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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A76239	An antidote against immoderate sorrow for the death of our friends: taken from an assured hope of our resurrection to life and glory. Delivered in a sermon preached in the parish-church of North-Wraxall in Wiltshire, the 12th. of Aprill 1660. at the funeral of Sr William Button Baronet. By Francis Bayly his houshold chaplain.	[Bayly, Francis, fl. 1660].	1660 (1660)	Wing B1474; Thomason E1026_5; ESTC R208754	22,562	34

Romans but Gods ancient people the Jews and the Primitive Christians whose funeral Orations are still extant nay that little good we find in bad men deserves a register David himself penn'd Saul an Epicaedium Saul and Jonathan were lovely and pleasant in their lives and in their death they were not divided ye Daughters of Israel weep over Saul who cloathed you in Scarlet with other delights a Sam. 1.23 To begin therefore from whence he had his beginning he was descended from an antient and Worshipful Family which hath been alwaies accounted no small blessing as a strong obligation and spur to Worthy and Noble actions which were such in him that his personall Vertues did adde a lustre to his naturall Honour After the care of his Parents and Master had fitted him for Oxford he spent some time there under the care and tuition of Dr. Prideaux Thence travailing in the company of Sir Arthur Hopton the Kings Agent through France into Spain and returned by Geneva having his soul untainted either with the pompous superstition of the one or the Phanatick novelty of the other neither affecting the supercilious gravity of Spaniard nor the fantastick levity of the French the usual disease of travail but returning with so much of either as might serve to make him an accomplish'd Gentleman serviceable to his Country had he not lived in an age wherein honesty and loyalty hath been accounted a crime and a bar to honourable Employments Afterwards marrying with a virtuous and pious Lady descending from an ancient and worshipful family in Devonshire living together all their time in true Love and Amity having not only their hands in marriage but as it is said of Jonathan and David their souls knit together in true affection and though God blessed them not with any off-spring yet his love was such to her that he might well have said as Elkannah did to to Hannah am not I better to thee then ten Sons and though he had none of his own yet some Orphans might say of him that they found in him a father witness his care and expence towards his Nephews and Neeces whose Charity was not only confined to his own relations but that it overflowed to others breeding up the child of a neighbour deceased minister at School and not leaving him there but maintaining him at Oxford whose necessity I doubt not will still be supplyed by his charitable Lady Yea such was his charity in general unto all not only those of his own and neighbouring parishes but whomsoever else necessity doth comprize under that title that I beleive none ever went away unsatisfied or not having ample occasion to blesse God for him so that I may say of him as Nazianzen said of himself ne mihi accidat ut dum pauperes egeant ego ditescam illorum inopiae non succurram the necessity of whom he charitably supplyed so far from ostentation or pharisaical pride that I may say of him that his left hand knew not what his right hand did stealing opportunity to supply the necessity of those who formerly had lived in a condition to supply the wants of others For his Hospitalitie towards all rich and poor that which St. Paul so much commends and Abraham so loved yea so loveth still saith Chrysologus Serm. 121. ut parum se beatum eredidit c. that he would scarce think himself happy in heaven if he were deprived of the use and exercise thereof it was such that by it together with his prudence and affability he won so much upon the affections of all that he became the love and darling of his Country who doubtless would have testified it in an ample manner by their free and voluntary choice of him to have served as a Member in this succeeding Parliament on which the eyes of most next under God I hope are fixed for the settlement of this distracted and almost distructed nation had not God thought it fitter by a writ of remove to take him from this Lower to that Upper house and to make him a Member of his own heavenly Court For his Piety towards God he was a constant frequenter of his Ordinances making his house a little model of a Church where besides his own private Devotions Morning and Evening Sacrifices were daily offered unto God and I doubt not acceptably they being presented unto him in the same language and form which the Church prescribed greatly admiring at the Piety and Prudence of the Church in her choice composure from the which none of his Servants could presume to be absent without a severe check resolving with Joshuah I and my houshold will serve the Lord. But when his Sicknesse which began with a Cold and continued with a violent Cough had confined him to his Chamber and his Friends became more fearfull of his recovery I began a serious discourse with him concerning Death and Mortality and a due preparation thereunto he replyed that if God thought it fittest to take him out of this world he could patiently submit to his Will but if God would be pleased to spare him he should be thankful and was resolved by Gods grace to spend that time which he should add to his dayes more to Gods glory much like that of the Prophet David O let my Soul live and it shall praise thee returning me hearty thanks for my spiritual advice and Counsel telling me withall that the oftner my discourse was to this purpose the welcomer I should be into his presence which encouraged me unto the performance of my duty with the greater cheerfulnesse and alacrity ever finding his discourse so full of Piety and true contrition enough to have confirmed a Christian and converted an Atheist But growing weaker in Body but increasing in Spiritual strength he desired to receive the Sacrament of the Lords Supper which he did with Humility Devotion and Cheerfulnesse spending the remainder of his time which was some two dayes and nights almost wholly in Prayer which was performed by my selfe and a neighbour-Minister he in the interim preaching unto us such Sermons of Piety and Contrition expressing so much grief and sorrow for his sins such a true and and lively Faith in the Mercy of God for the merits of his Saviour for the pardon and remission of them that it were little lesse then uncharitablenesse it selfe to doubt his Salvation And when his loving and careful Consort who would never leave nor forsake him untill Death writ the Bill of Divorce lay by him bemoaning her losse and bathing his Pillow with her Tears he prayed her to be more cheerfull and not endeavour to keep Death from him which would soon bring him to Christ the like he said to his Servants standing about his Bed lamenting their losse in him But when his Tongue which had been an instrument to blesse and praise God could no longer perform its office his eyes and hands became his Orators to Heaven for mercy with which emploring the assistance of those that stood by in prayer which being ended he turned aside and not long after fell asleep resigning his Soul into the hands of his Redeemer In fine he was I had almost said what was he not he was a good Christian a loyall Subject preferring his duty and a good Conscience of the which too many have made Shipwrack before his F●●are 〈◊〉 Son of the Church a lover of the Orthodox Clergy a releiver of the wants of those that suffered for the testimony of a good Conscience a most indulgent Husband a loving Brother a fast Friend a good Landlord a just man a charitable benefactor to the Poor loving and liberal to his Servants and now doubtlesse is entred into his Masters joy But perhaps thou wilt reply what no drosse among all this gold yes doubtlesse otherwise he had been more then Man he had no question his failings his sins and infirmities so had and so have the best of Saints which he did acknowledge with humility and sorrow what they were is not my businesse to proclaim if thou knowest any let me advise thee to learn by him to amend them in thy selfe and since he had so much grace to repent of them God so much mercy to forgive them do thou have so much Charity to forget them burying them in his grave where we are going to lay his body that chamber of rest untill Christ 〈◊〉 to awake him and us altogether with him to the 〈◊〉 blisse both of Body and Soul Amen 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 FINIS

our Saviour when Lazarus was dead because he wept see how he loved him Pietas plorare jubet for love indeed commands a tear but faith forbids a deluge That Counsel which Seneca gave his friend Polybius may serve for a Christians imitation reason hath done enough if she restrain the Excesse of Sorrow but to have it wholy rooted out no man ought either to hope or desire it let our hearts flow let them be stayed let our sighs be drawn from the bottome of our hearts but let them have an end for though we may enbalme our dead friend with a charitable tear yet we 〈◊〉 take heed that we deluge not our faith in the Gulph of despair Sorrow we may so far as it is agreeable with the rules of humanity and true piety but if it exceed the bounds of Christian moderation we shew our selves rather hopelesse Infidels then believing Christians That advice of the Son of Sirach is good and remarkable Ecclesiasticus 38.16.17 My Son pour forth tears over the dead and begin to mourn as if thou hadst suffered great harm thy self and then cover his body according to his appointment and neglect not his burial Make a grievous lamentation and be earnest in mourning and use lamentation as he is worthy and that a day or two least thou be evil spoken of and then comfort thy self for thy heaviness and as it is verse 23. seeing the dead is at rest let his remembrance rest and comfort thy self again for him when his Spirit is departed from him where he shews that there are three things that are due to the dead Sepulture mourning and moderation in mourning the two former you have and are still performing 't is my part though interessed in the losse to moderate the last not to perswade you to become senselesse Stoicks unconcerned in the losse of a friend but true Christians Nam non lugere inhumanum est nimium lugere muliebre illud rigidi est pectoris istud mollis abjecti not to be sensible of the loss of a friend is little lesse then inhumanity to grieve above measure womanish the one argues a flinty the other a faithless heart But perhaps thou wilt say I have lost a dear friend a most loving husband one in whose breast dwelt nothing but goodnesse and piety shall thy passion still make thee senselesse wilt thou make that an argument to encrease thy grief which should be the chiefest motive to augment thy comfort for thus dying they are happy for the death of such are precious in the sight of God who therefore takes them out of this miserable world that he might take them to himself could you love them and yet greive that they are happy could they be thus happy and not dye in truth nature knows not what she would have we can neither abide our friends miserable in their stay nor happy in their departure True if they were perished or utterly lost I could not blame you if you then took up Rachels complaint but since Death is their preferment such love which moves you still to lament is injurious Saint Chrysostome puts this question why Children and Patents Wife and Husband enjoy not one the other so long now as in the dayes of the Patriarchs and gives this reason speaking of Sarahs behaviour towards Abraham Quoniam e● vivente deum praetulit because whilst he lived she preferred God before him And again speaking of Abraham towards Sarah Quoniam câ etiam vivâ deo magis audivit quà ipsam because whilst she lived he hearkned more to God then her Neither for the love of Husband nor of Wife nor for the care of Childe did any one provoke God to anger and concludes ne diligas maritum plusquam deum nunquam senties viduitatem love not thy Husband more then God and thou shalt never feel Widdowhood for thou shalt either enjoy him or God who will be better to thee then ten Husbands for God many times robs us of those friends which we nay which God himselfe loves best and that both for their and our sakes for their sakes he takes them from the evill to come for our sakes weaning us from the love of the World by depriving us of those Jewells which did seem most precious unto us and therefore let God have them with cheerfulnesse and we shall one day enjoy God with them in glory Thus David comforted himself for the death of his Son I shall go to him but he shall not return to me Lastly Is Death but a Sleep Use 2 why then should the sad tole of Mortality dishearten us or the approaches of death terrifie us do men fear to sleep especially when they beleeve they shall wake again true were Life so pleasant the long sleep of Death might seem somewhat dreadfull doe but ask the Patriarch Jacob. and he will rell that life is not onely short but soure For and evil are the dayes of my Pilgrimage here how prettily St. Augustine emblemes it in his tender Infant nondum loquitur tamen prophetat Tears are the first Rhetorick that he useth by which before he can speak he Prophesies and by a dumb kind of Divination wailes out the story of Mans sorrow here Well therefore might the Graecian call the first day of our life 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 the beginning of conflicts and therefore the Thracians did celebrate the day of their Death with Mirth and the day of their Birth with Mourning yea saith the wise Son of Sirach better is the day of our Death then the day of our Birth Saint Augustine gives this reason for it quia per vitam transitus ad mortem because by Life we passe to Death and by Death we return unto Life some therefore derive the Greek word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Death from 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 because it brings us unto God that made us for death doth not only free us from miseries but conveighs us to happiness here we have but arrham spiritus the earnest of the Spirit there we have pretium the full price here we dwelt but in Cottages whose foundation is in the Dust but Death brings us to an habitation made without hands now we have conversed with Men there we shall have the communion with Saints and fellowship with the Angels enjoy visionem illam beatificam the immediate fruition of God and Christ let them spruce Agags cry out amara mors Death is bitter faint-hearted Adrians expostulate with their trembling Souls Quaenum abibis in loca whether art thou going O my doubtful and trembling Soul whilst confident and faithful Hilarions cheerfully resigne their Souls into the hands of him that gave them with an egredere anima mea quid times egredere quid dubitas get thee gone O my Soul what dost fear get thee gone what dost thou doubt hast thou served Christ almost these seventy years and now dost thou fear to dye Christians should be of that courage that they should