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A09377	Christian oeconomie: or, A short survey of the right manner of erecting and ordering a familie according to the scriptures. First written in Latine by the author M. W. Perkins, and now set forth in the vulgar tongue, for more common vse and benefit, by Tho. Pickering Bachelar of Diuinitie.	Perkins, William, 1558-1602.; Pickering, Thomas, d. 1625. aut	1609 (1609)	STC 19677; ESTC S102572	68,188	208

the iust commendation of Rebekahs parents who though they were Idolaters yet had that regard of equity that they first called her and asked her consent before they sent her away with Abrahams seruant to be maried to Isaak Gen. 24. 58. Now in case the Parents faile in their dutie in this regard the son or daughter may lawfully declare the matter first to their kinsfolke and afterward if need be to the Minister or Magistrate and sue for redresse by their means and direction CHAP. 14. Of the Sonne THe sonne is he who is in subiection to his parents The duties of a son to bee performed to his parents are principally two First to yeeld them obedience whether they be his naturall parents or otherwise as his step-father step-mother and that while he liueth Eph. 6. 1. Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right Luke 2. 51. Then hee went downe with them and came to Nazareth and was subiect to them Exod. 18. 19. Moses father in law said vnto him Heare now my voice I will giue thee counsell and God shall be with thee Ruth 3. 5. And Ruth said vnto Naomi her mother in law All that thou biddest me I wil do Iob 1. 5. And whē the daies of their bāquetting were gone about Iob sent and sanctified them This obedience must shew it selfe in two things First in the choyce of a lawfull calling wherein the child is to be ordered and appointed at the discretion of the parent Secondly in mariage For in that the parent is the principall agent and disposer of the child Now although his authoritie be not so great as that the child is to be forced and compelled by him yet the reuerent and dutifull respect which the child ought to beare towards him ought to be a strong inducement not to dissent or renounce his aduice without great and waightie cause Yea the child must endeuour by all manner of dutifull cariage to ouercome or at least to mitigate his parents seueritie in that behalfe Now for the daughters They must yeeld obedience to their parents in all Domesticall labours that they may be skilfull in houshold affaires Thus did the seuen daughters of the Priest of Midian accustome themselues to draw water and fill the troughes to water their fathers sheepe Exod. 2. 16. Thus Rebekah was seene to come out of her fathers house with her pitcher vpon her shoulder and to go downe with it to the well to fill it and giue drinke to her fathers Camels Gen. 24. 16. 17. The second dutie of the sonne is to recompence his fathers loue and care ouer him by relieuing him in case of want if God giue abilitie with food and rayment and other necessaries Herein children must deale with their parents as the brood of the Storke is reported to do with her by feeding her when she is old wherein they doe no more but what shee before hath done vnto them It is Pauls counsell that childred nephewes should recompence the kindnes of their kindred in the first place 1. Tim. 5. 4. and therefore to their parents the head foūdation of their kindred When Ioseph was in prosperitie and his father Iacob in want he first gaue him corne freely and afterwards sent for him to Egypt and there prouided for him in so much as the text saith of him that he nourished his father and his brethren and all his fathers house-hold with bread Euen as the mother puts meat into the childs mouth Gen. 47. 12. When Naomi the step-mother of Ruth was of great yeares and her strength spent Ruth gathered corne in the haruest for reliefe of them both Yea when Boaz gaue her to eate and to drinke she reserued part of her victuals brought it home with her gleanes to refresh her mother Ruth 2. 14. 18. The necessitie of the performance of these duties is so great that if the sonne neglecteth them and doth the contrarie by ill vsage of his parent either in word or deed he is worthie of death euen by Moses law Exod. 21. 15. He that smiteth his father or his mother shall die the death The law of the first borne of a mans children that he should haue a greater portion of his fathers goods then any of the rest of his brethren is perpetuall and admits no exception but only in the case of notorious wickednes Deut. 21. 17. He shall acknowledge the son of the hated for the first borne giue him a double portion of all that he hath for he is the first of his strength and to him belongeth the right of the first borne This was the law yet we reade that Ruben lost this prerogatiue by reason of his incest and Iudah the fourth sonne of Iacob had the dignitie of the first borne Gen. 49. 8. Thou Iudah thy brethren shall prayse thee thy fathers sonnes shall bow downe vnto thee In the Church of the old Testament the priuiledge of the first borne was three-fold the first of gouernment and royaltie the second of Priesthood the third of the double portion And it is probable that this was for the most part Ceremoniall and was accomplished and determined in Christ who was the Image of the inuisible God the first borne of euery creature Colos. 1. 15. Heere two questions are propounded Quest. I. Whether is it lawfull for the sonne to make a vow belonging either to religion or to ciuill conuersation without the consent of the parent Answ. A vow so made is not of force to bind the child but by the Law of nature common equitie is to be made void For it is a ruled case that he which is not his owne man that is to say at his owne libertie but vnder the power of another cannot bind himselfe Againe the authoritie of the parent by the law of God is great For it alloweth the father to make void the vow of the child pertaining to Gods worship Numb 30. 6. Quest. II. Whether is the consent of the parents to be required in the second mariages of their children Answ. 1. Of ancient times both by Ciuill lawes also by Imperial constitutions it was prouided that no widowes though made free by their former mariages should make any contract againe without the good will of their parents 2. Consent in this case though it be not absolutely necessarie yet it is to be thought fit and conuenient because children in some regards exempted from parents authoritie doe owe notwithstanding the dutie of honor vnto them by Gods expresse commandement Exod. 20. 12. and consequently ought to testifie the same by being ordered and aduised by them in some sort euen at the after-bestowing of themselues Hence it is that later Diuines haue holden vpon good ground That the espousals of widowes who haue some more libertie then the child first married being made without their parents knowledge cannot but incurre iust reprehension howsoeuer they may stand in force without it CHAP. 15.

her It was Gods commandement to Abraham concerning Sarah his wife Let it not be grieuous in thy sight for the child and for thy bond-woman in all that Sarah shall say vnto thee heare her voice For in Isaak shall thy seed be called Gen. 21. 12. Thus Elkanah was willing to subscribe vnto his wife Annaes aduice for her tarrying at home till the child was weaned 1. Sam. 1. 23. And Elkanah her husband said vnto her do what seemeth thee best tarrie vntill thou hast weaned him only the Lord accomplish his word Hereupon the Heathen Philosopher said That the master of the familie exerciseth after a sort a power Tyrannical ouer his seruants a power Regall ouer his children because Kings are fathers of their Cōmon-weales but in respect of his wife he exerciseth a power Aristocraticall not after his owne will but agreeable to the honor and dignitie of the married estate and consequently that he ought not in modestie to challenge the priuiledge of prescribing and aduertising his wife in al matters domesticall but in some to leaue her to her owne will and iudgement Heere question is moued whether the husband may correct the wife Answ. Though the husband be the wiues head yet it seemeth he hath no power nor libertie granted him in this regard For we reade not in the Scriptures any precept or example to warrant such practise of his authoritie He may reproue admonish her in word only if he seeth her in fault For thus we reade that Iacob censured his wife being impatient euen in anger Gen. 30. 2. Am I in Gods stead which hath withholden from thee the fruit of the wombe And Iob reproued his wife Iob 2. 10. Thou speakest like a foolish woman What Shall we receiue good at the hand of God and not receiue euill But hee may not chastise her either with stripes or stroks The reason is plaine Wiues are their husbands mates and they two be one flesh And no man will hate much lesse beat his owne flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it Ephes. 5. 29. Againe it is the commandement of God that man should not trespasse against the wife of his youth Malac. 2. 15. Chrysostome saith It is the greatest reproch for any man that can bee to beate his wife Plutarch in the life of Cato the Censor affirmeth that he which smiteth his wife doth all one as if he should lay violent hands vpon the sacred images of the gods which was counted an high degree of offence among the Heathen It is alledged Husbands are cōmanded so to loue their wiues as Christ doth his Church now Christ chastiseth his Church with strokes therefore so may the husband his wife Answ. As Christ doth entirely loue his Church so hee may also chastise the same because hee is not only the husband but also absolute Lord and King of his Church so is not the husband absolute ouer the wife But his authority ouer the wife is after a sort ciuill as is the authoritie of the Magistrate ouer his people Ans. It is not so For the Magistrate hath in his hand the power of the sword by which power he inflicteth punishment in case of offence But the husband can challenge to himselfe no such power yea it is flatly forbidden in the Ciuil law that he should scourge or strike his wife Neuerthelesse if she grow to extremities and be desperately peruerse so as there be no hope of amendment then the Magistrate may be informed who to preuent scandals and to prouide for publike peace both ought and may assigne vnto her necessary correction and punishment according to her desert Now the husband that hath a wife so stubborne and peeuish must beare it if it may be borne as the portion of his crosse laid vpon him by God And in this case if he be impatient he may in some sort be pardoned and pitied but he is not wholly to be excused CHAP. 12. Of the Wife THe wife is the other married person who being subiect to her husband yeeldeth obedience vnto him Touching the subiection of the wife the word of God mētioneth it in sundrie places Rom. 7. 2. The woman which is in subiection to the man is bound by the law to the man while he liueth Ephes. 5. 24. As the Church is in subiection to Christ euen so let the wiues bee to their husbands in euery thing Colos. 3. 18. Wiues submit your selues vnto your husbands as it is comely in the Lord. 1. Tim. 2. 12. I permit not a woman to vsurpe authoritie ouer the man And it was a law established by God immediately after the fal Gen. 3. 16. Vnto the woman he said I wil greatly increase c. and thy desire shal be subiect to thine husband and he shall rule ouer thee Indeed the daughter according to the Ciuill law euen when shee is married is in the power of her father and not of her husband But this is directly against the law of Moses and crosseth the law of Nature Leuit. 22. 12. 13. Numb 30. 13. Now the duties of the wife are principally two The first is to submit her selfe to her husband and to acknowledge and reuerence him as her head in all things Gen. 20. 16. Likewise Abimelech said vnto Sarah Behold thy brother that is thy husband whom thou callest thy brother is the vaile of thine eyes to all that are with thee As if he should say Thy husband is thy head and hath power ouer thee and thou oughtest to reuerence him For of ancient times the wife was couered with a vaile in the presence of her husband in token of subiection to him Thus Rebekah at the sight of Isaak tooke a vaile and couered her head therewith Gen. 24. 65. 1. Cor. 11. 3. The man is the womans head Ephes. 5. 22. Wiues submit your selues vnto your husbands as vnto the Lord for the husband is the wiues head euen as Christ is the head of his Church The reason hereof is good For the wife enioyeth the priuiledges of her husband and is graced by his honor and estimation amongst men His Nobilitie maketh her noble though otherwise shee is base and meane as contrariwise his basenesse and low degree causeth her though shee bee by birth noble and honorable to bee by estate base and meane The second dutie is to be obedient vnto her husband in all things that is wholly to depend vpon him both in iudgement and will For looke as the Church yeelds obedience to Christ her head and yeelds her selfe to be commanded gouerned and directed by him so ought the woman to the man So Sarah is said to obey Abraham and to giue him the termes of obedience Shee called him Lord or Sir 1. Pet. 3. 6. Hence it followeth that the woman is not to take libertie of wandring and straying abroad from her owne house without the mans knowledge cōsent 2. King 4. 22. Then she called to her husband and said Send with me