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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A68769	The guide of honour, or the ballance wherin she may weigh her actions A discourse written (by way of humble advise) by the author then residing in forreigne parts, to a truely noble lord of England his most honour'd friend. Worthy the perusall of all who are gently or nobly borne, whom it instructeth how to carry themselves in both fortunes with applause and security. / By Antony Stafford, Gent.	Stafford, Anthony.	1634 (1634)	STC 23124.5; ESTC S117800	23,790	166

execution of a fact Interpose a thousand doubts with their solutions annexed before you embarque your selfe in a businesse of importance It is an over-worne but a true Proverbe Two eyes see more then one There is nothing more laudable in a Noble nature then a desire to be informed Hee that neither hath the skill to advise another saith Livy nor the grace to be advised by another is simply of the worst disposition and good for nothing Consult with many concerning your Affaire in hand You shall never find a Iesuite fooled alone but with him the whole corporation of his Society is deluded We see often the hand foot or some other particular member to receive hurt but rarely the whole body Here Guiccardin puts in a Caveat Though nothing saith he in great deliberations bee more necessary then counsell yet nothing withall is more dangerous His meaning is that Faith is a thing so hard to bee found that a man can not without great hazard communicate his intentions It is not now as in the Romans time when betweene the many Conspirators against Caesar there passed not one oath they having no other mutuall engagement of Secrecy then the word of a Roman Gentleman Since therefore you can not like a Iesuite finde friends obliged by Sacramentall Oath to keep your counsell take advise of the dead I meane of your Bookes These will present to your view Truth naked without any disguising Coverture These will not flatter you being senselesse of your love or displeasure They neither hope for advancement nor feare oppression Have recourse to History wherein you shall find your present affaire in a hundred severall shapes Amongst all the examples which have any resemblance to your present Case ponder well which carry with them reason and which onely successe Direct your course after the former not the later for if you judge of things by their event you will miserably abuse your selfe It followes Jn his Actions Resolute WHat else A brave Spirit having once shewed himselfe in an enterprise and called it his will goe through stich with it and maintaine it against the World Having well deliberated and chosen an even course let no man stop you in it but run over your opposers Being in the right weigh no more the aspersions of the baser sort then you would the dashing of an Asse or the barking of a Dogge Spreta exolescunt saith Tacitus si irascare agnita videntur If you despise them they of themselves fade and are griped by oblivion but if they vexe you it will seeme that you acknowledge your selfe guilty It is hard to doe a thing that appeareth faire in the eyes of all men for that a good action what dignity soever it hath if it bring not with it the favour of the Times wherein it is done and the opinion of those into whose hearts it seekes to insinuate it is but as a Candle that burneth dimme whose shadow seemeth greater then the light To this the Italian Proverbe is not dissonant Assaiben salta a chi-Fortuna canta Hee cannot dance amisse to whom Fortune sings Having the assurance of your owne conscience that your proceedings are faire and honest slight the Censure of the muddy vulgar Let Resolution and Constancy wait on all your intentions and enterprises Cockles and Weeds wee see are with one wave carried to the shoare and by another brought backe into the Sea but the Rockes stand firme Seeke to approve your selfe to the good resting carelesse what the bad thinke of you for wee owe neither the Divell nor his limbes any satisfaction But if any man of your own Ranke doe you an affront shew that you are sensible of you Honour Your Reputation according to Aristotle is your Stockes not yours to which you should bee a bad Guardiant should you let it fall and catch a crack I have read a Fable how that Reputation Love and Death made a covenant to travaile ore the world but each was to take a severall way When they were ready to depart a mutuall enquiry was made how they might finde each other againe Death said they should be sure to heare of him in Battels in Hospitals and in all parts where either Fammine or Diseases were rise Love bade them harken after him amongst the Children of Cottagers whose Parents had left them nothing at Marriages at Feasts and amongst the professed servants of Vertue the onely bond to tye him fast They long expected a direction from Reputation who stood mute Being urged to assigne them places where they might finde him hee sullenly answered his nature was such that if once he departed from any man he never came to him more The Morrall is excellent implying that Honour once lost never returnes againe Loose then your fortunes and life rather then suffer this radiant Diamond to loose his luster Else your posterity will wish you had never beene and your friends blush at the sound of your Name Permit not this Worlds most terrible and horrid Accident to daunt you Standing environed on all sides with Wealth meditate on poverty The greatest amongst the Romans on certaine set daies of the yeere used course diet and worse lodging that so their Evill Genius might not finde them unprepared Avoide all miseries as much as in you lies Plus miserest saith Seneca quàm necesse est qui miser est antequàm necesse est Hee is miserable more then needs who is miserable before he needs But if afflictions come never so thicke and deprivation of the Sunnes light be one of them embrace them with a smooth forehead and a manly heart it being a thing most vaine to repine at what Necessity commands A Palmy mind the heaviest waight of Fortune can never suppresse Experience hath taught mee that to bee irresolute is not to temper evill Fortune but to tempt it Seneca tels you Sine morsa animi velle transire vitam ignorare est rerum naturae alteram partem To seeke to end this life without tasting any griefe is to be willingly ignorant of the one halfe of Nature Wee will now descend to the Conclusion of the testimony Moderate in his Affections I Have in the former part of this discourse given some generall rules for the moderating of passions and I will now cursorily touch some of them in particular To lay before you the uglinesse of wrath I need not you having the strongest habit of Patience that I thinke any man of your yeeres ever yet acquired The surest helpe against that furious passion is slowly to apprehend all occasiōs that may incite it being once apprehended to endevour the removing them out of the imaginatiō for it is the Cholerick humor that having first vitiated the Phansie stirres up this passion which being once kindled by a kinde of sympathy enflames more the materiall humour and that being once throughly fired strengthneth and encreaseth the passion Let not your Anger precede your judgement nor afford it leisure for it quickly