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when_o thou_o shall_v come_v first_o to_o speech_n with_o she_o thou_o have_v first_o gain_v the_o consent_n of_o parent_n on_o both_o side_n then_o let_v she_o understand_v with_o as_o much_o brevity_n as_o thou_o can_v in_o regard_n of_o her_o bashfulness_n and_o modesty_n the_o truth_n of_o thy_o love_n and_o hearty_a affection_n to_o she_o desire_v she_o to_o take_v it_o into_o her_o consideration_n and_o to_o consult_v with_o god_n and_o her_o parent_n about_o it_o and_o then_o to_o do_v as_o god_n shall_v persuade_v her_o heart_n and_o parent_n advise_v she_o thou_o may_v also_o then_o or_o at_o the_o next_o meeting_n declare_v unto_o she_o the_o disposition_n of_o thy_o nature_n also_o what_o estate_n thou_o have_v to_o live_v on_o and_o what_o call_v thou_o be_v of_o if_o she_o be_v a_o stranger_n thereto_o but_o be_v sure_a thou_o tell_v she_o the_o truth_n and_o nothing_o but_o the_o truth_n deal_v faithful_o with_o she_o in_o these_o and_o in_o whatsoever_o else_o be_v 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be_v the_o same_o that_o the_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o her_o husband_n and_o some_o that_o the_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o her_o husband_n be_v the_o same_o that_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n yet_o with_o some_o apparent_a difference_n but_o now_o there_o remain_v some_o duty_n to_o be_v consider_v of_o that_o be_v equal_o due_a to_o each_o other_o though_o not_o before_o propose_v and_o must_v be_v so_o handle_v wife_n the_o first_o joint_a duty_n between_o a_o man_n and_o wife_n the_o first_o joint_a duty_n between_o man_n and_o wife_n equal_o oblige_v both_o be_v that_o they_o labour_v to_o maintain_v a_o good_a opinion_n one_o of_o another_o touch_v their_o faithfulness_n in_o keep_v the_o marriage_n covenant_n and_o that_o neither_o of_o they_o have_v violate_v the_o same_o by_o lodging_n their_o heart_n in_o the_o bosom_n of_o stranger_n or_o defile_v their_o body_n with_o they_o for_o if_o for_o want_v of_o care_n herein_o there_o appear_v ground_n of_o just_a 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