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then_o as_o grace_n do_v increase_v so_o thy_o love_n will_v abound_v but_o grace_n can_v but_o increase_v continual_o therefore_o love_n will_v multiply_v in_o thy_o heart_n exceed_o now_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v keep_v from_o apostasy_n or_o fall_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v help_v forward_o in_o all_o christian_a counsel_n and_o good_a way_n and_o as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o keep_v life_n in_o thy_o love_n and_o to_o increase_v therein_o to_o thy_o own_o comfort_n and_o the_o comfort_n of_o thy_o wife_n so_o let_v it_o be_v thy_o care_n in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n to_o look_v to_o thy_o own_o heart_n that_o it_o deceive_v thou_o not_o but_o that_o thou_o do_v indeed_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o thy_o wife_n then_o thou_o may_v certain_o expect_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n much_o comfort_n in_o such_o a_o yokefellow_n in_o all_o thy_o want_n of_o wealth_n or_o 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and_o peaceable_a spirit_n for_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o in_o divers_a man_n and_o woman_n that_o we_o doubt_v not_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n but_o that_o they_o be_v very_o gracious_a and_o desire_v to_o prove_v their_o soul_n to_o god_n in_o all_o way_n of_o holiness_n yet_o be_v of_o bad_a nature_n and_o themselves_o can_v but_o see_v it_o and_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o they_o desire_v to_o bewail_v it_o before_o god_n in_o secret_a and_o yet_o can_v attain_v to_o have_v their_o corruption_n in_o this_o kind_n mortify_v in_o any_o comfortable_a way_n yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o person_n be_v not_o many_o time_n comfortable_a consort_n and_o therefore_o thou_o that_o be_v to_o make_v choice_n of_o a_o wife_n have_v cause_n enough_o to_o endeavour_v to_o avoid_v lay_v a_o conjugal_a tie_n upon_o thyself_o to_o live_v and_o die_v with_o such_o a_o woman_n though_o otherwise_o one_o of_o good_a part_n if_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o churlish_a nature_n &_o of_o cross_a dispositon_n in_o the_o abstract_n she_o will_v cast_v such_o a_o cool_a damp_n on_o her_o husband_n love_n as_o may_v not_o only_o chill_a but_o kill_v it_o whereby_o though_o she_o may_v be_v a_o sad_a sufferer_n herself_o she_o will_v abundant_o prejudice_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o comfort_n and_o may_v shorten_v his_o day_n for_o a_o man_n can_v live_v that_o can_v love_v the_o love_n of_o any_o thing_n give_v contentment_n to_o the_o mind_n to_o enjoy_v the_o same_o a_o cross_n and_o tart_n nature_n in_o a_o wife_n un-wifes_n her_n as_o i_o may_v say_v for_o she_o that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n be_v either_o not_o a_o wife_n or_o else_o a_o very_a imperfect_a one_o for_o how_o can_v she_o be_v say_v to_o be_v a_o wife_n that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n who_o be_v unfit_a for_o comfortable_a society_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v as_o sharp_a and_o bitter_a touchy_a and_o tangue_n by_o nature_n will_v not_o ordinary_o be_v sociable_a love_a kind_a 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man_n to_o be_v alone_o verse_n 18._o which_o according_o he_o do_v for_o he_o make_v woman_n of_o a_o rib_n take_v out_o of_o a_o man_n verse_n 22._o which_o adam_n own_v peculiarly_a v._o 23._o therefore_o the_o lord_n join_v they_o together_o in_o marriage_n and_o so_o make_v they_o one_o flesh_n v._o 24._o and_o then_o institute_n marriage_n to_o be_v a_o ordinance_n in_o his_o church_n to_o the_o end_n of_o the_o world_n and_o say_v a_o man_n shall_v forsake_v father_n and_o mother_n and_o cleave_v unto_o his_o wife_n for_o they_o twain_o shall_v be_v one_o flesh_n which_o institution_n of_o marriage_n our_o saviour_n repeat_v in_o matth_n 1â—_n 5_o also_o in_o mark_n 10.7_o and_o the_o apostle_n say_v marriage_n be_v honourable_a among_o all_o man_n and_o the_o bed_n undefiled_a heb._n 13.4_o from_o all_o which_o place_n there_o be_v a_o full_a confirmation_n that_o god_n and_o that_o in_o man_n innocency_n do_v ordain_v matrimony_n and_o that_o matrimony_n be_v a_o holy_a ordinance_n of_o god_n from_o which_o as_o have_v be_v premise_v it_o do_v necessary_o follow_v that_o they_o deserve_v to_o lie_v under_o abundance_n of_o just_a reproof_n that_o either_o speak_v contemptible_o of_o or_o any_o other_o way_n do_v abuse_v this_o holy_a ordinance_n of_o the_o lord_n but_o this_o but_o by_o the_o way_n marriage_n we_o say_v be_v a_o holy_a ordinance_n of_o god_n and_o if_o it_o be_v enter_v into_o according_a to_o divine_a direction_n and_o use_v in_o a_o holy_a manner_n it_o will_v be_v as_o we_o may_v say_v a_o heaven_n upon_o earth_n full_a of_o all_o outward_a joy_n nay_o a_o help_n be_v sanctify_v of_o god_n to_o further_a we_o in_o the_o way_n to_o the_o fruition_n of_o glory_n in_o heaven_n hereafter_o but_o since_o the_o fall_n of_o adam_n from_o the_o state_n of_o innocency_n such_o be_v the_o accurse_a deprivation_n of_o his_o posterity_n that_o out_o of_o those_o thing_n which_o be_v most_o excellent_o good_a in_o themselves_o they_o will_v 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evil_a and_o procure_v good_a in_o the_o estate_n of_o marriage_n three_o thing_n very_o necessary_a if_o not_o of_o absolute_a necessity_n for_o every_o man_n to_o consider_v of_o and_o that_o very_o serious_o before_o marriage_n as_o direction_n about_o enter_v into_o that_o estate_n yea_o and_o a_o four_o consideration_n to_o be_v mind_v in_o the_o theory_n before_o hand_n too_o though_o the_o practic_a part_n thereof_o must_v be_v due_o perform_v after_o word_n even_o in_o the_o enjoyment_n of_o the_o marriage_n condition_n first_n before_o a_o man_n seek_v to_o enjoy_v the_o honourable_a estate_n of_o marriage_n he_o must_v consider_v what_o calling_n he_o have_v to_o change_v his_o life_n second_o what_o end_v he_o ought_v to_o propound_v to_o himself_o in_o desire_v such_o change_n three_o what_o mean_v he_o be_v to_o use_v to_o obtain_v his_o desire_n last_o he_o must_v before_o marriage_n labour_n to_o be_v thorough_o instruct_v in_o the_o duty_n that_o marry_a person_n owe_v 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demand_v what_o need_n be_v there_o of_o spiritual_a gift_n in_o such_o as_o enter_v the_o marriage_n estate_n i_o answer_v there_o be_v need_n yea_o such_o great_a need_n of_o they_o that_o where_o they_o be_v not_o in_o some_o good_a measure_n there_o be_v no_o fitness_n for_o marriage_n for_o when_o a_o man_n enter_v into_o that_o estate_n he_o become_v the_o husband_n of_o a_o wife_n and_o in_o process_n of_o time_n the_o father_n of_o child_n and_o the_o master_n of_o servant_n and_o these_o soul_n be_v commit_v to_o his_o charge_n and_o god_n have_v make_v he_o a_o watchman_n over_o they_o now_o if_o soul_n be_v not_o well_o govern_v by_o such_o as_o have_v the_o charge_n of_o they_o they_o will_v go_v astray_o if_o not_o lose_v for_o ever_o and_o if_o they_o receive_v prejudice_n through_o thy_o inability_n or_o neglect_v god_n will_v require_v their_o blood_n â—t_a thy_o hand_n consider_v that_o dreadful_a threaten_a ezek._n 33.8_o i_o assure_v thou_o it_o will_v reach_v full_a home_n in_o this_o case_n now_o i_o demand_v of_o thou_o how_o will_v thou_o or_o how_o can_v thou_o govern_v soul_n without_o spiritual_a gift_n see_v then_o the_o necessity_n of_o they_o and_o labour_n for_o they_o before_o hand_n but_o if_o any_o do_v yet_o again_o demand_v what_o spiritual_a gift_n be_v requisite_a to_o enable_v a_o man_n to_o govern_v the_o soul_n of_o such_o as_o be_v commit_v to_o he_o i_o answer_v governor_n the_o first_o spiritual_a gift_n requisite_a to_o governor_n the_o first_o spiritual_a gift_n necessary_a as_o before_o say_v be_v divine_a knowledge_n a_o man_n have_v not_o need_v to_o be_v a_o ignorant_a lot_n that_o be_v to_o govern_v other_o it_o can_v but_o be_v suppose_v that_o in_o the_o best_a family_n there_o be_v some_o know_v nothing_o of_o jesus_n christ_n now_o our_o saviour_n tell_v we_o that_o if_o the_o blind_a lead_v the_o blind_a both_o fall_n into_o the_o ditch_n mat._n 15.14_o peter_n do_v require_v knowledge_n in_o husband_n 1_o pet._n 3.17_o knowledge_n be_v of_o great_a use_n if_o it_o be_v but_o in_o the_o manage_n some_o outward_a call_n it_o be_v of_o much_o more_o use_n in_o spiritual_a employment_n david_n have_v much_o knowledge_n psal_n 119.99_o and_o he_o do_v well_o improve_v it_o psal_n 34.11_o to_o teach_v and_o instruct_v his_o child_n god_n complain_v his_o people_n be_v destroy_v for_o want_v of_o knowledge_n hoâ—_n 4.6_o true_o belove_v those_o poor_a soul_n that_o live_v in_o a_o family_n where_o the_o master_n be_v ignorant_a can_v gain_v knowledge_n in_o such_o a_o family_n abraham_n do_v teach_v his_o child_n and_o servant_n which_o he_o can_v not_o do_v without_o knowledge_n gen._n 18.19_o joshuah_n will_v himself_o and_o his_o family_n fear_v the_o lord_n so_o that_o doubtless_o himself_o be_v a_o very_a know_v christian_a belove_a every_o christian_a be_v as_o well_o a_o prophet_n in_o his_o own_o house_n to_o teach_v as_o a_o king_n to_o rule_v or_o as_o a_o priest_n to_o offer_v the_o sacrifice_n of_o prayer_n to_o god_n private_a christian_n may_v observe_v due_a rule_n exercise_v their_o gift_n in_o their_o family_n when_o it_o be_v most_o notorious_a presumption_n to_o do_v it_o in_o public_a but_o how_o can_v they_o that_o have_v no_o gift_n exercise_v any_o beside_o a_o family_n be_v a_o society_n and_o if_o godly_a a_o church_n now_o in_o all_o society_n or_o church_n there_o must_v be_v discipline_n exercise_v and_o good_a government_n maintain_v as_o the_o apostle_n do_v imply_v 1_o tim._n 3_o 5._o now_o a_o ignorant_a housholder_n be_v fit_a to_o be_v govern_v by_o other_o than_o be_v a_o governor_n i_o desire_v to_o mention_v it_o to_o the_o shame_n of_o such_o as_o be_v ignorant_a i_o mean_v such_o as_o be_v whole_o ignorant_a of_o the_o duty_n of_o a_o master_n of_o a_o family_n and_o
have_v their_o allowance_n from_o god_n and_o be_v keep_v at_o his_o table_n as_o we_o may_v say_v and_o at_o his_o charge_n the_o lord_n have_v a_o great_a family_n but_o be_v it_o ten_o thousand_o time_n big_a he_o have_v such_o a_o inexhausted_a store-house_n of_o provision_n of_o all_o kind_n that_o not_o one_o of_o they_o can_v want_v ease_n thyself_o then_o of_o thy_o care_n i_o mean_v distract_n and_o distrustful_a care_n and_o cast_v they_o upon_o god_n who_o care_v for_o thou_o 1_o pet._n 5.7_o i_o be_o god_n al-sufficient_a say_v the_o lord_n to_o abraham_n walk_v before_o i_o and_o be_v upright_o do_v thou_o but_o labour_n to_o walk_v before_o god_n and_o to_o be_v upright_o and_o then_o thou_o may_v act_v faith_n on_o god_n alsufficiency_n to_o do_v good_a to_o and_o for_o thou_o and_o thou_o let_v i_o yet_o a_o little_a further_o argue_v with_o thou_o about_o this_o particular_a thou_o say_v in_o effect_n thou_o be_v afraid_a that_o if_o thou_o shall_v have_v many_o child_n they_o will_v undo_v thou_o how_o can_v this_o be_v when_o the_o lord_n affirm_v child_n to_o be_v a_o blessing_n mind_n these_o two_o place_n first_o psal_n 127.5_o where_o the_o holy_a ghost_n speak_v of_o child_n say_v bless_a be_v the_o man_n who_o have_v his_o quiver_n full_a of_o they_o second_o psal_n 128._o bless_a be_v the_o man_n say_v the_o psalmist_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n and_o walk_v in_o his_o way_n but_o how_o be_v he_o bless_v true_o this_o be_v one_o part_n of_o his_o blessedness_n that_o his_o wife_n shall_v be_v like_o a_o fruitful_a vine_n and_o his_o child_n like_o olive_n branch_n round_o about_o his_o table_n lothus_n say_v he_o shall_v the_o man_n be_v bless_v that_o fear_v the_o lord_n v._o 3_o 4._o child_n you_o see_v then_o be_v a_o blessing_n nay_o many_o child_n be_v a_o blessing_n yea_o they_o be_v as_o so_o many_o several_a blessing_n now_o to_o apply_v this_o what_o a_o preposterous_a thing_n be_v this_o for_o thou_o to_o say_v many_o 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say_v that_o thou_o whosoever_o thou_o be_v and_o myself_o too_o shall_v not_o be_v ashamed_a to_o take_v shame_n for_o this_o exceed_o vile_a sin_n be_v then_o in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n convince_v that_o the_o propagate_a of_o the_o church_n in_o the_o procreation_n of_o child_n be_v a_o essential_a and_o principal_a end_n why_o god_n do_v ordain_v marriage_n and_o that_o which_o be_v the_o lord_n end_n must_v be_v thy_o aim_n and_o this_o shall_v suffice_v for_o this_o particular_a marriage_n the_o second_o end_n of_o marriage_n the_o second_o end_n we_o be_v to_o aim_v at_o in_o desisire_v marriage_n be_v the_o subdue_a our_o corruption_n and_o base_a lust_n especial_o when_o we_o find_v they_o to_o be_v predominant_a there_o be_v no_o man_n in_o this_o life_n but_o his_o regeneration_n be_v only_o in_o part_n sanctification_n here_o be_v at_o best_a but_o inchoate_n in_o heaven_n it_o shall_v be_v consummate_v and_o therefore_o be_v obnoxious_a to_o temptation_n as_o in_o all_o 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loss_n and_o lay_v it_o sad_o to_o heart_n yet_o betake_v himself_o to_o a_o wife_n who_o be_v indeed_o a_o very_a gracious_a woman_n it_o be_v say_v he_o be_v comfort_v after_o his_o mother_n death_n gen._n 24.67_o last_o she_o will_v put_v forth_o herself_o to_o she_o utter_v most_o power_n with_o much_o pain_n of_o body_n and_o with_o much_o and_o enlarge_v dear_a and_o tender_a affection_n of_o heart_n to_o help_v thou_o in_o time_n of_o loss_n oâ—_n health_n and_o when_o thou_o lie_v conflict_v with_o grievous_a pain_n and_o burdensome_a and_o perhaps_o loathsome_a disease_n i_o have_v read_v in_o reverend_a mr_n bolton_n his_o general_a direction_n forâ—_n comfortable_a walk_v with_o god_n a_o treatise_n worth_a the_o weight_n of_o it_o in_o gold_n in_o page_n 252_o a_o narrative_a which_o be_v borrow_v from_o vives_z of_o a_o precedent_n in_o this_o kind_n to_o which_o i_o desire_v to_o refer_v thou_o which_o be_v so_o singular_a that_o the_o whole_a world_n i_o be_o confident_a 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time_n makâ—_n thou_o speak_v with_o much_o reverence_n of_o this_o bless_a ordinance_n of_o god_n i_o shall_v here_o have_v â—easonable_a occasion_n note_v by_o the_o way_n that_o â—rom_o this_o last_o particular_a viz._n that_o comfortable_a society_n be_v one_o end_v that_o person_n may_v aim_v at_o in_o marriage_n do_v appear_v ground_n sufficient_a to_o â—ustifie_v the_o marriage_n of_o ancient_a person_n and_o â—uch_o as_o have_v over-lived_n the_o year_n for_o generaâ—ion_n though_o they_o can_v in_o some_o way_n be_v mean_n of_o increase_a the_o church_n yet_o they_o may_v use_v â—ny_a mean_n to_o live_v comfortable_o in_o the_o church_n if_o you_o shall_v demand_v the_o question_n of_o ancient_a marry_a person_n whether_o they_o find_v the_o marriage_n estate_n comfortable_a to_o they_o in_o their_o old_a age_n or_o not_o they_o will_v ready_o return_v you_o a_o affirmative_a answer_n that_o if_o god_n shall_v â—ake_v away_o either_o of_o they_o that_o the_o survivor_n can_v 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this_o that_o be_v if_o thou_o do_v neglect_v the_o performance_n of_o this_o duty_n of_o seek_v god_n by_o prayer_n for_o a_o good_a wife_n that_o except_o thou_o be_v afterward_o deep_o humble_v for_o this_o sin_n the_o marriage_n condition_n shall_v not_o be_v sanctify_v to_o thou_o and_o if_o not_o thou_o be_v better_v a_o thousand_o time_n not_o live_v in_o that_o estate_n of_o life_n for_o thou_o can_v not_o expect_v so_o much_o as_o one_o honey_n month_n as_o we_o say_v but_o many_o month_n and_o year_n of_o gall_n and_o wormwood_n we_o sometime_o advise_v our_o friend_n that_o they_o take_v heed_n they_o do_v not_o marry_v in_o haste_n lest_o they_o repent_v at_o leisure_n true_o they_o make_v too_o much_o haste_n to_o marry_v that_o forget_v much_o more_o slight_a seek_v god_n for_o direction_n and_o a_o blessing_n this_o way_n therefore_o they_o shall_v have_v cause_n enough_o to_o repent_v but_o god_n grant_v they_o may_v repent_v aright_o that_o the_o curse_n may_v be_v 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kind_n not_o for_o measure_n for_o the_o measure_n of_o the_o love_n of_o christ_n to_o his_o church_n no_o dimension_n can_v demonstrate_v for_o to_o know_v the_o love_n of_o christ_n the_o apostle_n say_v it_o pass_v knowledge_n eph._n 2.19_o and_o in_o col._n 3.19_o the_o apostle_n bid_v husband_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n and_o not_o be_v bitter_a unto_o they_o the_o woman_n be_v make_v of_o a_o rib_n take_v out_o of_o the_o side_n of_o man_n and_o therefore_o adam_n say_v she_o be_v bone_n of_o his_o bone_n and_o flesh_n of_o his_o flesh_n gen._n 2.23_o nay_o by_o god_n ordinance_n they_o be_v no_o more_o twain_o but_o one_o flesh_n and_o from_o hence_o paul_n take_v a_o argument_n to_o persuade_v the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n because_o no_o man_n yet_o do_v ever_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n eph._n 5.28_o 29._o you_o may_v remember_v that_o upon_o another_o occasion_n we_o do_v observe_v that_o jacob_n esteem_v rachel_n his_o wife_n as_o his_o right_a hand_n he_o 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the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n in_o the_o four_o place_n the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o the_o wife_n be_v to_o labour_v to_o reclaim_v she_o from_o any_o sin_n and_o sinful_a course_n she_o do_v live_v in_o for_o sin_n be_v of_o a_o deceitful_a nature_n and_o will_v deceive_v the_o soul_n of_o the_o choice_a christian_n in_o the_o world_n if_o not_o root_v out_o betimes_o before_o the_o heart_n be_v harden_v therein_o and_o therefore_o the_o holy_a ghost_n bid_v we_o exhort_v one_o another_o to_o day_n to_o prevent_v the_o same_o heb._n 3.13_o therefore_o if_o a_o man_n see_v his_o wife_n nourish_v any_o sin_n in_o her_o heart_n or_o life_n he_o have_v need_n to_o bestir_v himself_o to_o make_v opposition_n against_o it_o note_n it_o note_n for_o mind_n it_o well_o if_o sin_n be_v not_o mortify_v early_o we_o may_v fear_v that_o in_o time_n it_o will_v mortify_v grace_n they_o can_v be_v both_o fruitful_a in_o one_o poor_a heart_n and_o if_o grace_n die_v a_o exceed_a sad_a funeral_n will_v follow_v but_o if_o it_o be_v demand_v what_o be_v the_o mean_v the_o husband_n must_v use_v to_o reclaim_v his_o wife_n from_o any_o sin_n i_o answer_v first_o earnest_a prayer_n and_o supplication_n to_o god_n in_o her_o behalf_n this_o way_n when_o the_o church_n have_v go_v astray_o from_o god_n and_o have_v run_v themselves_o into_o many_o misery_n the_o prophet_n jeremy_n seek_v unto_o god_n in_o their_o behalf_n thus_o turn_v thou_o unto_o we_o o_o lord_n and_o we_o shall_v be_v turn_v renew_v our_o day_n as_o of_o old_a lam._n 5.21_o 25.21_o gen._n 25.21_o as_o god_n hear_v isaac_n pray_v for_o his_o wife_n for_o a_o fruitful_a womb_n that_o she_o may_v conceive_v and_o bear_v so_o how_o know_v thou_o but_o that_o thou_o may_v by_o prayer_n prevail_v with_o god_n in_o thy_o wife_n behalf_n that_o she_o may_v conceive_v the_o seed_n of_o save_a grace_n in_o her_o heart_n and_o bring_v forth_o the_o fruit_n of_o it_o in_o her_o life_n even_o the_o mortification_n of_o that_o sin_n or_o sin_n that_o be_v most_o predominant_a in_o she_o and_o with_o much_o comfort_n may_v thou_o expect_v such_o a_o blessing_n on_o thy_o prayer_n if_o they_o be_v fervent_a jam._n 5.16_o god_n have_v the_o heart_n of_o all_o man_n and_o woman_n in_o his_o hand_n and_o can_v turn_v they_o at_o his_o own_o pleasure_n he_o can_v make_v a_o proud_a heart_n humble_a a_o hard_a heart_n soft_a a_o earthly_a heart_n heavenly_a a_o crooked_a heart_n straight_o he_o can_v help_v the_o perverseness_n of_o the_o will_n and_o the_o disorder_n of_o the_o affection_n god_n have_v a_o plaster_n for_o every_o sore_a and_o a_o proper_a remedy_n for_o every_o disease_n god_n can_v help_v the_o blindness_n of_o the_o mind_n the_o error_n of_o the_o judgement_n the_o irregularity_n of_o the_o whole_a man_n then_o i_o say_v go_v unto_o god_n in_o the_o first_o place_n and_o importune_v he_o for_o mercy_n for_o and_o for_o cure_v of_o thy_o wife_n soule-sicknesse_n and_o distemper_n in_o the_o second_o place_n thou_o must_v kind_o and_o with_o all_o possible_a sweetness_n admonish_v she_o of_o the_o danger_n of_o sin_n and_o of_o the_o fearful_a fruit_n and_o sad_a effect_n of_o it_o as_o that_o thereby_o she_o dishonour_v a_o good_a god_n she_o wound_v she_o own_o conscience_n she_o bring_v discredit_v to_o the_o gospel_n she_o provoke_v the_o lord_n indignation_n and_o wrath_n against_o she_o to_o her_o confusion_n if_o she_o persevere_v in_o sin_n labour_v to_o persuade_v she_o that_o sin_n have_v a_o long_a tail_n of_o judgement_n at_o the_o heel_n of_o it_o externall_n internal_a and_o eternal_a inchoated_a on_o earth_n consummate_v in_o hell_n
but_o if_o by_o these_o love_a admonition_n thou_o can_v not_o prevail_v thou_o must_v then_o proceed_v to_o sharp_a â—_o proof_n and_o rebuke_n thou_o shall_v not_o hate_v say_v god_n thy_o brother_n in_o thy_o heart_n thou_o shall_v in_o any_o wise_a rebuke_n thy_o neighbour_n and_o not_o suffer_v sin_n upon_o he_o leu._n 19.17_o now_o if_o a_o man_n shall_v be_v tender_a of_o the_o salvation_n of_o a_o brother_n and_o of_o a_o neighbour_n then_o much_o more_o of_o the_o salvation_n of_o a_o wife_n who_o have_v a_o kind_n of_o oneness_n with_o thyself_o rachel_n be_v jacob_n best_o belove_a wife_n yet_o when_o in_o a_o discontent_a humour_n she_o come_v to_o he_o and_o say_v give_v i_o child_n or_o else_o i_o die_v thereby_o derogate_a from_o god_n and_o arrogate_a to_o her_o husband_n which_o sin_n of_o she_o we_o read_v not_o that_o ever_o before_o she_o do_v commit_v yet_o the_o text_n note_n that_o when_o jacob_n hear_v iâ—_n his_o anger_n be_v kindle_v and_o he_o say_v unto_o 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consider_v of_o before_o marriage_n namely_o the_o duty_n that_o both_o husband_n and_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o their_o family_n in_o relation_n to_o both_o child_n and_o servant_n which_o because_o most_o of_o these_o duty_n concern_v both_o husband_n and_o wife_n we_o shall_v endeavour_v to_o handle_v they_o together_o for_o brevity_n sake_n yet_o make_v some_o distinction_n that_o they_o may_v both_o take_v notice_n of_o their_o duty_n where_o distinction_n be_v to_o be_v make_v the_o first_o duty_n that_o both_o husband_n and_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o their_o family_n family_n the_o first_o duty_n of_o governor_n to_o thâ—ir_a family_n be_v to_o catechise_v and_o instruct_v their_o child_n and_o servant_n in_o the_o knowledge_n of_o god_n and_o fear_v of_o his_o name_n this_o duty_n do_v chief_o belong_v to_o the_o husband_n yet_o in_o his_o absence_n it_o do_v proper_o concern_v his_o wife_n likewise_o now_o the_o great_a god_n do_v not_o only_o enjoin_v this_o duty_n upon_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n but_o do_v much_o inculcate_v the_o same_o deut._n 4_o 6._o take_v heed_n to_o thyself_o diligent_o lest_o thou_o forget_v the_o thing_n which_o thy_o eye_n have_v see_v and_o lest_o they_o depart_v from_o thy_o heart_n all_o the_o day_n of_o thy_o life_n but_o thou_o shall_v teach_v they_o thy_o son_n and_o thy_o son_n son_n then_o again_o deut._n 6._o 6.7_o these_o word_n which_o i_o command_v thou_o this_o day_n shall_v be_v in_o thy_o heart_n and_o thou_o shall_v teach_v they_o diligent_o unto_o thy_o child_n etc._n etc._n yet_o further_o deut._n 11.19_o you_o shall_v lay_v up_o these_o my_o word_n in_o your_o heart_n and_o in_o your_o soul_n and_o bound_v they_o for_o a_o sign_n upon_o your_o hand_n that_o they_o may_v be_v as_o frontlet_n between_o your_o eye_n and_o you_o shall_v teach_v they_o your_o child_n etc._n etc._n the_o apostle_n require_v the_o same_o duty_n of_o parent_n eph._n 6.4_o you_o parent_n provoke_v not_o your_o child_n to_o wrath_n but_o bring_v they_o up_o in_o instruction_n and_o information_n of_o the_o lord_n solomon_n exhort_v we_o to_o the_o same_o duty_n prov._n 22_o 6._o train_n up_o a_o child_n in_o the_o way_n he_o shall_v go_v and_o when_o he_o be_v old_a he_o will_v not_o depart_v from_o it_o now_o in_o scripture_n you_o shall_v find_v this_o duty_n of_o teach_v and_o instruct_v child_n and_o servant_n be_v frequent_o perform_v by_o the_o godly_a first_o see_v it_o in_o the_o practice_n of_o abraham_n gen._n 18.19_o further_o view_v it_o in_o the_o resolution_n of_o joshuah_n josh_n 24_o 15_o also_o in_o the_o care_n of_o david_n both_o in_o 1_o chron._n 28.9_o and_o in_o psal_n 34.11_o and_o can_v we_o conceive_v that_o corâ—elâ—us_n do_v neglect_v this_o duty_n who_o fear_v god_n with_o all_o his_o household_n act_v 10.2_o or_o that_o any_o of_o those_o holy_a man_n do_v omit_v this_o duty_n who_o house_n be_v church_n rom._n 16._o â—_o col._n 4.15_o phil._n 2._o if_o we_o shall_v so_o think_v we_o give_v ground_n enough_o for_o other_o to_o conclude_v we_o be_v very_o uncharitable_a beside_o if_o the_o judgement_n of_o ancient_n and_o modern_a divine_n in_o relation_n to_o this_o truth_n be_v of_o force_n with_o you_o to_o confirm_v you_o herein_o you_o must_v then_o be_v satisfy_v that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o parent_n and_o governor_n of_o family_n to_o take_v much_o pain_n to_o teach_v and_o instruct_v their_o child_n and_o servant_n to_o fear_n and_o serve_v the_o lord_n or_o else_o what_o mean_v all_o their_o orthodox_n form_n of_o catechism_n to_o yield_v help_n to_o conscientious_a christian_n in_o the_o discharge_n of_o this_o duty_n of_o which_o there_o be_v many_o extant_a bless_v be_v the_o lord_n &_o have_v be_v in_o age_n past_a doubtless_o you_o must_v be_v convince_v that_o it_o be_v your_o duty_n only_o if_o you_o know_v these_o thing_n bless_v be_v you_o if_o you_o do_v they_o â—s_n the_o second_o duâ—â—_n of_o governor_n of_o 〈◊〉_d â—s_n joh._n 13.17_o the_o second_o duty_n that_o both_o man_n and_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o their_o child_n and_o servant_n be_v to_o pray_v with_o they_o and_o for_o they_o you_o have_v see_v but_o now_o that_o parent_n must_v take_v pain_n to_o teach_v and_o instruct_v their_o child_n and_o servant_n in_o the_o knowledge_n of_o god_n but_o what_o success_n can_v there_o be_v expect_v as_o the_o bless_a fruit_n of_o such_o a_o duty_n without_o prayer_n with_o and_o for_o they_o paul_n may_v plant_v and_o apollo_n may_v water_v but_o god_n give_v the_o increase_n 1_o cor._n 3.6_o but_o this_o increase_n must_v be_v humble_o seek_v of_o god_n by_o prayer_n there_o be_v a_o spirit_n of_o indotionablenesse_n in_o all_o by_o nature_n but_o it_o do_v abound_v many_o time_n in_o some_o child_n and_o servant_n i_o will_v instruct_v and_o teach_v thou_o say_v david_n in_o the_o way_n thou_o shall_v go_v i_o will_v guide_v thou_o with_o my_o eye_n psal_n 32.8_o then_o instant_o add_v in_o the_o very_a next_o verse_n be_v you_o not_o as_o the_o horse_n or_o mule_n which_o have_v no_o understanding_n etc._n etc._n there_o be_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o ignorance_n and_o blockish_a stupidity_n in_o all_o sort_n of_o person_n and_o therefore_o in_o child_n and_o servant_n which_o none_o but_o god_n can_v take_v away_o it_o be_v god_n that_o open_v the_o heart_n of_o lydia_n that_o she_o attend_v to_o the_o thing_n that_o be_v speak_v of_o paul_n act_v 16.14_o therefore_o there_o be_v great_a need_n to_o pray_v unto_o god_n to_o take_v away_o all_o obstacle_n that_o may_v obstruct_v the_o edification_n of_o thy_o family_n in_o save_v knowledge_n and_o grace_n or_o else_o thou_o may_v have_v small_a hope_n of_o do_v they_o any_o good_a by_o all_o thy_o other_o pain_n in_o the_o discharge_n thy_o duty_n mind_v the_o imprecation_n of_o jeremy_n pour_v out_o thy_o wrath_n say_v he_o upon_o the_o heathen_a and_o upon_o the_o family_n that_o call_v not_o on_o thy_o name_n jer._n 10.25_o 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their_o exorbitant_a lust_n to_o make_v they_o more_o sit_v to_o glorify_v god_n and_o perform_v service_n unto_o man_n these_o and_o such_o like_a aught_o to_o be_v pure_o your_o aim_n and_o last_o you_o must_v administer_v this_o ordinance_n in_o a_o a_o right_a manner_n that_o be_v with_o lift_v up_o your_o heart_n to_o god_n desire_v he_o with_o the_o correction_n to_o vouchsafe_v to_o they_o instruction_n to_o sanctify_v it_o to_o they_o so_o that_o it_o may_v prove_v effectual_a for_o their_o reformation_n to_o make_v they_o obedient_a to_o god_n in_o word_n and_o deed_n and_o faithtull_n in_o the_o discharge_n of_o all_o the_o duty_n they_o owe_v unto_o you_o now_o when_o your_o carriage_n be_v true_o thus_o in_o your_o correct_a child_n or_o servant_n you_o may_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n expect_v some_o gracious_a effect_n of_o it_o except_o the_o lord_n have_v a_o controversy_n with_o and_o against_o they_o to_o harden_v their_o heart_n by_o this_o and_o other_o mean_n 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as_o for_o thy_o poor_a child_n thy_o own_o loin_n have_v be_v the_o conduit-pipe_n to_o convey_v into_o their_o heart_n and_o soul_n from_o adam_n the_o fountain_n all_o that_o corruption_n of_o nature_n which_o be_v in_o they_o and_o all_o that_o propensity_n to_o sin_n which_o be_v in_o their_o will_n true_o it_o be_v not_o only_o against_o a_o gracious_a principle_n but_o against_o a_o humane_a and_o moral_a one_o too_o that_o thou_o shall_v thrust_v thy_o poor_a child_n into_o a_o dangerous_a quagmire_n and_o then_o deny_v he_o thy_o hand_n to_o help_v pluck_v he_o back_o again_o and_o that_o thou_o shall_v give_v he_o many_o a_o deadly_a and_o mortal_a wound_n and_o refuse_v to_o apply_v a_o plaster_n for_o his_o cure_n these_o similitude_n be_v infinite_o too_o short_a to_o set_v forth_o this_o case_n full_o now_o when_o thou_o do_v neglect_v these_o mean_n beforesaid_a thou_o do_v show_v thyself_o to_o be_v a_o cruel_a and_o bloody_a man_n a_o most_o savage_a beast_n there_o 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god_n call_v thou_o to_o be_v the_o governor_n of_o a_o family_n he_o have_v make_v thou_o a_o watchman_n over_o their_o soul_n and_o consider_v thou_o that_o place_n for_o the_o purpose_n in_o hand_n in_o ezek._n 33.8_o eli_n the_o priest_n be_v by_o reason_n of_o his_o indulgence_n to_o his_o child_n a_o very_a defective_a man_n this_o way_n yet_o many_o thousand_o million_o of_o man_n be_v more_o he_o seek_v to_o reclaim_v his_o son_n from_o their_o wickedness_n only_o by_o admonish_v they_o of_o it_o and_o of_o the_o judgement_n of_o god_n for_o the_o same_o which_o be_v more_o perhaps_o than_o thou_o do_v ever_o do_v but_o there_o unreasonable_o come_v to_o a_o period_n god_n punish_v this_o sin_n of_o he_o first_o upon_o those_o his_o wicked_a and_o degenerate_a son_n then_o on_o his_o own_o person_n and_o last_o on_o his_o whole_a house_n his_o son_n be_v slay_v both_o in_o one_o day_n himself_o break_v his_o neck_n and_o his_o house_n lose_v the_o priest_n office_n 1_o sam._n 2.22_o 23_o 24_o 34_o 35_o 36._o chap._n 4.11_o 18._o read_v the_o story_n and_o lay_v it_o sad_o to_o thy_o heart_n but_o the_o learned_a do_v conceive_v that_o the_o personal_a punishment_n of_o eli_n be_v but_o temporal_a because_o he_o be_v gracious_a though_o in_o the_o case_n beforementioned_a a_o grievous_a offender_n i_o say_v read_z and_z and_o consider_v and_o as_o thou_o like_v the_o punishment_n so_o practise_v the_o sin_n it_o be_v true_a god_n be_v patient_a but_o this_o his_o patience_n if_o further_o abuse_v by_o thou_o will_v not_o prove_v thy_o privilege_n but_o thy_o infinite_a disadvantage_n for_o thou_o shall_v when_o it_o be_v too_o late_a find_v thou_o be_v rather_o reserve_v for_o hell_n than_o
of_o to_o be_v the_o first_o commandment_n with_o promise_n mal._n 6.6_o a_o son_n honour_v his_o father_n if_o i_o be_v a_o father_n where_o be_v my_o honour_n but_o how_o shall_v this_o honour_n and_o reverence_n be_v express_v may_v some_o say_v i_o answer_v first_o in_o word_n second_o in_o action_n and_o gesture_n first_o in_o word_n child_n must_v reverence_v their_o parent_n by_o use_v few_o word_n in_o their_o parent_n presence_n or_o hear_n silence_n for_o the_o general_a well_o become_v the_o young_a sort_n before_o the_o elder_a but_o more_o proper_o child_n before_o their_o parent_n and_o when_o they_o speak_v to_o they_o they_o must_v make_v use_n of_o the_o choice_a expression_n that_o may_v be_v to_o hold_v forth_o their_o dutiful_a respect_n by_o and_o for_o their_o action_n too_o they_o must_v be_v full_a of_o humility_n as_o rise_v up_o before_o they_o and_o stand_v in_o their_o presence_n if_o they_o expect_v it_o be_v uncover_v so_o long_o as_o they_o think_v fit_a and_o make_v obeisance_n on_o all_o occasion_n by_o show_v all_o filial_a and_o childlike_a disposition_n to_o they_o by_o harken_v to_o all_o their_o grave_a counsel_n and_o admonition_n with_o diligent_a attention_n prov._n 1.8_o chap._n 5.1_o as_o also_o by_o submit_v and_o subject_v themselves_o to_o all_o their_o godly_a reprehension_n and_o by_o tread_v in_o their_o religious_a step_n and_o imitate_v their_o unblameable_a example_n and_o by_o cover_v all_o their_o imperfection_n and_o weakness_n as_o shem_n and_o japhet_n do_v when_o their_o father_n lie_v drink_v and_o naked_a in_o his_o tent._n solomon_n be_v a_o singular_a example_n of_o honour_v his_o mother_n in_o another_o kind_n 1_o king_n 2.19_o parent_n the_o second_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n in_o the_o second_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o obey_v their_o parent_n in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o that_o with_o all_o readiness_n child_n obey_v your_o parent_n in_o the_o lord_n eph._n 6.1_o child_n obey_v your_o parent_n in_o all_o thing_n for_o this_o be_v well_o please_v unto_o the_o lord_n col_n 3.20_o now_o this_o must_v be_v a_o cheerful_a obedience_n without_o contend_v isaac_n will_v submit_v to_o his_o father_n though_o it_o be_v in_o matter_n of_o death_n gen._n 22_o 9_o 10._o and_o so_o will_v the_o daughter_n of_o jephtha_n judg._n 11_o 39_o the_o rechabus_n obey_v jonadab_n their_o father_n in_o thing_n that_o require_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o selfe-deniall_n jer._n 35.5_o 6_o 7._o which_o the_o lord_n reward_v they_o for_o in_o ver_fw-la 18_o 19_o a_o bishop_n must_v rule_v his_o own_o house_n well_o and_o have_v his_o child_n in_o subjection_n 1_o tim._n 3.4_o now_o subjection_n of_o all_o child_n to_o parent_n be_v as_o much_o a_o duty_n as_o it_o be_v in_o the_o child_n of_o the_o minister_n of_o the_o gospel_n and_o of_o this_o obedience_n unto_o parent_n we_o have_v a_o example_n beyond_o all_o precedent_n in_o our_o lord_n and_o saviour_n jesus_n christ_n of_o who_o it_o be_v say_v he_o go_v down_o with_o his_o parent_n to_o nazareth_n and_o be_v subject_a to_o they_o luk._n 2.51_o child_n must_v not_o make_v their_o own_o will_n a_o rule_n of_o their_o action_n but_o the_o commandment_n of_o god_n and_o the_o precept_n of_o their_o parent_n that_o be_v not_o contrary_a to_o the_o reveal_v will_n of_o god_n they_o must_v also_o quiet_o submit_v to_o such_o correction_n as_o they_o shall_v think_v fit_a to_o inflict_v on_o they_o for_o their_o fault_n in_o the_o three_o and_o last_o place_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n to_o labour_n to_o provide_v safety_n for_o they_o in_o the_o time_n of_o danger_n parent_n the_o three_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o their_o parent_n and_o competent_a maintenance_n in_o their_o necessitous_a condition_n to_o their_o utmost_a ability_n for_o the_o first_o take_v a_o precedent_n from_o rahab_n the_o harlot_n which_o be_v lay_v down_o at_o large_a in_o josh_n 2.12_o 13._o where_o she_o do_v indent_v with_o the_o spy_n send_v to_o view_v the_o land_n to_o save_v her_o father_n house_n and_o to_o preserve_v her_o father_n and_o her_o mother_n etc._n etc._n and_o for_o the_o duty_n of_o child_n to_o relieve_v their_o parent_n in_o their_o want_n consider_v what_o the_o apostle_n say_v in_o 1_o tim._n 5.4_o that_o to_o requite_v our_o parent_n be_v good_a and_o acceptable_a before_o god_n when_o parent_n have_v be_v at_o great_a pain_n and_o charge_n to_o bring_v up_o their_o child_n and_o then_o come_v to_o poverty_n which_o perhaps_o may_v be_v occasion_v by_o such_o charge_n it_o be_v not_o only_o against_o grace_n but_o against_o good_a nature_n too_o to_o cast_v they_o off_o without_o due_a care_n to_o relieve_v they_o it_o be_v the_o pestilent_a doctrine_n of_o the_o pharisee_n to_o maintain_v that_o child_n be_v discharge_v from_o their_o duty_n herein_o provide_v they_o do_v offer_v a_o gift_n at_o the_o altar_n which_o be_v indeed_o but_o to_o fill_v their_o pouch_n mar._n 7.11_o 12_o 13._o which_o practice_n of_o they_o as_o well_o as_o their_o doctrine_n our_o saviour_n there_o condemn_v we_o may_v learn_v a_o better_a example_n from_o the_o practice_n of_o joseph_n when_o he_o be_v in_o prosperity_n and_o his_o father_n house_n in_o want_n gen._n 47.11_o 12._o for_o he_o nourish_v his_o father_n and_o his_o whole_a family_n in_o ramase_n which_o be_v the_o most_o fertile_a place_n of_o all_o egypt_n when_o naomi_n return_v very_o poor_a out_o of_o the_o land_n of_o moab_n into_o the_o land_n of_o israel_n ruth_n 1.21_o than_o her_o daughter_n in_o law_n wrought_v hard_o and_o take_v great_a pain_n to_o gain_v provision_n for_o her_o maintenance_n god_n condemn_v the_o formal_a fast_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n as_o for_o other_o thing_n so_o for_o this_o that_o they_o do_v hide_v themselves_o from_o their_o own_o flesh_n isa_n 58.6_o 7._o now_o parent_n may_v be_v more_o true_o say_v to_o be_v our_o own_o flesh_n than_o other_o in_o common_a can_v be_v say_v to_o be_v our_o saviour_n in_o that_o place_n of_o mark_n make_v it_o one_o kind_n of_o honour_v parent_n to_o relieve_v they_o in_o their_o want_n and_o to_o honour_v our_o parent_n you_o have_v it_o prove_v before_o to_o be_v a_o duty_n from_o child_n there_o be_v other_o duty_n which_o child_n owe_v unto_o their_o parent_n but_o they_o may_v be_v include_v in_o these_o if_o these_o be_v conscientious_o perform_v they_o will_v be_v all_o discharge_v the_o duty_n then_o which_o child_n owe_v unto_o their_o parent_n which_o be_v obvious_a to_o your_o eye_n be_v first_o to_o reverence_v they_o second_o to_o obey_v they_o three_o to_o labour_v to_o preserve_v they_o from_o danger_n and_o to_o maintain_v they_o in_o their_o want_n in_o the_o last_o place_n we_o be_v to_o proceed_v to_o discuss_v the_o duty_n which_o servant_n owe_v unto_o their_o master_n etc._n etc._n and_o then_o we_o shall_v draw_v to_o a_o conclusion_n of_o this_o poor_a 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