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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
love_n	affection_n	friend_n	love_v	2,693	5	6.0383	4	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A43351	Miscellanea, or, A mixture of choyce observations and institutions, moral, and divine, composed for private use being the product of spare hours, and the meditations of J.H.	Henshaw, Joseph, 1603-1679.	1669 (1669)	Wing H1480; ESTC R4644	40,398	215

then he that keeps low Remember if God hath given thee Children or other near Relations they claim a share in what thou hast and before thou departest hence fairly part with all it being the property of every good man not to deceive or disappoint any even in Death if thy estate mend thou mayst live up to it but not above it CHAP. LXV LEt the greatest part of the news thou hearest be the least part of what thou believest lest the greatest part of what thou believest be the lest part of what is true and report nothing for truth in earnest or in jest unless thou know it or at least confidently believe it to be so neither is it expedient at all times or in all Companies to report what thou knowest or knowest to be true sometimes it may avail thee if thou seem not to know that which thou knowest Hast thou any secret Commit it not to many nor to any unless well known unto thee CHAP. LXVI HAst thou a Friend use him friendly and abuse him not in jest or earnest conceal his infirmities privately reprove his Errours Commit thy secrets to him yet with caution lest thy friend become thy enemy and abuse thee CHAP. LXVII IF any thing befal thee which thou hast neither prudence to foresee nor power to prevent nor means to alter blame not him that sent it but bear it patiently for look abroad into the World and thou shalt fee some persons who neither want discretion to contrive nor means to effect their designes yet fail in their success others who have neither that power nor wisdom yet prosper in what they take in hand some impute this success to the influence of the Starrs Predominant in their Nativity others to blind fortune but 't is safe for thee to acknowledge him who is the cause of causes who oftentimes doth give success to the impious and improvident disappointing the wise and prudent that he himself may be acknowledged to be All in All and that vain man may have nothing after him yet the wicked shall not alwayes prosper but the pious and prudent shall at length prevail CHAP. LXVIII NEither despise nor over-much value any small thing despise it not for thou knowest not whither it may grow even those things whose beginnings have been low have grown great and thou knowest not of what use or disuse it may be unto thee The Lyon having caught a Mouse upon intreaty let her go not long after this Mouse hearing the Lyon roar sought him out and found him taken in a Net creeps to the Net and bites the cords asunder and so in requital gives the Lyon an escape Thou knowest not how far a small matter may hurt or help thee yet regard it not over-much lest thy mind be over-filled with fear and care if thou hast an enemy whose power is small fear him and have alwayes a watchful eye upon him lest thy want of fear make thee secure and thy security give him strength and this strength enable him to overcome thee CHAP. LXIX OF all the passions of thy mind beware of Love then which none is more unruly especially when the Object is unsuitable or difficult to be obtained it will fill thy mind with fear anxiety care and jealousie IN Love these vices are suspions Peace War and Impudence Detractions Dreams Cares and Errours Terrours and Affrights Immodest pranks devices flights and slights Heart-burnings wants neglects desire of wrong Loss continual expence and hurt among Yet if the object of thy affection be truly desireable and facile thou mayest love yet so that friends be thy Counsellours and reason thy conduct so shalt thou seldome miscarry Sed vix deo conceditur amare sapere It is scarce allowed to the Gods to be in love and to be wise CHAP. LXX ABove all things shun Melancholy as that which will both impare thy health delude thy fancy and discompose thy mind The Melancholy person is apt to think that to be which is not and things to be as they are not excellently described by Democritus Junior Burton's Melancholy WHen I go musing all alone Thinking of divers things fore-known When I build Castles in the Air Void of sorrow and void of fear Pleasing my self with phantasms sweet Methinks the time runs very fleet All my joys to this are folly Naught so sweet as Melancholy When I lye musing all alone Recounting what I have ill done My thoughts on me then Tyrannize Fear and sorrow me surprize Whether I tarry still or go Methinks the time moves very slow All my griefs to this are Jolly Naught so sad as Melancholy When to my self I act and smile With pleasing thoughts the time beguile By a Brook side or wood so green Vnheard unsought for or unseen A thousand pleasures do me bless And Crown my Soul with happiness All my joys besides are folly None so sweet as Melancholy When I lye sit or walk alone I sigh I grieve making great moan In a dark Grove or irksome den With discontents and furies then A thousand miseries at once My heavy Heart and Soul ensconce All my griefs to this are folly None so soure as Melancholy Methinks I hear methinks I see Sweet musick wondrous melody Cities towns and places fine Now here then there the World is mine Rare beauties gallant Ladies shine What ere is lovely or divine All other joyes to this are folly None so sweet as Melancholy Methinks I hear methinks I see Ghosts Goblins Fiends my fantasie Presents a thousand ugly shapes Headless Bears black-Men and Apes Doleful out cryes and fearful sights My sad and dismal Soul affrights All my griefs to this are Jolly None so damn'd as Melancholy Methinks I court methinks I kiss Methinks I now embrace my Mistris O blessed dayes O sweet content In Paradise my time is spent Such thoughts may still my fancy move So may I ever be in love All my Joyes to this are folly Naught so sweet as Melancholy When I recount loves many frights My sighs and tears my wakeing nights My jealous fits O my hard fate I now repent but 't is too late No torment is so bad as Love So bitter to my Soul can prove All my griefs to this are Jolly None so harsh as Melancholy Friends and Companions get you gone 'T is my desire to be alone Nere well but when my thoughts and I Do domineer in privacy No gemm no treasure like to this 'T is my delight my crown my bliss All my joys to this are folly None so sweet as Melancholy 'T is my sole plague to be alone I am a Beast a Monster grown I will no light no company I find it now my misery The Scene is turn'd my joys are gone Fear discontent and sorrows come All my griefs to this are jolly Naught so fierce as Melancholy I 'le not change life with any King I ravisht am can the world bring More joy then still to laugh and smile In pleasant toys

be yet such as thy companions are such wilt thou be thought be be CHAP. XVI LEt thy recreation be moderate seasonable lawful and such as doth become thee let it be moderate therefore spend not too much of thy strength nor too much of thy time nor too much of thy estate in recreation thy time is short and precious Eternity depends upon thy good improvement of this moment yesterday cannot be recalled and to morrow is not sure Spend not too much of thy strength the end and use of recreation being to sweeten thy rest and to renew thy strength for labour He that wasts his estate to recreate himself makes a sport of his own ruine Let thy recreation be seasonable and a servant to thy business lest thou be a slave to it and remember the servant must not be greater then his master Let it be lawful He that makes a jest of that which is unlawful shall be punished in earnest And lastly see that thy recreation be such as doth become thee It becomes not the grave Senator to dance the Antick nor Ladies of honor to frisk about a May-pole CHAP. XVII IF ever God vouchsafe thee Children and thou desire to see them vertuous let them not see their Parents vices Thou canst not rebuke that in them which they behold practiced in thee Till reason be ripe examples teach more then precepts Such as thy behaviour is before thy Childrens face such commonly is theirs behind thy back be sure thy passion miscall them not lest thou prophesie their fortunes and curse them not lest thy curse returne from whence it came curses sent in the room of blessings are dtiven back with a double vengeance If thou hast a Son and an estate for him keep him not too short lest he think thou live too long and what thou allowest him let him receive from thy hand as gift not from thy Tenants as Rent keep the reins of thy estate in thy own hand lest thou forsake the soveraignty of a Parent he forget the reverence of a Childe let his liberty be grounded upon thy permission and keep him within the compass of thy instruction let him feel thou hast the curbe though occasion urge thee not to check give him the choise of his own Wife if he be wise counsel his affection rather then cross it if thou beest wise lest his marriage bed be made in secret or depend upon thy grave If he be given to lavish company stave him off with lawful recreation be cheerful with him that he may love thy presence wink at small faults that thou mayst gain him be not always chiding lest thou harden him neither knit thy brow too often lest thou dishearten him Remember the discretion of a Parent oft times prevents the destruction of a Child Love not thy Children too unequally if thou dost shew it not lest thou make the one proud the other envious and both fools If nature hath made a difference it is the part of a tender parent to help the weakest that tryal is not fair where affection is judge And choose such imployment for thy son as may stand with his fancy and thy judgment lest thy country loose a servant and thou a child To conclude so behave thy self amongst thy children that they may fear thy displeasure rather then thy correction too much familiarity will embolden them too little countenance will discourage them when thou reprovest them do it in season when thou correctest them do it not in passion As a wise child makes happy parents so wise parents make happy children CHAP. XVIII INsult not over misery nor deride infirmity nor despise deformity the first shews thy inhumanity the second thy folly the third thy pride he that made him miserable made thee happy that thou mightest lament him he that made him weak made thee strong to support him he that made him deformed gave thee favour to be humbled He that is not sensible of anothers unhappiness is a living Stone but he that makes misery the object of his triumph is an incarnate Devil Take no pleasure in the folly of an idiot nor in the fancy of a Lunatick nor in the frenzy of a drunkard make them the object of thy pity not of thy pastime when thou dost behold them consider how thou art beholding to him that suffered not thee to be like unto them 't is not thy merit but Gods favour alone that puts a difference between thee and them CHAP. XIX HAth Fortune dealt thee ill Cards let wisdom make thee a good Gamester In a fair Gayle every fool may sayl but wise behaviour in a storm commends the wisdom of a Pilot. To bear adversity with an equal mind is both sign and glory of a brave spirit As there is no worldly gain without some loss so there is no worldly loss without some gain if thou hast lost thy wealth thou hast lost some trouble with it if thou art degraded of thy honour thou art likewise freed from the stroke of envy if sickness hath blurr'd thy beauty it hath delivered thee from pride set the allowance against thy loss and thou shalt find no great loss He loseth little or nothing who keeps the favour of his God and the peace and freedom of his conscience But hast thou lost any thing advise with thy self whether thy loss be recoverable if it be use all such speedy and lawful means the violence and unseasonableness whereof may not disadvantage thee in thy pursute to recover it if it be not recoverable endure with patience what thou canst not recover with pains He that carnally afflicts his soul for the loss of a transitory good casts away the kernel because he hath lost the shell CHAP. XX. LEt not the falling of Salt the crossing of an Hare the chattering of a Pie the flying of a Crow or the crying of a Cricket trouble thee they portend no evil but what thou fearest he is ill acquainted with himself that knows not his own fortunes better then they he hath little knowledg of God and less faith in him who knoweth not his power or believeth not his providence to be above the portent of these silly things if evil follow it is the punishment of thy superstition not the fulfilling of their prediction all things are lucky to thee if thou love God and live in his fear nothing but is ominous to the Superstitious CHAP. XXI AS thou desirest the love of God and man beware of Pride it is a tumour in thy mind that breaks and poysons all thy actions it is a worm in thy treasure that eats and ruines thy estate it loves no man is beloved of no man it disparages vertue by detraction it disrewards goodness in it self by vain glory the friend of the flatterer the mother of envy the nurse of fury the baud of luxury the sin of Devills and the Devil in mankind it hates Superiours it scornes inferiours it owns no equalls 'till thou hate it God hates