 346._o instruction_n to_o man_n to_o be_v subdue_v by_o the_o terror_n of_o god_n against_o it_o 351._o l._n conjugal_a love_n the_o second_o mutual_a duty_n of_o the_o marry_a handle_v 146._o love_n matrimonial_a be_v preserve_v cause_v marriage_n to_o be_v honourable_a ibid._n love_n of_o the_o marry_v not_o only_o breed_v by_o instinct_n but_o oftentimes_o also_o by_o other_o occasion_n outward_a inducement_n and_o motive_n 147._o 148._o love_n conjugal_a neither_o only_a a_o natural_a nor_o yet_o a_o religious_a thing_n but_o a_o mixture_n of_o both_o 150._o love_n necessary_a for_o sundry_a reason_n ibid._n love_n though_o a_o joint_a duty_n of_o both_o the_o party_n yet_o have_v a_o different_a carriage_n in_o either_o and_o what_o 152._o love_n will_v not_o nourish_v itself_o but_o must_v be_v nourish_v daily_o between_o couple_n 155._o and_o by_o what_o mean_v it_o may_v be_v so_o 156._o admonition_n to_o the_o joint_a practice_n of_o conjugal_a love_n 157._o danger_n of_o the_o breach_n thereof_o 158._o exhortation_n to_o love_n joint_o 159._o m._n marriage_n be_v honourable_a the_o main_a doctrine_n prove_v and_o reason_v at_o large_a by_o 4._o reason_n 1._o in_o respect_n of_o the_o party_n 2._o the_o nature_n of_o marriage_n 3._o the_o use_n of_o it_o 4._o the_o sacrednes_n from_o p._n 4._o to_o the_o 9_o marriage_n abhor_v by_o the_o base_a life_n of_o many_o couple_n 13._o marriage_n no_o buckler_n to_o fence_v off_o reproach_n in_o bad_a cause_n 15._o marriage_n no_o loose_a nor_o idle_a way_n of_o service_n 18._o encouragement_n to_o religious_a marry_a couple_n 19_o misery_n shun_v by_o good_a couple_n ibid._n marry_a couple_n must_v serve_v god_n in_o their_o time_n 20._o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n what_o some_o mark_n of_o it_o 1._o sight_n of_o unworthiness_n of_o this_o favour_n 2._o they_o see_v a_o reconciliation_n 3._o their_o heart_n be_v break_v by_o it_o 4._o they_o be_v convince_v of_o god_n end_n believe_v it_o 5._o from_o hence_o they_o be_v encourage_v to_o obey_v other_o lesser_a mark_n add_v 22._o to_o 24._o rash_n match_n unblessed_a 24._o jewel_n of_o the_o marriage_n ring_n 4._o 1._o i'faith_o with_o humility_n and_o self_n denial_n 2._o peace_n 3._o purity_n 4._o righteousness_n 25._o trial_n of_o marriage_n many_o ibid._n by_o end_n in_o marriage_n oft_o plague_v by_o god_n 26._o objection_n concern_v marriage_n answer_v 28._o 29._o 30._o 31._o the_o man_n have_v the_o lead_a hand_n in_o the_o onset_n of_o marriage_n have_v need_n be_v the_o wise_a in_o his_o choice_n 57_o touch_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n three_o question_n answer_v 58._o apt_a marry_v be_v as_o necessary_a for_o entrance_n as_o religious_a marry_v 60._o marriage_n must_v be_v honour_v in_o preserve_v the_o same_o unstein_v during_o the_o conversation_n of_o it_o 126._o marry_a person_n who_o forsake_v their_o own_o fellowship_n in_o worship_n and_o run_v to_o stranger_n with_o complaint_n faulty_a 136._o marriage_n dishonour_v by_o base_a trade_n and_o course_n of_o life_n 232._o man_n heart_n not_o general_o so_o tender_a and_o zealous_a as_o woman_n if_o they_o be_v right_a 309._o marriage_n be_v a_o shadow_n of_o the_o spiritual_a union_n of_o christ_n and_o the_o church_n p._n 321._o 1._o in_o their_o meeting_n and_o marriage_n itself_o and_o how_o 2._o in_o their_o mutual_a converse_n 1._o what_o christ_n be_v to_o his_o church_n 2._o what_o his_o church_n be_v to_o he_o 322._o 323._o doubt_n concern_v marry_v in_o the_o lord_n answer_v eight_o of_o they_o p._n 28._o 1._o many_o do_v well_o want_v religion_n 2._o it_o may_v grow_v in_o time_n afterward_o 3._o many_o have_v fail_v in_o seek_v good_a wife_n 4._o many_o