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A30128	Christian behaviour, or, The fruits of true Christianity shewing the ground from whence they flow in their godlike order in the duty of relations, as husbands, wives, parents, children, masters, servants &c. : with a word of direction to all backsliders / by John Bunyan.	Bunyan, John, 1628-1688.	1663 (1663)	Wing B5492; ESTC R14817	52,342	160

thee to have dominion over him but to be thy husband and to rule over thee 1 Tim. 2 12. 1 Cor. 1. 3 8. 3. Wherefore though in truth thou mayest have more discretion than he ye● thou oughtest to know that thou wit● all that is thine is to be used as under th● husband even every thing Ephes. 5. 24. Take heed therefore that what thou dost goes not in thy name but his not to thy exaltation but his carrying all things so by thy dexterity and prudence that not one of thy husbands weaknesses be discovered to others by thee A vertuous woman is a crown to her husband but she that causeth shame is as rottennes● to his bones For then as the Wise ma● saith She will do him good and not evil 〈◊〉 the dayes of her life Prov. 12. 4. Prov. 31. 14. 4. Therefore act and do still as being under the power and authority of th● husband Now touching thy carriage to thy Chi●●dren and Servants Thou art a Parent and a Mistris and so thou oughtest to demean thy self And besides seeing the believing woman is a figure of the Church she ought as the Church to nourish and instruct her Children and Servants as the Church that she may answer in that particular also and truly the wife being alwayes at home she hath great advantage that way wherefore do it and the Lord prosper your proceeding Of Children to Parents There lyeth also a Duty upon Children to their Parents which they are bound both by the Law of God and nature conscientiously to observe Children obey your Parents in the Lord for this is right And again Children obey your Parents in all things for this is well-pleasing to the Lord Ephes. 6. 1. Col. 3. 20. There are these general things in which Children should shew forth that honor that is due to their Parents from them First They should alwayes count them better than themselves I observe a vile spirit among some Children and that is they are apt to look over their Parents and to have slighting scornful thoughts of them this is worse than heathenish such a one hath got just the heart of a Dog or Beast that will bite those that begot them and her that brought them forth But my Father c. is now poor and I am rich and it will be a disparagement or at least an hindrance to me to show that respect to him as otherwise I might I tell thee thou arguest like an Atheist and a Beast and standest in this full flat against the Son of God Read Mark 7. 9 10 11 12 13. Must a gift and a little of the glory of the Butterfly make thee that thou shalt ●ot do for and honour to thy Father and Mother A wise man maketh a glad Fa●her but a foolish son despiseth his Mother Prov. 15. 20. Though thy Parents be ne●er so low and thou thy self never so ●igh yet he is thy Father and she thy Mother and they must be in thy eye i● great esteem The eye that mocketh at his Father and that despiseth to obey his mother the Ravens of the valley shall pick it out and the young Eagles shall eat it Prov. 30. 17. Secondly Thou oughtest to shew thy honour to thy Parents by a willingness to help them with such necessaries and accommodations which they need If any have Nephews or Children let them learn to shew pitty at home and to requite their parents saith Paul for that is good and acceptable before God 1 Tim. 5. 4. And this rule Joseph observed to his poor Father though he himself was next the King in Egypt Gen. 47. 12. Gen. 41. 39 40 41 42 43. But mark Let them requite their Parents There are three things for which as long as thou livest thou wilt be a debter to thy Parents 1. For thy Being in this World they are they from whom immediately under God thou didst receive it 2. For their care to preserve thee when thou wast helpless and couldst neither care for nor regard thy self 3. For the pains they have taken with thee to bring thee up Until thou hast Children of thy own thou wilt not be sensible of the pains watchings fears sorrow and affliction that they have gone under to bring thee up and when thou knowest it thou wilt not easily yeeld that thou hast recompenced them for their favour to thee How often have they sustained thy hunger cloathed thy nakedness what care have they taken that thou mightest have wherewith to live and do well when they were dead and gone they possibly have spared it from their own belly back for thee and have also impoverished themselves that thou mightest live like a man All these things ought duly and like a man to be considered by thee and care ought to be taken on thy part to requite them the Scripture saith so Reason saith so and there be none but Dogs and Beasts deny it It is the duty of Parents to lay up for their Children and the duty of Children to requite their Parents Thirdly Therefore shew by all humble and son-like carriage that thou dost to this day with thy heart remember the love of thy Parents Thus much for obedience to Parents in general Again if thy Parents be godly and thou wicked as thou art if thou hast not a second work or birth from God upon thee then thou art to consider that thou art more strongly ingaged to respect and honour thy Parents not now only as a father in the flesh but as godly Parents thy Father and Mother is now made of God thy teachers and instructers in the Way of righteousness Wherfore to alude to that of Solomon O Son hearken to the law of thy Father and forsake not the law of thy Mother bind them continually upon thy heart and ty them about thy neck Prov. 6. 20 21. Now to provoke thee here to consider First That this hath been the practice alwayes of those that are and have been obedient Children yea of Christ himself to Joseph and Mary though he himself was God blessed for ever Luke 2. 51. Secondly Thou hast also the severe Judgements of God upon those that have been disobedient to awe thee As 1. Ishmael for but mocking at one good carriage of his Father and Mother was both thrust out of his Fathers Inheritance and the Kingdom of Heaven and that with God's approbation Gen. 21. 8 9 10 11 12. Gal. 4. 30. 2. Hophni and P●hinehas for refusing the good counsel of their Father provoked the great God to be their enemy They hearkened not to the voice of their Father because the Lord would slay them 1 Sam. 2. 23 24 25. 3. Absolom was hanged as I may say by God himself for rebelling against his Father 2 Sam. 18. 9. Besides little dost thou know how heart-aking a consideration it is to thy Parents when they do but suppose thou mayest be damned how many prayers sighs tears are there wrung from their hearts upon

her own fictions Why 〈◊〉 saith the Apostle ought the wife to car●it towards her husband Let the woman ●ith Paul learn in silence with all subjecti●● but I suffer not a woman to teach or to ●urp authority over the man but to be in ●●●ence 1 Tim. 2. 11 12. It is an unseemly thing to see a woman 〈◊〉 much as once in all her life-time to ●●fer to over-top her husband she ought 〈◊〉 every thing to be in subjection to him ●●d to do all she doth as having her war●●nt licence and authority from him ●nd indeed here is her glory even to be ●ider him as the Church is under Christ. ●ow she openeth her mouth in Wisdom and 〈◊〉 her tongue is the Law of kindness Pro. ●1 26. 3. Take heed of affecting immodest ●parel or a wanton gate this will be evil both abroad and at home abroad will not only give evil example but so tend to tempt to lust lasciviousn● and at home 't will give an offence 〈◊〉 godly Husband and be cankering to 〈◊〉 godly Children c. Wherefore as sa● the Apostle Let womens apparel be mo●●● as becometh women professing Godliness 〈◊〉 Good Works 1 Tim. 2. 10. not with b●●●dered hair or Gold or Pearls or co●●●aray And as 't is said again Whose ●●●dorning let it not be that outward adorni●● of plaiting the hair and of wearing gold 〈◊〉 of putting on of apparel but let it be hidden man of the heart in that which not corruptible even the ornament of a m●● and quiet spirit which is in the sight of G●● of great price For after this manner in a time the holy women also who trusted God adorned themselves being in subject● on to their own husbands 1 Pet. 3. 3 4 5 ● But yet do not think that by the su●●jection I have here men●●ned that I intend women should be their husban● slaves Women are their husbands yo● fellows their flesh and their bones a●● 〈◊〉 is not a man that hateth his own flesh 〈◊〉 that is bitter against it Ephes. 5. 29. Wherefore let every man love his wife as himself and the wife see that she reverence her husband Ephes. 5. 33. The wife is master next her husband and is to rule all in his absence yea in his presence she is to guide the house to bring up the Children provided she so 〈◊〉 it as the adversary have no occasion 〈◊〉 speak reproachfully 1 Tim. 5. 10 13. 〈◊〉 Who can find a vertuous woman for her price is far above Rubies A gracious woman retaineth honour and guideth her affaires with discretion Prov. 31. 10. Prov. 〈◊〉 16. Prov. 12. 4. Object But my husband is an unbeliever what shall I do Answ. If so then what I have said before lyeth upon thee with an ingagement so much the stronger For first ●●y husband being in this condition he ●●ll be watchful to take thy slips and in●mities to throw them as dirt in the ●●e of God and thy Saviour 2. He will be apt to make the worst of 〈◊〉 one of thy words carriages and gestur● 3. And all this doth tend to the po●●●sing his heart with more hardness p●●●dice and opposition to his own salv●●●on Wherefore as Peter saith ye w●●● be in subjection to your own husbands 〈◊〉 if any obey not the word they may also w●●●out the word be won by the conversati●● the wives while they behold your c●●● conversation coupled with fear 1 Pet. 3●● 2. Thy husbands salvation or dam●●●tion lyeth much in thy deportment●● behaviour before him wherefore if th●● be in thee any fear of God or love thy husband seek by a carriage full● meekness modesty holiness and a hu●●ble behaviour before him to win him the love of his own salvation and thus doing how knowest thou O wom●● but thou shalt save thy husband 1 Cor. ● 16. Object But my husband is not only unbeliever but one very froward peev●● and teasty yea so froward c. that I k●● not how to speak to him or behave my●● before him Answ. Indeed there are some wives ● great slavory by reason of their ungod●y husbands and as such should be pit●ed and prayed for so they should be ●o much the more watchful and circum●pect in all their wayes 1. Therefore be thou very faithful ●o him in all the things of this life 2. Bare with patience his unruly and ●nconverted behaviour thou art alive ●e is dead thou art principled with Grace he with Sin Now then see●ng Grace is stronger than Sin and Ver●●e than Vice be not overcome with ●is vileness but overcome that with thy ●ertues Rom. 12. 21. 'T is a shame for ●●ose that are gracious to be as lavishing 〈◊〉 their words c. as those that are ●raceless They that are slow to wrath ●re of great understanding but they that ●re hasty in spirit exalt folly Prov. 14. ●9 3. Thy wisdom therefore if at any ●●e thou hast a desire to speak to thy ●●sband for his conviction concerning ●●y thing either good or evil it is to observe convenient times and seasons There is a time to keep silence and a 〈◊〉 to speak Eccles. 3. 7. Now for the right timing thy inten●●ons Consider first his disposition and ta●● him when he is farthest off of those fil●●● passions that are thy affliction Abig●● would not speak a word to her chur●● husband tell his wine was gone fo●● him and he in a sober temper 1 Sa● 25. 36 37. The want of this observ●●●on is the cause why so much is spok●● and so little effected 2. Take him at those times when 〈◊〉 hath his heart taken with thee and wh●● he sheweth tokens of love and deli●●● in thee Thus did Esther with the Ki●● her husband and prevailed Est. 5. 3 ● and 7. 1 2. 3. Observe when convictions seize● his conscience and then follow the● with sound and grave sayings of the Scri●●tures Somewhat like to this dealt M●●noah's wife with her husband Judg. 1●● 22 23. Yet then 1. Let thy words be few 2. And none of them savouring of a lording it over him but speak thou still as to thy head and lord by way of intreaty and beseeching 3. And that in such a spirit of simpathy bowels of affection after his good that the manner of thy speech and behaviour in speaking may be to him an argument that thou speakest in love as being sensible of his misery and inflamed in thy soul with desire after his conversion 4. And follow thy words and behaviours with Prayers to God for his soul. 5. Still keeping thy self in a holy chaste and modest behaviour before him Object But my husband is a sot a fool and one that hath not wit enough to follow his outward imployment in the world Answ. First though all this be true yet thou must know he is thy head thy lord and thy husband 2. Therefore thou must take heed of desiring to usurp authority over him he was not made for thee that is for

this account Every miscarriage of thine goeth to their heart for fear God should take an occasion thereat to shut thee up in hardness for ever How did Abraham groan for Ishmael O saith he to God That Ishmael might live before thee Gen. 17. 18. How was Is●ac and Rebekah grieved for the miscarriage of Esau Gen. 26. 34 35. And how bitterly did David mourn for his Son who died in his wickedness 2 Sam. 18. 32 33. Lastly And can any imagin but that all these carriages of thy godly Parents will be to thee the increase of thy torments in Hell if thou die in thy sins notwithstanding Again if thy Parents and thou also be godly how happy a thing is this how shouldst thou rejoyce that the same Faith should dwell both in thy Parents and thee thy conversion possibly is the fruits of thy Parents groans and prayers for thy soul and they cannot chose but rejoyce do thou rejoyce with them 'T is true in the Salvation of a natural Son which is mentioned in the Parable This my Son was dead and is alive again was lost and is found and they began to be merry Luke 15. 24. Let therefore the consideration of this that thy Parents have Grace aswell as thee ingage thy heart so much the more to honour reverence and obey them Thou art better able now to consider the pains and care that thy friends have been at both for thy body and soul wherfore strive to requite them Thou hast strength to answer in some measure the Command wherefore do not neglect it It is a double Sin in a gracious Son not to remember the Commandment yea the first Commandment with promise Ephes. 6. 1 2. Take heed of giving thy sweet Parents one snappish word or one unseemly carriage Love them because they are thy Parents because they are godly and because thou must be in Glory with them Again if thou be godly and thy Parents wicked as often it sadly falls out Then first let thy bowels yearn towards them 't is thy parents that are going to Hell Secondly As I said before to the wife touching her unbelieving husband so now I say to thee Take heed of a parrating tongue speak to them wisely meekly and humbly do for them faithfully without repining and bear with all child-like modesty their reproaches their railing and evil speaking Watch fit opportunities to lay their condition before them O! how happy a thing would it be if God should use a Child to beget his Father to the Faith Then indeed might the Father say With the fruit of my own bowels hath God converted my soul. The Lord if it be his will convert our poor Parents that they with us may be the Children of God Concerning Servants Servants also they have a work to do for God in their place and station among men The Apostles assert Masters under a threefold consideration 1. The believing Master 2. The unbelieving Master 3. The froward Master For all which Servants are furnished with counsel and advice in the Word for the demeaning of themselves under each of them But before I speak in particular to any of these I will in general shew you the duty of Servants First Thou art to look upon thy self as thou art that is as a Servant not a Child nor a Wife thou art inferior to these wherefore count thy self under them and be content with that station For three things the Earth is disquieted and for four which it cannot bear one is a Servant when he reigneth Prov. 30. 21 22. It is out of thy place either to talk or do as one that reigneth Secondly Consider that thou being a Servant what is under thy hand is not thy own but thy Masters Now because it is not thy own thou oughtest not to dispose of it but because it is thy Masters thou oughtest to be faithful Thus it was with Joseph Gen. 39. 7 8 9. but if thou do otherwise know that thou shalt receive of God for the wrong that thou doest and there is with God no respect of persons Col. 3. 25. Wherefore Thirdly Touching thy work and imployment thou art to do it as unto the Lord and not for man and indeed then servants do their business as becomes them when they do all in obedience to the Lord as knowing that the place in which they now are it is the place where Christ hath put them and in which he expecteth they should be faithful Servants saith Paul be obedient to them that are your Masters with fear trembling in singleness of heart as unto Christ not with eye service as men-pleasers but as the Servants of Christ doing the Will of God from the heart Ephes. 6. 5 6. Observe a little the Word of God to Servants 1. Servants must be obedient 〈◊〉 2. Not with that obedience that 〈◊〉 serve man only servants must have the● eye on the Lord in the work they do 〈◊〉 their Masters 3. That their work in their service 〈◊〉 the Will and Ordinance of God From which I conclude that thy wo●● in thy place and station as thou art a ser●vant is as really God's Ordinance an● as acceptable to Him in its kind as 〈◊〉 Preaching or any other work for God and that thou art as sure to receive a re●ward for thy labour as he that hangs 〈◊〉 is burnt for the Gospel Wherefore sai● the Apostle to servants Whatsoever 〈◊〉 do do it heartily as to the Lord and not 〈◊〉 men knowing that of the Lord you shall re●ceive the reward of inheritance for ye serv●● the Lord Christ Col. 3. 22 23 24. And now touching the three sorts 〈◊〉 Masters mentioned before First For the believing Master Sai●● Paul They that have believing Master●● let them not despise them because they 〈◊〉 brethren but rather do them service bec●●● they are faithful and beloved and partakers with the Servants of the heaven●● Benefits 1 Tim. 6. 2. Servants if they have not a care of their hearts will be so much in the consideration of the relation that is betwixt their Masters and they as brethren that they will forget the relation that is between them as Masters and Servants now though they ●ought to remember the one yet let them take heed of forgetting the other Know thy place as a Servant while thou considerest that thy Master and thee are Brethren and do thy work for him faithfully humbly and with meekness because he is a Master faithful and beloved and partaker of the heavenly Benefit If any man teach otherwise saith the Apostle Paul and consent not to wholsome Words even the Words of our Lord Jesus Christ and the Doctrine which is according to godliness he is proud knowing nothing but doting about questions and strife of words whereof cometh envy strife railings evil surmisings perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds and destitute of the Truth supposing that gain is godliness from such withdraw thy sel● 1. Tim. 6. 3 4 5. Secondly