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A09207
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The truth of our times revealed out of one mans experience, by way of essay. Written by Henry Peacham.
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Peacham, Henry, 1576?-1643?
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into aire to the often losse of your labour in visiting soliciting and attending them at their houses or chambers Sometimes you shall be so injuriously dealt withall as by beleeving their promises you shall in hope take tedious journeies to London the Court and other places and when you have done all you shall only finde your horse tyred your purâ—e emptied and your selfe in your expectation meerely abused So I wish thee whosoever thou art to have as little to doe with these transcendent great ones on the one side as the uselesse inferiours and vaâ—ltneants on the other I have often considered with my selâ—e whether a man were the better or the worse for multitude of acquaintance I coâ—cluded generally the worse considering the most are of no use uâ—to us casting into the account the expence of money losse of time and neglect of businesse The best acquaintance is with such as you may better your self by any way especially in knowledge by discourse and conference which was the ancient course of learning according to Euripides 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Converse was the mother of Arts either with general Schollers Travellers such as are skilled in the tongues and in mechanicall Arts for by conversing with such you shall husband your time to the best and take the shortest cut to knowledgeâ— beside the keeping of such company getteth you the reputation of being understanding and learned as they are though yet a puisâ—e and a novice in their studies and professions The best way to preâ—erve a gotten fâ—iend is thankfully to acknowledge the benefit you have received from him To endeavour all you can to requiâ—e his curteâ—ie some way or other To use him tenderly and not oft and then but in cases of necessity when as a good sword you shall see what mettall he is made of To give him no occasion by your ill cariage or unthriftinesse to thinke ill of you To goe on in an honest way and calling that hee may thinke his courtesies well bestowed and bee the readier to assisâ— and further you for commonly friends accumulate one good turne upon another especially where they have found the former to have beene seasonably and profitably bestowed Of Parents and Children ALL Parents are naturally indulgent to their children especially while they are young yet the height of their affection or coldnesse of love towards them appeareth not untill they are of riper yeares at what time they doe them equall wrong either in giving them the reine of liberty and spending or being over harsh unnaturall and hard hearted over them I have knowne excellent spirits and many noble wits lost and undone either way Some Mothers when their children are young are so fond over them â—s by no meanes they will endure them out of their sight much lesse send them abroad to schoole or to be nurtured by others abroad by whom they profit more then at home Hence it comes to passe that so many great and rich mens sonnes and heyres when they come toward menâ— estate are so simple and easie to bee wrought upon by craftie knaves and cheaters Hence we see them often brought upon the Stage under the names of Sir Simple Iohn Daw Abraham Ninny and the like their stâ—dy being nothing else but the newest fashion what Tavern to goe to dinner to or stare at every post to see where the newest play is that afternâ—one I knew a great Lady that had onely one sonne of some fourteene or fifteene yeareâ— of age whom indeed shee would have brought up at schoole but he must go when himselfe listed and have two men to carry him thither to bring him home again to dinner supper hee was once in my charge and I remember not a bit of meat would downe with him without sawce which must be extraordinary too as the juice of limmons with sugar and rose water Sometime if it were a dainty fowle as Patricâ— Gray Plover or the like he must have wine mixed with bread crummes and the juice of an Orenge Pepper he could not abide for it bit him by the tongue his breakfast was either a caâ—dle or a manchet spâ—ead with Almond butter Being one day with his mother at dinner she seâ—med to bee overjoyed in that her sonne fell to eating of beefe which she protested hee never did before in his life and now she verily beleeved hee would prove a souldier indeed hee proved very valiant after for he kickâ— his mother and told her hee was better descended then ever shee was so that it seemes strong meats have strange effects In earnest thiâ— young gentleman was the only one whoÌ„ I ever knew to prove towardly and good after such a motherly education Indeed as I said hee was sometimes my scholler and at this day is as understanding civill discreet and as thrifty a Gentleman as is in the west part of England Some agaÃne in the Vniversities maintaine their sonnes at such an height that there in stead of studying the seven liberall Sciences they study seven couple of hounds yet I must needs say they there grow perfect in the Spanish French and the Dutch that is Sacke Claret and Rhenish while poore Schollers make their Exercises and some of these now then unknowne to their friends clap up a match with some semster chambermaid or tradesmans daughter that newes is caried to their fathers how their sonnes have profiâ—ed so well in the Vniversity that they have gotten more in an houre than they know what to doe withall all their lives after Heâ—ce being men they become unserviceable both for the Church and State and being no Schollers they hate learning in others whereupon when in learned company they can say little they break jests upon others or which is the more generous and commendable if it be at a Tavern and upon a spending occasion they will numerando Symbolum officium sarcire as Erasmus saith make amends by paying a good part of the reckoning and being no schollers shew their loves to schollers On the other side there are some Fathers so unnaturall and harsh towards their children that they are not onely carelesse in giving them any education at all but no means of maintenaÌ„ce to support their livelihood turning them off young to shift in the wide world seeke their fortunes among strangers and become servants to others or if they stay at home use them in that manner by blowes and beating or ill uncomfortable words withâ—rawing timely helpe for their preferments that all their lives after they loath their fathers house and the very sight of the place where they were bred and borne I knew a very rich and able man in Norfolke children no meanes at all to live upon they being at mans estate and very civill and honest Gentlemen save the windâ—falls of trees in his woods and to make their best by selling them but no windes stirring they were faine to helpe themselves by digging the rootes loose within the earth
childish age Likewise betweene brother and sister and this is preserved and cherished by a moderate and wise indulgence of the Parents as if ought bee amisse by familiar admonition teaching gently rebâ—king discoursing with them as with strangers of yeares and understanding and growing to men and womens estate to supply their wants keeping them neat and with the best of their ranke fashionable in apparrell which addeth spirit unto them maketh them to think wel of themselves and teacheth them to make good choyse of their company acquaintance lastly 〈◊〉 maketh them in all places tâ— be respected and their friends commended It is also fitting that a father when â—is â—onne grow s nere man not onely to supply his corporal necessiâ—ies but also to allow him money in his purse to keepe company with his equals and sometimes to lay out upon a good bargaine which unexpectedly hee may meete withall hereby he will learne to love and keepe his money lay it out to the best advantage to keepe and maintaine his credit he shall be knowne and get reputation in the world hee will become more obsequious to his Parents and friends when those pennilesse and long of their Parents poore ones are a disgrace to their Parents the object of pitty to their friends and a scorn to every golden asse and their enemies and which is most lamentable are sometimes driven to bee beholding to these There was a miserable slave not long since that had kept three or fourescore load of Hay two or three years hoping it would bee still dearer when it was at five pounds and ten shillings the load but presently it falling to forty and thirty shillings went into his barne takes a stoole to stand on and throwing a rope over a beame kicks downe the stoole and so hangs his sonne being threshing on the other side of the wall hearing the stoole fall runs in and seeing his father hanging takes his knife and cuts him downe rubs him and recovers him his son a weeke after comming for his weekes wages for threshing for his father allowed him nothing but what hee dearely earned he abated him two pence which the sonne told him was wanting his father answered the rope which he cut cost him so much and hee should pay for it the sonne departing heavily told his father if hee would forgive him that two pence hee should not want a new rope at any time withall wished for his owne sake hee might not finde him at the like businesse againe It is also worthy the observation that when God would destroy and roote out a wicked family or generation from the face of the earth he suffers enmity and discord to reigne and divide a kindred in their affections one towards another The father hates the childe the Childe the father the sister cannot abide her brother the brother speakes ill of the sister purloyning one from the other they seldome or never see or visite in kindly maner one another in sicknesse one will not relieve or comfort one another nay many times grudge a nights lodging in a word no more regard of blood or alliance amongst them than among swine This I have often observed and when of such a family in few yeares not one of the name hath beene left Of Clownes and rude behaviour SCaliger reportethth that our English Counâ—rey husbandmen and Gascoignes to bee of all other the most clownish and uncivill wherein hee is much deceived for the Boores of High and Low Germany are tenne times worse as well in their Education Manners and Civility in respect of whom ours in the generall are most gentile humane and courteoâ—s Some wee have I confesse meerely terrae filii Mushromes in a night shot up and nourished by the dung of the earth that have neither religion wit or moderation professed enemies to understanding learning civility and all manner of gentility by nature commonly so base and miserable that they could finde in their hearts they had come into the world like Calves with skinnes of haire that they might never have gone to a Drapers for cloth or like Pan to have got feete of horne they could have kept their money from the shoe-maker like that Emblematicall Sow their noses are ever rooting in the earth with Vlterius over her backe They commonly love the Church so well that they had rather spend tenne pounds in Suit than allow him one tithe pigge out of nine Erra Pater and this yeares Almanacke if he can read are the two onely bookes he spends his time in and if a showre of raine extraordinarily happens in Hay-time or harvest hee grumbles against God beates his maides and lookes currishly upon any that speaks to him Of all men in the World he cannot endure Lawyers but evermore hee is barking against them as dogs doe at Tinkers not because they stoppe holes in their dames kettles but because they make their budgets of their skinnes If a gentleman or noble man happen to ride in hawking time over his grounds he bannes and curses him and his followers to the pit of hell for betweene your Clown and Gentleman there is ever an Antipathie If I should tell you how the late Prince of Orenge Grave Maurice hath been answered amongst his Dutch Boores as he passed through the Countrey you would say our Countrey of England was a Schoole of Civility in regard of those Countries Charles the fift that religious and puissant Emperor when by fortune of warre hee was pursued and chased by the Duke of Saxony and the Lantgrave of Hesse and in a very dark and rainy night having loâ—t his way among the Heaths and Woods having onely two or three in his company fortuned to come to a Boores house that stood alone under a woods side knocking desired entertainment but to sit up by the fire till it were day the Boore looking out at his window as Boares thrust their heads of the Franke said he and his wife were in bedde and hee was some Skellum or rogue that would be out so late if hee would to use his owne words Met sâ—iâ— verkens slaepen rest him with his Pigges in an out house hee might in hee should not come The Emperor then desired of him to know what time of night it was the Boore told him all by twee heuren neere two of clocke in the morning the Emperor asked him how he knew the clown replyed â—ck heâ—t nâ— ghepist hee had but newly made water these entertainments are common amongst them yea were he the greatest Prince of the Empire I once lived in a towne where scarce a gentleman or any of civill carriage lived and having found but illâ—requitall for good deserts I caused this to be written over the porch of their free-schoole doore Subi dura a rudibus It is Palindrome the letters making the same againe backwards To know an absolute Clowne observe these his conditions he had rather be spreading of dung than goe to the leanest sermon