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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
love_n	affection_n	husband_n	wife_n	2,730	5	6.6528	4	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A03274	The bridegroome by Samuel Hieron	Hieron, Samuel, 1576?-1617.	1613 (1613)	STC 13392; ESTC S115190	15,073	48

thrust out with as much contempt as Thamer was by Ammon if shee want these e 2. Sam. 13.17 Now fie vpon this misiudging age nothing doth more declare the scarsitie of religion among men The Athenians desiring to finde out their childrens inclination that so they might direct them to such callings as they were fit for would bring them into a roome full of all manner of instruments look therfore what kinde of instrument any one did chuse and seemed to take delight in to that calling wherto that instrument belonged their conclusion was hee was disposed So in this the manner of mens choice doth proclaime their hearts It is a signe they haue no great loue to religion sith they make so small enquirie for religion Their maine call is for wealth this sheweth that their principall affection is to the world I pray God that that which is so powerfull to discouer this sin may bee as effectuall to reforme it that the guilty may lament it and they which are yet to come to the occasion of shewing their disposition in it may auoid it And thus far of learning to chuse The next is of louing where we haue chosen It is well knowen that Christs loue to his Church is the patterne of that loue which the husband oweth to his wife f Eph. 5.25 Now in Christs loue to his Church two things especially deserue note 1. Bountie hee withholds nothing which may bee for his Churches good 2 Perpetuity he neuer leaueth where he once loueth I haue loued thee with an euerlasting loue saith he to his Church g Iere. 31.3 Hence wee are taught The 2 doct first That the Bridegroomes loue to his beloued ought to extend and reach as farre as any necessitie in her shall require a supply Paul saith loue is bountifull h 1. Cor. 13.4 And indeed this is Bounty to cary that hart to a wife as to leaue if it bee possible no necessity vnsupplied Is not the loue of Christ to his Church such Wherin may it be truly sayd that he hath beene sparing or that hee hath caried the matter with a pinching hand Hauing nothing dearer to himselfe then himselfe yet in his loue he gaue himselfe as an offring vnto God i Ephe 5.2 He hath bound himselfe by promise to his elect not to leaue them comfortlesse k Ioh. 14.18 he is touched with a feeling of euery infirmity l Heb. 4.15 and through his riches he will fulfill all their necessities m Phil. 4.19 Heere is the proportion and scantling of the husbands loue What other thing is required when hee is called the Head of the wife n Eph. 5.23 but that he should looke out euery way to protect to supply to furnish to remooue inconueniences to procure comforts What els is intended in that iniunction so ought men to loue their wiues as themselues o Eph. 5.28 Who vnlesse it be some hatefull miser is pinching to himselfe Now the necessities of a wife which be to be supplied are of two sorts either inward or outward The inward which respect the soule are chiefly to bee looked vnto the soul being the more worthy part The husband ought to be vnto the wife a kinde of domesticall instructor Wherefore els is she to aske him at home p 1. Cor. 14.35 and how otherwise shall he be the guide of her youth q Prou. 2.17 if he be not able and willing to guide her feet in the way of peace r Luk. 1.79 Outward wants must be regarded too This is that which the spirit of God calleth the spreading of the wing Å¿ Ruth 3.9 nourishing and cherishing t Eph. 5.29 Indeed I may say as Lot did in another case Wherefore els is she come vnder the Husbands roofe u Gen. 19.8 There must bee mainetenance according to her ranke and that with cheerefulnesse Christ leadeth his Church with benefits and that vnsought to And there must be due imployment her husbands Heart must trust in her x Pro. 31.11 There is no loue where there is niggardlinesse in the one and causeles suspition in the other Heere is the bounty of loue a tender and a kinde respect had to euery need This reprooueth the common neglect The vse 1. Husbands seeke little to further the saluation of their wiues some cannot doe it so great is their ignorance and some care not to do it so little is their conscience But if thy wife die in her sinne through thy default thy not teaching thy not admonishing thy not praying with her and for her God will require her bloud at thy hands Thou art liable to account for the soule of thy seruant euen his which is behind the ewes y Ps 78.71 or at the mill z Exod. 11.5 much more for hers which lyeth in thy bosome a Deu. 13.6 and is ordained to bee an heire with thee of the grace of life b 1. Pete 3.7.2 Secondly this taxeth the straightnesse of many husbands in matters of outward conueniency there is scarcely ought to be gotten from them except it be euen wrung out by importunitie or wrought out by some indirect and vniustifiable meanes There is I know an extremity of too much vxoriousnesse such as is in some who are forward to further euery vaine and idle humour of the wife But there must be a meane betwixt a sparing and a dissolute hand A good man doth measure his affaires by iudgement c Ps 112.5 and Loue as it is bountiful d 1 Cor. 13.4 so it is discreet for it reioyceth not in Iniquity e In vxerem alienam omnis amor iurpis in suum numius Hier. To another mans wife all loue is dishonest so is too much to a mans owne not commendable There may be dotage at home as well as adulterie abroad Remember the patterne Christ leaueth the church neither in want nor in wantonesse he will supply her in the one and cut her short in the other Thus farre of the Bounty of Loue. The third doct The second thing imitable in Christs loue is Perpetuity The Doctrine is That the husbands loue to his wife must bee continued in stedfastnesse to the end This is the glory of our Bridegroome where hee loueth he loueth to the end f Iohn 13.1 His gifts callings are without repentance g Rom. 11.29 Nothing is able to seperate from his Loue h Rom. 8.39 If there be a small fault hee hides it he remits it hee may chasten it but he will not cast of for it When is a man weary of loue to himselfe When is the head become an enemy to a limme if it haue a deformity Nay it doth both tend and tender it so much the more There is nothing hath right to the abolishment of a mans loue to his wife but that which maketh her no Wife and that is Adultery or death and yet euen

after death there ought to bee a respect to her memory and after her separation for adulterie a loue of pity though not of delight Reioyce with the wife of thy youth let her breastes satisfie thee at all times i Pro. 5.19 Constancy is the crowne of euery good action Indeed good is not good if it be not perpetuall and it is one of the qualities of Loue not to fall away k 1. Cor. 13.8 This condemneth the inconstancy of many mens affections The vse Seneca speaketh of one who was so fond that he tied his wife to him with his garter forsooth he could not endure her out of his sight Such violent loue is in some in the daies of their first acquaintance that they scarse can tell what belongs to comlines which yet in time loath as much as they were ouer aboundantly kind in the beginning It is the glory of mariage when there is both a continuance and a grouth of loue so that the last parting affecteth with greater griefe then the first meeting satisfied with content He that would further this had need of good discretion It must be his glory to passe by many offences l Pro. 19.11 and to temper himselfe from the ouer-quicke apprehension of euery occasion of distast His Loue must couer m 1. Pet. 4.8 yea and labour to recouer a multitude of defects Bitternes and violence must be no guests in his house and of all other Wraths it were pity the Sunne should go downe vpon his n Eph. 4.26 to his wife The more tender the loue the more hard to be sodered when it hath receiued a cracke I may say of such breaches as Solomon doth of those betwixt Brethren they are as the barres of a Palace o Pro. 18.19 it is not easie to dissolue them These things must be watched against that loue may bee perpetuall Thus much how euery bridegroome may learne of this grand Bridegroome how to chuse his loue and how to loue his choice In chusing let religion be the maine enquiry In louing let there be bounty to supply euery want and constancy to keep the affection strong vnto the End Now lest I should be thought to giue instructions but by halues a word let me adde touching her to whom the Bridegroomes loue must be thus bountifull thus perpetuall Out of his duty shee may iudge of hers Is he bound to loue and shall it be free for her to answere his good affection with neglect If he must be bountifull surely she must be dutifull if he must not spare to supplie her shee must not faile to obey him If his loue must be to her without change her fashion must be such to him as may occasion no distast Hee must instruct she must learne he must guide she must follow he must admonish she must hearken he must allow her cheerefully out of his estate she must conforme her selfe contentedly to his estate He must not straiten her and she must not vndoe him he must trust her and she must not deceiue him he must not be bitter and she must not be stout In a word he must euer account her for his Loue and shee must euer esteeme him as her head Here is a sweet proportion I wish it to you that are espoused this day it shal be better vnto you then both your estates So much of that which is to be noted out of the similitude agreably to the present occasion The next generall thing is the Lawfulnes of reioycing when we are called to the company of the Bridegroome Our Sauiour secretly insinuateth this to be lawfull for out of the freedome to be more cheerefull then vsuall at a Mariage he iustifieth his course of not binding his disciples to the seuerity of fasting whiles he was present The 4. Doct. The Doctrine is thus That there is a lawfulnes of mutuall Reioycing at Mariage Solemnities I haue alreadie made it to appeare how this Doctrine springeth hence Christ buildeth vpon this generall ground that a Mariage is rather a time of gladnes then of mourning It is well knowne that our Sauiour himselfe being thereunto inuited afforded his presence at a Mariage feast in Cana of Galile yea and by his first miracle supplied there the lacke of wine p a sufficient testimonie of the lawfulnesse of the liberall vse of the creatures of God vpon such an occasion I remember how in the Prophet q Is 62.5 the Lord describeth the contentment he taketh in his chosen by that ioy which is vpon the mariage day as a Bridegroome is glad of the Bride so shall thy God reioice ouer thee With this sortes the parable in which the inuiting calling of men by the Gospell to the grace of God is shadowed out by a Mariage-feast celebrated by a king at the nuptials of his sonne to which many are entreated r Matth. 22. Such courses we read in Scriptures vpon like occasions as Abrahams feast at Isaacks weaning Å¿ Gen. 21.8 Iosephs feast at the entertainment of his brethren t Gen. 43.32 the peoples feast after the returne from captiuitie when the law had been expounded to them u Neh. 8.10 the Iewes feast vpon their deliuerance from Hamans conspiracy x Ester 9.22 In the primitiue Church they had Loue-feasts y Iude v. 12. In a word our Sauiours direction how a man should demeane himselfe being inuited to a Mariage-feast z Luk. 19.7 is a sufficient iustification of this point for had the course been vnlawful he would rather haue vtterly inhibited it then haue deliuered rules of behauiour at it The vse is not The vse to perswade to this cause or to vrge it for although we may doe it yet we are not bound to do it but to informe vs heerein out of Gods Word that we may behaue our selues in things of this nature as Men of knowledge which is the true seasoning vnto euery course S. Paul saith that the creatures of God are sanctified by the Word a 1. Tim. 4.5 Euery man eates and eating in it owne nature is not vnlawful but yet euery mans eating is not lawfull So there is a generall vse of Mariage-feasts and a Mariage-feast in it owne nature is lawfull but yet euery mans vsing of it is not good and why because it is not sanctified vnto him by the Word hee goeth to it at aduenture his conscience not hauing any direction and guidance from the Word and so that which is lawfull in it selfe becometh a sinne vnto him It is a good course for a Christian to bee sure of his warrant for his actions Whatsoeuer is not of faith is sinne b Rom. 14.23 Againe the lawfulnesse of the thing bindes to a care to take heed of vnlawfulnesse in the vse There be no greater sins committed then in the abuse of lawfull things The name of lawful carieth vs headlong into euill before we be ware Is it not lawfull to