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joh._n 13.17_o the_o second_o duty_n that_o both_o man_n and_o wife_n do_v owe_v unto_o their_o child_n and_o servant_n be_v to_o pray_v with_o they_o and_o for_o they_o you_o have_v see_v but_o now_o that_o parent_n must_v take_v pain_n to_o teach_v and_o instruct_v their_o child_n and_o servant_n in_o the_o knowledge_n of_o god_n but_o what_o success_n can_v there_o be_v expect_v as_o the_o bless_a fruit_n of_o such_o a_o duty_n without_o prayer_n with_o and_o for_o they_o paul_n may_v plant_v and_o apollo_n may_v water_v but_o god_n give_v the_o increase_n 1_o cor._n 3.6_o but_o this_o increase_n must_v be_v humble_o seek_v of_o god_n by_o prayer_n there_o be_v a_o spirit_n of_o indotionablenesse_n in_o all_o by_o nature_n but_o it_o do_v abound_v many_o time_n in_o some_o child_n and_o servant_n i_o will_v instruct_v and_o teach_v thou_o say_v david_n in_o the_o way_n thou_o shall_v go_v i_o will_v guide_v thou_o with_o my_o eye_n psal_n 32.8_o then_o instant_o add_v in_o the_o 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