of_o livelihood_n &_o sometime_o to_o enjoy_v society_n of_o choice_n friend_n there_o be_v none_o of_o these_o but_o may_v give_v a_o man_n a_o clear_a call_v sometime_o to_o remove_v his_o habitation_n &_o he_o must_v if_o he_o be_v a_o christian_a obey_v god_n herein_o now_o take_v this_o for_o a_o most_o undeniable_a truth_n that_o whatever_o passage_n of_o divine_a providence_n will_v warrant_v the_o lawfulness_n of_o the_o husband_n change_n of_o place_n of_o dwell_v will_v also_o warrant_v the_o wife_n call_v to_o travel_v with_o her_o husband_n and_o to_o live_v with_o he_o wheresoever_o he_o pitch_v his_o tent._n mark_v the_o apostle_n phrase_n 1_o cor._n 9.5_o have_v we_o not_o power_n to_o lead_v about_o a_o sister_n a_o wife_n as_o well_o as_o other_o apostle_n and_o as_o the_o brethren_n of_o the_o lord_n and_o as_o cephas_n where_o you_o may_v note_v that_o the_o apostle_n the_o brethren_n of_o the_o lord_n and_o cephas_n do_v lead_v about_o their_o wife_n which_o they_o can_v not_o have_v do_v against_o their_o will_n and_o paul_n do_v challenge_v the_o same_o privilege_n as_o due_a to_o he_o as_o well_o as_o to_o the_o other_o but_o to_o add_v a_o clear_a demonstration_n to_o this_o truth_n yet_o further_o by_o join_v precedent_n to_o privilege_n consider_v the_o practice_n of_o sarah_n when_o god_n call_v abraham_n to_o leave_v his_o country_n and_o go_v into_o that_o which_o he_o will_v show_v he_o she_o go_v with_o he_o gen._n 12.5_o when_o god_n call_v he_o the_o second_o time_n to_o remove_v that_o be_v to_o go_v into_o egypt_n because_o of_o the_o famine_n in_o the_o land_n where_o he_o do_v live_v you_o shall_v find_v his_o wife_n do_v go_v with_o he_o ver_fw-la 10_o 11._o who_o do_v also_o return_v with_o he_o chap._n 13.1_o again_o when_o god_n call_v isaac_n to_o go_v to_o gerar_n to_o sojourn_v there_o for_o a_o time_n and_o that_o by_o reason_n of_o famine_n too_o rebekah_n his_o wife_n go_v with_o he_o gen._n 26.1_o 7._o but_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n mind_n the_o practice_n of_o leah_n and_o rachel_n they_o be_v willing_a to_o leave_v their_o father_n house_n and_o kindred_n not_o be_v enforce_v by_o famine_n to_o enjoy_v society_n with_o jacob_n their_o husband_n gen._n 31.4_o to_o the_o end_n of_o ver_fw-la 18._o as_o ruth_n say_v to_o naomi_n her_o mother_n in_o law_n where_o thou_o go_v i_o will_v go_v and_o where_o thou_o lodge_v i_o will_v lodge_v and_o where_o thou_o die_v i_o will_v die_v and_o there_o will_v i_o be_v bury_v the_o lord_n do_v so_o to_o i_o and_o more_o also_o if_o aught_o but_o death_n part_v thou_o and_o i_o ruth_n 1.16_o 17._o so_o must_v every_o christian_a wife_n say_v to_o her_o husband_n where_o thou_o live_v i_o will_v live_v and_o where_o thou_o die_v i_o will_v die_v and_o there_o will_v i_o be_v bury_v for_o nought_o but_o death_n shall_v part_v thou_o and_o i_o by_o all_o which_o it_o do_v or_o may_v appear_v that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o her_o husband_n to_o cohabit_v with_o he_o in_o what_o place_n soever_o god_n shall_v call_v he_o and_o if_o she_o perform_v not_o this_o duty_n she_o disable_v herself_o to_o the_o observation_n of_o other_o but_o in_o case_n first_o that_o the_o husband_n will_v live_v in_o a_o popish_a country_n out_o of_o either_o a_o superstitious_a or_o fantastical_a end_n or_o humour_n the_o wife_n be_v not_o bind_v to_o follow_v he_o for_o she_o must_v look_v more_o after_o the_o true_a worship_n of_o god_n and_o the_o salvation_n of_o her_o own_o soul_n than_o after_o any_o outward_a comfortable_a condition_n in_o the_o world_n or_o second_o if_o the_o husband_n be_v a_o unbeliever_n and_o do_v not_o like_a to_o live_v with_o a_o believe_a wife_n than_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v at_o liberty_n if_o i_o mistake_v not_o the_o apostle_n to_o live_v from_o he_o 1_o cor._n 7.13_o 15._o but_o last_o in_o case_n the_o husband_n do_v violate_v the_o covenant_n of_o marriage_n by_o adultery_n fornication_n etc._n etc._n then_o if_o the_o wife_n please_v she_o may_v forsake_v he_o which_o by_o necessary_a consequence_n may_v appear_v from_o the_o word_n of_o christ_n mat._n 5.32_o chap._n 19_o 9_o for_o if_o the_o husband_n may_v put_v his_o wife_n away_o for_o such_o breach_n of_o marriage-contract_n why_o not_o the_o wife_n put_v away_o her_o husband_n on_o the_o like_a occasion_n but_o if_o upon_o ordinary_a occasion_n the_o wife_n shall_v refuse_v the_o performance_n of_o this_o duty_n to_o her_o husband_n she_o do_v make_v void_a and_o null_a one_o special_a end_n of_o marriage_n and_o so_o sin_n against_o god_n the_o ordainer_n of_o that_o happy_a estate_n also_o against_o her_o husband_n in_o deprive_v he_o of_o his_o due_a comfort_n and_o last_o against_o her_o soul_n and_o conscience_n as_o contract_a sin_n and_o guilt_n and_o against_o her_o body_n in_o a_o violent_a cut_v the_o thread_n of_o her_o chief_a external_a felicity_n so_o much_o for_o this_o particular_a duty_n from_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n in_o the_o three_o place_n husband_n the_o three_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o the_o husband_n the_o duty_n of_o the_o wife_n to_o her_o husband_n be_v to_o improve_v her_o spiritual_a ability_n to_o be_v helpful_a to_o he_o in_o the_o best_a thing_n for_o the_o good_a of_o his_o soul_n to_o stir_v he_o up_o to_o good_a duty_n when_o she_o take_v notice_n of_o any_o remissness_n and_o carnal_a security_n in_o he_o by_o sweet_a exhortation_n and_o holy_a conference_n she_o must_v labour_v to_o quicken_v he_o against_o a_o spiritual_a lethargy_n which_o if_o it_o seize_v on_o he_o will_v so_o becloud_v and_o benight_v his_o sense_n that_o he_o shall_v have_v neither_o head_n nor_o heart_n with_o any_o cheerfulness_n of_o spirit_n to_o walk_v with_o his_o god_n which_o if_o his_o wife_n discern_v he_o incline_v to_o but_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n captivate_v under_o she_o have_v need_n to_o bestir_v herself_o to_o salute_v he_o often_o with_o such_o text_n of_o scripture_n as_o these_o viz._n luk._n 9.62_o 1_o cor._n 9_o the_o late_a part_n of_o for_o 24._o phil._n 3.13_o 14._o rev._n 2.4_o and_o the_o begin_n of_o ver_fw-la 5._o rev._n 3.15_o 16._o luk._n 17.32_o ezek._n 18.24_o 26._o she_o must_v labour_v to_o stir_v he_o up_o to_o love_n and_o good_a work_n and_o therein_o follow_v the_o example_n of_o the_o shunamite_n 2_o king_n 4_o 9_o 10._o thou_o that_o be_v a_o wife_n read_v the_o place_n and_o follow_v the_o precept_n she_o must_v labour_v to_o strengthen_v her_o husband_n faith_n when_o he_o show_v most_o weakness_n after_o manoah_n have_v offer_v a_o sacrifice_n to_o god_n the_o angel_n of_o the_o lord_n do_v wonderful_o in_o the_o presence_n of_o he_o and_o his_o wife_n the_o good_a man_n faith_n begin_v to_o fail_v we_o shall_v die_v say_v he_o because_o we_o have_v see_v god_n want_n of_o faith_n be_v like_a to_o kill_v the_o poor_a man_n now_o his_o wife_n step_v in_o very_o opportune_o and_o labour_n to_o strengthen_v his_o faith_n if_o say_v she_o the_o lord_n will_v have_v kill_v we_o he_o will_v not_o have_v tell_v we_o these_o thing_n nor_o accept_v a_o sacrifice_n at_o our_o hand_n judg._n 13.20_o 22_o 23._o so_o she_o make_v good_a that_o place_n in_o eccl._n 4.9_o 10._o two_o be_v good_o than_o one_o for_o if_o one_o fall_v the_o other_o will_v lift_v up_o his_o fellow_n but_o woe_n be_v to_o he_o that_o be_v alone_o for_o he_o have_v not_o another_o to_o help_v he_o up_o true_o there_o be_v a_o marvellous_a sympathy_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n in_o all_o condition_n i_o mean_v when_o they_o live_v and_o love_v together_o as_o man_n and_o wife_n one_o will_n labour_n to_o support_v another_o and_o one_o thing_n let_v i_o put_v thou_o on_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n that_o be_v be_v sure_a as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o improve_v thy_o gift_n and_o part_n for_o the_o good_a of_o thy_o husband_n soul_n that_o thou_o do_v never_o neglect_v to_o pray_v for_o he_o as_o aaron_n do_v bear_v the_o name_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n before_o the_o lord_n on_o his_o two_o shoulder_n for_o a_o memorial_n exod._n 28.9_o 12._o so_o be_v thou_o sure_a to_o bear_v the_o remembrance_n of_o thy_o husband_n poor_a soul_n upon_o thy_o heart_n when_o thou_o be_v to_o appear_v before_o the_o lord_n in_o thy_o closet-worship_n that_o thou_o may_v prevail_v with_o god_n for_o a_o blessing_n for_o he_o that_o he_o may_v be_v heavenly_a and_o spiritual_a in_o all_o his_o deportment_n towards_o god_n and_o towards_o manâ—_n that_o in_o the_o strength_n of_o god_n grace_n he_o may_v be_v a_o selfe-denying_a and_o a_o selfe-mortifying_a christian_a that_o he_o may_v be_v furnish_v with_o
conversation_n she_o be_v frequent_a in_o secret_a prayer_n and_o let_v i_o tell_v you_o to_o your_o comfort_n she_o have_v lodge_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o god_n by_o the_o assistance_n of_o the_o holy_a spirit_n and_o in_o the_o mediation_n of_o her_o dear_a saviour_n many_o a_o ardent_a and_o most_o affectionate_a prayer_n for_o your_o poor_a soul_n while_o she_o be_v here_o in_o the_o flesh_n which_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o the_o lord_n will_v return_v answer_n of_o through_o his_o free_a grace_n upon_o your_o head_n and_o heart_n upon_o your_o body_n and_o upon_o your_o soul_n she_o be_v full_a of_o the_o overflowing_n of_o love_n to_o her_o most_o unworthy_a yet_o much_o endear_v consort_n she_o be_v of_o a_o very_a peaceable_a and_o amiable_a life_n towards_o all_o person_n she_o do_v live_v much_o in_o a_o little_a time_n and_o as_o she_o be_v of_o a_o exact_a life_n in_o comparison_n of_o most_o so_o through_o the_o infinite_a grace_n of_o god_n she_o end_v her_o day_n in_o the_o peace_n of_o a_o good_a conscience_n and_o do_v enjoy_v peace_n with_o god_n which_o pass_v understanding_n phil._n 4.7_o psalm_n 37.37_o god_n give_v she_o the_o white_a stone_n and_o therein_o the_o new_a name_n write_v which_o none_o know_v but_o herself_o who_o receive_v it_o rev._n 2.17_o she_o be_v full_a of_o heavenly_a rapture_n and_o divine_a manifestation_n of_o the_o love_n of_o god_n to_o her_o soul_n on_o her_o deathbed_n she_o go_v not_o out_o by_o death_n like_o the_o snuff_n of_o a_o stink_a candle_n leave_v a_o ill_a savour_n behind_o but_o like_o jumper_n or_o the_o choice_a sweet_a perfume_n die_v abner_n as_o a_o fool_n 2_o sam._n 3.33_o no._n or_o die_v this_o precious_a christian_a as_o a_o daughter_n of_o belial_n no._n the_o thought_n thereof_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n be_v to_o be_v abhor_v with_o a_o kind_n of_o infinite_a detestation_n it_o may_v be_v true_o affirm_v that_o she_o live_v like_o a_o saint_n and_o die_v like_o a_o daughter_n of_o the_o most_o high_a god_n to_o she_o to_o live_v be_v christ_n and_o her_o death_n be_v her_o gain_n phil._n 1.21_o and_o to_o her_o infinite_a gain_n she_o have_v find_v it_o for_o she_o do_v now_o rest_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o sweet_a and_o precious_a saviour_n and_o shall_v to_o all_o eternity_n i_o dare_v not_o say_v many_o daughter_n have_v do_v virtuous_o and_o that_o this_o glorious_a saint_n have_v excel_v they_o all_o pro._n 31.29_o but_o this_o i_o will_v be_v bold_a to_o say_v that_o though_o many_o daughter_n have_v do_v virtuous_o yet_o that_o not_o one_o of_o they_o do_v ever_o excel_v she_o i_o can_v do_v no_o less_o than_o present_v you_o my_o dear_a son_n with_o the_o knowledge_n of_o these_o thing_n both_o for_o your_o imitation_n and_o consolation_n and_o since_o divine_a providence_n have_v give_v i_o such_o a_o opportunity_n as_o this_o to_o attest_v before_o all_o the_o world_n the_o real_a super-eminency_n of_o such_o a_o saint_n so_o near_o relate_v to_o you_o my_o son_n much_o more_o to_o i_o i_o dare_v not_o omit_v it_o certain_o if_o the_o righteous_a shall_v be_v have_v in_o everlasting_a remembrance_n psa_n 12.6_o it_o must_v be_v then_o as_o much_o my_o duty_n to_o endeavour_v it_o as_o the_o duty_n of_o any_o nay_o more_o my_o duty_n in_o reference_n to_o this_o glorify_a soul_n than_o the_o duty_n of_o any_o other_o in_o the_o world_n my_o very_a dear_a and_o choice_o belove_a child_n i_o have_v be_v somewhat_o long_o in_o this_o epistle_n dedicatory_a than_o i_o intend_v at_o the_o first_o but_o the_o strength_n of_o my_o affection_n to_o your_o soul_n have_v carry_v i_o forth_o in_o this_o way_n true_o the_o good_a of_o those_o precious_a soul_n of_o you_o i_o desire_v to_o seek_v as_o the_o good_a of_o my_o own_o i_o know_v to_o my_o grief_n and_o sorrow_n that_o there_o have_v be_v a_o world_n of_o evil_n infuse_v into_o your_o whole_a man_n by_o and_o from_o i_o o_o that_o god_n will_v honour_v i_o in_o make_v i_o a_o instrument_n under_o his_o bless_a self_n of_o pluck_v you_o out_o of_o the_o mire_n of_o your_o corruption_n jude_n ver_fw-la 23._o and_o god_n do_v know_v that_o in_o all_o these_o line_n i_o have_v have_v a_o aim_n and_o very_o ardent_a desire_n and_o sincere_a endeavour_n to_o contribute_v something_o this_o way_n but_o to_o draw_v towards_o a_o close_o let_v i_o say_v in_o some_o sense_n as_o solomon_n prov._n 22.20_o i_o have_v write_v to_o you_o excellent_a thing_n in_o counsel_n and_o knowledge_n yet_o not_o as_o they_o flow_v from_o i_o for_o out_o of_o i_o who_o be_o but_o a_o empty_a and_o dark_a creature_n can_v no_o such_o thing_n come_v but_o as_o god_n have_v enable_v i_o through_o his_o grace_n to_o gather_v they_o together_o as_o so_o many_o precious_a flower_n spring_v in_o the_o garden_n of_o his_o own_o word_n dear_a heart_n it_o be_v say_v of_o abel_n that_o whilst_o he_o be_v dead_a he_o yet_o speak_v heb._n 11.4_o ah_o let_v i_o tell_v you_o that_o by_o these_o line_n of_o i_o i_o shall_v speak_v to_o you_o when_o i_o shall_v have_v no_o ear_n to_o hear_v you_o nor_o eye_n to_o see_v you_o now_o i_o beseech_v you_o for_o the_o lord_n sake_n and_o for_o your_o precious_a soul_n sake_n that_o you_o will_v serious_o mind_v what_o i_o have_v present_v to_o you_o and_o be_v careful_a to_o practise_v the_o same_o and_o whatsoever_o else_o the_o lord_n shall_v be_v please_v to_o provide_v for_o your_o instruction_n to_o further_o you_o in_o a_o holy_a life_n for_o else_o let_v i_o plain_o tell_v you_o that_o these_o eye_n of_o i_o shall_v see_v you_o and_o these_o ear_n of_o i_o shall_v hear_v you_o arraign_v sentence_v and_o condemn_v at_o the_o bar_n of_o god_n tribunal_n seat_n to_o everlasting_a perdition_n from_o the_o presence_n of_o the_o lord_n and_o from_o the_o glory_n of_o his_o power_n 2_o thes_n 1.9_o and_o then_o i_o shall_v want_v a_o heart_n to_o mourn_v over_o you_o and_o yet_o if_o not_o only_a myself_o but_o man_n and_o angel_n shall_v melt_v away_o by_o tear_n of_o sorrow_n unto_o nothing_o in_o sympathize_v and_o condole_v your_o most_o exceed_a sad_a and_o dolorous_a condition_n it_o can_v not_o contribute_v to_o ease_v you_o of_o so_o much_o as_o one_o sigh_n sob_v groan_n or_o cry_v unto_o eternity_n ah_o my_o poor_a soul_n shall_v it_o ever_o be_v say_v that_o i_o have_v beget_v child_n to_o be_v make_v companion_n for_o devil_n ah_o dear_a god_n i_o beseech_v thou_o for_o the_o lord_n jesus_n christ_n sake_n forbid_v it_o but_o i_o bless_v god_n i_o hope_v better_a thing_n of_o you_o my_o sweet_a child_n and_o such_o as_o concern_v salvation_n though_o i_o thus_o speak_v heb._n 6.9_o or_o else_o i_o shall_v go_v mourning_n and_o pour_v forth_o flood_n of_o salt_n tear_n unto_o my_o groan_n and_o never_o in_o this_o world_n see_v one_o happy_a day_n more_o but_o if_o the_o lord_n shall_v be_v gracious_o please_v to_o add_v a_o span_n of_o time_n to_o my_o day_n here_o i_o trust_v he_o will_v give_v i_o a_o tender_a heart_n towards_o you_o and_o that_o through_o his_o abundant_a grace_n i_o shall_v labour_v to_o improve_v time_n gift_n and_o opportunity_n to_o seek_v by_o all_o mean_n and_o in_o special_a by_o humble_a address_n and_o earnest_a prayer_n to_o the_o god_n of_o all_o grace_n to_o give_v you_o all_o all-saving_a grace_n your_o real_a tranquillity_n and_o true_a felicity_n here_o and_o so_o grant_v i_o to_o see_v real_a and_o royal_a demonstration_n of_o his_o free_a grace_n upon_o and_o in_o your_o soul_n discover_v on_o your_o heart_n and_o in_o your_o life_n the_o spot_n of_o his_o child_n deut._n 32.5_o and_o your_o eternal_a happiness_n and_o bliss_n in_o the_o life_n to_o come_v in_o through_z and_o for_o the_o only_a merit_n of_o jesus_n christ_n your_o bless_a and_o for_o ever_o bless_a saviour_n now_o unto_o he_o who_o be_v able_a to_o keep_v you_o from_o fall_v and_o to_o present_v you_o faultless_a before_o the_o presence_n of_o his_o glory_n with_o exceed_a joy_n to_o the_o only_a wise_a god_n our_o saviour_n be_v glory_n and_o majesty_n dominion_n and_o power_n now_o and_o ever_o jude_n 24_o 25._o verse_n thus_o my_o dear_a sweet_a and_o precious_a child_n i_o take_v my_o leave_n of_o you_o in_o this_o kind_n and_o subscribe_v myself_o what_o i_o be_o and_o desire_v to_o remain_v by_o the_o grace_n of_o god_n to_o the_o end_n of_o my_o life_n viz._n your_o dear_a tender-hearted_a and_o most_o affectionate_a father_n to_o love_n and_o serve_v you_o thomas_z hilder_n to_o the_o much_o honour_a and_o eminent_o virtuous_a lady_n the_o lady_n anne_n sackvill_n some_o year_n since_o wife_n and_o religious_a
self_n yet_o god_n can_v make_v this_o foresay_a babe_n a_o fruitful_a mother_n of_o many_o child_n in_o this_o our_o israel_n who_o may_v both_o bless_v the_o lord_n for_o it_o and_o for_o yourself_o worthy_a madam_n for_o accept_v and_o to_o your_o power_n patronise_a the_o same_o now_o our_o lord_n jesus_n christ_n himself_o and_o god_n even_o our_o father_n which_o have_v love_v we_o and_o have_v give_v we_o everlasting_a consolation_n and_o good_a hope_n through_o grace_n comfort_v your_o heart_n and_o establish_v you_o in_o every_o good_a word_n and_o work_v thus_o pray_v he_o who_o be_v madam_n your_o ladyship_n humble_a most_o affectionate_a and_o much_o more_o oblige_a servant_n till_o death_n thomas_n hilder_n to_o the_o impartial_a and_o judicious_a reader_n christian_n friend_n of_o all_o the_o creature_n which_o almighty_a god_n have_v create_v in_o this_o nethermost_a world_n he_o have_v be_v please_v in_o the_o riches_n of_o his_o mercy_n to_o deal_v most_o liberal_o with_o man_n for_o god_n have_v not_o only_o give_v he_o a_o be_v as_o he_o have_v to_o all_o other_o creature_n but_o also_o have_v provide_v all_o thing_n to_o sweeten_v and_o make_v his_o be_v here_o very_o comfortable_a and_o among_o variety_n of_o choice_a enjoyment_n he_o have_v create_v for_o man_n a_o meet_a helper_n which_o be_v the_o most_o precious_a piece_n of_o all_o other_o and_o indeed_o the_o quintiscence_n cream_n and_o crown_n of_o all_o temporal_a felicity_n which_o blessing_n god_n have_v unite_v to_o man_n and_o make_v one_o with_o he_o by_o matrimonial_a conjunction_n and_o have_v appoint_v and_o sanctify_a mean_n for_o his_o enter_v into_o and_o enjoy_v of_o this_o happy_a and_o also_o honourable_a estate_n but_o by_o reason_n of_o that_o blindness_n and_o ignorance_n that_o be_v in_o man_n since_o the_o fall_n and_o by_o reason_n of_o the_o corruption_n and_o pravity_n of_o his_o nature_n he_o do_v by_o indirect_a way_n and_o mean_n seek_v the_o enjoyment_n of_o this_o happiness_n yet_o fall_v not_o only_o short_a of_o it_o but_o implunge_v himself_o into_o a_o dead_a sea_n and_o gulf_n of_o all_o cross_n discomfort_n trouble_n vexation_n turbulent_a care_n distraction_n and_o grief_n of_o all_o kind_n and_o pass_v through_o this_o his_o pilgrimage_n with_o plenty_n of_o tear_n sigh_n sob_n and_o extreme_a dolorous_a complaint_n with_o wear_n wasting_n and_o pine_n away_o find_v life_n itself_o a_o burden_n until_o he_o come_v to_o be_v dissolve_v into_o the_o dust_n of_o death_n now_o dear_a christian_n the_o mean_n before_o hint_v at_o to_o enjoy_v the_o happiness_n first_o mention_v and_o to_o avoid_v the_o misery_n last_o express_v these_o poor_a weak_a and_o perhaps_o contemptible_a lines_n ensue_v will_v point_v out_o though_o with_o a_o palsy_n hand_n but_o thou_o must_v not_o despise_v the_o day_n of_o small_a thing_n zach._n 4.10_o the_o less_o of_o the_o creature_n the_o more_o of_o god_n god_n strength_n be_v make_v perfect_a in_o our_o weakness_n 2_o cor._n 12.9_o the_o excellency_n of_o power_n be_v still_o in_o god_n and_o not_o in_o we_o 2_o cor._n 4.7_o this_o treatise_n be_v at_o first_o intend_v next_o the_o glory_n of_o god_n whole_o for_o the_o general_a good_a but_o now_o in_o my_o promulgate_a of_o it_o i_o do_v in_o a_o special_a manner_n reflect_v upon_o my_o child_n they_o be_v in_o their_o nonage_n but_o they_o must_v not_o nor_o can_v they_o monopolise_v it_o to_o themselves_o but_o it_o will_v present_v itself_o to_o thy_o view_n and_o tender_a some_o service_n to_o thou_o if_o thou_o please_v to_o accept_v of_o it_o courteous_a reader_n i_o can_v easy_o believe_v there_o will_v be_v divers_a circumstantial_a if_o not_o some_o substantial_a errata_n in_o it_o and_o some_o person_n of_o dainty_a palate_n will_v seek_v to_o multiply_v they_o be_v they_o more_o or_o less_o i_o know_v where_o the_o prick_a thorn_n put_v out_o but_o it_o must_v not_o be_v pull_v in_o for_o it_o will_v disturb_v none_o but_o the_o gaul_v conscience_n true_o i_o can_v aver_v and_o god_n do_v know_v it_o true_a that_o during_o almost_o all_o the_o time_n i_o be_v write_v this_o out_o from_o a_o former_a copy_n i_o can_v neither_o stand_v sit_z or_o lie_v but_o in_o very_o great_a pain_n which_o cause_v much_o distraction_n of_o mind_n but_o gentle_a reader_n my_o request_n to_o thou_o be_v that_o what_o thou_o find_v good_a in_o these_o line_n follow_v bless_v the_o lord_n for_o second_o live_v up_o to_o the_o life_n of_o it_o in_o thy_o practice_n but_o what_o resemble_v thy_o worthless_a author_n and_o speak_v he_o indigent_a not_o only_o in_o the_o concrete_a but_o almost_o in_o the_o abstract_n and_o yet_o no_o hyperbole_n that_o i_o beseech_v thou_o to_o make_v as_o candid_a a_o construction_n of_o as_o thou_o can_v and_o so_o to_o cast_v the_o mantle_n of_o thy_o love_n upon_o it_o and_o censure_v not_o but_o pity_n and_o pray_v for_o he_o who_o desire_v to_o pray_v for_o thou_o and_o shall_v rejoice_v to_o bless_v god_n for_o any_o benefit_n that_o may_v accrue_v unto_o thou_o by_o these_o ensue_a line_n farewell_n thou_o in_o the_o lord_n jesus_n thomas_n hilder_n if_o thou_o desire_v good_a day_n to_o see_v here_o in_o this_o life_n of_o sear_v then_o seek_v a_o wife_n that_o do_v with_o thou_o the_o lord_n desire_v to_o fear_v for_o she_o will_v endeavour_v all_o her_o day_n that_o here_o she_o do_v remain_v to_o quicken_v thou_o in_o holy_a way_n that_o heaven_n thou_o may_v attain_v and_o she_o will_v still_o ambitious_a be_v that_o thou_o may_v comfort_v find_v and_o in_o this_o life_n good_a day_n may_v see_v according_a to_o thy_o mind_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n as_o will_v regard_v thy_o good_a still_o as_o she_o ought_v for_o to_o be_v find_v be_v very_o hard_a and_o seldom_o be_v she_o seek_v will_v thou_o this_o jewel_n then_o obtain_v worth_n more_o than_o worldly_a treasure_n and_o it_o enjoy_v as_o thy_o great_a gain_n and_o therein_o take_v much_o pleasure_n then_o unto_o god_n pray_v thou_o alone_o who_o good_a wife_n do_v bestow_v desire_v he_o to_o give_v thou_o one_o that_o do_v he_o true_o know_v for_o therein_o comfort_n thou_o may_v have_v in_o midst_n of_o many_o loss_n as_o thou_o go_v march_v to_o thy_o grave_n load_v with_o outward_a cross_n and_o if_o the_o lord_n this_o gift_n thou_o give_v then_o high_o prize_v the_o same_o so_o long_o as_o thou_o one_o day_n do_v live_v and_o ever_o praise_v his_o name_n conjugal_a counsel_n or_o seasonable_a advice_n both_o to_o unmarried_a and_o marry_a person_n direct_v the_o first_o how_o to_o enter_v into_o the_o marriage_n estate_n and_o the_o other_o how_o to_o demean_v themselves_o in_o the_o christian_a discharge_n of_o all_o such_o duty_n as_o that_o estate_n of_o life_n bind_v they_o to_o that_o god_n may_v have_v glory_n the_o church_n edification_n and_o themselves_o and_o family_n present_a and_o future_a comfort_n when_o the_o omnipotent_a immense_a all-powerfull_a and_o all-glorious_a jehovah_n have_v make_v and_o perfect_v that_o supper_n eminent_a structure_n of_o the_o celestial_a and_o terrestrial_a world_n and_o all_o creature_n in_o general_a contain_v in_o they_o man_z only_o except_v the_o lord_n do_v then_o consult_v with_o himself_o as_o we_o may_v say_v about_o make_v man_n in_o his_o own_o image_n and_o likeness_n gen._n 1.26_o which_o he_o according_o do_v and_o therein_o stand_v the_o complete_a felicity_n of_o man_n in_o a_o special_a and_o peculiar_a manner_n but_o in_o a_o second_o place_n man_n be_v make_v glorious_a though_o in_o a_o way_n of_o much_o subordination_n to_o his_o foresay_a felicity_n in_o that_o god_n make_v he_o to_o be_v a_o microcosmus_n viz._n a_o little_a world_n or_o a_o lively_a emblem_n of_o what_o be_v before_o create_v his_o body_n be_v terrestrial_a and_o his_o soul_n the_o better_a part_n celestial_a oh_o happy_a man_n have_v he_o continue_v in_o his_o original_a perfection_n wherein_o we_o may_v observe_v the_o singular_a benevolence_n and_o beneficence_n of_o god_n to_o man_n but_o though_o these_o be_v transcendent_a degree_n of_o man_n happiness_n yet_o this_o be_v not_o all_o for_o god_n provide_v a_o place_n for_o man_n residence_n on_o earth_n which_o be_v the_o most_o pleasant_a and_o fertile_a of_o the_o whole_a creation_n here_o below_o and_o therefore_o may_v well_o be_v call_v paradise_n whereinto_o god_n put_v the_o man_n not_o only_o to_o dress_v the_o garden_n but_o to_o enjoy_v all_o the_o fruit_n thereof_o only_o the_o tree_n of_o the_o knowledge_n of_o good_a and_o evil_n except_v gen._n 2.15_o 16.17_o but_o to_o consummate_a and_o complete_a man_n outward_a full_a and_o sweet_a enjoyment_n the_o lord_n god_n resolve_v to_o make_v man_n a_o meet_a help_n because_o he_o see_v it_o not_o good_a for_o
have_v their_o allowance_n from_o god_n and_o be_v keep_v at_o his_o table_n as_o we_o may_v say_v and_o at_o his_o charge_n the_o lord_n have_v a_o great_a family_n but_o be_v it_o ten_o thousand_o time_n big_a he_o have_v such_o a_o inexhausted_a store-house_n of_o provision_n of_o all_o kind_n that_o not_o one_o of_o they_o can_v want_v ease_n thyself_o then_o of_o thy_o care_n i_o mean_v distract_n and_o distrustful_a care_n and_o cast_v they_o upon_o god_n who_o care_v for_o thou_o 1_o pet._n 5.7_o i_o be_o god_n al-sufficient_a say_v the_o lord_n to_o abraham_n walk_v before_o i_o and_o be_v upright_o do_v thou_o but_o labour_n to_o walk_v before_o god_n and_o to_o be_v upright_o and_o then_o thou_o may_v act_v faith_n on_o god_n alsufficiency_n to_o do_v good_a to_o and_o for_o thou_o and_o thou_o let_v i_o yet_o a_o little_a further_o argue_v with_o thou_o about_o this_o particular_a thou_o say_v in_o effect_n thou_o be_v afraid_a that_o if_o thou_o shall_v have_v many_o child_n they_o will_v undo_v thou_o how_o can_v this_o be_v when_o the_o lord_n affirm_v child_n to_o be_v a_o blessing_n mind_n these_o two_o place_n first_o psal_n 127.5_o where_o the_o holy_a ghost_n speak_v of_o child_n say_v bless_a be_v the_o man_n who_o have_v his_o quiver_n full_a of_o they_o second_o psal_n 128._o bless_a be_v the_o man_n say_v the_o psalmist_n that_o fear_v the_o lord_n and_o walk_v in_o his_o way_n but_o how_o be_v he_o bless_v true_o this_o be_v one_o part_n of_o his_o blessedness_n that_o his_o wife_n shall_v be_v like_o a_o fruitful_a vine_n and_o his_o child_n like_o olive_n branch_n round_o about_o his_o table_n lothus_n say_v he_o shall_v the_o man_n be_v bless_v that_o fear_v the_o lord_n v._o 3_o 4._o child_n you_o see_v then_o be_v a_o blessing_n nay_o many_o child_n be_v a_o blessing_n yea_o they_o be_v as_o so_o many_o several_a blessing_n now_o to_o apply_v this_o what_o a_o preposterous_a thing_n be_v this_o for_o thou_o to_o say_v many_o child_n will_v undo_v thou_o will_v blessing_n undo_v any_o it_o be_v very_o incongruous_a to_o speak_v or_o think_v so_o it_o be_v impossible_a that_o blessing_n as_o they_o be_v blessing_n can_v hurt_v much_o less_o undo_v any_o i_o confess_v the_o abuse_n of_o blessing_n may_v undo_v thou_o but_o this_o be_v per_fw-la accidens_fw-la and_o spring_n from_o thyself_o it_o be_v not_o the_o have_v many_o child_n that_o can_v undo_v thou_o but_o thy_o abuse_n of_o so_o rich_a a_o blessing_n there_o be_v no_o blessing_n in_o the_o world_n enjoy_v by_o any_o but_o if_o they_o be_v unsanctified_a they_o will_v undo_v those_o that_o have_v the_o fruition_n of_o they_o i_o have_v be_v the_o long_o in_o this_o point_n because_o distrust_v of_o the_o lord_n providence_n in_o general_a but_o more_o especial_o relate_v to_o mean_n for_o maintenance_n of_o many_o child_n be_v grow_v to_o be_v a_o epidemical_a disease_n overspread_v the_o face_n of_o the_o christian_a world_n ah_o true_o let_v i_o say_v that_o thou_o whosoever_o thou_o be_v and_o myself_o too_o shall_v not_o be_v ashamed_a to_o take_v shame_n for_o this_o exceed_o vile_a sin_n be_v then_o in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n convince_v that_o the_o propagate_a of_o the_o church_n in_o the_o procreation_n of_o child_n be_v a_o essential_a and_o principal_a end_n why_o god_n do_v ordain_v marriage_n and_o that_o which_o be_v the_o lord_n end_n must_v be_v thy_o aim_n and_o this_o shall_v suffice_v for_o this_o particular_a marriage_n the_o second_o end_n of_o marriage_n the_o second_o end_n we_o be_v to_o aim_v at_o in_o desisire_v marriage_n be_v the_o subdue_a our_o corruption_n and_o base_a lust_n especial_o when_o we_o find_v they_o to_o be_v predominant_a there_o be_v no_o man_n in_o this_o life_n but_o his_o regeneration_n be_v only_o in_o part_n sanctification_n here_o be_v at_o best_a but_o inchoate_n in_o heaven_n it_o shall_v be_v consummate_v and_o therefore_o be_v obnoxious_a to_o temptation_n as_o in_o all_o kind_n have_v the_o seed_n of_o all_o sin_n in_o he_o so_o to_o the_o sin_n of_o uncleanness_n in_o particular_a yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o man_n as_o do_v enjoy_v this_o holy_a ordinance_n of_o marriage_n be_v more_o free_a from_o the_o concupiscence_n of_o the_o flesh_n especial_o the_o violence_n of_o they_o than_o they_o ordinary_o be_v who_o enjoy_v not_o this_o bless_a help_n and_o the_o apostle_n do_v intimate_v as_o much_o when_o he_o say_v to_o avoid_v fornication_n let_v every_o man_n have_v his_o own_o wife_n and_o every_o woman_n she_o own_o husband_n 1_o cor._n 7.2_o which_o place_n to_o the_o like_a occasion_n be_v mention_v before_o though_o on_o another_o head_n and_o in_o ver_fw-la 8_o 9_o he_o add_v if_o the_o unmarried_a can_v contain_v let_v they_o marry_v and_o back_n his_o exhortation_n with_o a_o reason_n viz_o it_o be_v better_a to_o marry_v than_o to_o burn_v it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o every_o one_o to_o labour_v to_o preserve_v themselves_o pure_a and_o chaste_a virgin_n unto_o christ_n which_o that_o person_n can_v do_v who_o have_v a_o impure_a heart_n though_o free_a from_o the_o act_n of_o uncleanness_n he_o that_o look_v on_o a_o woman_n to_o lust_n after_o she_o have_v commit_v adultery_n in_o his_o heart_n say_v our_o saviour_n mat._n 5.28_o christ_n also_o make_v the_o heart_n the_o proper_a seat_n and_o receptacle_n of_o adultery_n and_o fornication_n mat_n 15.19_o now_o for_o this_o heart-defilement_n every_o soul_n have_v cause_n not_o only_o to_o be_v humble_v but_o also_o thankful_o to_o make_v use_n of_o the_o remedy_n prescribe_v of_o god_n against_o the_o same_o when_o our_o saviour_n reprove_v divorce_n between_o man_n and_o wife_n but_o in_o case_n of_o fornication_n and_o the_o sin_n of_o those_o that_o be_v just_o divorce_v if_o they_o marry_v the_o sin_n also_o of_o those_o who_o marry_v such_o his_o disciple_n say_v if_o the_o case_n be_v so_o it_o be_v not_o good_a to_o marry_v our_o saviour_n answer_v all_o man_n can_v receive_v this_o say_n save_o those_o to_o who_o it_o be_v give_v mat._n 19.11_o that_o be_v to_o say_v all_o man_n can_v nay_o no_o man_n can_v at_o pleasure_n attain_v this_o gift_n of_o chastity_n for_o it_o be_v the_o gift_n of_o god_n therefore_o such_o to_o who_o the_o lord_n deny_v it_o ought_v to_o take_v the_o help_n of_o marriage_n but_o if_o the_o end_n of_o man_n marry_v be_v rather_o to_o satisfy_v the_o lust_n of_o the_o flesh_n than_o to_o subdue_v the_o same_o they_o may_v just_o fear_v themselves_o as_o person_n never_o like_v to_o be_v gainer_n by_o such_o conjunction_n but_o to_o have_v the_o fire_n of_o lust_n so_o enkindle_v in_o their_o impure_a nature_n as_o that_o chastity_n shall_v be_v make_v but_o combustible_a matter_n to_o be_v whole_o consume_v thereby_o and_o so_o make_v unsufferable_a loser_n which_o be_v a_o judgement_n most_o dreadful_a let_v therefore_o the_o destruction_n and_o extirpation_n of_o impure-selfe_n be_v sincere_o thy_o aim_n and_o endeavour_v in_o seek_v the_o marriage_n condition_n we_o have_v do_v with_o this_o second_o end_n of_o marriage_n and_o proceed_v to_o the_o last_o the_o last_o end_n we_o be_v to_o aim_v at_o in_o desire_v marriage_n be_v comfortable_a society_n to_o enjoy_v a_o solid_a sweet_a and_o bosom_n companion_n in_o which_o estate_n for_o the_o most_o part_n it_o may_v be_v expect_v man_n be_v a_o sociable_a creature_n and_o therefore_o god_n will_v not_o have_v he_o live_v alone_o but_o create_v he_o a_o meet_a helper_n gen._n 2.18_o and_o solomon_n say_v two_o be_v better_o than_o one_o eccl._n 4.9_o true_o they_o speak_v most_o profane_o and_o be_v every_o way_n unworthy_a of_o the_o comfort_n that_o marriage_n do_v afford_v that_o say_v a_o woman_n be_v a_o necessary_a evil_n we_o may_v rather_o say_v she_o be_v a_o singular_a and_o necessary_a good_a yet_o understand_v she_o be_v only_o so_o when_o she_o answer_v the_o end_n god_n make_v she_o for_o that_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n and_o it_o be_v such_o a_o one_o that_o in_o the_o sequel_n of_o this_o small_a treatise_n i_o shall_v endeavour_v to_o put_v thou_o on_o and_o stir_v thou_o up_o to_o seek_v such_o a_o one_o will_v fit_v as_o we_o say_v for_o every_o occasion_n both_o in_o prosperity_n and_o adversity_n in_o sickness_n and_o health_n next_o the_o glory_n of_o god_n she_o will_v spend_v and_o be_v spend_v for_o the_o good_a of_o thou_o and_o thou_o she_o will_v help_v bear_v thy_o burden_n in_o every_o kind_n she_o will_v sympathize_v and_o condole_v with_o thou_o in_o all_o thy_o suffering_n in_o her_o bosom_n there_o be_v a_o passage_n to_o receive_v in_o any_o secret_n thou_o shall_v think_v fit_a to_o impart_v but_o no_o vent_n to_o
this_o that_o be_v if_o thou_o do_v neglect_v the_o performance_n of_o this_o duty_n of_o seek_v god_n by_o prayer_n for_o a_o good_a wife_n that_o except_o thou_o be_v afterward_o deep_o humble_v for_o this_o sin_n the_o marriage_n condition_n shall_v not_o be_v sanctify_v to_o thou_o and_o if_o not_o thou_o be_v better_v a_o thousand_o time_n not_o live_v in_o that_o estate_n of_o life_n for_o thou_o can_v not_o expect_v so_o much_o as_o one_o honey_n month_n as_o we_o say_v but_o many_o month_n and_o year_n of_o gall_n and_o wormwood_n we_o sometime_o advise_v our_o friend_n that_o they_o take_v heed_n they_o do_v not_o marry_v in_o haste_n lest_o they_o repent_v at_o leisure_n true_o they_o make_v too_o much_o haste_n to_o marry_v that_o forget_v much_o more_o slight_a seek_v god_n for_o direction_n and_o a_o blessing_n this_o way_n therefore_o they_o shall_v have_v cause_n enough_o to_o repent_v but_o god_n grant_v they_o may_v repent_v aright_o that_o the_o curse_n may_v be_v turn_v into_o a_o blessing_n we_o have_v do_v with_o the_o first_o mean_v we_o must_v use_v to_o obtain_v a_o good_a wife_n that_o be_v prayer_n the_o second_o mean_n to_o obtain_v this_o desirable_a blessing_n be_v to_o look_v at_o such_o thing_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o a_o wife_n which_o make_v she_o a_o good_a wife_n and_o a_o meet_a helper_n thou_o will_v say_v what_o thing_n be_v they_o or_o what_o particular_n that_o a_o man_n ought_v to_o look_v on_o in_o a_o woman_n as_o fit_v she_o to_o be_v a_o good_a wife_n and_o meet_v helper_n i_o answer_v there_o may_v be_v some_o thing_n inward_a and_o some_o thing_n outward_a make_v she_o such_o if_o she_o enjoy_v they_o or_o if_o not_o the_o contrary_a if_o it_o be_v demand_v what_o those_o inward_a qualification_n be_v that_o make_v a_o woman_n a_o meet_a helper_n wife_n the_o first_o qualification_n of_o a_o good_a wife_n i_o answer_v the_o first_o be_v grace_n or_o the_o manifestation_n of_o the_o true_a fear_n of_o god_n in_o the_o heart_n by_o the_o fruit_n of_o holiness_n in_o the_o life_n without_o this_o it_o be_v not_o possible_a that_o a_o woman_n can_v be_v a_o meet_a helper_n for_o if_o she_o be_v unable_a as_o a_o instrument_n to_o contribute_v something_o to_o make_v supply_n to_o the_o necessity_n of_o the_o best_a part_n of_o a_o man_n that_o be_v the_o soul_n how_o can_v she_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n but_o a_o graceless_a wife_n be_v unable_a to_o contribute_v the_o least_o mite_n this_o way_n therefore_o she_o can_v be_v no_o meet_a helper_n be_v not_o say_v the_o apostle_n unequal_o yoke_v with_o infidel_n 2_o cor._n 6.14_o which_o in_o the_o verse_n follow_v he_o labour_v to_o amplify_v there_o can_v be_v no_o spiritual_a society_n between_o a_o gracious_a and_o ungracious_a spirit_n the_o apostle_n speak_v of_o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n the_o wife_n be_v bind_v by_o the_o law_n say_v the_o apostle_n as_o long_o as_o her_o husband_n live_v but_o if_o her_o husband_n be_v dead_a she_o be_v at_o liberty_n to_o marry_v who_o she_o will_v only_o in_o the_o lord_n 1_o cor._n 7.39_o and_o to_o be_v join_v in_o holy_a wedlock_n to_o a_o gracious_a person_n be_v to_o marry_v in_o the_o lord_n the_o apostle_n in_o labour_v to_o maintain_v his_o own_o and_o his_o fellow_n apostles_n privilege_n at_o large_a particularize_v he_o and_o their_o liberty_n to_o marry_v have_v we_o not_o power_n to_o lead_v about_o a_o sister_n a_o wife_n etc._n etc._n power_n they_o have_v to_o marry_v but_o his_o wife_n must_v be_v a_o sister_n 1_o cor._n 9.5_o in_o the_o old_a world_n it_o be_v one_o of_o the_o principal_a sin_n that_o do_v provoke_v god_n to_o drown_v the_o inhabitant_n thereof_o that_o the_o son_n of_o god_n and_o they_o be_v the_o godly_a man_n of_o that_o time_n do_v marry_v with_o the_o daughter_n of_o man_n that_o be_v ungodly_a person_n gen._n 6.2_o david_n tell_v we_o that_o all_o his_o delight_n be_v in_o the_o saint_n even_o in_o those_o that_o do_v excel_v in_o virtue_n psal_n 16.3_o it_o be_v the_o sin_n of_o solomon_n that_o he_o take_v idolatrous_a wife_n which_o be_v the_o cause_n of_o sad_a judgement_n spiritual_a and_o temporal_a on_o he_o his_o wife_n draw_v away_o his_o heart_n from_o god_n to_o their_o false_a god_n which_o be_v a_o spiritual_a judgement_n and_o for_o his_o idolatrous_a marriage_n and_o his_o idolatry_n god_n divide_v his_o kingdom_n and_o leave_v but_o a_o small_a fag_n of_o it_o to_o he_o in_o his_o son_n day_n which_o be_v a_o temporal_a judgement_n 1_o king_n 11._o to_o the_o end_n of_o the_o 11._o verse_n nay_o for_o his_o sin_n whereof_o ungodly_a marriage_n be_v a_o special_a one_o it_o have_v be_v disputable_a by_o many_o good_a divine_n whether_o he_o be_v save_v or_o not_o though_o the_o most_o orthodox_n do_v conclude_v affirmative_o and_o they_o ground_n their_o charity_n first_o upon_o that_o place_n neh._n 13.26_o where_o he_o be_v say_v to_o be_v belove_v of_o his_o god_n and_o who_o god_n love_v he_o love_v to_o the_o end_n joh._n 13.1_o their_o second_o ground_n be_v that_o he_o be_v a_o penman_n of_o scripture_n and_o such_o be_v call_v holy_a man_n of_o god_n 2_o pet._n 1._o ult_n from_o whence_o they_o conclude_v he_o can_v not_o perish_v for_o god_n will_v not_o damn_v holy_a one_o but_o we_o may_v safe_o conclude_v that_o this_o sin_n be_v very_o fearful_a samson_n must_v have_v his_o dalilah_n to_o dally_v with_o as_o a_o companion_n for_o his_o bed_n but_o it_o cost_v he_o the_o loss_n of_o his_o eye_n first_o and_o then_o of_o his_o life_n and_o limb_n he_o have_v a_o bad_a and_o sad_a portion_n with_o she_o by_o the_o way_n we_o may_v see_v they_o be_v much_o deceive_v that_o think_v it_o may_v be_v lawful_a for_o a_o godly_a man_n to_o marry_v with_o a_o profane_a wife_n even_o in_o hope_n to_o be_v a_o mean_n to_o convert_v she_o i_o grant_v that_o sometime_o it_o please_v god_n to_o honour_v the_o believe_a husband_n or_o believe_v wife_n to_o be_v a_o instrument_n to_o convert_v the_o unbeliever_n but_o for_o any_o to_o presume_v of_o this_o at_o the_o time_n of_o woo_v or_o wedding_n the_o party_n opposite_a to_o the_o way_n of_o god_n be_v a_o groundless_a presumption_n but_o be_v she_o tractable_a to_o good_a counsel_n and_o a_o diligent_a frequenter_a of_o the_o mean_n of_o grace_n there_o may_v be_v some_o foot_n for_o hope_n but_o if_o not_o fear_v have_v any_o society_n with_o she_o keep_v thyself_o at_o more_o than_o staff_n length_n from_o she_o for_o she_o be_v more_o like_a to_o pervert_v thou_o than_o thou_o be_v like_a to_o convert_v she_o solomon_n who_o we_o mention_v before_o 11.9_o 1_o king_n 11.9_o be_v better_o fence_v against_o the_o danger_n of_o such_o temptation_n than_o thou_o be_v for_o god_n have_v appear_v unto_o he_o twice_o which_o any_o good_a heart_n will_v have_v conclude_v will_v so_o have_v conjoin_v he_o to_o god_n and_o to_o his_o worship_n that_o he_o will_v never_o have_v make_v so_o much_o as_o a_o seeme-separation_n from_o god_n yet_o we_o see_v that_o in_o the_o day_n of_o his_o temptation_n he_o fall_v back_o and_o start_v from_o god_n like_o a_o break_a bow_n belove_a let_v i_o then_o tell_v thou_o that_o thou_o have_v no_o cause_n to_o presume_v of_o do_v such_o a_o person_n good_a who_o be_v averse_a from_o god_n but_o of_o fear_n of_o thy_o own_o steadfastness_n 21.25_o 1_o king_n 21.25_o evil_a wife_n do_v many_o time_n make_v good_a man_n bad_a but_o always_o bad_a man_n worse_o a_o very_a jade_n will_v draw_v more_o downhill_o than_o many_o good_a horse_n will_v be_v able_a to_o draw_v up_o again_o a_o carnal_a wife_n will_v draw_v a_o man_n further_o from_o god_n than_o many_o good_a christian_n with_o all_o their_o exhortation_n reproof_n and_o good_a counsel_n will_v be_v able_a to_o regain_v back_o belove_a it_o be_v then_o but_o need_n for_o thou_o to_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o thou_o may_v be_v guard_v against_o those_o danger_n thou_o be_v other_o wise_a like_a to_o be_v environ_v with_o even_o of_o be_v draw_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n second_o thou_o must_v make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o regard_n of_o the_o help_v thou_o shall_v find_v by_o a_o woman_n of_o a_o gracious_a spirit_n to_o further_o thou_o in_o thy_o holy_a profession_n she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n to_o rouse_v thou_o up_o against_o security_n and_o worldly_a mindedness_n she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n of_o strengthen_v thy_o weak_a faith_n and_o to_o help_v thou_o against_o all_o diffidence_n and_o doubt_n judg._n 13.22_o 23._o she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n to_o stir_v thou_o up_o
for_o god_n have_v some_o hand_n in_o it_o to_o humble_v thou_o for_o some_o sin_n happy_o thou_o have_v hide_v some_o curse_a thing_n in_o thy_o heart_n as_o achan_n do_v the_o wedge_n of_o gold_n and_o babylonish_n garment_n in_o the_o earth_n in_o the_o midst_n of_o his_o tent_n for_o which_o sin_n of_o his_o all_o israel_n be_v beat_v back_o by_o the_o citizen_n of_o aâ—_n josh_n 7_o 5._o and_o we_o know_v god_n will_v not_o go_v forth_o with_o israel_n to_o bless_v they_o and_o to_o give_v they_o victory_n over_o their_o adversary_n until_o this_o sin_n be_v purge_v out_o but_o if_o this_o be_v thy_o case_n that_o as_o i_o say_v there_o be_v some_o secret_a sin_n lie_v hide_v in_o thy_o heart_n do_v not_o delude_v thyself_o thou_o must_v set_v thyself_o to_o the_o work_n of_o humiliation_n and_o reformation_n before_o thou_o can_v expect_v a_o gracious_a speed_n in_o thy_o suit_n but_o when_o that_o be_v do_v rouse_v up_o thy_o spirit_n be_v not_o discourage_v but_o set_v on_o afresh_o with_o vigour_n again_o and_o again_o and_o if_o it_o be_v for_o god_n glory_n and_o the_o mutual_a good_a of_o you_o both_o thou_o shall_v certain_o speed_v and_o further_o thou_o ought_v not_o to_o desire_v it_o but_o i_o desire_v to_o add_v one_o thing_n yet_o further_o and_o that_o by_o way_n of_o advice_n be_v very_o circumspect_a that_o before_o marriage_n thou_o be_v not_o prodigal_a in_o thy_o engagement_n be_v sure_a thou_o promise_v she_o no_o more_o maintenance_n than_o thou_o be_v well_o assure_v thy_o mean_n will_v make_v good_a oâ—_n that_o may_v beseem_v she_o in_o that_o condition_n as_o be_v thy_o wife_n again_o take_v care_n in_o a_o special_a manner_n that_o thou_o promise_v she_o no_o more_o than_o thy_o honest_a purpose_n be_v to_o make_v good_a and_o perform_v to_o the_o full_a for_o otherwise_o when_o thing_n come_v to_o pass_v contrary_a to_o thy_o promise_n it_o will_v be_v a_o cause_n of_o much_o variance_n and_o of_o great_a breach_n between_o you_o which_o like_o a_o fret_a gangrene_n will_v eat_v out_o the_o very_a vital_n of_o love_n for_o upon_o thy_o non-performance_n or_o unability_n to_o make_v good_a all_o thou_o have_v unadvised_o and_o wicked_o promise_v she_o will_v both_o twit_v thou_o and_o exclaim_v against_o thou_o for_o cheat_v and_o delude_v of_o she_o with_o fair_a and_o golden_a promise_n which_o since_o be_v vanish_v into_o mere_a vapour_n it_o be_v more_o safe_a and_o creditable_a for_o thou_o rather_o to_o promise_v nothing_o to_o her_o that_o way_n but_o yet_o to_o do_v what_o with_o reason_n may_v be_v fit_v one_o thing_n more_o and_o no_o more_o of_o this_o conceal_v not_o beforehand_o any_o deficiency_n in_o nature_n that_o may_v disable_v thou_o to_o perform_v any_o conjugal_a duty_n whatsoever_o thus_o much_o may_v suffice_v to_o inform_v thou_o in_o all_o the_o mean_n thou_o be_v to_o use_v to_o obtain_v a_o good_a wife_n and_o a_o meet_a helper_n we_o be_v in_o then_o nâ—xt_v place_n with_o the_o lord_n leave_v and_o assistance_n to_o come_v to_o take_v a_o view_n of_o the_o duty_n which_o marry_a person_n be_v oblige_v to_o perform_v wherein_o we_o shall_v consider_v the_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n and_o the_o rather_o shall_v we_o do_v this_o in_o the_o first_o place_n to_o draw_v on_o the_o wife_n to_o a_o cheerful_a performance_n of_o she_o likewise_o to_o her_o husband_n the_o first_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v conjugal_a affection_n wife_n the_o first_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n or_o matrimonial_a and_o special_a love_n the_o great_a part_n of_o a_o woman_n outward_a comfort_n in_o marriage_n stand_v in_o the_o entire_a love_n and_o hearty_a affection_n of_o her_o husband_n towards_o she_o and_o if_o she_o miss_v of_o this_o from_o her_o husband_n she_o may_v fear_v his_o fall_a short_a in_o all_o the_o rest_n for_o the_o love_n of_o a_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n be_v as_o the_o foundation_n stone_n of_o all_o his_o other_o duty_n it_o be_v as_o the_o chief_a wheel_n in_o the_o clock_n which_o give_v a_o dexterous_a motion_n to_o all_o the_o other_o wheel_n thy_o cordial_a love_n to_o thy_o wife_n will_v sweeten_v her_o condition_n in_o this_o life_n in_o her_o worst_a outward_a cross_n in_o want_n of_o health_n wealth_n the_o society_n of_o good_a neighbour_n pleasure_n and_o what_o not_o nay_o let_v her_o life_n be_v fill_v with_o the_o affluence_n and_o confluence_n of_o all_o the_o comfort_n under_o the_o sun_n yet_o the_o bare_a want_n of_o the_o apprehension_n of_o her_o husband_n affection_n towards_o she_o will_v make_v she_o dip_v all_o her_o morsel_n in_o vinegar_n and_o gall_n and_o make_v she_o complain_v that_o she_o do_v not_o see_v one_o good_a day_n now_o that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n appear_v eph._n 5.25_o husband_n say_v the_o apostle_n love_v your_o wife_n as_o christ_n love_v his_o church_n that_o be_v for_o kind_n not_o for_o measure_n for_o the_o measure_n of_o the_o love_n of_o christ_n to_o his_o church_n no_o dimension_n can_v demonstrate_v for_o to_o know_v the_o love_n of_o christ_n the_o apostle_n say_v it_o pass_v knowledge_n eph._n 2.19_o and_o in_o col._n 3.19_o the_o apostle_n bid_v husband_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n and_o not_o be_v bitter_a unto_o they_o the_o woman_n be_v make_v of_o a_o rib_n take_v out_o of_o the_o side_n of_o man_n and_o therefore_o adam_n say_v she_o be_v bone_n of_o his_o bone_n and_o flesh_n of_o his_o flesh_n gen._n 2.23_o nay_o by_o god_n ordinance_n they_o be_v no_o more_o twain_o but_o one_o flesh_n and_o from_o hence_o paul_n take_v a_o argument_n to_o persuade_v the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n because_o no_o man_n yet_o do_v ever_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n eph._n 5.28_o 29._o you_o may_v remember_v that_o upon_o another_o occasion_n we_o do_v observe_v that_o jacob_n esteem_v rachel_n his_o wife_n as_o his_o right_a hand_n he_o call_v his_o son_n name_n of_o who_o she_o die_v benjamin_n or_o the_o son_n of_o his_o right_a hand_n gen._n 35.18_o god_n call_v the_o wife_n of_o ezekiel_n the_o desire_n of_o his_o eye_n son_n of_o man_n i_o take_v from_o thou_o the_o desire_n of_o thy_o eye_n with_o a_o stroke_n ezek._n 24.16_o 18._o the_o prophet_n nathan_n tell_v david_n in_o a_o parable_n that_o bathsheba_n the_o wife_n of_o uriah_n lie_v in_o his_o bosom_n that_o be_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n affection_n 2_o sam._n 12.3_o you_o plain_o see_v then_o that_o it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o love_v his_o wife_n now_o that_o there_o be_v scripture_n incitation_n for_o it_o and_o scripture_n precedent_n for_o it_o too_o you_o must_v know_v you_o sin_n against_o god_n if_o you_o perform_v it_o not_o and_o if_o you_o do_v it_o not_o then_o as_o you_o have_v hear_v you_o bring_v affliction_n and_o grief_n on_o your_o wife_n so_o likewise_o you_o bring_v much_o prejudice_n on_o your_o own_o self_n for_o you_o discourage_v she_o from_o draw_v in_o the_o same_o yoke_n with_o you_o you_o disable_v she_o to_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n you_o make_v she_o to_o be_v uncheerfull_a in_o all_o the_o duty_n of_o her_o general_a and_o particular_a call_n and_o which_o be_v worse_o you_o expose_v yourself_o to_o the_o strength_n of_o many_o noisome_a lust_n as_o elsewhere_o have_v be_v mention_v be_v thou_o so_o convince_v that_o it_o be_v a_o special_a duty_n that_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v to_o his_o wife_n even_o to_o love_v she_o with_o conjugal_a and_o entire_a love_n as_o that_o thou_o set_v thyself_o to_o the_o practice_n of_o it_o wherein_o stand_v thy_o own_o and_o her_o comfort_n the_o second_o duty_n which_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v cohabitation_n wife_n the_o seconâ—_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n or_o to_o live_v together_o in_o one_o family_n mutual_o to_o enjoy_v intimate_a society_n both_o in_o bed_n and_o at_o board_n for_o where_o this_o be_v not_o there_o no_o duty_n which_o a_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n can_v be_v perform_v nay_o the_o very_a end_n of_o marriage_n be_v hereby_o null_a and_o frustrate_a the_o apostle_n peter_n lay_v a_o command_n on_o husband_n to_o dwell_v with_o their_o wife_n you_o husband_n dwell_v with_o your_o wife_n etc._n etc._n 1_o pet._n 3.7_o can_v a_o man_n have_v any_o true_a comfort_n in_o his_o wife_n or_o she_o in_o he_o if_o they_o do_v not_o dwell_v together_o true_o it_o be_v not_o only_o against_o grace_n but_o against_o nature_n too_o for_o they_o to_o do_v otherwise_o for_o the_o husband_n be_v the_o head_n of_o his_o wife_n and_o of_o his_o family_n when_o