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The character of a trulie vertuous and pious woman as it hath been acted by Mistris Margaret Dungan (vvife to Doctor Arnold Boate) in the constant course of her whole life, which she finished at Paris, 17 Aprilis 1651.
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Boate, Arnold, 1600?-1653?
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much displeased as could be expected of a little maiden of the best nature and education And indeed at the very first aspect one might readily read this qualitie in her face her ordinary countenance holding forth a most svveet and a most perfect modestie IX But the aforesaid coldnes of her temper did no vvayes hinder her of beeing most fervent in her affectioÌ„ tovvards me nor of bearing me so sinâ—ere and so intire a love as I beleeve to be equalled but by fevv vvives and sure I am it can be exceeded by none This made her to desire to have verie much of my coÌ„panie never beeing better pleased than vvhen she had me neere her to be vvonderfull sollicitous in procuring me all manner of contentment and preventing all causes of displeasure to comply vvith my inclinations and applaud my resolutions except she savv or apprehended some great cause to the contrary vvhich then verie svveetlie and prudentlie she vvould lay open to me and indeavour to the utmost of her povver to further and effect them and to be so vvonderfull tender of me that if anie the least thing ailed me and if but my finger aked she vvas all out of order and could not quiet her selfe till she knevv 〈◊〉 vvas better vvith me And not onelie at other times it vvas so vvith her but even vvhen she vvas nothing vvell herselfe and vvhen she vvas troubled vvith anie paine or accident vvhat-ever the feeling vvhere-off could not in the least vvise hinder that her tendernes over me vvhich made me verie vvarie at all times hovv I did complaine before her of anie slight matter for feare of disquieting her more than the matter vvas vvorth And in that sicknes vvherevvith it pleased God to visit me in the beginning of the yeare 1646. the onelie that I had since vvee vvere married together and vvhich by reason of a relapse Kept mâ— betvvixt tvvo ana throâ— vveeks in my bed shâ— vvas so assiduous abouâ— me tooke so much paines vvith me although she vvas then somâ— months gone vvith chilâ— and needed not to have done anie thing herselfe vvee having more servants than one about us and did so lay my case to heart as none but a most excellent vvife vvould have done the same And vvithall she used so much discretion and circumspection that as oft as her grief out of the apprehension of my danger came to that height that she could no longer keep it in but that she must needs vent it in teares and sobs vvhich befell her verie often she vvould be sure to retire to a corner vvhere I should neither see nor heare her for feare of aggravating my indisposition by her grieving X. And as to me so tâ— her children her affectioâ— vvas vvonderfull greatâ— and tender vvhich madâ— her take her principalâ— delight in them vvhileâ— she injoyed them and heavilie to mourne after them vvhen the Lord took them from us as he did the second beeing a boy on the 15. of May 1649. beeing then seaven months old and the eldest vvhich vvas a girle on the second of October 1647. she then beeing come to the age of three yeares compleatlie and the losse of this child did not onelie afflict her extreamlie for the present as that of the boy did too but for a greate vvhile and many months after during all vvhich time she shed abundance of teares for her Indeed the girle vvas a most lovelie one beeing of most exquisite features and of a most pure complexion and therebesides vvhich vvas much more to be valued and accordinglie valued by the mother there appeared in her as much as could appeare in that tender age not onelie a vvonderfull good vvit but all the signes of a svveet disposition of mind and of a good and vertuous nature vvhereby she had got the love of all that knevv her so as it vvas no vvonder if the Mothers heart vvas extreamlie set upon her And the Lord having given a good share of the same advantages both of bodie and of mind to our last girle too the mothers affection ever guided as much by iudgement as by instinct vvas not onelie as excessive to her as it had been to the other but she took yet greater joy and contentment in her than she had done in the former Because that the indovvments of the mind the chief object of the Mothers affection shevved forth themselves more manifestlie and fullie in her than they had done iâ— our eldest girle forasmuch as she vvas comâ— to some greater ripenâ— of age than the other had lived unto beeing foure yeares and a halfe old vvhen the Mother dyed And my Love finding every day more and more that besides the svveetnes of her nature free from all vicious and perverse inclinations some or other vvhere-off doe appeare in most children a greate flexibilitie tovvards all good instructions and an extraordinary avvfulnes of all corrections so as a vvord and a threate vvould doâ— more vvith her thaâ— blovves vvith others shâ— vvas also verie capable and vvithall not oneliâ— vvilling but greatlie desirous of learning anâ— consequentlie most suâ—ceptible of all good education she took so greaâ— a felicitie in her that sâ— she had but the chilâ— neere her she nevâ—â— found the misse of aniâ— other companie vvhicâ— othervvise her natuâ—â— beeing verie sociable she loved vvonderfull vvell And as before so much more during the time that she altogether Kept her chamber as she did for the space of seaven vveeks ever since that first accident on the first of March she spent the greatest part of her time vvith her partlie in teaching her to pray and making her repeate often the Lords prayer and severall other good prayers as likevvise the Creed and the Commandements partlie 〈◊〉 catechising her about thâ— principall points of christian Religion making her every day repeaâ— vvhat she had learned bâ—fore vvith some neâ— additions still from timâ— time partlie in teachinâ— her the beginnings 〈◊〉 reading vvhich she diâ— vvith so much succes 〈◊〉 in a fevv vveeks the chiâ—â— had perfectlie learned 〈◊〉 her letters and the spâ—â—ling of all single syllablâ—â— vvith good progreâ—â— tovvards the spelling of the more compounded ones and of some vvhole vvords and lastlie in ansvvering the childs questions most of vvhich vvere vvonderfull prettie and vvittie and in taKing all occasions both by them and othervvise too of begetting and confirming in her the knovvledge and love of vertue pietie and civilitie And finding all the paines vvhich she took vvith the child vvonderfull effectuallâ— that did so inflame hâ—â— affection tovvards hâ—â— more and more anâ— adde so much to thâ— greate pleasure and haâ—pynes vvhich she shapeâ— unto herselfe in havinâ— her neere her as sâ—â— vvould needs dresse thâ— child every morning heâ—selfe and spend an houâ— or tvvo about it insteâ— of letting one of hâ— maids doe it as they usâ— to doe vvhen the chiâ—â— vvas younger yet aâ—â— she vvould never have lost her out of her sight if she vvould have looked onelie
by anie sicknes struggled hard vvith death caused by meerâ— emptynes and the lossâ— of blood vvhich thinâ— also she had apprehended she having told you Lordship but the day bâ—fore that as she feare not death at all so thâ— paines vvhich she expâ—cted to indure before 〈◊〉 did somevvhat terrifie her Yet neither the expectation of them vvhen yet absent nor the sence of them vvhen she novv suffered them did in the least manner shake her resolutioÌ„ and vvillingnes to dye nor her affiance in the goodnes and mercie of her Saviour as not neither her tender care of me but having continued constant in them all and the Lord hauing done her the grace to give ner ease and to free her from those disquieting paines before he tooke her avvay she concluded her life vvith a most blessed end to the great edification yea and admiration of all thâ— standers by even such aâ— vvere of a contrary Religion Novv My lord let aâ— the vvorld judge vvith yoâ— Lordship vvhether havinâ— lost such a vvife so good gracious so loving so lovelâ— so accomplished every vvâ— and that in the verie flovv of her age vvhen she vvas but five and tvventy yeares old I can grieve moderately and vvhether my sorrovv can be justlie coÌ„demned though verie excessive and lasting I knovv the Lord hath done me no vvrong in taking her from me vvho vvas his ovvn and in using that right over her vvhich he hath over all his creatures as Souverain Lord and Master vvhereby it is free for him to dispose of them at anie time as he pleaseth and I knovv also that J have given his divine Majestie cause enough to send me this crosse and anie other that I am capable off But thesâ— considerations as they are of force for to make me take thiâ— crosse at his hands vvithouâ— murmuring the vvhich trust to have done exactliâ— not having had the least temptation of calling his justâ— into question for having deâ— thus vvith me so I find thâ— not sufficient for to hinder 〈◊〉 of being sensible to the full â—f the evill that he hath inâ—â—cted on me neither doe I â—â—leeve that vvhen he senâ—â—h anie grievous calamitie to his servants he is offended vvith them for seeing their sorrovv proportionable to the bitternes of vvhat he maketh them suffer For in this verie particular vvhich is novv my case my vvoefull and deplorable case J find that vvhen he thought good in taking from the Prophet Ezechiel Ezech. 24.15 seq the desire of his eyes as he hath done mine from me to forbid him for some mysterious signification all outvvard expressions of mourning even the verie shedding of teares yet he no vvayes forbid him tâ— grieve reallie and invvardlie but rather gave him a command or at the least an expresse permission for doing sâ— by the first vvords of the 1â— verse if they be taken in the right sense as hath been doâ— of S. Hierome and some other of the best Interpreters Fâ— as for that high degree of herâ— call vertue and vvisdome not onelie not beeing veâ— deeplie touched vvith aâ— crosse or affliction though â—ver so bitter and cruell but 〈◊〉 finding even matter of joy 〈◊〉 it and of giving God thanks for it as I admire it in them that possesse it so I confesse to be verie farre from it and to see little ground of hoping ever to attaine to it especiallie in this particular vvhich hath lighted upon the tenderest and least armed part of my soule And my case is the more to be pittyed because that having lost in my dearest Consort that vvhich J most loued and vvhere-in I most joyed in this vvorld and thereby my life beeing become burdensom and hatefull to me yet there lyeth upon me a cruell necessitie not onelie of not abandonning or vvilfullie neglecting iâ— vvhich I vvould not do hovv-ever because absolutelie forbidden by him vvhosâ— holie vvill and commandemeÌ„t must be the rule of all oâ— actions but even of desirinâ— and striving vvith all possibâ—â— care to uphold and to proloâ—â— it for to preserve myselfe fâ— that deare pledge of our mâ—tuall love vvhich she hath lâ— me both because mine ovvâ— affection agreable to the dictâ—tes of God and Nature leade me stronglie there-unto and because that that blesse soule hath in her latter dayes even to the last moments of her life made it so often her most serious request to me and her onelie request the vvhich not to seek to fulfill to the utmost as farre as anie vvayes lyeth in my povver though nothing else obliged me to it I vvould accouÌ„t a crime of the next nature to sacriledge So as J must resolve to live many yeares yet if God so see it fitting yea and vvish and indeavour to doe so though all the svveetnes of my life be taken from me anâ— that I see nothing but thicâ— clouds of dismall draknes beforâ— me vvhich make death untâ— me as to myselfe infiniteliâ— preferable before life Foâ— even the memorie of her vertues as on the one side it ministreth some kind of contentmâ—â— and comfort to me especiallâ— vvhen I consider the blesse revvard there-off vvhich shâ— novv reapeth in heaveÌ„ vvherin the presence of God she in joyeth the fulnes of joy all teâ—res beeing vviped-off from hâ—â— eyes so on the other side it doâ— mainlie aggravate my sorrovv because that the greater they vvere and the rest of her most desireable and lovelie qualities the greater is my losse in beeing deprived of her But be her dearest Jdea matter of comfort to me or matter of sorrovv it shall ever and incessantlie be present to my soule and therein to the end of my dayes take-up that vvhole roome vvhich a christian vvithout offence to his Creatour and Saviour and vvith a due sub-ordination to that love vvhich is ovving to him in the first place caâ— lavvfullie afford to anie thinâ— created just in the same manner as she did possesse it duriâ—â— that time that J vvas blessâ— vvith that greate happynâ—â— of injoying her most amiaâ— companie I should nevâ— have done My lord if 〈◊〉 vvould take that scope 〈◊〉 dvvelling on this theamâ— vvhich my affection and grâ—â—f doth prompt unto me 〈◊〉 feare of importuning yâ—â—r Lordship constraineth mâ—â—â— breake off and so vvith â—y most heartie thanks for â—ll those friendlie and pious paines vvhich ever since this fatall blovv you have taken and doe still take daylie in endeavouring to heale this deep and incurable vvound and to minister all spirituall comfort to me I reamaine Your Lordships most obliged and humble but desolate and disconsolate servant ARNOLD BOATE Paris this 24. of May 1651. D. O. M. S. LECTISSIMAE FOE MINAE MARGARITAE DVNGAN ANIMI PIETATE ET PROBITATE AMORE AC FIDE IN DEVâ— PVRIORIS RELIGIONIS ZELO CHARITATE IN PROXIMOâ— PHILOSTORGIA IN MAâ—â—TVM LIBEROS PARENTEâ— MODESTIA CASTITATâ— BENIGNITATE LIBERâ—LITATE COMITATâ— EXIMIE ORNATAE ETIAM IVSTITIAE 〈◊〉 VERITATIS AMORâ— PRVDENTIA GENâ— ROSITATE RELIQVIS VIRTVTIBâ—â— SVPRA SEXVM ET ANNâ—â— PRAEFVLGENTI INDOLIS QVOQVE ET â—GENII FOELICITAâ— FORMAE PRAESTANTâ—A ET VENVSTATE ORIS-QVE DECORE ET GRATIA MORVM SINGVLARI SVAVITATE ET ELEGANTIA VNICE CONSPICVAE VXORI TOT NOMINIBVS SIBI CHARISSIMAE MOESTISSIMVS MARITVS ARNOLDVS BOOTIVS IN IPSO IVVENTAE FLORE CVM TANTVM 25. AETATIS ANNVM AGERET SIBI EREPTAM 17. APRILIS 1651. IN CONSOLABILITER LVGENS POSVIT HOC MONVMENTVM AMORIS EXIMII ET INDIVIDVI ATQVE AD SVPREMAM DIEM EODEM TENORE DVRATVRI Lectissimam Matronam sibi châ—rissimam Margaritam Dungâ—nam D. Arnoldi Bootij sibi etiaâ— amicissimi Coniugem verè fleâ— deflebat sibi morte ademtam effâ— ex tempore carmine Th. Sinsersiâ— Candidae Casae apud Scotos Episâ—â— pus indignissimus VERE Debemus morti nos nostraque Vâ—â— Ignarus causae dixerat ille nimis Quod saepe expertus iam sentio dum mibi chaâ— Dunganam ab nimiùm mors violenta rapit Mors violenta rapit Dunganam in flore iuveni Prae cunctis alijs quae mihi chara fuit Sed mihi solamen quod Vati non fuit illi est Spes quod per Christum vita redibit ei Sic est peccatum morti nos subjicit omnes Christus at ex ipsa morte redemtor erit Sic tibi sic certò fiet Dungana beata In Christo moriens dum tibi vera fides Vera viva fides quae vitaÌ„ expressa per omâ— Morte etiam in media te comitata fuit Hanc quoque tu in menteÌ„ revoca charissime 〈◊〉 Quae fuit erepta in conjuge viva fides Ereptae quae tanta premit ne â—eopprimatorbuâ— Moestitia In viva coniuge viva fides Vitam animae in coelo post mortem praestat eanâ— Corporeae parti reddet illa suae