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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A57529	Matrimoniall honovr, or, The mutuall crowne and comfort of godly, loyall, and chaste marriage wherein the right way to preserve the honour of marriage unstained, is at large described, urged, and applied : with resolution of sundry materiall questions concerning this argument / by D.R. ...	D. R. (Daniel Rogers), 1573-1652.	1642 (1642)	Wing R1797; ESTC R5451	341,707	420

therof It s an honour to an house to be frequented by the great and honorable How much more when the Lord of heaven and earth shall condescend to dwell in our houses to come in to sit and sup with us whom should he sooner doe so unto then to the peaceable and consenting we know that old maxime of Machiavell if thou wilt reigne divide And our Savior affirmes it If Satan cast out Satan how shall his Kingdome endure No surely Satan must cast out unity and amity if he meane to reigne that he may bring in hellish discord and confusion Even so if God will reigne hee must cast out Satan that he may bring in union and consent between couples There is no agreement betwixt Christ and Belial light and darknes Then and never till then shall religion prayer Sabbathduties holy exercises love to the Saints be enterteyned when consent hath taken up the roome of each others heart So much may serve for Reasons But wherin may some say standes this Consent Answ I answer By these few heads it may bee conceived for the particulars of consent they are infinite as the occasions of life are First in consent of spirit of minde I meane and affection Secondly consent of speech or the tongue Thirdly consent of practice and endeavors For the first of these The principle of marriage consent must be rooted in the heart That each thinke and affect the same things As in Ezekiel its saide of the beasts and the wheeles that when the one went forward the other did so and when the beasts were lifted up the wheeles were lifted up for the spirits of the beaâ—ts were in the wheeles So ought it to be between couples one judgement one mind one heart one soule in two bodies the spirit of the wife in the husband and his in the Lord. That which the flatterer saith in the CoÌ„edy the hatred of the name beeing remooved that should the wife say to the husband Sayst thou a thing So say I. Deniest thou I deny it too And in a word I am prepared for the nonce to agree with thee in all things good honest What is more beautifull to behold in marriage theÌ„ that wherof it is a ResemblaÌ„ce I meane the harmony betweene the Lord Iesus the head and the members to wit his Church Reade the Canticles See how the Church ecchoeth her husbands voyce in all he speaks see how shee pleases her selfe in his comely proportion attire gestures And he againe in hers how shee depends wholly upon his becke and countenance joies in his presence mournes in his absence repozes her selfe in his bosome beeing asleep watcheth his awaking followes after him hangs upon him in his departing longs for his returne and having lost him runs after him as one distracted and bewraies her life to be bound up in his as Iacobs in Benjamins This inward complacence welpleasing and welapayednesse of couples in each other is the very quintessence of marriage peace and contentment As in the mysticall body of Christ we see what an instinct is in them to maynteine their owne beeing in the welfare of each other All envy wrath suspicion jealousie unkindnes pride censure and whatsoever else savoring of selflove and seperation beeing odious to them Each doing his owne service content with his owne portion mourning with any that is ill at ease and glad of their welfare Secondly this consent must be in the speech and language of them both It s true generally but in this point specially That speech is the discoverer of the mind Looke what the abundance of the heart is that will vent it selfe at the mouth So the husband and wife should answer to each other as Iehoshaphat to Iehoram I am as thou art my people are as thine my horses as thine Yea the speech of each to other should bee without flattery as the glasse to behold each other in As face answers to face in the water so doth a man accomodate himselfe to his friend sayth Salomon how much more the husband and wife to each other They should even resemble each the others frame and temper in the Lord with all ingenuity As the beames do represent the Sun in her heat and light so should the sweet carriage of the wife argue the body which gives her influence even her husbands vertues And lastly there ought not onely to be this harmony in presence onely but in absence also even in the way of their Conversation abroad in company in duties of Sabbath of Christian communion whether together or asunder such should be the reflexion of a wives carriage that all that see her may see the wisdome thoughts affections of the husband in her not a carriage of her owne as of one severed from his way slighting his as if shee were wiser but humbly submitting judgment will and spirit to his in the Lord and where there is any difference so it be grounded keeping it secret and acquainting God with it as shee did when she felt strife in her wombe that he might reconcile it and settle it aright in time For in such a Case discreet concealment will far sooner reduce them together then open expression of their differences The actions of the one should bee the shadow of the others yea a modell thereof As it was once betweene David and his new subjects whatsoever liked David that was presently pleasing to all his people they agreed at an haires bredth This threefold corde of heart mouth and worke is not easily broken Vses I shall make these three appear better in uses of the point to the which I hasten Vse 1 First then what bitter reproofe is this to the most even of such as seeme to stand to Gods barre and triall I passe by the ruder sort of barbarous people rusticall and profane who never yet came into the garden where this grace grew such as passe their daies eyther in brutish and Nabalish churlishnes brawling fighting and quarrelling together or else consent onely in evill serving each the others turne according to those vices they are enclined unto as the world to take together portions for their childreÌ„ by hooke or crooke or pleasures and libertyes or pride of life and fashions or envious pursuit of their Enemâ—es slander or the like sins of the tongue I say to leave such who would looke for such differences of spirit and temper among such as pretend great zeale in profession A man would thinke when hee lookes narrowly into them that they are set as marks of opposition each to other then resemblers of their affections joyes and desires verely I have often seen it to the shame of such I speake it that among some ignorant couples whom onely naturall likenes of maners or civill education hath handsomed there is found more love and accorde then among some such as daily keep on foot the worship of God in their families Shall I praise

thought rather how in the swarme of such you may shun them and light upon such as are the Lords As for these you shall not need to take thought for them our rules will not much hinder their marriages like will to like doe we what we can and the dead will bury the dead the world will love their owne and that to their mutuall sorrow and all to teach us to love such the rather whom the Lord loveth What have we to doe to judge them that are without no we speake to no other but the willing people Psal 110. 3. who will stand to be judged at Gods barre Object 6 But I have cast mine affection already upon such an one and am snared Answ Then forbeare a while till all means be tryed for the parties bettering and so venture upon them Object But I cannot so farre deny my selfe Answ Thanke your selfe God forceth no such necessity upon any if they will be ruled If not their snaring themselves with a needlesse necessity cannot make Gods command of no effect If you can make to your selves such a necessity as must breake a charge of God then try how well you can endure the fruit of it when sorrow repentance and shame shall come upon you as the necessity of an armed man Is not as good reason that you digest this gobbet as that the Lord digest the other yes surely Object 7 But when all is done perhaps we shal misse of our choice desired because there are so few to be found in this wofull barren world of such as be religious and those who are but meerely civil are counted puritans and those precise whose manners are not debauched Answ Set not Gods providence and his command together by the eares as if he charged you to marry onely in the Lord and yet debarred you from it in practice so that either you must be forced to marry with all sorts or else must not marry at all No God puts no such snare upon any looke you to your selves that you be such as you goe for and the Lord will not deceive you he hath good in store for the good It s one of heavens workes to make good marriages and hee who hath bad women in store for sinners that they may fall by them he hath also good ones for the good that they may honour marriage and him thereby yea and he hath wisdome discerning of spirits of the subtill shewes and guizes of all sorts both hypocrites and other bad ones so that as subtill as the world is they who loathe to be cheated by their dice-play shall not want wisedome to judge and savour to relish the good in the midst of the bad they shall heare a voyce behinde them saying This is the way and withall giving them an eare to heare and an heart to obey and walke therein Object 8 But to conclude wee have met say some with good companions by providence yet still are we letted for our parents and friends at least of one side will not consent I answer perhaps you seeke among the good and finde better then your selves for some sinister end the beauty or the portion of the party otherwise unworthy to speed and what wonder if a wise parent will not consent to bestow his childe upon you But ye object yes both of us being both religious and consenting yet parents crosse us I answer If indeed it be so tarry till I come to the next Chapter and there I shall fall into that argument of the parents duty and therefore I will not prevent my selfe We have answered Objections enough and more will occur after enough therefore is said here Let us hasten to some Vse of the point wherein more satisfaction will be given to other questions First this is terrour and reproofe to the marriages of this degenerate age wherein this duty of marrying in the Lord is cast off at large As Rehoboams yonkers carried that weighty businesse of his Kingdome and overthrew it so doe the unruly and rebellious humours of most youth miscarry this They knit and combine themselves together as if they were right grave Counsellours wiser then their parents and ancients disdaining that any should over-rule their rash and rebellious appetites and so with rash resolutions and fury of undeniable passions they rush themselves upon the pikes of eternall misery If once their parents be dead then most of these hot-spurs have made sure enough for the honour of marriage for by that time they come of yeeres if not before most of them have embezeld their patrimonies But if not yet in this point of marriage this is their resolution Give me her for she pleaseth me well she may please well for a moment though she be a prick in the eye and a goade in the side for ever after And so for a vanishing content to a vaine humour what doe such but enthrall themselves to a wanton wastefull and wilfull ungodly companion And as the Heathen said of a bad bargaine it vexes the foolish buyer more with the continuall upbraiding then the losse of the money so may I say of this and as Sampson found this at leasure for the wilfull minde he bare to have Delila so doe these But alas there is no season for such as he was to beleeve it being intoxicate with the cup of inchantment disabling them from taking better counsell But why then speake I this Surely because I see religion among young couples for the most part is the first of those respects which are last thought of Desperate and stollen waters are sweetest to such like those of the Benjaâ—ites who rushing into a company of dancers in their jollity snatcht up each man his wife as she came to hand prove well or ill for better for worse for why they sought wives not good ones and that any way so they had them What a merry world were it for our debauched drunken youth in these our dayes if they might choose their wives in such a lottery To catch among a drove each one his owne marrow pell-mell oâ— what a brave thing were it There is a pleasure in doing that which is forbidden to our cursed nature even because it is so and if it were not so they would dye upon a swords point ere they would attempt it And notwithstanding the woe of such marriages both against Gods word law of reason consent of parents yea the generall experience of such as are gone before them yet who may speake to such Surely such matches are made in hell like are fallen upon like by the Divels spokesmanship as I confesse better one house troubled with such then two But what a sad thing is it to thinke what a cursed posterity such are like to hatch I say such as whereof one or two might poison an whole neighbourhood Druken meetings marriages revellings Marquets Fayres Tavernes and Alehouses being the places

returne to them as slowly as possible thou canst If thine eie thy right hand or foote cause thee to offend pluck them out and cut them off not as Origen did carnally and cast them from thee but make thy selfe a spirituall Eunuch for the Kingdome of God and for chastity use all contrary meanes of holding under thy flesh and boxing it till it be black and blue to use Pauls word if thou wilt preserve thy vessell in honour yea count all too little If this counsell be meet for the married themselves who are under the remedy what shall be said to the unmarried Surely I say touch not pitch lest thou be defiled Make covenants with your eies with Iob remember our Saviours divinity beyond the Pharisees forefeele all your steps and passages put your knife to your throates if ye be given to your appetite and venture not upon forbidden dainties to try if they will surfet you But if after all meanes both of prevention and preservation of body and spirit from this tainte yet you feele your natures to recoile and concupiscence to want eares then heare that voice behind you saying marry and burne not But yet take this counsell with you still carry this rule of prevention with you into that estate lest you marry and burne too and so the disease will if not be worse for the remedy yet may prove never the better for it The third is the chastity of the bed The Apostle tells us here the bed is undefiled Surely as hee told his children at his death they should find their Kingdome so I may say of this It is as it s used and kept For its the great wisdome of God which hath so concealed our infirmity and covered it with honour that the bed should be honourable But it imports us so to keepe it then and that against a double infirmity The one of snaring the other of defiling us By snaring I meane defrauding each other by any meanes under any colors as when by discord and difference of mindes the body is disabled when the one party denies due benevolence to the other by pretended excuses to satisfie a base heart when religion and conscience or infirmity are falsely alledged to crosse the ordinance In this case let the Apostle overrule Let the husband and wife yield each to other c. refuse not the lawful and sober use of the remedy except when both in private consent in some extraordinary duty for some little season before some adde the preparation of the Sabbath rather I suppose from a pious heart then the warrant of the word although I wholly yeeld to the equity of that abstinence so there be no snare of a rule for hee that generally followes this light must not be snared by any rule except he have vowed it voluntarily and then it bindes in another kinde But I leave the decision of that to the wisdome of such as can discerne between expediency and inexpediencie lest Satan prevent us for we know his devices how he seekes to snare them that are weake against their intentions and under colour of a better purenesse hee seekes to breed a wearinesse and disdeine of the ordinance He is an uncleane spirit and cannot brooke that which holinesse hath invented to prevent sin Let such as are privy to this rebellion humble themselves and repent remembring that marriage takes off the propriety which each had before in himself and gives away the power of the body of each to other without contradiction And there is more in this then most will take notice of And some openly professe that they abhor this judgement being yet expressely grounded upon the letter of Scripture The second extreme is on the left hand when men abuse marriage to a defiling of themselves and under pretence of generall lawfulnesse runne into excesse This is as odious as the former It s not the wisdome of a Christian to chuse the uttermost brinke of the river to walke upon because it threatens slipping in nor of his liberty because it s allowed Our greatest offences are commonly about thinges lawfull when as we dare not attempt the unlawfull whereas religion is much more tried in the use of liberties allowed us And its strange under what sorry and thin covers the conscience of one will shroud it selfe when as once it hath cast off the love of closenesse halfe a loafe is better to a Libertine then no bread Whereas a sound spirit should thinke thus In this God tries me what mettall I am made of whether to betender of a command when I have the bridle laid upon my owne neck or to runne away with my uttermost liberty when I have some granted to me Doubtlesse hee who will take all that he can in liberties shewes he is but kept in by violence in commands and but for shame would desire Gods cordes were more slacke and suted to his lustes I speak because it might scarcesly be believed what basenes immoderatenesse and licentiousnesse growes in many even by the occasion of the former point of benevolence They will stretch it beyond the boundes of modesty and bring themselves into such a bad custome that a Beare robd of her whelpes may bee met with and stopped as easily as they crossed of their lascivious and luxurious appetite Some brutishly imagining that the very law of God forbidding carnall knowledge during the tearme forbidden was but a ceremony not grounded upon the perpetuall naturall absurdity of the action wherein they bewray themselves by their swinish appetites to have drowned the true dictamen of nature in themselves which most heathens themselves acknowledged Others are wholly ignorant of all purenesse and chastity in the demeanure of themselves each to other for though Isahac and Rebecca sported themselves yet doubtlesse in no base or uncomely manner very Philosophers and Politicians in their lawes made for the good of Commonwealthes led by no Scripture or religion yet for the preservation of health vigor and strength of body for the shunning of diseases occasioned by this as well as uncleane mixtures have set downe their judgements touching the modesty and mediocrity of marriage converse forbidding frequencie and licentious use of it I had rather expresse my selfe so under their person then in mine owne words knowing to what language he exposeth himselfe of scorners and profane people who doth but glance this way I say not as they say Plato and others once weekly or thrice monethly might bee a modell of convenience in this kinde for the greater part of number of mens bodies because I know there can bee no set rule for all persons seasons of marriage and varieties of bodies because variety of subjects causeth variety of rule But this I affirme that if heathens could rove at such a marke in the dimnesse of their light and all for the restraint of excesse I should thinke it rather meet that Christians especially in yeares who by

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